Both my c sections were amazing positive experiences. I was terrified of vaginal birth and I was honestly almost relieved when my first child didn’t fit and I needed a c section. For me a c section was a wonderful positive experience. When people say you want to avoid them I find this point of view so limiting. Some women prefer them.
I went to my doctor yesterday and she said the baby is big and I am really small down there apparently so she said we should plan a c section. I am sad and relieved at the same time. So Idk
How did you manage after the surgery, from what i have heard it's really painful..you are in constant excruciating pain, can't move , can't sleep because of the stitches. Your body swells up , you vomit initially for few hours. Is there a way to avoid or limit such side effects ?
I was able to give birth to my baby boy vaginally and with no epidural. I know this is something very hard to do for most women, but I think women who undergo a c section are SO strong! Oh my goodness, c sections are a major surgery to go through, so props to all the mommas out there who have had c sections! Xx
@@laurenalmeyda6916 I think it's an unfair comparison to make because it differs so much woman to woman, baby to baby. I had a girlfriend who gave birth naturally about two months ago and she literally used the hashtag #whatlabour after she'd given birth because things went so smoothly and her recovery was so easy. I went for a natural birth and laboured for 28 hours ending in an emergency c-section and the recovery was rough and was in hospital for a week. Some women have exhausting, long and terribly painful natural labours and others have quick and smooth naturals. Others have chill c-sections where everything goes fine and the recovery isn't too bad and other times it can be a lot harder. You just never know what you're going to get. I'm having my second in ten weeks and I'm getting a bit nervous!
For me labor was difficult, I was delivering my baby at 19 weeks and wasn't sure if he or she would make it. Sadly during labor she passed. It shouldn't matter if you had a baby vag or c- section as long as the mom and baby are healthy that is all that matters
Susan Yara Hi Susan. Really enjoying these moM videos. I am 5 months pregnant, can you please do a video on experience of after labour 1- can you take a shower after birth or how long do you wait 2-whats the worst outcome for pain
Susan Yara you know susan i was searching for some encouraging video on cs because i am planning my cs on 16th of august 2018 ... i found out this one very helpful. Really want to hear .. my mental situation now is that its my 2nd cs and people and relatives will look down upon me for not trying vaginally... my husband said its upto you my love but as you said that you want to hear some one encouraging you. My mom had 2 cs.. she said go for it as u had 1st emergeny cs after trying for 52 hours. I want to shout out loud its not an easy surgery to go through just to bring in little one new life..
@@piepie6020 I had a scheduled c-section in December of last year. On #1 - you can take a shower as soon as you have your catheter and IV removed - about 24-36 hours after the surgery. It is somewhat painful to get up and do it, but the more you move after surgery, the better you will begin to feel. DO follow their instructions though about keeping your scar dry. I didn't have any problems, but have heard of people getting infections if they are not careful. On #2 - I obviously can't answer this, but I will say that you should take the medication they offer you. Take the IV medication and then take the pain killers they prescribe. They will help immensely. I tried to get off them as soon as I could since I know some of them go to the baby, but I took them for at least a week and they helped me to function! After about a week, I could live with just some ibuprofen. Again, the more you walk (to a point), the better you will feel. Try to do normal things and rest a lot. It's a process, but you'll be fine with the pain after a short while.
Please, I need this video. I had a c-section last week. managing the burning pain at the incision site, trying to breast feed or find the best sleeping position while also taking care of my one year old is difficult.
I had a natural, unmedicated birth and I am just coming to grips with how traumatizing it was. I tore BAD, and yes ladies, if your Doula says that all you feel is ¨warm pressure¨ that´s bullshit, perhaps you are one of those women but you just don´t know, I felt myself split in 3 different ways when my son came out and it was the most excruciating pain you could EVER feel. My vulva which was a 10 at the time (seriously, I had a model, perfectly symmetrical, beautiful ¨omg¨ type of vulva) is now destroyed along with my self esteem. I always knew I wanted a C section but when I moved to Colorado, the hippie dippie ¨natural birth movement¨ went to my head and having a Doula actually made it worse as she took all the TRUE fear of a vaginal birth away, without ever being straight up about the things that could go wrong. Hello pelvic prolapse... Anyways, I´m now saving money for plastic surgery down there and I no longer care who judges me, to each their own. I CARE deeply about the way my girl looks down there and ¨accepting¨ is not enough for me. I´m going to do what I can to repair the damage even though I know this will never be 100%. There is not a SINGLE day that I don´t regret sticking to my guns about having a C section. So girls out there who are really scared of a vaginal birth and just don´t want to fucking do it-stick to your guns, don´t worry about the judgement, it´s YOUR body, YOUR choice. NOTHING WRONG WITH ELECTING A C SECTION!
I think the main con for people is the judgement from other people. I chose to have a c section , and I never felt bad or guilty. I am the type that doesn't really care what people think or say about me especially when it comes to my body and what I do with it. My son who is 10 years old is top of his class and grade.. I am a single mom, who has an elective c section and formula fed my son.. so imagine I was worried what people thought of me.. I probably would be crying everyday
Im planning a scheduled c section and formula feeding my baby girl!!! Im glad to see this! Everyone says how one should have a vaginal birth and breastfeed or your kid will develop issues......
Thank you. I am 35 weeks and want to remove all the fear. A C-section could be a possibility. Hearing your stories and insight helps take away the stigma.
I'm pregnant with my first baby and since day one, my doctor asked me how I plan to give birth, I told him that I wanted to feel beautiful, no pain and I wanted to know the exact time and minute that the baby will be out. He smiled and told me "So we'll have a c-section, which is great because due to some of your health issues I was going to suggest that" I was so happy that my doctor was in sync with me and my wishes! My husband is super supportive as well, but I've had TONS of people saying to me that I'm making a huge mistake by having a c-section. No Karen, I'm not, it was previously discussed with my doctor and husband and this is exactly what I want. Pregnancy is a crazy ride! You don't need the comments and the judgments.
You do you girly! I had a vaginal birth with my first and ended up tearing so bad they were stitching me up for 40 minutes. The pain the I endured for weeks after is unlike anything I've ever gone through before. I'm in my second pregnancy now and because of issues that I have going on (possibly due to what happened in the last birth) my doctor recommended a C-section and I've been considering my options. Child birth is terrifying. Anything you can do to help yourself be calm and collected? Do it! Who cares what anyone else thinks?
Regardless of your decision, people will always judge. I chose natural for my first two, and got judged for not wanting an epidural. My aunt told me to "stop trying to be superwoman and just take the drugs". I said no, and stuck with my decision. Now my circumstances are different and I'm opting for an elective C-section for my 3rd. The options are there for a reason and you have to decide what's best for you and your health/the health of your baby.
I live in Thailand and my doctor from a private hospital recommended me a selective C-section. I was totally on board with that and everything went greatttttt. No pain during or after it at all for me and baby is totally healthy, having only a slight cold in her first year, other than that she’s never sick at all. Great birth experience. Honestly my ingrown toenail hurts me more than my birth experience. Relax and have fun with your pregnancy and your baby moms ❤️ choose whichever method you feel comfortable with
I feel so glad after reading about such experiences . I have been advised C section as i am expecting twins..it's been nerve wrecking as it is not preferred by anyone here in India and rather frowned upon if doctor ends up doing it on a patient. But i am glad it's not as bad as people say it is.
This video is spot on! My first csection was emergency. I have since had 4 all up, and luckily have had 4 wonderful csection experiences and in Australia you now get to go home 24 hours after surgery which I find great as I’m ready to get home to my family. Also I have found it so interesting that I seem to recover easier with every csection, I had my 4th 3 weeks ago and within a few hours from surgery I was up walking around minimal pain and the next day back home doing all my usual things. Thanks for helping to break some of the csection taboo ladies!
Thank you for educating others on this topic- it's super important that we support each other and not associate shame to C-Section Mamas (like myself)- in many cases, a C-Section is out of the mom's hands, so it surprises me every time when people judge it. As someone mentioned below, Brandi Milloy seems so sweet but her experience is not as common so thank you both for sharing this side!
When you talk about technology.. people live off machines.. having a c section is so much legit to be a choice of the mother.. it shouldn't be looked down upon at all.. I mean.. people have false limbs and all.. they're not looked down upon.. then why c sections should be considered bad..
Lets raise future generations that are not as ignorant to whatever other people choose.. And hope for a better world.. Without one another looking down to each other... Maybe SOMEDAY in future people will become empathetic again... Lets hope❤️
I don’t think people hate c-sections in general (or at least I would hope they’re not that ignorant), it’s that doctors corner women into them all the time because in many cases it’s more convenient for *them* (the Doctor) and they make more money. The stats really are there. I do believe each mom should be able to choose how she wants to deliver her baby, but I just wish more moms were educated and encouraged about the truth and not just being fear mongered-whether that’s fear mongering about vaginal, natural, or cesarean births!
EXACTLY! No one cares if you have a cesarean, but it's unjust for doctors to push it on women when there is no emergency and you aren't "progressing" in their eyes. :p
This wasnt true for me. I had preeclampsia and my doctor tried to inducd me for 2 days to avoid a cesarean..and after 2 days of induction i only was 1cm dialated and my liver enzymes and blood platelets were so low i had to have an emergency cesarean with general anesthesia because it was too risky to get epidural. For them a cesarean was only for emergencies sadly.
No judgment here, just facts. I would just like to add that a c-section costs $30,000 vs $5,000 for a vaginal delivery. We pay for this in our insurance and as taxpayers. Many women get free medical care when they are pregnant. (I work as an L&D RN in a hospital). It’s crazy, right? But true. If you don’t have insurance, you file for Medicaid and get free delivery. 95% of patients in my city are in Medicaid. Also, c-sections are major surgery and carry many more risks, including higher risk of hemmhorage and death for the mother and babies more frequently go to the NICU for breathing problems because they didn’t get squeezed.
For as long as I can remember I said I was going to do a C-Section because I was terrified of labor (this was me like 10 years before I actually had a baby). But then, the time came when I got pregnant and I actually asked my OB if I could do a C-Section. She said no. They’re not elective and only for emergencies. So I said ok, that’s fine. As time went on I was actually glad I wasn’t having a C-Section because the more I researched the more frightened I was for it. So I was happy my dr said no. THEN, I went into labor, 17 hours later and 3 tries trying to get the epidural IN correctly to relive my pain. I had a beautiful baby girl...who gave me a 3b degree tear! 😫 it was my first baby. And the recovery from that has actually traumatized me from having another baby. When I think about it makes me emotional. I hope that if I do decide to go through it again, the Dr will let me have a C-Section. 🙏🏼
It is your choice ! The doctor cant decide what’s better for you . They can litterally list maternal anxiety as your reason for doing it ! I wish more people knew their rites !
This has honestly made me feel a bit more comfortable about c-sections. I have a scheduled one this coming Thursday & my anxiety about it has been crazy. Thank you for making this video!
Stephanie Alvarenga can you tell me your experience? I am a bit nervous I will need one. I have very high anxiety. So they give you something for the anxiety?
sari Hoops I was super nervous at first. But when I met my surgical team, I did mention to the anesthesiologist (which is the person thats gonna be right next you) that i have really bad anxiety & she told me that she will tell me everything that is happening once we were in the OR. & it made the experience 1000000x better. Also my husband being there (pre-covid) made me feel more at ease too.
Thanx for this video. Had an all natural-no painkiller involved-vaginal birth with my firstborn that was celebrated as a success although I suffered a 3rd degree tear including a broken tailbone (no one ever took care of). So my recovery took extremely long. Could not sit without pain for weeks, could not walk up straight for at least a week, had my whole pelvis ace for a year after, still feeling my tailbone every time I have my period...now pregnant with my second I am seriously considering a scheduled C-section. Nothing can be worse than this first vaginal experience. Plus: The vaginal experience did also traumatized me and my husband...so, if somebody tried to shame me for choosing scheduled c-section this time, I’d honestly laugh at them.
At least someone admits this.. I had few "friends" before my son ce out and they all had scars on their vaginas and said they would still not choose c section... Mean while one woman told me that if she could choose she would do c section because her scar didnt heal fast at all and was so painful to even walk.. Of course when I told this to those "friends" I used to have... They started to become super defencive and said that its not like that at all.. And I said.. Well yes each body is different.. And some people are more sensitive and all.. And of course after my c section even knowing it was emergency and with clinical death of mine... They still chose to say that Im just not strong enough.. I just blocked their numbers and everywhere. Some people are just rude by choice..they can be whatever they want... Just as far away from ne as possible.. Interesting how many more years I would call them "friends" if there wasnt a c section :D so grateful for that.. Two snakes out of my life:)) really happy that there are people that doesnt lie about vaginal birth giving and how painful that is aswell... Both are Hard and painful and not to be conpared because thats just egoistic to think that one is better than the other. Both are DELIVERING baby and that is all that matters.. That babies are fine and finally meating their moms. Women that scream too much about saying one is better than the other doesnt understand that they have kids and will have grand kids and at some point they may have to experience that other option and realise that judging one or another of options(which are so many times not even a choise or option) they just ask karma to step in..
Oh my gosh that would have been so difficult to go through. A broken tailbone is such a painful injury and not much can be done about it and usually it's never the same. I would talk to your midwife/doctor about your concerns because I would think that having a previous tailbone injury would effect a natural birth? Good luck!
I have permanent small deformities on my vagina due to my 2 vaginal.births ..one epidural one unmedicated....the unmedicated one worse..my son is 3 and I still Have to be careful washing myself or during sex. I even saw a surgeon about fixing it. I m about to have my 3rd child via c section due to placenta previa and I am scared but very glad to not involve the vagina this time. You really don't hear about birth injuries much and if you tear in the natural community then..you did it wrong!...thats basically what they say I think people are ashamed to admit if they tore or God forbid in a vulnerable moment ended up on your back pushing.
This was one of the videos I have seen like ten times before my C section. Now, it has been 3 weeks after my delivery. Although I nearly hated my ob for taking this decision, I really would go for a C section if I got pregnant again. I would recover slowly and under painkillers instead of suffering labor.
I had an “elective” c section 5 weeks ago due to the babies size. I wish I had known how the recovery of a c section is beforehand just to be mentally prepared. Fortunately, my husband stepped up and did literally everything for me but it just would have been nice to know. More people need to talk about this!
I had my mother and my sister say that truly didn't experience becoming a true because it wasn't vaginal. I had no choice with either of my pregnancies. My first we were both going to die my blood pressure was sky high. And my second i was diabetic and they wont let deliver full term because the baby was going to be 13lbs so my butter ball wasnt about to pass through my pipe line.... Lol.... Im so happy you both had great experiences..
Very "supportive" from them. I would ignore their existance until they realise what they said and apologises. Like I did with few people aftem my emergency c section in which I also experienced clinical death. I am glad you didnt try too long because it could end up terribly.
@Fearn and Tucker’s Angel Forever there has been plenty of studies talking about the benefits of skin to skin contact and in most cases when you have a c-section you dont get that.
If you want they do it normally right after the baby is born they clean them and lay them on to your skin if you aren’t in total anastehtics but only for few minutes while they are removing the placenta after this they will need to take the baby out when starting to close your belly for safety reasons and is normally waiting with the dad or someone of your family you brought in until you‘re out of the surgery room and after that they will directly lye the baby again on your cheast while the anastehtics is fading
I really appreciate you guys putting this up, especially after having Brandi Milloy on recently. I love her, but I sort of felt that her birth story was one in a million and I hoped that the C-section mums didn’t feel put off by that. I’m all for a healthy baby and Mum, I do not care which way the baby comes out, as long as it comes out healthy and happy. My second is due in a few weeks and I’m totally open to anything. Let’s not make this another thing to make Mums feel shame about! #mumsunited
I’m having a scheduled C section tmrw for my first child due to back issues and I really appreciate this video. People constantly are looking at C sections as a harsh thing. Thank you for bringing some positive light into this.
Loved the video. I scheduled my c-section since week 30, always knew that I wanted that and that alone and to me, it was wonderful. I did get “those comments” LOTS of them, but I stayed put because my mind was set and it was the best decision that I could have made.
I feel like doctors always do it out of convenience for them and it sucks! I feel that c sections should only be suggested by a doctor if it’s absolutely necessary or if a mom wants to do it.
Love love love this! I have had 2 c sections. First was an emergency c section and baby was 3 months premature, she was in the nicu for 3 months. That was traumatic but it saved my life and our daughters life. Second c section was not planned but baby came early again and was also in the nicu. Second c section was much easier to recover from. Birth is dangerous, I don't care what anyone says. A good friend of mine had a still birth during a vaginal delivery. And women still die in childbirth here in America. On women being shamed for a c section, I had one experience at Target: a stranger asked me when I was due. I was walking around Target with my mom, 2 weeks after my c section so my tummy was still big. I said I was two weeks postpartum and baby was in the nicu. I said I was walking around to help me recover from my c section. And she started saying rude stuff about me having a c section and I told her to stfu because this surgery saved my life and our baby's life. Unreal!
Some people just like to create bad karma for themselves... I hope she regrets it.. Otherwise we all know how karma works.... :) I had emergency c section aswell. And also clinical death. When ever someone tries to look down to me for that... I remember that moment when I was gone and they reanimated me and I smile because I know if there wasnt a c section... I would not be here. And my son wouldnt be here.. Now he is almost 4years old. And I am pregnant again and am planning c section. There are plenty of people telling me that its egoistic... But the truth is.. They never experienced what I experienced so they are just being ignorant and asking karma to create their future with lots of experience that will help them understand... Maybe not in this lifetime.. But I think that lack of empathy is the main problem in general in today society... So I feel like there is no reason to even respond anything to those people.. They just want to bring someone down.. Lets not be the ones they get successful on bringing down. When they get into our skin and goes trough all the same experiences, then they can share their opinions.. Otherwise its just them showing their lack of wisdom. Im proud that so many moms understand that c section is not un natural. We are natural beings still and our Children aswell. And Who is who to judge others for Whatever they do or choose to do or want to do... People that have rude opinions mostly are just not having happy life themselves thats why they try to bring others down aswell. Misery needs company.. :) head up, all that matters i what is happening right now. We have our babies, we love them, they love us.. Who cares what anyone who is not part of our bond with our Children thinks.❤️
erica webb hope everything goes well, I’m also scared and terrified since my first was emergency C- section was traumatic for my and recovery was painful .
Interesting video! I had an emergency C section and then a vaginal birth 17 months later! Baby number 3 is on the way and I’m hoping to avoid surgery again just because the recovery is so much harder.
Congrats on your vbac. I also had one 17 months ago and share your opinion.. I had a 2nd degree tear but regardless of that.. it was incredibly easier with recovering. 🙂
I love you guys so much , I wanted a vaginal birth but my son had other things in mind he was sideways so I had to have a c section , the con I would think would be recovery it wasn’t really painful but just my scar kind of hurt , and it was numb for years later and it’s still red and not very nice looking but you can’t see it be it’s so low and also I felt weird like they took all my organs out and didn’t put them back right lol if that makes sense lol
I had an emergency csection and I also felt like I failed as a mom. I was put under general anesthesia, so my husband couldn't be with me. My daughter was breeched. Then a couple weeks ago I had an unmedicated Vbac with my son. Both deliveries were difficult, but I'd try for another vaginal delivery next time!
Eva C I also had an emergency C-section it was something that I was terrified and scared that I screamed going to the operating room . I was put under and while been under I started to alucínate and recovery was so painful !!!!😖 😣 now pregnant again I’m also terrified and my anxiety is not helping either just thinking about what’s going to happen during labor 😢😭😦😦 . I talked to my obyn she asked if I wanted more babies in the future I said no then she suggested C- section! Again??? 😣😯😦 I let her know I’m terrified
Elective c-sections are very different than emergency c-sections and they should not be put in the same bucket. Emergency c-sections happen usually when something is going really wrong with the baby or the mother, after many hours or days of labour, usually there are other procedures like induction etc. The doctors have to perform an emergency life saving procedure, and it is typically a traumatic experience for women and the recovery tends to be long and painful. Elective c-sections are a completely different story, you know what to expect, when you’ll give birth, you have time to prepare - to come rested, relaxed and have a postpartum plan considering the surgery. Recovery is usually quick and the pain ia minimal if the procedure was done correctly and if pain killers are used. My sister and friends that had elective c-sections had a wonderful experience and speedy recovery … while my friends with VBAC including my mother and grandmothers had traumatic experiences with tears, use of forceps, very long and painful labours, long recovery etc. I’m totally going with an elective c-section, but who am I kidding? I’m super nervous anyway, birth and postpartum are not easy.
Mine was not a choice. Never in my life did I think that I wouldn't have a baby vaginally. There were sudden issues that were putting my son in distress at 35 weeks, so after 3 weeks in the hospital, they were like "you'll be having an emergency section in 8 hours". Nobody should shame a mother about how her baby/babies were born
I’ve heard way worse things about vaginal birth than c-sections so they’re not really convincing me to have a vaginal delivery. I’d rather recover from surgery than go through the trauma of labor and ripping the cooch open with internal stitching….
A woman at the supermarket told me "push out the baby cuz then you'll love her like a real mom" ... Some people are so insensitive to the topic. Due on Monday November 26, 2018 planned C-section due to a past emergency C-section. Love my babies with my whole hear
wish you a safe birth for you and the baby and a quick recovery.. I am 36 weeks and my baby is still in a breech position, so I am planned to have a c section too, so tell me how it goes if you have time later.. tc
@@carols4507 Hi! It went great, thank God. My little princess is 6 days old and feeling great after C-section. Got the spinal anesthesia so feeling pain in my back like crazy all the time. But it is so worth it. Hope your C-section goes perfect and your baby is born healthy and well!
Imagine she saying that to someone who has their adopted Children with her at that moment............. Just disgusting. Giving vaginal birth doesnt make one a mother. Unconditional love and acceptance is what makes one a real mother...🌻
My own mother told me I didn’t give birth because I had a c-section. It really hurt me. Once day she admitted when she was down that she was jealous on how I was connected with my child and didn’t need her help. She said “I really f up with you”. Then she became mean again. Women who feel superior and put other down often have deep issues.
I had a vaginal birth, I didn't tare. And I recovered very fast. I fear a c-section but I know if its needed I would do it, only if needed. When it comes to birth you have to do whats best for you c-section or vaginal as long as baby and you are safe that's all that matters.
@@rachellecollin3661 I have had 6 babies so far and only tore for my 5th (very small tear)... he was also my only hospital birth, and I was just trying to get him out as fast as possible so that the doctor would go away lol... he came out shoulders up and down instead of sideways, so I think that's what did it. It helps to not actually push, just breathe through the contractions, squatting or on all 4s, let the fetal ejection reflex kick in, and your body does all of the "pushing" for you... baby comes out nice and "easy".
Another con...the spinal tap/epidural may not work during a c section and there’s a chance they will have to put you to sleep. Happened to this girl right here lol. It’s awful.
15 days away from my planned c section. This is my first child there for my 1st birthing experience . these videos really help with the anxiety that comes with the unknown
I’m having a scheduled c section because I’m 4’11” with a very narrow pelvis! My baby girl was already 7lbs 4oz at 36 weeks 😬😬 She was in the 98th percentile for growth the whole time so we knew early on I would probably be doing a c section. And I’m ok with that 😊 I also had a major laparotomy a few years ago which also puts me at a higher risk for so many things to go wrong.. so I’m happy with my decision and I’m so blessed everyone around me is so supportive! ♥️ Exactly one week from today I’ll have my baby girl in my arms 😁😁💕
I was born through C-section, I even got to witness my nephew being born through C-section because his father is a trucker and he was actually away and I was the only one that was able to come. The cool thing is I did get to be a part of that and I helped take care of the baby for the first 6 months before my sister and her husband moved so that was really cool.
THANK YOU! I have tokophobia and at this point I feel like I'm going to have to hire a lawyer just to have an elective c section. I don't know why so many women get so mean and nasty about it, it's not like they actually care if your c section scar gets infected or something. No I'm not pregnant my fear is so deep I stress on the daily about this and I don't want kids for at least 4 or 5 years. I feel that these doctors care more about their c section percentages than the well being of the mother and child.
H 35 do what I did. Search until you find one who will listen to you! I’m having mine in March! I would’ve never gotten pregnant on the first place if I hadn’t found my ob! It’ll work out love 😘
No thanks. I think people who choose to have a c-section without any medical reason are insane because it’s painful, it sucks, you can’t sit or walk properly. If you sneeze or cough, it feels like your body is being ripped off in two. I wanted to have a vaginal birth so badly that I felt horrible about the fact that my son was “sitting down” instead of heads down. Recovering from it was horrible and walking into the OR/delivery room was so scary and overwhelming. Also the risks that your uterus tears during a second pregnancy because of a previous c-section are real and scary as hell. So no: I hope to have a VBAC and never have to go through a c-section again.
I don't have any kids but my mom had 3 c sections, 2 that where emergencies. When I have kids I want to try and have a vaginal delivery but I would be okay having a c section if it's an emergency.
Great video! You guys should make a video about breastfeeding. I had a c-section and a little bit of complications so I wasn’t able to breastfeed and received so much judgement on that.
For people that judge women for having a c section are annoying. I can’t have a natural birth because of my uterus I don’t wanna hear how I did it wrong for something I can’t even control.
I personally am a survivor of sexual assault and the idea of natural birth is traumatic to me. (I know it's not the same for everyone!) Having a choice is so important! No one should be shamed!
I had a emergency c-section and it was the best easiest delivery it wasn't painful during or after plus the extra days at the hospital was so helpful. I'm having a planned csection with my current pregnancy and getting my tubes out so it's all in one.
This is such a wonderful video, I haven't got children yet but I've always been unsure about future birth plans etc. Thank you for shedding some light on C-Sections :D
Thank you for covering c-sections in a way that doesn't make it sound like such a horrible and unhealthy thing. It's really appreciated and it's also nice to have some positive information on c-sections that dont try to also scare you away from doing doing one.
I had to have an emergency c section in 2004, had a planned c section in 2007 now expecting my last in a few months and that will be a planned c section👶🏾❣
I had a emergency c section because his heartbeat went way down and cord was around his neck .so my other two was a plan c section and was a lot better for recovery then the first one .i was in labor for 24 hrs and only got to a 4 cm.
You made a comment saying you can't do it yourself when you have a c section. You're so wrong, I had a c section and it was just me and my 3 year old son with ASD.
i am 18 weeks & i know it’s still early to be thinking, but i do have chronic health issues involving my heart rate/blood pressure, i think a c section would be a better route for myself rather than a vaginal birth.
First let me say, LOVE watching these videos and super glad you posted this. Two, as I am now expecting my second, I am told I HAVE to have a c-section again and I'm really unsettled with that. I'm also chronically ill (bad back, autoimmune and fibromyalgia) and am told no one will let a patient like me attempt a VBAC. So hearing positive experiences helps some what. My first experience was an emergency C-Section after 16 hours of hardcore labor but I just would not dilate for anything. My experience was so negative- I'd rather be in labor for 3 days as bad as it was the first time then have to deal with the recovery of another C-Section; and mine was considered a relative success. I think the hardest part in any of the birthing experience is choice. Feeling like your choices have been taking away from you sucks and then not knowing the outcome of something you didn't pick for yourself is that much harder to cope with. Third and finally, it will be 19 years between my first child and my second- I'm pretty sure things have changed since 1999. Do you think you might want to do a "What to expect when C-Sectioning" video? You know, like a play by play of a planned and emergency version plus post recovery to do/can dos/should dos? And maybe mention things like the post C-Section clot. That always seems to freak out first timers. LoL!
My c section experience was wonderful even though it was unexpected (baby flipped herself back breech). However I would still opt for trying for a VBAC over planning another C-section for this next baby. The recovery is just so long, like 8 weeks at least! It wasn't too painful or traumatic, but it took so long to be able to move around without pain.
@@laurenemond9384 if you have someone that can stay with you like your partner or a close family member that really helps. I could care for the baby pretty well, but all household stuff like cooking dinner, doing laundry, etc was too much at first. You can't lift anything heavier than like 10lbs and I found if I was doing too much I would be really sore by the evening.
@@lilymel9759 Do you really feel like having your abs cut in half (and then growing scar tissue instead of the muscle so it will never work as before) is better than a tear in a soft tissue that will heal with time?!?!?!
Kristýna Chrbolková it doesn’t always happen like that. After two C sections, I don’t have scar tissues, I have toned abs and recovery for both seemed easy.
For me, I've gotten more judgement for saying I want a natural, un-medicated birth! It is SO normal now to have a cesarean, so honestly you will be more left out when you go natural/vaginal. haha
I am 36 weeks pregnant and had scheduled a c section in 3 weeks hoping to avoid all the labor pain and tearimg. Thank God its optional in Canada, at least in my case since I also have SPD. thank you soooo much for the video, I truly enjoyed it!
Moms saying they failed because they had a c section is stupid, that is the only reason alot of peoples babys survive, lots of babies die during labor or coming through the canal
It takes months to heal from a c section just so all you ladies know. It’s a horrible healing process, and you have a very high likely to lose feeling from belly bottom and vagina. I had a forced on and with my second baby I will not have another unless my child is in danger
I'm not even pregnant yet, but I've always thought that I'd want a c-section, because giving birth to a watermelon through that small hole is absolutely terrifying. The reason I searched for this video is because I mentioned this to my mother (she's had 3 natural births) and she pretty much shut me off instantly. She basically said that people who get a c-section (without it being an emergency) are just like... For women who only care about looks of their downstairs and such. But I disagree with her. I've heard so many horror stories of getting torn so badly, bleeding soo much etc, that I really don't want to go through it. My brother's gf had a c-section (planned) and she healed well, and overall had a positive experience. I'm not getting pregnant for another 5-8 years (I'm aroace, so I'm not getting a partner, and will use a sperm bank when I want to get pregnant) so I still have time, but I've felt like this for a LONG while
Literally was in labor for almost a week , got induced Thursday & had my baby boy TILL SUNDAY ended up getting preeclampsia they gave me the c section papers I SIGNED THEM SO QUICK I DIDNT EVEN CARE I wanted this baby out so bad yes C SECTIONS HURT PREGNANCY IS A LOT but we THE SHIT men would NEVERRRR be able to handle the pain 💖🤟🏼
I felt the same as the girl on the right, I had that birth plan and watched so many birth vlogs but ... had contractions for almost 20 hours and epidural and then no epidural and oxytocin stimulation and still was only 6 cm dilated so they put me through emergency c-section 🤷♀️. Also had those moms that were like oh you don’t understand..excuse you but I did have labour contractions w/o epidural .. anyways I did feel a bit disconnected from my son for the first week or so but not anymore❤️ cried several times after it until my hub saw me and made me realise there’s nothing to be sad about ❤️ So my advice is don’t try to plan your pregnancy just be on ease bc natural or c-sec doesn’t matter until you and your bby by are fine
This video has helped a lot to ease my mind. I've had two babies, both literally back to back. My son and daughter are 11 and a half months apart. Both were natural, with no epidural, with midwives. My 2nd birth especially was really hard. I hemorrhaged with both and had a 3rd degree tear with both. After the birth of my 2nd, I was diagnosed with a 2nd degree uterine and bladder prolapse. The symptoms are uncomfortable. Feeling like I have a ball falling out of me, and I can see my dropped organs when I examine myself. I'm only 28 and not old at all, as this us usually an issue seen in older women. Now pregnant with my 3rd, which was a surprise, and am going for a scheduled C-section to try to avoid worsening of my prolapse for as long as I can. I'm terrified of the thought of surgery - being awake while they're cutting me open freaks me out. But a lot of it, I'm sure has to do with mentality. Like I said, my natural birth experiences were hard, and its kind of nice to think I won't have to go through labor and delivery this time. The ring of fire is no joke! And I'm looking forward to not having to experience that again. Also not having all of that intense pushing on my organs, is relieving. I'm glad to have the options to choose between natural or medical deliveries.
At first I didn't like the fact that I had 2 c section. But then after my sister told me about how she can no longer hold in her urine after having 4 kids vaginally and cannot feel anything down there during sex. She is undergoing an $8k surgery for reconstruction. I am now proud of my 2 c sections and my tight vag!! Also my c section scar has diminished soo much it barely looks like i had 2 kids. 😁
My first born was with an emergency C Section i went through the whole labour pain experience till 10 centimeters then contractions stopped it completely went away. I was just in pain but no contractions.they even induced but in vain. And the baby was suffocating so at Cesarean was done. But then my second and third born i delivered by normal vaginal birth. My Second son With 4 years gap. and third daughter with 6 years gap. The doc said after seeing the scar of my C Section as usual if u have a first Cesarean, doctors expect all Cesarean as if then u can not deliver naturally, so they just tell u for another C Section. instead of encouraging and giving u a normal natural birth chance. they just do Cesarean. So me i insisted for normal chance and i did. I'm so glad i didn't go through 3 C Section. I'm sharing my story to help others who wish to avoid all C Section's. And have a natural chance.
This video is amazing, planning on having a baby soon not yet pregnant but I have always been so terrified of vaginal child birth and the anxiety just doesn’t go away and every time I tell people I’m going for a c-section I’m always being talked out of it
I wanna throw my 2 cents in this. I ended up having a c section. I was 34 weeks and 5 days pregnant. My son had to be delivered unexpectedly. The beginning of August I had high blood pressure and was sent to the hospital to check to see if I was developing preeclampsia. Was just high blood pressure. The beginning of September, same thing. Just ended up with high blood pressure. I was sent 3 times to the hospital to get checked out. I was told to not be surprised if they had to induce me week 34. September 14th I remember waking up and getting a shower...that was it. Somehow I got in my car, stopped for breakfast and got to work. I ended up having a seizure at work. Not long after I was brought to the hospital and had another. Turns out I went from high blood pressure to eclampsia, skipped over preeclampsia. They had to deliver my son...my husband wasnt allowed in the room, he wasnt even allowed to cut the cord. They had to sedate me, I was told I was fighting 5 doctors. My son was in this world for 48 hours before I even got to see him. A c section isnt something I wanted, I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to see my son until days later and sadly my fear came true. I was discharged 5 days later...however my son is still in the hospital. His lungs are still developing. Heres to hoping that he will be home in about a week 🤞
I have never judged any moms in their decisions with pregnancy, birth , or how they raise their lil ones.. but honestly I had an emergency c section after 30 hours of labor .. and I was so upset that I couldn’t deliver vaginally as I wanted to. Especially since I’m a nursing student and I knew the reality of a c section and how higher the risk was for my baby and I. But I had no other choice to protect my baby ! And I had a horrible c section experience and I just can’t wrap my mind on how people would choose to get a c section electively ! Like you can literally die ! It’s major surgery ! Not everyone has the same experience but I felt everything during surgery and I felt the pain , it was like I was burning alive. And because of that i had two more doses of morphine and I had to throw up .. it was all just bad..I couldn’t even hold or see my baby .. I was trying to survive the pain and I bled a lot and had to get a blood transfusion. The morphine than gave me anxiety and I didn’t want to even hold my baby it was like an unreal feeling. The pain after was the worst thing I have ever felt and all I could do for my baby was breastfeed . My husband had to everything else .. idk how people can do it without support. It made me really sad that i couldn’t get up to grab my baby and care for him, without asking for help .. until weeks later .. you guys are lucky if you honestly didn’t have pain or struggled with c section . But medically c sections can either go good or south real quick and it’s just not worth it to me for me or the babies health .. If I ever have a baby again I definitely will try to do vaginal birth again or a v back if I can’t
Everyone always talks about the recovery, but what about the actual surgery? I've heard stories from women who felt the entire surgery, and that it hurts a whole lot, even with the spinal. Is that always true, regardless of the situation?
Well,the problem is that in US the number of c-sectio is crazy .33%!!!! In Scandinavia it is only about 16% and they have better outcomes than US in mortality
How long is the recovery for a c-section? I've heard the incision can burn pretty bad afterwards and that was the case for my mom. I'm someone that have chronic pain. I have PCOS and Fibromyalgia that can get pretty intense so I've always wondered if a c-section would be better for me instead of putting my body through the labor pains which would cause fibro flare ups I feel
depends on the woman but it can take 2 months on average but u can take care of urself 100% after 3 weeks, some woman even 2weeks. its important to have someone there for the first few weeks.
I am so happy to see a video from you about C-section... As for me, it was decided from 6 months that I will have to deliver throght c-section *my baby was in a seated position, he couldn't turn* which I really hated and I didn't want the day to come because I was so terrified and scared... but after the surgery I remembered I walked and I felt that my tummy will fall down it was so heavy to even walk.... what is funny that when I laught the next day I cried and laught at the same time.... but now I am glad it was C-section... but wanna experience the veganial birth... since I can't understand the pain....
That's wild! I just made a vid about c-sections (vs. vaginal) I've only had c-sections. I don't know about you but the healing really hurts and took time to recover. Even now it still tingles from time to time. Did it for you??
Thank you thank you thank you both for sharing. I'm 2 months away from delivering my 2nd child. The 1st was an emergent c-section. I've felt that I have to get another C-section and have been dreading it. Talking with my Dr., a friend and watching this video has really calmed my nerves. I'm now feeling peace in choosing a C-section.
I've read about is doing a quick vaginal swab and then putting that on the baby, so the baby some the benefits of the good bacteria from the mom, even if the baby is born via c-section!
I had 3 c-sections i just had my son 3 weeks ago my scar opened up and now im slowly recovering from it it really hurts but i had 3 healthy kids from that
Had to have an emergency csection with my daughter 7 years ago.. now im pregnant with my 2nd and really battling with trying for a vaginal delivery or just opting for the csection again
I have had c section and recovery was painful but words cannot express how much I love my son. He is perfect and it doesn't make me feel less of a mom.
Niska Niska I had an emergency C -section and I was put down cuz I was screaming and frightened because I was terrified because of been cut and recovery was painful !!!!! 😣
Please tell me how, I want this option and my hospital says no, that I cannot have a c section unless vaginal doesn’t work or if there are complications. How do you get one ?
@@nvmee8 depends on which country you live in. If you have a health insurance and it can cover it then there shouldnt be a problem. Also I would go and see different midwife, if this one is not listening to what you want. Your body, your choice!:)
@Janet Adebanwo you will be fine, and your organs wont be pulled out lol. I just had second c section and it was fun lol. It was like... I heae my baby screaming and i smile and ask.. "What she is aready out?!" and doctors be like.. "Yes! And we are almost done with surgery. :)" and then they gave her to me. The most painful part for me to be honest was when they added urine catheter.. 🤦🏼♀️😂 All catheter adding is painful.. But c section is not that painful because of anesthesia.
Same over here I‘m happy I‘m not the only one And still a little scared of my planed C section But definitely not getting panic attacks like when I tried to get prepared for normal birth so Me and my doctor decided to plan the C section
Thank you girls for this short talk abot c section because i was super scared:( i cried yesterday because the doctor said i might get c section because the umbilical cord of my baby is on her neck. During my last ultrasound. Im due this month and im super scared.
I'm having a scheduled c-section this time with my third child. Everyone I have told has been very supportive. The most supportive people have been family members who know my history of having very large babies lol.
There are so many videos about c-section, but i find that women shy away from talking about the recovery period. I would like to see more raw and honest videos that tells people what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.
In November of 2017 I had my first via c-sec it was an emergency because baby had his cord wrapped around his neck and I broke down in tears cause I just seriously didn’t want one. But once he was out i was glad that c-sections exist. I’ll be honest, I was in no pain whatsoever. I threw away the pain pills once I got home. I hardly took them in the hospital. As soon as I was out of surgery I even asked if I could get up and walk around or at least shower. 5 months later I was pregnant again with baby #2 and decided I wanted to try to have a VBAC.... talked to my doctor and he said he was almost 100% that it would work out! So a few weeks ago on the 2nd of Feb i had baby #2, vaginally. And oh boy let me tell you. Pushing was awesome. Loved the birth. But once the epidural wore off boy oh boy I couldn’t wait until the next painkiller and the next and the next. I cried myself to sleep sometimes cause I was so upset over how much pain I was in. Even sitting or laying down didn’t help. When the doctor told me I had a tear she said it wasn’t bad and changed the subject. But she took a long time to sew me up. That was honestly so rough. I’m still in pain sometimes but have gotten off my painkillers since I don’t want to depend on them. But holy cow it was intense pain for days. I kept telling my spouse that i much rather prefer a csection. All my doctors kept telling me how fast i recuperated and healed after my c section.
It’s crazy that they let you have a VBAC after 14 months after your first cesarean! I’m glad you’re alright! My OBGYN didn’t let me have one at 19 months after my c-section.
It should be given to us that we’re are pregnant for an entire year. Only 2 months short. Like people should relieze it’s a fucking hear of pregnancy and doctors
