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There is 100% heterosexual men, just as there are 100% gay men. Bisexuality is rare in men. The vast majority of scientific studies on mens sexuality, arousal patterns, pupil dilation, activity in the brains reacting to erotic visual stimuli show that they are much more inclined to be all or nothing.. meaning really into men and not into women(homosexual) or really into women and not into men(heterosexual). Bisexual men who reported equal attraction to the sexes, did not show equivalent responses to erotic videos of men and women. Rather, they responded much more strongly to one sex-usually men- than the other. Bisexual studies on men are usually focused on a heavily selected grouping of men and the men with actual bisexual arousal patterns are so much harder to find that researchers have had to use the same men on multiple studies. Homosexual- and bisexual-identified men are over-sampled to increase statistical power to detect differences in arousal patterns in different regions. The bisexual who responded to both sexes had an actual history of multiple physical and romantic relationships with both men and women. Attraction is the most accurate representation of a person’s true sexual orientation because identity and behavior can be context-dependent. Attraction can be based on a number of factors beyond vaginas and penises, including personality, common interests, and chemistry, and that we may be open to dating someone who has physical attributes, like hair and eye color, that don’t necessarily fit our usual type. But all of these characteristics are subsumed within an individual’s sexual preference for men, women, or both, and it's the sex preference that is determined by the organisation of the developing brain in the utero from exposure to prenatal sex hormones that cannot be changed. From most of the studies on male and female sexuality there does seem to be more of a biological aversion aspect in male sexual orientation in general. Female sexuality is more fluid that males generally and more adaptive. That's also why paraphilias are more common in men and also cannot be changed. There is also a strong aversion aspect to male sexuality biologically. Studies on male heterosexuality shows it likely involves, not just the existence of sexual attraction to the opposite sex, but also the active suppression of brain circuitry serving same-sex attraction(that gay men don't have). Men also tend to be much more visual than women and dependent on visual stimuli of their preferred sex. Research has also shown on-average sex differences in brain activation during sexual arousal. When men and women are brought into the laboratory and are shown pornography during an fMRI scan, visual areas of the brain are more activated in men, and regions associated with inhibition and emotional processing are more activated in women. In one study, the nucleus accumbens, a brain region associated with feelings of pleasure, was shown to activate when straight men looked at attractive female faces. Earlier studies have found similar results for patterns of brain activity. For example, parts of the brain involved in reward and emotion are more strongly activated when straight men look at female faces, and when gay men see male faces. The same patterns apply when people smell chemicals that probably act as human pheromones . Physiological sexual arousal and sexual orientation were more strongly linked in men than women. It's hypothesized that males might have evolved to coordinate their sexual arousal and attraction indices more strongly than women because it aids them in building their sexual orientation towards relevant sexual targets. The network of brain regions that are activated when gay men look at gay porn is the same network activated when straight men look at straight porn, in regions like the thalamus, which regulates sexual behavior, and the anterior cingulate, which regulates emotion. Men typically display significantly greater physiological responses to sexual stimuli depicting members of their preferred gender category and stated sexual orientation. These findings are in line with other research suggesting that some aspects of the neurological organization of male sexual arousal are independent of sexual orientation, and therefore expressed similarly in heterosexual and homosexual men Sexual orientation is an aspect of gender that emerges from the prenatal sexual differentiation of the brain. Whether a person ends up gay or straight depends in large part on how this process of biological differentiation goes forward, with the lead actors being genes, sex hormones and the brain systems that are influenced by them. The organisational effects of hormones on the brain prior to birth have permanent effects. Neuroscientific studies have shown that the brains of lesbians are partially masculinized and gay mens partially feminized. Patterns of brain organisation appear similar between gay men and heterosexual women and between lesbian women and heterosexual men. Gay men appear, on average, more “female typical” in brain pattern responses and lesbian women are more “male typical”. Differences in brain organisation mean differences in psychology and study after study show differences in cognition between heterosexual and gay people. Gay mens brains are also structured like those of heterosexual females and lesbians structured similar to heterosexual mens. It's believed that gay men, during some point in fetal life, were exposed to unusually low levels of androgens, which allowed their hypothalamic circuits to develop in a female-typical direction. If testosterone levels during a critical prenatal period are high , the brain is organized in such a way that the person is predisposed to become typically masculine in a variety of gendered traits, including sexual attraction to females. If testosterone levels are low during that same time period, the brain is organized in such a way that the person is predisposed to become typically feminine in gendered traits, including sexual attraction to males. The association between sexual orientation and other gendered traits arises because all these traits differentiate under the influence of a common biological process-the sexual differentiation of the brain under the influence of sex hormones. It's why some parts of their brains is similar to straight women. For example the sexually dimorphic nucleus in the medial preoptic area, known as the interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus number 3 (INAH3is about half the size in homosexual mens compared with the heterosexual mens, and the same size as females. There was marked differences in the left and right amygdalas of straight men and women and in gay men and lesbians, these characteristics were almost entirely sex-atypical; the findings in gay men resembled those of straight women, and the findings in lesbians resembled those of straight men. In straight men and lesbians, the amygdala fed its signals mainly into the sensorimotor cortex and the striatum, but in straight women and gay men, the amygdala’s connections feed into the anterior cingulate cortex and the subcallosum. In othet brain differences, some of these effects seem to be unique to sexual orientation, such as cortex cortical thickness in the orbitofrontal, cingulate cortex, precuneus, parietal cortex and left occipito-termporal cortex volumetric increase of the suprachiasmatic nucleus of the hypothalamus and visual areas as well as the anatomy of the corpus callosum in gay men. Several small-scale neuroimaging studies have also suggested cross-sex shifts in homosexual men and women in brain responses to putative sex-specific pheromonal compounds. There's also differences in brain activity in arousal patterns. MRI scans showed In straight men the right hemisphere was 2% larger than the left. In straight women, the two hemispheres were the same size. In gay men the two hemispheres were also the same size. In lesbians the right hemisphere was slightly larger than the left. Activity pattern in this region of the hypothalamus have been reported to differ between gay and straight men. A cell group called the suprachiasmatic nucleus was larger in gay men than in straight men. The suprachiasmatic nucleus is concerned with the regulation of circadian rhythms,. The size of this commissure is known to be larger in women than in men Heterosexual men exhibited more gray matter volumes in the thalamus, thalamic and in the cerebellum and premotor cortex than homosexual men. Sexual orientation is associated with distinct changes in brain structure and has strong associations with areas primarily linked to processing and integrating incoming sensory, reward-related, and motor information. Gay men and lesbians can also have gender shifted occupational preferences and also in instrumentailty, empathy, expressivness, and aesthetic/technological interests. Gay men and lesbians are gender shifted in a variety of male favoring-visuospatial traits such as mental rotation, targeting, and navigation, as well as female-favouring tasks such as verbal fluency and object location memory. Many of these functions, particularly the spatial skills and the verbal skills reside in different sides of the brain and they call it cerebral asymmetry, the asymmetry in the way the brain is organized. This asymmetry is determined and organized around the middle of pregnancy and these correlate very highly with who you are sexually. Sexual orientation is something that is hardwired before birth.

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i can see that i honestly also think its true most pple are bisexual but varying degrees

Kinsey’s work was incomplete and not reproducible which made his findings illegitimate and dangerous. Some scientists believe that Kinsey created his “science” to normalize pedophilia. Please research the history of Kinsey’s work.

And Hitler thought he was 100% right did that make him right🧐 Can you please post a link on the % that was stated

I say it it boils down to pathological narcissism with a lot of these men, which is often caused by abuse, neglect or trauma in early childhood and they have arrested emotional development and cannot separate their negative internal world from the external world, they believe their feelings are facts and their emotions dictate their reality which is unstable along with an unstable identity and sense of self. They are chameleons and just mimic and imitate others and are different people from one person to the next because they don't have a true self, just different false personas and mask that go along with whatever they need in any given moment or whatever emotion they are in the grip of, they have spitting defenses, lack object constancy, whole object relations, object permanence, dysfunctional schema in their brains, cognitive distortions, skewed emotionally charged perception and live in toddler survival mode with a lack of empathy or even ability to see people as people and not objects to use and a mirror to reflect back to them. With many it's a projection of some deep self hatred and because they're the warped creations of women who gave birth to them and moulded them into who they are: dysfunctional, maladaptive, and emotionally dead. They are angry at their mothers and, by extension, at all women. They believe firmly that women are out to "hunt" men by genetic predisposition. That women are parasites, leeches, whose sole function is to suck dry every man they find and tarantula-like decapitate him once no longer useful. This, of course, is exactly what the narcissist does to people. Thus, his view of women is a projection. The heterosexual narcissist desires women. As a result, they feel threatened. Narcissists despise weakness in themselves.They try to justify this irrational fear by imbuing all women with "objective", menacing qualities and pathologizes others in order to control them. Narcissists don't just treat female intimate partners this way, and if a male intimate partner spent any real amount of time around this person where the narcissists starts to feel more exposed then they will to be devalued also. And this is not fear of being exposed as DL(although they could certainly connect to their worth),, it's fear of being exposed as defective and unlovable and worthless which is what they believe deep inside which they often deny to themselves and project outwards onto others. Self hatred is a painful emotion to accept, especially for narcissists who are already compromised with only immature infantile coping mechanism that don't work very well and they are extremely fragile people. Every close intimate relationship the person will eventually be devalued, it's a certain. Narcissistic DL men don't spend enough time around the gay man they are having sex with to feel threatened or exposed by to get devalued. But they will eventually if you're around them enough because their entire life is spent hiding and running from who they believe they really are underneath the facade, which is worthless and unlovable. Narcissist treats women as objects and sex as a means to obtaining Narcissistic Supply. Narcissists can use sex as a form of narcissistic supply and because everyone is just a mirror to reflect back to them their own self worth, it really could be just anybody, even if it's someone just to desire them sexually and to affirm and validate their false self to create some self worth. without it narcissistic supply they feel worthless, empty and have no sense of self. All people are objects to narcissists and they are all about power and control and for attention. Whether it's sympathy, whether it's admiration, whether it's sexual attraction, attention is attention. No matter what, it's unlikely one person can give a narcissist enough attention to sustain them. They would always prefer to have more, they will usually seek more and it is more valuable coming from people who are not wise to their game, so to speak. Sex is sometimes part of the attention they are looking for, but sometimes it is an afterthought, a means to an end. It goes with the territory, you could say, but it isn't always the main goal. They cannot regulate or create their own self-worth. They must constantly receive input from others in order to feel any. When someone wants them, they feel important. To the pathologically narcissistic person, importance equals worth. This is why they engage in triangulation. If one person wants you, you're worth something. If two people want you, you are worth more. And so on and so on. The narcissist's misogyny and his sadism are a result of his fear of being abandoned (the recreation of earlier traumas) Narcissists are infinitely pessimistic, bad-tempered, paranoid and sadistic. Their daily routine is a rigmarole of threats, complaints, hurts, eruptions, moodiness and rage. The narcissist rails against slights true and imagined. heterosexual narcissists are attracted to women, but simultaneously repelled, horrified, bewitched and provoked by them. They seek to frustrate and humiliate them. They are unable to love in any true sense of the word - nor are they capable of developing any measure of intimacy. Lacking empathy, they are unable to offer their partners emotional sustenance. Narcissists equate love with deplorable weakness. Narcissists are angry men - but not because they never experienced love and probably never will. They are angry because they are not as powerful, awe-inspiring and successful as they wish they were and, to their mind, deserve to be; because their daydreams refuse so stubbornly to come true; because they are their own worst enemy. And because, in their unmitigated paranoia, they see adversaries plotting everywhere and feel discriminated against and contemptuously ignored. Elliot Rodger is an excellent example of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and how destructive and dangerous it is. Narcissists will go to whatever lengths they have to in order to get what they want and so often - as we see with Elliot Rodger - what they want is revenge. They believe they have been wronged and they react with rage when the world does not give them what they want. They take pleasure in hurting people, especially those who care about them. The goal of the narcissist is literally to destroy. A narcissist cannot be reached with love and you cannot appeal to their good graces. they are capable of neither. These people are fundamentally broken. They also have a vicious, sadistic Superego (the part of a person's mind that acts as a self-critical conscience, reflecting social standards learned from parents and teachers) that attacks them all the time with horrible, terrible things: "You're worthless, no one likes you, you're scum, you're a terrible person, there is nothing good about you..." They create a False Self to hide that, which is why they seem so arrogant, etc. But they are under attack by this Superego all the time, nearly every second, and so when they find a partner, this narcissist takes all that sadistic viciousness they are hearing from the Superego out on the partner to make themselves feel better. This is the only way they have to make themselves feel better and because of this, they are never going to stop doing it. You cannot make them see they are doing this; it's a defense mechanism. They have to believe their partner or others around them really are terrible people. It's essential to their whole being as a person and they cannot stop. More importantly, they don't want to stop. They are truly evil people who literally desire to destroy others because they are jealous and believe that other people have things (love, sex, material things, popularity) that they (the narcissist) are being purposely and spitefully denied. The true narcissist is a dangerous, conscious-less, selfish, sadistic and evil person. And really, calling them a person is a misnomer. They are not truly people in the strict sense of the word. Once they are created in childhood, it's too late. Medication cannot help them. Therapy cannot help them. Nothing can help them. They are what they are. And what they are is really nobody at all. They are shells walking through life seeking fulfillment, and the only way to get what they need is by using and abusing other people. Crippled, defective shells masquerading as people that are incapable of love or of ever being happy.

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Prior to the AIDS crisis of the 1980s, homosexuality was no big deal in the Black community. Nobody talked about it. Every Black person had a Gay and/or Lesbian family member or friend. They were normalized and accepted at home and in the church. Sometimes they got married to the opposite sex or not. Nobody excluded them. Then White liberal Elites took over the LGBTQ movement during and after the AIDS crisis and made being LGBTQIA an anomaly and turned it into a religion. Their goal was to separate themselves from mainstream society and they said, they were born that way without science supporting that claim. This devision between Gays and Heterosexuals is an elitist fight and should have never seeped into the working class Black community.

Im not sure that makes sense. Gay men are basically cos playing as feminine, oftentimes over the top women.

Exactly ... I don't like when they compare flamboyant gay men with women because they are not alike ​@@Seven_Aint_Nine

That's the point of the joke.

it's not about people. it's about God. people will let you down. set your faith and foundation on God. God is the SAME, yesterday, today and tomorrow. God will not let you down. Trust me- Better yet, Trust in the Lord and lean not to thy own understanding, yet acknowledge HIM and he will direct your path towards righteousness-

@@darryls2141 you are right. are you a gay men.

@@darryls2141 BUT most people are following a God in man's fragile image and imagination, and we all know that men have bias, ego and flaws and this is why even what we were taught about GOD can be a huge let down.

Your what?😅

I Do That Too

@@ShadBoss-wx1kc go look at his video from today…..

That can be true of any sighn!!

If you listened he did say that’s not all it is on the identity thing so that’s that

now I had you at 100 in the first paragraph. your last bit was a little judgey? if that's a word- Let Jay be who his podcast IS- you don't have to agree with, just respect the dude- Jay is growing- Let him learn and grow. as a race and culture, we must be very careful on how we tread-

@@darryls2141but come on sexy Duffy take offense cause they are friends but I did , it comes off very disrespectful and unaccepting when he’s doing all of that when sexy says certain things

@@critiks_5045 he's uncomfortable because he's not use to the environment of conversation- give him a minute- he is still processing the gay stuff as a straight man trying to understand that community and life style

@@darryls2141 yea but simply because he ain’t use to it doesn’t mean he have to showcase it , like come on as a host you must showcase couth and respect to your guests and must also keep your audience in mind

I had been prayinf he was okay bc he does appear slimmer.

Yes, he has been doing a lot of cardio and cutting old habits. He posts it on his stories

Definitely hope is all good with him🙏🏾

@laportiamitchellpresents Yeah he’s just super into working out now, I don’t think the weight loss is anything health related thankfully

He is not saying it's not nasty, he's saying that when the backdoor is being plowed, accidents CAN happen and it has happened to him. He's making the point that bottoms that who have had accidents with their partners, shouldn't be embarrassed or feel ashamed about it because we are humans, and it is bootyhole. Now I disagree with him saying that all gay men have had accidents because I have not, because I know my body. I keep my bowels clean and I fast. I know how to clean my booty hole to the point of zero smell or poo but if it did happen, I wouldn't be ashamed about it.

@@spreadmorelove5235 in another part of the conversation he mentioned pooping on someone intentionally- in addition to the golden shower- that is straight up GROSS as hell

@@darryls2141 Believe it or not, there are people out there that want that. They get turned on by it. It is gross and nasty asf to me. I have met men who told me that I didn't have to clean before sex because they like it 'natural' and I never called them back again. CLEANLINESS is everything to me but to each his or her own.

They are not. Downlow men do NOT live in their truth & live double lives. Bisexual men live as a bisexual men & make whoever is interested aware of that. I literally was just on a male/female long-term couple's page on X & the male is bi. It's more common than you think.