It's me!! I suggested this video! Im flattered! The point of this video is that I follow a lot of relaxed girls here in RU-vid and you're the only one who doesnt follow the trends, yet you enjoy your hair like no other and I wanted you to make a video about everything you dont do so others can see that maybe they can try something different. I know everyone 's hair is different but a lot of girls dont enjoy their hair at all, they follow regimen that imply daily moisturizing and sealing, hair always in a bun and sometimes they admit they are tired, they need a break and when I discovered your channel I was pretty shocked. Thank your for the video!! You summarize pretty well what your simple (yet effective) regimen is about.
There she is! I knew it was you, JA C SA… 😉. And no need to explain. I understood what you were saying. I want to thank you for the suggestion and “twisting my arm”… JUST KIDDING!! lol I appreciate you. Glad you enjoyed!
Thank you for the suggestion! I realize after watching this video that some of these things I used to do but due to stress over the years and the subsequent "must do to have healthy relaxed hair", I started down a path I wish I hadn't gone down. I was close to waist length back then.. (cryingggg on the inside) and now I'm a little past shoulder length with a lot of work to do. I've been trimming here and there to at least keep my hair even, but I'm definitely going to go back to the basics/tips from this video.
1. I don't pre poo except for when I use Olaplex. 2. I don't use oils on my hair, on my scalp, or add oils to conditioners. A great conditioner should work on it's own without adding things to it. 3. I don't use food on my hair. My hair is not a salad or burrito 🤣 4. I stopped deep conditioning. I follow the time on products. 5. I don't co wash. It just doesn't make sense to me. I use sulfate shampoos. 6. I don't moisturize and seal. 7. I wear my hair down everyday. 8. I don't air dry my hair after washing it. I blow dry and flat iron once a week. My hair is in better condition since I've been keeping it simple.
Amen to all of it. Dolce keeps it real simple. I love #3 I don't use food on my hair, My hair is not a salad or burrito 🤣. Since I stopped all that moist/sealing etc, my hair has really flourished. 😉
I’m glad you mentioned protective styling because there’s a myth that it’s the only way for black women to grow their hair long. I never protective styled when I was natural and it still grew. I don’t do it now relaxed and my hair is still growing 🤷🏾♀️
Hey, Cassie! Yeah, I think there’s so much emphasis put on protective styling nowadays that women now are scared to wear their actual hair out. Why do all the hard work and never bask in the rewards?
Just relaxed my hair after being an on and off again natural for the past 10 years. Your hair looks great! I'm at a point where I didn't grow all this hair to keep it hidden. I've been wearing braidouts since I relaxed which is why I did it in the first place. I wanted a braidout without shrinkage!
Thank you!! I know that’s right! I used to crimp my hair (which made it look just like a braid out of sorts). I mean, what’s the use in putting in all the work and not showing off the fruits of your labor?
You rebel Dolce Dawn! LOL!! I have to admit that you have saved me a lot of money on excess product, time and energy by bringing this practical sense back. I love it! These are the exact guide lines so many stylist swear by. Wrapping is really keeping that moisture in...even though I am still on the struggle bus with this short hair, I still wrap it every night and every workout. I must say that I do still use a half wig but mainly because I really miss my hair. I am trimming a lot more and sticking to my schedule. TY for your honesty and approach to healthy relaxed hair....we are finally enjoying our hair again!!! Listening to our "talking hair"
😂 @ “struggle bus”! And ain’t nothing wrong with wearing a half wig. Remember- YOU make the rules! Your hair IS coming along nicely and that makes me happy. We’re on our way, Debbie! Best hair life, babe! #Letsgo
These are one of my favorite videos that you do, I love the fact that you have Gorgeous hair but you follow your own rules, and not the normal Do's and Don'ts of relax hair.
Nice video. I appreciate hearing it. I’ve been relaxed for years, but have had short (some really short) styles for 10 years. Deciding to grow my hair back and listening / watching the relaxed hair community has had me more confused as I ever have been concerning my hair. You have addressed several of my concerns. Thanks again! ♥️
Hey, Cece! So glad you enjoyed the vid! Yeah, I’ve heard that from quite a few people who stopped M&S-ing. It can really weigh your hair down and make it stiff.
Hey, Sherian! Thank you and… WELCOME ABOARD! 🥳 Yes! We really should wear our hair out more often and just have fun with it. I mean, after diligently caring for it, why not?
So very happy to see this video - I learned the hard way that my hair doesn’t follow the rules that seem to work for everyone else. I use heat and definitely do not moisturize and seal… that experiment was a disaster and set me back terribly. I also use a ceramic curler… not flat iron… and I do not cowash my hair. Thank you for confirming that its okay to design your own routine that is best suited for your own hair.
I agree w/everything you stated. Keep it simple. Co- washing to me is like taking a bath with lotion. Just doesn't make sense. Moisturizing & sealing doesn't make sense to me either. It's just an unnecrssary step, and extra products to buy.
Such a helpful video! Laughing at the end. I just relaxed my hair after having super buzzed hair for years. I grew out my hair for 8.5 months. I had done growth cycles before, but I got overwhelmed usually around month 4 by a lot of RU-vid naturals and would end up shaving. This time around when I didn't mess with 800 products my hair did soo well. Good shampoo, good conditioner, and 100% mango butter. Rarely deep conditioned. Oh, and I did the infamous wash-and-go on 4c hair. I never did twist outs because it took forever and I believed it was good to appreciate the shrunken state. All the things you're told not to do. And my hair thrivedddd. (I think wearing a bonnet every night, without fail, or even when I laid down on the couch to watch tv helped immensely.) Sooo I'm trying to remember to just keep it simple and LISTEN to my hair now that it's relaxed, rather than a certain type of RU-vidr who is proclaiming to love something...and then 3 months later being onto something new. You're right - your hair will tell you real' quick what it doesn't like.
Hey, Jocellyn!! So glad you found the video helpful (and a bit funny! 😉). Yes, I believe simple is best and am not surprised to hear that, when you pared down the products, your hair responded and thrived! Natural or relaxed, I believe the same philosophy applies. I appreciate your comment and for sharing this! Thank you!
Awesome video! Thank you for not training us to be product junkies😊I would love for you to show us how you wrap your hair. My hair is fine and I hate using too many products. Thank you for sharing. I truly appreciate you.
Hey, Lorraine! Thank you! ♥️ So glad you enjoyed. I thought I put my wrap video above… OOPS! It’s up there now in the description box with my regimen vids and shows how I wrap my hair at night, if interested.
So true about people getting their hair so lovely, then hiding it away most of the time. Such a shame. Oils and me have a love hate relationship. I try using rosemary oil for hair growth, but it's so uncomfortable wearing it. Serums are much better. Love your tutorials. Always so up beat. Your so knowledgeable. Thank you. Please don't ever abandoned me 😭👍❤️🙏
I have been watching a lot of different hair relaxer videos and I must say that I’m soooooo glad that YOU made this video, because some people seem to be a part of the blind leading the blind. I like all of your hair Don’ts…especially 1. Co-Washing…I mean damn why did people have to start this ridiculous fad/trend? You shouldn’t WASH your clothes with just fabric softener, or WASH your body with lotion, so why on earth would you WASH your hair with conditioner?? 2. Moisturizing & Sealing 3. Protective Styles (NOT enjoying the fruits of their labor). 4. Not trimming their hair more often. I’m glad that you’ve explained this and I guess that I’m a rebel like you. YOUR hair is gorgeous, keep up the good work and THANKS for posting!
Hey, D I V A Kingsley! I don’t know why your comment tickled me, but it did. lol Yes, a lot of this stuff I hear about and see people do just confuses me. But, hey… to each his own. I like to keep things “old school simple” and stick to things and practices that have been proven to work and that work for me. I’m so glad you enjoyed this vid and so appreciate your comment. Thank you! #RelaxerRebels #Letsgo
Preach it girl! Many do not realize the importance of trims. Being ahead of the game is the key. 🗝 I do not protective style anymore either, now that I use products that benefit my hair keeping it soft, silky and moisturized. Oh by the way after relaxing today I tried Theorie's Helichrysum & Plum shampoo and conditioner. All I can say is WOW!!! 🥳
Now, how you gonna try my shampoo out before even I do, Sandra?! 🤔😉😂 SO… you like it?! YAY!!! I can’t wait to use it now. Thinking of using it next week. Thanks for giving me that heads up!
@@DolceDawn Hey Dolce! Yes I love it. It will definitely become one of my staples. I normally don't rant about shampoo/conditioners, but THIS one left my hair so soft, and shiny...Words cannot express it. Hubby keeps hands in my hair now 😉
@@DolceDawn am okay hun...hope you are keeping safe....omg you haven given me so much to think about...I literally do almost all the stuff you say you don't do and don't do the stuff you say you do lol...am definitely gonna try things your way and see how my hair responds...will definitely keep you posted. I sometimes use design essentials silk hair serum...gonna start using that alone during the week instead of moisturising and sealing every day. Hopefully I see good results....want to buy the PM skinny serum as soon as I can afford it lol. What leave in do you use in your hair btw?
@@jessu3064 Yes, please let me know how your hair responds to any changes in your regimen, including the Design Essentials serum. I know that they also have a cheaper, mini bottle of PM Skinny, so you may be able to find that somewhere, too. And I use Infusium 23 Leave-In (Original). Love it.
First here and loving the nails and the advice! I do use argan oil after a leave in and moisturizer but I wash every other week and do not add any additional products. The only exception is if I get wet by rain. I also wrap every night and find my hair stays moisturized and moveable. I feel the same way re co-wash, honestly makes no sense IMO. Same on protective styling. Now during this panorama I barely wear it down so it stays wrapped for days sometimes!
Hey, girlie! Cheers to being first! 🥇 Yes, yes and yes! And I hear you regarding wearing your hair wrapped more during the “panorama”. LOL Makes total sense to me!
Hey, I’m back! So you have inspired me to consistently wear my hair straight. I’ve been trying to do air drying and the moisturizing/sealing i’ve seen other youtubers do but my hair ain’t feeling it n i’m noticing more breakage. I think initially i was scared of heat damage but after watching all of your videos i feel more confident to try it. Pray for me, girl! 😆 🙏🏾
Hey, Luvita! Good to have you back, girl! As long as you use heat once/week with a heat protectant and protect your hair at night, you should be fine. And I wanna know how everything turns out. You KNOW how I feel about my updates! Don’t have me track you down… 🏃♀️😂😉
Well, no need to “feel so out” anymore, Joan. You are a vital part of the relaxer hair community, the hair community as a whole… and always have been! 🥳♥️
I have just subscribed to your channel as I am going relaxed after being natural for 8 years. Love you advice, thank you. I am definitely going to live my best hair life this time round! ❤
I found your channel because someone mentioned you on a popular influencer. It was refreshing to find someone else. You use some old products that I use to use. Makes me want to start over. Anyway, I love your channel! Follow the trends tho so others can see how awesome you are!
Wow… I want to thank you for your kind words, katrina. I really appreciate it and so happy that you’re enjoying the vids. I guess I better get with the program and find out what’s trending… lol Thank you again for your comment. It made my day. ♥️
I have fine strands with medium density and after years of doing all these things and yet another hair cut this past weekend I'll be cutting out a bunch of stuff and treat my hair like relaxed hair as I was told. I use precise relaxer in mild just like you and like it. I don't see much difference or hair on my head when I deep condition so will be cutting it out this stretch and assess the progress. I rollerset weekly and love the body it gives my fine strands but I get breakage no matter what I use, so I will be either partially dry underneath the dryer and flat iron or blow dry and flat iron and assess as well. This video just confirmed some of the things I need to cut out as it has not been helping my hair journey
Hey, Alicia! Wow, you use Precise, too? I don’t hear that often. #TWINSIES 😉 Yes, I strongly believe that less is more and simple is best when it comes to taking care of our hair. Sometimes it takes a while to see what works, but I’m glad to hear you’re on your way to fine tuning a regimen that truly works for YOU.
@@DolceDawn I was introduced to it by my stylist and have been using it consistently for the past 2/3years because on my sensitive scalp, I do get a few burns here and there but have no other issues with it. I like wearing my hair out too and would love to get to apl being trying for the past few years so I'll be getting rid of some routines and see best how it suits my hair
It's the Starbucks order for me!! LOL! Dolce, your forgot an important one - skipping the neutralizing shampoo after your relaxer. I'm still stunned by that one.
Hey, Liam!! Ughhh… I know! You’re the second person to mention me leaving neutralizing shampoo off the list. I tried not to repeat EVERYTHING, but you guys are right. That’s a huge one. HUGE!
I am new to your channel and I am currently binge watching your videos. So very informative without being condescending. I feel safe here and I feel like I can change my hair game for the better! New subbie
Hey, Tina! I am so happy to hear that you find this a “safe” place to possibly gather some helpful tips to up your hair regimen game and that you’re enjoying the vids. It’s time to start living your BEST HAIR LIFE and glad to have you join the journey. WELCOME ABOARD! 🥳
Some very valid discussion here! Love it! I've taken to using serums with great results, and protein is a big no for me.(maybe a light protein in my conditioner once in a while) using protein on healthy hair is like taking Tylenol when you don't have a headache... doesn't make sense. Anyway, keep it up! You always have a plethora of information that keeps me coming back!!
Hey Dolce! Another great video. Like you, I want to “live my best hair life.” I follow a lot of your rules. No co-washing for me. I barely have time for my regular wash. 😂 No protective styles for me either. Thanks for the PM serum recommendation. I absolutely ❤️ it. I also put a little on my skin because the smell is so amazing. And thanks for the Amber Rose shampoo and conditioner recommendation. Another winner! Laughing at your Starbucks customer impersonation. Sounds just like me. Currently sipping on a Salted Caramel Cold Brew . . . extra sweet, light ice, extra foam with caramel drizzle on the top. 🤣🤣
Oh, so YOU’RE one of those Starbucks people, huh? I see you, Karla… I SEE YOU! 😂😉 Glad you’re loving the Amber Rose and PM serum, though. You’re right - it DOES smell good! 👍🏾
@@DolceDawn Yep! That’s me! 🤣 Thank you for all of your recommendations and taking the time to respond to comments. You are truly the best and I always look forward to your videos. Have a great night! ❤️😘
@@karlad.8762 Aww… thank you!! It’s my pleasure! I love talking to you guys and I wanna thank you for you taking the time to comment… and confessing to your Starbucks behavior. 😏😉 Hope you have a great night, too! ♥️
Excellent video. These RU-vidrs had me doubting myself. You confirmed a lot of my suspicions. I think you missed one…you don’t use a neutralizing shampoo do you?
Thank you, Regina! In the effort of trying not to repeat myself so much, I totally missed this one. But you are so right - I DON’T use a neutralizing shampoo. That’s a biggie.
Hey, Kathy! I don’t think I’ve ever worn braids… 🤔 Especially the smaller braids, I would definitely not do those. Too much manipulation = breakage. Agreed!
Loving your content! Newbie here… agree with everything you’ve stated. However, somehow (as much as I’d LOVE too) I can’t get away from oiling my scalp, especially after a relaxer. My scalp is always so dry after washy/relaxing. I think it’s thirsty, so I oil it …then it’s weighed down until next wash. I HATE THAT!!!! I’m paying attention more to my regimen and adjusting my products accordingly. Hopefully, this will help & I won’t feel so necessary for the additional moisturizing. If you have any more suggestions, I’d love to hear them. Thank you again for such refreshing & informative content, it’s incredibly timely.
Hey, Beth! Thank you so much! And WELCOME ABOARD!! 🥳 I hear you regarding the weighing down of your hair from oil. It’s all about finding the right rotation of products and it sounds like you’re trying to do just that. Do you think your neutralizing shampoo is too harsh? (I know when I used to use a traditional one, my hair felt like straw afterwards…) Do you use a leave-in conditioner? What do you style your hair with after washing/relaxing and do you wrap at night?
@@DolceDawn Thank you so much! I really appreciate your prompt reply … So I’ve been using Olaplex #3 for a Leave-in, I do wrap my hair but I was using a traditional cotton scarf, I just picked up a couple of satin ones. I wash & condition with olaplex (Sally knock off= Bondbar & agebeautiful ultrabond) I oil my scalp with ‘ORS’ Olive oil hair dress. I actually was just about to relax (just for me/regular) but it’s only been about 4weeks, so I’m taking your advice & waiting another month. I noticed I’m trimming more often as well and I’m dryer than normal, I’m hearing menopause could cause it. I purchased new shears, a new flat iron (Remington/ceramic), and got knew olaplex … trying to attack these issues. Oh also, I used design freedom for the first time in awhile (today was wash day), wrapped my hair and I’m letting it air dry. The hair dryer always drys me out so much & I end up with a ton of breakage. Sorry, I feel like I’m purging.. lol. I know it’s alot. I really appreciate your assistance and advice. Thank you in advance. The neutralizing shampoo, comes with the relaxer… that’s the only time I use it. I plan on switching to precise-mild.
@@bethharris6534 You’re right that getting older can cause your hair to be drier. Both blow drying and air drying can make it drier, depending on the products you’re using. But it sounds like you’re on your way to trying to figure it all out… and we will! By the way, I wouldn’t use Olaplex 3 as a leave-in as it wasn’t intended for that use. It’s a bond builder that’s supposed to be used up to 10mins to help restore damaged hair. I would, instead, invest in a good leave-in conditioner that is going to protect and bring moisture to your strands. I do have a video in my Building Your Regimen that offers some great options, if you’re interested. Oh, and if you end of trying Precise, let me know how you like it. Please and thank you! 😉
@@DolceDawn Thank you so much, I really am trying… Oh no, I don’t use #3 as a leave-in, my apologies if I wasn’t clear. I use #6 as my leave in and #3 as the instructions dictate (just as you stated ☺️). As I think back, I did try to go bk light (honey blonde) the week before the Super Bowl, and quickly remembered why I stopped coloring in the first place. I could never achieve what I desired without bleach & I refuse to bleach so I went black and vowed to stay here… until I didn’t… anyway, I got HOT ROOTS, said to heck with it and the next day did a red filler and dyed it black 🤦🏽 . I’m probably experiencing the after effects of that!!!! So I’m playing damage control at this point. (I always use a booster in ANY chemical process, I definitely oil my scalp before I put anything chemicals on my hair along with the ion booster, & olaplex #6, along with whatever pre protection the relaxer kit provides). Protect, protect, protect… my motto) I will definitely let you know how I like precise. Thank you so much again for your help. You ROCK
That’s awesome, KrissiT! I’m sure you can find a variety of different styles of YT/IG. If not, nothing wrong with choosing a favorite and rocking it as your signature look, too.
Y when we was growing up our mom did none of this and my hair grew and was healthy. Now we need all of this. Blue magic and beaugamont grease was all we had. Pressing on Saturday for church on Sunday. Paper bag rollers. Plastic rain scarf. Combed hair every night for school.
Hey, Nellie! YESSS! When I was a kid, I didn’t have a relaxer; it was all about the press ‘n’ curl and grease/Vaseline. No more, no less. And when we ran out of rollers, we used paper bag strips, too. #Samesies! Had healthy hair for days! Just goes to prove that simple really is best.
Hey Dolce love that you shared all these good stuff in one video. I love how your hair looks so your hair care routine is indeed working for you. What is the name of the hair serum that you use and also the heat protector.
Glad you liked, Kurlymeka! I like Paul Mitchell’s Skinny serum - it’s light and can be used as a heat protectant- and I use Theorie’s Heat Shield Spray. Love both!
Dolce your hair is so beautiful! I am so jealous! :) I have a question for you. I just learned that we are not supposed to relax bonestraight but only about 85%? I self relax with no lye and Because I am a little slow at applying my relaxers most of my hair get bone straight by accident. Is there anything I can add to my relaxer to slow down the process? If so , how much would you suggest?? Thanks
Hey, Mickey XOXO! THANK YOU! ♥️ Who told you to only relax to 85% and did they say why? Even when you relax the full amount of time or “bone straight”, you will still have texture left in your strands. Have you been having issues with having fully relaxed hair?
I totally agree with you regarding certain regimens that others follow. I also question the co-washing. I also would be swinging my hair back and forth if I had your hair. I would want to enjoy and appreciate the health and length if my hair. I also only use serums, moisturising weighs my hair down and I often get approached by other lovely women about how I get the swing and bounce to my hair. I actually use heat in my hair nearly everyday, I don't do the circula wrap as it causes breakage so I bump my hairs where needed each day on a low heat. Trims are a girls best friend when it comes to the health of our hair. Love a good trim😍. Will be trimming mine when I relax it this weekend.
Yes, I remember being shocked when you said that you used heat everyday! lol But I agree: trims are essential and really ARE a girl’s hair’s best friend. 👍🏾
Hello Dolce, can you make a video about your routine during summer when you go to the pool and the beach? I just moved in a new apartment and there is a pool in my building (that I enjoy) and I don’t know how to deal with my hair being wet 2-3 times, please heeeelp 🥺
Hey, Eva! Do you wear a swim cap? I gotta tell you… I don’t know how to swim (shhh! Don’t tell nobody 😏). So I don’t normally go to the pool, but I can make a summertime video about how us relaxed gals can protect and wear our hair at the pool/beach, etc. I’ll put that on the list. 👍🏾
I've been binge watching your videos. I am trying to find the video where you discuss your battle with anemia, if you have one. Going through it right now. Hair falling out and my numbers are low. Supplements aren't working. What did you do? I may have to get iron infusions.😢
Hey, cfoster6804! I totally understand your frustration. I have a couple of vids - “Growing Pains: My Hair Story”, “Hair BnB” and “Essential Minerals For Healthy Hair” to name a few - that touch on anemia and the things that helped me overcome it. I can tell you that blackstrap molasses helped my condition immensely because of both its iron and copper content. Hoping the vids help as well as the guidance of your physician to help get you back on track. Please keep me updated. ♥️
@DolceDawn I actually used to take blackstrap molasses but didn't stick with it...for no good reason. I was taking Plantation brand. I'm going to get back on it and check out the videos. Thank you so much! Ps. I love that you take time to respond to comments even on older content.😊
I agree with that trim rule...my hair wants to trimmed when it wants it...and, I listen to my hair... it's hates everything,yet wants it's trims when it wants it...😂💗😄
Hey, JDL Raheema! You’re so welcome! Oils are naturally derived from plants, vegetables, nut and fruits while serums are made up of synthetic “oils” or lubricants called silicones. Both can be used as a hair polish or finisher; however, serums are arguably more versatile in that they’re better at fighting frizz (because of their moisture locking abilities) as well as a more stable and efficient heat protectant because of their ability to withstand higher temperatures.
@@Innerbeauty4U2 lol You think that’s low? I used to do it on 345 F for the longest and only in the last few years raised it. What temp do you use and are you natural or relaxed?
I'm relaxed and just seen others use 450... I personally use 300 -380 max. If I use low temperature I noticed my hair wont stay as long. Although I curl my hair. I don't wear it straight like you do, your hair comes out nice and you said it last a week?
@@Innerbeauty4U2 Got it. Yeah, when I got my new iron, I noticed that going up a notch gave me a slightly better result. And, yep… as long as I stay outta water, it will last a week. Lol
