How refreshing that two handsome men with nice voices are discussing women in a respectful manner. No narcissistic jerks here. Videos with males or females who just criticize the other gender while acting so superior are so lame. I actually learned a few good tips here today.
you are confusing lust with attraction. When you consider long term relationships 99,99% of the men that initialy found a woman attractive would never stay with her because it is rare to find a woman that isn't annoying
I have been married 50 years. My husband and I have the same values. Our Personalities are completely opposite. I am extroverted, he is introverted. He loves music I love books. He is into details when he is interested in something. I am into details about everything. Our priorities have been our children. We give each other space. We both respect money. We have been able to weather the storms, and support each other. Responsibility to Family was our priority.
You have learned the value..acceptance non judgemental, supportive, encouraging, supportive and open an honest with each other...I am woohoo jealous. Best love to you both...blessings.
Love his three truths: (1) be kind, (2) always continue learning even when you think you have learned enough, and (3) enjoy the path you're already on and stop thinking about all the other paths you could have taken. And...His smile and charisma are so sexy like Mr. Mcdreamy!
Indeed! No grow, is not very appealing. People, who do not want to learn and grow and are not curious about much are not the ones, i stay attracted too. Intelligence Curiosity Friendlyness Trustworthyness Having your back Care Empathy Good strong character Healthy loyalty Deep bonding This are a few important things to stay in love...
1. Create a natural, practical opportunity to get close to one another, like, ask for help when you need it and thank for it. Politely open a discussion, like, how is your day. 2. See what is to honestly appreciate in discussion and share. 3. Give space. 4. Look at how he is investing into your connection to create a relationship and if that adds to your standards. 5. Look at how can you invest to create value while keeping your standards, and how he receives them. 6. Be bold and communicate your needs in a nice, polite way. Those values adds at any level of a relationship, not just at the beginning, to create a strong lasting bond. Relationships are an opportunity to grow as a person and share true value, not a reason to feel a void within the self.
Give each other space to create desire.....excellent advice...and it's very effective. Married over 50 years and we went on separate one month trips with family or friends. When we got back home, we were like newlyweds with the added benefit of nobody else around to disturb spontaneous passion events. Highly recommend your advice. 💕
It is what it is. Sometimes we take family vacations, sometimes we don't. I was blessed to have a spouse who both our families were close and we came from family oriented situations. And the passion never left either. So all situations are different and people are different. And cultures are different too.
@@maryjohnson1890 Yes that's what I'm saying. Bordem is a lack of resources, and we don't have that. We are a couple that sees through new lenses naturally, although I know that time apart would naturally make us miss each other. I believe in this advice for 70% of people but then you have that 30% that are always working on seeing through new lenses every single day. My spouse says I'm naturally mysterious anyway
@@LuptonianPrince well done I’m with 27+ meet up groups that lead into Salsa Classes,Burlesque Classes, also swimming 3/4 times weekly different venues,Events,Late nights at every Museum & Art Gallery & 30+ people,Strangers bring different energies,safely,Such diversity’s,all races,creeds+ Warner Breaks, 80% none communication couples? Has brought 2!Ex’s curios,circling Thanks so much future good health HERES to 2022 ✅
The three important things at the end are very good points (which of course he makes elsewhere.) Be kind. Realize you don't know everything (be humble). Realize you have limited time so enjoy being here now rather than regretting missed choices or opportunities.
45:00 My husband and i married 10 years ago. I was only a HS senior and him just a few years older. We have 3 children now. We have been through just about everything. We talk about so many plans for us as a couple once our kids are grown. We are constantly growing as individuals and supporting eachother on this journey. Do things get boring? Absolutely. Do we drive eachother mad sometimes. Of course. But at the end of the day he is the most important thing in my life. I cant imagine going off and celebrating ourselves independently once our kids are out. Its about growing together, creating beautiful memories. Im not claiming to be up eachothers butt everyday where you cant do anything without them, thats not healthy either. But when you are given the opportunity to "live your own life" just to have something to talk about when you get back. Thats a recipe for disaster. You put yourself into a state of temptation and disconnection. Especially after so many years of the same old. At that point someone else can walk into your life and make you feel 20 years younger and desired. Its innocent at first but that person can spiral fast into that realm. Bet you won't go home to talk about that part. lol. Best advice i can give is stop with social media. Gives you the illusion that there is always something more out there., and so many more reasons we can all see how social media affects a relationship.
@@Goodfellas900 Remember... a gentleman AND _______. (If you listened to the whole thing!). His problem was not being a gentleman. It was being a gentleman without the “and-something-else” to go with it. Even today, Matthew Hussey is an absolute gentleman - but not JUST a gentleman.
@@jayney6176 hey thanks for the comment. It's been a few months since I watched this interview and I don't recall what AND _______ stands for. I don't have a hour now to rewatch it. Can you give me more tips?
I love MH because he’s not trying to teach women how to manipulate men. Lots of male to male influencers do this instead of teaching men how to relate to women. Mathew is authentic, smart, and kind. And very wise!
I was in the states as a child and I am from the UK. I found the statement from people "Have a nice day!" Quite contrived and odd. It is totally different in the UK but now I am older, I find myself saying to people "Enjoy your day!". A little more sincere but I find people respond more positively to it.
you have to get close , have comfort , have too much comfort , get bored , then get more distant , then miss eachother , raise the desire level , get closer , and the cycle goes on like this.
Don't forget Matt use to train guys and I thank him for helping me find my wife. I use to watch his videos everyday and practice his teachings for 3 years. One of the best coaches for dating!
Are you still happily married? Just wondering how his advice works out and I do hope you are with kids because nothing drains your banking account like kids jk I love my kid worth more than money..... but are you married still?
I got the "how to talk to men" ebook and I kid you not, in less than a month I was dating the man I am living with right now. I totally believe you, Matt's advice really works.
I'm a 73 year old 'old hippy' and have seriously never thought that people SHOULD marry or try to maintain a long term relationship. That IF they choose to marry, then they should go through a rigorous training session and that it should be much harder to get married than to suffer a divorce. Children SHOULD be raised by a village of wise grandmothers because being raised within a family of bickerers, cheaters or abusers does not produce healthy adults later on. Divorce is damaging to couples and even more so to the children. Never blend families ... date if you must, but live separately. Your children will appreciate this very much.
I'm a women's dating coach and I LOVE Mathew's message! My audience are single, soul-searching women over 40. I encourage my younger audience to listen in. :) SO GOOD.
I told my son by being the nice guy you may be considered to be just their friend or their big brother but when you get to be older they will all come after you. When girls come to their senses in the end they want the nice guy.
@james cooper you have a very warped sense of reality. I married a tall dark and handsome man who is also the nice guy and treats me very well. I married after my 30’s and as you can see by my profile, no sagging here buddy... all natural I might add. I’m guessing by your comments you are a narcissist or maybe a sociopath... go target someone else. 👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽 Your cruel and insensitive behavior is why you are single. Nice guys laugh at guys like you...as they walk by with their hot wives.
@@margaretchristian7215 don’t listen to that noise...he subscribes to a Strong Successful Male Channel and a Forever Bachelor channel. He’s clueless to what real women want. I was chased my whole life by guys like him. They don’t win. Ever. 😅
So refreshing and attractive to hear an authentic man speak about his flaws. And so awesome to hear about that “unique pairing”! That is so true. And for me that feeling of entitlement is my default/flaw.
I think relationships boil down to good chemistry. some people have a spark to them that is magnetic. I think that spark comes from someone that is genuinely happy on their own. It’s something that can’t be taken from them. I think relationships work if two people who are genuinely okay on their own come together and having the other person in their life just adds more to their own happiness. To keep chemistry going 10, 20, 30 or 40 years down the road I think a couple should never stop dating. Go to the movies, plan a romantic date weekly, write to each other etc...
He doesn’t understand anything. He only repeats the contend of books he read. His long record of failed relationships is the prove. He is only 27yo. You are all a naive gullible sheep.
Martin Sophroniisccus just because he is a relationship guru doesn’t mean he has to find the love of his life first try to prove he knows what he is talking about. He could go about things manipulative and still get the desired affect but he is trying to help both sides understand eachother more which I myself can appreciate.
@@martinsophroniisccus9006 You are right. Moreover, his answers are what people want to hear not what actually works/doesn't work in a real life situation. He is well aware of what he is doing because he makes a living and a lot of money with his videos, channels, etc. It's all about being popular and likeable.
It's weird because I'm married and we spend a lot of time together. We would never intentionally take a trip without each other, and I know for a fact that we still find mystery and desire. Life on a day to day brings that for us.....I'm not sure this is the best advice for outliers but would tell the average or general person to create space for sure. I believe it takes a certain level of emotional intelligence to be able to see the mystery or the new in the day to day.
I was already 14 minutes into this infomercial that was boring me to tears and then had to to close it out and start over on two different devices to figure out why the title did not match the video. So then I read comments for 15 minutes to see if anyone else is looking for the video that pertains to this title. And I guess you're the only one that realized there would be hundreds of other comments removed because they were asking for the content relating to the title. Thank you for enabling us to get past this very long infomercial.
I'm a dude and I listen to Matt almost religiously...really has a way of articulating elements of this relationship game in a way that's very easy to understand and the advice tends to apply to all genders.
0326hkim 100%. I think the pickup industry is transforming so I don't think it's necessarily unethical but I understand the spirit you're asking that question with and yes he absolutely is.
I just turned 30 and left a seven year relationship, and although I loved him with all my heart, I am so glad we never married. I have a different view about marriage and my parents are still married.
OMG Matt is so wise beyond his years! I can't believe he is only 27! That unique pairings is the most brilliant idea I've ever heard! Every time I hear him talk I am completely blown away by the wisdom that comes out of his mouth! Every effing time!!!!
I watched this on the treadmill at the gym today & I felt so enlightened. Lewis, you do an awesome job asking the questions the viewers are wondering, not just pulling from the basic interview question bank. It really makes for an intriguing video; terrific work!! For Matthew only being 27 in the video... That's amazing. I'm 26 & I still find it hard to find guys in my age range who "get it" or are ready to be serious. He had a very unique perspective & outlook. Im definitely going to watch more of his videos! Thanks for a great interview Lewis!!!
The wisdom God has given me: 1. be healed of all your emotional/soul wounds BEFORE starting to court anyone. 2. Love yourself, be whole, fulfilled in your life, spiritually and otherwise, and let God, the Lord Jesus Christ be your first love- he is your husband, best friend, Provider, Protector and Healer. 3. Write a very specific prayer list to God asking exactly what you want in a mate. Trust that God, who created you and knows you better than you could ever know yourself, and who knows what attracts you and what you need, find your mate for you. He will do a much better job than you could ever do, and it will be a match made in heaven at the right time for you both. 4. Don't ever have sex before marriage. God tells us this to protect us from soul ties with someone we're not married to.
The fact the man is still single is a measure of his success in my book. Finding a woman worth marrying can take a lifetime, if ever. Most dudes just settle too fast.
Well, on that note he was left for dating rumours with Shawn Mendes.. But I agree with you. Don't settle too quick just for the sake of being in a relationship.
Way too fun being single. loves for the birds. Lol the irony of it all teaches men manners and women to throw the p*~#¥ so to speak. Throw their Handkerchief lmao and making money on it and stays single smart guy.
Thats what I am always saying. There are no guys that are fun and at the same time mature enough and serious. Either serious and depressed or fun in a way that doesn't make you take them seriously... They always call me picky but I don't want a depressed life, neither a guy that is like a clown. There has to be balance... You are the only guy who spotted this.
What if the woman loves a man who does NOT feel any instinct to love, to protect, to help? A man that expects the woman to financially support herself and not need him emotionally either? What do you think of that man? There ARE men who are incapable of relationships.
OMG!! This is one of the most enlightening pieces of relationship advice I've ever heard!!! Thank you Guys.. Mathew explains things in such a simple way... I love it!!!
As a guy you know he is attractive to the opposite sex and intelligent and you probably should be jealous but he is so down to earth can’t help but like him. I also like his approach to relationships I have only just gotten into relationship advice on RU-vid and the other relationship advisers for men I am really disheartened by what they are preaching. With this guy he says you can be a good person but you can understand how the opposite sex thinks in regard to attraction and gives you practical tips on how to improve yourself to be more attractive.
If you ever " accept" the idea that with kids and marriage, more important things occur that gives you entitlement to put your relationship on the back burner...you've lost the relationship. Yes, life gets busier and more energy sucking...but... this is where you MUST put your relationship at the forefront, and NOT from a selfish perspective but from a perspective of in what ways do I see a need of my spouse that I can help him or her today...everyday....every week. Then making time for each other...partnership, teamwork and still flirting and seeking enjoyment WITH them amongst the busy, crazy life with children. Keep growing and learning personally and you will ALWAYS have something to talk about. Just my 2 cents💯 Personal growth and Growing Together is Extremely important💖
Martin Dourte I approach lovely women with humor. For instance, I’ll walk up to a lovely woman keeping the appropriate distance and say, “haven’t we met recently?” And they usually say, “ no I don’t think so.” To which I will reply, “oh, I’m sorry, it WAS recently. I met you in my dreams last night.” And see where it goes from there. I’ve heard all kinds of replies to that from “and we had a good time, yes?” To “oh that was a good one!” to , “oh you got me with that one!” One has to have a gentlemanly reply to each of their comments such as, for instance, “no, I don’t have have you yet, but I’ll keep trying.”
#MatthewHussey is so good at articulating the intimacy issues of our generation. Since I've started reading his books and listening to his advise its opened my mind and my heart. I can see thru his suggestions the mistakes I have made thru the years in past relationships. He's helping me get thru my divorce by communicating and reaching out, his consciousness and passion is gonna bring my love life to the next level. Thank you God! (AND Matthew)
I really enjoyed this interview. It was nice learning what makes women more attractive to men and how men think about a connective working relationship. Women like men who communicate with them and men like women that are less insecure about themselves. They like to feel comfortable and at home with the woman they are attracted to. Fantastic interview guys!!!
This is the second time l've listened to this interview. I'm a big fan of Matthew and always wonder how a young man can have so much wisdom! But also, he is genuine and has style. Thank you Matthew Hussey and thank you Lewis for interviewing him 😉🙏💖
i'm fairly new to watching video podcasts but i am able to spend at least 3 hours a day discovering and developing my varied interests. Lewis, i discovered you early on, you've been in my top 5 favorites, but now I'm CERTAIN you have stolen the #1 spot in my heart for podcasts. You are the best in the business, in my opinion. Thank you !! You have brought me so much joy AND knowledge during the past few months. I am committed to not only keep current on your podcasts, but i'm a little obsessed with eventually watching THEM ALL (how ever many that is). Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
I believe marriage will work if 1. No porn (porn kills relationship) 2. Hold off sexual intimacy and work on becoming each other's best friend first. (It is only when you become each other's best friend, and you know the person inside out, that you can trust the other person and will have full confidence that giving him or her the space will catapult that person back to you. Just my 2 cents
Maybe the second reason is why I'm often left feeling confused by the guy I've decided is my future husband. There's all kinds of signs and stuff that he reciprocates my feelings, in many ways it feels like we're in a relationship, but he hasn't even kissed me yet (he knows how I feel about him) and he says he's not ready for a relationship yet.
My S.O. is driven to succeed. That's all he thinks about. On the phone constantly, making things happen. But he is also a man with a golden heart, loyal, steadfast, strong and patient, respectful and super handsome. I'll take all those qualities over fun or spontaneity.
It is possible to appreciate Matthews great advice on relationships and also believe in the mystery of life. One doesn’t have to exclude the other. Just because we might believe in The Law of Attraction doesn’t mean we are not capable of having a down to earth approach to life and our surroundings.
This interview touches on so many valuable elements! Lewis, you are a great interviewer too! You chime in at the right time with clarifying questions and thoughts. This reminds me of one of my favourite quotes about love. It is from the book The Prophet by Khalil Gibran. "Give your hearts, but not into eachother's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and cypress grow not in each other's shadow." This quote speaks to the interview in keeping that spark of desire by maintaining space, creating that mystery. You two are a great team up!
Marriage for me is when two ppl want exclusivility to each other. Through thick and thin they will be together. If not mutual i think ppl dont get married.
Don't have any expectations just go to have fun and be civil to kind of get to know the person you're interested in and don't divulge too much remember they're strangers
My boyfriend recently told me that I can be simultaneously cute, adorable, hot and terrifying. I must be doing something right. And: "So adorable.. you're amazing in how versatile you are.. you can be adorable, intelligent, sexy, dangerous, hilarious and beautiful at any given time."
'You're not owed anything with regards to finding the love of your life' is a REALLY good point. But...I have SO many friends that did NO work at all when it came to finding love. They just WERE...and fell in love.
damn he's so right about relying too much on one part of yourself, I would over rely on my looks for validation and confidence. slowly building up my character and other qualities I have
Men would probably rather have a wife who wasn't as good looking that put up with a lot of their b.s. than a beautiful woman who didn't put up with their b.s. and disrespect.
The more I listen to your stories and experiences, the more I feel connected to the experiences you have, simply because I have lived and had the same experiences, I feel like I relate and not the only crazy one here like my friends call me. I love your videos. I have learned a lot from you. Keep up the great work.
Lewis is so real! How he simplifies things and gives expression to my thoughts through his questions to his guests.... there aren't no other occupying this space but you. God bless you for doing this.
I don't think people literally think "be yourself." What I DO think the smarter ones think is be genuine; be authentic. If you're not, men (or women) can literally smell it. Just my two cents.
I'm speaking this into existence, someday we will have some great conversations! This was amazing and I really want to meet you guys! Its difficult finding people who understand psychology and relationships in the way you guys comprehend these topics. Your advice and understanding could change the world. We need to all be working to better all of our relationships with everyone around us! The potential in what you guys are bringing to the world and humans relationships is unfathomable. I love seeing you both engage together. There is a balanced chemistry in knowledge, intellect, and life experience that comes out when the both of you are collaborating. Even if I don't get to speak with you guys, you both have provided insight that has been life altering in many positive ways, and for that, thank you!
I enjoy listening to Dr Gray too. He explains the reasons men and women behave the way they do and it's dealing with biology and hormones. It's very informative.
Hi, As much as I like what he says, I heard some red flags as to the limit of his knowledge. Did you really hear everything the guest said? The reason I ask is because I notice you seem to be a very spiritual person who thinks she knows how to manifest. Well, did you hear him say “The Secret” is rubbish! Therefore, the guest is not at all “up your ally”, right? Ok, I’ll await your reply, if you care to respond?
The pairings that Matthew is referring is called 'Duality". When someone has unique pairings that may be expected to be opposites to each other, it makes someone highly attractive.
I am blown away at how many of the answers to "What is true Greatness" last question - boils down to humility and Service to humankind. I LOVE your channel! Thank you for your Authenticity!
I already have the man and we love each other. Where is the part of this discussion about getting one another sexually hooked and addicted to each other. That is what I expected here.
Oh Lewis, you are SO beautiful. The way you compliment Matthew at the end and also articulate what you've chosen to learn from him during the conversation. It is humble. It is self aware. So gorgeous. Xx
Chilling and enthralling conversation! Matthew gets better and better each time I hear him. Thanks Lewis for shutting out pre-conceptive notions and hosting this. Great work!
Genuinely enjoyed this interview. I especially loved Matthew's '3 truths'. Wise beyond his years and highly likeable. I'll look out for more from him. Great interview, Lewis.
Marriage means living for two🙏If you are ready if you trust yourself go for it leave your ego aside!Respect!Away from your comfort zone but also good thing is share the life together that you dont feel lonely.If you do children it is like being in paradise with a three lots of fruits on it.If you are selfish person never ever marry👌If like sharing go for it👌Thank you for the very meaningfull video🙏
Wow, what a revelation!!! At around 31:37, Matthew Hussey talks about a painful breakup he had . . . a breakup he initiated, and his then-GF responded with "Okay!", being very agreeable to the breakup. And then Lewis Howes made that "Ouch!" facial expression. I had no idea that this can be a hurtful response to the guys even though they are the ones doing the breakup. My last BF was the only one ever to have broken up with me (I did the dirty work to all of my other previous ones when an ending was required.) And because I had been contemplating a long while regarding the viability of our relationship, I simply said "Okay" as well. And that was that. I had never thought about how he felt about my agreeable response. Now, it dawns on me as I am listening to this interview.
@@youtubetv775 yep dont have strong emotions when things end. I learned that the hard way. It pushes them away even more and makes them even more glad to dip outta that situation quickly! Be cool and they will be like "Dang!! It's like that?!" and they might crawl back to ya. You don't have to take them back though if you don't want to
As always, I’m pleasantly surprised at how great your guests are on the show! Your easy interview style is a perfect play to the “experts” you have on. I love being introduced to new gurus of thought.
Matt just described the guy I have been looking for forever someone who is nice but with a bit of an edge. I have only found guys who were too nice or too cocky.
My online boyfriend makes me cry.I ask him to give me storytelling before I sleep.He is a defense lawyer for poor laborers.He gave me many story telling like love stories,fairy tale stories,loyalty stories with lessons. I am grateful to God for giving me a boyfriend who sacrifice time to make me happy before I tho to sleep.He told me love is not all sex.
