He always has to cus he's bald and he doesn't edit the guy in the original picture out, but instead pastes his own head over it, and if it isn't huge then the original guy's hair will stick out
I love how Bill asked Nia to come up with a funny scenario for breaking up and she delivers... at 10:04 the example with the threesome had me rolling lmao
Being “IN LOVE” ebbs and flows in a long term relationship…anyone who has been in a healthy one for a long time understands this. Today’s culture is so “what have you done for me lately” that the phrase ‘we’re just not in love anymore’ is a cheap excuse to uproot your life, potentially your children and destroy your most important relationship in your life. Grow up people…your entire life isn’t a rom-com to be envied by the world where if the latest season leaves a bad taste in your mouth you just cancel the show! Healthy, long term relationships of any kind are difficult to maintain and this is just another example of our “instant gratification” culture.
Nah man we just need to stop getting married, get rid of the traditional family model, and acknowledge that feelings come and go and that eventually the love you have for the other person wil fade away or turn into something else. Our time on this earth is short enough, there's no reason to be miserable just to uphold some sort of social structure or to escape loneliness. In my opinion, it's better to wake up alone than with someone who makes you feel alone.
@@patriciofernandez2711 as much as i agree that the traditional family model is becoming obsolete, I feel like it's currently the best way to raise children. How they did it before marriage was that an entire village would literally raise that child but we don't really have villages anymore, where we all sing and dance around the campfire at the end of the day. Raising children is arguably the most important job people who choose to have them will have, and one single adult will have a ridiculously difficult time doing it alone. There needs to be another adult, a family or a village that child can put all their trust on. The traditional family (not so traditional since im also including non-hetero couples) is currently our best way of ensuring that, at least until we come up with something else.
Exactly. People want the here and now only cherry pick good parts. Never worry about the sour apples or the then and when it'll come. It's why aside from marriage being more costly towards men for financial reasons it's also not good vows. "For sickness/health richer/poor better/worse". Most people only want the good first parts. Life isn't a rom com or an always funny comedy it's a video game. Sometimes you get good other times you get destroyed. But it's an obstacle. Once you pass it you feel accomplished and become a better player for it. Plus if it's good all the time eventually they'll start seeking more and more "rushes" or "thrills". Eating out every month. They'll wanna eat out every other week or aim for better places. So much so it'll be impossible. They'll get bored and leave a good thing many people would kill for and never be happy. With that mindset they're just building up to be torn down harder not building up to make better. It's what happens with alot of celebs mostly their wives. They get accustomed to a lifestyle. They'll want the sun when you buy them the moon. Eventually it'll come crashing down and they'll lose everything.
To me, the argument of “is this as good as it gets” is pretty much pointless to think about, I mean unless of course you are in like a domestic violent relationship sure but otherwise at the end of the day there could always be someone better, but really if you think you’re going to get with someone and it’s going to be perfect forever, no arguments, sex every day, always happy then you’re delusional. I think the problem people have is once the honeymoon phase is gone people just get bored and call it quits. But no matter who you get with that honeymoon phase won’t last forever. You could date the hottest person ever and you’d still eventually get sick of their shit. Learn to appreciate who you’re with and understand it’s not always happiness, it’s not always easy, but that’s love.
There are many issues that cause relationships to fail. If the ‘honeymoon phase" wears off and you find yourself sick of them or arguing and whatnot, then they’re not meant for you. The "honeymoon phase" was simply your bodies biological processes making you ready to procreate. People need to be able to objectively understand who and what they want from a person long term. The other issue is that it’s almost impossible to find someone who is a perfect match. Two whole lives of experience aren’t exactly easy to just throw together and figure out within a reasonable time frame. It takes years to truly understand and get someone.
Very well written. I bought my first Mercedes, 6 months in the novelty started to diminish. Should I trade it in and buy a Porsche ? No, the same thing will happen..
Hilarious ...I think when Bill and Nia join forces for giving advice they are a formidable force. I died when Bill unintentionally slipped into a Grover sounding voice, he gets all giddy showing off for Nia.
I agree, but if the feeling isn't there, why would someone stay with anyone? Why work on a relationship if the feelings aren't there? What's the point? For the sake of having a relationship?
@@tomaspeixinho4447 it was never for love , it was to bond resources and families. Those unions are still together. The "LOVE" is your fantasy and the reason for the increasing number of divorces that are filed, 80% By women. Very few are of a physical abuse which of course get the hell out.
@@tomaspeixinho4447 relationships are complicated and there isn't a 1 size fits all answer. I know several people who were divorced and later remarried and ended up stronger than ever. I just don't think basing your relationship on feelings alone is a good idea
When the female that wrote the email started rattling off the positive things about her fiance, I'm like "What the fuck else do you want from the guy?".
She's either not all that attracted to the dude or she just misses being single. That or she wants to feel the butterflies she felt in the beginning of the relationship. However that surge in dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin or whatever, is not love but infatuation. That shit passes after around 18 months.
Or she has been taking annoyed over little stuff and never voicing it and now it's piled up and looks like a huge problem. It sounds like she never asked him about the 4am sessions and waking up tired, even though that's the reason she wants to break up. That sounds really sad
Break it off before you get married, things don't magically get better after marriage, they get worse. Don't just stay with someone because you feel bad. I got married to someone I thought was happy with me until she turned miserable and divorce sucks, would have much rather just break it off before tying the knot.
I was gonna like it after laughing but my girl texts me at 2 3 4am and I love it. yes we sleep in separate rooms cause we both like sleeping alone. lol
I disagree with her. I think the girl should be honest with the boundaries she needs and try to make it work. Every relationship is going to fall out of that lovey honeymoon phase. Then it's the work. She is just falling out of it before he is. Like sleeping in separate beds is not a death knell, it can be a healthy, sustainable boundary for sanity.
Y'all are not gonna believe this but I swear to god I paused at 6:30 and said out LOUD "DUDE! JUST GET THROUGH IT!!" and then played the video....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's completely normal to want your own space when sleeping. It doesn't say anything about your love for him. Once you start being open about it you'll find many couples who sleep apart, in separate beds or even separate rooms. There can be all kinds of reasons. Someone snores, someone has sleeping issues... I have sleeping issues myself and thank god I found a guy with sleeping issues as well. We are totally fine sleeping separately. Good sleep is essential for your life. It's not selfish to want that. Just discuss it with your significant other and hopefully you can make changes that work for both of you. Make sure it's not about love or sex. It's about sleep, one of the basic necessities in life.
I wish men would write in as a female to get relationship advise from Nia cause Nia is kinda of a hypocrite and only provides good advice if it’s a female.
Me and the misses have separate houses. Been together 12 years. Lived together for the first 3 years. That didn't work so we divorced. One kid lives with each parent. 9 years later were still together and happy. We just couldn't live together. haha. Its wild how it worked out...
She just sounds clueless. What the Disney princess generation doesn't grasp is that feeling "in love" ALWAYS fades. And I do mean always. Expecting that to last forever is literally like getting the drunkest you've ever been and you're having a blast and you think nothing bad can happen. But if you have enough of those hangovers, you eventually figure out you can get a little drunk instead and have a great time and not feel miserable later.
She’s being told to break up with him when it’s her who is unable to bring herself properly into the relationship? She’s clearly too busy to be present in any relationship, she shouldn’t expect to be happy in one given the fact.
Nia for the win. Imagine, sliding out from the left side of the bed. Landing on your toes and twinkling your way out the room in a crouch, never stopping as you exit the front door. Jump into your already loaded car and hit the nearest exit. Classic.
She loved him but probably thinks she can do better. She wasn't done testing the waters. If I was him I’d run. If she stays she's gonna cheat on him if she hasn't already. There's a chance she'll leave then come back, but why should he settle for being the last option??? By the sound of it he sounds like great guy and he'll be better off without her.
Lol, the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with should be a rational decision. This women sounds tired and beaten down by life, so she's no longer thinking clearly. Which is something I can completely understand, but if you're so tired and busy when will you have time to find another good partner? When will you have time to court each other, what if the only available people are worse than the one you already have? Her problems are incredibly minor and could be worked out with open, honest communication, but she's already deluded herself Into thinking that HE'S her sole problem and that everything would be better once he's gone. Now I don't know these people so I can't say anything for certain, but I suspect they'd both be better off working through their problems then risking the current dating market. This is assuming that both individuals are 27 or older
I just love how everyone uses that excuse. “Well I’m just not in love with you anymore!” I got news for you sweetheart when you leave this guy you’ll jump to some douche bag that probably drinks to much and mistreats you. Then one day you’ll be sitting at the bar with your girlfriends going why can’t I just find a nice guy? Lol
I actually had a girl break up with me like this. We were at a party and she disappeared. Her best friend came up to me and said “she’s not coming back but I’m here.” After a minute to process what she was saying I shrugged and said ok and went for it. Despite what my GF did I have to say it was at least considerate of her to provide a substitute.
@@firefly9838 Yep. I even came to an arrangement with the other guy. But otherwise it was a messed up situation in which I had some share. Ironically she ended up ditching both of us to marry a rich guy. The BBF called me a few years later to tell me the rich guy was beating her (I’m a lawyer and experienced in domestic abuse) and wanted my advice. Karmas’ a bitch. I was young then (30) and ignorant of female nature.
Paul Simon wrote the song 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover It'd be the best thing ever to have the girl break up you, but make your dreams come true at the same time.
So that woman is with basically a perfect guy, but Nia wants her to break up with him because she's not feeling the butterflies and that's good enough for a break-up? Now you know why the family structure is crumbling.
That was awful. All the girl had to do was ask for no more morning sex and a twin bed. You never forget your first. I'm happy for the guy, because she's probably spending Labor day alone or with some jerk with bigger problems and all she can think about is how good she had it way back when...
@@simkont6793 I can see what you mean when you start in one bed. However, sleeping in separate beds was a common practice until it was popularized in the 20th century by western culture.
@@Captain-wc6vj Ye I guess, it's just very alien to me. Last time I was in a relationship I liked to sleep alone at times to but those times I would just take a night on the couch. The more I think about it the less wierd it seems to have separate beds but I would probably still react if I went to someone's home and they didn't share a bed.
Just that he’s your first is enough to tell me your relationship is doomed. You will eventually meet another guy and want to screw him enough to dump your current schmuck. Just do it now, get it over with, it will only be harder later.
Mia has no idea what she’s saying. Even when I personally felt a huge attraction to someone I thought to myself “I would still prefer to wake up alone most of the times.” It has nothing to do with love. The person in the text will hardly ever come to accept a reality where she doesn’t have the privacy of her own bed. Something tells me that just like me, the moment she left her parent’s house she found herself in a paradise where she lived alone and the way she like it. I’m just like that. Every time I think about marriage, I think just like her. That marriage isn’t just about two people. It’s more like marrying a whole bunch of people who will hardly ever leave you alone. Either to pester you about the need to have children, or to come for tee and just waste away your day. She knows it, I know it. For us we just think that if the bed wont be the sole place where we can have some privacy in life… then nowhere will.