Many of us weren’t raised by parents who told us we are enough and didn’t praise us and now as adults we struggle to find our worth and can’t see it. So sad. I raised my son the opposite of what my parents did. I praised him, complimented him, never squashed his dreams and he’s 31 and very successful, happy and well adjusted. We can still overcome if we accept that our parents messed up and had no knowledge to pass on and projected their own insecurities and inefficiency on us and it wasn’t their fault.
who's fault is it than , somehow we know better if they tried they would too don't you think ? I am not making any more excuses for my parent anymore he was what he was and if he wanted he would be better because I can use that excuse as well and be the same but I am not
Actually, it’s not a good thing to praise kids. Only if they ask for it. Praising kids teaches them to be people pleasers. There’s also a difference between pro aiding kids based on performance vs effort. I read about this the other day, so thought I would share.
It’s becoming super clear to me now that I’ve been doing this all wrong. My self concept is all over the place I know my worth but I let limiting thoughts dominate too often which is reflected in my 3d.
Joy, your message is spot-on about how to have a good life. We become what we think and believe about ourselves. I'm an old-timer, age 75, and I didn't discover the truth in your message until around age 40, which is when my life became wonderful. The "tool" I used to change how I see myself has been a gratitude list. I started writing it back in 1989, putting in every little, and larger gratitude, starting by thinking trough my childhood up until the present day. Today that list is over 54,000 words - 134 pages single-space typed into a Word document. Doing this exercise, and keeping it going over the years, caused a total shift in how I saw myself. Everything changed for the better. My life changed, my marriage changed, my business changed - all for the better. It's a wonderful message. What we think about expands, and by keeping grateful, I keep getting more things about which to be grateful. Try this. Keep it going, it works.
Biologically and esoterically, we are an electromagnetic system. I am so magnetic that anything I want just gets drawn to me. All of my needs get met as a result. Isn’t it wonderful? Thank you.
My family raised me in a way of that every single thing i do , and everything i am is never enough . Which caused me to have a low self concept and a lack mentality . It took me so long and so much work to have a good self concept.
Keep going, bc you are so lovable and awesome and amazing and valuable and worthy. Please try to always remember this. Your worth depends on NOTHING ❤️❤️❤️
How did you exactly do this work - through journalling and meditation? I have had exactly the same from my parents it really sucks and Ive got to age 44 struggle badly day to day
I loved your point about not relying on external factors to determine your worth in a relationship. I'm so tired of hearing about "low-value man this" or "high-value woman that." It's such a cruel and reductive way to speak about people, and it makes romantic partnerships seem like a transaction.
subscribed! ive been telling myself that ill focus on self concept but then i end up focusing way too much on sp or literally anything else. now ill actually be placing the focus on me 💅
Environment triggers feelings which trigger mood which trigger thoughts and actions. You have the power to become less volatile to your environment you have all the control you are your god. Trust me when I say from experience staying in that higher frequency does attract positive experiences. Thats not to say you wont be tested but its a blip in time dont let that bs affect you queen. Stay unbothered.
My mom raised me to have low self esteem, she would praise me while also bringing me down. She’d call me beautiful then when she was mad she’d call me a bad name. It’s harder to identify that kinda stuff and realize my worth. I always let people walk over me because I think i deserve them not they deserve me.
Abundance is an energy, feel your way into abundance. Who are your role models, what inspires you about them, whats their self concept. Learn from them, what are they doing right. How we do the small things is how we do the big things. Do small things like a big person. Embody the energy of that future you that you hold in your mindspace. Wishing us all the best. With love Sun.
I love everything you said.❤ Have built my self concept up the past few months and just know everything I’ve ever wanted is mine. Definitely important to focus on self concept at the same time as your desires.
Abundance is an energy, feel your way into abundance. Who are your role models, what inspires you about them, whats their self concept. Learn from them, what are they doing right. How we do the small things is how we do the big things. Do small things like a big person. Embody the energy of that future you that you hold in your mindspace. Wishing us all the best. With love Sun.
Parents were v strict and so was my dance teacher. Yes I learned a great Class8dance form under her for 12 years but those 12 years of my childhood I was under pressure , stress n lot of unrequited discipline which often use to turn into distress. I m a first class first university topper gold medalist girl..fair n beautiful and a dancer and singer..however I never knew I need to value myself as a result my husband too thought of me as very gullible n took me for a ride for several years wth tremendous mental abuse n disrespect...but no more. Enough is enough. I stand up again n first v thing I want to love myself ..right from a small child uptill now..I😊 I select people v carefully now ..I need best wishes from you all..
Keep toxic people out of your life. You must know what narcissism is to keep out these predatory and abusive people out of your life. Toxic people will destroy your life.
Yes this is so true people underestimate the power of toxic people narcissistic /psychopaths,.. are like an evil force . Cutting the cords from these people is mandatory for a good life
*You don't need to get plastic surgery* hits hard 🥺 coz as a young child i never felt pretty and thought only beautiful people can have good friends. But as i matured i realised its all about self concept 💗. Thank you for your lovely video.
I always felt that I needed to lower myself, don’t have worth and thinking that I didn’t deserve anything good because of my trauma. Now that I recovered and my way to healing I still feel the same and people please a lot. Changing how I think of myself is the answer Thank you so much ❤
Well here’s the thing When I was in high school my perception of myself was very high but as I grow older I realized I’m very ordinary if anything I’m less… I’m not particularly smart, or beautiful or talented and I compare myself to other a toxic amount to the point where I don’t get close to anyone because they leave me questioning myself. The truth is the reality of my situation eventually beat my perception and reality caught up with me like a tsunami crushing me down more then ever! My self confidence is none existent and it’s only getting worse but what I am doing about this issue with myself is just working with myself everyday.. the first step is that I’m aware of the issue so that’s great. Life is what you make it SOMETIMES for SOME people. Perception is not reality, sometimes is it but only to you.
Many of us have been down the road you are describing but we are coming out the other side loving ourselves unconditionally. Keep going because you are 100 percent lovable ❤️
This is part of Hermeticism and I agree completely. Also it is important to love and accept everything and everyone as it is, as well as yourself. In doing so will kill negativity and lack and you become someone who attracts what your new worth is. It will also take any SP off the pedestal. I love you Joy. I have subscribed because we can never have enough of words and ideas such as these.
When i watch this video in the morning i see that you have 459 subscribers now you have 744 your amazing ❤ i'm soo greatful for that i found this video and your channel. Keep going girl looking for more amazing content ✨️
Something about this just HITS the right spot. There is a whole lot of other material on the topic but that stuff feels forced and this stuff feels natural!!
Got so many self-limiting beliefs up in here it feels like I'm gonna pass out when I focus on maintaining this mindset 😂 Been practicing for a while, but this was a great listen! Subbed
Wow!! It's my first time to see a girl that is wise, deep, and pretty at the same time.. Hope you all the best I've learnt a lot from you. Thank you ❤️
first of all you’re gorgeous you’re so well spoken and i love your voice and btw this is a really detail video and your tips are very unique so thank u🤍
Downloaded this video to keep it on a demand for whenevere i need it. I geew up just generally hating myself and not seeing my worth and unconsciously carried that program around with me. I basically ruined my life before it even began. Thank you for always motivating me. I really want to book you for coaching one day.
How did you learn to speak so flawlessly? You are a beautiful, well-spoken, and smart person. Thank you for this. My girlfriend needs to know this since she doesn't realize how smart and beautiful she is herself.
Thank you for making this video. Everything you said was what I needed to hear in my life right now. I was so anxious today feeling like I wasn’t enough and that I didn’t deserve what I desired even though I know I shouldn’t be thinking this way. I feel so uplifted and encouraged. Thank you so much. Well done! I wish you and everyone the watching your content an amazing fulfilled life!
JOY I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!! You honestly touched my heart with this beautiful sweetmessage and making me realise how important it is i view myself first before even thinking about others.😘❤💞
Same! I remember trying to have conversations on topics like this 10 years ago. And it was BRUTAL 😂😅😢. And it wasn't even that they didn't want to have the conversation.....they just didn't know what to say really. They had never thought about ANYTHING like this. And people would either get freaked or weirded out and ask why tf I was thinking about and talking about stuff like this. Or they'd just have a glazed over look in their eyes and say yeah I don't know 😂 Some people you could tell it opened a door in their mind.....they would get quiet and not really say anything. But you could see it did something to them.
I distinctly remember being a senior in high school, and having a discussion about the book The Alchemist that we were reading. And I used the term " the universe" in replacement to god. And the teacher laughed and told me he didn't want to hesd my hippy dippy ideas. You hear it very regularly now.
The most lit part of this video was when you made a goof talking and you just kept talking passionately without editing it out. You a real one, and we love you too.
The concept of infinite self value is great but I wouldn’t go as far as saying someone is enough. You shouldn’t feel stressed or fake yourself in any way but you should focus and dedicate serious time to everyday self improvement.
I realized something as well, its about pride/confidence. When you do things in certain order, you just have more pride because of that behavior. Like rather than eating directly from cooker, if you take it out on a plate, then eat it. It makes you feel right. When we do stuff wrongly, we just hide it from others. Like, we don't want to show others that we sometimes don't wash hands after tying our shoelaces. But when you do. It just keeps up. And you feel better internally.
Joy you have an extremely serene voice which resonates deep within even for us. This is really helpful and elevating. We all are rewards like yourself Joy.
Joy thanks for the content u give , before I got to know about self concept from u I kept on working in various things but wondered why I always felt like I had never started, its when RU-vid recommended ur video that I got to know what to actually start with and that is self concept, I request u make a video on tips on how to enlarge one's self concept plus a video of affirmations to enlarge one's self concept positively
Thanks for this video, the king Queen mentality help see the things in other ways, like yeah... the queen can't be stressed or anxious for everything, she need to believe that everything is going to be ok❤
I admire your ability to see yourself as special and unique. I have difficulty seeing myself as special and unique as no one else seems to see it and I see billions of other people on the planet with similar desires (at the core - the desire to feel worthy and to create things that interest us.) I see us all as replaceable ants and that life will easily go on without us. When I put my finger in a glass of water, stir, and withdraw my finger, there is not a hole remaining in the water where my finger was. To me that proves I am not indispensable. Hats off to everyone who can and does see themselves as having value. I just see specks of dust on a tiny speck of dust in an infinite universe. In other words, none of us matter.
When you talked about how kings and queens get what they want and how they are so relaxed, it reminded me of Ava Max’s Kings&Queens 👑✨️ And you rock! Keep doing what you’re doing :))
love this! perfect timing. your personality creates your personal reality so get to working on self concept and how you view yourself, you guys lets gooooo
Hello, this video popped up in front of me today. This is my introduction to you and your channel. Thank you for this video. I value and appreciate what you are sharing here, and your voice feels good.
I think thinking you’re better than anyone else is very different than changing your state of being, one is superficial the other is genuine, when you’re changes your state you’re becoming that not trying to be better or forcing
I'm so grateful I found your channel, I love this video I promise to achieve a high self concept because I know what I desire is just around the corner. ✨
This was so relaxing to watch, I’ve needed to make affirmations a routine because I’d fall back into lack mindset so many times, this was amazing thank you ❤
You are a beautiful soul. I was seeking Joy, and I found you. Thank you for reminding me of my worth. I wish I could surround myself with friends like you. By the way, I stayed to the end without skipping, because you are worth listening to!
