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Second story: Boyfriend kicks her out of bed every morning but when she suggests a couch for her to sleep on, he says "I'm not contributing because you're the one who wants it". Don't date someone who has less than zero respect for your comfort or even your basic health needs (8hrs sleep a night). Dump him.
i was like “okay get a pull out couch and black out curtains so he can sleep on it or yall can alternate between the two or an air conditioner and two twin beds so he can pull it slightly away from your side so he can get a good nights sleep.” and then i heard that line of “im not paying for it” and was like okay hes just a man baby who wants you to cater to him. kick him out.
She clarified a bunch in the updates that COMPLETELY flips the script. He´s been the one sleeping on the inflatable mattress for the past couple weeks, magically the cat hasn´t destroyed it so far. He asked to trade for a couple days, this was posted after the 2nd night. He supported the couch purchase, but can´t pay his share until the end of the month. He told her to buy it now and he´ll pay her then if she can´t manage with the mattress until then. Plus some other things that should´ve been in the original post. Don´t think this relationship´s gonna last because he´s seeing their age difference real clear in just a few months of living together.
@@cats1970 Okay thats crazy how just picking the details to tell can have you not lie at all but still misrepresent the story entirely... Tho now he's a bad option because of the huge age difference instead, so it at the end of the day things turn around to the same result anyway. Why did he even date someone so much younger than him in the first place if he wasn't going to acknoedlge the obvious life experience difference that shed be too young to realise.
The daughter on her period is either being a turd on purpose or she needs medical intervention. I'm incredibly angry when Aunt Flo comes to visit too, but it doesn't justify violence
Ok this funny. I was wondering what kinda funny nickname there was for "period" in English (or the US in any case); cuz in Mexican Spanish we call it "Andres", cuz "viene cada mes" (comes every month)
I used to get so angry and so mean. I used to yell a lot. Not in the very beginning, but once the cramps started getting really bad. When I got an IUD put in, it helped to significantly reduce the cramps I would get. I still get angry, but I can at least recognize recognize that it is hormonal and that the extreme pain used to amplify the hormonal range Based on my experience alone, I think that it’s a bit early for her to be in that much pain. Not that it would’ve been OK for her to push her step brother, but I would’ve understood it a bit better
I agree that she needs some intervention. Sometimes people do get what is pmdd which can cause violent reactions. But she needs help, but the fact is since she doesn't have to deal with someone she doesn't have custody of.
11:03 it sounds like the kid watched to many terrible movies where the person on their period acts like an asshole and the girl thought it was acceptable
so imma add to this that she may have pmdd like my gf. The hormone changes are worse than typical . hormones. that said, she could also have developed some other mental illness such as BPD or bipolar disorder as puberty is around when it is most prevalent. I would have her checked out just in case and rule those 3 things out before punishing too harshly.
@@ImmortalJeremy that’s definitely a possibility it could be a hormone issue but if that’s the case changing the behaviour is the easier thing to try then take her to an endocrinologist, gynaecologist, or psychologist afterwards
@@ImmortalJeremyPMDD has to do with PMS, and occurs during the luteal phase, before menstruation even begins. Since the girl is actually on her period, even if she did have PMDD, this wouldn’t be at play during the story.
thats probably true although when you first get your period you often become the most demon spawn-ish that you'll ever be. The PMS is brand new and you become an actual evil being. When I was 11 my periods made me have tantrums like a toddler.
Right? Like it's kind of terrifying to think that if she wasn't even able to call a friend to take her to the ER, that there'd a news article about "Boyfriend found girlfriend dead because he thought she was being dramatic about her pain".... I feel like he probably wouldn't have felt any sadness if she had passed....
I could understand not wanting to get an ambulance if theyre in financial trouble but drive them yourself. Even giving dude benefit of the doubt he's still an a hole in every scenario I cam think of
It's absolutely baffling. And 3 weeks in the hospital is certainly not "making a big deal out of nothing", good grief... Let's say, for devil's advocate, she had struggled with really bad period cramps before. Even then, the second she goes "this feels different, help" a decent human is carrying her out the door to their car if need be. And most of us would've felt so guilty for that little mistake, we would make sure to be there every day to visit. Heck, a lot of us would just be concerned enough from the get go to be there all the time.
As someone who also experiences menstrual cycles, the step-daughter's behaviour is unacceptable. If she truly cannot stop herself from behaving this way, she might need to consult a doctor to find out if there is something else going on. Menstrual cycles on their own do not account for or excuse that kind of behaviour.
That was my thought - mentioning that she would need to go to the doctor because this isn't normal might also stop this if she is just "playing" it up or maybe reveal unrelated reasons for the behavior.
agreed! i can get easily frustrated/grumpy/overstimulated while on mine but i NEVER let it out on others. unless there is a deeper issue at hand here, she KNOWS what she's doing. probably the result of her dad never telling her no.
I started at 10/11 myself. The pain was so bad if I stood up during a cramp I would black out. I would also get serious cravings. I never lashed out at anyone unless they were seriously pushing all my buttons, and even then I never harmed anyone. Her behavior is definitely either exaggeration, or a mental health condition.
@@Forbidden_Snacc I get SUPER grouchy on the second day of mine. I hide away the best I can because sometimes the misery is genuinely uncontrollable. but fortunately I can for the most part control my proximity to other humans.
The behaviour is unacceptable, but the BF is the actual problem. She's only 11, which means you'd likely be able to parent that behaviour out of her. But not if the father keeps enabling that behaviour.
when i was in the ER i told my bf who was busy at the time that i thought i would be going home. he texted his parents to make sure i could get back home safely. when i ended up being admitted he came straight to me from work, stayed with me the entire 10 days i was in the hospital. he only left to shower or go to work, i had a nurse tell me that when he had to change my IV while i slept my boyfriend was standing over me watching like a hawk. not once did my man let me feel alone!!!! girl go find a man who can act like a man i promise you they’re here😭😭
Ok, that's definitely not about the period. That's a girl without a mother figure and a father who doesn't give a shit. I highly doubt that she's a healthy well-adjusted child except for when she's on her period. She's got anger issues and nobody has told her how to regulate her emotions. She needs therapy - dad should also take himself to parenting classes
These reddit posts always seem to fall into one of three categories: 1) Here's an insanely toxic situation in which no reasonable person would conceivably call you an asshole for having to deal with. 2) Here's a twisted version of events that is obviously teh poster trying to manipulate the reader into joining their "side", trying to martyr themselves despite being an absolute PoS. 3) Entirely made up, never happened in any fashion, and probably still ends up in one of the prior two categories.
And 4) "Here's a situation where I did this incredibly kind thing for a vulnerable person at the SLIGHT expense of someone who was obviously being rude and out of line, AITA? (Please tell me what a Saint I am)"
For the girl on her period, ITS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR EVERYTHING!! Sure, mood swings happen, but physically harming and verbally attacking people?? Hell no. When I got my first cycle, sure I hated everybody, but I didn’t have a meltdown. I just dealt with it.
Well, to be fair, I wouldn't know what it is like to be a tween girl who gets HULK strength and can bounce an 8 year old into a wall who "literally goes flying" from a shoulder shove from an 11 year old
My BF constantly stays up all night working and sometimes doesn't get to sleep until 5AM. On those nights I leave his pillow out on the couch for him, and when I get up for work around 8 or 9 I'll wake him up and he takes the bed. If that BF is creating an ultimatum where she can't sleep comfortably he should be contributing to the solution. The fact that he refuses to contribute for a larger couch makes him a total douchebag. Screw him.
Girlfriend should leave the hot sleeper boyfriend. How would that work in a long term relationship? With kids….? No. She should cut her losses while she’s young. He’s 35, not gonna change for her.
that intro certainly did surprise me but as a uterus with a woman that kid actually sucks, dad should have addressed that immediately and told her how to handle it before this ever happened.
Honestly from the dads reaction to the craziness I would be surprised if he’s the one to somehow transmit the idea of “women are crazy on their period” to the daughter
I feel for that girl. From what we were reading, she had ZERO female influence to guide her. Men, generally, are much more well prepared to guide their SONS through puberty than their daughters. This just smacks of a hapless Dad with no clue as to how to handle this situation. I also feel that kicking them out was a horrid move. They obviously need some type of intervention for the Dad/Daughter dynamic before she gets used to being in charge! That is most assuredly EASIER to accomplish when said Dad & Daughter have stable living arrangements. I sure hope they make it! ❤️ THAT is a MESS! ☕☕☕☕☕
The hospital dodging boyfriend is insane... like... if I had a roommate that wasn't even really my friend, there's no way I'd go three weeks without stopping in even if it's just to let them know how the apartment's doing.
I've had FRIENDS who were in the hospital for dehydration and other minor things for like 48hrs and I visited them. 3 weeks after a procedure? I'm there at least once.
Okay, for the period, I can see why the boyfriend would let the girl stay home. Her hormones are through the roof, she clearly doesn’t know how to navigate this yet, and god forbid she gets her first cramp at school. And YES someone told her that aggression during a period is completely excusable at one point, whether it be from a crappy written movie or her misconstruing people talking about the irritability that actually CAN occur during periods. God speed to the father of that little girl, really hope he gets his shit together because it’s going to be every month from now on 😅
For the hospital one, I started having pain in my back and woke up one night with fever and I was throwing up. Couldn’t eat anything. I didn’t want to overreact and waited 3 days before contacting my pharmacist who was like “go to the ER I can’t do anything at this point”. My bf immediately drove me to the ER. We went around 6pm but I ended staying overnight. He stayed with me until it was midnight because he did have work the next day, or was supposed to. He called off work and came straight to see me. I ended staying for a week hospitalized and he came to see me twice a day, before and after work. He would just come to see me and sometime if I was sleeping he would just come and sit next to me for a while before giving me a kiss on the head and leaving. He lent me his noise canceling headphones that he used every day so I could try to sleep better and brought me a tiny fan because it was the summer and the hospital didn’t really have AC. He brought me clothes and was overall so helpful. The day I got released he was with me and helped me the whole time, even just walking to his car. He had everything ready at his place for me and we even stopped at a grocery store to get some smoothie for me (I had trouble eating since I wasn’t able to eat for like 2 weeks without throwing up). Blessed to be with him and I couldn’t ask for a better person to be with
omg! he's a keeper. Such a nice boyfriend. I hope your relationship stays this way till that moon and the sun are up in the sky. (And I also hope to have a partner like him). I wish you a great life ahead. (Someone tell me why I cried while reading this? The bar's TOO LOW.)
@@mahek_art thank you! i know hes a great guy! im so lucky to be with him, i know my ex wouldnt have done half the things hes done for me in a million years. i honestly hope everyone can find someone to take care of them like he has! dont lower your standards for anyone, you deserve a loving partner who will always be there, in sickness and in health :)
as a transmasc with the worst periods; yes your mental state changes and you get a lot angrier at literally everything. also you're in constant pain. not in a million years does it excuse tantrums or physical violence lmao. it does feel like she desires attention so much it is a little sad. i hope she gets help because that's not the behavior of a kid who's doing great.
Same type of guy here, a fellow transmasc with periods. By all means it doesn't excuse the behavior but when that behavior happens you talk to the kid about it. It seems like the mom tried to do so but didn't like. Try to change anything if that makes sense? When you're talking to someone about their discomfort in that moment, especially a child, you try to help them be rid of their discomfort. A heating pad for cramps, lots of water, pills that lessen the pain, talking about which products would be more comfortable, talking about possible medical ways to lessen it like birth control. All of these are more productive than kicking the child out of the house??? I think part of her attention seeking behavior is that the gf didn't show any care for her discomfort. She wants to express her pain to someone who may understand it but the person she reaches out to is dismissive of it, using the reasoning of being at work. We don't hear from op about whether she tried to help after it started at ALL, just that she talked about it with her when it started and that's it. The dad should also be more present in this as well, talking with his gf about HER frustrations and reprimanding his kid for her violent behavior. I think some people forget that children are scared and experiencing this type of stuff for the first time. It's how you react to it that cements how they continue with their behavior.
@@adumbooctopus1115 these are my thoughts as well. it doesnt seem like the dad OR op were doing a really good job of teaching her how to live with periods. idk (also another trans guy here lol)
I have PMDD and do actually get unbearable mood swings and food cravings, to the point of not being able to keep down anything but what I'm craving. It's not fun and makes work/relationships difficult. But it's an actual medical condition and he needs to take her to the doctor if it continues.
It also doesn't make it OK to hurt an 8 year old child who was just hoping to play a game with you. But you're right, there's a couple of medical things she might need checking for, but she also needs parents who aren't going to cave to her every whim/demand. But that's on her dad 😔
Also (possible) PMDD. I’ve said things I’ve regretted on my period in anger, and I’ve gone into uncontrollable hysterics, but all of these were also when I was under other stressors. She’s 10, so she might have less control, but either way she at minimum needs someone to tell her that this isn’t normal
Not an excuse but an explanation and she should get checked out and get help rather than just get taught the only thing that happens when she has issues is she gets dismissed and/or punished.
@@helenl3193 def not saying it *is* okay to hurt an 8 year old, its not, but also from the way it was described I'm wondering whether it was intentional or not. like, I've closed doors insanely hard before when I was just trying to close it normally, and if she was trying to slam it just to get across that she was mad, I'm not sure she'd have expected to fling someone across a room. regardless, yes, she needs some kind of checkup
@@helenl3193 It could be both a medical condition to take seriously AND that her behavior was not ok. But as a step parent, the op still had the responsibility together with the main parent to help her deal with it (primarily the main parent). She is a CHILD. She needs to be taught boundaries AND helped navigate difficult life changes.
For the 11 year old girl, I think two things need to happen: 1. Everyone involved needs to give her some grace. Periods *suck*, especially the FIRST ONE YOU EVER HAVE. 2. She needs it explained to her that this behavior is not acceptable. Her pain and emotions are valid, but she can't take it out on other people like that. Obviously growing up without a stable mother figure is also really gonna hurt that situation in particular, she needs someone to guide her and let her know it's going to be okay.
I got my period at 10 years old. I didn’t feel emotional whatsoever, only nauseous. It was a weird experience, and I had never had someone tell me what was happening until I told my mother I was “peeing blood”. Even then, no explanation, just “this is normal for girls your age, you’ll be okay.” So idk, I think in this day and age where we have so many ways of making sure people can easily find knowledge, she should have known how to behave.
@@WandaMaximoff1998 I agree, but it could be possible she has some underlying mental health conditions and the influx of hormones and confusion only heightens them.. and some don't even start to present until puberty, but either way that doesn't make it "okay," and shouldn't be catered to.
@WandaMaximoff1998 Not necessarily when periods affect people in all sorts of ways. When i was younger periods felt like nothing, now that im older i get exhausted, im cramping like hell, i get diarrhea some days, i get anxious. So no she might not know how to act especially since she had a single father who clearly doesn't know sh*t
@@WandaMaximoff1998 im saying its possible she's feeling some of that too as a young person or even other symptoms we don't feel, everyone is different and she's young, she may not have an idea of how to act. It's not right but it doesn't seem like she was taught much either.
As someone who menstruates and almost everyone i know mensturates, WHO FLIPS OUT LIKE THAT??? Like sure, sometimes i can seem a little pissy, easily irritable but not just full on screaming at people. That's just cruel. Most the time I get really sweet and just want to hug a pillow or something 😭
I used to think period attitude was a myth and a sexist stereotype until a couple of years ago when I started tracking my cycle and mood. Turns out my constant depressive episodes are actually more like once a month and conveniently around the same time each month. Every time I get irritable right before my period, I feel so invalidated.
@@NoiseDay Might take a look in premenstrual disorders symptoms could help p, I did that 10 yrs ago help me manage my anger or depression episode to not release onto other and also deal with that in a healthy way
@@NoiseDay maaaan it would save us so much grief if we were taught how deeply affecting periods and PMS/PMDD can actually be. I would go through these phases of just feeling like absolute shit (not quite depression, but damn close) and it never occurred to me to think it might be hormonal til I was 26 and thinking about how "cyclical" it all was. had a lightbulb moment, started tracking, and sure enough it was ALWAYS they same thing super consistently. think how many women's lives could be so much easier to manage if we were taught to pay attention to these things than just "figure it out for yourself".
i discovered i had PMDD in 2022 when i got off hormonal birth control and switched to the non-hormonal copper IUD-i had never experienced such intense PM symptoms especially the luteal phase/~10days before menstruation. i take a high dose of SSRI (paxil) and extended release adderall for adhd daily, and both of them are rendered basically ineffective for that timeframe. i thought my meds had stopped working the first few months i experienced this and started spiraling out of worry that i’d have to change my carefully titrated medication schedule. it’s SO SERIOUS 😭🫠
@@NoiseDay Yeah, I was the same. I eventually found out, that a few days before it starts I tend to get sad. But not in an obvious way, so I originally didn't connect the dots. Things will just hurt my feelings more easily and I'll cry over something dumb. Once my period starts I'm better and actually more physically active like I got a mood boost. Except for that strange streak of two years in my early 30s where I actually had pain and bad cramps. But even then I was just generally moody. No different than having a bad migraine. Bit cranky and not feeling up for eating or doing much.
My partner is a very light sleeper. I give off way too much heat so we don’t cuddle during warm weather. I am a tosser and turner when I sleep so our situation is exactly like the op and her bf. NOT ONCE has my partner ever told me to leave the bed. NOT ONCE has he ever wanted me to leave the room. INSTEAD We compromise with each other and use our air con to keep the room cool. We both use different blankets and I make sure to not try and move the bed as much when I turn. OP’s bf kinda sounds like he doesn’t even like her 😅 she should run for the hills.
The thing about saying “not a lot of guys seems interested in me” is that sometimes that is true and has nothing to do with self esteem. I once told my mom that not a lot of guys are interested in sun me and she went on about confidence and I was like “no mom, I’m fine, I know that. I was just saying that I find a lot more women are interested in me than men. I do great with the ladies mom.” We have been theory crafting about the why on this ever since. But the fact remains, not a lot of guys seem interested in me.
When I was young, it often seemed that way. However, I haven’t really had any problems finding relationships, but in general I was the one to initiate first contact. I think it has to do with having approachable vibes, which I apparently don’t 😅
"browbeat" is used precisely ten thousand times per episode of House to describe Dr. House's approach to the patient/family inevitably resistant to the diagnosis/treatment of the world's rarest parasite/basic pregnancy/first menstrual cycle.
As someone who has had appendicitis, pancreatits, a dying gallbladder (not sure what it was actually called), intestinal bleeding... just a lot of stuff. I can attest that pancreatitis is the worst pain imaginable.
For the girl with the insane response to periods: I would seriously suggest getting her checked for PMS (or other similar conditions). It is can be very serious and overlooked very easily, especially in kids because they are just assumed to be a brat, rather than having an actual condition, where the individual cannot control their actions. As someone with endometriosis, for a while people thought I was just being overly dramatic because I was screaming and crying on the floor in pain, when in reality, I was feeling 10x the normal amount of pain, and it needed to be treated, because the pain was so intense I didn't eat for days.
As a person with low self-esteem, that girl saying "not a lot of guys seemed interested in me" is something that never once struck me as self-deprecating. When I've said stuff like that, it felt like I was just stating a basic fact, like saying the sky is blue today or mustard is yellow. If you set out a plate of blueberry muffins and only a couple get eaten, you feel right in saying "not a lot of folks seemed interested in the blueberry muffins". I'm flabbergasted that saying something like that is low self-worth/self-esteem. I can understand if you say "the blueberry muffins must be nasty" or "everyone hates blueberry muffins" but just noting a proven lack of interest being low self-worth is eye-opening to me.
The 'innocuous little remarks" we make stack on top of each other until it's a mountain. The Fake It Til' You Make It mentality works both ways. If you constantly remark that people don't seem interested in you, you will slowly start to believe it, you will act in accordance with this belief. Or, conversely, you could say, "You know what? It's okay if they aren't interested because *I think I'm interesting,* and that's good enough for me!" Say it enough times and you'll start to believe it. The way we talk to ourselves has an immense impact on our psyche and self-worth, whether it be positive or negative. You only get one self, it's best to love them the way you would want someone else to love you. It takes time but it's worth it. Trust me, I speak from experience.
Exactly I feel the same. I went to a big school with 4,000 students. I was never asked out and being one of the few girls that didn't receive Valentine gifts was humiliating. Any guy I liked and worked up the courage to ask out treated me like a nuisance and rejected me very harshly. One guy even passed my note around his group of girl friends to make fun of me. I have social anxiety and writing things down seemed better but I was wrong. I wasn't even asked to prom which was devastating. But any advice and comfort I'd receive was love yourself before others can. How can people treat me like that and then expect me to find it in myself to love myself. It's extremely hard. I believe sometimes it takes effort even from family and friends to show you good qualities about yourself to help the journey of self love but I didn't receive any of that. Even as an adult I struggle with dating until my husband. I almost thought I would never find someone.
I was eleven when I got my first period and same with a lot of my friends. Having a small amount of emotional resilience or wanting to be alone are all acceptable and normal in my opinion but you shouldn't ever go the lengths that that girl did
In college, my boyfriend would notice when I was tired and would walk me to my dorm so I could sleep. Being tired isn’t that big of the deal, but he made sure to take care of me
So like im jewish (I don't follow kosher rules but i know and cooked for people who do) and not keeping non kosher food in the same fridge is kosher food is ridiculous and not something widespread, the oven thing is kinda like not using the same utensils which is more standard but i still feel it's unreasonable
I do keep kosher. The thing with the fridge is questionable. but, when you cook with anything it becomes meaty/dairy. so cooking non kosher food in an oven will mean that cooking anything in it will make the food not kosher
@@NoiseDay eh, it's not really related to contamination OCD in the slightest. that's just what kosher rules are and the fact that not many people follow it to that letter is a combination of them knowing it's just inconvenient, and a general cultural understanding in the Jewish community that your best is enough. this has much more to do with how asshole conservative views intersect with Judaism ("superiority" isn't a bad descriptor of it)
its not at all questionable lol, kosher isnt a right and its questionable youd think you get thr right to decide that, considering i guarantee that oven was already used before they started to rent...you have zero rights to the oven and go get yourself an easybake if you have such an issue with it, just because you believe in the fairy men doesnt mean anyone who eats a cloven foot animal bows down to you, you deluded child
i lowkey agree with you about the girl on her period maybe being influenced by someone (or maybe media) to lean into “crazy girl on her period” behavior. (tmi) of course everyone is so different but i didn’t start experiencing PMS or even menstrual cramps for about a year into having cycles. i’ve never heard of a girl’s FIRST period turning her violent!! she hurt the younger boy and if she’s blaming it on her period she needs some proper intervention medical or otherwise
My mum had pancreatitis. To give you an idea of how bad it is, when I told my partner, who was working in the Emergency Department as a doctor at the time, that my mum had pancreatitis, he sucked in and went "ooh, that's one of the most painful conditions". My mum's pain tolerance is through the roof and her drug tolerance is so low, and morphine BARELY touched the pain. Pancreatitis is hugely dangerous and painful. Also, fun fact, my mum is called Diane. It's been a fun episode for me.
Story one: depending on number of residents, it's unreasonable to make the fridge full of food only YOU can eat. You must be willing to work with others, especially in living conditions
But was there a space issue? It didn't really say the fridge was too full, right? Just that one roommate didn't want specific things of the other's in there.
@@jacalynnepuder1172 That happens to all of us :) But yeah, they even said they weren't allowed to use the fridge at all but I'm not sure whether that was for the specific food items or any food at all.
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As someone who gets extreme periods to the point that it legitimacy feels like I am not in control of my mind or body, i feel for that little girl. I have PMDD and when I'm on my period unmedicated, I absolutely feel like I can't control my actions. Part of me feels suicidal and part of me is sobbing because I want desperately to be alive and I'm terrified that I'll kill myself. I've never gotten to a point of physical violence, but I have had extreme emotional outbursts. One time in particular, by far the worst outburst I've had as an adult, was when I was laying in my room with a migraine and just severe pain in my whole body after having slammed a door because I was arguing with my dad. He decided that every time I slam a door he was going to charge me $10 and he was coming to collect. I was livid. I was in pain, I felt emotionally ragged and I just screamed at him until he left. I did not let him get a single word in. Afterwards, I cried, because it feels shitty to be that emotionally turbulent. I didn't like my reaction. I didn't want to be that way or to feel that way. I'm on medications now that help me a lot. I'm no longer suicidal, and one of them stopped my period for 9 months. When I do have a period I'm still in life ruining pain, but that's a journey I'm still trying to navigate. I guess my point is that a period can definitely cause that kind of horrible behavior without someone telling her that it's okay to act like that. I hope she can get the help she needs.
What you’re saying makes complete sense but this girl immediately calmed down when she realized how seriously the OP was taking it. That makes me think her behavior was an act, whereas your experience sounds uncontrollable.
@@WandaMaximoff1998 she didn't calm down, she stopped screaming and started crying. OP phrased it like she calmed down, but she said she calmed down and then started to cry because she was just trying to explain. That part was actually the most resonant to me. I remember once saying something really cruel to my mom. I remember her asking why I was so mean to her and I immediately went to my room and sobbed because I hated the fact that I had been so mean to my mom. OP snapping maybe gave her a split second of realizing that she was acting terribly and then the hormones kicked in and amplified the guilt and remorse AND the deep sadness of not being able to explain or fully understand why she was acting that way. But idk, I'm not in that kid's head. I do think OP was right to break up with the guy because even if her behavior can be explained, it needs to be addressed with her.
@@piperformerlycassette I think that it would be worth looking into, yes. This is her first period, so probably seeking medical help would have to take a few periods to establish a pattern. Maybe it's a one off because it was her first period. But if she truly feels like she can't control herself on her period, then seeing a pediatrician and possibly a psychiatrist would be appropriate imo
Does the little girl maybe have some sort of illness revolving around her period? I feel like they should clear that up with a gynecologist. Sudden personality shifts are never a good sign, and we need to normalize ruling out physical causes first
My mom was in the hospital for 10 days. I went to see her for at least 5 of those days. Now, I did have the advantage of a job where I work evenings and the hospitals here have 2 visiting times, so I had more flexibility. But I made sure to visit. 3 weeks and zero visits is unacceptable. And he was 'busy' for 3 weeks straight? He didnt have a single day off? A plan he could cancel? He couldn't go to work late or leave early at least once in that time? Just a 1 hour visit once a week would have been better than nothing.
Idk, maybe he's just not a book-ish person. Pretty sure I'm younger than him, and I've known the word 'Browbeat' for a long time. Probably since I started reading.
Fun fact: AITA is a totally different page than AmITheAsshole Girl on first period - I have a feeling we know why he's divorced from her mom... >_> Woman with neglectful boyfriend - _She was in the hospital for three weeks._ That's absolutely a big deal! My husband was in for one and I was the one to insist he go and then I called or visited every day!
My partner in 2019 had a brain aneurysm at 27 while laying in bed with me, 1. If I didnt care, let alone act fast enough they wouldnt be here. 2. They were in the hospital for a month, and rehab another 2 weeks. They had to re-learn how to walk and also had memory deficits. I was there almost everyday and QUIT MY JOB when they didn't understand that I had to travel so far on the bus. Luckily they are amazing, and perform, are a Supervisor in the kitchen and is doing amazing and I'm so happy I got to see all of it happen. The guy in the last story did her a favor in showing his true colors. Thank goodness he's gone. 🎉
01:44 so the laws involving Kosher basically state that if any unkosher food is stored or comes into contact with Kosher areas, said areas are immediately no longer Kosher. If you're really serious about it, the entire house needs to be Kosher. One small region doesn’t exactly cut it Edit: You can have an unkosher region, as long as it doesn't come into contact with the kosher stuff, say an unkosher fridge, but that also depends on how you observe the laws and how strict you are
@shaneyutar1970 No, not really. The restriction comes from "you shall not cook a young goat in his mother milk" which from tjat we emply that cooking means touching something hot. Im a orthodox jew, i dont know of a restriction on cold stuff. Maybe cold meat and dairy that directly have contact with eachother but not more then that.
As a person who becomes irrationally irritable on my monthly, i fully atest to yelling at people without even deciding to yell. It just happens. Ive never pushed anyone tho. So...
I've always wondered why I don't get moody or angrier or cry more when my period comes. I just get really awful cramps that make me too sick to drive to work
17:23 Unfortunately this is a VERY common thing men do to women. At least in my generation. People raised in the 80's, 90's and before. I don't know how the men are fairing in the younger generations but I REALLY hope it's better than this crap because this is old and tired at this point. This attitude is just as prevalent in the medical community too, to the point where there is far less research done on problems that women have or how women's bodies react to things differently than a man's body. I had the double whammy with this growing up. I had a father who insisted every female was overreacting when having a medical problem followed by doctors who didn't even want to test for anything at all because I'm just a girl and girls overreact all the time. The term "female hysteria" (which was used most often in the Victorian Era) is still one that is taught in some medical schools. This kind of thinking is what caused me to be in pain enough pain to lose consciousness several times a week for 6 years before finding a doctor who took it seriously enough to actually run tests and diagnose me. And even after that diagnosis, my then aging father still didn't think there was anything wrong with me and that I was still overreacting to nothing.
and on top of all of that, men seem to be raised in a way that they might not even take their own pain seriously a lot of the time. I've heard stories of older men ignoring like, serious medical issues because "they're a man" and "they'll tough it out", combined with men being taught very little emotional intelligence combine that with sexism both personally, societally, and medically, and you have a recipe for the perfect shitty boyfriend factory.
my favorite part is when Daniel gets REALLY mad at partners example: 18:09 BYE BYE BYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE BIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII *angelic piano* *more angelic piano* then he has a WHOLE mental breakdown love that for you keep doing what your doing king
That last story is so bittersweet, I'm glad she left him but it's terrible that that happened to her. I'm very glad that she got the help she needed; gives me a little hope. I had acute pancreatitis a few summers back, I would not wish it on my worst enemy. What's worst is I waited three days before going to the ER because I'm terrified of doctors. Then after they figured out I had acute pancreatitis they couldn't figure out why it happened, and they were very rude about it. So they just sent me back home same day... (Standard procedure is they keep you at the hospital for a few days to make sure you don't DIE...) I'm just glad my mom's insurance covered the bill...
When I was 6 or 7 (I don’t really remember) I was in the ER for two days, hospital for a week, and bed rest after that for another two weeks due to being diagnosed with a rare disease called Kawasaki’s disease, which is very rare. Even with visits from friends and family, it still felt like the longest week of my life, so I can’t imagine THREE weeks without the person who’s supposed to be your best friend. 18:30 NTA
THIS (5:00) is why I am loving this 2nd channel!!! The combination of insightful/ compassionate stance to each of the posts with the random screaming and musical numbers really does something for my ADHD brain 😂🤩😂🤩😂🤩😂
Daniel I absolutely adore you. Your reaction to the last story of the girl with low self esteem and appendicitis was hysterical but I also love how much you cared. Very beautiful.
When my period comes, I get extremely angry but I do not physically hurt people/things or yell/scream. There’s no excuse for taking your pain/aggression out on someone much less a much smaller child.
5:02 i was about to say "oh no he's gonna make another silly 2 second song again someone take away the piano 😬" but then the browbeat song actually slapped? sorry for doubting you daniel that was fire. 😌👏👏👏👏
Oh my god that last one, my dad did that to me when I was 15. I was pouring blood out of my mouth because my tonsillectomy wound hadn't healed at all when the stitches dissolved, and every 5 minutes I came back begging him to call the doctor for advice and he kept telling me with increasing anger and yelling to leave him alone (every five minutes because he kept telling me I was fine and to leave him alone, and I was panicking and bleeding and didn't know what else to do other than to keep hoping it would stop) He literally told me that begging for help was "ruining his relaxation". And when he finally gave in after like a half hour (of me pouring blood into the sink and coughing up so many blood clots (which I didn't know were blood clots at the time, I thought I was vomiting up bits of my flesh), he picked up the phone only with the caveat that "If I do this for you, will you leave me alone". And of course the doctor's secretary told him to take me to the ER ASAP, and then he spent 10 minutes arguing on the phone with my mom who was at work, trying to convince her to come home from work to take me to the hospital even though he was already at home with me because he "already had [his] pajamas on". He has spent the last 16 years since lying about what he did to make himself look better, never apologizing to me once, even directly saying the words out loud "I didn't do anything wrong", like he'll tell people that I locked myself in the bathroom the whole time so he had no idea anything was happening, and that when he found out he immediately took me to the hospital, one of which there is (was :( ) another person besides me who can confirm that's not true (my mom), but she would tell me it is what it is and I know how he is and nobody can change him so we just have to accept what he does and why aren't I over it already. And not to mention that it's very likely the wound didn't heal properly because my dad had spent the evening 3 days earlier screaming at me to eat the spicy peppercorn steak he made for dinner despite being told I'd just had throat surgery 4 days earlier and eating spicy food would irritate my wound which the surgeon said would make it not heal properly, but apparently not only was I going to eat it because he made it, he didn't care what the surgeon said because "doctors orders are only guidelines, anyway". Lo and behold, he forced me to do what the doctor told me not to do, and exactly what the doctor said would happen if I did the thing, happened when I did the thing. Surprise, surprise.
I once left work in the middle of a shift, because I was told by my sister that our mom is in the ER! I was scared that we might lose her! I explained to my co-workers, boss was not there, and they said, it's ok man, go! Thankfully she was ok, just really sick!
I was in the hospital for a week with cellulitis, flu and pneumonia and litrally, everyone came to see me like people I haven't worked with for a couple of years
About the period story: let's not forget that people on the internet lie to make themselves seem better. The most likely scenario is that the original poster has commitment issues and made up an excuse to leave, because this whole thing sounds like r/menwritingwomen but in this case it's r/peoplewritingchildren.
I honestly really love how Daniel does these videos. He approaches the topics from all angles, trying to see everyone's side. He researches things to get a better understanding. And when talking about topics he knows, men arguably shouldn't be judging like periods. He calls someone to verify his opinion. 10/10 guy
My partner and I had issues around sleep due to me being a light sleeper, him doing shift work, etc, but you know what we did? We both DEALT WITH IT because the bed was OUR bed that we both have equal rights to use regardless of whether it's ideal sleeping conditions. (A few years on we now have our own rooms and beds so that our mismatched sleeping schedules aren't a problem 🙆♀️)
