“The Real” husbands are in the house, and we’re on a mission to answer one tricky question: can men have female friends? Check out what everyone has to say… in this chat.
You don't want your significant other to question WHY you're hanging out with friends of the opposite sex. Like Adam said -- if he hung out with Loni and Adrienne, Tamera wouldn't question it, as those are her friends who she trusts. If Adam were to hang out with female friends that aren't also friends of Tamera, that would be a different story altogether -- Tamera doesn't know them OR their intentions toward her husband.
Lol!! Tbh, the things Tamar says are funny but most of the time she's speaking the truth. Any woman that wants to hang out with your man without you there MIGHT have a motive.
subomi seun-fadipe She never lies though. Her good friends off the show (tiny, Tiffany) etc Sisters can cosign to what she talks on the show, when she refers to her parents relationship its the truth, she spoke about Trina, that was also the truth...when she said she has a soft heart but with a big mouth, that was definitely the truth. And she was right about Kylie and Tyga together relationship according to Toni
cooks noyl People these days don't seem to understand that in a relationship, you take that person for who they are. Freddie knows what he is coming home to and in all honesty the stuff Jeannie says is harmless. She is just on a talk show... talking. Love them together.
Foreal forreal... We get it know.. They both seem like very secure and free people not ashamed of what is really truthful and don't just speak politically correct
@@realskeezy3601 He was being inappropriate with that "friend" for a few years on her instagram. He wanted her from the get go. The girl held out until she got to know him later. They were having an affair. I'm sure it was an emotional affair at first.
Freddie was spitting some knowlege!!! #1. "Never put yourself in a position to be questioned." #2. "It's not always about how she looks, it's about how she makes you feel."
LOL and now look what happened to Jeanie! He got the side chick preggo couple of months after paper divorce and been hanging out with her for 8 years telling her shes just a friend... probably cuz she makes him feel as he said.
Jeannie better take notes from her husband. I heard her say a few not so flattering things about him. She referred to him as a mitch one time. He might fall victim to another woman who makes him feel good about himself.
I loved Freddie's response and Vince actually they all have very insightful responses. "Never put yourself in a position where you have to be questioned." Best advice on this situation
Yeah, because weren't one of those Love and Hip Hop THOTS trying to insinuate something? I don't know which version or her name because I don't watch, but I remember my coworker telling me something of that nature.
ARE Y'ALL CRAZY?! So after marriage people are just supposed to drop all of their friends of the opposite sex. "Hey, it's been a fun 5 - 10 yrs but I'm married now so deuces!" I don't get that line of thinking at all. Did y'all not have friends of the opposite sex before y'all met your significant other? In my opinion, my friends would become his friends and vice versa so we both could be comfortable with everyone. Then, if there is a friend that is an issue talk about it and go from there. At the end of the day, if a man (or woman) wants to cheat he (or she) is going to cheat. No use being paranoid about it. The only thing I understand is not gaining new friends of the opposite sex afterwards.
Same i don't agree with dropping any friends for my man unless they are a threat to the relationship. But man if the male friends were there before him and all it was, was plutonic, then it shouldnt matter. Like you said any new friends after is a no no!😒
Asha Sheera Well technically you won't die without a partner either. I'm not saying friends should be put above your partner, I'm saying dumping people who have been with you and supporting you for years is crazy. Especially when they haven't done anything wrong. Platonic relationships are absolutely possible and some type of importance should be placed on them as well.
Pooh Bear Thank you! It seems ridiculous that all these people would just drop close friends that they've maybe had for years just because they now have a ring on their finger. If a particular friend is a threat to your relationship, then by all means, let them go, but if they are supportive and respectful of your relationship, then why on earth would you just toss them out? That makes absolutely no sense.
lexi219 These people must be some sucky friends. It's crazy because the same people were saying how messed up it is to drop your girl-friends when you get into a relationship. I guess males get no loyalty these days.
"Does it matter what she looks like?" Adrienne is all about the looks and probably wouldn't see an unattractive woman as a threat. All I say is "Hello! Mildred the Maid!"
As I said in the earlier post, I'm going to defend Adrienne because I don't think she means to be shallow. Adrienne is a girl who was cheated on so I'm sure that made her a bit insecure. When Rob K cheated on her she probably did wonder if the other girl was more "beautiful". She moved from the East Coast out here specifically for him, only for him to dog her out. You go through that phase of " Why wasn't I enough?" This may be a sensitive subject for her.
+Beyonechee I went to the taping of one of the episodes and had the chance to meet the girls. I found Adrienne to be very vain. The way she treated her assistant was so rude. Her assistant brought her Jamba Juice and Adrienne took a sip and with a nasty face told her assistant "oooh this is gross.. i dont like this. this isnt what i ordered.!" I think she is just too full of herself honestly. she stuck up
+Elmira2887 She's immature and she's a little insecure from the past, but she seems to have a good heart and a desire to love/be loved. We all have bad days, maybe that was hers? I don't know that I would discount her based on that one instance. Most of the time I'm a sweet as pie southern belle, but honey, every now and again, people try it. When that happens, I want to just get violent and cry. Then I feel bad, say a prayer and move on about my life. Lol, I have to imagine that cycle would be a little shorter on a New York Latina. Maybe she's not so bad. Who knows? Color me an optimist. :P
+Beyonechee Omg the Mildred the maid example is gold! Also, yes I think the less attractive women are the ones you really have to watch because they are more thursty since they get a lot less attention. Either way, I'm all about Vince's answer.
+rawdriguez And how exactly was that? Don't gather the small pieces Tamar or Vince have dropped on tv and glue them with your own ASSUMPTIONS! Only them and Jesus know the truth #TriedIt #YouDontKNow
I hope my future partner has friends of the opposite sex. I feel like it's a red flag if a man doesn't think he can be platonic friends with a woman - to me it says that he doesn't believe women are fun, interesting, worth his time if he isn't going to have sex with them, and then that would make me feel like he only tolerates me being around because I'm having sex with him. I want a partner who respects me for my mind and my personality, and I don't want a creepy little misogynist. Having said all that, I expect the vast majority of our friends to essentially become mutual friends over time so we would all be hanging out together.
martinski ummm they got a divorce because like everyone knows she loves black men and is still very immature to commit with one man. She married Freddie to please her mother and to get a platform and have money. She filed for divorce not him. Ok darling.
Ty Monae ♡ It may seem that way on your end of the spectrum, but I'm sure a handful of your guy friends would sleep with you or have thought about it...
Thalia Tyler And? Even if that were true a handful is not all. I get your point i do but realistically you are not gonna be attracted to all your friends or even most of them and sleep with them and its childish for someone to not have opposite sex friends because their s/o thinks they're gonna cheat.
I believe in boundaries. Do I have male friends? Yes. Does my significant other have female friends? Yes. Do I go out with my male friends? Not one on one. I will go out in a group. It's not that I don't trust my guy friends or myself, I just don't want to open any doors unknowingly or knowingly that will jeopardize my relationship. We could have been friends from birth, but my most important relationship is the one with my SO. Same goes for my SO. I surround myself with like-minded people so this isn't an issues. Also, my friends become his friends. His friends become my friends.
I love Freddy and Adam because they're REAL. #CatchThat I even have a fondness for Vince, however, I feel he plays way into Tamar's insecurities a lil too much...... NOW....as someone's wife, I will say by no means am I "threatened" by another woman's friendship with my husband, but it has to be a friend previous to our relationship, to me there is NO such thing as a female friend AFTER the fact of our marriage, now that would be a problem. Because that friend should be OUR friend or just considered MY, not a his. The same goes for me too, I would never set boundaries for him, that I wouldn't abide by myself. I love and respect my husband way too much.
Lol. Men and Women CAN be friends. People just believe we all have no self control around the opposite sez is the stereotype here. Not everyone is walking around horny.
Jazzy Jnée even so. It’s not like you’re always going to be sexually/romantically attracted to your friends, if at all for some people. If you were a civilized human being, you would realize that having even the slightest of such feelings for your friends while you’re in a relationship of your own is not right. It needs to be sorted out, be it through communication, self-reflection, etc., because you should not harbour such feelings for someone outside of your relationship. Additionally, people can form emotional connections in an instant. And if they’re going to cheat, they’re going to cheat. Prohibiting friends of the opposite sex with not prevent that.
Totally love Temara and her husband here. There’s a strong sense of respect between the two. The way he gets to let her sit in the chair was adorable. Okay let me have my moment of serenity okay 😊
Nooooooo I will NEVER again date a man with a female friend/“bestie” she was a complete pain in my ASparagus!!!!!! Always got an opinion about my relationship and advising him the opposite of the way i wanted my relationship to run she was disrespectful and disgusting and he would take up for her and say “she’s just protective of me” I’m like protecting you from what your woman? Her and her sister threatened my life and everything sooooo Absolutely never again!!!
+Mellissa Norton So ARE the other 2...is that what you meant??? Tamar clearly is insecure and her husband knows he's not allowed to have other women as friends, the other two are loyal because they choose to be not because you're forced to be get it right girl and I love Tamar & Vince!#justsayin
If you trust your man, his friends won’t matter. If he wants to damage the relationship that’s his issue. Don’t bring your insecurities into the relationship. If you’re that insecure, then don’t be in a relationship 🤷🏾♀️
I have female friends and had them for years. I trust women more than men. The best thing about opposite sex friendships is that you don't have to outdo each other you just enjoying time. I've never had the thought of ever taking it further at all. I think most women that have men that have women friends that cause drama in relationships is the one guy's settle to be a female friend to slide in later. Now that's a issue a real issue.
Yes, it is possible. I’m a straight 25-year-old guy and most of my closest friends are girls. And I won’t lie, I’m absolutely attracted to a good amount of them, but that doesn’t mean I’m trying to date or sleep with them. There’s a reason I choose to be friends. Our personalities don’t always mesh in that sort of way.
@@Aimi86 No, but even if I had, it’d just reaffirm what I said. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop finding other people attractive, and by the same token, just because you’re attracted to someone doesn’t mean you have to pursue them. Either way, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
Hey I’m just saying.....Freddie’s new wife is one of his close female friend who he hunted with while he was married to Jeanie.....I’m just saying. It doesn’t take rocket science to understand the situation here. And the fact that Freddie said “it doesn’t matter how a woman look, but how she makes you feel” I think that’s what happened since they were “close” friends in the middle of the Wood....away from their significant other....alone....sharing a hobby....what did you think was going to happened?
I need me a Freddy. I love his and Jeannie's relationship - would love to see more from the husbands on the show. Although now it'll be 2 instead of 3 but hey ho.
Curious that Tamar and Jeannie's husbands have similar answers and now their relationships are over while Tamera and Adam are still together and Adam's answer was different. 🧐
Tammy Snide 100% agree and this has never happened to me personally, but it’s just an understanding of natural progression. It could happen with, and to, anyone. After you choose a partner and decide on someone, there should be no super close friendship of the opposite sex, unless that person isn’t attracted to the opposite sex. Why pretend this is a “bad mentality” and set yourself up for disaster?! 🤷🏽♀️
Freddie is dropping knowledge all up and through this episode... You don't want to put yourself in position to be questioned and it s about how a woman makes you feel
I have 2 best guy friends and it would really suck if after they got married they stop being friends with me. The least you could do to honor a good (opposite sex) friendship is to try get your wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend to be friends with your 'girl/boy friend' of many years. You shouldn't have to throw away small good things just because you've found one big good thing.
I was thinking about this & I feel like once you're marrow etchings change, so it's okay to have friends of the opposite sex, as long as the hangouts are double hangouts, so everyone is like a group of friends including everyone's spouse...
I do believe that in a relationship, men can have female friends if it's not an isolated friendship. She has to be friend with the couple not only the boyfriend or the husband.
Mmm this aged badly...her first husband called her trash ...after divorce and second husband Jeezy filed for divorce after two years. Obviously something wrong with her! 😢
***** Jeannie better be careful with her rapper crushes, there are plenty of women out there who will make Freddie feel so good!!! That's the real talk...
I say no. Many females (not all) these days have no respect for marriage and family. What she needs to talk to my husband about that she can't talk to her brother or cousin about? Bye girl My husband and I share friends and we all go out together and have group chat.
1no1regrets Its both the husband and woman if he does sleep with someone and she knows he is married. However i am talking about my situation where ever since my husband has a ring it is as if more women are attracted to him. His friend said the same thing is happening to him so those are the females I'm speaking of.
***** if that is the case then why would a husband need to talk to a woman that isn't also my friend? He already has his friends to talk to, why would he need to meet with her to talk about the same things? Its not necessary.
aMochaMommy That is true. In this society when some girls see that ring, they think that that man must be worth having since someone already chose to marry him. However, if all husbands chose not to cheat, there wouldn't be a problem. Those women would just be seen as VERY desperate.
Hearing Jeannie during regular girl chats, I thought her and Freddie weren´t compatible at all. But after watching this episode I´m realizing why they are together....They soo cute
I don't mind if my boyfriend has female friends, I am not insecure. Stopping your man from having female friends is not going to stop him from cheating. So, its kinda stupid when women don't allow their man to have female friends, that's where the trust comes in to play. If you trust your man, you shouldn't have to worry about anything.
Clementine i think it actully makes them want to cheat more because they hate being controlled and they see with that women they cheta with is easier to deal with doesnt mean they dont love there girl it just us easier
I feel like there is no right or wrong answer here. Some women don't feel comfortable having their men with guy friends and vice versa. That's not a problem though. You do what feels right for the relationship YOU'RE in. When it comes to myself I'm more along the lines of Freddie and Adam. I don't mind the person I'm seeing having friends of the /same/opposite sex. When it comes to dating guys, they'll have their friends that are indeed gay. When I'm dating a woman, I don't mind her having guy friends so long as I know who they are. Of course I'd do the same. Keeping them a secret is definitely a no no. Anyway that's that. Lol
Freddie, come through preaching this morning!! I see why him and Jeannie are a perfect match.. They both spill some very wise and interesting view points about relationships and life in general!
They were so great back then. Tamar was always the life of the party. A lot of people do not like her, but hey this is who she is and she is not required to change to please nobody.Freddie was dropping some serious knowledge as well. Everything that came out of his mouth was gold.
Yes men and women can be just friends. I've had guy friends in the past that I weren't into at all and the weren't into me. So yes it's possible. As far as a significant other, I would trust him to do right because I'm a trusting person. What's love without trust?
I don't understand why Jeanie always wants her man to look at other women or be friends with them. it's one thing to be okay with it, but to want him to do it and keep bringing it up to him is weird.
I loved all the husbands! Freddie has all the idealistic basis for what I think a husband should be. But I like the relationship tone between Tamara and 'Housely'(Adam); it's very playful and firey and I love it! Tamar and Vince balance eachother; but I also feel like Tamar is insecure when it comes to their relationship and in turn Vince spends a lot of time using his soft-spoken words to reassure her. Their relationship is the most unstable of the 3 because of the insecurity, but if they can get past that they'll be together for a long time. Wow! I wrote a whole paragraph! I'm going to shut-up now.
