Buzzfeeds WORST Relationship Advice | JLS EP010 

Unconditional love is necessary... from both sides. Otherwise you're unequally yoked and there are issues. I would also point out that if someone is lost, threatening your life and you have to leave, it doesn't mean you can't love that person and pray for them from afar.

My dad called me this week asking "what is it like for you loving your wife and kids?" For me, love makes me want to be better, without her asking me to. I still need prompting, but as the years go by, I am better at predicting her wants and needs, I do things for her before she has to point out what needs doing. We both feel we are not good enough for the other, so we strive to improve, to be more Christ-like, and be better servants to each other.

I take my life advice from the writing of King Solomon and the words of Jesus Christ and the Apostles. Not from a company where men get Brazilian waxes and make videos about it...

Nothing makes me happier than seeing a couple who have grown old together through very good and very hard times and have come out the other side best friends and true companions. Excellent discussion guys.

I love your Gospel centered approach to the answers and talking points. God Bless.

You guys are doing a bang up job with those cliff hangers/teasers to push us on to WPSN. It's wearing me down. Love the content you all.

I just love the way miss Poet looks at John she is clearly deeply in love with that man. It's a beautiful thing.

For me, the biggest take away from this video that was said would be " you bring the same person to the next relationship " that is an absolute fact and we are such a narcissistic society anymore that we forget we might actually be the problem

My mother gave her lawn care wisdom to me like this. The grass is never greener on the other side of the fence. It’s dead and somebody painted it green. It will wither to dust faster and require 10 times the work to maintain than the lawn you have already put your work into so far. She advocates to stay with your first marriage because the next one will always get harder than the last.

Husband treat you wife like Christ treats the Church and wives treat you hysband like the Church should treat Christ. The purpose of marriage it to show the world the relationship between Christ and the Church

I've known my wife since we were 3 yrs old. Our parents were family friends so we were able to remain in contact even after my folks moved us to another state. We started a long distance relationship in high school, I flew in to take her to Prom. We will be celebrating 17 years married in July. Even with our history we have to work to keep our marriage growing and it's not always easy. We both have stubborn personalities so arguments can drag on if we let them. Learning to communicate effectively has been a hugh part. A lesson we try and convey to our two boys.

I’ve been married for more than 30 years…One rule keeps me safe….Never make someone mad that watches you sleep…..I love my wife😂…I also remember the words of Proverbs 31:10…”Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies”….Treat her like the treasure she is and everything works out👍🏻….Marriage is hard work and worth every moment

Three things are necessary for a lasting relationship; 1) Trust, which goes hand-in-hand with respect and honesty. 2) Communication. And 3) A sense of humor.

That first one has never been married for decades and had kids. Unconditional LOVE is a requirement to make it work. Abuse is not love of any kind and has no place in any relationship!!

Another movie that depicts a healthy marriage where both members of the couple love each other unconditionally: Up. It's briefly portrayed, but their marriage is presented as genuine...and exceptionally difficult.

Just want to say that I really REALLY appreciate this episode, and I wish these types of conversations happened more. I've been married to my wife for 12 years now, and we were married when I was 22 yrs old. I was taught every single one of these things from a young age via my parents and my church. I truly have a testimony of these things, and everywhere I look online I see "relationship advice" by people who truly have no understanding of the purpose of marriage, as well as a willingness to understand and accept their failings and put efforts into being better together. Thanks John!

Oddly enough the marriage of "Mom and Dad" in the kids show Bluey is portrayed in a really wholesome way.

Find yourselves someone who looks at you the way Mrs. Lovell looks at her husband.

My wife and I were a whirlwind romance that started 32 years ago. We met over the phone finally met face to face 3 months later were engaged 2 months after that then married a year later. I was 24 she was 25 (she's exactly 40 weeks older. I say she was born god said she needs someone and I was conceived). The relationship has definitely NOT been all roses. We are complete opposites, however we saw that many of those opposite traits were something we wanted to be. We've worked HARD to become better FOR each other not Because of the other demanded it. Young people today have been indoctrinated into the me me me way of thinking. The If I don't get everything I want every time it's bad for me and my feelings/mental health. They are incapable of concerning themselves about the feelings of others no metter how much they claim they do.

I so want a better marriage then what my wife and I have. I just want to ask for prayer for my wife and I in our marriage.

One of our friends told us some of their premarital advice back in the 80’s . The advice was lower your expectations and raise your commitment.

I recall an interview with a woman who had just lost her husband after 60-odd years of marriage, and she was asked how they managed to stay together so long. What was the secret? She said she had set a line in her mind that he could not cross. " Did he ever cross that line?"asked the interviewer? " Yes", the woman answered. " So, what did you do when that happened?" She was asked. " I moved the line." she said with a smile.

If two people are pursuing a deeper relationship with God more than they pursue their own feelings or their relationship with eachother, there is almost nothing that can get between them

i thought buzzfeed went bankrupt recently

We're pretty much living in the upside down now.

Great show! A movie with a great marriage and "bad advice" is The Story od Us with Bruce Willis and Michelle Phifer. Love the way the story is told, both in present and reminiscing perspective. It shows how people change over time and loose sight of the value of what they have built and how hard marriage really is; it's highs and lows. Mostly, IMO, relationship issues stem from a lack of God in them. Thanks for all y'all do! 😊❤

A quite place is a great movie thats come out recently as an example of a strong family and marriage.

Isaiah 5:20

FWIW, I was always a fan of how a married couple was portrayed in Tim Allen’s “Last Man Standing”

13:28 - “Yeahhh…. If the Unconditional Love comes from both sides, then I’m in !!!”….🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ … 🤣😂🤣

Great point; marriage is a 3 way covenant between the man, the woman, and God.

Society seems to always focus on passionate romance, casual relationships and preaches that friends are the best people you’ll have in your life. In my experience as a single 32yr old virgin man, I still haven’t found good quality friends and genuinely believe family is the unit that will always be there when your world comes crashing down.

For Better of for worse, through sickness & in health, until death do us part. . . .

Ok John I've been at this marriage thing for the last 40 yrs. If need a pointer or two just let me know....😉

When you read Revelations, Jesus is coming back and it's only "conditional love" forever. 🔥🔥🔥 Do deceive yourself or others, and do not be deceived into thinking consequences for your/our actions do not exist... ✌️😎 Rev 3:15-16 KJV Matt 25:46 KJV

"Happy wife, Happy wife." No, that's complete BS. Marriage is about two people, not just one.

Wedding vows are to God. Not each other. I vowed to God to love my wife as much as I love my flesh. I will gladly die for them. Its impossible to seperate what God joins together. I.e. God doesnt see your divorce/s and if he does, I am sure he curses future marriages. Ever read the story of the warrior that made a vow to God to sacafice the first people he sees after he gets home if God gives him the victory. He gained the victory and the first person he saw was his daughter. He kept his vow. I told my wife that she can "cheat" on me all she wants but I would never leave and she will never have to worry about finances. It allows her to focus on the children vs worrying about something that will never happen. Ephesians 5:31 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

As soon as I saw the title, I knew this was going to be serious and hilarious at the same time😅

I'm so glad I divorced my first wife. A few years after we split I met my true wife and we've been together nearly 11 years. My ex is now on marriage number 3. I'm incredibly lucky I didn't have children with that woman.

Happy Days was probably the last TV marriage that portrayed a couple that had been together for a while and lived through the best and worst. Mr. and Mrs. C were great role models. Sure, they got exasperated with each other, but life was a partnership and they faced it together.

I have an idea, how about you guys close your pie holes and let Mrs Lovell talk more. She is clearly more intelligent. Sorry fellas. :)

I learned this advice after my divorce: Don't stop dating. If you stop dating, you stop romancing. Wish someone had given that advice to me when I got married.

John i would love to see you on the Shawn Ryan Show. It would awesome to hear you discuss faith on Christ

Dumb things don't make you stop loving someone, if it does I'd say that's not love. Kids are a good example you don't stop loving them when they do wrong.

Best marriage in a movie, "Up". Got me crying before the movie really even got going.

True love is absolutely unconditional. If you cheat lie steal or gaslight and abuse someone in any way, you didn’t truly love them. That was never true real love in the first place.

Two things I needed today. 1. Sound relationship advice. 2. Body armor.

good talk, thanks👍 that's right, only love isn't enough for a happily ever after 😃 there's 2 more components that create a whole understanding 💯 so it's 3 things total Affinity + Reality + Communication = Understanding plus high ethics and then Knowledge + Responsibility + Control ♾️

Someone told me once "the grass is greenest where you water it", I always liked that instead of the "grass is greener somewhere else".

Do y'all have any advice for those of us that have spent years searching for a spouse and are still searching?

Also wanted to say that as much as I enjoy all the rah, these conversations are some of my favorite content. We really need this kind of content - and learnings - to help us become well-rounded poets.

John, I love you and your team, but I think you are at your best when Bekah is in videos with you. Love those.

Single and no kids here and listening to try and be better for a potential wife

Hey John and Bekah. Thanks for your insight. Sad that our society is very shallow. No one wants to commit beyond today. Married to my best friend for nearing 45 years. Lots of ups and downs. Lots of successes and failures. I wouldn't want to have gone through it with anyone else. Blessings to you and your family, and all of the Warrior Poets.

The world rails against Gods example of love.

These people that wrote these have never witnessed or experienced true love. Love does conquer all and that is all you need. All those other things are absolute when it comes to true love. It blows my mind that these people don’t get this.

I love your biblical viewed on marriage. Absolutely a covenant, there is no quitting. When I see the covenant God made with Abraham and how it points to Christ, it is overwhelming. When we keep in mind the standard God has for covenant relationship and his expectation for marriage it really changed the way we viewed our marriage vows and the commitment we made. My wife and I had 3 really tough years and we were headed towards divorce and ultimately it wasn’t until we were both ready to go deeper in our relationship with God and focus on growing and living by the word of God and in that we realized divorce was not an option. We didn’t know how we would ever get back on track or rebuild a broken marriage but because we said yes to God and made it clear we would not divorce, God ultimately began changing us both and rebuilding our marriage on solid Ground, with him as the corner stone. Having a relationship with God has been the greatest part of my life. Paul writes about spiritual fitness in that we should strive for righteousness we should strive for relationship with God in the same way Olympic athletes strive to be the best and master their art. It takes work, but it is the most rewarding thing you will ever encounter.

Mr. And Mrs. Lovell should go on the Whatever podcast and teach the girls something... LOL 😂

i still find John to be hard to love....... 😉

Thanks for another great discussion folks. We've been married more than 40 years now and when asked similar questions, we tell others that respect is a great foundation stone in a relationship. If one can respect someone, it's easy to like them and not that tough to love them. Without respect, it's tough sledding. Bless you all.

I find that the grass tends to be greener where it gets watered.

Most people are miserable because they confuse hedonism with happiness. A lot of problems that we have are due to people not understanding what happiness truly is. Happiness is growth and self-actualization achieved by going through different challenges. Most people want money, muscles, a spouse, kids, a pet but nobody wants to work hard to get it or maintain it. Life is all about choosing A and sacrifing B choosing C and sacrifing D, etc... We have so many alcholists and drug addicts because people in the beginning choose hedonism as a shortcut to happiness and when they realize this is not possible they further indulge in vices to avoid the reality of how important hard work is required to obtain and preserve what you want.

To the point of unconditional love: Even if you have the purest heart that keeps forgiving physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional and verbal abuse, lying, cheating, using the rent money at the bar, all of it- you can still have love for someone but know when it is not safe to stay. You can still love the person you met, and yearn for "the way things used to be", and KNOW you have to leave. The sad truth is loving someone doesn't make them love or care for you. Some people use the word "love" to manipulate, and marry you to further their own ends. Most of us just need to put in the work to make our marriages better, but some people out there are in genuinely abusive situations, and need to leave.

The Disney (of all places) movie Up portrays a very healthy marriage, of course its over 10 years old though.

True love by definition is love that’s given when one doesn’t deserve it.

The Grass is greener where you water it! Water the grass of your marriage and it will flourish. Pour into your spouse. Even when it “isn’t deserved”. Thanks for tackling some awesome topics!

John when you were talking about Jesus and true love your wife was looking at you like a meal😂 I love seeing you two together on videos.

Thank you everyone for this video! My wife have been married for 30+ years & have known each other for going on 37 years. I worked for our church & did a lot of marriage counseling over the years. i was always amazed how (how church people) acted about marriage! Unbelievable how people treat one another that are married, & claim to be Christians. The best thing that help to my wife & I our church has pre-marital counseling. It is highly recommended for younger couples!

Just a note on “the grass is not always greener”: I have heard someone make the point of “why are you looking at another man’s yard? You should be cultivating your own grass to become greener. Instead you’re coveting their yard, and soon, their spouse, too” So a little bit of what John talked about at the end

This was great.

I can't upvote this enough! Great great content. Thank you for putting this up, guys!

Loved hearing this and learning more about your relationship ! We aren’t married yet but we have grown so much in the years together I can’t wait for what our future holds! ❤

Home Improvement, The Last Man Standing, but again...they're older sitcoms...

Before anything else in this and all discussions the definition of LOVE needs to be established. What one person considers to be "love" may not align with another person's definition. Example: How can love exist if it's not reciprocated? Can a person truly love another person when that other person does not and never has reciprocated that sentiment? A bit of a Rabbit Hole but still necessary to establish. 9:45- "What was your first impression of John?" 10:03- Mrs. Poet "But then you get to say yours of me too." 10:18- Mrs. Poet "But... tell them what you thought of me. It's not flattering either." 10:27- John 100% proceeds to byspass his turn to reciprocate his first impression(s) of Mrs. Poet. 14:22- Mrs. Poet calls John out on it and John's comic relief diversion continues and ONTO THE NEXT TOPIC! 😄 As a whole, the video was "bait" for WPSN and I LOVE IT! 😁🇺🇲

1mins 48sec to 2mins 04sec -- the upside down world we're living in... Isaiah 5:20 - "Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter."

For all the talk in Christian circles about agape unconditional love, the Bible is chock full of conditions - there are conditions for blessings, conditions for salvation, etc. And if you are Calvinist/ reformed, god predestines some of his creation for hell. Is that unconditional love?

😂 love huts

A movie with a good marriage; National Velvet with Elisabeth Taylor and Mickey Rooney

JMHO; but there is a good example of a quality marriage. The husband is addressing the world, leading, yet making sure to take the time to seek counsel from his wife. She has been listening, supporting him, and living with him between her and the world. I think that can be seen in how they look at each other. One other thing--it seems to me that the main point of contention is various definitions of love. Our culture has made it a synonym for passion. WPS fighting off the biblical definition of love. Amazing how words can create such distance. Poets, know thy words.

An odd couple which I like both of them and never saw it coming! To me they have worked through difficult times both being very famous people! Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban's marriage! So glad they have worked through t issues and absolutely can see the BEST side of Keith Urban! Nicole Kidman being a great wife Keith needed and both so far seems to be great parents

I hope youve grown in the last couple years. When you said you'd murder a hard working American family and steal their stuff in a SHTF situation, that did not sit well with me. All because you don"t want to put in the work prepping.

Strangely enough, the Superman & Lois show is a generally positive portrayal of marriage that is already established, with young adult children.

The last thing in pop culture I saw where I thought a marriage was portrayed. Really? Well. Was surprisingly the Metro Exodus video game.

18:00 in Movie with good marriage - "The Christmas Card". My family watches this every year after we put up the Christmas Tree. My God bless you and your work.

If your girflriend is terrified of guns, make sure you buy atleast two matching ones. Just make sure one is pink for her. 😂 but real story here. I purchased a fancy Browning BL-22 grade II, the lever action one to have as a family airloom/1st training rifle going forward, and she hated me for it. she started doing unfavorable things for the relationship after that and her true value in my life showed up and I dumped her. She was nutty. Bullet dodged.

Should have called it the "Roast of the Warrior Poet" Jk 😂 I really enjoy your videos and share your content with my wife... Great Christian content guys! Keep up the great work!

Pope Francis: "This is what marriage is all about: man and woman walking together, wherein the husband helps his wife to become ever more a woman, and wherein the woman has the task of helping her husband to become ever more a man," the pope said Sunday. "Here we see the reciprocity of differences."

Watch or read “Anna Karenina”. The European version is extremely well done. The Novel challenges marriage and celebrates marriage.

Of all the people I've known including myself Gospel centered marriages thrive!

I have felt God's love through another that was dying and I had given her the Gospel. After I left her Hospital Room, the Lord impressed upon me that she had accepted Jesus as her savior. The feeling of love I experienced is not describable. I cryied all the way home. She died two weeks later....There is no greater love that a man lay down his life for another.

Utopia is not something we will find while living on earth. Neither is Agape love. Those things are divine, and we will have to wait until we get to heaven to find them. Just as if we choose to walk away from God, he will let us. God is open to redemption, and will always forgive if we truly repent, but God follows through with his punishments. (Moses was redeemed. and forgiven for his sin, but still not allowed to enter Canaan.) God has never broken a covenant made to humans, but humans break ours to God all the time. Human love has conditions, which is why there are vows in marriage. The best of us never stop working to honor those vows, to defend and be worthy of love, but none of us are divine.

A breath of fresh air guys! My wife and I just celebrated 30 years of marriage. It’s work and the more you work at it the better it gets. I think society has taught that selfishness is a desirable quality…it’s not. Drive and work ethic are the qualities they stole.

Most people do not see love as a CHOICE, they see love as an emotion. Love MUST be clearly defined in order to have an effective conversation on this topic. Love is ultimately a choice and we need to thank God every single day for this truth, otherwise we would all be doomed for eternity.

Coach T and Tami from the Friday Night Lights show. A little late to the party here, but when I watched that show as a young adult, I remember telling myself that I needed to rewatch as a husband and/or father.

You can love someone and still set boundaries. Falling in "love" is infatuation. It can be grow into love but one has to be open to the idea of a deeper companionate love if they want longevity. Those expecting infatuation to last for a decades are setting themselves up for failure. Life ain't a movie or a book--that's why they're movies and books.

My 3 year old sons favorite movie is Up. If you've never seen it it's an animated kids movie about a little boy and girl who become best friends grow up together fall in love get married live their life together happily for the most part then the wife passes away when they're in their 80s or 90s then the husband becomes this crotchety old hermit. He then goes on an adventure and gets the chance to be the father fugure he never could. It's a heart warming film and probably one of the last good wholesome movies put out by Disney before going completely woke trash nonsense.

Let's face it, Buzzfeed is the National Enquirer of the liberal left. That might even be an insult to the National Enquirer.

I been married twice my wife and I took divorce off the table no matter how it goes. I love my wife I was upset when I got divorced I just wanted to fix the marriage and move on with life but the ex wife she moved on without me. Now my father did give me some advice on leaving move your firearms out before telling her. And my mother ran into the bedroom to get a firearm and didn’t fine one when my father moved out. And I never wanted that for my children like that day for me. But I know sometimes it’s better. I don’t talk much to my ex wife anymore my wife and her was friends because of me after my divorce. And I have nothing to hide sand I wanted to still be friends. Now my wife and her ex is friends now even after her children have grown up and he is rising a teen daughter by himself. And she and my wife are like mother and daughter the girl’s phone is on the same account as my phone and here’s because he can’t afford it. Me and my wife is truck drivers we can afford it. And if anything happens to him we is to rise her. Me I think if you are God loving people you try it fix your problems with your ex to be friends or to make a mends so you can move forward. But I don’t think you should invite negativity back into your life that is why one of my ex’s I don’t want to talk too. Now my wife lost the father of her oldest child and he was a friend of mine at the time. Her and her ex lost one child and it hurt their relationship. When she got with me she lost her faith in God. Me I’m a believer but I have some sins on my table. I said to her do you know why people die? She said why and some words. I said so you live a good life so you can see them again in heaven. And God is real just like a galaxy on the other side of the universe you can’t see it but it doesn’t change the fact it is out there. If you cannot believe in something you can’t see you only see what you want and you miss everything you need. Today she believes and she is happy.

I had a girlfriend try to shoot me ! She was crazy. I been married to the wrog person. And I divorce her ! But i can say when you find true love its when you cherish her. And she cherish did you! Also when you feel like your missing something. Like when i leave my ccw at home or my phone or my wallet! Now yes this is now the same as a woman! But for guy brain it makes since ! If you forget that stuff your hole day and everything is wrong ! But she as well should feel the same ! The best thing i was ever told is that both of you should. Ask what so you need or what can i do for you today! And both ask that every morning. And at bed i have to have my half pray with me ! And ask is their anything you need before bed! Praying for me is big ! Because in the end till you have kids . Its you and here to the end against all others !

My wife and I use the term: I love you and there isn't ANYTHING you can do about it!