Black Love Live | How To Tell You Are Marriage Ready 

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Man, I love to see my people doing good...real black love man!!!!

Amen love your comment

Omg I feel just like you! I am 31 and just feeling ready too lol!

Same here

There is a reward in the wait. Believe it and you will receive.

Beautifully said!

There is a promotion of singularity and married is frowned upon. Men who are not raised to promote family will not encourage marriage. Men are the first to frown upon a woman's single friends, but they omit the men in their circle as the biggest haters, disguised.

Depends on the circle. Real friends become family and want you to do well. Ego and jealousy to the side.

Thankfully Grant had family values he treasured. As he said, his Grandma said MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING YOU ONLY DO ONCE. So he had a VISION of commitment being a GOOD thing! INTERESTINGLY: 1. Grant was RAISED in a stable, TWO PARENT MARRIED COUPLE household. That makes a difference. 2. It's important for us to surround ourselves with friends with THE SIMILAR VALUES as well as MENTORS who've accomplished what we're hoping to do. Those friends [notice Grant says they're no longer friends...] didn't even say get engaged but marry a little LATER.... They said WHY are you going to get married. Smh.

Preach and back then Men were promoting hoe-ing like water

Me too this is inspiration for me to have get married and have a child in a structured two parent home

That's what I'm trying to find out. Point us to the fountain ⛲ of youth.

True. With innate personality traits like ego n pride will make your last statement a thin line to impossible . I respect your intelligence.

I was thinking the same thing when it comes to being right or happy. Is my (or any person’s) ego that fragile to where I can’t be proven wrong by my/your spouse? If they genuinely are correct and share their thoughts in a respective manner, your collective happiness should not be at a detriment because “you’re wrong”

@Henry Brown Re @6:16 onwards, I agree with your comment except for the words "right all the time."😂 NO-ONE is RIGHT ALL the time.😁 My take on this is: I think that when MEN PASSIVELY YIELD to a woman with "Yes Dear" or " You're RIGHT Dear" just to be happy, that leads to RESENTMENT.... Couples HAVE to learn HOW to communicate effectively & resolve issues. 🔹There's a NUANCE to this. A GOOD way to do this is being CONFIDENT in being RIGHT, to the point where you LET GO of asserting it over your spouse. 🔹You can HUMBLY GIVE UP THE RIGHT TO BE RIGHT and let the other person find out the truth in their own time. Then when they do, you still HUMBLY REFRAIN from saying "I TOLD YOU SO." 🔹This requires PRAYER though. Prayer to have the RIGHT HEART & FOCUS on YOUR OWN GROWTH, while not being fearful that your spouse is not doing THEIR part. That takes TRUST IN GOD'S TRANSFORMING POWER BEING RELEASED into your spouse's HEART. 🔹 *Usually someone who has to LORD it over someone when they're right OR someone who's AFRAID to ADMIT THEY'RE WRONG have TRUST & CONTROL ISSUES.* Love means you just want what's BEST for the *TEAM.* 🔹If every married couple chose to *MEMORIZE 1Corinthians13 & used it as a REFERENCE GUIDE, [both PRE & DURING MARRIAGE,] there would be far less divorce because INDIVIDUAL CHARACTER CHANGE would eliminate many marital issues.* God Bless!💙

@@estherstrategicadvisor749 well said

Yes i honestly stay away of this behaviour as much as possible

They definitely do come along then. Couple of inconvenient, but SUUUCH helpful tips- Be open to meeting someone online, or via Meetup, social club etc Be open to a different race or culture Be open to going to different neighborhoods for your daily duties. Grocery store, coffee shop, etc. Especially in the nicer neighborhoods. Go during the day when other single, yet responsible people shop! 😘😘

@@VivianWynter thank you so much for this. I really appreciate it

I commend you for being young but knowing both what you want and don't want. I also commend you for not allowing the craziness of today's distorted reality interfere with what you want!

Thanks for your thought provoking response.

Thank you 💙

Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Successful people actually do typically postpone marriage for their career, particularly across racial groups. That's what they're alluding to.

Exactly...and I bet the guys who tried to talk him out of it were all Black men and all players...They probably now have children by multiple women and are nearly broke paying child support

@Sharene D Those same "fears" don't apply when they're dating non-black women...They want to "snatch them up before another ngga can"...They place higher value on them and don't typically postpone marriage with them

You are absolutely right and I always wondered about this. I honestly think it's cultural. I feel like in the black community we put so much focus on allowing a man to "sow his oats" before marriage. I don't think marriage is viewed as a "goal"..."something to be proud of" as much in the black community compared to other cultures. We don't take as much pride in building legacies and creating foundations like other cultures. Even in many African countries they still take pride in legacies and building foundations for their families...so I don't know. I don't know if the breakdown started because of US slavery or not.

most black men cant provide for women when they are in their early 20s.........

Yes😊

@@jenniferharden2258 ☺☺

I definitely feel that too. Having those strong communication skills are important in any relationship but especially marriage.

Right?! Me too.

Hmmmm

Yes... that made me cringe as well. And everyone seemed to agree with it.

Being right vs happy is actually a huge lesson to learn in life. We make those decisions constantly, married or not.

That wasn't Grant Hill!!

Nakia Jones 😭😭😭 I was like huh

@@nakiajones5385 he was a guest star on living single

@@jadataylor5880 truth!! I just googled it and he actually does look the same!!!😁😁😁

Thank you for noticing this.

Yeah......

this is foriegn shit...we cant relate..lolo..its a learning moment...lots of us dont have those kinds of conversations and examples

@Emcstea 😂😂😂

It's actually kind of sad that we as black people are so desensitized from loving caring relationships between black men and women.

Emcstea Yep!

Because the RU-vid algorithm is finally showing us these videos. I don't understand what everyone else is talking about...