That’s my favorite thing about him, he could be on the verge of being super emotional with a traumatic experience and someone makes a dick joke or something and he’s laughing his ass off
She heard you. She just wanted to change the subject. My grandma is the same way, you’ll be talking to her about something serious and she’ll drift off to some other thought . I think they appreciate it though .
that's a real good way to bring up emotionally stunted children who don't know how to have healthy emotional attachments. You can at LEAST acknowledge what he's saying and feeling, even if you just tell him you don't want to talk about it
@@GlorifiedGremlin no shit lmao she let bobbys dad beat her and her kids and family his entire family is fucked up including him his siblings and parenrs lol
No I change the conversation bc I'm not interested in being reminded about some horrible shit that happened to me. Not everyone needs to be crying and emotional AND thinking they're entitled to you giving an emotional reaction too.
@Heartless I did not say that people who change the conversation don't know how to express themselves. I said people who don't know how to express themselves might change the conversation an there is a big difference.
My parents are the same way and tbh, I don't give a damn. If you choose to have kids, it is your responsibility to change for the better, not to repeat what your parents did to you. To me any parents repeating the same bs their parents did to them should be labeled as failures and shamed.
@The Wandsmen Agreed. You reach a point where you're fully aware of what was done to you, and it simply becomes a choice if you decide to break the cycle or continue it.
@@Dave_of_Mordor i was agreeing with you until you said parents who do this should be labeled as failures. trauma is a strong thing for a lot of people and a lot of the time can’t be overcome.
My mother is the same way. She grew up in an abusive environment with an alcoholic father beating my grandma constantly. Some people prefer to bury their trauma deep inside their psyche And i understand, the downside is they never learn to deal properly with emotional problems
Isnt that a thing? I think its called dissacosiation. They cant cope with the trauma so they change the subject. They blocked it out to survive. So sad.
That is absolutely what it is, it's what happens everytime i talk to my mother. I can see it in her eyes she remembers but immediately tries to change the subject😢
Bullshit, ever heard of basic communication skills? if she really cared, she would talk and explain what happened, not just change subject midway through conversation, thats rude
The problem is Asian people especially the older ones were taught and raised to suppress their feelings. No it’s not healthy but these takes time to unlearn. My mom got hit anytime she expressed herself, so just imagine that. Plus he did this in public 😂 I think it would’ve been different it was expressed it in the privacy of their home. My mom will change the topic any time we are in public and it’s inappropriate time to have the conversation because she’s uncomfortable.
My mom lives through the Korean War, her 4 month old little brother died in her mother's arms. They were starving, there was no doctors & no medicine. She had 10 brothers & sisters. She had it hard. She changes the subject too. She says it's in the past, they were really sad times & she doesn't want to relive it. 😔
I've seen old people either categorically refuse to talk about trauma or laugh it off. The way old people are comfortable talking 1bout death is impressive too
Yeah that shit can be difficult. Couple years ago I had a talk with my dad about how his abusive and violent behavior messed me up as a kid. He's not a good dude. But I kinda wanted to move on from it. He tried to kill himself after that. Haven't heard from him since.
All jokes aside that’s a very real thing people for that generation. They literally cannot comprehend thr trauma of their home and personal life because that’s just what life was like back then.
She heard you but much like you Bobby she wanted to change the subject she wants to to push those memories in the back of her mind. Live in the present. 🍝🇮🇹
Food is a flex. It sounds hilarious but many people use food as a form of control. Even with the best intentions, someone is go has any kind of control issues at all with always start with food. Being able to go eat where you want to eat is always a big flex. The biggest flex. Being able to eat safely and freely is a flex. Your mom was totally changing the subject but food is still a flex. #FoodisFlex
The chaos is over now…. Why focus on it? Find peace instead :) she realizes you saying sorry is a nice gesture, but it really does nothing, let’s move on son❤️
Honestly doing that to your parents is that last thing they want. They put aside all their trauma to raise you, now getting old the last thing they want to focus on is the bad things that happened in the past. They just wanna eat and chill 🤣🤣 not go to a therapist they might fuck someone up😭
Our parents are built different. My African parents are the same way. Dealt with extreme poverty. Ak47s pointed at their heads when they were kids. Therapy is a joke they are survivors. Nothing can break them
@@dying_allthetime Its interesting to observe the difference between someone who lived a very hard life and someone who did not. How the person who has never dealt with dier situations has more mental health problems than the one who has. I honestly don't believe therapy is necessary coming from where I come from.
@@johnQrl I totally get what your saying , parents are the same way been threw hell and just act normal I’ll be asking them how is it seeing death so much ? They answer “bad now come eat” lol
If you cant talk about it openly without changing subjects, youre trying to cope through other means its basic psychology how do ppl not know tis in the comments 😂
@@p0lish Bobby admitted to sleeping with a little girl. He bragged about how she was crying and it was getting him off more and he tried to hurt her even more then the assault he was doing.
