Bringing Back INTIMACY with 10 Simple Habits // Wife Talk 

When I was 22 year old I met the man I thought I would spend my life with. We had a son and then 6 weeks later poof he was gone. He died unexpectedly in a skydiving accident. He left for work one day and never came home. Fast-forward 10 years, I got a second chance at a soul mate. I try to remind myself to soak it all in. Life is short, stop complaining about the little things. Hug him tight when he leaves for work every day, sniff his pillow when you make the bed, just pick up the stupid clothes on the floor and be grateful you have a hunny to wash clothes for! Just enjoy it all because it passes so fast!

I bought a small laundry basket for my husband to dump his “I’ll wear them tomorrow clothes”. It looks cleaner & he still gets his own pile. Happy medium.

i'm not even married or in a relationship, but i'm still watching this :P

I know this doesn't relate but that sweater with your glasses and that extremely flattering haircut is just so beautiful on you😍

Believe it or not, we men are watching too! Trying to figure out how to get our wives either back, or attract them again! I love my wife, and want nothing more than to feel like she still loves me! We'll see.❣️

Not married yet, but almost kind of engaged and I love to learn already now 🤭🤭💕 thank your for the tips! 1. Learn each other's love language 2. "make out"/ kiss for at least 30 seconds daily 3. Write a love note/text once a week 4. Say thank you 5. Go the extra mile 6. Stop nagging and deal with it 7. Stop thinking about what he isn't doing and start thinking about what he is doing 8. Communicate 9. Pillowtalk 10. Prioritize date night

Loved this video! My husband is considered an essential worker and as you can imagine he has had a loooong week at work. So a few nights ago I made a cake, picked up dinner from one of our favorite restaurants, did my hair and put and dress on me and my 2 year old daughter. Surprise date night! He walked in and cried a little bit 🤣♥️

The clothes thing was definitely a problem for a while. Ugh especially dirty socks. But instead of going around picking up after him I stopped caring. Eventually he ran out of socks and realized he needs to clean up after himself.

I feel like in 7 years with my husband my number one advice for other couples is to never stop dating and to communicate.

My husband is the same with leaving his clothes on the floor, and I did the same I accepted it as one of his quirks. One day he had to work for a month out of the country so I was alone and to be honest I missed the dirty clothes on the floor, because it meant he wasn't there. And I realized one day he might not be here with me anymore and I'll miss the dirty clothes. So I embrace them.

I've been married 13 years (really, really happily married) and I agree with most part of your video but picking up his clothes silently from the floor let me say I don't think is a good way, I think that with time this kind of situation may lead to frustration. What if he keeps doing it, and then he starts with another anoying thing, and you just keep "fixing" his mess? I think the secret of a good marriage is both doing their best to make the other person as happy as possible, so in your situation I would talk to my husband and say: ok, I clean the house and I do the laundry (he does LOT of other tasks at home every day) and just throwing your clothes on the floor makes me feel you don't respect the part of the job I do, plus I'm also tired, plus my back also hurts, so please stop, if you want we can put a bin there so you can throw your clothes directly there so I can take it for laundry next day. I don't know but negotiation with your partner and setting a deal makes the relationship cleaner. After 13 years I can't throw him anything cause we settle everything, even the smallest, and we make an effort everyday to make the other as confortable as possible. I think the key is that both of the partners achieve this thought: "she/he makes my life nice and easier, I'll go and do the same!"

I think most wives can relate to husbands leaving their clothes on the floor 😂

I needed this right now. Just last night my partner and I were crying and talking about how rough things have gotten and how we need to pay more attention to us and our relationship and voilà your video is in my feed after having a great day together. The icing on the cake. Thank you so much. 🙏❤️

OMG the quality and editing of this video it's so good! I love the extra effort you put in the intro

Not married yet but in a long term relationship, these tips are truly life changing ❤️

It's funny how everyone in the comments is going off about their husbands leave their clothes around. I am just as bad as my husband with leaving my clothes on the floor. I dont mind picking up his clothes along with mine. I find great satisfaction from him coming home from work and having our room and house picked up.

as much as your vlogs bring me joy i absolutely love these sit down videos! you have such good advice and i really enjoy the mix of content on your channel

The timing of this video couldn’t be more perfect! Thank you Delilah!!

The love notes suggestion really struck a chord, thanks Delilah. My grandparents, who have since passed, wrote each other notes in the last decade of their relationship and Im remembering how much they made my grandmother happy

YES! Thank you for having this conversation on this platform! So so important.

I’m getting married next month, and this is a nice reminder of some things to prioritize as we enter into this new phase of our lives! Thanks for sharing ☺️

I'm not married but I've been in a relationship for coming up on 3 weeks. We've had a tough go lately, and I absolutely loved this video. Thank you Delilah! I'd love to see more of these intentional videos on self growth/ spousal growth or family growth:)

This was such a great video. Pillow talk especially is one of the most important in our relationship. When we go a few days without spending time intentionally looking in each other’s eyes and being close, we don’t feel that “oneness”.

Thank you for this video! Marriage is so important and I love to see how strong you two are together! ❤️💪🏽

Thank you, Delilah, for this video!! Great tips! We have been married 5 years and it's so easy to just let life get in the way of your marriage. Thanks for these reminders!

Thanks for this. I just paused this video and messaged my husband to let him know how grateful I am for all his efforts. It's really the small things that matter. After 2 years of marriage I forgot all the sweet things we did for each other. We need to make a conscious effort to keep the spark going.

I’m 23 now, but I had my baby boy just as I turned 21. I’ve been with my significant other for 5 years now. I really love this video, no one tells you how you begin to feel out of touch with your partner after all of the things you’ve been through together. Although we love each other greatly, we do experience a lot of these problems. It’s nice to see a couple similar in age talking about these topics. I’ve been watching your channel for a while now-just before Eloise. Your content always blesses my soul. I thank God for the messages you send in every one!💙

Love love this! Being on lockdown definitely puts everything in a different perspective. I will make more effort and go the extra mile my husband is the best I'm so blessed .

Thank you for this great thought-trough list. I'm married one year now and I don't feel like the spark has faded, but it's a good reminder to never sneakingly let it get to that point. And even if, I can still get it back. I tell my husband that I live him like 10 times a day. Seems exessive but I just need to because he does so much for me and I appreciate him so much.

not married yet, however in a relationship. and showing appreciation for your partner in any way possible is something that is very important for me to do. however, life is busy and sometimes this tends to get pushed to the backround. so thank you, Delilah, for these helpful tips and this overall beautiful reminder!

Your style and style of your house is amazing! And thanks for your advice! I almost stopped doing such things, so right now I'm writing a love note.

This video is SO relatable and helpful!! Thank you for being candid and sharing this. Can’t wait to try it!

Thank you so much for your advice! Also, INCREDIBLE video quality and set up!

These are really real. I too have learned these things in my long term relationship and they are huge game changers. Solid advice.

Thank you. I needed this. And I’m so glad you mentioned to start off small. I was about the do them all at once and felt overwhelmed. Pillow talk hit me hard ❤️

I love this video. I feel like it was made for me, and I can relate to every aspect of this. My husband and I have been together for 4 years and growing up together makes you grow apart so easily.

WOW as a wife married for almost two years I can relate to this soo much. We just recently noticed we do not invest as much as we used to. These tips will be soo helpful! Thank you very much. God bless you. Love all your content btw but this is one of my favourite videos. Live from Austria

This video came at the PERFECT time ❤️ my boyfriend (soon fiancé 😉) were just talking about how we didn’t feel connected with one another. I’ll definitely be using these tips! THANK YOU

Thankyou so much Delilah for reminding us on those details, I know what a big difference they make but its so easy to forget about.

My husband love language is physical touch and he’s a kisser. I’m not so the kissing 30 seconds is a great idea! My husband so good to me so he deserves the kisses.

Great video! These tips are key to keeping a marriage in tact and fresh. Been married for 38 years and are always working to keep things smooth. You've doing a great thing in summarizing and explaining the importance of emotional intimacy. Thank you! Wonderful to have come across your video!

Thank you for this video. My hubby and I have been going through a rough patch the last couple of months and these tips made me realize that we do a lot of these things although I felt like keeping up with our marriage was getting challenging. Your video made me realize that our marriage is stronger that I thought it would be at this point in our lives and it makes me very happy. There are a couple of tips that I will try though ☺️

I really needed to hear this today! I’ve been married almost 2 years now and my husband and I have a newborn. And I can definitely tell that the original “spark” has diminished. I will definitely be trying these to get that back with him. Just watching the video with each tip I could think of something he does for me or what I could do for him❤️ Love your channel and this style of video. Would love to see more sit down videos like this!

Only 35 seconds in and just have to say, the quality of your videos is amazing!

Generally good tips, but “stop nagging and deal with it” sounds like a real good way to build up resentment and hatred. It puts the burden of problem on one partner when both parties should participate in solving it. Whenever my partner and I have a disagreement, we have a “cool down” period and then discuss potential solutions together to address the problem. It’s worked for us so far and we’ve been together for 8 years. 💖

Downloaded this for when I need a reminder. I’ll also straight up ask him if he feels loved, understood and taken care of. That usually brings a healthy conversation of where we are at in our relationship

Very nice. I already implement these things into my relationship with my fiance and so does he. It does make a huge difference. We were both in bad relationships before we found eachother. I think our past experiences make us that much more grateful for eachother. One line that I would add to this video is "We're friends first." It is important to be friends with your significant other. This will be important in the long term. It takes the pressure off and transforms a spouse from being superman or superwoman back into a person. I think this holds true for now as well while the world is in isolation.

Great advice! I've been married two years and we lived together a year before that (I know, not super biblical, but we are growing in faith together). I absolutely love being married to my husband but in the very beginning, oh my gosh I thought our problems were insurmountable, but now I can't even remember what they were. And what changed was, I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle and it totally changed my nagging behavior and my own mentality about my discontentment, like you were saying. I really recommend it! She has a ton of practical tips for what to say in situations and how to approach things and she's such a genius.

I'm not even married but I LOVE this! It's so important to be intentional in the way you live your life!

Interesting to hear your perspective. My husband and I have been married 30 years and are recently empty nesters. We are having lots of fun together rekindling and reconnecting. I’m focused on letting go of past stuff and paying more attention to him. He’s slowly coming around! ;)

I am 13 years old but I just love to learn for my future😁💙 Sorry ,I am portuguese so my english isn't the best 😅

I NEEDED this video so much! Thank you so much! Very good stuff 😁

Thank you for this video. I love all the tips- realizing I need to do more of these tips in my marriage. Here I go!!

These tips were so simple and straightforward! Thank you!

I came across this video at a time where I had ill feelings toward my husband. Really good advice and something I didn't know I needed to hear. Thank you.

Yup, needed this!! The passed 8 months postpartum has not been kind to our relationship, unfortunately!

Ok this has literally popped up at the most perfect time! Thank you so much

I'm not married yet but almost engaged and I found this video really insightful. Your voice is so soothing to listen to, if you ever consider podcasting in the future that would be awesome. xx

Hi Delilah!! What a great video!! I’m 23 years old and have been married four and a half years as well, I have three children all under four and I’m a stay at home mom. Your videos are so interesting and entertaining!!

This has been a very cool video. Lovely tips for simple yet mature ways for getting on with your spouse better, remembering to serve each other and keeping the marriage less of a strain, and more of an easy-going venture. But very good tips. I find that making every thing my wife is going through or dealing with, as important and significant to me as it is to her.

This is an incredible collection of advice. Thank you

Fiiiiinally a wife-talk!!! ☺️🙌🏼🥳 soooo good. Thank you so much 😘

You are wise beyond your years. Great compilation of ideas. Thank you!

I'm not in a relati9onship but I still enjoy watching such films. I find it very helpful for my future relationship. I have learnt that talking about emotions and everythingin life is very important in relationship. Thank you Delilah!

Seriously needing a little reminder of things that really have just been forgotten often ❤️

I really loved your tips. I’m not married yet but I’m going to apply some of those tips you gave on my relationship. I think that even couples who are okay can learn something from this.

All of these are really good tips. Me and my boyfriend have been together going on 11 years, got together when we were 14. We also have two children. We do all of these and I feel closer to him with every year that passes.

My boyfriend does that exact thing!! “I’ll wear it tomorrow” LIKE NO

This is amazing!! All of our babysitters have moved away so we have an “at home” date night once a week after we put our son to sleep! I look forward to it every week and we always have the best time! All of these ideas are amazing though. Thank you so much for making this video!! 💗💗

Yay! Another video! ❤️❤️❤️ I look forward to them so much!

So helpful! I have only been married 3 weeks and it's so helpful to know these things early on

So good! I knew most of these things but they just kind if got lost worh the busyness of life. Thank you for the reminder 😊

Love these tips!! I am always working on making physical touch more of a priority again which is so hard when I’m feeling “touched out” after a full day of momming

Love every single one your uploads, Delilah!🥰

I absolutely loved this video, thank you so much for these great ideas!! 😁😁 You really do have the BEST content in your videos!!!! 🤍🤍🤍🤍

Love this so much! Gonna start practicing these tonight!

So practical and workable and easy but really important...thank you so much . I am already seeing the difference in my love life.

This is wonderful!! Thank you for these beautiful tips!!

Love those advices! My favorite is pillow talk because I do start them all the time! 😅 But for almost a year we didn’t have them in our bed because we are bed sharing with our baby. Although, we do them outside our bed now most of the time laying on a couch or even on a floor. 😅 The only thing I would add. Postpone a talk with husband when emotions are out off control or angry... something that might lead to a fight. Wait, ask husband to wait till calm down and then talk.😊

This is the best mariage advice ♥️ thank you, I really enjoyed this 💞

Thank you for this video ! Something I’ve been wanting to hear for the past 2 years of a broken relationship. Please become a councillor 💕

Thank YOU! It is just so accurate, so grateful for this video.

This is actually so helpful, thank you!

I've been with my husband for 17 years, we married 7 years ago and our love just gets stronger. We do share love languages. We are finally having a baby, and I expect big changes. Looking forward to seeing us grow and get pushed to our breaking point, we really need this challenge. By the way, most people have more than 1 love language. My husband and I both have physical touch but I also have quality time and he has acts of service.

Thanks Delilah! These are good tips 😊 looking forward to implementing some of them! 👩‍❤️‍👨

We're getting some cube storage for the clothes situation. I have a cube storage on my side I like to put my used but not dirty clothes, and we're getting one for him as well. He doesn't throw them on the floor, but he puts them on an empty bookshelf and it looks junky. The cube storage is a good medium between being organized and having easy access to the clothes. We do a similar thing with leftover containers. They sit on different shelves with dividers, partially stacked, with their tops under or on top. Finding your style of organizing is very important! My husband is very organized, and we were able to buy (mostly from goodwill) plastic drawers, dividers, baskets, for our items that work for us.

I’ve just viewed your channel now, this is the first video I saw! But I LOVED it soooooo much 💪🏼

I love that last line "never ever stop dating your spouse" love that!

Some of these feel like common sense, and then there are some where I went.....”oh yea, that common sense I forgot about.” So helpful and uplifting. Thank you

Such good, easy and effective tips! Thank you!♥️

One of the best relationship videos I've seen and I've seen a ton!

Your hair at this length fits you so well! Beautiful!

So good, Delilah! Thank you!

Omgggg thank you for this💛i needed this. Doing a few now😊

I am 72.5 years old, and grieving our relationship; have been for couple years. In that time weve et anything,everything come between us. So, today I asked myself/the Lord" What can I do about this?" Typed in "how can I win back the passion of my wife?" You were the first result; and thankful for the 10 items you mentioned. Keep up the good work!

saying "thank you" is really important!

LOVE these tips! ..and my husband & I do most of these..pillow talk for sure👍..love ur channel

Great tips. I will be watching it again with my husband 😂 We also have 2 little kids so I soooo understand what you are talking about! Thanks for the reminder ❤

I love these tips! They are so effective. I have a great marriage (not bragging, just thankful) and I’ve loved the response that happens when we are super intentional about loving each other. In public is the most fun. I like embarrassing him haha!

This was really helpful and insightful, and also comforting 🙂