The science of love | Dr. Helen Fisher

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We all want to have a good, stable relationship with somebody, says Dr. Helen Fisher. So it's important to understand how intense romantic love affects our long-term goals.
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Intense feelings of love shut down the parts of our brain involved in decision-making. This is why, according to Dr. Helen Fisher, you should spend a lot of time with someone before marrying them.
Dr. Fisher believes that one-night stands, "friends with benefits," and long-term cohabitation before marriage are signs of a healthy change in attitude toward love. People are so afraid of divorce, that they want to experiment before settling down.
While marriage was once the start of a long-term relationship, today it is the finale.
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@The-Well Год назад

What do you think is a good way to have strong relationships?

@HarshSharma-uf8jc Год назад

Being honest to your partner, trusting your partner, and by not being selfish. This is what I think it is. This way is mutually beneficial.

@nataliablake6643 Год назад

Acceptance and compromise

@kathyalex778 Год назад

Forgiveness and self sacrifice for the good of the other (in a balanced way)

@after5.livemusic Год назад

Being trustworthy, respectful, vulnerable, empathetic, and reflective. If both people are willing to grow, there’s hope and health. 💕

@Invisibility397 Год назад

Maybe we are going to a population collapse and an genetic diversity extinction event. I don't have children nor will I. Good men are walking away from getting used, abused, & abandoned. Then Women are picking men who raised their anxiety and stress. Creating mental health issues and broken heart syndrome. Plus what are we at now used to be 40% of men reproduced. Top 10% or is it 1%. DNA adapted to their environmental issues. Autism in younger children on the rise? Ignorance is not an excuse. Brutal rejection from me is all Modern Women will receive. I survived slashed right jugular I was commanded that "This is not allowed" just before I face planted my tile floor. I lost 5 days before I woke up. There's no hope for a better tomorrow anymore. 5200+ hours of psychology including subliminal and hypnosis for this infj-t with severe BPD and 30/42 years living in isolated solitude and celibate. Society is shit and humanity is not much better off. Women are going to need a good job in the future cause 35+ nobody will want anything long term with them. Like financial resources they have destroyed all of their value in Character, Morals, Standards & Principals. There is nothing special about a woman who has been with everybody in the village plus 4 other towns as well. Oh and no Accountability, Emotional Ignorance, & lack of Feminine Traits is the main 3 I have dealt with in my short time in society. Good Luck I would rather maim a permanent side slut then spend more than a few minutes with her retardedness.

@selvamthiagarajan8152 11 месяцев назад

"Marriage used to be the beginning of a relationship, now it is the finale". Good point.

@althea1315 11 месяцев назад

Its almost like dating is not even an option 😂😂😂 I dont understand this doctor tbh

@selvamthiagarajan8152 11 месяцев назад

@@althea1315 She comes from a culture where too many marriages end in divorce, so she is right in suggesting that people live with each other for a good period to know each other well, before they commit to a marriage, so they will not have problems coming up later that could end in a divorce.

@anjaliawate1734 10 месяцев назад

There should timeline for everything

@anjaliawate1734 10 месяцев назад

Emotions/ love is not static n permemet

@anjaliawate1734 10 месяцев назад

😭

@nicky_bee Год назад

This is so much better and more optimistic than all those relationship advice gurus telling us to keep our cool, only give when they give, etc.

@yassersato4977 11 месяцев назад

This.

@koala2464 11 месяцев назад

Anyone listening to advice “give when they give”, shouldn’t be listened to. If you are kind, generous and empathetic you give. What they other person does is their issue. If it’s not reciprocated, it’s up to the individual to decide if that matters or not. Some people love being givers, with no expectation of returns.

@naimasophie 5 дней назад

@@koala2464that's actually rare. Reciprocity is respect. Giving to people while getting absolutely nothing , no gratitude, nothing in return is disrespectful and shouldn't be normalized

@Leo-mr1qz Год назад

"We're built to love." ❤️ That's a very nice sentiment. 💜

@Mrjudsonjames Год назад

And a fantastic fact! Gotta love something that’s doubly positive!

@Angelicaarchangelica Год назад

I think that we come into existence to be loved and to love in return. We just need to overcome the darkness in between.❄️

@TheOcean777 11 месяцев назад

I'm not in favor of hook up culture since it's more about lust than finding a partner, just my opinion. However. I'm def in favor of spending years together with a significant other before marriage. In that matter, what she says makes total sense. There's so many people that hide their emotional baggage and don't show it until they're married, and then it's too late, breaking all trust and the bond between partners, and ultimately leading to pain and divorce. People can only hide their true self for so long, so extended time spent together will show the true colors of your partner. Of course, if people like the hook up culture, that's up to them, not for me to judge.

@yousraab1568 11 месяцев назад

YEA not if you're schizoid

@Angelicaarchangelica 11 месяцев назад

@@yousraab1568 what is that?

@luzgallegos6779 Год назад

Trust, acceptance, respect, admiration, commitment, knowing how to forgive and ask for forgiveness, constantly working on personal development, growing together, doing things together, etc. In my particular case, my partner and I have to spend most of the year physically separated because he works in another country, we try very hard not to stop feeling close and something that has helped us in this is reading together the same books.

@Maroongov-hy5ne 9 месяцев назад

Wow 😳❤🥰🙏

@user-bn5pq7bh5g 8 месяцев назад

Wow. It sounds very wise

@FreedomUninterrupted Год назад

Sounds like empathy, grace, & accountability are what keeps a marriage going based off of their research.

@narcissism-masterclass Год назад

One of the best ways to get to know someone is take a road trip with them

@askew9976 3 месяца назад

Ha! That’s nothing. Watch them use dial up internet.

@cinnflowergirl 3 месяца назад

My boyfriend and I were together six weeks last summer, mostly on the road. We were both pleasantly surprised at how well we got along. Not one argument. But we are big on honesty and communication. We also have similar values and have fun easily. Now we are planning much more travel together. 😊

@chelsea7755 Год назад

My husband and I were highschool sweethearts and were together for 17 years before getting married 😅. Best. Decision. Ever. We grew a lot throughout those years and frankly, we know eachother very very well. Highly recommend you get to know who you and you're partner are before getting married.

@jameshall7048 Год назад

Agreed but don’t think majority of ppl need to wait 17 years. I think 3+ is enough depending on the maturity of those ppl.

@jameshall7048 Год назад

Wishing nothing but happiness for y’all tho

@Roni5 Год назад

@@jameshall7048 agreed

@comojuntardinheirofacil Год назад

Is an open relationship?

@Roni5 Год назад

@@comojuntardinheirofacil I'm not sure if it's impossible to be happy in an open relationship. All that I'm sure of is that it's very difficult to sustain one and come out of the other end better as partners. Lines should be made and never crossed for a chance of it being better, it's essentially a dance between comfort, desire and discovery

@carmenacevedo7573 10 месяцев назад

There's much more than this... Spiritual connection, beliefs, values, knowing when to negotiate as changes comes... One key...peace is there within storms

@rickholland6695 Год назад

This is very interesting information, and I agree with it. Relationships take a tremendous amount of work on both people's parts. It was 1977, I was 16 when I met Penny. She was 14 years older than me. We eventually became EMT/Paramedic partners working on the ambulance together for many years. In fact, we worked the vast majority of our EMS careers together (we considered it more of a calling than a job). We were a great team on and off duty. Suffering/sacrificing and building a successful life together. I knew Penny for 43 great years. We lived together for 30 years, married 15 of them (I was her second husband). Unfortunately, she passed away suddenly in May of 2020. I can tell you they don't women like Penny anymore. I love and miss you, my wonderful wife. But life goes on.

@sarahsouza5768 Год назад

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your history with her was beautiful

@cristinaevans139 Год назад

And they don’t make husbands like you.god bless you and yours❤from Australia

@AnaLu07 Год назад

That's a beautiful story. I hope i can live something like this one day

@petekdemircioglu Год назад

Hope every man finds a Penny and Every woman finds a you.

@fatimayahia3522 11 месяцев назад

She was lucky woman to have you as a husband

@LeeCarlson Год назад

Maybe people need to recognize that Love is a verb and that the only way to make it last is for both people to recognize that they have to put in the work.

@askew9976 3 месяца назад

Love is both a noun and a verb, but ok.

@shrihari4788 Год назад

So we just need to have our cognitions and emotions harmonized💕...and that takes time

@TheSkystrider Год назад

I think this is a very good video. Eloquent, practical and likely very good advice esp the last half talking about how to invest in each other. Of course I enjoy hearing how it ties into the science of how our brain chemistry works. It helps to understand and value how important it is. Can't just think "ya that would be nice" and then not do it, like I can think I could eat more broccoli and then not do it. It's more fundamental stuff than that, which we can get because it's supported by science.

@TheInfinite444 11 месяцев назад

Love is a universal connection between you and the light of the universe! We all share it and that's how relationships gets connected!

@bernstock Год назад

Profoundly correct as always. Thank you again, Helen 🙏🏼

@md.yasinkhan984 8 месяцев назад

I love how specific she is!

@positivevibesonly4426 Год назад

Very well said! I couldn’t agree more with everything you said !

@carriekaskiw4781 Год назад

Being together for years before marriage still isn’t a guarantee that your marriage will last. There are no guarantees. Both partners need to WANT it and WORK on it. Regular sex and romance are essential!

@phoebe_ouma Год назад

Exactly, otherwise Indians wouldn't have their marriages lasting much longer than most communities. Their courtships aren't that long but their marriages last longer.

@clearcoast4454 Год назад

@@phoebe_oumaIt doesn't mean that their marriages are always happy. Even today, Indian people stigmatize divorce, especially in the cases of women. Most of them continue their married lives even when it is toxic because they want to keep their reputations intact

@alleyneT 11 месяцев назад

Exactly right. A good marriage requires investment from both partners. Why do women initiate 65% of divorces? Because they’re tired of carrying the relationship and making most of the effort. Men need to step up and be good, committed partners, not just passengers going along for the ride. So many young women and mothers are frustrated, including my daughter. Her husband is addicted to gaming…so many women complain of this now.

@naimasophie 5 дней назад

@@phoebe_oumait's cause they can't divorce and they don't need romance. They literally have 40+ mariage with the woman cooking and the husband on the coach , no talking nothing.

@sohinisaha597 Год назад

Maturity comes with spirituality and that is the basis of a strong foundation in any relationship. You have more happiness with bliss.

@cleokarma7818 9 месяцев назад

This is amazing and much required information. Thank you Helen

@npsck1802 Год назад

This video is insanely informative. Well done!

@dorothykaffjamboe6808 10 месяцев назад

I’m in a of almost 13yrs now,living with him with 4 kids but not legally married. And anytime they whispered to let him marry me I tell them to hold on! Real relationships are not easy to maintain at all it takes hard work,discipline and persistence to keep it still standing, and I tell no matter the hurts,arguments and misunderstandings I will still stay with my partner or choose him over others because I have lived with him and I know him inside out then someone I have no idea of,so very soon I will being getting marry❤😊

@ASHLEYANNZYGAR Год назад

Great advice!! Totally agree 👏

@nosxing 11 месяцев назад

Love is not about finding the perfect person, love is simply loving. This video contradicts itself.

@TheLoveMiku 11 месяцев назад

why? When did she say that it should be the perfect person? She just said that you should know each other well before marying someone so you know how they are and behave.

@dennyvachhani5501 11 месяцев назад

Excellent level of analysis have done by you. Thank you very much for sharing deep knowledge of relationships. ❤😊

@lananhoan6616 11 месяцев назад

It's a very advantaged video. I wish all people in the world who are going to get married could watch this video to get any moral compass for their relationship. Thank you so much, Dr. Helen Fisher.

@genwill7677 11 месяцев назад

How to Help Your Brain Sustain a Happy Long-term Deep Attachment for Your Partner: •Overlook what you don’t like about your partner •Express empathy for your partner •Control your own emotions •Have sex (the more the better) •Do novel things together •Stay in touch (Kiss, hug, hold hands, play footsies) •Say several nice things each day to your partner

@jeimmybernal1119 10 месяцев назад

Amazing!!!! Thx a million Dr Helen!!!❤

@regina_filange2.0 4 месяца назад

This is all really good advice for couples that want to be together... I wish I had this wisdom with that one person I drifted from years ago❤

@rocren6246 9 месяцев назад

I wish I married someone as wise as this lady.

@libidese 9 месяцев назад

i wanted the like this video 10 thousand times! she’s so amazing!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤

@tomlong5561 11 месяцев назад

this was beautifully stated

@lrzleeromanovski8714 Год назад

Hooking up is exploring ? When half the single people are afraid of committing and hookup culture is ruining these peoples emotions… makes no sense

@YooBro219 Год назад

This 💯

@captainaryan26 Год назад

West has gone bonkers in social and political sphere.

@simie8412 Год назад

Very well thought

@karlijnhtc Год назад

Indeed... people have no self respect, morals, dignity anymore. Merely following their lust through ego and not letting their soul lead

@benzle93 Год назад

Yep...not good for the spirit

@yosoyroman875 11 месяцев назад

Good stuff to think on and implement in my relationship

@shrushti5830 6 месяцев назад

the only part of the video that made me smile was the thing about couples doing stuff together that just sounds so fascinating and nice :)

@e.z.t.1514 11 месяцев назад

very informative, great video!

@DanielVargasE84 11 месяцев назад

Thank you very much!

@btsmochimi7924 11 месяцев назад

Infatuation, Passionate, Commitment, and Consummate

@saraloughman7257 Год назад

It so true. Thank you so much.❤

@The-Well Год назад

Glad you liked it!

@LinhLolly Год назад

These can't be more true.

@amtrips 11 месяцев назад

Positive illusions part is so nicely explained. I always believed it and now someone so well-researched affirmed it for me. We are definitely built to love. This is an eye-opener. A must watch for everyone who are deep into practicing love daily and for those who think love is just a word. Even self-love needs a lot of work. Love is a verb and one of the most novel feelings associated with rewards at various levels and for overall well-being as eusocial animals, and it has its magic. Love is the only powerful medicine for anyone to heal perhaps. Two people need to practice and work on it daily, just like we get ready to go to workplace daily. Only if most humans understood the relationship dynamics (of any form) and put genuine efforts, it would have a better place to live in this world.

@yasssssss420 10 месяцев назад

She was a frequent visitor of Epstein's island, so much so he knew to keep avocado sushi rolls on hand for her. I would be weary taking Advice from someone like her

@Srilankan2024 13 дней назад

I like this slow love process

@tessarae9127 10 месяцев назад

LOVE her! So validating to hear someone from an older pick up on the fear of intimacy / wish to have stronger relationships as being a driving factor in hook up culture… Helps me make peace with it more (though it is sad how often it can have the opposite effect of finding a long term partner)…

@anilgujarati7991 Год назад

Woww this is so true 😊

@swapna4117 11 месяцев назад

This is a very logical explanation on relationships, positive ofcourse. I have had many breakups...may be it's destiny and it has been more than two years now that I am separated.I am 45 and as explained by Dr.I am still craving for the kind of love which I expected to have from my teens. I agree with the brain information and the three nodes about the intense feeling of love for your partner.I have gone in depression and was in rehabilitation for three times...the research is appropriate because when I analysed I got correct answers.

@LunawillWilliam 8 месяцев назад

I love this ❤

@carolina_di_biase 11 месяцев назад

Great Video!

@Sassy004 8 месяцев назад

Hooking up, FWB and casual sex are loveless stuffs so there's no question of exploring things in them. If you're in a romantic relationship with someone then you should explore everything but how can you explore one's personality in hookups? These stuffs are the part of lust so there's no feelings in that, it's a sort of deal of lust between two people and in the bedroom, they're partners and outside the bedroom, they're strangers. These stuffs not only develop trust issues but attachment and commitment issues too. So these things doesn't make any sense

@equipadont Год назад

I cant imagine finishing a video about Mrs Clause persuading me to get married ..or let alone have a relationship

@cowcs4131 Год назад

amazing!

@noazucar519 11 месяцев назад

I have friends who've been together for a whole decade, but are not married. It's like she says, we younger folks think of marriage as the finale because of all of those social and legal implications that it has. It's the combining of two families, children are expected to soon follow, and (usually) the couple has decided on where they'd like to settle down. It's actually kind of frustrating how serious everything is. Like, it's normal to date for 2-3 months before deciding to become an official couple, but that's honestly a long time to obsess about whether or not someone likes you. (And in the meantime, they could be getting to know their other options if they're using the apps??) It's maddening.

@sultanadacosta5 10 месяцев назад

What should one do for distance relationship. Please make a video on this topic 😊❤

@marykravchuk9985 11 месяцев назад

I agree with a slow and steady approach. Not rushing. However, casual sex and "friends with benefits" is not a "cautionary phase" in which a person obtains knowledge on how to treat their future partner with love, respect, kindness, understanding, etc. A person is not a car. They shouldn't be "tested" beforehand. Marriage has a purpose and a role. It is a binding contract in which each individual sees the other's flaws and they stay together.

@Love-np2rt 11 месяцев назад

I agree, she's wrong about this. In those situations and they're rampant and common now, the partners aren't dedicated to each other nor invested emotionally or the relationship/building the foundation for long lasting love. Men are getting their cake and eating it too/ if non monogamy is a preference for them. I don't know of any situations where casual sex/fwb turned into a loving, committed relationship. It may happen but it's rare, I'm pretty sure. I would love to see a study on this phenomenon....

@DroolingMukbang 11 месяцев назад

Totally agree

@theturnup9671 11 месяцев назад

Love this

@argoneonoble Год назад

I'm 47 and I can clearly say I am ready to get married.

@mjama1256 Год назад

Good lucky

@ashishgr8764 Год назад

Why are you getting late?

@nataliaheartcoaching 11 месяцев назад

Yes!

@EllePlowPlow 10 месяцев назад

@5:00 - how to sustain a long term partnership

@priamgupta7020 Год назад

Very well explained. But my question would be what happens in the case of arranged marriages? People don't get more than 6-7months before they are tie the knot.

@davidjohn9006 Год назад

"Sleeping around" or one-night "hook-ups" are not about "getting to know each other" as such … in most cases, it’s lust and hormones, combined with elements of "power" and control … lol … and take your time getting to know someone "digitally," via apps is not how one gets to know each other … lol

@amandabracaj2989 Год назад

Okay and when you get to know this person and they can’t satisfy you sexually, this imbalances a relationship. What are you gonna do? What are u gonna do? Masturbate more? Pleasure is stated as a necessity in all philosophy. It’s actually u that is soooo caught up in the elements of power and control! Stop projecting and live ur life dude

@reza2kn 9 месяцев назад

Ok! I don't know to feel consoled with this or continue with wallowing in my pit of loneliness and depression. EVERY.SINGLE.THING that she mentioned would be present in the perfect relationship for me. I would even love to be the person who gives all of these types of support, and caring about their SO's cholesterol levels, etc, let alone be on the receiving end of it! But, me wanting these things has been called "Having too high of an standard or expectations". And now, I don't know if I should be happy to know what I crave is not absurd, or to still feel shitty about not having it, or having had it.

@billpetersen298 11 месяцев назад

I love your advice. What does one do? When their partner has early trauma, that causes them to reject affection, and sex. And no, they don’t want to talk about it.

@laurawalker546 11 месяцев назад

I would ask them to go to counseling to get help changing. They need to see how it makes you suffer too. That monster is too big for them to fix on their own. Otherwise you'll have to live with how they are as it takes courage and work to overcome and understand and find peace to transform.

@Angelicaarchangelica 11 месяцев назад

Maybe they are just not attracted to you.

@billpetersen298 11 месяцев назад

@@laurawalker546 Hi Laura, we have gone to two therapists. Both times we went together on the first visit. So it wouldn’t look like a set up. She felt threatened, and only went once or twice. Recently, and previously, I’ve asked her to find anyone, of her choosing. Nothing happens. Our modern culture, has lost the wisdom, that having elders gives.

@laurawalker546 11 месяцев назад

@@billpetersen298 that is very sad. Both of you are in a tough place. She doesn't feel safe moving it, and you are living the lasting consequences of her trauma

@SDW3-6-9 10 месяцев назад

If there's a fundamental mismatch like this, the only way the relationship can survive, is if the couple get counseling, if that fails, then agree to Polyamoury. If the affection denier says no way...then the sooner you hit the highway the better, if you want love and kids?

@bharathsurya7327 11 месяцев назад

The video is very useful

@zhayengshiu2031 11 месяцев назад

Happy long-term is Gift

@BellaEstrella7 Год назад

We’re built to love, but WHERE HE AT? I need some serotonin compliments 😭 willing to give some back as well.

@katemunro2579 Год назад

Care and respect has to be reciprocal, otherwise get out, work on your childhood trauma(s) then you’ll sub-consciously attract a healthier partner !

@atuleazipira2089 11 месяцев назад

Appreciated

@bigafrogirl5509 6 месяцев назад

So true

@amitmamgain6357 11 месяцев назад

Quality of a person is important for a relationship. If both people are actual good persons, then they can keep on loving each other. If one or both are a**holes (which is a high percentage of our global society), then they can listen to your advice for 10 years, they will still be a**holes. 🙏

@amitmamgain6357 11 месяцев назад

also thats the reason i don't do online dating. And keep me safe from identity fraud, etc.

@laurafrancois4825 Год назад

Omg yess that is how I feel as a single woman

@saumyaraj3689 11 месяцев назад

Although, I and my partner are deeply in love and happy together. My partner is a very mischievous person, he always cracks these jokes and doesn't say anything to appreciate me. This is making me feel detached and unloved. I tried raising these issues, but he again skips them and jokes around.

@rajeshpersaud820 4 месяца назад

Make a lot of sense

@pinkrose2062 Год назад

Hmmm, everybody’s different, meet my husband from tinder in our late 20s Got married in a week , 1 week I said !! Lol Been married for almost 2 years now ,💕🥰

@jeanjasmine Год назад

Guess I need to learn how to love someone from scratch

@carmenacevedo7573 10 месяцев назад

This is it it is a healthy relationship... Nowadays relationship "seekers" seems to be afraid of commitment even to try a relationship and it's a lot of sex with often breakups... doesn't seem to connect/attached but to the sex part. Get attached, and if after two years is not the "right one"...how do you manage that?

@sahar1usa 11 месяцев назад

At last I heard it from the scientist I always though of LOVE as the most important foundation in human kind in any type of relationship but unfortunately today's society makes you believe that money is far more important than love and if you are a lover, you are a loser

@sharathramachandran4025 11 месяцев назад

How do you explain arranged marriages?

@xegabberihu5778 6 месяцев назад

she is so beautiful. i been looking her more than listening her.

@username_creates6991 11 месяцев назад

Its optimistic but I think what Im witnessing online is also just people who don't want to make much of an effort. Cus if someone isn't abusive, you can pretty work through anything with them. Yet people seem to be counting red flags that aren't even negative traits. The amount of times people on social media made me feel like I wasn't in a great relationship with all the genral opinions on relationships and what red flags are. I got off it and my problems I thought I had seemed to dispear with it too. Idk I think people are becoming to much of a perfectionst and aren't promoting communication enough and not giving up on someone just cus they can't read your mind. Also I think it has everything you mentioned and now that I got off of socials my stress and anxiousness has kind of steadied... making it easier to enjoy life and the relationship too

@naimasophie 5 дней назад

I agree but where is the line between true red flags and fake one ? Yes with love you can work things out but for how long ? My ex was impulsive and impatient , are those type of men the kind to actually be patient in the long run? What make a red flag a true red flag?!

@dorleecollins4971 10 месяцев назад

"Make. Marriage. Great. Again!"

@suesmith9665 Год назад

Love has no method

@cimimimi8529 10 месяцев назад

They love each other, they will make a relationship. When they dont match each other anymore, they will make a deal to walk away

@YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he 10 месяцев назад

Don't analyse just love❤❤❤❤

@coolaa7 9 месяцев назад

Connecting and then disconnecting, intimately, multiple times, is sure to lead to a dysfunction when actually trying to do a permanent connection for marriage.

@Naiaakash Год назад

Step 1: Get a Partner

@cinnamonrussell6153 Год назад

I truly believe this is great advice for married couples, for unmarried couples this can be dangerous especially for a women.

@elenasanz1985 Год назад

how can this be dangerous for a women?

@ratelhoneybadger 11 месяцев назад

Women generate far greater levels of oxytocin than men from a sexual encounter. It's from evolution because we are the ones who carry and raise babies whilst men just plant and go. So if we are constantly attaching and detaching, it damages our ability to form a solid bond... and it HURTS LIKE HELL!😂

@Love-np2rt 11 месяцев назад

Because we're in the Tinder generation/ hook up culture/ ..... I know so many men who have a rotation of sex partners... women are guilty of this as well (no one cares about STDS... and these are peoplein their 30s and 40s). Make sure you're giving a ton of sex to someone you're in a monogamous elationship with first!

@ladolcevita5582 2 месяца назад

5:15 🎁 thank you

@Xudoyberdi_Ismoilov_777 8 месяцев назад

🔥🔥🔥🔥

@IvanHadlich 11 месяцев назад

Cool one, made me think lol

@charlita25 10 месяцев назад

I only needed 2 months to see that my first love ❤️ wasn’t worth marrying. If he was more respectful and not a cheater he would have been a perfect mate.

@askew9976 3 месяца назад

No stability since I was 19. 47 and done.

@dranjali1 Год назад

where are the books i see no special books in so many places i have been

@thomassonefors9281 Год назад

2 years are a control freaks dream and why not 5 years... you also need work on the trust in each other and that life always will change. What you have not learned in 1 year, you will not learn in another year... or 8 years. Learn trusting each others, communicate, really listen to one another and explore yourself in from of the other, attend courses in meditation, problem solving, handling emotions and communicate what you experience, be active and get together.

@fatimayahia3522 11 месяцев назад

And what about those who don't love each other from the beginning??

@fleshanthos 7 месяцев назад

Married 20 years. Needn't have bothered with the scrub broads before. Wife is great. Don't want anyone else. Too true: ignore the flaws. Focus on the positive. Be kind to them. They are the FIRST person to show patience to; NOT strangers. They are the LAST person to take out your negative emotions on.

@nyssatang1173 11 месяцев назад

things faded away within a year or two top, no matter whoever im with.

@heleneelf7454 11 месяцев назад

What do you think about dejtingsites... start something backwards?....

@AnaLu07 Год назад

Last time i feel in love was with Jungkook of BTS😂 it was half an year ago, i did my best do "defall in love" with him because it hurt like hell and it worked. You can really fall in love with anyone😂 I'm quite a lonely person so i get why this happened. I just wanna fall in love with someone real the next time😢

@icysnow57cold64 Год назад

I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.

@user-cx5wn9nj9j 6 месяцев назад

I understand everything you're saying. I just need a partner. Some people will ask: Why don't you look for it. Couldn't find it. And then nothing and then nothing. You'll find that the greatest doctors in the world can't do anything about it. That's why the world can be so boring