The mother's problem is not with the police, she has a problem with getting into toxic relationships. She has a bad track record with picking men and her new husband is no exception. She wants to believe this relationship is better that she is willing to jump to his side for everything even willing to throw her own child under the bus. That man is eventually going to do something to OP's mom and she won't have her child to support her when that inevitable reverse happens. Even now her current toxic relationship is isolating her from people like OP and she is still letting it happen, OP's mother is a moron.
Yup, the red flags are slapping her in the face as we watch this video and she just chooses to ignore it The new husband appears to be a lot more insidious than the ex, in that his toxic behaviour is discreet
@@ironscalp484 Trying to have a hostile takeover of his step-daughter's house is not discreet in any way. That mom actually blames her own daughter for removing them is insane. The whole situation beggars belief. This girl needs therapy and to find another mentor figure, because her mom abdicated that responsibility long ago.
@@smallpseudonym2844 i completely agree with you.. i meant discreet more in the way he manipulates the mother, you can probably bet your left nut that that man has woven a very intricate veil of lies and probably also played the mother's feelings and past trauma to paint OP as the villain... But the mother is a gullible idiot, so i'm probably giving him more credit than he deserves
@@smallpseudonym2844I’m just sitting here thinking how did these fully grown adults think this would go? Like I’m certain me and my wife’s first reaction would be aggressive as hell for obvious reasons then get the cops to make it official. Luckily we live in Texas so no DA would bring charges against homeowners protecting their own property
Warning flags are being raised. EITHER the stepdad lied about what happened, claiming OP just changed her mind and called the police on them, OR the mother is genuinely evil. They changed the locks, they tried to steal the land from OP. She 100% should have called the police, there wasn't any alternative. I see the issue now, she's putting her partner's feelings over everything else, regardless of the damage it causes. It's what happened with that abusive Ex, and it's what's happening here as well.
It’s not uncommon. She was with a terrible guy who cheated, left her and left her isolated. Now she has a new partner and daughter, she’s desperate not to lose them. Rather than have her boundaries in place after her Ex, she’s trying to keep the peace and make her new family happy so they don’t leave
@@vexxamaWell said. I predict that, when OP finally goes no contact with her mother, stepfather, and stepsister, she'll sell her house, move to another city, farther away from those toxic bozos, and marry a man who's one moment, Prince Valiant that comes to rescue her, and the next, a mega evil tyrant who controls and abuses her, verbally, emotionally/mentally, and worse, physically, to the point of where the paramedics/EMTs show up at the door, and threatens to do away with her if she breaks up with him, fall pregnant, when her abuser traps her, then, pack all her belongings, (including important documents, and sentimental items), ship them to a storage facility, and flee to a women's shelter, with the help of cops and DV social workers, third, file for divorce, flee to another state, ship all her belongings to her new state, find an apartment in a safe neighborhood, find another job, and rely on neighbors as her new support system, because she won't have her bio-dad, friends or other relatives in her new state to help out; all she and her kid will have is each other, and to avoid making the same mistakes her mother has made, OP will need to steer clear of potential SOs and stepkids, concentrate on her mental health, her career, her kid's welfare/health/needs/happiness, raising him in a stable and safe home environment, and being a better mother to him than her own mother is.⚠️
"Mom. I am 30 years old, i can make my own decision as to who i hang out with and that does mot include your new family." "Honey, let emma move in with you" Talk about in one ear and out the other
It may have to do with the fact that he still might work there. Which might give him some control over what happens. Even then, if the station found out. He is not immune to prosecution. He will be prosecuted as a citizen, not as a cop. Not speaking up only helps him. And if you were to try to change the results of the case, that would be pretty hard evidence. So she barely has anything to worry about, it's just her own head. And our trauma, she needs therapy.
YOU Are Not the Problem. Your mother is. She railroaded your boundaries, tried to guilt you into getting having stepsister move in. Then blames you for her hubby and stepsister breaking into your home to take it over.
I hope there's an update on this story where OP sells her house to newlwed couple, goes no contact with her mother, stepfather and stepsister, moves to another state, disconnects her phone number, and deletes her social media accounts.
Op is definitely part of the problem for being spineless. Just refused to stand up for herself. Was basically trying to apologize for having her house broken into.
WTH mom thinks OP went too far? Stepdad and stepsister changed the freaking locks on a house they didn’t own! WTF are you supposed to do when kicked out of a house you OWN? This is so ridiculous, OP is so conditional to be a doormat. If OP had agreed to let stepsister to move in they would’ve done the same thing. OP would’ve come home to locks changed and what stuff she didn’t want would’ve been in the trash. OP needs to get into therapy ASAP and get a damn backbone
I call bulls**t on the entire thing. No sane single person would break into their step daughters house merely to teach her a lesson. Less still changing the locks and just crossing their fingers that they wouldn't call the cops. It's even less likely still because they have only been on the scene for about 2 years and wouldn't be that confident in her being unwilling to risk calling the police.
Your mom not liking cops is entirely irrelevant. She could've left him at any time but she didn't. She doesn't have the right to complain about police. The problem is your step father and step sister broke into your house and changed the locks, keeping you out of your own home. Hopefully you pressed charges. The call with your mom was just her attempt to emotionally manipulate and guilt trip you. Ignore her, shes just as bad as your sd and ss
How the fuck did it take her that long to get to her home being notified of a break in for them to change all the locks? how the fuck did the security system not automatically call the police? how the hell are these adults clearly still children
I was thinking the same thing. But maybe her house is 30+ min away from her work & by the time she got there, they had to locks changed. It don’t take that long to change locks. I’m more concerned about the security system not calling the cops for a B&E, unless she just has security cameras like the Roku ones & has them set to motion censor but even if she had those, she would have seen who was in her house. Idk it’s not adding up 🤷🏽♀️
I'm guessing the service she use doesn't include calling the police as one of it's policies. I can understand how they were able to change the locks, but the police might be for a different reason. Idk.
It’s AI😂😂 wtf is this story?😂😂😂😂 My step dad tried to steal my house? Literally😂 Just break in change the locks and he lives there now? What would a reasonable person expect the outcome to be? A house is like 300k, so what she gets a joke told about her so she steals majority of her net worth and leaves her homeless 😂 They were married 2 years she barely knew these things people If that worked wouldn’t everyone just see a house they like and do that?😂😂 I know it’s AI but what was the prompt?🤣🤣
Well said. Not only should OP go full NO CONTACT with her mother, she should also put her house up for sale, and move to another state to start her life afresh.
That kid cannot comprehend her mom doesn't give a crap about her or that she was a part of the three's plan to have her pay to support her step sister. They are all pos people and she isnt. Pos identify with eachother. Her mom cheated with a cop and he turned out to be like hearted to the people she is socially attracted to and physically attracted to. Ghosting her emotionally abusive and manipulative mom is the best relationship she will have with her mom.
Not even that. She had a call from the security company. THEY would have called the cops and only then informed her of the break in. That's literally what they are paid to do. These stories just pull circumstances out of their a$$ without thinking of the real world consequences of all of these events and what happens with them. Either it's an AI or some basement goblin living beneath their parents that never steps outside into the real world.
@@thecursed01 Either way your original point stands - she would have called the police first if the security company hadn't beaten her to it. If for no other reason than for home owner insurance purposes - something I think you would expect to be an issue for someone who had a security company contracted to watch the premises. Not calling the police could lead to prejudicial judgements delaying or even denying a payout if something had been broken by the intruders.
The stepfather leveraged his partners trauma to steal a house. He used her, she should be furious, not taking his side. And then the mother goes on about being selfish in the past, but goes right back to being selfish by wanting to be away from her daughter because she felt guilty and wanted to appease her new family. She’s enabled so much toxic behaviour and pushes her issues onto everyone around her. The OP is better off without them, if they act like this with others it won’t be long till they end up in cells the next time they do something like this
This is really sad. OP's mom understood that she failed as a mother but she ended up choosing her new family over her own biological daughter. I really hope that one day she'll finally make up with OP. . .
No, let's not get our hopes up, because, unfortunately, that will never happen, I mean, the mother has caused OP too much hurt over the years; it's time for OP to not only forget about her mother, but also cut off all contact with her, the stepfather, and stepsister, sell her house, move to another state, buy another house there, and make her own family that consists of supportive new friends, a trustworthy therapist, and a warm-hearted man whose family are good people. OP can invite her bio-dad to come visit/hang out with her in her new state, any time she wants, plus, she'll end up with a MIL (mother-in-law) who's 5 times more of a real mother to her than her birth-giver is.
Why would you wish such misfortune upon OP. That mother is one of the most toxic people in her life, not to mention how much of doormat OP that she would probably take her back without hesitation
The mom basicly realized how bad of a parent she was, decided to make up for it by spoiling her new stepdaugther. But she felt to guilty and abandened op again and ran from them on the same coin Everything their mom is doing now is just to placate their own guilt while trying to outrun it
It’s deeper than that. Deep down the mom hates OP because she blames her for the fact that she didn’t live her “best life” when she was younger, because of her birth.
Your mom's past is irrelevant...but the fact that they tried to take YOUR house with ZERO sympathy; on top of how she reacted after you called the cops, shows your mom does not have your best interests at heart. Sorry to OP hope she's doing better now.
Dude, how is she even supposed to "live together with her step-sis and get along" if she's locked out? Did her mom not know that part, or did she conveniently overlook it while dropping her guilt bomb on her daughter? Not that it really matters. Even under the most charitable interpretation, her mom is a monster that ignores her daughter's wishes and enables some prick that weaponizes her mom's trauma against her daughter.
She didn't have a traumatic experience with the police, she had a shitty ex! Had he been a teacher, would she be scared of teachers? how about a line cook?
Mom's issues with the police are ridiculous.. She picks crap boyfriends, and let's them control her... Screw mom and those other AHs who thought they could push you around.. Why would you bow down to a mom who doesn't respect you at all; and let's her husband of 2 yrs try to steal your house.. I'd want nothing at all to do with a mom like this..
I can't wait for the future update where the mom gets dumped by her husband and the bratty stepdaughter and comes begging for another chance with her real daughter.
I'm so sick of these stories of people willing to let their families walk all over them, because it's family!! So OP's mom was willing to let her husband (not his father) throw her son into the street for his daughter. Walk away OP. Live your life, build your own family. Your mother is showing you where she stands. Family is not always blood. She's proven this to you.
His mom really needs to see a professional. I think relating one place officer that you were dating she’s a whole group of police officers is a big stretch which makes me think there’s more problems.
So the security monitoring employees didnt call the police like literally every security system does? How did the stepdad break in and change all the locks in the time it took the poster to drive home? I guess when you make up stories its easy to forget simple details like that.
Depending on the commute, I could see the lock change happening. After all, OP did say it took her an hour to get home. The standard house only has 2 locks to change, so doing that in an hour is very possible. The security company not calling the cops could be as simple as the police not being able to get involved at the time. I've lived in a small town where there's only 2 or 3 cops on duty at a time, and a simple break in would be down the list of things to handle.
OP-You have nothing to feel bad about the situation. Your Mother is toxic and needs lots of therapy. Don't feel guilty, try and get her into therapy. That stepfather and daughter are toxic, I dont think calling your Mom would have made a difference. You need to get yourself some help so you can move on. Your Mom is paying for her choices.
Can't wait for the update a few years from now when mom and Adam try to worm their way back into OP's life once they learn how wonderful her life is with her new hubby and kids. Will be fun to hear about her slapping them into the dirt like that sorry excuse of a maternal unit that can't understand why the daughter she abandoned doesn't want anything to do with her.
These types of stories doesn’t anyone pay thugs to handle these situations? $1,000 and 4 huge dudes would be there asap. Just saying that happens more than you think. Thugs aren’t just bad guys, they give regular people justice for money 💴
In short op Your mom doesn't want to build a relationship not just because of her new family but also because you remind her of all her mistakes. She can't be that mom to you ever. I'm sorry
Go no contact with all if them especially your mother. you are not responsible for your mom's poor choice in men..100% sure the cop would not have tried to take over your house, she downgraded..keep the cops on speed dial. Your Mom is a terrible mother
so SD et SS break in, changes the lock, and mom get real sad about you not accepting it ? come on ... if she doesn't see the problem, it's because she was ok with it. she doesn't care about you, she cares about what you can do for her. a step dad "punishing" his 31 yo setp daughter ? wtf is wrong with you mom and step familly ...
Are you kidding me? I know how we feel about our mom, wth... They are all crazy. Doesnt matter what moms past experience is...she and her family is in the wrong.
The mom is a manipulator; she worries about their feelings and hers. She paid for the house and how they. moved in and took over!! How dare he say it's your punishment!! Typical mom who gets a new family. If you feel bad, you are a fool, he'll. No, i would.
OP, you should have turned mother and her uninvited family away from your housewarming. Knowing how she is you shouldn't have invited her at all. Another "Do it for Dan" story.😂
I only have two things to say about this story first of all I just feel bad for the OP in general because I can't imagine being in her situation and having a parent that really may as well say to my face fuck you I'm putting my non-related blood daughter over you because clearly you and your dad weren't enough for me because that's really what my second thought is on this story and what I have to say about it and it just upsets me that everything that DOP goes through and how he credit justify the idea of like oh man I just feel so guilty because my mom this my mom dad and I'm like but did your mom really get with somebody that's terrible did your mom really suffer as badly as you and your dad did because I know honestly the only person that's at fault for all the bullshit they've gone through is really just a mom and look I'm not saying you know abusive justifiable here or anything like that or people purposely put themselves in that situation but the mom can't say she was with this abusive person who took advantage of her just because he was a cop and yes I do get the yes there are cops I get into relationships and do that to somebody there in a relationship with but I just don't buy it because why would she end up with somebody that's just as manipulative as her ex which would be the prettiest person that's where I believe that the mom she enjoys being around people like this and that's the type of person she wants to be with cuz she loves using the idea of her sympathy to get away with things and mistreating others I think that's what's really wrong with her and I do have to agree cuz one of the comments literally said that she's a master manipulator and that's what she truly is
Damn that is some hard-core brain washing. The mom, the stepdad, and step sister are being ass-holes, and the mc still feels like shit for the mom, on another note the mom knows how to pick them
Stories like this one ticks me off. “Mom called and she’s sad and disappointed” sounds like a big sign that she needs to be surgically removed from your life. She’s 100% in the wrong. Sure, bad past with cops.. but what the steps did was wholly unacceptable and her defending them is unforgivable. “She felt betrayed and hurt”, then maybe she should tell her Fam not to break the law. OP is a bit of an a hole here, to themself, because OP should never have apologized. I get the family situation sucks, but the “mom” is not family.
She felt bad to guilt you to get Emma out of their house. Don’t be fooled your mom knew exactly what they were doing. Which also means your moms husband knew all this stuff about her past. They chose to go into your house AND CHANGE THE LOCKS and that’s on them. When you weren’t interested in a closer relationship with Emma stealing your house was definitely not a solution to your mom and her husband getting Emma out. Don’t feel bad. Your mom should feel bad. She’s the a**hole. Your mom should be disgusted with herself. Why was your mom so upset I thought it was the step dad & his daughter in your house. If she was involved I think they all should of been trespassed.
What's up with the sob story. How the hell do you feel bad for calling the police on Home Invaders? Like, what are you, Amish or something? You're going to turn the other cheek? If bullies know how to make you feel bad then they know they'll never get in trouble. That's how they work. Call the Police, the FBI, the CIA, the KGB, Homeland Security, Everybody you can think of to get your house back. And at the very least, file multiple restraining orders and always keep them current.
Last comment I promise I’m 42 years old and never once have. I felt that I couldn’t call my mom even if we had an argument or a disagreement. I never went through this much trepidation over a phone call to my mom that in itself girl you need to get a therapist and get all of that poison out your system, because that’s ridiculous. Overall, you should always know your mom loves you and is there for you. My mom was not perfect. We had issues here and there, but I never questioned whether she loved me and would be there for me.
fake as fuck, no person would just sit there and allow this. No person would put up with it. Also no cop would allow people who literally broke in and changed the locks to steal a house with the alarm going off on the phone to walk without charges and a RO. TBH this whole story is a like a middle schooler learning to write research papers and filled in incoherent crap to lengthen the paper to reach the min word limit.
Too bad if your doesn't like it. It's your house. They are lucky they didn't go to jail for a felony like B&E. If your mom wants to act like that then you are so much better off without her or them in your life. I'm sorry but that excuse about the cops is the stupidest thing I have ever heard of. That makes no sense, the cop was also a man, so why doesn't she hate men? That is nothing other than a excuse to be stupid and justify acting like she is right. Your so much better off without that in your life
wtf is this story?😂😂😂😂 My step dad tried to steal my house? Literally😂 Just break in change the locks and he lives there now? If that worked wouldn’t everyone just see a house they like and do that?😂😂 I know it’s AI but what was the prompt?🤣🤣
I mean the mom already chose herself over you when she got divorced from your dad so not sure why any of this is surprising, selfishness is her guiding light.
this is breaking and entering. a criminal offense. do not feel bad for mom going nc. she made that choice just like Adam and Emma made the choice to break into a house they don't own
