BOUNCING BACK AFTER PREGNANCY IS NOT 'GOALS'

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How many influencers and celebrities have you seen who 'bounced back'... like a day after giving birth? I know i've seen SO many influencers on Instagram who make sure that in every picture they post with their new baby, you can see just how tiny and flat their stomach is. But it's like... why tho? In my humble opinion, bouncing back or having a flat stomach soon after giving birth is not a goal. It's not an achievement and its not something to be admired.
Yes, it's totally normal for a lot of women to snap back into the shape they were pre-pregnancy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that! However for a lot women, that ISN'T their reality, and no matter how hard they try, their body never looks the same again. Treating bouncing back or having a flat stomach soon after giving birth as a goal or something to be admired, can lead the women who DIDN'T bounce back, to feel like there's something wrong with them, or that their body failed them. When in fact, there is no one way for a woman to look after pregnancy. Some regain their pre-pregnancy figure almost immediately, and others don't. The problem for the ones that don't, is that society and social media make out that there's something wrong with that - when there isn't.
There's nothing wrong with having children, and your body LOOKING like you've had children. No matter what you look like after having your kiddos, know that you are PERFECT.
I love you!
Remember, nourish yourself and love yourself. You deserve to feel amazing.
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@soberlies21 3 года назад

Being mentally and emotionally healthy after pregnancy is goals!

@stephanielange 3 года назад

This 🙌

@euricequeen842 3 года назад

YES!!!! I don't have kids but i have a cousin who just gave birth a month ago and she is pressuring herself to go back to her pre-partum body. I told her that should not be her focus, it should be recovering and being healthy.

@nonenone9892 3 года назад

Agreed! Often this " body positivity" focus neglects looking at the WHOLE person, its still focusing on the body.

@katybug6572 3 года назад

Facts

@sarahdonnelly1271 2 года назад

Amen to this

@pollitachick7906 3 года назад

My grandmother told me that I needed to focus on loosing baby weight when I was 5 days postpartum. I told her that I was going to focus on healing my vagina instead 😂

@cindyi8471 3 года назад

😂 great answer!

@CrystalOliviaLewis 3 года назад

😂😂😂👏👏

@lilykelson2551 3 года назад

you go girl

@sweetstorm7652 3 года назад

😅

@sakshi_mishra07 3 года назад

Nice comeback 😜

@ririimari 3 года назад

This channel is everything women need. Men should see this, too.

@mwikakalima24 3 года назад

💯 ❤️

@kellyoneill189 3 года назад

💯 agree & I show her vids to him.

@evebber4467 3 года назад

I feel like more men should see this as well. They are the ones pushing theses unattainable body standards onto us.

@arthurmorgan5432 3 года назад

hello

@arthurmorgan5432 3 года назад

ehh how did I get here

@kasiavu4629 3 года назад

All men need to see this as well. I snapped at my husband for bringing up how long it took me to "snap back" He was very apologetic, but seeing these influencers losing the weight so quick can warp reality for even our DH

@JustJeannie6369 3 года назад

Yes!! 🙌🏻

@Discordia5 3 года назад

I wouldn’t want to be married to a man that looked at female Instagram influencers. That’s a man child.

@jeongyunho 3 года назад

@@Discordia5 louder for those in the back

@stormskies3861 3 года назад

@@Discordia5 dude omg thank you for saying this! It’s difficult to try to live up to unrealistic expectations.

@lauren8627 3 года назад

I am so glad you stood up for yourself. That's fucked.

@josiej9483 3 года назад

The way that you talk about women gives me so much joy, just celebrating women for being women and loving all their ‘imperfections’ I love it

@justadudewholikestotalk 3 года назад

You talk like womens are perfect angels... this kinda thinling is littlebit toxic and makes women be anble to use men for child support and false rape accusations

@josiej9483 3 года назад

@@justadudewholikestotalk your arms must really hurt from that exceptional reach

@Mattchan78 3 года назад

@@justadudewholikestotalk Troll much?

@Echodolly6 3 года назад

@@justadudewholikestotalk So you read a comment about celebrating women's physical imperfections and not forcing them to be skinny and look like supermodels and somehow thought that meant something about falsely accusing guys of rape and anything to do with child support. How did you reach that conclusion? Who's being toxic in this scenario? Spoiler.... it's not the people commenting about celebrating women no matter how they look.

@CreceTuAlmaTarot 3 года назад

Yes 💯💯💯💯

@MM-cg5mx 3 года назад

I'm literally not even a minute into this video and I honestly love how it's started - "society tells women have a baby but don't look like you had a baby". So much truth in that one sentence

@edurnegrijalba6464 3 года назад

I’m a physiotherapist specialist in pelvic floor issues, pre and post partum rehab. And it’s absolutely insane the amount of girls that expect to go back to their “normal” body and they feel really ashamed because of their bodies. We have to chage this! In social media and in real life!

@TheMonkiBrothers 3 года назад

But if we do snap back why can’t we be happy about it ? I did with both . I just carried baby I didn’t over indulge etc and within 3 weeks my tummy was flat and now I’m feeling like I can’t be happy about it . Influencers annoy me there one fitness girl who let her self go during pregnancy and promotes it ok it ok now she struggling from doing so and now saying that’s ok to , it’s like go away . If it weren’t for you people porting a roller coaster of things people my actually listen to them selves and know them selves for once instead of following other strangers

@edurnegrijalba6464 3 года назад

@@TheMonkiBrothers that’s the point!!! Everyone is different and postpartum will be different in each of them. And that’s ok! It’s normal!! We have to normalize it!! It’s perfect to snap back too!! But it’s also normal to need so much more time to get there. And some times they will never get there again. The most important is to be HEALTHY AND TAKE CARE ABOUT THEIR SELF.

@mysterylovescompany2657 3 года назад

No-one's saying you can't feel good about it, she's saying that it shouldn't be treated as a Zero Sum situation where if you're a woman who doesn't snap back, the message is that you've failed. Stephanie's point is that making anything about birth recovery into a competitive or prestige environment is deeply unwise, & something which can further damage women in an already incredibly vulnerable time. She's just campaigning for a more realistic representation of the spread of experiences, that's all. If you snapped back, you _know_ you did good. You don't need more affirmation, from this one video. But women who couldn't or can't _do_ need recognition & validation, for their more common but less represented experience.

@soberlies21 3 года назад

On that note I hope more and more woman open up about prolapses, I had no idea what it was even after I had them! Normalize pelvic floor health 👏🏻

@kadzo6614 3 года назад

People should be left alone on their preferences!!

@closetrocker81 3 года назад

When I had my child and was worried about still having my belly. My Health Visitor said "it takes you nine months to make a baby, give yourself 9 months or a little more to recover your body" it was one of the best bits of advice I got concerning my body.

@megan7506 3 года назад

Just growing a human and delivering that human into the world IS goals.

@stephanielange 3 года назад

🙌🙌

@htesfaye9521 3 года назад

i love this comment

@samanthabrock9960 3 года назад

Very nicely put 👏💜💜💜

@sluttymctits4496 3 года назад

Except for those of us who don't want kids. 😉

@illusionist1244 3 года назад

yeah like the world isnt populated enough

@parker-mother-of-fur-beasts 3 года назад

I don't even have kids, and I love this content. Feeling like a failure after bringing life into this world is not what we need as women. ❤️

@orlalouise8477 3 года назад

I’m not a mum (yet) but I’m so glad that people like you exist on RU-vid Steph 💕 10 years ago magazines would have made me think I needed to “bounce back” in the future. I’m so grateful I can go into motherhood one day with excellent role models like you to make me feel normal about my body!

@helenfellows3082 3 года назад

Being older this definitely was a thing in my 20's its so refreshing seeing this content now

@yumzaali9465 3 года назад

"This is the only body I'm ever going to have and I refuse to let anybody shame me for it." I can live happy with the help of only this one line now 💕

@bcyes409 2 года назад

I’m a postpartum personal trainer and I help my clients focus on getting their strength back because of the symptoms that can develop after pregnancy such as diastasis recti, organ prolapses, pelvic floor dysfunctions, back pain, shoulder pain, neck pain, incontinence etc. That is important and we should talk more about that, the reality of what happens, not to be ashamed and find resources. Pelvic floor therapist should be in every hospital just like lactation consultants. By the way getting back into shape doesn’t mean get back to the gym as soon as possible!!! Let your body heal, let the uterus and internal organs go back to normal which is about 6 weeks and enjoy bonding with your baby ❤️

@Smolstarfish 3 года назад

My mom throughout my childhood was always so proud of her body. She gave birth naturally to my sister at 8lbs, me the runt at barely 5lbs, and my bowling ball of a brother at 10lbs. She is a TINY woman. She has her pooch, stretch marks, and loose skin to this day and has never once felt ashamed of it and she absolutely glows in my eyes. Mothers are beautiful and deserve to be celebrated! Having a baby is HARD, whether you had your baby by c section or naturally. Both are super hard on the body. Please be kind, patient, and loving to yourselves moms!

@talienatte5557 3 года назад

just because a person got knocked up and had a child that doesn’t equate to them being beautiful, neither internally nor externally.

@Joee003 2 года назад

Wow, great for your mom

@misschocoholic2126 2 года назад

This! My mom gave birth to all of us 7 siblings naturally and she's one of the toughest woman physically and mentally. I strive to be like her.

@Boultbeeable 2 года назад

@@talienatte5557 ooo sourpuss

@slotheatworld Год назад

@@talienatte5557 No one said that. You just sound jealous.

@Amy19959 3 года назад

Can we also talk about how pregnancy is INCREDIBLY draining on the body, and people who have just had a baby need to nourish themselves with food and rest?? Underfeeding yourself and over-exercising after pregnancy is TERRIBLE treatment of your body. You are allowed to look like you had a baby, and to rest and eat as much as you need!

@zmunchkin 3 года назад

i think people forget that having a baby is traumatic so to return to the person you were before the pregnancy, both physically and/or mentally, is pretty unlikely.

@nadinev9854 3 года назад

Not to mention so many women having postpartum depression

@f0rkk 2 года назад

@@zmunchkin it's not actually the process of having a baby in itself that is traumatic, it has more to do with the way we're treated during birth. look into obstetric violence, along with how midwives and doulas improve birth outcomes.

@jeanshelbybooks4154 3 года назад

The model who looks like she’s going to drop the baby makes me sad. She looks the opposite of being a proud new mother.

@wittysass3812 2 года назад

That's because she took the photo with the purpose of showing off her hot bod while the baby is merely a prop, as you can see by the way it is dangling off one arm. Truly shameful and sad

@belaynshemengistu7590 2 года назад

Yeah, did she really have a baby? I wonder...

@carmyha 3 года назад

"the belly can stay as long as it wants as far as I'm concerned" Just love you for this sentence

@LORITOTH29 2 года назад

This actually made me burst into tears hearing women speak about their bodies that way. I have an 8yr old. I had her in my first year of college. So young. I thought i bounced back immediately after giving birth (like my stomach dropped and deflated immediately that it was COMMENTED ON BY THE STAFF AND MY EX) due to my age. But all this pressure to keep a “Normal” postpartum body has been stressing me out and im actually terrified to get pregnant again!!! Im terrified and its all thanks to society and the pressure BOTH MEN AND WOMEN PUT ON US! Men are the worst tho not gonna lie! All my life ive heard guys talk sh!t about how they women’s pu$$y is gross and never the same after giving birth, how nasty their bodies are and how after their girl gives them their kids they want to trade her for a better model. The make comments about leaving their partner if they dont look good post-baby and work on their appearance. Meanwhile, there is something that only ELECTIVE SURGERY can fix- i dont see him saying he’ll work 3 jobs to pay for those elective surgeries to help her out IF she choses to have things “put back like before”. The comments made me cry 💔💔💔. I have body dysmorphia so im unaware of what i look like and can only go by comments from ppl. I cant figure out my own facial features if u paid me. I also know the comments i have said about my body- when i feel bloated or tired. Its hard disease to explain but my internal feelings make me see something else in the mirror (i think). So the whole “having another baby” scares me to death.

@RedRoseSeptember22 Год назад

Those type of men are the literal scum of the Earth and aren't mature enough to deal with a *real* woman. Nor do they deserve one, especially if she goes through all that to give him children!!!

@ashrose6355 3 года назад

Its sad to see that women hate themselves after pregnancy. Even though I've never seen them, I know they're beautiful in the inside and outside.

@krysdf 2 года назад

As a mother of 5 and naturally skinny my entire life, I feel the need to share. With 1 child I gained over 60 lbs and took about a year to go back to my normal size, with another I was in my low cut jeans the whole pregnancy and fit back into regular fit/sizes 4 days later... The rest of the kids were middle ground... But with all of them I didnt over or under eat. Just ate when I was hungry and more fruits veggies..etc. But still a normal daily food intake.. All my children were 8lbs+ so healthy and good sized.. But yes women need to realize that bodys change all ways.. Oh and for added information, I may be the same size in general but i will always have stretch marks, cellulite, looser skin, baby pooch..to some degree. I absolutely love these videos! Sooo refreshing to see this content type . keep up the great work!

@Kealaunie 3 года назад

I needed this. Currently a month postpartum and been feeling awful about myself. I set unrealistic expectations for myself to “bounce back” by now and it’s been getting to me that I haven’t. Literally in tears seeing all the beautiful ladies you showed postpartum. All these ladies are still so beautiful even with postpartum bellies/bodies and it’s completely normal, and is a reminder I needed to see. Thank you ❤️

@stephanielange 3 года назад

You are beautiful 😍 do you have any idea how amazing you are to have brought a whole new being into this world with your body? You’re amazing 🔥🔥

@samanthabrock9960 3 года назад

I promise you that bouncing back isn't everything, read my comment and you'll understand that you are as beautiful as anybody else, also what you've done is the most beautiful thing in the world, you brought a new life into the world that will bring so much love with it and that's what we really need, more love 💜💜💜

@amandas7124 3 года назад

Sending a virtual hug. Try looking in the mirror holding baby. You are beautiful and you created another beautiful, always see that. Never feel ashamed of any part of you, you are a beautiful Mom.

@hollyl5702 3 года назад

This first little bit of time (like 3 months) is all about survival and learning and loving your baby. Feed yourself and care for yourself in all ways because you need to stay your best so that you can give to your baby. You aren't even recovered from giving birth a month in! Give yourself rest and love. It took me about a year to fit back in my clothes and that's okay. If that's what happens for you that's okay too. In the grand scheme of things babies are only babies for a short amount of time. Focus on your little because that's what's really important. Not what anyone else thinks of your body. 💜

@estylizmi 3 года назад

Am also 10 months postpartum and felt just the way you did watching this. It's a comfort that babies are just so darn cute at this age.

@kristinarusnok3283 3 года назад

Thank you for the supportive tone and for the passion you put into making moms feel better about themselves. I just wanted to add that it is not just the social media world. I myself got body shamed by my husband's 93 year old grand aunt for not having a flat stomach after giving birth. I think this obsession has much deeper roots.

@NikkiFCO 3 года назад

The thumbnail alone says Emily what’s-her-face needs to focus less on her body and more on holding her baby properly.

@angelica534 3 года назад

Literally it looks like shes holding an accessory 😭 not a tiny delicate human

@Asp4672 3 года назад

Lmao she got roasted for days when she shared that photo. She had to turn comments off.

@jadenpetersburg1431 3 года назад

Please don’t mum shame. It’s as bad as body shaming.

@allie6883 3 года назад

I understand that she has her own bikini line to run & promote but I really think that posting a picture while holding her own baby like a bag of groceries for the purpose of marketing her own clothing brand was just not it.

@NikkiFCO 3 года назад

@@jadenpetersburg1431 I will absolutely mom shame that.

@Chicharrera. 2 года назад

I was pregnant at age 37 and gave birth at 38. I gained 24 kgs. I lost most of the weight but the last 9 kgs just by eating healthy. The last 9kgs I had to run. As I was running I decided I might as well train for a race. I picked the Sydney City-to-Surf (14kms). I ran the race a year to the month after te birth of my son and finally lost the 9kgs. But I had to train real hard for the race. I was proud of myself. I gave myself a full year and did it with healthy eating and running 5 times a week for 6 months.

@shannahill7 3 года назад

I had a girl I went to high school with be very successful in being a Beach Body Coach. She was a cheerleader all through school. Always very athletic. Her husband played pro baseball and they already had a nice little nest egg. She started coaching and made a lot of money from it. When she would have her babies (she has 3 kids), she would have her, "before" pictures in her sales pitches be literally a week after she gave birth and her, "after" would be 6 months later...abs and all. She did this with all three pregnancies. I would get FURIOUS every single time because she would insinuate she, "let herself go" and got her body through Beach Body.

@shannahill7 3 года назад

@@anaj9346 She lied and insinuated she gained weight...not trying to lose baby weight. She didn't mention she was pregnant in most of the posts. That's the problem I have. I'm not hating on anyone.

@HIMpotter 3 года назад

@@shannahill7 sounds like she missed an opportunity. She probably would have made more money of she had mentioned she was pregnant & she used her program to loose the baby weight.

@shannahill7 3 года назад

@@anaj9346 you clearly missed the point of Stephanie's video(s). It is about loving who you are and not comparing women which I never Did. I was calling out someone for being a liar.

@dawnsherratt2317 3 года назад

It's so sad that we are conditioned to feel bad about looking like we've had a baby isn't it!? Society says we glow and look beautiful while we're pregnant, even admiring our lovely round bellies, but the minute that baby is out society says we look fat n tired! And that incredible belly that grew a human being now has to look like it never did! It's sad even balloons don't look the same after they've been blown up and deflated and nor do we expect them to but society still expects women to show no signs of being stretched out like that for months! We need to be much kinder to ourselves and others ❣️❣️

@littleflor2975 3 года назад

Who is this awful society who keeps saying these things?! Stay away from that person!

@nadinev9854 3 года назад

@@littleflor2975 almost all men 😂

@erin9110 2 года назад

Thank you

@dawnsherratt2317 2 года назад

@@erin9110 💕

@ruthb1940 3 года назад

I haven't even had a baby and I feel like this helped me get over postpartum body goals lol loved this video stephanie 🙂

@stephanielange 3 года назад

Aw I love that ❤️

@michellekalski8823 2 года назад

Love that you are promoting these very positive sentiments towards women’s bodies. Women’s bodies of all types are beautiful…. And let’s start glorifying the beautiful bodies of mothers! It’s an amazing miracle to carry and birth a child. ♥️

@ChimereTrielle 3 года назад

Dear mamas, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL THE WAY YOU ARE! It makes me sad that we as a society have grown to hate ourselves for what is NATURAL! Keep loving on these women girl! I know you are healing someone every single day.

@nadinev9854 3 года назад

@FunFactFunFactFunFact no it’s men

@sinsiew 3 года назад

Thank you. After having two children, I thought I felt confident with my body. But I'm watching this video and I'm crying. I didn't realize that I was hiding my complexes so deeply. Thank you. Now it's easier for me to fully accept my body ❤️

@becka4 3 года назад

I’ve not even had a child, but when I see celebs posting these type of pics with their baby my mind just 🤯!!

@nicole71047 3 года назад

Same

@laurahero8778 3 года назад

Admiring your body that held a new human inside is *GOALS!* Love yourself as much as you love your child.

@TheMunchyelena 3 года назад

I love that you bring awareness to this! It's not right. There's nothing wrong with weight, extra weight. I think age has a lot to do with it. I had my first at 17 and within a week never looked pregnant...I was still a kid. My next was at 30 I was putting on weight already and I really struggled with that. Woman need to embrace their bodies no matter what they are. I'm trying to do that.

@jennyh.2381 3 года назад

Age has nothing to with it.

@hollyl5702 3 года назад

@@jennyh.2381 it does in that it is easier for a younger body to bounce back than an older one in general. But even within that, every person will vary and every pregnancy is different

@dammar117 3 года назад

Oh yes, it does. It is a factor. Not the only factor, but given same lifestyles, the younger one will fare better. A young body, with more collagen, higher metabolism and better muscle tone (exclusive of exercise, just counting the natural advantages of youth), will "snap back" better than an older one. Mine are 8 years apart, I gained no weight with the first (meaning PP weight... I always find it ridiculous that everybody uses pregnancy weight as an indicator, when the baby, the fluids, the enlarged uterus make up most of it!). On the other hand, I had no access to a supportive bra the first time, so that pregnancy did more damage there. Youth is not everything, but you can't deny its physical advantages.

@alainakirchner5815 3 года назад

When you're feeding another human being and also being a woman with hormones, and the stress and pain that goes with that carrying a child, your body is absolutely going to change, you're 100% correct we should be proud of it, even without being pregnant, we shouldn't be a shamed of it at all.

@nadiarambles 3 года назад

I am not a mother, but this is my favourite video that you've made so far. Moms are absolute SUPER HEROS for having & raising us. They should never be made to feel ugly when recovering from one of the toughest physical and mental things a human body can go through (making another human). Any moms out there are powerhouses, thank you for all you do.

@lotte90 3 года назад

Growing a human is an amazing gift and I never ever want to make myself feel like I’m any less for not “snapping back”. Thank you Steph❤️❤️❤️ Spread the word!

@siobhanevans3546 3 года назад

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I cried watching this. I’ve had 3 children and have hated my stomach for years….I am otherwise thin and fit but my stomach still carries evidence of pregnancy and childbirth. I went so far as to have a consult with a plastic surgeon but opted not to have surgery. Watching this video made me feel so good about myself. I had 3, 9 pound babies and did not have any form of pain relief ……completely natural. That is what I will take pride in.

@its6104 3 года назад

I’m not a mom and I am incredibly young (also never plan on having kids), but I am so glad I am here. I have followed your channel for ages and I just want to say that you were and continue being an incredible support for me in my self love journey. I am so happy that I found you all those years ago and that I am still here to watch your channel grow into a safe space for all these women. I just want to say that you are an incredible person doing an incredible job and that we are lucky to have you on this earth.

@Nonyah123 2 года назад

lol incredibly young? if youre old enough to type youre not incredibly young

@madi4481 Год назад

you will either change your mind when you see no point in living without children or be incredibly miserable. Said every very young person that later saying so they'd be happy never having children LOL

@ewaz23 3 года назад

I haven't given birth and my body looks exactly like yours after giving birth so as you were saying we are all different and should embrace our uniqueness

@BK-ew7pg 2 года назад

The realest comment in here 💕

@rachelyoung834 2 года назад

Thank you for this.. I had my 8th baby last year, I’m 36, I’ve had three emergency sections and so my body is pretty torn now. Im also a full time nurse, so life is incredibly busy, I often feel bad when I look in the mirror and see how bad my body looks now, and things like seeing celebs “springing back” doesn’t help! But my husband is so supportive and he always reminds me how beautiful I am and how I look is perfect.. this needs talking about more!

@Cuteemogirl94 Год назад

Congratulations, never forget what your body went through to bring 8 wonderful souls to this world. I'm currently pregnant with my second child and this pregnancy doesn't feel as great so far...I hopfe the puking goes away soon.

@mayah223 3 года назад

You're so amazing, stephanie! You make a lot of girls and women feel better about themselves!😊💓 I don't know why society expects women to look skinny and totally flawless after giving birth! C'mon! Giving birth is not easy, so what if she's fat or has stretch marks!

@sarabaq1960 3 года назад

To be honest, when you mentioned the c-tuck, I immediately had the thought that I need to find out how I can do that. Even after watching an entire video about loving our bodies as they are and after spending the last 10 months growing to love my post partum body, I still had the snap reaction to "fix" my body. I've come a long way, but I need to work on loving myself under any circumstances.

@woolypuffin392 2 года назад

I am sure you look lovely and you should be proud of it!

@enchantunes9493 3 года назад

it's so sad to see queens hating themselves :( like pls all of us deserve the best!! Love yourself angels 💜

@evebber4467 3 года назад

I swear you are the body positivity influencer we ALL need. Children or not! After watching your videos I am so pumped! I can take on the world

@tossefin 3 года назад

I had my son quite young and I was very slim to begin with. My body "bounced back" with a week or two. However, now I'm older and have gained some weight from not really taking care of myself. If I were to have a baby today my body would definitely react differently, I'm sure of it. Hopefully, I'd be wise enough to give myself grace. Thank you for these types of videos 💕

@annhershey8111 3 года назад

You are a doll for what you do. honestly, I love this channel. Someone needs to speak the truth ! I am 53 and I lived this fear for so many years and not one woman spoke out. I am so happy that their are voices like yours out there for all of the younger generations. Thank you !

@Virtella. 3 года назад

It's this kind of mindset and positivity that we need to surround ourselves with rather than unrealistic expectations. I found this video (and this community) so uplifting!!😘😘🙌💕💕💕

@codedresilience5239 2 года назад

Aww this was great. I’m 9 weeks postpartum and I’m doing all that I can to tame my mind from destroying my self image. With all that a body goes through to birth a child, I’m surprised people aren’t split into two.

@Simplelivingslowliving 3 года назад

Here I am , at 37 weeks pregnant and my body is cooking up a whole ass human. I will take my time to heal this body thank you very much.

@stephanielange 3 года назад

Thissss 🙌👊❤️

@Simplelivingslowliving 3 года назад

@@stephanielange ❤

@missmayhem9757 2 года назад

I'm glad you exist. I'm so sick of this toxic society expecting women to perpetually look like we're 18. The infantilisation, sexualisation and insane beauty standards are just the start. Mums are also subject to so much more pressure and judgement than their male counterparts for how they parent as well as how they look.

@Joelswinger34 2 года назад

I agree, and what is even the reward for looking perfect? Maybe mire men will be attracted to us but unless they are kind, good men, that doesn't helo us much

@Takearisk05 3 года назад

Excellent one.... I had an emergency C section and oh didn't bounce back in a month. More like in 6 months. As my grandma said...as many months you have been carrying him, that many months you will need to get back. It is horrible what society, media, social platforms etc expect from woman .even.worse that many will do it....

@joannaholden943 2 года назад

My struggle with my post baby body is all the super crunchy health mamas I know who after have had literally twice as many babies as me have whipped their bodies back into shape. Some of them look like they've never had a baby after SIX KIDS! 😱😭 So thank you, Stephanie, for reminding me that even if I'm not there, I'm not ugly. ❤️ Don't stop making these videos

@deborahperez3625 3 года назад

Thank you very much for posting this, I’m 6 months pregnant with my second child. I have been feeling trapped in my body and just not liking how my body is looking. I do have to be grateful for the life Im able to give and know I can always do something about it. Just thank you! 🙏 from the bottom of my heart ❤️ 🥺 you posted it in a perfect time.

@traceyseymour2652 3 года назад

You are a darling! I am 57 but bless you for making younger girls feel worthy. Keep up the good work ❤

@hugannoy4751 3 года назад

"This is my body. This is the only body I'll ever gonna have" 👏👏👏👏 That is the sentence that helped me also... with my self esteem issues. I say it every time my brain wants to think negativ about myself.

@nicoyabeauty 3 года назад

I’m 10 months pp with my 4th child and I’m 38. It’s not so easy shedding my baby weight this time and I’ve been feeling down lately. Glad I saw this. Thank you.

@madi4481 Год назад

You have no idea how lucky you are to have 4 children and are envy of others.

@Refresheddwelling 3 года назад

Thank you for this ❤ I'm a little over 6 months pregnant and already feel the pressure of bouncing back. Pre-pregnancy I was a fitness competitor where all I've known and focused on was how my body looked and how lean I could get/stay. Being pregnant brought on so much body dismorphia but I've finally started to love my new body and the fact that I am healthy for my son. If I "bounce back" it will be simply due to the fact that I love fitness and will be eager to train hard again.

@stephanielange 3 года назад

And even if you don’t bounce back, your after baby body will be just as amazing!!

@stephanielange 3 года назад

Ps congratulations!! 👶 ❤️

@Refresheddwelling 3 года назад

@@stephanielange thank you! ❤

@Simplysimplysimply 3 года назад

35 weeks pregnant, and I needed to hear all of this. Thanks for helping mommas love their momma bodies❤❤❤

@tammy_vip 3 года назад

It makes me so angry that society and the power of the media mean that women feel disgusting after bringing new life into this world. 😭 If the pressure to look good steals a woman’s happiness and therefore impacts a woman’s precious time with her new baby for even an hour it’s an hour too long. The inner critic is loud at times and with all hormones etc I imagine it’s even worse after pregnancy so SOCIETY - EASE UP!! Ps. You absolutely rock Stephanie. Keep doing what you’re doing. It’s crucial work.

@JasmineHoltze 3 года назад

Thank you so much for this. I had two kids in under two years and the pressure is impossible to be a 35 year old mum and lose all that weight and tone right back up as if nothing happened. I am a single mum of two beautiful Autistic children and I've learnt from them it's okay to be perfectly me instead of perfect.

@llamasugar5478 3 года назад

Remember, beauties of ALL shapes, sizes, ages, colors, and life stages: The Beauty Industry depends on your insecurities for survival-this is why they’re ever working to create, intensify, and sustain them!! Go ahead and buy the products you like, but PLEASE don’t buy their hurtful messages.

@alexandrak4180 3 года назад

The comments in the beginning of the video are so heartbreaking (I think if you do this with your other videos is going to be great because it shows we are not alone in the pain most of us feel). Thank you for making this videos, I'm sure you are helping a lot of people by posting it ! I had a conversations with my best friend about that and she said she is afraid to have a baby because her body would change and she does not want that which is very sad considering the fact that women are literally bringing another human life into this planet. This on his own is beyond magic. Let's normalize the NORMAL !

@peytonp.3096 3 года назад

These videos have helped me so much mentally. I was struggling with my appearance the last couple years and was finding flaws about myself I didn’t see before social media. Thank you! For reminding us, social media isn’t real and that we’re all beautiful. ❤️

@iwantabiscuitplz 3 года назад

YES to all of this. Just yes. I've never given birth and I am not sure I ever will, but I really appreciate you making this. It's so refreshing to hear a different, REALISTIC narrative about postpartum women's bodies, and women's bodies in general. Thank you!

@jesikan4285 3 года назад

Alot of celebs are underweight so thats how they " bounce" back as a mom of 2 it really sucks that society expects us to have no stretch marks or loose skin its totally normal and worth it

@raeanna451 3 года назад

I needed this. 33 weeks with my third (3 kids in 5 years) and I was staring at myself in the mirror feeling depressed and puffy thinking about how I won't be able to "bounce back" as fast.

@ph283 3 года назад

4 years after labor and I haven't "snapped back" its not in my genes. And not in my cards being a single mom. Hard process to accept that this is just what I look like now.

@05Gigi 3 года назад

Like, like, like! I don’t have children and don’t really want any but I’m still so here for the postpartum mums, rocking their incredible, life-giving bodies!

@stevengrantods3803 3 года назад

Even tho I’m very young to have a baby, these kinds of videos has improved my self confidence and how I view how my body looks. Honestly without you i think I would be very very unhappy with my body, so thank you for everything you’ve done to me! I love you💋

@ZiniaGutierrez 2 года назад

Thank you for this video, it literally made me tear up, I'm struggling accepting my post baby body after 1 year of giving birth, and when you said that we were amazing no matter what, it just got me. THANK YOU!

@briannagoldenstein3832 3 года назад

Thanks so much for saying this! I’m 5 months postpartum and it has been a STRUGGLE to accept my new body. Can’t tell you how much it helped me to hear this :) you’re the best! ❤️💕😘

@summer9414 3 года назад

Thank you I have had 4 children and always hated my belly, stretch marks, and my pouch from my c-section. Due to social media and celebrities looking phenomenal after child birth. But listening to you I actually feel much better about my body. So thank you 😊💓

@Suzy-nh1hy 3 года назад

Thank you stephanie for this kind of information, it helps a lot of people to see and realize that we are pushing ourselves so much for something like "beauty standards" when in fact we are all beautiful in our own unique ways..you go girl, also, this will help a lot of those teens who are still figuring themselves out

@monicacespedes4406 3 года назад

Girl, you have a MISSION! Your videos are like free therapy! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!

@angryotter9129 3 года назад

I’m glad RU-vid recommended this. I “bounced back” after my first baby without doing anything, so I assumed that would happen with my second. It didn’t and it’s been pretty upsetting sometimes. Now I’m trying to get back in shape with exercise and diet changes and I know I’m never going to look the same, but it’s incredibly rewarding to feel stronger and healthier because of my efforts, instead of some magical “bouncing back.”

@unordinarilyblessedlife 3 года назад

If people hate you on this, I don't know anymore. This is FANTASTIC! This is REAL!

@Crystal_skys 3 года назад

I love her content!! It literally makes me feels so confident even though this specific one doesn’t apply to me it still helps to see that celebs are people to and we all have flaws and insecurities. Just remember you are beautiful and if nobody had told you today you are perfect ☺️

@veronikaderii9119 3 года назад

Thank you so much for recording those videos!!! I gained 30kg(60lbs) after my pregnancy and I’m huge now. All my belly is covered in stretch marks. Sometimes I hate myself, I cry, I just want my pre pregnancy body back and I always forget that this body gave me my son. Thank you ; you’re amazing

@annierichardson530 3 года назад

I’m so appreciative of all your positivity and realism 💗 As someone who struggles with body image / in recovery from an ED and who is in the process starting a family, your channel has been so incredibly encouraging in so many ways 🥰

@6livingmybestlife 3 года назад

I love you are bringing awareness to these topics! I have 5..my 1st 3 were girls..it took a yr to get my body where I wanted it. My hips got wider, my stomach was wider, I put on 80-100 lbs w ea..half was swelling that took months to go away and then I had to lose the weight. Then at 40 I got pregnant w twin boys. Shockingly I only put 20 lbs on w them. When I gave birth for the 1st time my body went back to normal 2 mo later BUT a yr later I became pre menopausal and all of a sudden put 80 lbs on. Now due to that situation, lacking hormones, I can't lose the weight to save my life. When I lost my job to covid I lost my health insurance, so I'm on my own for now. I have tried everything and nothing is working. It sucks and I'm struggling with it cuz I'm not used to being so heavy. I don't feel sexy, cute, etc. And it's def a struggle. I love my body cuz it brought 5 beautiful lives into the world but I don't love it physically and that's my struggle. Thankfully I'm old enough to know better than to compare myself to others but it still sucks.

@dianthus9266 3 года назад

This “achievement” is Fuelling EDs

@petraz.6631 3 года назад

I am 30yo, not interested in having a baby till I find the right guy, yet here I am watching your videos and you know what is the saddest part? Because of all the social media and celebrities having flat belly after giving birth I have always thought that that is genuinly how it works!!! How crazy is that?!

@dovahkiinchickennugget4182 3 года назад

My mother was very tall and had tons of room for my sisters and I while she was pregnant so she snapped back almost instantly after giving birth. I'm short and have little room for any future children so I'm really worried about the changes that my body will face once I've delivered.

@meganhikito1033 3 года назад

My mom is short and she had a c-section with both me and my brother, but she still looks young even though she's over 50. But she's naturally slim and loses weight fast. She's been exercising for about 15 years now which surely helps her look how she does now, but after pregnancies she didn't focus on bouncing back. Yet still all is left after them is a small pouch on her belly. On the other hand, I'm slightly taller than her but my body is totally different. I got most of my genes from my dad's side (apart from the height), I quickly gain weight, it's very hard to lose it and on top of that I have problems with my thyroid. I would hope that if I get pregnant it'd be as "problemless" as hers. I'm sure no pregnancy is easy but when I talk with her about my fear of pregnancy and what can happen to my body because of it, she says I'm overreacting. I find it hard to think differently, I've read so many stories of what can happen during/after pregnancy but never met a person who would get what I mean. I feel like there's too little reliable information on what can happen to woman's body because of pregnancy and when it happens, mothers are left alone, misunderstood, having problems with finding a specialist who could help.

@kenziewood3618 2 года назад

I randomly saw one of these videos from this RU-vidr not expecting much but I love these videos because they are so good and they actually show the real truth.

@CC-hq3hf 3 года назад

I needed this... my daughter will turn 2 soon and I feel disgusting. I am still 30 pounds heavier than I was before my pregnancy. Thanks for making me feel better!

@localtraveler3368 2 года назад

I’m child free but I work in a beauty clinic as a doctor, and like 70% of people who go to the clinic for my slimming program has just recently given birth. I always turn them down and tell them to focus on recovery first, some of them go to other doctors that are willing.

@carmenmonserrat3328 3 года назад

Wow! So good you are putting this out there! I feel it is important to view exercise as a lifestyle, not a destination. We also need to be mindful of how we move around. We can't jump back to any exercise program; without regard to the core and pelvic floor restoration first.

@mrsmmiles9834 3 года назад

Thank you. Thank you so much for this. I am 36 weeks with my first, and have already been stressing with my postpartum body. I didn’t gain much weight during pregnancy, but have stressed about stretch marks, extra skin, all that stuff. The stress and pressure put o women and their perfect bodies is insane. This is exactly what I needed to hear.

@likeanurse3185 3 года назад

You shouldn’t be bouncing back but bouncing forward! With the new amazing body you gained from creating your bundle of joy! Hands up to all the mums 🙌🏼

@ambersackett2663 3 года назад

I have two kidos and my body changed and I hated myself for a long time. I have stretch marks and ALOT of them. I didnt understand how women on tv and social media didnt change at all after babies and I thought something was wrong with me. Vidoes like this are so needed. Thank you so much❤

@mrs6771 2 года назад

WE NEED MORE PEOPLE WHO MAKE SENSE LIKE THIS YOUNG LADY . GREAT JOB !

@jackalopedesignz2009 2 года назад

I am so glad you say these kinds of things. It’s hard not to fall into your own mind body shaming yourself. You are such a blessing! Thank you!

@asjeable 3 года назад

Thank you for your videos. It make me less insecure about aging. I am 53 and have to get used to look older and having a hard time with it. So again...thank you so much! Greetings and all the love from Holland x

@emjl6082 3 года назад

I'm 3 months post partum and I feel fine in my body, that is until my mother or some other random person asks me what I'm doing to try "lose the baby weight". Um nothing? I'm breast feeding its way more important I'm nourishing both of us and not focusing on dieting or losing weight!

@neria1372 3 года назад

YEAH ! I hope you inspire her as well.

@samanthabrock9960 3 года назад

I've given birth 4 times, I started young lol, my kids are 20, 15, and 7. I was happy that after giving birth I could wear jeans home, however one of my sons was stillborn, so bringing home a flat stomach DOESN'T MATTER in the least. I'd rather have been able to bring that son home. I'm also 6 feet tall and I have stretch marks & cellulite and I don't care! I have 3 beautiful children and a beautiful two year old grandson 💜💜💜

@DanielleNicoleMakeup 3 года назад

I'm so sorry that happened. I think that is another great point. Not only be grateful for you and your family's health and happiness, but sometimes miscarriages and stillborns happen out of nature. Nothing our bodies did wrong. It just wasn't meant to be. Bless you and your family 💞

@anaacosta1851 3 года назад

Love this so much.. My body changed so much after my first pregnancy I was uncomfortable . I wasn't allowing my husband touched my belly or tell me I was beautiful, I stopped him so many times, until one day he said... Stop hating your body, your belly and your stretch marks, they are beautiful to me, I love them, your belly carried a HUMAN, your marks shows how strong you are. Just let me love you! I CRIED when he told me that 15 years ago.. and I'm crying now just typing it... I have the best husband in the world. I still struggle some days, but I know he loves me regardless of how I look.

@monspat3088 3 года назад

This make me think a lot about people against abortion. A lot of time I hear the sentence "just put the baby on adoption after". Is not that simple: having a baby change your life forever - not just your body, but even your job or your social life.

@emilysisk5163 3 года назад

I love this. I had two kids and I’m so tired of being freakin starving because everyone said I’m a young mom and shouldn’t be left with “mom bod”. And I’m lucky… like no, I’m doing the most because I feel this pressure

@Rozolle 3 года назад

Thanks to youtube's algorithm, I was recommended this channel. Thank you :D You are so very down to Earth and so sensible. Thank you for your videos and for your efforts to bring people back to reality and to show what it is to be a real human being. The fact that you do not just talk about it but also share your own experiences and videos and pictures is amazing. Thank you once again :)

@stephanielange 3 года назад

Ahh thank you!! ❤️🙌

@Angel_Clark 3 года назад

Preach babe!💖 I’m not pregnant yet and I’ve already caught myself stressing about bouncing back! You’re right, there’s nothing to worry about!🥰💖 Post baby bodies are just as beautiful as pre baby bodies💖