Borderline Personality Disorder 

I was diagnosed with BPD since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting BPD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

How to prevent it being widespread I'd say that we need to break the cycle of child abuse. Also, give parents free therapy and continuous info on raising a child.

How to help someone with BPD as a friend. Be patient with them and try not to take outbursts personally. Know that they legitimately struggle to contain them but sometimes fail, and they feel terrible about it. Realize that what you might see as them pushing you away, might actually be them feeling you don't want them around and they are giving you space so they don't seem so needy. Reach out to them, let them know you want to be around them. Even if they don't take you up on the offer immediately, it will mean the world to them. Please, if you have any empathy for peoples pain, never, ever, ghost or ignore a friend with BPD. That hurts more than you know. It is simply the worst.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

Since people in the comments are spreading hate, just wanted to point out a study found that "Eighty-eight percent of the patients with borderline personality disorder studied achieved remission.", Meaning that while it DID take a decade, 9/10 people with borderline today who have support and therapy will achieve remission within a decade, and most of the people within the study did so in under the 10 year span of the study.

My husband has BPD. He is the sweetest, kindest guy I have ever met. He is in therapy for it and I’m so proud of how he is doing ❤ It’s not easy but he is worth it.

I know one thing… having a family full of bullies is hell for a person with BPD. I refuse to be around them. My mental health improved at such a fast , steady pace that i had to ask my fiancé if i was being delusional. Her telling me she’s been silently cheering for me made my heart smile. I encourage everyone to do what’s best for you if possible.

Its really hard to live with bpd, i always feel like i have improved until my anger bursts out again and again.

I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

My ex-wife had BPD. Her outbursts and depressive episodes were manageable until she started chasing me with steak knives over minor things like comments and opinions which became too much to manage. It really is a terrible disorder and I'm sorry for anyone who has to experience it.

My therapist recomendable journaling and meditation it works for me , it creates a safe space where I could freely express myself and later on once I’m calm go back to read my state of mind and break down what actually was going on vs my outburst in paper. Safe and i don’t hurt others or myself

I have bpd and I was always ashamed of it because it sounds like about the worst diagnosis there could be. My therapist has helped a lot but as far as seeing public information I think that you did a wonderful job. It didn't make me feel ashamed or like I was a freak. I think that this video could be such a good tool for people who wasn't to learn about bpd and understand their loved ones better. Thank you!

My wife has bpd. It's absolutely horrible, our entire life is just a gigantic insane depressing mess. She's left me at least twice and always comes back because she can't do it alone. She stopped loving me in 2007 but refuses to leave or get a divorce and I am just being drug along for the ride. It's a pretty horrible ride to be honest and it's driven me suicidal because she has to do everything but wants to do nothing and must have control over everything but doesn't want to have to control anything. To make matters worse shes perfect, does nothing wrong and it's everyone elses fault. If course, she is also totally fine and has no problems whatsoever. 😔 Thank you for attending my vent session.

I was in a BPD residential as a kid (age 14) I would like to note that this disorder CAN be diagnosed in kids HOWEVER it usually isn’t till 18. This is important to not because of the rapid increase of self diagnosing. Self dx can be harmful to both the person and the person who actually has BPD. Personality disorders are dangerous to self treat and diagnose because of how deeply rooted they are to the personality.

I think that BPD comes from abusive childhood. Children have no ability to avoid constant abuse and or harm. I think we need to be aware of people with this condition and show them extra grace and patience. Helping others with these kinds of problems can be hugely rewarding. It's more rewarding to give than it is to receive

I have BPD. Things you can do to help me: Be consistent and not hot/cold. Be a good and emotional communicator. Don't gaslight. Things someone with BPD can do: Learn as much as you can about your disorder. I managed to weaken all symptoms within three years since getting the diagnosis. I did this with therapy and countless hours of reading about BPD. You can do it! It doesn't have to be lifetime. :)

I grew up with a parent with BPD. The black and white thinking is hard to deal with, and as a kid you take it on board, especially the negative. You're viewed as either the best kid in the world (when you do something good) or the worst, with every family problem being your fault and your responsibility. It can really mess you up. You end up believing you are the sole reason your family is falling apart and it is your job to fix it. I ended up working in mental health as an adult and gaining an understanding of BPD. The moods, manipulation, the idealisation and devaluation... You were either a very good person or a very bad person, there was no in-between. I learned, in order to have a relationship as an adult that I couldn't be the therapist for my family member any more. I needed to place boundaries. I'd reward 'good' behaviour with engagement. I'd ignore manipulative behaviour and outbursts by physically removing myself. It took quite a long time, but now we can actually have a functional relationship. They know I won't tolerate certain behaviours. BPD not only effects the person with the condition but everybody around them. You need to find a strategy that works for everybody. If possible, find a good CBT or DBT therapist.

it's a response to trauma or abuse, either by lived experience or genetically inherited or both.

About the causes, in psychology class they said it is caused by the growing up environment. It was often from families with lack of discipline and order, and also to much discipline or abuse as you mentionned.

My girlfriend has bpd she makes me cry everyday due to her anger lashes and her threats to leave me and that how it’s her last straw and then she comes back immediately is tiring mentally for me but i truly love her and ill always be here for her

Thank you for a clear, short and concise video. A lot of psychologists on RU-vid overexplain these conditions in their videos.

I’ve been battling BPD for two years now, and as a twenty year old college student, hearing the Alex story and reading all the thoughtful comments sharing the same experiences has really given me the motivation to keep going just a little stronger. If others can get the help they need, achieve remission, then there’s nothing to say I can’t. I got this.

It’s also important to know that recovery and healing isn’t a linear thing. Yes symptoms become more manageable with a few years of effort, therapy and in my case medication. But things happen, life gets shitty and that can sometimes cause you to backslide into old shitty habits and coping mechanisms. It’s important to recognize when it happens or listen to your support network if they point it out. But don’t ever wallow in shame if you do backslide. Confront it, but be kind to yourself, dust off the mistakes, and move forward.

It’s hurts soooo much when my relationships end because of my BPD. Especially when my ex’s call me a narcissist on their way out. It destroys me when I’m alone. I feel so misunderstood.

I used to act out a lot when I was younger, but now as I approach middle age, I isolate myself and avoid conflict. Everyone around me, even my own husband, needs to be kept out of reach mentally: this means that I put on a mask when spending time with them. I keep my inner thoughts private; I remain pleasant and posed. Why do I do this? Because this way my inner monster does not come out. If someone is too close, I tend to act like no boundaries exist (not on purpose!) and just pour out all of my emptiness and despair. This in return makes the other party stressed, confused. So as long as I keep everything to myself, life seems to be stable enough.

I have worked in non clinical mental health support for 13 years. I often spend more time with them over years than their families, friends, doctors, psychiatrists, and other allied health services. Empathy, persistence, patience, compassion, education and very strong boundaries are helpful.

My son couldn’t live with it and committed suicide. 2 years 3months ago. It’s a horrible diagnosis. He was an amazing young man with a horrid diagnosis.

Most people are completely unable and unequipped to handle befriending someone with bpd. I’ve tried to change, but it’s so painfully obvious that I’m not being genuine. People tend to just read it as me faking intent or interest. At this point, I don’t even blame people. Would I want a friend like me? Probably not. I’m starting to think I might just be better off alone.

Pretty sure I have this issue and it does drive me completely insane, I feel totally severed from life and have bizarre rage over nothing issues that I end feeling immense guilt over within moments. I’ve always recognized I’m a bit of a nut so I try to consciously work against myself, but it only works 1/10 times and I just feel like a really bad person all the time. I refuse relationships to avoid dragging anyone else into it.

In my twenties I thought I must have this - I had all the symptoms and it made me suicidal. At 31, however, I was diagnosed with autism. Since then, and after making a major effort to work around autism and moderate my autistic traits, things have improved greatly for me. In self-help parlance, I "did the work". Subsequently I fell in love with a woman who actually does have BPD, and I could really relate to and understand what I was seeing in her self-defeating behaviours; we're not together any more, but it was her choice, not mine. I think she had to get me out of her life because of the unbalancing effect an intense relationship has on BPD sufferers - which is tragic. "The work" has not produced the same improvements in her life, probably because BPD is actually a more damaging condition than autism, despite the striking similarities in how it manifests. I think much depends on personal circumstances; I was lucky, she wasn't.

As a former nurse who worked in a closed psychiatric facility, I would like to mention that when treating BPD patients, very well-structured interdisciplinary teamwork with a fixed set of rules is essential. If you notice sudden unrest and conflicts in the team, it usually has to do with poor coordination and a weakening of the rules. Unfortunately, this is not only observed in psychiatric environments and people with BPD (as well as narcissistic personality disorder) can have a negative effect on group structures and group dynamics as employees or even as superiors. If you notice a sudden increase in employee turnover, but other aspects of the work have not changed radically, then you should take a closer look at the team and look out for signs of personalities that may have tendencies towards narcissism or BPD

I got misdiagnosed with BPD multiple times because the therapist just slap a label on it real quick without getting to know me. According to this video, it's true that I never had it, and the therapist can get it wrong. Until one day, I met someone who diagnosed me with Complex-PTSD along with dyslexia.

Ive been struggling with BPD for the better part of about three to four years. I tried to end my life eight times before I graduated. I wasnt allowed to seek psychological help until I moved out because my family was deeply religious. I don't have close friends because I do genuinely feel horrible about my out bursts and how I can come off as flakey. At the same time, its one of the most stigmatized disorders. When I got my diagnosis, it was after I was considering sewer slide because one of my friends framed me for something I didnt do to get the whole group to turn on me. They didnt explain anything until I was released and I caught the diagnosis in my discharge papers. I had to figure out a lot of it for myself. Its common. People dropping you once they find out you have it. And I get it. Cause no one wants to get hurt. Its just really lonely too. And you wish, you pray to god you can stop with the outbursts so you can hang around people again and go to parties and stuff but its *so hard.* So it's easier to stay alone so you don't worry about hurting anyone. I've come acrossed dating profiles with stuff like "DNI if you have BPD." And you feel like an outcasted monster from society. Its a vicious cycle. The isolation hurts your mental health, but no one wants to be around you because of this illness you have no control over, so you end up alone anyways.

As much as someone says that “youre not alone” i know that no one close to me cares

Say yes to therapy, say no to recreational drugs. Weed and alcohol, for example, just cover up the wound temporarily. As my therapist says, the wound from childhood needs to be cleaned out. We need to feel to heal. And if you are drunk or high, you are not feeling - you are doing the opposite (escaping).

Having compassion is key however protect your own emotional health by maintaining healthy boundaries and not taking all behavior personally

There comes a point where you have to just let go of the person with bpd, especially in my case, after I was so patient as a friend and listened to him. He split on me in an instant over a very minor thing, and was very nasty about it. He has blocked me and he lives in another state. Before he split on me, I tried to encourage him to get help but he flew into a rage and refused to seek help. He said he is NOT going to change. He has made it very clear that he wants nothing to do with me. We are both 72 years old. He put me through hell. We have to take care of ourselves.

I am beyond impressed with this video. It is beautifully done, straightforward, understanding, and concise !

I have a family member who has BPD, and it's getting almost impossible to live with them. One day they will be loveable and helpful to me, the other they will make me feel like I'm the worst person in the world and it's my fault. I've been living through this for more than 5 or 6 years now and it just gets worse, for both od us. Sometimes I feel like I should just leave and live my life, think about myself first... But I can't leave them. It's terrible and I don't know what to do.

One thing that I thought of as a quote is: if one person had thought of that, a thousand others may have thought the same. If one person experienced it, then a thousand have experienced it. This is to show that no one is alone in their thinking and their disorders.

Fearing abandonment so much that people with BPD end up causing it to prevent the pain. It’s a horrid cycle of pain that just overwhelms anyone with the condition and is absolutely awful to experience. I’ve found DBT is useful and joint communities of people with the similar issue helps a lot with feeling less isolated, and helps with advice and techniques on how to deal with it better.

It's so bizarre to me, I've never been diagnosed with BPD and have even asked therapists why that was - generally the summary of answers is something like, "you're ADHD, that explains any overlapping symptoms, you don't self harm, you don't shout at others, you dont hurt them. You have suffered trauma and neglect in your life but the problems you have, have been there since you were born, they didn't manifest after your early formative years in response to stress." I can tell you though, the best time in my life was in my teens when I was on mood stabilisers. Whether its ADHD or BPD, feeling things intensely, thinking things with virtually no capacity for filter, it's just exhausting and even if I haven't intentionally cut friendships, I also can't invest in them in order to start them either. I don't think I'm undeserving of friends, but I do feel like few people can really "vibe" with me the right way, and when we do I can get a bit overeager, or opposite I can play it too cool fearing scaring someone away. Videos like these are so well intentioned but boy, they can make me feel like an alien in society.

I have dealt with people that have BPD. They frequently originate from fatherless homes, or with abusive parents, which breeds their fear of abandonment. This fear continues as they become adults, where they will presume that they will, once again, be abandoned. They then resort to self sabotage acts and adopt behaviours in such a way that will make abandonment certain. The way they operate is in extremes, blow things out of proportion and one feels like they have to walk to eggshells when dealing with that kind of people. At this point in my life I keep them at arm’s length, I no longer have the time, interest and patience to deal with an adult behaving like a child that constantly throw tantrums.

I just got Diagnosed with BPD a couple weeks ago and this vid rlly helps and explains why i feel what i feel

Thank you for educating us! ❤❤

I can defiantly could relate to liking someone for one moment and then hating them; not wanting nothing to do with with them. That and the abandonment is a thing too, but i feel it got better as i age. I'm 29, but one thing ive told people in friendships and relationships is not to toy with my emotions. That's the worse u can do to someone with bpd and it shows my bad side. Black and white thinking was also a thing as well for me. It was either everything is good and jolly or life sucks and i hate it here movements. I do apperciate this video. Bpd is know to be one of the difficult mental disorders to treat along side with other personality disorders

Abused by my big brother at an early age, extreme mood swings, addiction to nicotine, ghosted by my ex girlfriend which left me questioning my life decisions and self-image, socialize with peers normally but somehow felt fake on my end, anger issues over small things in life depending on how I felt at that moment, strange yearnings for pain and suffering of myself and others, emptiness that follows after experiencing certain emotion long enough, unaddressed jealousy for those who have better living circumstances than mine, alternating feelings of selfishness and selflessness. I am aware that I ticked all of the boxes in the video and yet has failed to seek help, out of fear that I am to be seen as different compared to my other siblings. Genetically speaking, my family are not meant to pursue academic gains as because we are meant to be a functioning member of society as soon as possible. Any family member of mine that has academic achievement prone to have mental disorder, such is the case with me and my little brother. As for my whereabouts, I am far away from my family in pursuit for college and slowly getting eaten by my ever destabilizing mental fortitude. English is my third language, and is tool for me to escape my everyday mental struggle

As someone with BPD what a rollercoaster of madness it was At the beginning my psychiatrist thought that it might be clinical depression A friend of mine told me that he thinks that I have BPD I laughed at him and brushed it off After few years and even more problems and a break up it’s was all about to be aligned into a perfect storm. I’ve tried the unthinkable I been taken to the hospital where they hold me for few months and they discharge me A year gone by and another storm has approached for the same reason but I called for help before I will decided to do something stupid and I was again hospitalised And finally around that time they started to think I have BPD and they started to give me medication and weekly therapy and consultants and I finally broke free from the hospitalisation cycle, and that madness 7 years have gone by since my last hospitalisation and my diagnostic There was ups and downs but there were always under control. Now I have a beautiful girlfriend, I’m have a job and thank to that kid and my doctors I finally can call myself a happy man.

My dad has BPD and this Alex feels so relatable as a family member of a person with BPD

My mother has BPD. I haven't spoken to her in 3 years. The emotional abuse was one thing but the outbursts were violent, persistent, confusing and terrifying. It is such a dangerous disorder. I find it extremely difficult to sympathise when someone is so destructive. I get lots of 'but she is your mother' comments which boil my blood. This is totally disregarditive of my health and wellbeing. I will not be unwell for the sake of someone else's wellness.

While its hard to live with bpd i feel like being a person close to a borderline is more hurtful, especially if you're their fp. I always feel terrible for how I treat my loved ones when i'm at my worst. It must be draining for them even if they reassure me otherwise. I go to therapy and actively seek help and try to manage the symptoms better. I wish I werent this way. I hate hurting those whom I love the most...

I have family members who have BPD. My heart goes out to them. I do know that DBT has helped them to an extent. They do refuse medications due to conspiracy theories and it makes it hard to help. I have noticed though that me using active listening without judgment - as I do within my coaching practice- does help. Mirroring with soft tones works best when I deal with them. Of course it is not a perfect science and sometimes strategies must be changed. One thing that I have noticed though as briefly mentioned in the video is the correlation between attachment, mother hunger, and inner child. Wondering if tackling attachment, then mother hunger to lastly help them face inner child is a strategy to use. Not sure, and I know I am oversimplifying it. For everyone struggling with it, I am praying for you to find your inner peace in the way you see best, and best suits you. You are worthy of it, and more. ❤❤❤

I can finally put a name to what I’ve been through most of my life. As a child I was agressive, restless, I’d pretty much switch from extremely cheerful to depressed, and in between. I have always lived in the world where there is only good and only evil, and there are only enemies and heroes, and nothing else. I remember I’d often experience feelings of extreme dissociation, to the point where I’d feel as if out of my own body. This is on top of the fact I was and still am deepl afraid of abandonment. I would often break up first just to avoid being abandoned by new friends or in relationships. As an adult, going through psychoterapy, and with the help of my own faith I have worked through it and today, I can proudly say I have nearly succeeded regulating my emotions. I have had a first stable relationship, I am learning to cope with the fact my parents will leave this world one day, and I haven’t felt dissociation for years. I still sometimes suffer, but I’m so much better than before. My heart goes to all of you who suffer, but believe me, there is always hope.

What hard about the diagnosis is that it forces you to be honest about things that happened to you as a kid.

I had a relationship with a girl suffering from this. They were some of the worst years of my life. She completely destroyed my self-esteem and self-confidence. And I stopped thinking about my problems, feeling guilty if doing so, because I got to believe she was much worse than I, and that it was ridiculous to think about my own problems (I suffer from bipolar disorder and ADHD). She was suffering a lot, of course, but the degree of emotional blackmail, manipulation, humiliation, anger and verbal violence was extreme. If someone had told me "hey, this is not normal" I would have realised, but she isolated me, so there were no witnesses, and she was able to convince me she was almost always right. Because she got SO angry that I thought that I must have done something terrible without realising. And, about a decade later, I spent 6 years with a narcissist, which has been even worse. There were no bad intentions or attempts to make me suffer just for pleasure with my friend with BPD. But this other one, the narcissist... I have never met anyone so extremely harmful and toxic. I am suffering from PTSD from this. And I haven't seen my son for 2 years and a half. She neglected and abused him, and I was with him all the time. She was jealous of him, so she separated us (and she separated the child from my parents too), and I was threatened by her, her mother and her brother. Being abused when you're a child does not make you more prone to do the same to others. Some of us just become very fragile, insecure and empathetic.

I have BPD and I dont lash out I get annoyed and angry like anyone else I just feel more hurt than I should.. That pic of him with a rat in his hand and a knife is horrible... People with BPD can be some of the most human people you'll ever meet 🙂 We see everything for what it is but sometimes we fall and lose control but i can speak for myself I'd never hurt anyone or an animal...

I just discovered this channel. Idk where I'd been ALL THESE YEARS OMG THIS CHANNEL is sooooo nice i love it! LOVE IT!!!!!!!!! I really want to watch all other videos but I need to first get through my examination.

My ex friend once said she have BPD. I never really understood her but as I am growing older I realise how much trouble maybe she have talking with people. Recently I tried befriending her but she just shook me off by accusing me of something I haven't done. I really hope she recovers.

Having a disorder may not be your fault, but if you choose to do nothing about it, you are absolutely to blame for having it. Either way, actions have consequences, so saying people should be "patient" for abusive behaviour is plain wrong. Don't be abusive to other people, and if you can't do that, then admit yourself to a hospital with supervision.

Definitely taking time to understand that it’s a brain issue and not a personality issue helps. I learned from a friend who has BPD that the name is misleading and I see why

For many many years, I grew up wondering exactly what undiagnosed mental disorder my mom has. Alot of my core memories as a child were of her yelling at people and being extremely overbearing. I was constantly embarrassed and wanting to hide and this made me a very quiet child. I know for a fact that she has anxiety, but I'm starting to think it is BPD also and perhaps depression. She also goes on spending sprees where she will spend a ton of money on things she thinks is important. She is unable to keep friendships for long periods of time. When you first meet her, she seems friendly and like a nice person, but then she will start doing some of the odd things she does. While I have mentioned alot of the bad things, inside, I know these are not her intentions. I know she does not mean to yell at people and be overbearing but she refused/refuses to get help. The mental abuse I suffered as a child cannot be erased and I have been going to therapy to talk these things out. At 40 years old now, I have not talked to her in 4 years, as her presence gives me major anxiety and I just could not deal with the emotional turmoil it brings me.

Men with bpd are often slacked off and misdiagnosed Thats the one thing this video brushes over

I am 17 and diagnosed with BPD. I constantly distance myself from the people I love because when I don’t, I treat them like shit and feel horrible about it. I’ve learned that this is the best way to stop hurting others. But at the same time I hate being so alone and feeling so empty that I end up self-destructing just to feel something. I’ve been to the hospital over attempts multiple times and it just feels like a never-ending, vicious cycle. It really is such a painful disorder.

My oldest daughter has BPD. She was born with it. She operates in a very narrow band of tolerance. She can't keep a job or many personal relationships. She lives independently, but she refuses to get help. I pray for her. She does interact with me, and I do not abandon her. I do point out healthy choices and living options to her. She hears them and she loves me. She has good moments and had moments (like most people have good and bad days, but compressed into minutes). She is very intense. It is often very tiring to be with her. But I am her mother and will always be there for her. I may be the only one who can be, however. I do set boundaries, and do not accept inappropriate behavior. She accepts this, and does apologize when she makes bad choices. She has a good heart, but it is surrounded by a Cat. 5 hurricane.

My sister has this mental disorder. Everything she does makes sense to me now. Although she did hurt me a lot when I was younger, I'm glad she's getting therapy. She's been doing a lot better now, and her outbursts are significantly lesser

I had a relationship with someone with self diagnosed bpd. I loved them but they always made excuses when I pleaded that they try to get professional help, or help of some kind. They tried controlling my friendships with other people, over jealousy, and they did. Later Broke up with me. Then contacted me trying to reconnect as friends, then ghosted me. Now I’m mentally unwell.

Wow. Some of this sounds like a friend who just unfriended me. I always forgive him when his temper blows up over seemingly small things. I know he was abused as a kid, had some truly horrifying trauma as an adult, and possible brain injury. He has told me he has always had trouble making friends. He definitely has abandonment issues. I have some self esteem issues and am definitely a person who wants to get along and make others happy, so I just went along with this and talked through things with him, and forgave him. I feel both better and worse thinking this may be what is going on with him. Better (only a little), because I couldn't have prevented this, and worse (more) because he has to live with this.

It should be pointed out, not all sufferers have all traits and don't exhibit them to the same degree This video simplifies the condition a lot

Excellent video well put together ❤️

4 me BPD is like psychosis light, you're not quite psychotic but are always afraid of crossing the line .

The text bombardment is still one of my biggest struggles. I just keep apologizing. Saying if they hate me I understsnd, but I truly am sorry. Abuse is horrible. Sadly I also suffer from bad genetics, and have severe type 2 Bipolar(depressive side), ADHD, CPTSD from family abuse, and agoraphobia(fear of leaving your home or "safe space") because I was physically ripped out of my house as a child countless times. I have to take 2 antipsychotics, 4 pills total. As a teen/young qdult I attempted DOBLE DIGIT times. I'm grateful NOW that I kept failing. I go to therapy 2 times a week. I'm 28 and all of this still has me debilitated to the point ehere I literally cannot functionnin society... I feel do isolsted, alienated, and ASHAMED. ASHAMED these issues and the trauma have stunted me to an extent..I just wanna be normal. I just want to do normal things. Have normal levels of emotions.. Life is hard. Be kind to people. You never know what they might be enduring.

It sucks so bad. Hopefully, one day, I won't be a coward.

▪️ "Sadness turns into depression" ⬛

My life is bizarre, to say the least. Im trying various techniques to stabilize myself of identity. My bpd has been pretty severe in some aspects such as dissasociation and intense loneliness and paranoia. Through this all I'm pushing to achieve a part time work as this has been completely debilitating in my day to day life. People may not see it in how I look, but internally Im a mess still.

Get real!Bad parenting causes it!It is a childhood trauma disorder

Education helps. If I didn't know all these mental challenges exist, I'd far more often just perceive people as rude or dumb or anti social. The world is more complicated than that

Just figured I’d risk it and mention, hey, yes it’s manageable and from my experience treatable. I have BPD, and I had a rough experience at times. I didn’t make it easy on people. Funnily enough ouch though, I think what makes a huge difference here is if you can manage to find a support system, both medically and emotionally. Being lucky/privileged enough to have both, does mean my worst days are in the past. I’ve grown a thicker emotional skin and learned to be independent, as opposed to latching onto people completely. My friends are keen to remind me that I “can” rely on them, but learning to function if they aren’t available means I had to learn to deal with my shit in a much better way. DBT therapy and follow up regular therapy and medication is key to reinforcing that. It takes discipline, and while I definitely struggle in other ways, I’ve learned mostly to at least manage the BPD to the point people are surprised to hear I have it when I tell them. I do purposefully still engage in learning more about my condition and the science behind it. I don’t think sugarcoating the fact we can be very difficult to deal with is helpful at all, but nor is overly stigmatizing it. This video did pretty okay on that front. I had one final advantage few BPD people had; my friends and family stuck with me. My case must have been milder, and luckily my impulsiveness is directed in a different direction then many given my utter disinterest in sex or drugs, and is mostly reckless spending. Even that is kept in check, and I don’t gamble. There wasn’t much room to be impulsive to a truly destructive degree with all that in mind, and my friends and family were able to help me past the other stuff as a consequence. The fact that for most of my life I was physically very frail helped too; I didn’t pick fights, and while I could easily socially engineer people to fight for me(it happened a few times, not intentionally)… BPD can manifest some other traits. That emotional thin skin also means if you have the right environment, you potentially can learn a large degree of empathy. I didn’t like to start fights, be involved in conflict, and turned any innate BPD charisma towards diplomacy and tact most of the time. A friend reminded me of something that makes this condition easier to bear. If I make friends easily, especially strong friends, and tend to not lose them….then either my BPD is well managed(which given I made those friends before I was diagnosed is unlikely), or I’m simply not that awful to be around, and simply expect people to be kinder and nicer then they often are, and take the disappointment worse. But I pick people to be friends with that aren’t by nature assholes, and often are very stable themselves. They in turn are a stabilizing influence. I can’t be tempted into bad behaviour if none of my friends encourage it. I can’t say I had a “fatherless” upbringing, even if my father was occasionally very abusive(and sometimes the best person in the world…BPD is likely genetic here) but have a mother who is very supportive and caring, and a sister who while needs her space, is caring as well and is clear when she can’t put up with my energy, without being dismissive. The stigma exists for a reason, the reasons many people don’t trust people with BPD are very valid. Science is naturally skeptical of us. But we don’t have to innately be monsters. We can be better, if we have a good support system and the ability to recognize the value of psychology and pursue treatments. Many of us can be simply monstrous. Many of us however are simply coping and managing the genetic hand we’ve been dealt and fight with all our energy to never be a problem. Treatment is key, but you can be happy.

My dad and my younger brother have it. Now that they’re adults they’ve calmed down a lot. But back in the day when we were kids it was episode after episode almost every day. It really made me think it was a normal thing until years later when I met people who weren’t blowing up on me for anything

So I DEFINITELY do see things in grey. I use black and white as a base line. But the problem i have is blacking out during fits of rage and inner voices that i challenge in a constant battle.

You can't help me.. best thing you can do Is help yourself And leave me be😞

If you or somebody you knows has bpd and going through splitting, they for sure need reassurance and don't take to heart anything they say in that moment. Reassure them that you are there for them and that you only wish good for them. They might push you or test you when you say that to see if you are saying the truth, but don't stop and reassure them until they gets back to normal. As a person suffering with BPD this is what I would expect from my loved ones when I am having an episode.

This... Just this... I am shaking, ik tears...

My ex had all these symptoms and was a rollercoaster to be with. He would recover really well when attending councilling but would come apart again when he decided to quit it again

I have to disagree with some of the extreme comments about bpd. I was always what people would think of as a pretty normal person until I had a breakdown because of some trauma that happened in my late 30's. The thing is that my doctor thought that it was pretty much dormant until then.I had been severely abused as a child and just blocked it until the trigger. My whole personality has changed except with my grown children and grandchildren. I learned in therapy to stop and think about what is triggering me and take a little break if needed. I worked very hard for many years and my psychiatrist specialized in bpu. Where I have trouble is my family of origin. I am my caretaker and she and my brothers just think that I'm crazy. I think my life would be better if I lived alone again so I can choose when the time is good to deal with difficult people in my life. I know that everyone is different and it has taken me years but I haven't run any of my friends off for a long time.

I have BPD and besides others praying helps me a lot you guys

I'm sharing this video with friends. I think it will help them understand, without overwhelming them with too much complicated information all at once. I think it will really help open a dialogue with them. I feel it's crucial for friends and family to have a better understanding of this bizarre affliction, if you hope to keep them in your life. I personally find it difficult to properly convey what it's like to have lived like this for most of my life. Thank you.

I've got diagnosed with BPD since 8 years now and no psychiatrist gave me a treatment, i just go from hospital to hospital, i'm invade and parasitized by all my emotions and impulsivity, i've got a boyfriend who lives far away, but no friends or family around me. I feel lonely every second of my life, it's been my worst outbreak since a long time. I ask for support from my boyfriend but he keep saying that he understand but it makes me angry and keep shouting at me, i don't know what to do anymore... So many s*** attempts and no one is here for me, even the doctors are tired of me... that is too difficult to live with that and having nobody really understanding what i suffer for... Thank you for your video, extremely well done explaining everything, plus a really good illustrations. Thank you for understranding this disorder. PS : Sorry for my english, i'm french

I'm currently in a 1 year relationship with a girl diagnosed with BPD and.. it's been one hell of a ride. You can't really explain how difficult it is without experiencing it yourself. If anyone has any questions about my experience, or would want to share yours feel free.

It always goes back to how we were abused as children.

❤Thank you very much for your concise and clear video

Schema Therapy and Psychodynamic Therapy can also do wonders for BPD.

The ending was written by somebody who has no idea about BPD

Had a friend with bpd (or was said to most likely after I described her to therapist) that manifested in early adulthood. Totally obliterated the relationship. She went from being kind and chilled-out to the most defensive, entitled, victimized, unaccountable user I've known. Stuck with her because "compassion" and "the right thing," etc. Nope, protect yourself.

Myself, No anger...just feeling down, purposeless and empty then sometimes happy or just normal

I suspect my mother has BPD. She ticks all the boxes except for self harm.

18 year old male from Australia, Been diagnosed with bpd and it explains alot of why I was always so emotionally sensitive and unstable. Turned 18 last October. I can’t hold down a job due to extreme social anxiety, I have no friends and I’ve tried to end my life twice. It’s something I think about daily. Bpd makes me feel like a passenger in my own body at any moment my emotions will take full control going from the best feeling ever to my worlds ending, I truly just want to be normal. I’ve missed out on so much and feel like I’m just a waste. Bpd is like being trapped in your own head going from high moments to the lowest moments in an instant.

Thank you for sharing

hey all, 28 year old male. for days on end i had this vid recommended to me and decided to have a click today and seeing some of the comments of people claiming this whole thing "doesn't exist" and how those of us with it are all "shitty people" in denial is incredibly disappointing mate, it really is borderline personality disorder first developed within me when i was 18/19 years old back in 2014 and it almost ruined my life at first, because i had no idea how to control it at the time. it was this fresh scary thing within me and i knew something was wrong, but what was it? was i imagining the whole thing or was my erratic behaviour that came out of nowhere have a reasoning behind it? when i was diagnosed with it years later in 2018 it was such a relief. not because i had an excuse/free pass to act like a shitty person but because these extreme feelings that came out one day seemingly out of nowhere wasn't something imagined, it was something very real and it explained so much i never had dbt/cbt treatment made available to me but i eventually did learn to majorly suppress most of the emotional/neurotic side of it. i admit once in a blue moon i have my bad days when the psychotic symptoms come out to play but compared to the person i was all those years ago its night and day difference in all honesty. and i'm getting better and improving as a person everyday just thought i'd leave a comment cause there's major stigma around bpd. those of us stuck with it aren't monsters, we screw up sometimes but i promise you we're all trying. for anyone else here who's unfortunately got it, i promise you it can get better and you can manage to live with it. it's a motherfucker to control, but it can be done. don't give up hope frens ♥

I have bpd and spirituality is helping me through ❤

I got the BPD. It's an actual nightmare.