Bride Struggle To Convince Protective Mum This Is Her Dream Dress I Say Yes To The Dress UK 

Or the bride could say "thanks, Mum, but I've got this."

They do it because it was done to them.

I totally agree!! It ruins their day & their wedding 💒

& brides need to STOP asking/having parents pay for gown = she's an ADULT

THANK YOU !

utterly YES ! the mum didn't seem to realise , or chose Not to realise , how much she makes her daughter lose confidence in her own opinions

the consultant just pushed the same dress on the bride. They should have let her tried on a few dresses - thats the whole point of the appointment. instead she was like - okay whats not right lets fix it. I dont get this push for bride to choose the first dress she tries on. You can tell the bride herself wasnt very decisive about the dress - usually that means they're not sure if its THE dress. and the mother was right the top just looked awkward on the bride

@@zineguri8515 I hope it will look less awkward when it's sized specifically for her body. I agree w/your feeling the consultant was pushy (tho just to clarify, it was the second dress she tried, not the first).

@@surlygale1082 I know but it was the first that wasn't her mothers pick (which she really only tried that to please her mother) but in the style she was after she only tried one.

@Zine i agree the daughter was looking for moms approval but i agreed with mom. the top didn't flatter the daughter and she has small cleavage and the dress top didn't look good on her. but if she loved the dress trying on others wouldn't have hurt and she would go with what she loved and not what her mom wanted.

Their ought to be a sign in bridal dress shops that says: "All mothers need to listen to their daughters and remind themselves that it is their daughter who will wear the dress!" This mum pushed her daughter too far. The mum deserved to be put in her place.

@@hlondon2408 I also hate the Money move parents always make. "Yes! I agree on gifting you the dress, now I have the power to make you wear what I WANT" excuse me? NO, A gift is a gift! If you want to control it do not agree to pay for it. Geez

absolutely agree with you

Me too. I hope she goes home with her dream dress !!

I feel sorry for Callum! This will not end when Ginny is married!

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She's a terrible sales woman. She showed the bride 2 dresses, only one of which she chose and even though it was obvious the bride wasn't sure of it, she kept pushing and pushing it on to the bride anyway

I saw a mom not sure if her child truly loved a dress. And given the bride didn't hate the first dress, let her try on more.

She wasn’t bullying.

It’s like bully mothers never got their own way growing up so they have to dominate their kids 😡😡😡

@@lindap8101 were you watching same program as rest of us 🤷‍♀️ she’s a horrible bully ! Her way or no way !!! Mum Saying “if she’s not fighting for it she doesn’t want it “ No she’s not fighting because she’s terrified and because you will sulk till you get your own way mum

@@annedalton289 What it’s like is you guys are so easily manipulated by these videos. lol

I agree. That intense stare was unsettling.

mom is no phoney, how easy would it have been for the cameras? her daughter is her only focus.

I think it was because she didn't choose the dress... She was mad about that. What a sour mom.

She is a jealous mum, probably

I have a narcissist mother and I could see on the moms face the same look in my own mom’s eyes. Just sayinggggggg

I could see the Mum trying to read her daughters eyes. She simply wants what is best for her girl. Plus they only show us what they want us to see.

@@traceyhuntstreasure2890 Shouldn't she be able to read her daughter better by now? If she can't maybe she should trust her daughter's words more. I wish people would stop justifying controlling behaviour like this with "mother's love"...

@@bakoyma lol perhaps in their home life she was controlling but there was nothing in this video showing it. Her Mother supported her throughout, she just didn't love the dress as much.

@@traceyhuntstreasure2890 lol if she is controlling in their home life she probably wont stop being that way at the bridal shop. I didn't see a mother "supporting her daughter through and through", I saw someone who was too domineering because she thinks she knows better than her daughter what's best for her. But agree to disagree.

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I so agree with you. I'm taking me myself and I to my appointment

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Amen. Pay for it yourself, get what YOU like! I did it, and went by myself to most of the appointments, and I'm glad I did.

@@aprilchow-chee5281 Aw when are you getting married?! Congratulations! 🥳🥰

Good for you. I also bought my own dress. No one could hold money over me to influence me. Just me and my mom, an hour in the shop and I was done. No fighting. It was lovely.

Narcissistic parents do that to their kids. Those kids doubt their own judgment.

agreed. Every time I see a bride declare herself 'indecisive' on one of these shows I make a bet with myself at least one person in her family is going to be overbearing. I have never bet wrong yet. Often too, the bride isn't indecisive at all - she knows what she likes but is told by the overbearing person that she is wrong about her understanding of what she likes. It is a form of gaslighting by the overbearing person, and it is abusive. As @SpiritDragoness noted, narcissistic parents do that to their kids. (other types of abusive parents do so as well).

Because we didn't see their entire interaction, just snippets and she knew this was the dress the bride wanted.

These shows are very heavily edited. For all we know, she tried on 50 dresses and they just edited down to show those two.

I know so silly to limit the amount of dresses she tries on. Also the top of the dress she chose would suit someone with a slightly bigger bust . It doesn't look amazing..She looks so tiny she can wear so many different styles

@@sandyprofilio4170 Exactly. She (her bust) was swimming in the dress, I think that's what her mother was hinting at but didn't want to say. Hopefully after alterations the top will fit much better.

@@sandyprofilio4170 Again, this show is heavily edited and we don’t know the amount of dresses she actually tries on.

true so true..it was an enormous mistake letting her pay for it..

IF you have a mom like this. I told my daughter’s consultant to not tell her the prices because I didn’t want “too expensive” to sway her opinion. She’s a very frugal girl. 😂 She only found out about two years after her wedding because she decided to sell it and needed to know the original price. I’m not sure she has recovered yet! Other than budget, she was completely in charge of everything else.

But the dress mom chose suited her body much better than the dress the bride chose. The bride's choice didn't suit her body at all, she looked flat and shapeless in it. The top did not look right, mom was correct.

@@NLR759Exactly what I thought.

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Totally agree. My mom was the same. When i was a kid, i wore out all my clothes till they had holes in them coz i just didn't want to tell my mom that i needed new ones. I still feel uncomfortable accepting gifts coz at the back of my mind is always that though "what will it cost me". My husband drags me by force to the store to buy me something nice. These kind of parents can be very traumatising. The way the brides face changed when speaking to her mother reminded me so much of my experience. That also could be the reason why this girl is marrying so young... To run away. Hope she is with the right person and nicer people around her.

@@SpiritDragoness sameee my boyfriend has to drag me to a sore and be extremely stubborn with me for me to get something new cause all that's running through my mind is all the strings that will be attached to it. even though that the polar opposite of his ways and he would never fantom being that way, it really traumatizes you to the point where you cant help but be skeptical of every gift.

I agree - & I think the alteration did improve it, it became more modest & traditional like she wanted

Perfect for her body shape. The big puffy one, although beautiful, overwhelmed her body shape and personality.

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The “fight for the dress” wasn’t the mother being a jerk. It was “let’s make sure that the £2000 dress is absolutely the right one, and not in a week having her change her mind.” It’s a lot of money, and you do it once, so you want to make sure the dress is THE DRESS! I have a problem with impulse buying, especially when I’m around people whose opinions I value. I now get done shopping, take a lap around the store, then transfer all my stuff from one cart to another so I have to look at everything. Quite often I find that I changed my mind on an item, or 12.

the mom obviously only is paying so she can have control over her dress too, gross.

I agree, the dress doesn't do anything for her. Salesperson should have let her try another dress. You can always come back, but here they just steamroller the personnpaying.

@@Songbirdstress EXACTLY, we know it.

Peak sake dress two was beautiful the mother had herself in mind

She's too small busted for that particular dress or size. Hopefully alterations fixed it.

Of course, that dress is wrong for her body. She needed more of a dress.

NO. She's so delicate - what she chose is perfect for her slender figure; once they do alterations, they can add a bit of sewn-in padding at the bust to balance the top better.

Absolutely the first dress was way better for her. The second dress didn’t do anything for her body type.

Exactly.

No mom did want to say that the bride was not bustier enough for the second dress

Totally agree! This is the reason why my mom was never at my wedding. My husband got to see her for the first time at her funeral. I know that sounds cruel...

@@SpiritDragoness for those of us with 'That Type' of mother, it doesn't sound cruel. It sounds wise. Actually it sounds like the end of the cruelty. The end of the cruelty suffered at That Type of mother's hands. I went no contact with my own That Type of mother (and by extension enabling father and siblings) more than 10 years ago. If I am in a serious romantic relationship, that guy will never meet her. I am glad that you were able to find your own love and family and freedom from that cruelty.

@@survivedandthriving yeah, her death was a weird experience. The weirdest combo of emotions, sadness mixed with "the witch is dead" kind of relief. I too went no contact with my mom for the last 4 years of her life, and cutting contact with all of my extended family coz my mom was into by proxy cruelty too. Took a while to restore my relationships with my extended family (many of them are the sweetest people ever. I am turning 40 this year, and only now I am begining to build a relationship with my grandfather coz during her life I wasn't allowed, I was sent to my room every time he visited, coz he is HER father but never my grandfather.) Glad you too had the strength and courage togo no contact. It is the best but also the scariest decision I have had to make. These kind of parents never change, they only get worse with age.

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I agree. I think she was also trying to make doubly sure that her daughter really loved the dress. I also get what she was taking about about the top of the dress. She probably thought there were flattering options for her.

@@AS-yz2iz Strange, because the first dress her mom chose had an even bigger dip than the second one! It also had cut outs down the sides of the dress. So it was nothing to do with the top of the dress, she was just finding ways not to like it

@@kanyebreast6072 I'm not talking about how low cut or revealing it was. I'm talking about the general fit and how it looked. It seemed a bit heavy for her small frame. I also question the editing, because it was the bride who first mentioned the low cut part of the dress being revealing, if I remember correctly. The mom did mention it later as being fixed, but I'm not sure that the mom liked it fixed because it seemed to fit her better, or because she thought it too revealing? That's not made very clear.

The mom is somewhat pushy and manipulative

I agree that it's a good line to use when mom really wants the best for her daughter, but on the flipside, it is also a very manipulative line to guilt trip someone. If I like something based on adrenaline (because I'm fighting for it), will I still like it when the adrenaline's gone? If mom really wanted her daughter to be sure she likes it, considering that she's supposedly that outspoken, mom should only be asking if she's sure about her choice, and not faulting her daughter for not fighting for her choice. Also, if someone can't give you a proper reason about why they don't like something, the problem lies with them, not you.

They struggle because they never learned to have boundaries.

Women have been brainwashed into being pleasers, and to avoid conflict. When we do stand up for ourselves, we called all kinds of foul names, or accused of all manner of things.

True. I only tried four dresses, the first three on one occasion, didn't feel it except for a illusion top with lots of sparkle... Then I was walking by a store and saw it on the window, tried it on and that was it. It was my dress.

RIGHT

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That was exactly my impression. It wasn't not the dress that the mother didn't like, it was that her daughter was taking control away from her.

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I think my mom has been the same when I’ve been planning my wedding

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Yes. The probable reason why this bride is so much in a hurry to get married so young is so that she can run away from that controling woman she calls her mom.

She's too small busted for it. She needed to try on more dresses and find one that fit her bosom better. She has a lovely figure but the dress didn't fit well in the bust area.

@@joralemonvirgincreche But that dress was a sample size. The alterations will be made to her actual dress to make the size of the bodice fit her torso/breast area perfectly.

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Too petite and flat chest for that style

I would caution against assuming that every mom actually wants what is best for their daughters, and I'm not even remotely convinced that this one does. Too many mothers are more interested in sabotaging their daughters for a variety of reasons: to gain narcissistic supply, to keep control over their child, to ensure the daughter stays 'less than' the mother, to ensure daughter knows her place, to ensure daughter cannot be fully happy, to ensure daughter remains reliant on mother, to ensure mother has someone to project her own insecurities onto, to live something out through the daughter, to just be nasty for the sake of being nasty, etc., etc. Often it is a disgusting, toxic mix of many of the motivations combined. It is enabling of abusers to start with the idea that they 'want what is best' for the victims of their abuse. Abusers only want what is best for themselves. Others' needs and wants only come into it in order to provide knowledge and ammo for the abusers to better hone their abuse.

Ikr she looks great in the second dress but the first dress was amazing

I personally liked the second dress better. She seemed to get absorbed into the poof of the first dress in my opinion

No, it was "swampy"! The bride described it perfectly. There was too much of the dress for her petite size, she was drowning in it.

Yes the mother’s pick was way better. Mom did not want to say that the second dress didn’t fit her well

I think the bride is marrying so young only so that she can run away from her mother as soon as possible.

@@SpiritDragoness You certainly have a point. Somehow, I don't think a husband will get in mom's way.. 😬

Those of us who grew up in abusive homes often have difficulty expressing how we feel, especially to our main abusers. To me, the fact that the daughter stood up to the mother at all made it seem like she was responding very strongly indeed. I am guessing that that took a great deal of courage for the daughter to do. To me, the fact that she stood up to this mama at all clearly showed that the daughter really liked and wanted that dress.

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