Borderlines Want Enmeshment 

You’re their soulmate until they split on you, then you’re the worst person in the world.

Your soulmate from heaven will become your cellmate from hell.

“It takes nine months to have a baby but we can do it in three months” LMBO I couldn’t stop laughing!!

I’ve been in relationships with both borderlines and narcissists. I don’t care who I offend, borderlines we’re way more hurtful, abusive and damaging than the narcissists ever were.

The insane thing is I thought I had an intense bond with my BPD ex. Scary

At least my borderline left me the night before our wedding I got really lucky.

This was definitely my ex. Right from the beginning I knew it was way too fast. After the first date he was already so clingy and talking about how we were meant to meet and this was fate. One of his classic lines I will always remember was, “My whole 35 years of living, I’ve never found what I was truly looking for until I met you.” This was maybe a week or so of dating. I literally thought like oh wow, ok. Rushed sex and everything as well. I swear he was in a trance one day when he tried and I wasn’t ready. It was like I had to wake him up! But you really hit the nail on the head for me when you mentioned how we lose ourselves in these people. When he just dumped me randomly after actually seeing him be a little romantic, I honestly didn’t know what was left. Not to sound dramatic, but I truly didn’t know. I’ve been on such a crazy rollercoaster ride that I didn’t know what I loved anymore or anything I enjoyed. I literally just started going out for walks for hours and it actually reconnected me with myself. Slowly but surely, I found my way back up to me again. And honestly, I love this version of me better! It’s the one he can’t have nor any other users ☝️ Thanks so much again David as always! ❤️

Sounds like my ex wife. Totally played me. Helplessness card, professional victim, and mirror master. Keep making the videos. Thank you.

The love-bombing marco polo shit is so real. I hated that idealization period and luckily got out of the relationship during that time as well. Hearing I love you over and over and then being accused of not loving them back because I didn't want to keep the "I love you" marco polo game going was frustrating. I felt like my soul was being drained when I was with them. Like they were trying to suck my lifeforce. Mirroring was a giant problem and it's clearer now that she was a child trapped in adult body. I did also notice the using patterns. She would constantly keep old flames alive because she dreaded being alone--when I said I needed my own space from her I wouldn't be surprised that she looked for those avenues for comfort. Not that I could prove that but her boundaries were complete shit with other men. It was disgusting not only seeing who she truly was but that I had absolutely no self respect and didn't know any better. I slowly overlooked every red flag just to be in a relationship. And what is it with Borderlines and tacking on incredible amounts of red flags--hard drug and alcohol abuse, self harm (not for attention of course wink wink), unhealthy eating/exercise habits, you name it. It could be anything but they just absorb so many terrible vices and rarely ever believe they can break free from this disorder or seek out help in that regard. Constantly talking about herself in every conversation. You couldn't actually sit down and have a real conversation with this person--everything will be redirected to their experience and how they coped with XYZ. I'm a little ashamed I harbor so much resentment for this bitch but she was one of the biggest mistakes I ever got myself mixed in. And by letting this relationship begin at all when I clearly didn't want to actually be with her I have much better self-esteem and self-love today. I'm not going to be in a relationship unless I absolutely want to. I learned a lot so I guess I'll be able to notice if anyone else has the same disorder so I know to run for the hills.

Geez. This is so good and on point. It’s frightening how this hits home for me. Ex was full blown Borderline.

Absolutely most insane thing I ever experienced. Spot on with all of this. You can’t make this stuff up, and they have a way of manipulating and guilting you when you threaten to leave. They will consume you. Mine lasted 9 months and I could wright and entire book on it. She admitted to having this and warmed me bit every time we’d agree to split up , Somehow she would real me back in. There are no words for what they can put you through and I can’t imagine the people who are married or have kids. I had another crazy ex with some other disorder but this shit takes the cake.

i just went through this exact relationship,.. in two months it went from love bombing, intense connection, to marriage plans, to baby talk.. and then boom! I was dumped. its gut wrenching.. watch out guys

“If you don’t believe in soul mates, you will” 😂

I think they love bomb because they know the relationship they're currently in isn't working for them anymore- or it just recently ended. They have to make sure they have someone. They can't handle the truth and deal with relationships, no honest communication..then they can lie to themselves and say the problems were all on their ex. My ex always started every relationship while still in the last. I had no idea he was still with us ex when we started dating until years later. Having a disagreement was too much for him and he called it arguing. Instead of talking about issues, they just check out. They have to move on right away to keep themselves busy otherwise they might have to face reality.

Thanks again David! These people are so draining that you forget which side is up. Their goal seems to be to knock you off your core beliefs. Gotta remain centered to keep your dignity.

I’m really grateful you clarified that you’re only talking about the borderlines that abuse people! I’m a borderline in recovery, I like to watch your videos to make sure I don’t slip back into old habits 😊 really laughed about the “I LOVE BASEBALL”, that’s so true!!

They can't function to support themselves so they have to live off you and mirroring and total enmeshment is what they have to do. Oh boy do i remember the back and forth texts of "I love you" and then "I love you more than you will ever know" , "Honey you are my world, I really love you so much...emoji, emoji, emoji, emoji".....each text outdoing the next one and so on and so forth. This is so true. That is exactly what i experienced , that back and forth Marco-Polo. I had forgotten about that back and forth Marco-Polo but you reminded me and oh boy yes do i remember that.

Then they abandon you and tell others you abandoned them. How true..........

I'm so happy I was scared off early by the suggestion of marriage early on and his claiming he was in love so quickly (always a huge warning sign to me). That made me slow down the relationship, which he couldn't handle and that led to it all falling apart. I will never allow another borderline in my life. I narrowly avoided a complete nightmare.

"I would never trust you unless we lived together". - my bpd ex after 2 weeks.

Thank you David. I've done ALOT of work on myself and I qualified as abusive but didn't even realize I was being at the time. Never thing was everyone else's fault. Not so anymore. AA has helped so much and therapy

'I prayed to god and he sent me you.' I heard this one more than once.

Did the whole marriage house kids with a boderline what a disaster she just left after 12 years no explination, have since found out she had another victim lined up. Best way to deal with them is never show any emotion no anger no sadness no hurt it drives them nuts.

David you are spot on with your assessment. I can attest that everything that you said is so true. Wow!

Ok so... DAVID you just literally described my last relationship (well not that u could call it a actual relationship more like a battlefield ) for 2 Years straight. I finally understand now exactly what I have been dealing with I was a happy healthy person when I met him and now I feel like all his crazy somehow bounced to me!!! The break up has been like dealing with a toddler. I say it’s done he says ok do you want to go to dinner tonight 🤨 ummm ???!?? And then the threats start. Thank you for making this video. As always you are awesome.

Wow... I’ve just left my BPD for the 3 Rd time, 4 years of my life 😢 .. spot on .. absolutely spot on .. I now realise I’ve got a lot of work to do on myself.. I can’t believe I got so entangled and couldn’t stay away... thank you for the explanation and reminder 🙏🏻

First relationship after my husband’s death. It took me about 2 weeks to know this was headed for disaster but I couldn’t figure out what specifically was going on. I thought narcissism at first but it didn’t fit. BPD is it. You f’ing NAILED IT!!!! You identified so many things I’ve experienced in one month. I made the mistake of “breaking it off gently”😳. There’s no easy way. Rip the bandage off..... Thank you for making it clear for me🙏🏻

Your videos are the only thing preventing me from making contact.

'EASY LOVER' By Phil Collins ....Listen to the Lyrics ....TYPICALLY BORDERLINE Description!!!!! Easy lover She'll get a hold on you believe it Like no other Before you know it you'll be on your knees She's an easy lover She'll take your heart but you won't feel it She's like no other And I'm just trying to make you see She's the kind of girl you dream of Dream of keeping hold of You'd better forget it You'll never get it She will play around and leave you Leave you and deceive you Better forget it Oh you'll regret it No you'll never change her, so leave it, leave it Get out quick 'cause seeing is believing It's the only way You'll ever know Easy lover She'll get a hold on you believe it Like no other Before you know it you'll be on your knees She's an easy lover She'll take your heart but you won't feel it She's like no other And I'm just trying to make you see You're the one that wants to hold her Hold her and control her You'd better forget it You'll never get it For she'll say there's no other Till she finds another Better forget it Oh you'll regret it And don't try to change her, just leave it, leave it You're not the only one, ooh seeing is believing It's the only way You'll ever know, oh No don't try to change her, just leave it, leave it You're not the only one, ooh seeing is believing It's the only way You'll ever know, oh She's an easy lover (She's a easy lover) She'll get a hold on you believe it (Get a hold on you) (She's) Like no other Before you know it you'll be on your knees (You'll be down on your knees) She's an easy lover She'll take your heart but you won't feel it (You won't feel it) She's like no other And I'm just trying to make you see (Trying to make you see)

My ex was more bpd than narc.....massive fear of abandonment, yet I was discarded....massive love bombing....so fast....then dropped over his emotional disregulation....

Reading the comments from this video and others... this is why I keep to myself with no friends or family or relationships. No one directly says it but my existence is almost criminal. I was a young beautiful motivated boy who pretended I was a main character in a movie of life. I can't believe who I became and days at the gym and constant learning does help manage the wild thoughts... maybe

There are 3 techniques a savvy borderline evader will do: 1)be boring. Offer no personal info about your life. Be mundane. They’ll discard and move on. 2)grey rock. Same as 1) above but stricter in application. Yes, no answers. No initiative taking on your part. Your goal is really not to do anything. Just be. 3)No contact. This is 2) above but stricter in application. You’re no longer a single rock amongst other rocks in the community in which they live. Instead you are a rock that picked yourself up and moved to another country without warning. Your identity has changed. Your name has changed. You’re hopefully untraceable. Each of these methods will work just fine. If you’re going to do 3). Make it gradual. Do 1) first. Gradually transition to 2). And finally phase out to step 3). Make the transition seem less. Be free.

I like that you speak the truth. People abuse people, I'm not using my disorder as an excuse anymore. I have to take responsibility for my actions

My ex is BPD with comorbid Covert NPD. You are 100% correct. I should have listened to my gut. It was too easy at the start.

This is exactly what my ex did. He went as far as giving up everything that he enjoyed to only do the things I loved. He would rage when I wouldn't give up everything for him. He often stated we are the same person. His view on love was essentially- "YOU should do anything asked by the one you love, even if it was jumping in front of a bus, without question. If they love you back they won't ask you to." So creepy.

Dated for 2 months intensly... When she got bored... She dicarted me like trash and ghosted on me.

I had the impression to deal with a child, not an adult. I had to do, fix and be responsible for everything all the time. "You're the reason I'm alive " was her favourite phrase. It's tiresome to be the favourite person of a borderline. You really hold their whole world on your shoulders.

This has actually made me realise I'm a very nice borderline. I enjoy being alone. Abandonment is something I 've accepted and I 've masses of empathy and remorse. The best thing a healing borderline can do is get a dog. I 've learned selflessness and to have a routine around my comfort zone. Good one Mr... greetings from the Scots Highlands... X

Wow.. I dated a borderline.. he used to call me suspect all the time .. “ I was being acused for something I had no clue of ..good morning suspect “ .. this video cracked me up.. so true what you say about them

Great message! Thank God for the iPhone blocking feature and fb blocking feature. David! You are saving my sanity. You are right about the speed at which a BPD moves. Baby, moving in, buying a house. Crazy. There are things that are endearing about it but the constant moody abandonment episodes are insane.

Their "love" is sometimes suffocating

Ive heard that the malignant borderline ( more higher on the spectrum ) are the ones that abuse.

My ex is definitely a borderline. EVERYTHING you say about the disorder is HIM. I didn’t know at first what was going on I honestly thought at one point I was crazy. I eventually got to a point where I had to leave and fix me.

scary... mine actually showed me an article that said that our star signs were about 90% compatible... a "miracle"

You're 100% right about BPD. The worst experience of my life.

David, i have listened to a hundred videos and read 100 articles, you are the real deal!!. so accurate it is scary. keep it up.

My ex did everything David said and more. Love bombed, future faked big time, wanted to be with me everywhere! I couldnt go to gas station by myself, stalked me, tested me a lot, stalked me after he discarded, stole from me, went through my stuff, kept me up at night, stared at me a lot, told me my dead mother came to him when he was sleeping, on and on. They will do and say anything anything

Keypoint: They mirror and copy you because they lack real and stable self. They have broken self. Unstability is their essence. My experience: look deeply at their silence, confused face and stupor... they are waiting for absorbing your idea to pretend that this is their idea and you succeed to reading their mind! It was blank and hollow, then you filled it and they belong it as their original idea.

Revisted 4 years later tonight, still the best video I have ever seen explaining this sh*tstorm phenomenon!!

Thanks for covering borderlines, hi, by the way, lol , Baby first time we talked and marriage in three days after meeting them. It is insanity.

I feel as though you are speaking directly to me, I had no idea what borderline personality was !! I'm so in trouble.. I've lost my driver's license, lost my job... been to jail etc.. now I feel like I am completely stuck..it's always about making her happy.. I'm in a position I have nothing left !!

Was married to that for 26 years. Got out in time to save my life literally.

I'm in New Zealand. Kia ora. That means hello in Maori language. I'm Maori. I'm native to my country. We are descendents from Hawaiki. Or is it Hawaii not sure. Kia kaha my precious peeps. That means be strong and power to you. Love you guys and girls. Xx

Thats absolutely how it is, Ive experienced it EXACTLY like that ... and I still have that confusion in me about that borderliners way of bonding, David, he told EXACTLY what you told here, like there is a text book they use them borderliners ... UNCANNY ... thanks !!

She said: Im gonna luv you sooooo good, youll forget about anybody else...😂

Omg 😮 that’s nuts I love you honey! I love you honey!!!!! I can’t !! I did once I believe had a relationship w a borderline .. needless to say didn’t last long .. thank god there to much no peace!!!!

Thank you for making more borderline videos

Wow. My ex told me he wanted to get his vasectomy reversed a month after getting together. When I didn't agree to children right away, he tried pressuring me to marry him. When I told him I wasn't ready for marriage so soon, he became upset and stated he wanted to have something documenting our relationship for whenever I decide to leave him. At the time I thought it was such an weird thing to say, but now it all makes sense. Thank you!

love your videos because all the other videos are from the BPD persons perspective... iv lived with my borderline partner for 4 1/2 years... it has been a big help simply to identify the situation, and being a stubborn bastard that I have had NO problem standing up the his demands...just saying NO drives them nuts....feels good to fight back...

😂 I love this video David. It made me laugh because I could see all of it in my ex, and some in me too... in terms of allowing myself to be swooped by the intensity of finding "my soulmate". I remember how he said, "wow, you and I are on the same wavelength, I can't talk to anyone else like I do with you, no one else gets me." Lol he must have said that to the other girls he was using too. And the Marco polo hahahahaha. So true. It feels nice to be able to look back and just laugh. You re so great! I look forward to your videos!

Hey y'all hope y'all are well out there in narc free land . Where the grass is green and sky is blue. Stay away from the narc they are koo koo Kachoo.

Crystal from Brooklyn N.Y I know lots of people like this, I may have some traits of this disorder, I can admit that I have had attachment issues mostly when I was a kid, I could never stay alone, I even would have stayed with someone that would abuse me, just because I didnt want to be alone, But now I dont care if I love you or your my family or what you are, If you abuse me im OUT! But it took the Narcissist to show me that those issues were there in the first place, this video was really helpful, I watched my mom be just as you describe, I thought she was a Narc but shes not that evil.

Thank you so much for your knowledge on this! Your videos have been so helpful. I never knew what borderline was until my ex kept calling me that! BUT he was the borderline. He would flip out and get physical whenever I'd try to leave. And the biggest complaint was that I wouldn't give him enough attention. Then if he wouldn't hear from me for a day he would accuse me of cheating. It was so emotionally draining. I was tired of the blame game. He made me to be the monster and he was the victim. A 300 lb man!

I want full enmeshment too, but the moment they get that you are now boring and they fear getting enmeshed and push you away.

She stripped me of everything and abandoned me. She was my family as mine is not supportive. She made me stop talking to people I’ve known for years. At the end she said I discarded her. My replacement stalked me on SM and told me she said I couldn’t love my ex the way she wanted & naturally left out the abuse. I told her she’ll see for herself how things go. I actually had some boundaries and liked some time alone during the week. Bad bad move on my part! Yep - you need to sacrifice everything & yet they sacrifice nothing.

(Alabama)...So HIM...Your videos help me so much..Thank you..

Hey ROXY Bolt your an angel from heaven love you. Hey Terra your a champion Hey Shar Hughs your a beautiful soul hey Lucky One my soul sister. Hey love birds be free your a powerful woman. Hey Chris Riley your a Awesome man. Hey David your my hero. We are all blessed. The only good thing we got out of this narc abuse is leading us to David. God bless us all.

Regarding the 1st minute or so of your video: WOW! EVERY Borderline person I’ve ever (knowingly) encountered in my life HAS been (or should I say: IS) an abuser of other people! I had no idea there were Borderlines out there who actually don’t abuse others. That’s news to me & is completely unexpected as to my own personal experiences with them. Thanks for the info!

My ex her idea of talking about our problems was her telling me how awful I am and how I am the reason for every problem in the world and when I try to speak she would just barrel right over me and never listen and proceed to tell me I never let her speak. And anytime we would argue and I was 100% right she would always try to change the argument and it would drive her up a wall that I would never take the bait.

I was in the same boat for 23 years. Lost everything but I am way more happy! Watch out for Narc/Jez judges when going to court. Run and never look back! It will be the best thing you ever do!

Do they usually commit suicide when they threaten. He has even faked it. I am so tired I can't take anymore

Im my own experiance the moment they sense Your not gonna be able to give them the level off attention they desire they start looking for your replacement behind Your back and keep you on a hook untill they are sure they have the other person hooked and they have No more Use for you and discard you like a piece off trash. My ex bpd gf thought it was a good idea to start an affair with her school teacher off 33 while she was 19 and break off our relationship off 2,5 years, to be honest it broke my heart and i got a depression as a result to the Point i had suïcide thought Because i doubted so much about my self. Has someone here a similair experiance i did i hade an extreme case off bpd person Greetz from the netherlands Ps keep up Your good work !!

My Ex BPD used “dreams” a breast “lump” and “I still have some of your stuff here”... Twisted my head all up. Now I know 2.5 years later. Thanks for the great vids.

Yup, my ex 💯💯💯 I went through EVERYTHING you just mentioned. Terrible! So glad that’s over

Trying to heal myself from this BPD, doing hard work being a better person, somehow this video made me feel like i have no hope, this was very generalized, and is not helping people without BPD understand better, it's doing the opposite, people's comments are fueled with anger. I won't play the victim here, I've done bad things in the past too, but damn, we're not monsters.

I am recovering from a text book bpd male. He literally turned my life upside down and inside out. Convinced me in the beginning I was his big love of his life, never really loved his ex he has a daughter with. Told me his sperm didn't work as in his whole life he's never used contraception (two long term partners just one child) and I took a risk thinking at 39 my fertility would be low and him not being fertile while was waiting to get coil fitted....boom I was, pregnant. He doted on me to suffocating levels, would wait on roadside on his way to work till I drove past on way to mine, to set him up for the day, just seeing my face. Then the insecurities set in, jealousy to point we had to turn TV over if he thought anyone male was attractive (even if I didn't!) hearing an exs name of mine he threw up once got that worked up. Then the trauma started, found out a couple months after giving birth that this awful ex he never loved, he'd been telling her he loves her, doesn't want to sign the divorce papers and regrets splitting up and telling her how awful I am and treat him like shit, he'd been keeping her on a back burner all the way through, second option as he's called her because misses living with his daughter. Conned me back with it was his insecurities as could never comprehend how someone he deems so out his league wants him and inevitably I was going to get better. Rode out a further two yrs of hell.... During that time had sex with his ex wife couple of times, wen I said it's over, because of his behavior. Always obsessed with his daughter treated my son totally different, total compulsive lied all the time even looking me in the face blatant. Drink problem past year, he said because of his guilt that he ruined the best thing he ever had aka me! His mother a blatant narcissist who was jealous of me, only interested in his ex because she has total control there.... Has the child all the time, my son once in two and a half years, buys all her clothes... Treats me and my son like shit but my bpd ex had nothing to say about it as is dependent on the mother to bail him out and treat him like a 32 year old boy whose afraid of his own shadow (oh but check this, I'm mentally ill and need to stop diagnosing her son. Pardon me for wanting him to get help, not live in self loathing, financial mess, anxiety, alcoholic, impulsive and wreck less behavior when she wants to keep him dependent on her). Grand finale, his week off work and his birthday (after the year before when he sulked and left us because his mummy had his daughter and wouldn't let him have her because he wanted to spend it with me and his son, saying all he wants on his birthday is both his kids) he tells me the day before, that his mum is taking him and his daughter, nice reward for him drinking all his money away, and my son wasn't allowed to go. She tried blame me for that as well and he had nothing to say other than he thinks that's OK. His week off work, I'd been looking forward to, quality time with our son.... Nope, off with the daughter having a free holiday hundreds of miles away from one, after all his sulking no daughter on his birthday last year. He now has blocked me, not seen his son over 4 weeks at all and he lives five mins away, and after calling me drunk saying he loves me and is his dick small and is he good in bed (obsession that he drained me with) he didn't get my son the next day like he said he would, because he can't face me as cannot take the emotions and emotional pain.... Was seen out less than 48 hrs later by a close friend, on a date (literally gone through his FB to see which from work respond back to him! I know) laughing, joking, looking happy as Larry. No illness excuses total abandonment of a child, all about his feelings and emotions. I had therapy one point, anti depressants.... The roller coaster of being idolised and how much they love you, to total different face and behavior behind your back, send you crazy. He would sit and every 30 seconds say "do you love me" "you won't leave me" over and over and over. Before you know it you don't know yourself, you act out of character...... You are a victim! Run and run, if your in a relationship with one, admit to yourself ultimately they will discard you like you never existed. You will be punished for loving them by being lied about (he's telling people I won't let him see his son!) people turn against you (his extended family blocking me etc when don't even know me, work colleagues) and they will be having sex with someone else. They don't love you, they just need you..even that is about themselves, the sorry I'm so awful I feel guilty is more sorry I got caught not for the content of what I did...because they will do the same over, and over, and over. Real guilt and real sorry a person doesn't repeat.

That 👹 really had me fooled, he wanted to get married live together, I thought he was my soul mate. He would say where both Scorpios where meant to be together what a crock of lies that 👹 told! I pity the next 🎯 boy is she in for a helluva ride through hell!

😂😅🤣 You are so spot on, and you are so comical.

He said he prayed to god for his exes and it always turned out horrible. He said he didnt pray for me Or expect me so its meant to be lol he also said he had a lucid dream i was pregnant so its different cause usually theres no faces in his dreams 😭😭😭

They turn your emotions into a pinball machine with never ending extra lives while they are repeatedly dancing on the edge of a cliff about to fall. I have no doubt you get a lot of flak for the videos on BPDs but I also hope they can begin to understand the effect they have on others. Can you do a video soon on how they affect people who care about them. Love/hate, Knight in shining armour to abuser, guilt to extract more empathy and the blame from not being there to save them. Then it is triggered splitting where they see you as the abusive parent followed by excessive projection and psychotic rage. I think i will stick to tea and biscuits from now on.

You described my ex gf with bpd 9 years relationship, tried to get pregnant and moved in 2 months after meeting her, wish i had know about bpd then, thought ot was depression etc from her childhood sexual abuse, only thing you did not mention was the incredible sex at the beginning. She was younger than me and gorgeous. 3 months nc trying to put my life together again. Keep up the good work and save people from the trail of destruction that they leave behind.

The attachment and enmeshment was crazy..i experienced this with a co-worker who became a friend, a toxic one, it was so draining that I felt like a caretaker to this person. I was so exhausted and pulling the plug and no contact was nessasary, in order to survive and function normally again. You got it, David! Thanks for sharing this video.

Best way I can describe this...like dating the hulk. No physical abuse just instantly flew off the handle.

I have BPD and really enjoyed this video. Relate a lot to the no self identity and mirroring, kinda soul crushing tbh.

I wish you mentioned constant need of validation. My ex-GF used to have that under control I thought but boy was I wrong. When I moved in it turned out she needed that 24/7 and I just couldn't get it. Absolute and total insecurity, too. WTF.

This hits the nail on the head. I've got to be honest and say the person I'm in a "realtionship" with (we've been talking on the phone, messaging and video chatting for months) hasn't been diagnosed with BPD, but I can identify with feeling like having all the life sucked out of me if I'm not right there with them. I go for bike rides several times a week, I come back and she's called several times while I've been out...she just wanted to tell me that she missed me...this happens a lot. We haven't even met face to face (I doubt we will because she's getting creepy with the time and enmeshment thing). I feel like I am drowning emotionally even on the days that I make time for her...

I think my ex's ex was BPD. She immediately started referring to me as her best friend & calling me many times a day. A man she was interested in told her he liked art. She said, "omg WE have so much in common! My best friend studies art history!" (But she doesn't). She met a Jewish man. Told him, "omg! I love Jewish culture! I watch a Holocaust movie every day!" I told her, "that's not Jewish culture; that's Nazi culture".

My bpd girlfriend has dumped me 11 times in 5 months. I can't take this any more. I am drained. She has also just entered the full on user mode. Literally asked me for money this week. Just straight cash. These are SEVERELY messed up people. I wish them nothing but healing, but she refuses to consider she has a problem. It's extremely hard.

Hell no! I Wish him the best, to go find happiness but hell no. How? How? When you stop having feelings and you discovered ...its over! This dude is nothing to me. A stranger! Hell no😂

My bpd ex left me for somone else after 2 years accusing me of texting or seeing someone else. In the whole 2 years it was constantly push and pull, discarding, blocking me, then the tears from her came , how sorry she was blah blah blah and thre cycle repeats. They are so messed up it is absolutely beyond your understanding. Her last words were " burn in fucking hell, now you've lost everything". Twisted teisted human being and i feel sorry for them i really do. Must be hell for them

Great video my friend. Good lord this hit home...m😮👀👀

Hey David. Your Awesome. My x narc would make out we were Bonnie and Clyde. He's just a lunatic.

What I've been trying to figure out is how to tell between someone who is just really insecure (like a lot of people are) vs someone who has a full on personality disorder. I've met quite a few people who like to mirror me and I am reluctant to believe that they all are severely mentally ill.

OMG this describes my ex to perfection. It is him ! I feel sorry for anyone else who has had to go through this as well. I’m at the discarded getting smeared stage now

Most domestic abusers have BPD or borderline traits (narcissists and sociopaths aren't much better). People with BPD...both male and female...are looking for a parent, not a partner. Abandonment anxiety and engulfment fears rule their world.

What I learnt is if there's a person that loves every single thing I like: the same hobbies, the same interests, the same fun activities and they show it in actions - I know it's a red flag! Even if their words match their actions - it's a red flag and it could be just a theatrical performance. Because I know that EVEN IDENTICAL TWINS don't like everything the same.

David, you made me realize I know someone with unyoked borderline

My brother in law’s new wife told Me her ex abused her the second or third time I met her. She was also calling me aunt to her kids! 🙄 It was so weird. I only met her 2-3 times and she was only in my brother in law’s life for only a few months. She got prego, bought a house and married him in less than a year. We have recently gone no contact with them. Their relationship is so stressful and unhealthy.

This just happened to me. This is so accurate its scary.

That you left and and abused them and it was viceversa! Thank you🌸