Can a man change after years of cheating? | Talks with Tony 

“Anytime, as a woman, when you’re not looking for anything with a man more than a friend and fun, you need a dog.” TG

My question is why do you even still want him? He’s for the streets.

Cheating is the ultimate dealbreaker. That let’s me know that’s not my husband.

Cheating men have to want to stop cheating. It will take Divine 🙏🏽intervention and a professional. I’m neither of these. God bless sir.

From my experience: no. 😂😂 Left my cheating husband. Never been happier.

The side chick will call you and talk bad about him only to be with him when you finally decide to leave lol. Let her have him and enjoy your stress free life.

Once the guy has a baby with someone else. No way to come back from that.

Tony you ain’t lying when the side chick calls the main chick it’s because she’s caught him with others. Yes I was the wife that got that call!!!!

He might be faithful one day. But not to her. She needs to go on about her business.

Men that do not love you do not find you more attractive when you’re pregnant ! 🤰🏾👽 Such a great point and a common misconception among young women.

He must need a place to stay...leave him where he's at sis

A leopard never looses its spot. Most cheaters are serial cheaters, ya’all it’s actually a personality disorder, a character flaw. When they do it once and don’t come clean they’ll keep doing it again and again until you lost count on how many people or times they’ve done it. Cheating is just like addictions, they need to commit to a behaviour change program so they can develop their character. Ladies always remember your man is not a project and you ain’t his therapist/babysitter. Go for men who are raised well and can take ownership accountability for the choices they make. Above all we need to elevate ourselves so high that we stop attracting the backwater swines and peasants who bring nothing but soul crushing agony and pain. Tony thank you so much for the work you do, we need more men like you to continue speaking up.

In my experience they don't change. Its a vicious cycle. Walk away and never look back.

No . Period. If this is a habit for manny years with a huge ego , the answer is NO .

I don’t believe that cheating men can change. Zebras don’t change their stripes and “old habits die hard”. A person has to be willing to admit that their cheating habits have caused destruction to others and want to do better. Unfortunately, some people don’t care and don’t see anything wrong with their destructive habits.

Tony ain’t lying.. i’m 36 and I was talking to a 26yr old who was trying to holler at me. In one conversation he called me an old head” I snapped out of it so fast and came all the way to my senses smdh. Tony already tried to tell me.

“Babe go on bout yo business “🤣🤣🤣

How about dealing with a 52 yr. old liar and cheater. It’s ridiculous! I’m over it.

This type of man changing is possible however not likely based on where he is. Jesus has to wash him! Point blank perioodd.

A lot of ppl at 19 ain’t experienced much in life and still have years ahead of them to live and learn compared to a 26 year old.

Tony really Loves Sheri. He can't even focus and smiles when she comes in his office. 😂. Great couple! I love it!

Lesson for all the ladies. You can't do what men do. You can't just have fun. You will get caught up and like this woman, 11 years later still be caught up. DO NOT have children until you're married!

My male cousin, who has had two wives, and a baby's mother told me that he was disgusted by the process of pregnancy, I was HORRIFIED because he was serious! He cheated on both his wives, and the baby mama. They (the wives) would call, visit and cry to us (the family) about him. He wouldn't listen to us. He is now single and still has the same views. He is a superficial Narcissist. SMH :( IMO, Cheating is the ULTIMATE sign of disrespect. He'll say one thing, gaslight you (tell you what you want to hear-it wasn't like that, she didn't mean nothing, it was just sex or whatever). It will happen again. IMO Tony tells it like it truly is.

Gambling and cheating... sis he ain’t the one.

I LOVE WHEN MRS. GASKIN BOTHERS YOU WHEN YOUR MAKING YOUR VIDEOS. IT IS THE CUTEST THING EVER! 😂😂😂😂

Tony, thank you for speaking on this topic. I have a son with someone who did not love me, and everything you said about that was the absolute truth. I have learned so much from this channel the past year which has been a blessing to my life. I left my son’s father, started to most importantly love myself and my son, bought a home, and is focusing on us. I cannot thank you and your wife enough for your influence in my life.

Toney s FACE when his wife was @ the door.. and came back the second time😂😂😂😂

He saw the word "Nursing Career " and jumped on her before anyone else could get with her .

This story went from bad to worse..

That’s a lot! I would just take the lesson and move on. To much D serving the community.

I thought he was about to take the whole month off 😂😂I started rewatching videos!

Mines was 15 years younger he was a great provider he was cheating well I have never caught him cheating though I know he has throughout our whole relationship he's was just good at hiding it I've grown and evolved as years have gone on I'm a registered nurse he was a pain in the ass he was competing with my children for my attention and affection I wouldn't recommend any woman date a younger man it's like having another child

No one has ever ASKED how to 💯 % bulletproof your Relationship as MUCH as possible BEFORE you even get into one. I'm 23. Waiting on marriage. I don't want to have to wait until something happens to call in. I want to make SURE I'm getting a real quality man worth my time BEFORE he actually comes along

Always sad and tough situations when grown boys convince women to fall (in love) but they are not there to catch them and then the woman has to go through years of suffering for either not paying enough attention to the red flags, or simply for wanting to believe in love more than in anything else. Ladies, as Tony once said, in the court of love nothing is true until proven beyond any reasonable doubt.

I love how Tony adds an extra ‘t’ to certain words. You rock Tony.

Tony can you talk about 30+ yr olds dating, waiting for marriage for sex and the realistic nature of most men who won’t marry without “sampling” I’ve watched your previous two videos years ago but dating in the roaring 20s is horrible for Christian women 😖

I haven’t even watched yet and the answer is no! Lol they might change later on in life ...maybe when they truly give they life to Christ or something. Idk

My husband told me in the hospital after I gave birth, “you still look pregnant”. My life from there was hell, which includes prostitutes, family members, STDs, sister wives, transgenders, drugs and more, am thinking about writing a book, unbelievable!!!’

“He like the salt bae , just sprinkling bacteria all over you “🤣🤣 with the hand movements hahahah !!! I’m finished 🤧🤣

This man is so raw and real,I m laughing my ass off. He is truly in a league of his on.please Tony don't ever change. You make my nights less lonely. Trying to live Holy. Thank you Sincerely.

You are so right in that after what I thought was my ex's first affair, there was actually around 30 women over 15 years. Even after we broke up, he kept cheating on whatever woman he was with. He has a lot of childhood trauma to deal with, is weak-minded, passive-aggressive, and has no boundaries. I wish him well but I don't think he will ever change.

I was married to a cheater and one of the ladies he was cheating with called me to explain! It’s in I’ll have to make a topic on it. Thank you for your beautiful work 🙏🏿🙏🏿

"You need a dog" HOLLERING!!! 😂😂😂

And she said in the email his gambling has decreased instead of HE HAS TOTALLY QUIT GAMBLING

One of the most important issues here, is the fact he has had a child with somebody else. That a lone should be her ticket to want to be out. That's A LOT to have to take on. And if she doesn't check her heart she's going to have such ill feelings toward that child with or without that man. No matter if he says, he wanted that child or not. That child did not ask to be here or choose to be here.

Years of cheating??? No way!!! My motto has always been, “you can cheat if you want, but do not expect me to stay.” 🖐🏾🙄

The smile Mrs. Gaskins gives you! 🤩🤩

To anyone reading this and willing - please pray for me and my young son.. I’m walking through the darkest season of my life. A “man of God” convinced me he was going to marry me, to leave a job I can’t go back to, and to move out of state to his state... and then dumped me. I don’t know where I’m going to live, I don’t have much family.. and I’m struggling with a broken heart and crushed spirit ... please pray for me

Happy Belated birthday brother in Christ!!! You have no idea how God is using you in helping me with developing and growing!! What you’re doing is God sent and GOD FELT!! God bless you and the family❤️

Wow, could this message have come any sooner ... My husband wants another chance to make things right, after years of cheating on me 😔 throughout our entire relationship (4 years) claiming he has changed.

I understand what Mr. Tony Gaskins is saying but most people when it comes to mental health, People make money excuses and believe mental health is not a real thing but it is just because they can't physically see it on you.

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY - MR.G!!!!!!!!!!!!- those of us whose life you’ve changed ... Appreciate U.... also sending good vibes to ur beautiful wife ..

When Tony makes those spitting sounds I LITERALLY feel it! Such a storyteller our Tony😂😂

Happy Belated birthday Tony Gaskins! I hope you had a great time, mine is coming up next week will be 52 years young, thanks for all you do, you are truly blessed!

A Good Quote, Don't stress over anything that you can't change

Highly unlikely a cheating man to stop. Especially if ego is involved! Girl go on about your business.

She sounds like a fool... This what happens when you turn a situationship into a relationship.

Sis, please don’t have another child with this man until you know beyond a shadow of a doubt, and he had done the work. Honestly no sex at all, he mans up and does the work...with a ring to follow. He needs to be all in! Know your worth, and love yourself....God will help you. Blessings Tony, another needed video🌸

Sis, please go get your peace away from this troubled guy before you get more than a phone call. Most women see pregnancy as beautiful. I never knew some men, who see that sacrifice, see it as unappealing. Thanks for that insight.

Solid solid solid advise! I hope she hears him. I went through a similar situation and it almost destroyed me. I sure wish I had some one talk to me like this back then. Be blessed and guard your heart.

I am a coach on that website Tony mentioned.

Listen sis Tony is giving you the wisdom and knowledge. Walk away run and never go back.

What a great video!I feel sad for the lady in question-she wants to feel that all those years and her suffering is worth it.Thats why shes still asking these questions.I love hearing how you changed things up for yourself!!!Inspires me so much!The kind of man I want is interested in making changes and watching courses/reading or listening to books to revolutionize himself!We not going backwards in life.We moving forward with only the best in myself and whoever else

People can change. Tony has stated that he changed as well, it’s possible!

Uncle Tony is baaazzzzzzaaackkkk!!

Tony did u say GONT-torrhea? Lol!😆🤣 Boy u crazy! Happy belated birthday.

Serious dating in your 20s as a woman is a waste of time, get your degrees, get your dream body, fix your (mental) health, fix your relationship with god and build your wealth. Start serious dating from around the age of 27 with guys 30 years and above.

This is prophetic! wish I knew about Tony sooner but better late than never. You spoke so much to my life and my current situation. Truly doing the Lord's work. God bless ❤

Tony so right.. that childbirth and postpartum period is very vulnerable time.. I felt this whole message. Tony so funny. Always speaking the truth..

First comment. Glad you’re back!

I was cheating on after being married to a man in which I knew when we started our serious relationship of 28 years, I had one daughter with him, while upgrading my nursing career, he got addicted to every addictions. Cheating, cocaine, gambling, drinking, and friends. I got sick with cancer, we became grandparents, I had to quit school due to my life spiraling out of control. He basically wanted me to stay married but he could do whatever. Wouldn't divorce me, so I had to divide and divorce him. I tried very hard to please him, because of the equity that we accumulated together. He didn't change. I was left to my own devices. He overspent, in every way. Now he wants me back and wants to now change his ways.

She wants your attention. Y’all so cute🥰

TG your videos are very educational and motivating! But you are FUNNY on a whole different level!!! Never a dull moment...🤣🤣🤣🤣

Happy birthday!! 🎁 Tony: “Get on outta here.” Wife keeps talking.... Tony: Get on outta here lost my point.. Wife: and spit in ya face...😂🤣😂🤣😂 Mrs. Gaskins was right on point!😂 You two are so funny..

TONY!!!! 😂 "Pregnancy is not cute, it look like an alien in your stomach.." Awwww heck noooo. Now I'm neverrrrr getting pregnant!!!! I'm sooo shooketh!!! I'm dying over here. 😩😂

Mr Gaskins is back!! 💃🏾. We appreciate the advice and your time as always 🙏🏾✨.

Thank you Tony for this balanced and wise advice! I appreciate it not always being 'gone bout yo business' across the board, but giving men a fair chance to change -but only if they are willing to do the work.

Hey!Toni this is a good one! Be blessed!🙏🏽 "it's a Bad Habit" so if they have been cheating for so long: (No) only if they want to be changed and God is the only one that can change that!

"if you stand for nothing, you will fall for it all" - that's in regard to her not looking for nothin in the beginning but just taking him for the fun. Yes, we need to get a dog or a Barbie jeep perhaps.

Hey Tony yes 1984 best year ever. I'll be 37 this year as well.

I feel like we need another video with Sheri’s insight :)

OMG. I started dating a guy who was 19 when I was 22.. i left him the day I found out he was sexting other girls. He’s wanted me back every year. He’s now 27 & I’m 30.. talking to me daily for 6 months. He was talking about a future etc. Soon as I was like I need to be making some big life decisions soon what do you want? “I found out I’m going to be a dad idk what I’m going to do” I had a DREAM like the first time that another girl was involved. But after he said that my dream showed that he actually had a girlfriend. Haven’t went on Facebook for years. Went on that morning I woke up.. bam had a girlfriend! Who was a lot older than me!! With 3 kids previously looks like from different men. Nightmare became reality too but luckily I’ve got God watching out for me. Those dreams that feel more real than reality.. LISTEN to them. I feel for this girl. Crazy the parallel of the ages, I’m in health care etc. To be fair he has his career and house together at a young age. But Man! this makes me look at things in a new way. Needed this🤍 this all JUST happened past 2 weeks. Come from a pure place & God will have your back. He kept telling me I’ve really grown up😅. Boy you’re about to now. Lady gonna be in menopause in 13 years, 4 kids now. Karma

I just came across this man today. He's Honest. That's refreshing.

Tonyyyyyyyyyyy boooooy we missed u brother. Happy belated bday.

Tony thank you for sharing. You are truly a gifted man doing God’s work. I like your analogies to make even the simplest thinker understand. God Bless you and your family. Tony you helped me got over my pass relationship and now I am engaged to be married to a mature God fearing man. Keep doing God’s work Tony. Be Bless

We have missed you!!

She's lost ,she's needs counseling of every kind, for her child. He needs a whole human being raising him. Please put your child's needs before your own. Give him a chance to grow up normal,and well adjusted. Please don't take that worthless individual back. Wise up!

I’ll I want to do is watch Tony Gaskin!!!

I pooped during my delivery that must be why my ex hubby cheated on me! I get it. Oh well, good riddance.

My boyfriend actually came clean about cheating. He was never caught by me nor any of the other women. We was best friends in the beginning with benefits then and naturally fell in love without planning it over 2 years. he said he seen a future with me and needed to be honest. I gave it another chance because I stepped out as well in the beginning. He even said one of the terms moving forward is that we have to go to couples counseling, I agreed 100% & we’ve been together 3+ years now, he bought me a ring (As did I) I still worry like hell and I know he does too.

That line about “old heads” stung me and I’m 33😂😂 !

He's changed and has a new slate w the next woman.... Not u

Be blessed in this new year of life God has given you! Thank you for letting your light shine keeping us educated and growing.

THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED!!! You had me laughing the ENTIRE time but keeping it real at the same time. Thank You Tony ✨

I received my 👚 yesterday. Very nice quality👏🏾!!!

Tony is EXACTLY 💯 CORRECT been there done that !!!

“Here go a cookie,” 😂😂😂.

Kudos to you for being a Decent man!!

I know Tony says that he is not a comedian...but he is hilarious! "Dat dere placenta"....had me rollin! On a serious note, we need to practice the art of walking away when we are not valued. I don't know if it's so important that others see our worth, as much as it is important that we should see our own worth. The inability for one to see worth in a priceless diamond is not a slight to the diamond...it's the fault of the one who failed to see it. But the diamond doesn't lose it's worth just because one doesn't see it...only if the diamond forgets who she is does she lose it, because somewhere along the way, she believed a lie. We have to remember why we were created. For GOD"s glory!!! If Jesus thought you were worth dying for...you're worth something...don't forget that. True love from The Father is really the only thing that can remove fear of being alone and tendency to be a willing participant in cycles that cause us pain. We really need to receive our Father's love so we can be made whole. Sit at his feet like Mary did.

A cheater will never change NEVER.