I agree that spouses shouldn't withhold sex as punishment and the like. The pastor said if a husband doesn't get his needs met, he'll get it from somewhere. That comment made me cringe. I know he didn't mean that to come across like a man's gonna stray if you dont meet his needs, but there are men I've known who have made that statement to justify watching porn or having an affair. Even when the wife was trying to meet his needs but had physical hindrances or husband didn't openly and thoroughly communicate his needs. I hope no one hears that statement and uses it as a justifying generalization for unfaithfulness or blame-shifting to the wife. There's no reason in the world that makes it okay to be unfaithful. I know the pastor wasn't saying that but I thought it was worth mentioning so no one takes that comment and uses it in the wrong way. Good sermon.
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Thank you so much for this video. I'm single and trying to seek Jesus but I've also been experimenting with a guy with how far I can be physically intimate. But just hugging makes me feel guilty, the guy isn't even someone whom I want to date... There's just a mutual physical attraction. I don't want to lead him on and I don't want to sin against God. So I'm really grateful for this... Lust is my biggest issue on my journey to seek Him and I know it's basically futile trying to do everything on my own. Thank youuu!
Wow this is exactly my situation right now literally every word you spoke! How did you navigate this as a believer? And are you still talking to this guy has it developed into something more possibly?
physiologically its difficult for some to be A - sexual for 20,30 years and told all those years it a SIN, its a SIN and the day of your wedding your supposed to flip the switch and be a freak in the sheets . A lot of sexual dysfunction in Christian marriages , my cousin got married to gal (both virgins ) a few years ago and they went through all the pre marital counseling through the church etc. etc... and on his wedding night his wife was so disguised by it ( her mother drilled into since she was a kid that sex is dirty and sinful ), she couldn't bring herself to have sex again, they tried therapy for about a year and she still couldn't get past it. He ended up divorcing her after year and a half. truly sad
Great sermon ❤️🙏it is important for married couples to have sexual intimacy on a regular basis otherwise we open the door to temptations outside the marriage and will end up sinning in some kind if way🙏
I find it very interesting that, even though so many people have seen this video, there are so little comments. I also would like to point out that the problems he directly address men for, are actually problems that many women deal with as well. It's just that, it is even more shameful and difficult for women to talk about, than men.
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I pray I and the body of Christ will experiencea hot, steamy and a healthy sex life within marriage and with our spouse, while binding to hell being physical intimate with any ungodly person, in agreement with this whole message and song of solomon 4, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
You were doing SO WELL until you implied that it is a wife’s “job” to fulfill her husband’s “needs.” Duty sex actually does MAJOR damage to a couple’s sex life. Besides that, the Bible teaches that each one is tempted when led astray by their OWN sinful lusts. It is not a wife’s or husband’s responsibility to stop their spouse from straying.
I have to add that saying Jesus covers our sins immediately after addressing victims of sexual assault and abuse is horrifying. The victims are not the ones who sinned! Abuse is only ever the fault of the perpetrator.
But if sex is one of if not the biggest motivations for getting married in the first place, is it not reasonable for either spouse to expect it as a duty from the other? - especially since it's the one thing that must be solely given or received from a spouse. Just like emotional, financial and safety needs, sex is a legitimate need both spouses should be dutiful about. Saying spouses should not be dutiful with sex is like saying parents should not be dutiful with taking care of babies (even though the family is the one place children can demand such attention.) Lets be real.
@@kelzreallife8293 If your primary reason for getting married is sex, then please don’t get married. Sex is less than 1% of marriage. You will spend way more time sleeping, eating, vacuuming, raising children, and even more time on the toilet than you will spend having sex. Although sexual needs are legitimate, as you wrote, they cannot be used as an excuse to force someone to have sex they don’t want to have. The Bible is clear that sex is completely unique. That is why sexual sins hurt us more than other sins. Therefore, you cannot compare needing sex with needing money, because money is required for basic survival, like purchasing food and shelter. Safety is also a basic survival need, as is some form of emotional connection. Humans cannot be healthy without those things. They can, however, be just fine without sex. Children don’t need it, there are many adults who are Asexual, and more who cannot have sex because of medical conditions. That being said, a husband who has a great emotional connection with his wife will probably not find himself without sex. But you know what really kills an emotional connection? Feeling like you OWE someone intimacy. Feeling like you are only really valued for your body, or at least certain parts of it. Feeling like you aren’t even allowed to say, “No” or “Not now,” like you don’t even get to decide what happens to your own body. Sex is meant to be a mutual expression of deep, close connection and love. If you truly love someone, you respect their “No.”
@@theladyamalthea Sex is the only need that can be fulfilled within marriage. All other needs can easily be fulfilled by a platonic friendship so yes. Essentially, sex is a big motivation for marriage no matter the size of your Bible. While other responsibilities matter and may be far more demanding or essential for survival, an unfulfilling sex life for a married person is a BIG need and I believe that is what the minister is addressing. I guess for most women it does not matter much because they prefer emotional intimacy like you posit in your reply. For most men, it matters plenty and that's just how both sexes are wired. That's the crux of his message. Both spouses should be dutiful about fulfilling the needs of their spouses (Security, honour, emotional intimacy, friendship etc) especially the one need that cannot be fulfilled alternatively(sex). All that forms part of the sacrificial nature of love in a marriage. What is a sacrifice if it costs you nothing, or if it is comfortable? Saying spouses should be dutiful about fulfilling their needs is also not the same as demanding their needs be met by their partners. So men should not demand sex and women should not demand emotional intimacy or security or any other need they may have in the relationship. But both partners should recognize their partners needs and be dutiful in fulfilling them (without being pressurized to do so) The message is essentially saying be dutiful but whether or not you're partner is apt in meeting your needs you should not be demanding. That's your loving commitment in a marriage. Your agape unconditionally given. 100% from you. That is the Word, you may not like it but thats what it is.
