This touched me so much. I cried so hard. My family hated me because I spoke up after 4 years of sexual abuse by my grandfather. No one believed me and my life was nothing but pain and suffering. I found Allah when I was 31 years old. Before Islam I was lost and just wanted to give up. Allah saved me. He brought me close to Him and changed my suffering into a beautiful life. This Khutbah is something everyone needs to hear. Thank you so much for your message. Keep doing Allah's work.
Omg 😱 sweetheart I hope you are doing oke now. I am sooo sorry that this happened to you. May Allah reward you for your sabr in this life and the next.
I feel sorry that you had to go through such terrible things. You're brave for speaking up! May allah ease your pain and bring happiness in your life. Hope you're doing well
I feel sorry that you had to go through such terrible things. You're brave for speaking up! May allah ease your pain and bring happiness in your life. Hope you're doing well
Recently, I had a trainig to attend. It was about self confidence, trust and mutual understanding. I couldn't participate because I lost those principles in my life. I was so embarressed. I asked Allah to help me but I just fail... . Nothing is going the way I wanted it to be. I'm sad.
@@Amazonproducts2100 Well then why didn't you attend it in the first place if it was for you to gain those principles (self confidence etc). Sadness is a part of what makes us human. No living soul is unfamiliar with it; even our Prophets faced multiple episodes of sadness. For example, Yaqub (AS) wept until he lost his vision and even our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) experienced bouts of sadness upon the loss of his wife and uncle. Hence, sadness is not a sign of weakness in any form. To experience sadness is to be human. Having strong faith, or Imaan, does not render a believer to be an exception to the emotion of sadness. Imaan does, however, equip us with the tools to combat depression and hopelessness. There is nothing wrong with accepting and acknowledging your grief. The strength of a believer is not that he remains strong by dwelling in denial or drowning in numbness, it is that he never loses hope despite all the pain and grief. That in essence is what true faith is.
No soul is burdened with more than it can bear Don’t ever forget that Allah (SWT) will never burden you with something that is beyond your capacity to deal with. Even on days when you feel as if you cannot take it anymore, know that you can survive it- for Allah (SWT) knows us better than we know ourselves and whatever trial you’re facing in your life, know that He also gives you the strength to handle that trial. With hardship comes ease Allah (SWT) promises His believer that “For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease” (Quran 94:5). Trust His word. Even if the suffering feels endless and you feel yourself getting exhausted from the weight of it all, do not lose hope- for there is ease and something even better waiting for you right around the corner. Nothing remains forever, not even hardships. And those believers who hold on to hope and faith in Allah (SWT) and adopt patience amidst their difficult times are then rewarded in ways human beings cannot even imagine. So remember, this too, shall pass. Allah (SWT) is in control, you are not Depression is majorly defined by a sense of hopelessness- in yourself and in the world around you. It is rooted in a sense of sheer helplessness where you feel like nothing is in your control. But that is the truth; nothing IS in your control. It is in Allah’s (SWT) control. Take a moment, embrace your lack of control over your circumstances, and know that the one in control is the best of planners and loves you more than you can imagine. Surrender your attempts to control your life, leave it up to Allah (SWT), and trust His plan for you. Sometimes, the human mind is unable to understand Allah’s (SWT) ultimate wisdom behind every single thing that happens to us. However, by accepting that Allah (SWT) is in control and welcoming His plans for us ultimately leads to the enrichment of our mind, body and soul. Do the best you can and leave the rest to Allah (SWT) Remind yourself that human responsibility is restricted within certain boundaries. All Allah (SWT) asks of us is that we fulfill our duties and do the best we can in our circumstances and leave the outcomes to Allah (SWT). We can only control our actions and duties, not the outcomes. Even Allah’s (SWT) prophets did not have control over their outcomes. A believer is rewarded based on the effort, not the result. Do not dwell on what is beyond your control and embrace Allah’s (SWT) magnificence. Do not make yourself anxious over the unknown outcomes. Play your role the best you can and leave the rest to Him. Be grateful for the blessings Allah (SWT) has bestowed you with During the hard times, we tend to forget the blessings we have around us and instead, we focus more on the things that are going wrong for us. It is human nature. We tend to get lost in circumstantial sources of grief and pain and forget to notice our source of blessings. Whenever you feel yourself being sucked into a dark phase of hopelessness and depression- remind yourself that you have a lot to be grateful for at the same time- whether it is a loving family, supportive friends, food in your belly every night before you sleep, a roof over your head and countless other things. Remind yourself that you are better off than so many other people who do not share our fortune in these domains. Keep a “count your blessings” journal if you want, where you can jot down a couple of things you are grateful for on a daily basis. It really does help in looking at the bright side of things!
This is so deep. It reminds me of my childhood. True, an abused child will start questioning themselves so much with questions that a child should not even be thinking about at that age and that it affects their mental health like self-esteem and such. I have severe anxiety and have a hard time looking people in the eye. I'm keeping positive and I will get better InsyaAllah.
You will get better bi kudrohtullah. It’s no joke being abused in any way, shape or form. It’s takes the Mercy of Allah to heal from it. Just include it in your every salat to take those I’ll, sad and overwhelming unhappy memories from your head and your entire being. Trust me only Allah can help with this. May Allah make it easy for you as each day pass by. Aameen.🙏
I am almost 30 years old woman, and for the first time when I watched this Khutbah, I was not able to control myself, I layed down on the floor and weeping so bad, due to all the trumas that I have from my childhood, teenage and then adulthood from my own parents. Now it hass been almost two years that I am far from them and still receiving no love and care and all those & these behaviours are deeply caused me lots of lots of insecurities and self esteem issues that are killing me inside and out. Now, I am working on my trumas by going to therapists. May Allah forgive my parents and I and all the other parents who are abusive, and they actually don't realise their value of being parents that Allah blessed them.
I am so proud of Nouman Ali Khan, it takes a lot of courage for a public figure speaker from an Islamic background, to talk about such a sensitive subject. I listen to many lectures and this is the first Sheikh I have ever heard to focus on a subject, about the rights of children, especially young children and teenagers, who are sexually abused! A lot of our ‘Islamic leaders’ prefer not to dwell in such subjects. Thank you for being the voice of our silent children! Jazak’Allah khayran
May Allah SWT bless his graceful soul. His words are gold. I really pray that whoever watches this video learn this lesson for life and never let their children afflict with any form of childhood trauma. Ameen!
ash gul take care please. You may send me a message if you need any help. I am a counsellor n psychotherapist. Prayers for you. May Almighty give you strength and amazing will power Aameen
anum abid memories may stay but the effect of it can be tackled and leave you unaffected in the end. One deserves the beuatiful moments of NOW without undergoing the pain of past repeatedly. Take care brave hearts.
I am crying right now. I was just complaining to Allah about my father. He has has been drinking for the past 30-35 years. He is muslim... He has been abusive, been gas lighting us since we were young. I even once lost faith in God with the way he represented religion and justified all his wrong doings. He is an extremely bad husband..he has given us so much pain..and is giving till now...and I am at that point where I don't want to pick his calls..I want my parents to be separated..all my siblings are older..our own children will not be able to put with him..and I was feeling so guilty because as kids we are taught that parents always have the rights..and no matter what parents do, you are suppose to suffer..I was angry with Allah for not giving us kids rights..I had an extremely abusive parent who has caused me massive emotional problems..to the point where even I don't even want go get married. I just wish every person sees this lecture to understand that if you are a parent, it does not give the license to emotionally, physically abuse your child! Allah will not forgive u if you are doing that!
Your comment made me tear up, my parents got separated and my father was also drinking but we didn't have it easy because our mother had to take care of us in an Arab judgmental society. I also don't want to get married and have children because I fear of hurting my kids and have them go through what I went through. Reading your comment hit close and I hope things got better for you these last couple of years.
Ahh I really really hope and pray that you are doing well. I know it's hard when your own parents who are the medium through which you were brought into this world shows you the most horrendous side of a human being....I also lost faith in my dad as he used my religion to emotionally blackmail me, I was forcedly married off to a really bad person...but trust me it gets better. You learn to get out of it and stand stronger than before. Nothing stays the same for long...
You just explained my situation and this really hurts to feel in such a way that you are constantly under fear and silence. I ask Allah that no one sees such moments in life.
This great human being restores my faith in humanity and gave me a clear view of my creator and me...Ya Allah bless this man gave him jannh al firdous indeed he deserve to be among rightous and above all with prophet SAW .. It is so sad that this channel and this man is so underrated but yes i know in future when centuries will be pasted away his videos will be extremely needed and whole humanity till the last day will be benefited by his videos ..A endless sadaqa-e- jaria no actually the greatest sadaqa-e-jariya..Allah bestowed his greated fazal on this man and through his to us.. Ya ALLAH we are always in need of hiyada plz don't let us astray and make us among your beloved people..AMEEN YA RABBAL ALAMEEN..
Yout right it will be helpfull for the kids and parents of the future, hey you... just remember your rabb is always with you, you can free yourself from the cycle I know you can do it :D
I am crying and dieing listening to this khutbah. I till this day gets violence Physically and mentally But I am helpless I only cry to Allah I am old enough but I can't do anything Cause my family mentally and my sister physically and mentally abuse me 🙏
Hijab Mir take care please and if you want any help to get rid of hainted past do send me a message. I am a counsellor and Psychotherapist by profession. Take care
You really made me cry today. Sometimes there are things in the past that we'd love to forget and not face, and we just go through it because of negligence. I pray for everyone and that no one has to suffer
I'm used to it.. to the point I crying to my parent when we have debating something because I love them! Love and hate is very thin ustadz.. ustadz nouman I love you! I never talk to u about this feeling I have but thank youu for making this video, I'm feeling better and can smile as I always see you ustadz ☺️☺️ may Allah give healthy for ustadz nouman. 💜🤗
@@HinaBeg thank you soo much for your kind offer but since English isn't my first language so it's kinda difficult to tell 😅 but please pray for me always sister, may Allah bless you and your family always, aamiin 🤲🏻 luv from Indonesia ♥️☺️
This so amazing so inspiring as it prouves how much of the treasures of quraan we ignore. I have never thought, not even once in my life that we can related to this aya " إذا الموؤودة سئلت" never had the brilliant idea that it can be seen the way oustad Nouman explained it. May Allah soubhanaho wa taala forgive us if we ever yelled at some one that is weaker then us, May him forgive us even more if we raised our voices over childern or family and be kinder to strangers then our own family. This has to be taught all over the world, this how our quran will bring us out of the death that we are living in, this way of interpreting the revelation and moving the beleivers to act upon it is capable of bring our oumah light back. And this is what a real khotba is. Thank you so much oustad Nouman, you are a true inspiration.
This hits hard for me because as a child I was criticized about things I were doing wrong, if I did something wrong I'd be told "You're doing this wrong" so much that it's shaken my self-confidence to this day. If your child is doing something wrong be respectful and kind to them or if you point everything out and make them seem as if they can't do anything right it'll be a wound that never heals.
I love u sir uh are great Islamic teacher I'm from Kashmir I listened to plenty of Islamic speakers but I like only 2 Islamic teachers in my life by experience one you and 2nd mufti Ismail menk.....uh are real soliders of Islam ...... thank you for teaching us
Very important topic and of course very beautiful khutbah. I cried while listening to this. Ustadh you described the situation very practically. This actually happens with many of the children at this time. Alhamdulillah I did not experience any abuse during my chilhood. Although some circumstances make me feel I am worthless; even as an adult. I sometime wish that I should die. This is a poor practice in the subcontinent. :( May Allah forgive us all and bless us to be better Muslims.
I love the way ustaad Nouman opens up the ayaat for us to connect with and understand the lessons being given. He explains Allah's Words in a manner that's really deep and meaningful. JazakAllah Khayran for all the good you do for us Muslims in knowing our religion better and developing a close relationship with the Quran. May Allah bless you and your loved ones with the best in both the worlds, aameen
Subhanallah!!! This is amazing, Thank you Ustadah. About time a Muslim scholar address this issue as it is a major reality in so many people’s life and has not stopped in childhood but having a spiral effect into their adulthood. The worst part is when the adults involved are not taken to account for their actions. By the way, No One Deserve to be ABUSED! But I believe Allah Azzwa Jahala would take them to account on the day of Recompense and that in itself is a massive punishment for them. For all those who have been abused at some point in their childhood and are now going through it all over again by a spouse, siblings or their children, may Allah SWT grant you Nasra-huge help from this situation. Remember you are not alone an you don’t deserve it. Asalam alaikum warahmotullah wabarakatuh.❤️ May Allah grant Ustadah Nouman Al-Janah Firdausi for this contribution and may Allah heal all those who have experienced abuse in any form either as a child or and adult. Aameeen.
Anyone reading this who has been abused please stop living in victimhood, these are test and trials from Allah to strengthen us so we can help others from being in similar situations, so we can recognize abuse others may be going through, it's time to help the helpless especially small children and animals. Whatever abuse happened Allah never forgets, keep that in mind and try your best to help others! Salam
People really need to see this . A lot of people actually do that . Like when rasulallah got abused by a lot of people he didn't victimise himself (saw) what he worked on is putting an end to the abuse and the wrongdoings . He (saw) was very merciful and forgiving , like just imagining instead if he chose to admonish the people for what they've done to him and chose to take revenge instead. Things would've been different. We should learn from him that . To accept what happened to us and chose to put an end to this .
Ouch! I felt it. May Allah strengthen me in Sabr. Nouman always deliver the message as always. May Allah make him live longer so that we can listen and learn the way he taught us the Qur'an. Allahumma Aamin.
Perfectly captured what goes on in the Desi families. The worst part is if you tell your Aunt or Uncles to help against your parents, they say everybody got it and it's the norm. Don't revolt against it. If somebody got abused and tortured, why is it necessary for others to go through the same thing? What kind of shitty person would allow the self-esteem and mental stability of others, their own nephews and nieces, be attacked just because they went through the same thing from their parents? Is it because it was done through their generations, that makes it right?! Surely they are in grave error and they will have to answer to Allah. The abusers, the ones who encouraged it, the ones who didn't help and even the ones who stayed silent. May Allah grant strength and Imaan to the Ummah, to the youth, to stand up for the right and be better Muslims. Aameen.
May Allah guide us all and open our eyes to better care for our children. May Allah keep us all on the straight path and make us better Muslims in this duniyah and grant us Jannah.
Jazak Allah Khair. Hope this makes all parents and elders who don't give their children's due ,become aware of their responsibility towards their children. Many parents need corrective behaviour towards their children.
SubhanAllah beautiful speach and beautiful advice, may Allah give Ustadh Nouman Ali a long life & the best in life and the best in the here after!! Ameen!! JazakAllah
There's alot of abuse going on or had happened in Muslims families( forget about non muslims for now) and it's all swept under the rug because God forbid the family's dirty laundry is aired..this people are so scared of what the society will think of them they're ready to bury their children alive......it's sickening walahi!
When he said “you could be from a different century than them”, I started thinking about the number of people that have existed on this earth. Just imagine. Everyone who has EVER LIVED will be resurrected. The number of people who will be present on the Day of Judgement is unfathomable. Allahu Akbar.
Blessings of Allah to you Mr. Khan... buat yg dr indonesia, fyi search pengajian Gus Baha, berulang2 beliau mengucapkan pemahaman yg sama ttg bgmn ahlak kita kpd anak, 2 org dgn pemahaman Quran yg luar biasa, dgn kesimpulan yg sama. "jgn berlaku sembarangan kpd anak, mereka adalah penerus sujud dan tauhid kita."
May Allah reward you. You are so brave to talk about this. Our kids are being abused even in the hands of the so called Islamic teachers. May Allah forgives us.
*Two things happen when a man gets abused...* Completely relatable 🥺 Got to learn very much from this... May Allah guide us and correct our mistakes. 💚 Loved this lecture very much
thank you Sheikh @Nouman Ali Khan for this intervention. It aches me thinking that subhanallah there is a huge gap between non-believers parents and muslim parents who do not act upon the messages of islam. Indeed, as Allah said, he will not change the inter situation of a community only if they question themselves. (sorry for the bad translation of the ayah).
