You keep focusing on thinking of people being perceived as good or evil. I'm not aware of feeling that way about people. But everything else seems to fit my experience of being myself perfectly. In stressful situations, without medication, I can slip into a mindset where self harm seems like a good idea. Like I must do it. I know if I can sit it out, I'll return to myself again, and won't want to do myself harm. But, it's frightening because I'm always afraid I'll slip too far and really do myself harm. This seems like what you call splitting. Last year was hard because my therapist retired and the company I work with wanted to change my program. I immediately felt like I was being abandoned. I really freaked out. But I didn't feel like anyone was being evil. I expected my therapist to retire some time, because she was elderly. But wanting to change me out of the "intensive" program because "there were people with really bad problems" waiting to get into the program triggered every bit of fear of abandonment I ever had. (And, gee, thanks, sorry my problems aren't "bad" enough.) But I still didn't feel like people were evil. I was afraid of losing all the support I'd finally got after 50 years of trying not to kill myself, with no one to talk to about how I was feeling. So, a person can have splitting without thinking other people are good or evil? Or is that a component which always accompanies splitting? Thanks 🙏
Yes, one could experience splitting without dividing people into either good or either evil. Splitting is a subconscious process that can be recognized (and helped) with therapy. Thank you for watching, we will definitely make more videos on the topic!
Interesting video to find today, because yesterday I decided to stop being friends with one of my closest friends who doesn’t use Snapchat very often. I found that he doesn’t care about me and he’s just an altogether horrible person because he didn’t respond to my snap about hanging out. I’m not diagnosed with anything but I will be taking a test soon. Now that I think about it he does seem like a good friend but it takes me a long time to understand my emotions.
Understanding one’s emotions is something that not everyone can do, even with age an experience. Kudos to you for striving to figure it out, some people just give up! Thank you for watching!
Snpchat? Is that a thing for dayly messaging in the US? I hve so many apps to communicate but I mostly use Whatsapp ( i‘m from Germany) and IMessage. If a person writes even in facebook it could be the Info where I find 1Mio Euro but I would not see it for days or weeks 🤷♀️ So maybe ask your friend what he uses more than snaap chat or if he is a person who can communicate often and fast. I loooooove my best friend but I am so not a person to look often at my cellphone so I nearly never answer right away. Having to do so would make me sick and depressed because I would feel like I am being forced and judged if I do not answer right away. I think its your inner fear of being abandoned🌺❤️ Maybe you could work on that and go to therapy. I think sometimes people are good friends but they feel suffocated by to much and to intensive writing where always swings a neediness behind. ( not trying to be mean I have depression and surely also a hand full and a downer to many) My e you could also use apps or clubs to meet new people and just enjoy single meetings but in the meantime just enjoy live with yourself or others ❤️
Sounds to me like you're human. Maybe young, too, im guessing? Just want to warn you... Please be careful. Don't go jumping down any holes following a rabbit that isn't even there... Basically all I'm trying to say is, don't go jumping to any conclusions about having BPD (And even if you do get diagnosed with BPD, always get second opinion. When it comes to ANY SERIOUS HEALTH CONDITION; MENTAL & PHYSICAL!)... Too many young people are now using this diagnosis (as well as many others such as OCD, ADHD, Etc.) for "clout" on social media, and what's happening is, sometimes other people see their videos and think they, too probably have that dignosis, because of the smallest similarity they may have noticed from an influencers' video/tiktok on their not even professionally diagnosed disorders(self* diagnosed, especially right now with BPD... Best of luck, stay happy & healthy!
@@wellnesslenses I believe It would be very beneficial of you to make a video actually reminding people (especially the youth) of the importance of NOT self diagnosing! It is a big, big issue that spreads like a virus among social media... And it just seems to be worsening... I feel people really need to be reminded of the dangers of self-diagnosing and it may really benefit a lot of people... If you've already done such a video- Sorry and nevermind! Although, a new "short" video on it for newcomers may not hurt, either..! ☺ Just my own thoughts I'd thought I'd share with you quick!
I was diagnosed with bipolar II disorder, but the frequency which I change moods, or the way I see people is a bit too frequent. I see my doctor on the 1st and ill fond out if its actually BPD, or that "Border/Polar" thing. The more I hear about BPD though the more I see my childhood and my ruined relationships. Its scary at the moment.
As a BPD sufferer, I'm not able to stop splitting. I just learned how to hide it and act in with all the other stuff i internalize til the volcano erupts from holding so much in
My wife was the same. We are no longer married. I'm a vet with PTSD. I shut down and cut off when she used to split and devaluate me. I couldn't help it!!! Splitting is traumatizing even to ppl who don't have PTSD. We both aren't bad ppl, we just trigger each other! Thank God that's over!!!
I feel like this didn't explain it very well. Yes, got the basics down, but it's not about seeing people as evil or saints. We put most things into gray areas too.
I have exactly the same, it takes me years to recognise the grey color in between and fixing myself, but somehow, it's still a part of me, cannot get rid of completely
Gawd, I wish I knew this before my baby momma broke my heart and my family. 😅 Could have been avoided. 😮💨 Some things just can't be forgiven, and there's no turning back. It at least gives me some solace to understand how and why it happened. I'll never give a BPD narcissist kids or benefit of the doubt again. Maybe if they'd actually try to understand and manage their issues, it'd be different.
