This episode… whew! There is little to no safe space in our community for people who have gone through sv. The first reaction is usually shaming the individual, and dismissing the pain, the physical and spiritual implications. Now families should also consider the seriousness of this matter and stop this culture of “hush money” so there won’t be any “scandal”. This is serious.
You’re so right-this issue runs deep in our communities, and it's heartbreaking how often survivors are met with shame or silence instead of support. The lack of safe spaces for those who have gone through sexual violence is damaging on so many levels-physically, emotionally, and spiritually. And the culture of “hush money” to avoid scandals only perpetuates the problem, protecting abusers while silencing victims. Families, communities, and society at large need to confront the seriousness of this issue head-on. This conversation is long overdue, and we must prioritize healing and justice over protecting reputations. Thank you for speaking truth!
To most people, it's a matter of pride, ego, or fear of retribution from the violators. Telling on the violators is prime and has to be encouraged by all means. Most of these rapes are premeditated. If not, then the perpetrator has become psychotic. What do you do at that point? Tell or not tell!? This is a whole dissertation, but it needs to be talked about even in half sentences.
You're absolutely right-this is such a complex and layered issue. Pride, ego, and fear of retribution all play huge roles in why many survivors struggle with speaking out, and that’s why creating safe, supportive environments where they feel protected is crucial. Encouraging people to tell their stories is vital, but we also need to focus on preventing the violence in the first place and addressing the mindset of the perpetrators. It’s definitely a conversation that can’t be summarized in one sentence, but the fact that we’re even talking about it is a step in the right direction. Thank you for bringing up such important points! Let’s keep the dialogue going.
