Just to clarify, Reece was sober when we met. He talks about being in active addiction while he was with his x ..who had a son. Not me. Also Riley is his biological daughter, Micah is his "step" daughter. We will tell her when she is ready. We are not hiding anything from her and if she asked me today, I'd tell her. When the time is right we will all sit down and tell her everything we can (age appropriate) Also.. You guys can ask me ANYTHING. However, if its hateful, mean or nasty .. I will block you. Thank you all for understanding 💗 Xo
Sister Christina (I can't call you grandma because we are the exact same age, LOL!), don't act like your hubby is not the exact same way! You two are just as sweet as Jessica and Reese!!!
I have no “reason” to watch your videos- none of it “relates” to me or my life- and yet here I am in tears EVERY time you speak. You and Reece are so inspiring and I am so proud of y’all!
I have never seen a Mother so determined to have and love her child! Your daughter is so lucky and will be so proud of you some day. So many children do not have this love and commitment. Your partner is such a wonderful, kind and honest man. No wonder you two are together! Beautiful couple.
None of it is Reeves fault. He's missing the part that social support organizations does not want a Dad to be close to any daughter. Props to him for trying his best and pretending he needs to try harder. He seems to accept being told what to do and sitting quietly.
as a fatherless child, this video made my heart ache. I can only wish to find someone as willing, persistent and loving as reece seems, for my future children to have.
My mom started dating my stepdad when I was 21, but I call him dad. He's the best. He tries to make up for what I didn't have, which is impossible, but I have a dad now. I wish my mom met him when I was younger though...
I LOVE how much respect y'all have for her foster parents! So many bad stories are heard about foster care but those people sound like what foster parents should be like in the perfect world. You & your daughter were obviously so incredibly lucky!!!
i LOVE how Reece says in the beginning, “when WE got mika back”. sorry if i didn’t spell her name right. that made my heart smile just hearing that because my brother-in-law took in my nephew & adopted my nephew when he isn’t my nephew’s biological father. kudos to you Reece!! i love you guys so much & your channel
Having a photo album of a time line for Micah is a good idea and a way to open up and talk about all this. You could have one photo of her bio dad in their and photos of her when she was with her foster family and then photos of you and Reece dating and then all of you together. Thats what I had when I was adopted. It help me put it into a time line and ask questions at my own pace. Just a thought.
this is actually called mapping & can be used to teach kids a lot of things!! its a lot easier for them to grasp than simply telling them. 100% reccomend this ❤
Wow...it’s so amazing to see TWO recovering addicts change their lives and do so good. Recovering addict here. Struggling on and off for 10 years and proud to say I have a year sober and this time is it. I made it. Love you Jess!
when you asked him if Micah was his daughter and he said yes you smiled and I could feel the happiness and love radiating off of you and awww I'm so happy for you
Reece is such an amazing guy. I wish I had a dad like Reece. Thank you guys for being open and honest with us, because this video is going to help SO many. Love you guys.
Reece is as much Micah’s (I’m sorry if I spelled that wrong) daddy as Jessica is her mom. He loves her, he’s a constant in her life, and he will protect her in any situation. There are plenty of biological dads who don’t offer as much to their children as Reece does for his girls. His love for his family is so obvious. ❤️
Lish Anthony way are you saying no one, he is talking about how he felt when they first met. I never understand these comments . No hate, just don't get them.
I was put in foster care when I was little because my mother's boyfriend abused me. I wish my mother tried as hard as you did to get me back but she did not so I stayed in foster care for a few more years and then I was put back with my mother. Your daughter will grow up one day and truly realize the gift you gave her in fighting for her and you will never know how much that will mean to her! You say you did not know how to be a mother at first but you obviously were more of a mother in the first two years than some others are in their whole lifetime of being moms!!!
I have PTSD (not from war) so I know what you mean by it's hard to get close to people. Y'all are amazing! I'm so happy to see how far y'all have come together. 💗💕💗💕💗
Ptsd isnt just from war.I have ptsd from being in jail and being homeless. I have nightmares where I wake up with my heart racing or sweating or I can't breathe
I can see how much he loves your daughter, and I can see he fell for her right away- the way he remembered buying her birthday cake and corrected you on how old she was at the time. That girl had his heart from the start ♥️
the way she gently jumped in with the timeout and "he's a veteran". What a good moment. The empathy and understanding and kindness is just so nice to see you have.
You should do a video talking about Riley. I would love to hear more on her and what it was like to become a mother again and the difference it was between having Micah to having Riley Also I love your videos so much !!!
Y’all take a good look, that’s a real man!! All you single mothers out there, learn from Jess. You don’t have to introduce your child to every boyfriend you have, take your time!! I’m so proud of y’all!! I’ve been through a very similar journey and I know how hard it is but y’all did it right and still are!! 💕
I am truly so encouraged by this channel. I know people love it for all different reasons, and mine is seeing what kind of life can emerge when we're purely, painfully honest--with both others AND ourselves. Thank you for sharing the struggles you've faced and continue to face. It helps more than I can express.
Jessica shows you that you can change your life around, you don't need to stay in the same place, people love and care about you. I don't know you, but I know that if you take everything day by day, you can get through everything, just remember to have HOPE! People do care!
Congratulations to you both on your sobriety! I also commend Reece for taking on the daddy role to Micah...my dad is technically my step dad, but he’s raised me since I was 3. I remember the day I started calling him dad ❤️ anyone can be a father, it takes a special man to be a daddy! I’ve been in the same situation as Micah, and in my honest opinion...give her the choice and don’t force it. For as far as she is concerned, she has a dad! I don’t have a relationship with my sperm donor...I have the dad I need even if he isn’t biological ❤️
So kinda like Micah, my mom started dating a guy when I was 2. He was in my life for 11 years as a parental figure, it went from Ricky, to Daddy-Ricky to just Dad. My mom and him divorced, and he’s the biological dad to my siblings, but he and I still talk 12 years later.
And i cried on the calling Reese “Dad” thing. Good tears. My ex and I were never in jail or prison. You don’t automatically know how to be a parent. You learn on the job.
You guys are badass!! You have a beautiful family!! Micah is a very smart lil girl blood or not, Reece is her daddy. And Reece feels the same so that's all that truly matters is the love they have for each other. Keep up the a amazing work.... (P.s. no shade to bio dad but it is Micah's decision imo. You are 100% and the age appropriate convos matter imo.) Much love!!!! ❤🖤❤🖤❤ oh and Reece you did great man.
This was so good!! I loved seeing Reece's point of view on bonding with Micha and his reservations towards knowing if it was a situation he'd be able to withstand. Very insightful for me! He's done amazing and is such a great man. Thank you so much for sharing; your family is beautiful ♥️♥️♥️
Watching this makes me sad that you both are struggling in different ways. Depression/breakups/splitting things can not only be brutal, but they can kick your mentality. Just know you got one more on your team both for you and the girls and for reece. Coming from a family where my mom ran a detox, I have seen both ends. Then experienced it through others. Day by day, this too shall pass my mom would say. I say keep your head above water, eat yummy food and sometimes just dance it out! Love you :)
STANDING APPLAUSE 👏 FOR BOTH OF YOU‼️.....I totally respect the amount of honesty coming through here from both of you. As a guy, I really appreciate Reece being EXTREMELY honest about things....for example, when he said about smashing it! As always, thanks for being so brave to put this online. You two inspire many!
It take a good man to be a daddy . You don't have to be blood to be a daddy. We all have past you grew from you past you learned lessons along the way Bless your family.💝💝💝💝
Finding something to listen to on my drive lol just in time! Just warning you, if you have a child in your videos.. RU-vid will disable your comments. It sucks, but that's what they do.
I belive u guys r both great role model for both ur girls n you tubs fans like u guys did everything right as far as making sure ur girls hve a voice n OPTION n it's heard n taking into consideration n as parents u doing amazing n lot shld look up to u 👨👩👧👧
What a beautiful & inspiring story. I love you two together..Thank You for sharing your story. You are definitely blessed together. Those kiddos are incredibly fortunate. 💜🙏🏻
How much better would it be for children if all single mum's moved in their partner like this! They would be soo much more secure and would feel validated. And that really matters. Kudos to you both for putting the children first. You did what you needed to do, to get your child back. You jumped when they said jump. And you jumped high enough to get their trust, and you got her back. Congratulations .👏👏 I know it's a long hard road, but what you got at the end was well worth it. Although DHS can play shitty games. I bet that was one of the best moments in your life..🙂💜
Jessica you really let your parter speak and be heard and he does the same for you, I don't see that very often when RU-vidrs feature their significant other. Love that !
I would love to see you and Jessica get together and have a happy life together. With the little ones and just take it one day at a time and have the life you always wanted.
"I love you" "thank you" 😭😭 why are yall so cute 💕💕 also theres a quote I like that I think you would too and it says, "I still remember when I prayed for the things I have now" :)))
Awww Jess U have a really great guy! I love how honest he is an as he says transparent!! But in HIM being so transparent he is SOO in love with U an y'alls family! Keep up the great line up girl!! I have a question on an idea for a video?? Do U think it wld be a good video to give ur views on the way someone detox's? The whole controversy over the cold turkey VS going the suboxon/methadone route? It jus seems to me to be a huge deal to ppl an I was wondering what Ur views may be on this issue?? Thanks girl friend! Hope ur day is going GREAT! Happy day to U an Reese an the babies!! 💖💖🌴🌴💖💖 much love frm FL!! 💖💖🌴🌴💖💖
Reece: She understands that when she asks Dad for something, he gets it for her - Jessica: Every time. You can say no, by the way That made me laugh! Love y'all!
Hi Jessica! Love your channel! You work ethic inspires me (even as a non-addict). I have a tough question though. Are you worried about your children having a predisposition to addiction? How do you plan to be honest about your former addiction with your children (when they are of age) and not make it sound enticing? I appreciate if you'd prefer not to answer.
Jessica I am a 24 year old mother of a 3 almost 4 year old little boy (he will be 4 in September) I am a recovering heroin addict. This winter January 4th I was shooting subtext and I started having a problem with xanax I was asleep one morning and my son got out in the freezing cold I had just moved into our new apartment about a week prior to this happening so we didn't have any furniture I hadn't gotten paid yet and we had no food cps was called when my neighbor found my son and obviously they came to see the house. They found needles (my son couldn't reach them but they were still around regardless) and they saw no food and no furniture so they had no other choice but to take custody of him and put him in foster care. My whole world changed that day it felt like he died that's how horrible I felt and my heart was just broken I felt like the worst mother in the world I failed my baby boy who only had me with his dad being in jail. There's nothing worse I could have done. I now have furniture my whole house is furnished there's always food in the fridge I am now in drug court I've been in drug court since January 14th a week after my son was taken I've been moved up to phase 2 I finished all my parenting classes I have not touched a xanax or any kind of Benzo since. I am still on subtext my Dr is weening me down correctly but there's not a single needle in my possession I've been granted more visitation so instead of 1 hour once a week at the agency I get 2 visits a week for 2 hours one visit for 2 hours at the agency and then the other 2 hour visit where ever me and his foster mom decide to go. His foster mom supervises it I go back to court September and my case worker says after this next court date there will be another review and then I should get my baby back she says I'm doing everything I'm supposed I started everything so quickly and have passed every drug screen I haven't missed any visit. She said to keep it up and wishes everyone was as easy and focused as me especially since its just hard work and I just want to say youre story about addiction and going through foster care with Myka and getting her back and fighting your cps case is beyond inspiring and encouraging and hopeful I can't even put into words and also Reece's story of getting through addiction and drug court is even more inspiring encouraging and hopeful I just can't thank you both enough. Thank you just thank you
Is it possible that maybe bio dad will sign over rights so that Reece can adopt Micah? You guys an amazing couple!! Reece DOES truly seem a great guy/dad/husband......human, LOL. But Seriously though, I mean it.💝💝 And Jess, we all love you a much. You are so awesome.... Sky's the limi.?
I obviously disagree because I am living proof that two addicts can make it. This is not the case for some though. Everyones path to sobriety is different. What has worked for us might not work for others.
I was able to get clean but my husband has been struggling. He can be clean for 5 years and then Bam its back. Our children are getting older and they see it, if you walk away are you goving up on him, and of you stay are you choosing him over your children
@@ksslhall No it's not giving up on him its saving your and your kids lives. If he chooses drugs or drink over you sometimes you have to make a choice its us or the drugs. Yes it hurts but by staying in that type of toxic relationship can take you back down the path and maybe even loose your kids again. The choice is his to make you and the kids or the drugs. Sorry if this sounds harsh but your sobriety and your kids are more important than him alone. He is the one who has to make the choice.
It's rare, but possible. I met my husband when we were both addicted and we quit together. It wasn't easy, but we both have over 10 years clean now. We never went to treatment or took classes. We just both knew it was time and did it. We didn't have anything! No phone, no car, no job, no nothin'. Now we have 3 cars and a nice house and he has a good job. I stay home with our kids
It’s soooo amazing to hear how desperately a mommy tried to never let go of her baby, against all odds. Alone, the two of you were broken. Together, with two (or 3) little pieces in the middle, you create a family unit. I truly pray you guys NEVER forget to celebrate each day together like it’s a new beginning.🦋 👣 👣 👣 👣 👣
I LOVE you and Reece story-times! ❤️ They are my favorite!!! I only saw my “Bio dad” a few times in my young years, he died in prison just a few short years ago. (Had a life sentence, died about 25 yrs into it) I had a step dad starting at 5years old who provided and took care of me and my brothers. Trust me, Micah knows even at her young age who she can trust and who her “Dad” is. Tell Reece to think about it this way Micah PICKED him to be her Dad, she didn’t have to call him Dad, she wanted to because he earned that and he will ALWAYS be her DADDY❤️. I know y’all aren’t perfect, but your amazing and what a success story! 👏👏. I hope you SMASH and get another addition to your family! 😜LoL
