Can You Accept A Painful Reality?: Jocko Underground 021 

Thank you for this podcast Jocko. In the last couple years I've had a career-ending accident, started a new career, divorced my unfaithful wife, moved to a new community and learned to "co-parent." Life has been a continual "reality check," and the potential for a pity party has always lurked around the corner. Through conscious choices and thoughts, I've stayed focused on my true reality, and been thankful that I've landed on my feet in spite of things looking entirely different than what I'd planned years ago. This podcast was a nice booster shot for my emotional/psychological immune system. Thank you.

Been paraplegic for over 30 years, since the ripe old age of 17. I've had different jobs/women/goals in life, and still feel like I haven't done as much as I could (or should?). First thing I had to do was accept the shitty situation, and make the best with what I have. Claw my way out of that hole. Doesn't mean I haven't strived to walk again, or that I'll ever quit, but I haven't forgotten that life is about so much more than that! Gotta make the most of it.

So true. Not accepting reality is a killer. Those looping thoughs of "what if I had done this" "what if I had not done this." "What if I never met this person." Will freaking kill you. Yet it's so hard to snap out of those loops and accept that it's done. All those what ifs are bullshit. In fact I try to get into the habit of replacing the words "what if" with "bullshit" in my mind. So whenever those thoughts come up. They are quickly shutdown.

I took 277 volts at 30 amps up my leg and out my arm working under the instruction of a city engineer. I heard the wireman I was working with died from a heart attack ladder which can happen to electrical workers who get zapped too much. Your entire immune system can go out of phase. I went from waking up at 4am every day and working out etcetera to not being able to use my legs while electrical burns slowly moved around my body. It was the most horrible pain I ever imagined possible. I still get PTSD and frustration. I miss walking I miss my ability to walk without pain. I had one worker tell me I was just cooked from the inside out and I have to live with it. I was 29 and my life collapsed. What was crazy was it never should of happened just so someone could save time by putting someone elses lives at risk. I am trying so hard to move on but this could kill me if they don't figure out how to treat it. So I will be another skilled electrical workers lost to poor leadership decisions. Ok ok extreme ownership that's right... right.

Staying in the loop of "what ifs" is a 1 way ticket to self-destruction. Alcoholism, drug abuse, stress, anger, strained personal relationships, etc. It's tremendously difficult, but if you accept you can grow and thrive. If you don't accept you are dead-ending your own life.

Have accepted pain most of my life, seem to be around most corners, seeing the pain of others sometimes hurts as much. Rest in Peace Jim LH&R Brother

Your reality is just that, yours and only yours . So many people listen to what is expected of them through the eyes of others. Then they start making excuses and playing the blame game which turns them into the victim. My late husband, a Marine Corp Vietnam combat vet would always say overcome and persevere in situations where he thought he failed. In my eyes he never failed. He's been gone for 6 years and I can still hear him say " Failure isn't in my vocabulary. That's just an excuse for giving up". His middle name was Louis, names after Chester Puller.

I am 23 years old college student (accounting major). When I was 14 years old I lost my vision in my left eye due to retina detachment. That is not the worst part. I also have really bad night blindness where I need someone to actually hold my hand and walk me to my seat when I go to a movie theater. I can’t drive because my field vision sucks. Whenever I get invited to a party. It’s always at night. So that means I can’t go because I couldn’t see very well. But during day time I am perfectly fine, I do BJJ, basketball, and football. My vision impairment really took my confidence. Especially when it comes to dating or making friends. Whenever a girl asks me to hang out. I feel nervous and insecure because I couldn’t take her out on date nights or drive. People always want to hang out at night or go on dates at night. But due to my night blindness, I couldn’t do those fun things. I mean technically I can do it as long as the person I am with agrees to hold my hand but I don’t want to feel like a burden. But I accepted my situation. I am not going to lie. There are days that I wish I could drive and go out at night by myself. Thanks for this podcast Jocko !

For the last 7 years I have lived in constant full body pain due to an incurable disease. It’s changed my entire life in every possible way. At 45 it’s still hard wrapping my mind around that this is going to be the way it is until the end.

Thank you So much Jocko, l really appreciate all the work you do it makes a huge impact! Keep up the great work I know it’s made a huge impact in my life! Much love

Roger that! Lately I've been stuck in a negative loop ruminating about certain people in my life with some mildly disagreeable characteristics that's gotten under my skin. I keep thinking how immature, stupid, entitled, unfair, rude, blah blah blah. NO FACTOR!!! They are who they are and I am who I am. Move on!

I like how you say you're 100% in control of you're response. Responding vs reacting means not getting caught up by the moment, and seeing it for what it is, not what you wish it to be. As a parent this can be difficult, and I struggle to do it all the time, but it's helped me a lot thinking about things like this. Thank you for sharing stoked to listen to the rest of the podcast.

True words. It took me a long time to get that figured out, and now I work hard to stay grounded in my reality.

Man I needed this today. Thanks men.

As an inmigrant far away from his home from years, and no hope to ever return, this message has helped me a lot, thanks Jocko, God bless you!! 💪🏻

Very inspiring sorry for your loss sir.

Thank you for this podcast. So important.

Excellent. Thank you guys

I need to accept my own reality.... thank you for your assistance in my journey

I needed this. Thanks.

Thank you for this guys. 🇺🇸

Learned alot from you here sir

Thank you! Some times I just need to hear the hard truths of life!

I needed to hear that!

Working on it, step by step, but 100%....if I manage that until the end of my life, I would consider it a huge success.

I thank my god every night that my life is peaceful right now. I have seen quite the opposite for most of my life up until 4 years ago. An angry drunk dad, mom who didn’t stand up for me/my sister, bullying at school, severe OCD/anxiety. My mom and I finally found relief by moving to another state, then after a year my dad shows up at the door demanding to live in the house he helped buy (instead of staying in a sober home up north). He was still drinking, parents still fighting constantly, then my sister moves in with her 40 year old boyfriend, they’re fighting, she’s fighting me because I don’t want him living with us… couple years later I’m in an abusive relationship, takes me a year to leave him… wind up in another one 4 years later.. leaves after 6 months… a year later, here I am now. I never accepted my reality, I always just tried to escape it. My memory is so fucked up, I can’t remember most of my life. I was disassociated. I am still so hopeful. Hopeful for better days to come. I know they won’t always be good so I’m really relishing in them when they are. My best friend’s mom is a drug addict homeless in Los Angeles, and she is constantly in this painful reality. There’s not much she can do because her mom wants to be on the street. I don’t know what to say to her most days to help her find peace.. I wish someone could tell her how. If there even is a way.

*Jocko Willink is the Reluctant Leader we need.* .....We know you've done enough, but your Nation needs you. 🇺🇸 *2024* 🦅

Loved this

Traumatic direct impact injuries is a process when it comes to recovery. It's indeed a marathon not a sprint. #RESPECT to all the Vietnam Veterans (without them this sorry Marine would not have lasted 10 months in country) Alive day 5-26-07 (Traumatic Spine & Brain injury) Everyone's Traumatic event is different and is processed independently and individually (person to person) Took my first steps unassisted 2 years ago. Still in the fight #ManhattanVAsucks Big up from the Bronx #USMCRECON (med Retired 2008)

Well said, 2% can hunt if we don't learn to forgive and be forgiven; reality can be painful. Thanks again.

Man i struggle accepting where I am. I know where I'm at, I don't accept it. I guess awareness of this is one of the pieces I am missing.

Thank you

R.i.p

Start doing and start being as well

This is gold. Carl Rodgers the famous psychotherapist describes acceptance and how powerful it can be in his work. However I've never full understood it until now. Thank you Jocko and Echo. Time I moved forward.

Good one

I am going to raise my arm for this and say having a plan for a better future does not mean rejecting reality. It just means I have a better idea. It can be adjusted if someone else’s idea doesn’t suck. It’s about making SMART goals. You can be on board for my smart goals, but you better not be Spiritless, Undetermined, Condemning, Knucklehead. Rest In Peace Jim.

So much so that sometimes others perception of you is off Even tho you work at being genuine and open about who how and why you are who you are

Carry on... yup

I woke up on time today Jocko. I didn't feel weak. I didn't feel groggy. And i didn't feel like a loser. Thanks to your nagging voice. 😎👍🏻

Accept it: No. Handle it and survive: Yes! (2+2=4, always)

You should look into MSG Roy Benavidez. THAT is a freaking movie in the making. Absolute beast of a man.

Yesssss.

Got a call from lawyer in bellville ..4 top of family drew it all out while dad was in mt vernon ..hosp..

i have real trouble with this. My issue is that i need to accept a hopeful reality. My childhood taught me a reality that was very localized and reinforced. So now that i am an adult, my mind KNOWS that my childhood happened and cant see anything else as a truth. so i feel like I'm lying to me, and that is the one thing i draw the line on. Lying so i cant seem to make the transition.

There is no clinical definition of insanity. Insanity is not a clinical term and there is no medical diagnosis called insanity.

I just tripped and fell running, couldn't get my hands out in front of me (hands in pockets because cold) and landed face first. A concrete sidewalk punched me in the face, now that was a painful reality!

We have to unfortunately

We have to pay for the full show?

My reality is pain

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I've faced many. I'm still here. I just keep going. I'm not missing any limbs or anything though. That's a huge battle. My father is an amputee though. I was right there through all the surgeries, that did cause me to have a deep seated fear of surgery lol, and it's an entirely different existential issue than most face.

I've been running from reality for a long time things seem to stick with me for some reason I've been broken by life and don't know how to fix it...

65/57/ Jocko we related? King Tsar Matthew of Prussia and France 2

Jocko, there is this Great Manga (Japanese Comic) called Berserk, u should have a read on it may be. ig, u will love it

Is painful reality a reference to Westlake Audio USA Airforce ?

Podcast 200 with Jim was a great podcast and he is a great man. Sorry to hear he has passed

George Andrews "Duke" Williams Captain 6

I never noticed Jocko's eye-lid meat like before this. Dude should be cast in remake of 'The Shining' (Jack Nicholson) or go 1-on-1 with Roman Reigns at WrestleMania.

Yeah, can't jump out the plane 98%...!

57/67/6 is my Family? King Tsar Matthew of Prussia and France 2

hey Jocko I know this a dumb way to talk to you and probably wont get a response, but I had a serious question about your boots ? no refunds 😬 I haven't ordered them yet but some shoes I wear a 12 and others a 13 I'm scared I'm going to get it wrong can I at least exchange them? if i do?

Floaty for me not for him, eye contact and enjoy the ride, they Buried there hearts at sea, see you top side.

“Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭6‬:‭11‬ ‭

Silly question. How many jocko go's is safe to drink in one day?

"Accept reality" so you can avoid death to safely make it to death.

GOD *** THE AUTHORITY AND CREATOR ****

People need to apply this concept to politics.

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teaching starts 6 minutes in

Depends, how painful?

Petition to have Jocko as a playable character in call of duty MW2

Better talk to larry , rick , vera ..paul allen , ruthie...

This is why I no longer follow politics and will no longer vote or watch the news.

Alexa in the Lexus+, plz.

I watched this while thanking the fattest dookie of my life

Are you going to make our coffee this morning, or are you still unavailable for my interrogation couch. It's awful strange we seem to be on the same schedule. Just find what I like before I get back from the bathroom. Thank you. Your that place Gram always told me to scratch. Remember this one? 🍳

67= NSW channel is my Nephew and 6

Does celebratory dances count as a form of acceptance. 😂 ignorance is truly bliss.

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You just say stop but don’t go any further than that. Jeez anyone could have figured that out.

Nobody even comes close to viewing reality objectively. If you think you do then you are blind.

Except there is no accepting defeat and slavery

People die get over it Jocky.

Unpopular opinion, if they legalized all drugs as well as had the world be ruled by Russian people then that would probably advance humanity forwards by like 100 years in like 5..

My whole damn life has been a fucking painful reality.

Hey Jocko if you're not a b do a video on group stalking

nightmare some bombs would be helpful just dotted around my county thanks

You just say stop but don’t go any deeper than that. Jeez anyone could have figured that out.

Roids

Get out of your head. Meditate

Assalamu alaiqum where is subtitles

i dont like Jocko anymore.....he is selfserving

enough of this nonsense! enough! I have had enough of this coverup!

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