BUILD The PERFECT RELATIONSHIP With These SECRETS...| Stephan Speaks & Lewis Howes

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Stephan Labossiere a.k.a Stephan Speaks is a certified relationship coach, speaker, and author. From understanding the opposite sex to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self-growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight help countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life.
Seen, heard and chronicled in national and international media outlets including; the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few. To coin a phrase by an individual who attended one of his speaking engagements, “he’s definitely the relationship guy, all relationships all the time.”
Stephan talks about how important it is to heal before you get into a relationship. Otherwise, you’re going to be projecting your past hurt onto your partner.
He says that the most important part of every relationship is connection. Connection will bring chemistry.
So get ready to learn all about the things that make a romantic relationship last on Episode 730.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The number one thing holding people back from successful relationships (10:00)
Why men ruin relationships more than women (18:00)
How abstinence helped Stephan see things more clearly (20:00)
The things that every great relationship needs (23:00)
About the “Who Hurt Me” List (39:00)
The attitude many women have that pushes men away (44:00)
The truth about open relationships (58:00)
The one thing that Stephan wishes men knew about women (1:13:00)
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How to Find Your Partner and Keep Your Relationship Strong with Stephan Speaks and Lewis Howes
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@TanvirAhmed24 5 лет назад

In my opinion, the secret to keeping a healthy relationship is to realize that a healthy relationship means two healthy individuals.

@tkjspeaks1491 5 лет назад

Ooooo that’s heavy but correct!

@mamadoundoye5427 5 лет назад

yes, it just gets tricky because in our times many people are not healthy on so many levels..hmm..so romantic and in other words reproductive relationships, sociology is becoming more relevant as a entryway to solving problems..if we addressed health on a societal level it would permeate all aspects of human experience..let go of the ego in true love especially when y'all both in the struggle! let go of the fake ideals perpetuated in the media, that's what ruined my last relationship 😔 I feared love

@Lisa_M_V 5 лет назад

Tanvir Ahmed yes Interdependent relationships. Too many are co-dependant

@TanvirAhmed24 5 лет назад

@@Lisa_M_V Exactly!

@sheenamcdaniel5673 5 лет назад

Love it👍

@JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness 5 лет назад

“It’s not just think before you speak, it’s pray before you speak” What a great line 💕

@sylvialeads555 5 лет назад

Janey Imaani - Emotional Awareness amen

@JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness 5 лет назад

Sylvia Leads 💕

@soystef 5 лет назад

beautiful- resonates in my soul

@JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness 5 лет назад

SoMoS me too

@jabu8913 4 года назад

There's a lot more to this. Go read this book "THE UNSPOKEN SECRET" by John Gram . Its a powerful insight to relationships.

@christinevalenti8080 5 лет назад

"We've normalized disfunction too much" ABSOLUTELY 100%!!

@mom2suns857 5 лет назад

That's the truth... this is how we tend to ignore major red flags

@ItsJennNotJenny 5 лет назад

Yes! Such a true statement.

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@gowithdflo 5 лет назад

"You only find that connection once or twice in your life. Twice if you are lucky." - That statement ripped my heart out my chest 😭

@Ethawa 5 лет назад

Maybe you just think you have experienced that amazing connection when in reality there is a connection out there that is greater than you ever dreamed or knew possible.

@gowithdflo 5 лет назад

@@Ethawa From your thoughts /keyboard to God's ears. Thanks for the positive vibes.

@Ethawa 5 лет назад

Look what I found. He is talking to you now! ;) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gM2WQWeH_SE.html

@soystef 5 лет назад

i felt it too

@elsyjoachin1569 5 лет назад

@@Ethawa dang.. that's deep! 🤔

@Ashdaesq 3 года назад

I love how Stephan doesn’t knock institutions, relationships or people in whole. He goes after mindsets, values and bad beliefs. Such a awesome approach

@MsYaYa0606 5 лет назад

Being “emotionally naked” is hands down the most important part of a relationship.

@dekisharify 5 лет назад

Being abstinence does work!!! You can see your life much more clearly! And remember it is not always about us. Listen.

@Notorious_witch 2 месяца назад

How long have you been abstinence? And if you want to share why but ofc no problem if you don’t want to share that here

@mamalovesthebeach437 5 лет назад

People jump from relationship to relationship without figuring out who they are by themselves. Stephen is SO right-on about sex blocking reality (not his words) for both men and women. People mistake lust for love and then when things start to settle into real life, typically between 1 and 3 years, people tell themselves that they've "fallen out of love". The person you should have the most love for is YOU! Relationship is giving to one another - if you do not love yourself you have no love to give. I was married for 26 years and divorced. I do not feel that marriage was a failure. I was young and we grew in different directions. I waited one year to date and I'm now in my second marriage 15 years and adore my husband. I met my second husband at 49 years old. He's a few years younger. I never waited for his phone calls or felt fearful in our relationship. Men definitely latch on quickly and when you introduce sex into the relationship too soon, before you really get to know one another it often convolutes everything. The #1 important quality in relationship is shared values. You can have great sex, etc. but if you don't have shared values the relationship will crumble. Stephen has a lot of relationship wisdom. Thanks for having him on the show.

@rainbowlifestyle7084 5 лет назад

Two broken people don't work but two wholeness people work. Focus on God first, heal from the past, let go of the past, wait on God to tell you yes this is the partner. Don't make the choices on your own

@toniemillsap8910 3 года назад

Oh that is so vital and refreshing to hear. Thank you. Amen

@asianiis 5 лет назад

Chemistry is not connection 20:49 that gave me chills. It's so easy to mistake chemistry for a connection if you're not aware that they are different.

@CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад

Actions. That's the only way! How they treat you.

@TheRoommatesPodcast 5 лет назад

Our two favorite people in the world sitting down together and giving life-giving content to the people. These two men are amazing souls who are truly using their voice and gifts to transform the world with love, kindness, and positivity. Love this!

@Giselle_AF 5 лет назад

@@lewishowes This is one of the most powerful videos I have seen about this topic. It has spoken to me so deeply. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, so much for this guys. I cannot begin to explain how incredibly enlightening it has been to listen to you speak.

@ChasingYonci 5 лет назад

I was so excited to see these two together!!!

@rashedabee9386 5 лет назад

You guys are amazing too.. 😊😊😊

@kwamboka1470 5 лет назад

You guys are amazing...very intentional....can't wait for 2019...

@lovelyladee748 5 лет назад

I am a big of yours Stephan. This interview was incredible & much needed for me. God Bless you!

@kusonoqui 5 лет назад

I think i'll put myself at the top of the "who hurt me list".

@Amatullah.574 3 года назад

If you're not connected to yourself, meaning you're disconnected from your heart, no one else can connect with you either.

@xol535 3 года назад

YhooH

@priyac1944 5 лет назад

This is the kind of stuff that should be taught in schools I think. It's been an absolute education watching this interview. I know I am a better person for watching this interview!!

@daniellemiller9457 5 лет назад

I Agee!!

@johnruss4839 3 года назад

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@desotohealth 3 года назад

This is the kind of stuff that should be taught AT HOME, IN the HOME! It is not the school's responsibility.

@queenofthenorth3110 Год назад

💯 agree! I say that all the time and love having discussions about these topics with my 3 sons. Breaking unhealthy generational patterns..

@purplepheasant4776 10 месяцев назад

How can ppl in unstable relationships teach children about being in a healthy relationship? Anyone can't teach any thing. Your parents, a family member, or an older mentor should teach you. School can't teach ppl how to live. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 What is the family's responsibility? Nothing?

@CrystalDatingCoach 4 года назад

Keep you standards high. Don't settle. You feel loved... You give love.

@casmuden 5 лет назад

The power of vulnerability is just incredible in a relationship. It’s ego that separates us. LOVE should be unconditional but RELATIONSHIPS should not🤷🏿‍♂️ Never confuse love with relationships. Love should be given to everybody freely. Relationships require more than just love. Love = being kind, patient, understanding n compassionate. These are the things we have to give to pple in general. Relationships = require communication, commitment n effort.

@TheKianaRoe 5 лет назад

casmuden well said

@saidasavage 3 года назад

Exactly! Perfectly worded.

@Thenoobestgirl 2 года назад

Idk... I don't think that love should be given unconditionally to just anyone. You have to be worthy of someone's love. Never take their love for granted!

@HighFrequencyLiving 5 лет назад

Good information but I don’t think some important root issues were addressed. The fears women (and men) have were not created in a vacuum. It’s not all about past issues...it’s about the present dating culture that people fall into that keeps people from truly connecting. There are a lot of emotionally abusive men and women out there creating these scary experiences. In my case, I did the inner work, increased my self esteem and self love, I wake up extremely happy every day and all of my other relationships have improved. I’m positive and open emotionally but I find I have to cut off a lot of people early on in dating relationships because of disrespectful and emotionally manipulative behavior. I think that I will run into someone I can connect with if I keep myself open and positive but it’s looking like it will take a while to push past all the BS people that are out there. Doing inner work doesn’t automatically guarantee the availability of other emotionally balanced people to date. Hopefully the trend will catch.

@VirgoGoddessXxo 5 лет назад

HighFrequencyLiving I do agree with you.

@shadeenah8791 5 лет назад

i think the point he was trying to make is that its easier to navigate the current situation if your mind isn't clouded by past pain. When you know yourself and know what you want its a lot easier for you to tell if a guy is right for you or not which saves you the time and stress of dealing with bs. It doesn't mean you become a magnet for only great guys. It means in a room of 100 men you can more easily choose the one good one. also, just because someone is a good person doesn't mean they are good for you.

@sealinalashelle5126 5 лет назад

You're one step ahead of the game and what you're describing is just the act of dating. You have to wade through the mess to get to the prize.

@runninginsept 5 лет назад

100% with you on this. Then, from whoever is left, the stars still need to align. For me, that's aligning for 3 things: intellectual compatibility, physical attraction and similar values. When the odds are initially narrowed to such a degree (weeding out the emotionally unavailable & the manipulative), it's truly like finding a needle in a haystack of whoever is left ☹️

@shadeenah8791 5 лет назад

Sealina LaShelle exactly. People act like dating dating is some magical thing where as soon as you get your shit together Prince Charming will just come chasing you down. You still have to kiss a few frogs.

@VirgoDluxe 5 лет назад

I swear by living in your feminine energy. The minute I started doing this the caliber of men I started to attract changed and I found who I believe is the perfect person for me. I’m very glad Stephan touched on that because not many people do and it’s such an important piece of information for woman to be aware of.

@liabw05 5 лет назад

Is there a book you could recommend or a person? I'm wanting to grow in this area.

@mom2suns857 5 лет назад

I agree with you but sometimes it is a challenge being that our society is trending towards role reversal. It's almost challenging to find someone who believes that appreciates femininity at its purest form

@VirgoDluxe 5 лет назад

Rebekah Bart on RU-vid I follow April Mason and Helena Hart. They both speak a lot on this topic and have been very helpful in my feminine journey. All the best to you ☺️

@THENOWCO 5 лет назад

Yes, empower yourself and the rest will fall in line. Keep it going!

@asianiis 5 лет назад

@@liabw05 Monique Head on yt also discusses how to tap into your feminine energy at length

@montellmason033 5 лет назад

Wow. He just dropped something in my spirit. I wonder how many are married to someone they do not deeply love?

@claudiaclaudia8599 5 лет назад

montellmason033 He was nice when he said 60%.I believe it’s 90%.

@monicacalais1039 5 лет назад

Plenty

@marshaalison1569 5 лет назад

Millions!

@rachelsweets 5 лет назад

@@marshaalison1569 I agree

@NalloryLove 5 лет назад

I think it’s also because marriage in this generation is more about financial needs being met than emotional needs.

@iwnunn7999 5 лет назад

Chemistry vs connection... So true and people mostly confuse the two

@Jack-rd7li 3 года назад

not hard to realize that they go hand in hand

@mindovermatter7591 3 года назад

@@Jack-rd7li not true. You may have chemistry but there’s no connection. Although connection allows chemistry to come naturally. (Hope that makes sense)

@marielsnow1224 5 лет назад

This video hit me in so many ways. I knew 2 weeks before I got married that it was the wrong decision, but I felt that I was in too deep as there were guests that were coming over from Scotland. I also really knew that he was not my person when he gained a lot of weight while we were together and I was no longer attracted to him. The funny thing is that he would blame me for the food I cooked yet I had 3 kids and ate the same food as he did!! I ended the marriage about 7 years ago because I really wanted to cheat and human to human I didn't want to treat him that way. We've had conversations since then along the lines of me being the one who had the guts to pull out of a relationship that neither of us wanted to be in. Right now we are doing well as co-parents and we were always better friends and teammates then romantic partners. I did get into a relationship 3 years later that was off and on for 3 years and I recognize looking back that neither of us was fully able to get past our pasts. At the moment I've decided to be single and abstinent to gain a better knowledge of myself so I can heal the wounds of the past so I won't feel the desire to bleed all over the future. At the moment I am working towards my true purpose working in an addiction treatment center and attending university to get my bachelor in addiction counseling. Thank you for all the people you bring onto your show, I love your message keep being amazing!!!

@tylynn256 5 лет назад

"Bleed all over the future" I am digging that analogy... That's exactly what it's like!

@charlenef.9055 5 лет назад

Wow wow wow

@Shadow-runner939 5 лет назад

Mariel Snow Amen...

@mom2suns857 5 лет назад

Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it's courageous to make that step of deciding divorce was better than cheating, especially because children are involved and as parents we at times make the mistake of staying in an unhappy marriage at all costs so that the kids won't have to experience divorce.

@THENOWCO 5 лет назад

You're fucking awesome for sharing your story. Self awareness is the tool to absolute healing.

@danil.6667 5 лет назад

Two quality men here. I watched two other dudes on YT the other day expecting a talk like this, but it turned out to be two nearly middle aged men who still couldn't figure out the difference between lust and love. Anyway, this podcast makes me so grateful to have found my husband. We're not perfect but we're perfect for each other. :)

@danil.6667 5 лет назад

@@lewishowes :)

@QuitaRadio 5 лет назад

Wow 😮Our 3 truths were so similar! He asked that question and I thought it was so deep. I said: 1. Heal 2. Find your true identity 3. Learn/embrace true love That’s good stuff! What a great interview.

@Tia.K.C 5 лет назад

I've never heard someone breakdown the relationship dynamic with such clarity. This was such a pleasure to watch. ❤️

@sheliascott8208 5 лет назад

PLEASE have him back!

@iwnunn7999 5 лет назад

Think there are a lot of childhood molestation issues out there that inadvertantly shape who we are as adults and how we respond to people we're intimately involved with. We mostly walk down a very unhealthy path.

@dinorexgx 5 лет назад

I love this man (not in sexual way) his energy is different, I learned about Love and relationship more from this video than ever before. His perspective and knowledge is amazing. Much thanks for bringing him on stage.

@Iamcherese 5 лет назад

4 months and abstinence is sometimes challenging . When I think about my husband and what he deserves, I’m through giving all of me to anyone who’s not him.

@evakalz6338 5 лет назад

These two flow very well together..👏🏼👏🏼

@kingsleyarthur1649 3 года назад

@mmcuser Год назад

I had a relationship that lasted 8 years before healing. It was very disfunctional. I knew I didnt really love him since the first day, but I couldnt find a reason why. He was nice, clever, handsome, he loved me much more of what I thought I deserved, so how could I leave him? Maybe it was me? I wasnt able to experience love? I had a mask for years. He never truly knew me and I never let him in. I feel sad when I remember It. It wasnt fair. I was toxic. But I don't think he was the problem. I was. I didnt have any self esteem. I couldnt trust myself. I hated myself in many ways and I needed so much to heal. I wasnt responsable of my life. Now, I am concious, and I am healing everyday. I am a very new person. And I found a wonderful human being that I love deeply and he loves me back. We are building something very beautiful together and I am proud of our relationship. I could never get here before healing. The same way, my friendships were not real. I was faking my life. So yes, we need to heal. At least I had to.

@lewishowes Год назад

I'm rooting for you!🧡

@user-hz5fn3pf1w 7 месяцев назад

Wow what made your self esteem so low in the first place

@SunshineSurfsup1 3 года назад

Stephan is like all of the top dating coaches all wrapped up in one person. He speaks amazing truth!

@AmbiCahira 5 лет назад

I often tell people to stop separating friendzone and partner material because if you want to last you must be able to be best friends at the same time or you won't communicate, hang out, have fun together after a few years, or lean on each other when going through hardships. I'm always so glad to see another INFJ personality ^^ It took me such a long time to accept being a born helper that people open up to very quickly. I've heard so many dark secrets over my years. Great advice, truly! Edit: I feel lucky that both grandparents pair, my parents, and my aunts found their forever best friend, and my uncle had 1 divorce and then found his forever best friend wife so my whole relative tree was full of role models to what a marriage can be and should be.

@elmerdsbaddays339 2 года назад

that i so sweet!

@ss-nc2dy 5 лет назад

"The majority of people aren't even married to the person they have the deepest feelings for." I believe this. Through observing other relationships as well as mine over the years, I've learned that what determines a relationships success is not how much you have in common, or your attraction to each other or ANY of that. There is ONE thing that determines the success of a relationship- 'How much both people are willing to make it work.' That's pretty much it. And boy can that be frustrating.

@WamuyuGatheru 5 лет назад

First you see the hair art and then the gems of wisdom :-)

@whosdatgirl1 5 лет назад

The part where Stephan says ‘stop letting your children see you miserable ‘ struck a cord. From me being a mother to seeing my parents. Healing time, xxx Truly, this was beneficial on so so many levels, as well as paradoxical One of your best x all momentarily of course x

@nicoladouglas4059 3 года назад

My opinion of a healthy relationship is when two person can see each for who they are and willing to embrace each other flaws.

@rebel8044 5 лет назад

I am not mentally healthy. I'll make it though, I know I will.

@faletausalaenglish382 5 лет назад

You got this ✊🏽

@rumbyalxprogramteam6812 5 лет назад

Yes you will. (hugs)

@jessyj1545 5 лет назад

You will make it!! God bless

@Katfashiondesigner 4 года назад

Find guided meditation to heal from Marisa Peer

@dfeyrouz8472 3 года назад

Yes u willlll

@keisiagalmon2223 5 лет назад

“We’ve normalized dysfunction too much.” 💯

@rfs441 3 года назад

this guy is intuitive & possibly an empath. Ppl come to me like that w/stories etc.

@herrokittyxo 5 лет назад

i agree with the connection thing, either it's there or it's not!!!!!!!! if I don't vibe with you from our first few min of interaction, then it's probably not going to happen..

@Ethawa 5 лет назад

I'm good with sparks but I really want that inferno. "El amor es la amistad prendida fuego por el fuego." Love is friendship set on fire.

@iwnunn7999 5 лет назад

Yes!!

@CoCoMoVitt 5 лет назад

Wow! I've never heard that expression before. Thanks for sharing!

@kingsleyarthur1649 3 года назад

@myfairytreasures 5 лет назад

Amazing after my divorce I realized I was in a relationship where he just drained me in every possible way, nothing was enough. Thank goodness I finally left that marriage. And with work I realized a whole bunch about my childhood and my self and that marriage. Today I am so much happier and I have learned. Great lessons here. Thank you both.

@lillustar 5 лет назад

One of the BEST podcasts I've ever listened to!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@kingsleyarthur1649 3 года назад

@Brendac549 Год назад

Leaving behind my past relationships mistreatment , when I’m with a guy who treats me well rather than feeling surprised I say to me in my mind “ that’s the way I deserve to be treated because you are a Queen “ and I received it and enjoy it .

@TheJulienSorel 5 лет назад

"Pray before you speak, pray before you react."

@JaimeeRae 5 лет назад

Healing✨ couldn’t agree more. My relationships and the woman I am today wouldn’t be the same without healing. Few books that started it all for me: Wayne Dyer “Change Your Thoughts. Change your life” Michael A. Singer “Unthreaded Soul” Gary Chapman “5 Love languages”

@liabw05 5 лет назад

Great picks!

@itylove02091 5 лет назад

Just finished 5 love languages. Learned so much!

@JaimeeRae 5 лет назад

Shea B Nice!! Excellent read!! What are your love languages?

@itylove02091 5 лет назад

QT Serv Aff Gift Touch Pretty sure QT is his last and Touch is his 1st lol

@Zelicious11 5 лет назад

I’ve read two out of three which are the last 2. Amazing books. Life changing!!!!

@jennifernguyen357 5 лет назад

This is a podcast that you have to listen to more than once! I listened to this on your podcast and is so informative for relationships with ourselves, love, friendships for true meaning. 😃😊

@Cupid_ 3 года назад

I am going have to watch twice to really sink in. This is one of the deepest videos I have watched. Divorced twice, my first husband meets all the criteria of the one of a lifetime connection. I cant explain but he was that man. We never ever had a fight during our dating or while we were married. We laughed together, we had beautiful baby boy and we had each others back. Unfoetunalty he moved and I didnt want to move at the time bcos I was too young and my parents didnt want me to leave them. Every relationship after him did not work, I became angry woman, I cant bond or be vulnerable or trust anyone. My second marriage was due to desperation. I was single mum n was struggling. I was married to him for 8 years. The most miserable years of my entire life. I have a daughter for him but I really know now I would never have married him had I not been struggling. I have been divorced for 6 years, I dont think marriage is for me, I spent alot of time alone, my relationship with myself is great, my career is great, I have done well for myself. I am scared now to try out, I dont want all this to be taken away from me. My lifestyle, my happiness and peace that I have. Ugg it feels nice to have someone but when you have got out of the storm you get scared. Thanks for this video, so powerful!

@sistasbtrippin8983 5 лет назад

That's the key; healthy relationships not only empower people to live better it also promote people to encourage others to live better. We you are in a healthy relationship you feel good and want to share that feeling, however when you're in a unhealthy relationship you are more prone to share that feeling as well

@latonyacarter5940 5 лет назад

I would love to see a part two on this! I love it when two men get together and have conversations like this in a healthy way. It's not about bashing either genders. It's more about clarification and understanding.

@karenoyama8950 4 месяца назад

It’s so easy to be happy. What’s not easy is to be angry and full of negative emotions. Forgiveness is for you, not for the person forgiven. ❤❤

@selftalkwithdee 5 лет назад

I disagree about men not running away. These days men ghost you to make you chase and show ur interest quickly these days in my recent experience.

@Mekia-hr8qh 5 лет назад

lorraine mccarthy I agree, when he said that I was like no I disagree with you. Some men can have a good woman at home and they hold on to doing wrong towards a good woman and because they don’t want to let go of what there doing in the streets they think a good woman is going to put up with it. And what ends up happening is the men try to figure out how they can have the streets and Home and the woman at home ain’t having it. Women grow up so much quicker than men and men try to make us follow them and deal with that crap and a strong mature woman who knows what she want ain’t hearing this. This is my opinion.... I may be wrong but I don’t think I am

@selftalkwithdee 5 лет назад

@@Mekia-hr8qh I agree. It took me a long time to notice I was a puppet on a string, now that I cut the cords I'm accused of sabotage and not caring not healed. No just been there done that so step your game all the way up. Thanks for the like.

@AuthorLHollingsworth 5 лет назад

I agree. The days where the man chases is almost non-existent. Some guys will chase, but I've noticed that if a woman doesn't make a move, than nothing happens.

@AuthorLHollingsworth 5 лет назад

@@Mekia-hr8qh You're opinion isn't wrong, at all. I agree!

@itylove02091 5 лет назад

This right here hit me. I have learned the chase all too well and now I'm in a relationship where I did all the work all the chasing and the minute I asked or suggested something of him...THATS NOT HOW I DO THINGS. Instant resentment! Two years in before I even met his friends or was taken out on his accord by his plan and ....it was bc it was my bday. 2 years!? He has made better and wants to work on how he loves me. I am hopeful.

@Maegonet 4 года назад

It took me more than two years of solitude and a profound and serious work done upon myself, until my wonderful man and me crossed paths. It's so magical 😊

@mshailbop 5 лет назад

"You don't have to get me anything for my birthday"="you don't HAVE too, but if you do that's how I KNOW you care"

@RJ12347 4 года назад

BULLSHIT What birthday has to do with caring Women and vanity Smh

@hgzmatt 3 года назад

The reason this is flawed is that it's tied to expectations.. so you can only get disappointed. Some expectations you can't get rid of, but you can choose how you act on it. You can be grateful when they show you they care.. and not focus on the one time they forgot to.

@maureenshepherd4093 Год назад

I believe that we must find time to get to know each other. We are all different. The weakness to me is that males do not want to commit or compromise which lead to unfavourable communication.

@karenlowell5281 Год назад

Not all men. Remember everyone is different.

@marcellejane2298 Год назад

I blamed myself for this, but now I'm not taking it out on myself anymore. I'm also realising that there are people out there that haven't put in the work to be a better person to achieve a healthy relationship. Ive realised That has nothing to do with me personally, I'm doing the work on myself and being open minded. I've learnt it's about meeting someone on the same level as you.

@deborahlynn1988 5 лет назад

I had to do some serious introspection... So overwhelmed putting everyone's needs before my own. I would just put my clothes on and ride out.. 3 yrs. and 45 lbs. later. I did not realize how much weight I gained until I had to go to the mall and pick out a outfit. I was looking crazy😯🙄. I have learned the power of putting myself 1st. My emotional, and physical health it's all I have. I will no longer put others needs before my own. And practice praying before I speak and take anyone's emtional baggage. Thank you.

@LianaBuzea 5 лет назад

You know what the 22nd minute inspired in me? Sit down in my meditation and ask myself what is holding me back from opening up all the way to my core? Of course, only to the person I feel is the one for me. I too agree with the sad part that we don't have that deep connection more than once or twice in our lives.

@JAKEINHERE 4 года назад

This literally happened to me twice...the first time I figured it out and I was thankful that the LORD didn't allow to become emotionally invested in that woman. However, the second time it happened I just didn't get until Stephan spoke about how the woman lost emotional control. Thank you sir for the enlightenment.

@Jojobreez 5 лет назад

Finding out who you really are is more important than anything

@a.kay.c 5 лет назад

I'm hearing a lot of words like "prayer" "healing" etc, let's remember this all stems from our one true God, Jesus Christ. He is our best mentor and all the advice you could ever need is in the bible! It's amazing

@TiffanyFG 5 лет назад

Right!!! Bless you

@THENOWCO 5 лет назад

Unfortunately because people suffer in different ways, objective interpretation of the good book becomes difficult. Have you ever been jaded by life, and if so how did you find your way back to let the bible heal you?

@Sekhere 5 лет назад

THE NOW CO. Have you given into the thought of reading it or pray before even beginning too? because it won’t help you healed if you’re not inviting the Holy Spirit to guide you in the first place that’ll be complicated.

@tishaleewynter5627 5 лет назад

The interviewer was everything I wanted him to be. I was wondering if the questions I had in mind would have been answered and he certainly hit em ... thank you! Great video.

@Lisa_M_V 5 лет назад

So tragic that so many people have ‘intimacy fears’ and self sabotage. Working on those fears whatever they are must happen. The ego destroys relationships.

@patrickstewart9937 5 лет назад

True love scares people because they feel vulnerable. Trust me I know how this feels because I am going through this.

@msog8488 5 лет назад

Every single thing I am going through right now, every thing I'm thinking

@dayyannahdya6445 5 лет назад

This should be on TV!!!

@orjrodrod4608 5 лет назад

Awesome topic to address in today's self-centered, over-sheltered, snowflaked, insecure culture when there's an abundance of loving connections to be experienced! More please!

@emilyanne1311 5 лет назад

I’m 22, but I think I’ve found this. A good friend of mine for the past 6 months, we just had our first date last night. We both noticed it. It’s overwhelming and amazing at the same time. It will come

@coybrantleycurry7167 5 лет назад

Stephan Speaks is the "Man-of-Men!" I love his presence, his points, his principals and his powerful practices! Keep speaking and thanks for showcasing him Lewis Howes! #stephenspeaks #speakstruth #therealdeal

@canadacanada3174 5 лет назад

Love is so crazy but it is so amazing between women and men

@antoinitaviolette4140 4 года назад

Canada Canada I think love is true but persons need to accept love and truly share true love.

@Lisa_M_V 5 лет назад

Thank you. People that have happy relationships are happy inside. 🧡

@teneekamirriah 5 лет назад

So many great things to take away from this episode! Stephan is spiritually and emotionally intelligent! I'm so glad that you had him on as a guest!

@teneekamirriah 5 лет назад

I love your podcast Lewis!! ❤🙏🏾

@G5iveent 5 лет назад

Been following Stephan for about a month so to see him on my favorite podcast is amazing!

@soystef 5 лет назад

me too blessed journey to you

@maureenshepherd4093 Год назад

Stephan I enjoy your discussions with Lewis, because you are honest with both sexes.Blessings.

@tyerracarter690 4 года назад

I’d love to hear his aspect on how money & being in debt affects relationships as well

@christinamason3297 3 года назад

Gotta Love these Smart, Kindhearted and Masculine Men having a deep conversations on relationships! 💕

@reneecornelius8924 2 года назад

I am going thru a divorce, got married 5 years ago and knew it wasn't right when I walked down the aisle....but at the time we had already invested 4 years so I figured I might as well make it work....I definitely learned my lesson never again!

@tiff2422 5 лет назад

Heartbreak is horrible. I couldn’t imagine loving someone like I did my ex. Love is the only thing to me that hurts but feels good. 🤦🏾‍♀️ Now the two are dating other people I still can’t find complete happiness. But I enjoy listening to you. ✌🏾

@gyoumans2901 5 лет назад

His 3 truths really hit me.

@whatconnaknows8366 3 года назад

I have the same gifts as Stephan Speaks. I sometimes avoid people because I'm a Empath.

@bbbbtransformation8032 3 года назад

So true a positive women who has healed is one of a kind Amen🙌💯🙏 Bless

@ms.ajones7168 5 лет назад

I wish that I could give this a 100 thumbs up!👍🏾 I loved this interview!❣ It was very insightful and u ask all of the right questions ❣

@soystef 5 лет назад

absolustely :)

@monicacalais1039 5 лет назад

I agree

@maimohamed3590 5 лет назад

"the lack of healing is the problem of all things", yes thank you for the awaking :) Much love x

@stephelisabeth3143 3 года назад

I love what Stephans says here. It's so balanced and there's so much truth in it. I understand why people opened up to him so easily. He clearly had a lot empathy and emotional intelligence from a young age.

@sweetcinnamon9894 4 месяца назад

Pray before you react, this is so wise!

@paulagriffithpaulag2 5 лет назад

What a sweet spiritual man

@tinarr9258 5 лет назад

How would you explain narcisism and being completely in love with someone like that who is false? When you give your all to someone and you get nothing back. It's disastrous when there is no closure and you thought this person was the "one."

@tracieglazek9793 3 года назад

I didn't date for 14 years. And I am trying to heal. Narccist is awful. And I listened to you . Helped

@maryquintieri9836 4 года назад

Lewis, as someone who was "that girl" who sabotaged an amazing relationship due to my own sad subconscious beliefs that I had spent nearly over a decade working to heal before meeting him... I found it really hard to watch the beginning of this episode. I felt the tone you and Stephan took lacked a bit of empathy. Imagine how the people who let fear lead the way feel when they loose love? It's devastating. It's taken me over a year now to begin to forgive myself. I just watched your video with Dr. Nicole on subscious beliefs before this one. As you know now, when the system is subconscious and in chaos the responses from the individual are barely even choices. It's a horribly sad rollercoaster, a trainwreck we watch happen but feel helpless to stop. This comment is meant as "feed-forward" for you. I believe you are better than speaking about past relationships with a tone of even 2% callousness. Especially the, "they always come back" lines; or "yeah she did try to reach out!"... I felt this was coming from ego. And that's ok because we are human with ego, but the job is to be mindful. I've tried to reach out to my ex to repair the damage to a love lost and I would be really sad if he ever spoke about those efforts to his friends in the manner you did to Stephan, let alone on public broadcast. I encourage you to be mindful of how you speak of past partners because all I know for sure is that when deep love is present, and humans ruin it out of their own lack of healing, everyone hurts. And it's not a "we didn't fit thing"... it's a "ouch, my heart & my soul are torn" thing. For everyone. Thank you, Mary

@TheListener01 4 года назад

Mary Quintieri hang in there, we will find the right love in the right time!

@Nastya.yuta.dancee 3 года назад

So true! This part of the conversation really made me cringe 😬

@hileenali1033 3 года назад

Proud of you girl. Keep working on yourself. Don’t feel like you lost the one. God uses everything to prepare us for THE ONE. What has your name on it is already yours. Don’t feel like you lost anyone, I promise you He is still out there also doing the self work. He will come when God knows you both are ready. Everything in life happens to grow us, prepare us for our next chapter in life. ❤️

@maryquintieri9836 3 года назад

@@hileenali1033 What a beautiful message thank you for your note babe.

@hileenali1033 3 года назад

@@maryquintieri9836 💕

@TheZGALa 5 лет назад

I have been in an uncommitted long distance, open relationship which has been part of the healing journey for my partner and I for more than three years. You don't have to be "the One" to have a healthy relationship. I think people put unrealistic expectations on romantic relationships. I found a person I had that connection with, we got together twice in this lifetime, more than ten years ago we broke off our engagement...we both had LOTS of unhealed trauma which led to us both damaging ourselves and each other more. Sometimes healing is necessary before a healthy monogamous relationship can really 'make it'. Also, the idea of a 70 year monogamous relationship is new and seems highly impractical to me. Relationships can be beautiful in many contexts, when there is an agreement to share love, pleasure, growth, silences, experiences, and conversations. There's not one way. Much love!

@TheZGALa 5 лет назад

Back atcha, Lewis! :)

@sealinalashelle5126 5 лет назад

That sounds unhealthy and like emotional unavailability. It's a glorified way to use a person. Not to mention an STD waiting to happen. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

@MsCristina38 5 лет назад

Sounds like you’re making a bunch of excuses. No offense but it sounds like you don’t believe you can have a loving committed relationship.

@maryperry7944 5 лет назад

I so enjoyed this podcast. Very powerful truth.

@gummbootoothbrush9060 3 года назад

Stephan speaks is a heyoka empath ❤️🤗

@Golden.Chasity 5 лет назад

Wish I could like 10000000 times !!! Love this!!!

@shanitawalker2103 5 лет назад

Hmm, I've actually had 2 men sabotage a relationship with him saying "you're not real" "you're too good to be true" "I'm waiting for the real you to show up" . Then years later try to get in contact wanting another chance 🤷🏾‍♀️

@elmiramegens9764 5 лет назад

holly shit. This whole talk just completely put EVERYTHING for myself in persepective. I can put my whole puzzel together now. THANK YOU SO MUCH, for sharing this with the world. We all need to heal indeed, let go of fears and step into our greatness. Easier said then done, but so worth it. Made a promise right here to go love my life, understand my relationships. And give the best I can. Spread love.

@karenoyama8950 4 месяца назад

Stephan has so much discernment. I’m positive this is the direct result of his five years of celebrate lifestyle. By controlling the life force this inevitable. ❤❤

@anisa3610 Год назад

Yessssssss!!!! It is so scary when you meet someone in life that totally captivates you in every way and subdues and thaws even the coldest of hearts. It's shocking, confusing, and just strikes like a random powerful blow- I mean like just knocks at your day at 4 in the morning.

@MsAshleighJadee 5 лет назад

Such a powerful interview. Healing is so important. When I started to work on myself, the blessings in all areas started pouring in. It's a constant battle of old habits but I wouldn't change it for anything else! 🙏🏽

@trevamarsh2681 5 лет назад

The brother is deep...Great insights. Keep up the good work, be blessed.

@merciamisigaro5911 5 лет назад

I love what he said when it comes to fear. For you to grow you have take fear head on. It shows a lot of maturity

@iolanisjourney4828 5 лет назад

This guy is on point. In the beginning of this podcast Stephan described every romantic relationship I have ever had. Guess I got some healing to do, looking forward to learning more from him.