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It can take a long time to pass.. and that sentence will not be very soothing on bad days.

@@hgzmatt I know...Had to live through all that. Just sharing my experience 🙆

Wow I don’t feel lonely anymore. Being a zoology graduate I don’t think I can see love as how it’s portrayed in the movies anymore. For me humans are seasonal monogamous ( hence marriage ain’t really the greatest option) , love is a hormonal activity ( existential crisis kicking in) for procreation and humans are inherently selfish. Sums up why I am single :’)

It helped me a lot to read up about exactly what was going on in my body after a difficult breakup. You still have to get through it over time but there's something to being able to understand what is happening in your brain and body and labeling it.

@@sassy_llama5909 Love portrayed in the movies as a horrible thing that’s borderline non existent and everybody cheats and hates marriage. I guess it depends on what kind of movie you watch though

ok but that actually makes so much sense

Looool same

So that's why I couldn't say anything to my manipulative friend when I talked about her selfish habits and she asked for clear examples. It happened so many times and the situations were similar. My brain couldn't tell them apart to give me a specific location or time.

Yes same! Or like my favourite song or something. This makes so much sense I do this all the time lol

Thats why made lists for my favourite everythings lmao

fr

OMG fr! I'm sooo interested in learning about love.

YESSSS ❤

Just read her books

you can either read her books or look her up on TED talks lol

"Cheating once is a huge mistake, cheating twice is a deliberate choice and cheating three time is just not caring at all and taking your spouse for a fool".

When did she even say this? She said that the two things happen at the same time

4:49 ​@@kingperson7373

That’s why instead of people being cheaters, they should be swingers.

She claims the exact opposite of that

As a scientist and medical doctor I sadly have to disagree. In 6:03 she is promoting sexist theory that have been proven wrong for decades. male hormones make you good at math. Excuse me? tell your fairytales 🧚‍♀️ to someone in the middle ages!

She was lovely.

@@genevakeith3876 yes, that is her area of expertise.

Is she a robot ö

Yeah. I'm glad she didn't just go "love is just a bunch of chemicals, emotion is weak and inefficient and for stupid people" like a lot of scientists

yeah right!? that was just amazing!

She said that as I read this comment

Yes.

she just coined my new tramp stamp

I didn't see much science in her racism.

You’re a loser, a big fat loser

I really feel what you said, everyone rushes into getting someone over, while you’re just still grieving it…

I was with my highschool sweetheart for four years, only to get unceremoniously dumped for someone else (who was still married at the time, no less) right at the start of covid. It took me almost two years to get over that, and it was truly awful for a huge chunk of that time. But I did get over it, and when I did I finally took a chance and tried my luck with someone I'd been attracted to and interested in for a long while. Lo and behold, it worked out and I'm the happiest I've ever been in a relationship. Time really does heal.

@@kidagirl99you’re just lucky

You’re just lucky

She would be and probably is an excellent professor. Watching this made me miss college!

Same, I could listen to her explain this for hours

She probably writes a LOT for her job

@@FiddlebirdBlue and decent professors are rare too

It's like a thesis statement at the beginning of every argument.

I hope you find what your looking for ! Sending good wishes 🥨

This is my favourite thing about studying anthropology, we are just observing whqts going on not judging it

Honestly, you have a very toxic view of men. Your last sentence proves that. You gotta change your mindset about men or you will never be happy. Like the Buddha said: „The mind is everything.“ And your mind says „men don‘t want traditional relationships“. I can read that in your comment. Change that mindset. Because it controls your behavior and how you percieve the world.

@@churchboy12underwear thank you very much, Megna!♥️

@@niamhbrown7050 it seems like a lovely field to study, to be certain! :)

Argument 🤔

1:44

If that happens, it was never "love" in the first place.

@@thetriggering528 exactly you don't kill anyone you love because love is kind👍

@@thetriggering528 the brain wouldn't be able to survive in the initial, most intense "in love" state for a very long period of time, so although I agree if you end up not caring about a person at all then you were never in love with them, I don't believe you were never in love with them unless you are perpetually in the dizzying, soul-crushing, heart-crashing kind of love that you started with. That's why she did studies on people who were "madly in love" and also people who were "in love long-term".

Love means that person is MORE than enough. You cheat when that person is not enough. Pretty straightforward

By your logic, it’s like saying having money means that you have enough to pay for what you want but you steal when you don’t have enough money. Is stealing the only option available to you? We all know stealing is wrong. You can do it but don’t expect anyone to tell you it’s ok. Expect consequences as stealing is not the logical alternative. The logical thing to do is exit the store, like you should exit that relationship. Go get some money, like you should go and try to find someone else to love now that you are newly single.

@quir... it's never about the other person.

@dan...trauma bonds are a real thing in relationships with narcissists. It's not a one-size-fits-all.

​@@quirogatnonerrat3214You cheat because You wanna cheat simple If that person is not enough is not Talking with them or breaking up options to You????nah just cheat??? You know all of the different reasons why someone might not be enough for You rigth????

She has done a ted talk, search for her name on their channel!

@@aakritisant2516 ah ok thanks! :)

She’s actually done two! Here’s the link to one of them for anyone lazy like me ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-OYfoGTIG7pY.html

FR

@@skkart4885 thank you :))

same

I'm also interested on her opinion on Polyamorous people

I was thinking this too

Yeah. I agree.

Am bi aro and OMG yes please! This topic seriously needs more talking about it.

Right???

Writers are typically antisocial. Which i think conflicts with her science.

It looks like she is an author, mostly non fiction and self help

@@ginger.Dax. Yeah she seems like one too.

Lol she is a writer, she’s written quite a few nonfiction books on this topic exactly.

@@daigosaito888 *asocial

Thank you !!!

Thank u!!

Needed more of her thanks 😊

Thank you! Just bought the book due to your recommendation :)

@@itsapineapple-qq9zk Yay! Let me know what you think of it! :)

I feel the same! I was actually comforted to know I can feel one kind of love just as strongly, even if I do not feel the other/s. Because they are different systems! It isn't linear. And that is very validating.

Yes, I’m ace and I felt that as well! I appreciate the scientific analysis. I’d love to see more specialists talk about this!

Why is it validating? Is the assumption that some systems can function, whilst others don't? I would like to see the literature on that.

​@@DockClock-rp2rolook it up then

Not to be rude but shouldn't this video make you feel worse? I would honestly feel discouraged by this if I were asexual lol she explains how it's in our nature and it's evolved over millions of years, so not having these typical feelings means your brain doesn't function like it's evolved to 😅 sorry I just do not understand the logic of your comment whatsoever

that sounds interesting indeed!

she has spoken about "romantic love" for ALL the video, and it is an humanistic concept that has nothing to do with biology. and also she make some errors when she spoke about hormonal systems. a melting pot of old fashioned traditionak and outdated concept of the mating system and New Age bs.

@@ubermensch_dadaista1797 Could you point out one of her errors and correct it? I'm seriously curious and want to learn!

Tell me her books or writtens please

@@ubermensch_dadaista1797 yes, explain please.

whst if you dont fit in any of these groups - serotoning, dopamin, testosterone. i could associate myselfnwoth all three of them, but least with how you described dopamine people.

yes this was very fascinating, but I'd love to hear about asexual people then (and all of those who are in between)

@@cynthieful I’m ace and for me personally I feel attraction for people but not sexually. I am not interested in being in a romantic relationship and have never been in one. It’s more an emotional attraction that goes no further than a friendship.

@@IMPARTIAL92 I'm oddly jealous. It would be nice to experience life outside of Dopamine seeking drives.

Yes, it was an interesting piece of fiction.

I am not asexual but I experience sexuality and romance not necessarily at the same time. I really think they can be separate systems

you put my thoughts into words. thank you

I remember when I was having feelings for a friend, it didn't feel the same as falling in love before. I regret destroying our friendship with my feelings of a crush. Years later I met this guy I'm sort of with and friends with, where it's kind of funny. I knew I still love him, and it's just like whenever he listens to music his music it's so different in a way I couldn't put into words. The music is classic rock, he's about 7years older then me but it's so weird how I didn't fully realize that's what made the music sound different. It's like I'm fully listening to the words the artist sings when he's humming along or taping his finger to it.

I feel like that’s not fully accurate because more scans on brains have confirmed that people mistake romantic love for obsessive love, but true romantic love has the characteristics of intimacy and closeness and happiness of being togheter of obsessive love minus the obsessive component, i feel like she kinda mistook infatuation for love there…

@@amberg4131perhaps you love this guy romantically and just skipped the infatuation phase, wich can be deceiving

Think you just fell in love 🥰

Agree, I wish all of my teachers explain like her. I wouldn't be bored one bit 🤣

Holy crap

@@travis3624 She definitely has a quality that's easy to fall for lol

Sadly as a medical doctor and scientist I have to warn you she is promoting some dangerous and wrong sexist theory that has been proven wrong for decades in 6:03

This! Feeling an urge to do something and acting on it are two different things

Yeah I didnt quite like how she nicely put it in a scientific way making it sound as its almost expected and normal to cheat. Its so freaking not.

@@How.Dare.You. Ya there is 0 excuse to cheat, you wanna do something with someone else? Tell your partner, if they’re okay with it go ahead, if not don’t do it or break up that simple.

@@How.Dare.You. well the thing is that she’s not wrong. This also goes into how our brain and way of thinking about partnerships has evolved as humans. We’ve seemed to almost accept that monogamy is a natural part of our biology when it’s not. We physically can sleep around and experience different emotions with different people but some of us choose to keep it to just one. It’s more important to us mentally than it’s is biologically, to be monogamous. That’s basically what she says.

That wasn't really the point of the question, and what you're adding is something that basically nobody watching this is going to disagree with

I was thnking the same thing!

Yes, I hate it, but I can't choose what to feel and what not 😞

Good to know right? The moment they said they were also interested in me, my head probably exploded and they're all I could think about T __ T

But is that okay? I mean, there is a point here it became toxic, and we sure need psychological help

@@Viniveppo well yeah but, thats why people gain a level of self control and realize that “while i do feel this way, i choose how to handle those feelings and react to them”

Yeah she was excellent

@@pennymikk purio stessa cosa LOL

E io non sono italiano ma capisco lo stesso 0.0

@@lucasfer736 complimenti lol

@@pennymikk hi, I am not Italian is Brava right because she is saying it to a woman and bravo is for men? I don't know any Italian i just thought that makes sense. Please explain!

Thank you for this. So beautiful to read.

You give me hope

Exactly! I felt it. It's like I'm connected to him like our wifi is strong.

I found my "one" but he broke up with me, telling me he is not in love anymore. Since the start I was ready to marry him in the moment, we were together for years, and after so many months of breakup it still hurts, my love still grows. What do I do?

@@billcipher8645hope u heal dear stranger ❤️‍🩹

Please oh my god

Yes. Please bring her back !!

AMEN

This

Oh my god I was thinking these questions exactly yeeess please

Pleaseeeee

Wouldn't it be in the category of love at first sight? (Like you see them in photo/video you think they are attractive then in interviews they say something you like so you fall for them )

That's called limerance and usually happens to cpsd survivors.

thats literally just a parasocial relationship and not love

Infatuation.

On a similar note, am I the only one who doesn't necessarily associate the term "soulmates" with romantic love? Like it could just be besties who go through life together, or some kind of relatives etc, the point is that they *somehow* belong together and they understand each other at a whole different level. They're linked in a way you sort of can't explain.

@@lutitko8587 This! Soulmates can be romantic, or just best friends who found each other again :) soulmates are people are connected, connection doesn't always mean romantic

@@riceandton agreed (with both comments)!

Anthropology Rocks!! Fellow Anth Major🫶🏼

It was my fav topic growing up, but I didn't study it in college, the job prospects do not pay well and are very limited. It's sad how little society values the field when it's the study of US.

perhaps because so many people see themselves as armchair anthropologists

And this woman is the reason why. She's a quintessential hoax: Encroaching on the territories of disciplines she doesn't understand, making wild claims, pretending she reinvented the wheel and not even understanding how cringe she is. I used to teach psychometry (methodology of creation and use of psychological testing) and her delusions about personality made me laugh, cry and facepalm all at the same time. I dread to think how she butchers other disciplines I'm less familiar with.

It is basically the history of human mind, and why we are the way that we are.

yeah same here (and I'm 2 of those three things 😂)

I LOLed at your name

@@monkeeeeey thank you very much

There isn't nearly enough research to correctly explain these. In case of asexual and aromantic people, it's most likely that their brain is wired differently. Their "love chemicals" aren't or only very minimally present, which means their brain systems responsible for making these chemicals aren't working like other people's. It's either a deficiency of these chemicals or that they can't influence the brain the way it does for other people.

She may not buy into those ideas.

So, men and women shouldn't be friends? Uness you find them physically almost repulsive...

@@Monaleenian dear Monaleenian, I guess you have to figure that out for yourself. I only talked about my personal issues and experiences and I don't think you can take what I said and generalize it for the entire population.

all of my friends are hot so it's a problem, especially as a bisexual woman LMFAO

@@gretamagary9045 that's rough, at least I know I'm safe with female friends

Oh well, I have the opposite problem. I am also constantly confused whether I am attracted to someone romantically or platonically and that has led to me unintentionally getting some people's hopes up and hurting them in the end because I figured out I only like them as friends. Been staying clear of giving people false expectations ever since

it's so hard 😭 i think i'm in the middle of platonic infatuation but it's confusing so i don't honestly know

I was wondering about this. I love my best friend in the most platonic way possible, but its been a stronger bond than the last few of my relationships had. And I know I dont love him romantically. I'm also on the spectrum, so your comment makes a lot of sense to me.

For me it's the rule, if I don't really know it doesnt count. And if it only stays for like a month, then it's just platonic as well. I think I only fell in love like 3 times. Everything else was just gone in a narrow span of time and with people I didn't completely know.

like same, im arospec but also nd and trans, and it gets so confusing cause i get asthetic attraction and gender envy, and i get that thing where you want to be friends with someone really bad but dont know how or cant (my zoom "crush"), so you just obsess over them and all your nt friends think you have a crush and its so hard to explain how that just isnt it

WAIT WHAT IM ND AND I DIDN’T EVEN KNOW THAT I THOUGHT I HAD A CRUSH ON ALL MY FRIENDS OMG THANKS YOUUUU !!!

Uh, one problem chief: people lie.

@@DiamondsRexpensive Yeah but even in real life people lie. I'm gonna assume thats why the percentage only have a small margin. Because online, people do lie sure, in real life as well, but at least people can figure out what they like and what they dont before catching feelings.

Yeah but like you can me fake profile or lie in your profile just to get girls/guys that doesnt mean you actually are interested in those things

@@semekiizuio that’s an entirely different situation tho no sane person just marries an online profile. The people that lie about their interests on the internet aren’t trying to get married to anyone they meet on there, but the people that do want to make a connection and build a real relationship are more likely to be honest, straightforward to cut thru all that bs.

I found a fellow carat!!! Hello, 호랑해!!

I think it fades overtime when it was just infatuation and you realize you weren’t truly compatible nor in love to begin with. When it works it only grows with time, my grandma can confirm

I think those brain systems are indecisive themselves

because they're attractive. Romantic love is basically a physical attraction, but this is just too controversial to say outloud for snowflakes on this channel lol

@@FloppaTheBased As I said, if you feel that stuff only because they are attractive, is actually called infatuation. when you are attracted for what they truly are then It's romantic love, which is a mix of attraction but also genuine affection and care all in one package. and you are attracted to them and see them as even more beautiful than you normally would because you genuinely love them.

@@rebecca_rh you can't try to build emotional connection, affection and care with "wrong person" without hurting yourself, but these wrong persons still get chosen somehow. Why - because looks matter.

that's lovely! Best wishes

Aw love this. Congrats :)

dating apps are a thief for the average/below average man

Awwwwww 🥰

What made you decide he'd be the one person you wanted to try to get to know better?

It is although men have estrogen too

@@Emma-wm9jg yeah, I’m by no means an expert, but to my knowledge hormonally male people still have some estrogen (just as hormonally female people have some testosterone, and even more when they menstruate for those that do) but there could be imbalances and you could be hormonally female while still having male..private parts (I don’t know what RU-vid allows you to say) or you could simply just have more estrogen

@@sophiathefurbst defiantly!:)

I honestly think that it is more cultural than biological. Women are taught in a lot of cultures to be quiter than men, and when you're quieter, you observe a lot, you learn to analyse people without talking to them. It is what happens with a lot of introverts.

@@lilydrimm6626 This

Ikrrrrr

I saw the username and got excited 😂 I'm curious what she thinks of parasocial relationships

Well said

Then you just think of something different than most people

I agree ... my bestie is my soulmate but I don't have romantic feelings for her !!

True. My cat is my soulmate. He is with me all day and he knows what's up. So loyal ❤

well that's the difference, there are romantic soulmates (the ones she clearly describes in the video) and non-romantic soulmates. Expect more categories you can put the term "soulmate" into because it really depends on the way you generalize and describe the term.

Interesting. Do you have platonic relationships that are not "just" friendships? Ist that something you would even aspire to have? What about children? Have you ever wanted to get your own kids? Sorry for the inquisitive questions, but I've never encountered someone like you.

Even being acearo you can’t still experience other types of love (obv she was talking abt romantic attraction but the same applies to platonic, familial etc)

@@taiwo9612 you mean can?

@@MelodyGardenia yes 😭

@@taiwo9612 Well edit your comment lol

Yeah soulmates arent exclusive to romantic love. You can feel one, act same, have the same mindset like your friend. People tend to be friends with who are alike.

Yes, I feel like I have 2 soulmates right now, my best friend that I know since 5th grade, and the guy I am seeing since december, I would honestly die for them and I am not even kidding

Soulmates don't exist,2 ppl can have similar interests but every person has a different personality,interests have nothing to do with personality and we are all different nobody is the same.

@@user-vi2eq5zg7v I don't think anyone here is entailing that being a soulmate is being the same person. People here are saying that the ability to understand each-other's thought patterns and preferences with extremely high accuracy is what it means to be soulmates.

@@aarongintama No some do understand it as the same person (basically the same personality) let's be real now.

there will always be an abundance of stupid questions on Twitter

these questions aren’t stupid

YEAHH!!! I need a second part for this!

Totally agree!

If you're still highly curious about these topics, you could try reading one of her books. I haven't read them, but maybe they'll fulfill your curiosity ^^

up!

Thisssss

It's just you man. I don't watch cheap romance at all. Your brain is more primitive like a gorilla.

@@Artaxerxes. Are you male or female?

SAME!

Wow I'm the exact opposite. I may just be aromantic because I can't stand romance cliches in books and can't relate to it at all. Totally respect that you do like it tho. I still think the romance genre gets a lot of unwarranted hate

I find romantic movies cringy. There is nothing interesting

I came here to comment this! As an aroace, I’m interested in her explanation

lol yes please. as an aroace, it all sounds like mumbo-jumbo to me, albeit a scientific one 😆

definitely, this would be really interesting to see as an acespec person

That would be so interesting

Seconded. I wish there were more studies on non-monogamy!

Yep. It's so annoying when people say that people never change. I'm changing everyday, learning new things, updating my own perception...all the time.

So beautiful!!

Agreed. And she mentioned growing in love is a conscious decision. You choose who you want to stick with and grow attached to.

I like that

as someone who went to school for bio anth i was so happy to see the title!!

I actually don’t understand that distinction - anthropology is the study of people, and biology is the study of living things. So is biological anthropology the study of currently living people??

Actually, anthropology is the estudy of culture, not people. But culture is such a broad therm. So the branch called biological antropogy is where both, anthropology and biology, meet

@@kaytan8409 Anthropology is more of a cultural study, and is extremely broad. So biological anthropology I suppose is more of a study of people, per se rather than the cultures/ customs that groups of people form.

@@kaytan8409 anthropology is generally seperated into three different categories: biological anthropology, cultural anthropology (basically what you are thinking of), and archeology. so while they all fall under "anthropology" and sometimes intersect, they are pretty different fields of study. in uni i even had a professor who was a medical anthropologist, so it is a very diverse field!

That’s what I thought too! I’m also a stay

I really love that Stays really are... everywhere all around the world (and internet ofc) ❤ Hope you Stays are having a good day!

StrayKids is really everywhere all around the world !

Why? How is this important? Most of her conclusion are more pseudoscience than actual science. This idea of soulmates has no scientific data. Many things she affirmed in this video are based on the fact that she saw some brain regions getting activated which by itself proves nothing since they can be activated by any other factor than the ones she claims.

she has spoken about "romantic love" for ALL the video, and it is an humanistic concept that has nothing to do with biology. and also she make some errors when she spoke about hormonal systems. a melting pot of old fashioned traditionak and outdated concept of the mating system and New Age bs.

academias are filled by ideologies, like feminism with gender studies

@@ubermensch_dadaista1797 Shut up.

I hope she was worth trouble! And you're brave to have gone through that. There are a lot of cowards out there.

it sounds horrible

I'm 42 and have never experienced this despite having 20+ relationships. (Frankly, your description sounds horrible....not desirable at all.) I also do not understand what love feels or looks like.

@@AA-wc3tw I mean there must be something wrong if the other person makes you feel like crap LOL It's normal to feel a little anxious around your crush, but a real lover should make you feel happy, comfortable and safe.

@@JishinimaTidehoshi Yeah, that's obvious. I guess I'm still waiting to experience those positive things. But I also don't want to experience the high stress/anxiety that OP writes about. That is definitely not positive or desirable for me.

Same!

Yeahh I thought that too

Same

same

That's how I interpreted it as well...

Omggg I was so shocked to see a fellow stay😭💀

do u know how I can ask questions for the upcoming Wired videos? like is there any account

I agree! ❤

The soulmate answer appeals to my romantic self, but my analytical self wishes she had given some of her research as backing. Eg. "based on research, we've found that the human brain is incapable of holding more than one true love at a time"

exactly, this was epic

@@warkel Exactly. There are so many people in happy polyamorous relationships, and to just dismiss that without any scientific backing felt a bit harsh

@@warkel That's true, i absorbed it as something like you will always have that one love you will choose over all the rest

Yeah, I was looking to see if there was a comment about that! Here you are!

YESSSS

Honestly I’m a bit disappointed in this because she paints romantic attraction as being “primal” and “necessary” when some single aromantics feel fully satisfied without ever dating someone. A lot of people believe that aromantic people are broken or mentally ill or disabled because they don’t have the right “hormones”. This is a similar belief to polyamoroua relationships, which she also did not cover.

Yeah, as an aro/ace person I was really hoping she would touch on that.

@@stxrryd I noticed that too.

Yesss😭💀

YES, this would be so interesting

Yeah!! I wonder about that as well!

Nice pink diamond picture

And autism… I‘m autistic. But I also think you can have multiple soulmates since polyamorous people exist happily

@@luxbutler3194 "Soulmate" is more like a spiritual concept. Some people don't believe in them, and some do, and some people call every person they are even vaguely similar to: their "soulmate". The whole concept of a soul is debateable; let alone the concept that someone out there was built to be emotionally intimate with you or whatever. Humans are generally monogamous because it is a social construct (which works a bit like selective mating), and because a lot of people are emotionally comfortable with investing in one person only (sometimes because of social conscience and sometimes because of emotional reasons). Some societies have practiced polygamy all along, some have dropped polygamy, and some people are built in a way that they cannot feel settled without polyamory. Humans are way too numerous and way too complex to fit into one sentence or statement.

That's what I was thinking too, like adhd is literally based around dopamine so it has to be affected way differently in love right?!

Me too. I'm comfortable with being aroace but I'm genuinely curious about the scientific standing on this as I do have symptoms of anxiety and depression and I always wonder if the latter is affecting the former

Yeye I’m demiromantic asexual and have ADHD and a bunch of other stuff going on in my brain and I’m wondering whether me having a lack of dopamine correlates with (or causes) my demiromanticism and asexuality 🤔

@@SketchUT Same same, i'm demisexual and have been questioning whether or not i'm demiromantic as well but it's honestly hard to be sure for smth that's way less....physical. And maybe the adhd explains that OR what she said about "you're not ready to be in love" which kinda makes sense to me as well...

great now I'm having an existencial crisis (I'm aromantic ADHD)

I WAS JUST GONNA SAY THAT HAHAHAHA

@@emsie127 ayooo

they are our universe

🤗

YESSS I WAS SO SURPRISED

What is it like to be aromantic?

Right? It sounds like they've caught an illness, they way she described it!

@@aureusyarara the way she described romantic attraction definitely doesn't sound pleasant at all haha

It may not sound like it, but it can be pleasant, to the point where couples in long-term, steady, warm/secure/fluffy romantic relationships miss that initial obsession, "fireworks", excitement and euphoria

Yes! I can’t believe people actually feel obsessed with other people like this

Yes that's how I understood the question, like people who get jealous when their partner is more successful than them.

@@ojs5988 Well there's no stronger love than love for ourselves, right? In other words, we are very selfish creatures.

that's envy not jealousy

You are confusing envy with jealousy. She explained when the partner is getting jealous of the person they are interacting to. Jealousy becomes envy when the partner starts getting jealous of *you* being able to interact with others because of something you possess. At that point, it becomes a well established fact that your partner doesn't love *you*, but only what you possess.

@@seabreeze4559 i think some people use the term “jealous” synonymously with “envious”. in my vocabulary, jealousy can (in some situations) mean the same thing as envy. i think that the usage in the tweet was using the “envy” definition. idek

Agreed but I strongly disagree with her stances of romantic love. I know she’s a scientist but what she describes is the difference between platonic and romantic sounds like the difference between interest in an acquaintance and someone you consider family. Because otherwise, with her definition of love, romantic love I mean, guess my dog is romantically interested in me XD dogs automatically when they love their owner are just obsessed about every single thing about them and think everything they do is wonderful. Same thing with parents to children older siblings to younger siblings. Obviously there’s no incest going on there, which is why I think it’s absolutely ridiculous to be claiming these are romantic love experiences and not just within the familial bound which romantic is within the familial bound of types of relationships but it’s just one of many kinds along with others. Also I don’t like that she’s talking as if the only reason why were required for romance is for reproduction when as she said before it would be more biologically effective reproduction Wise if we were to not be faithful. I thought it was scientifically proven that humans and actually all beings need love to live? We are wired to have interpersonal relationships of all kinds.

@@undermeister7592 good point, but also, remember, no one asked for years either. Same time, technically speaking, this RU-vid channel ask for all of our opinions, I mean, it’s not the point of a comment section? If they didn’t want to hear our opinions regardless of what it is, it would have been turned off. If you’re offended by my opinion, no need to stop and read it. It’s fine if you want to properly discuss it but it simply seems pointless to waste your energy on something you don’t want to discuss yet strongly disagree with with “nobody asked your opinion “when that’s literally the point of a comment section

@@otakumangastudios3617 strong comeback :)

@@Dayhlen lol thank you 😅

Yeah me too !! She was very calming and nice.💜

*humanity of romantic affection :)

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