Me too. My sister had a friend . She gave birth the same time she did, and her son passed away from sids at 2 months. It made my sister so vigilant over my nephew.
Do you think they meant SUDEP? Sudden unexpected death in epilepsy? I know 2 people how have lost children this way. You could bruise from a seizure if you struck something during the episode...
Excellent explanation. As a medical professional myself i thought that was not only medically spot on but very compassionate. Well done. We need more like this.
He is actually isnt wrong. There is different explanations because it's not really understood so just depends how you were taught. There is also different age range experts have presented So you both are technically right :) just depends who and what you studied @PoppyOnPoppy
PoppyOnPoppy...I am sure the "Autopsy guy" would know exactly what the age range is for something considered SIDS officially since that's exactly what his job is. 🤷♀️. Difference between what you may say or think and from what is legal or official.
@@Loralanthalasor, grieving the tragic and traumatic loss of one child, told the other child that they passed peacefully via SIDS instead of having to teach their surviving child about the cruelties of the world while they themselves are still grieving.
You always talk about your desire to help others. Your honesty about this and your straight forward delivery is to be highly commended sir. You're a good guy and I thank you.
You're such a compassionate and sweet person, G Dubya. You handled that Q&A with such grace, and calm, and that makes me want to hug you. Much love and respect to you ❤
What a terribly sad story. I agree definitely not SIDS. I do wonder if the person mistook livor mortis for a bruise though? I know at the age of 9 I definitely would've thought the same. 💚💚love and peace to all.
@@sheslikethewind8999No, livor mortis and rigor mortis are two different things that happen to the body after death. Livor mortis is the blood settling to the lowest point of the body after the heart stops beating. Rigor mortis is the stiffening of the muscles.
He’s right “Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is the term used to describe the sudden death of a baby younger than 1 year of age that doesn't have a known cause, even after a full investigation. Healthcare providers, law enforcement, and others investigate infant deaths to figure out what caused them.”
One common cause for SIDS is low B6 & Zinc, when the mother isn't taking prenatal care or she doesn't keep food down, also eating junk food, etc. She can be malnourished and low B6 on the mother will cause low B6 & Zinc on the fetus. B Complex helps with the overall respiratory system and lacking these vitamins can cause SIDS but many aren't aware. So yes, SIDS CAN BE prevented. I don't know for sure if older children can also die from this.
SIDS is a literal nightmare for Mothers of 0 months to 1 yr olds. We wake up just to check on our babies, to make sure they're still breathing, every time they're asleep. Yeah, this situation was not SIDS. The parents were probably protecting the child from further trauma.
I feel this. I always hated the saying "sleep when your baby sleeps." I had a miscarriage and thought for sure I'd lose my son too during or after pregnancy. There was no sleeping because I was watching his little chest rise and fall the entire time.❤
This is so true. My oldest child is 51 years old and when she was a newborn, I pulled her bassinet everywhere. One day I was washing her cloth diapers and turned around to get the pail and looked at her and she was blue in the face. In seconds. I grabbed her out and even though I had no idea what I was doing, I put my mouth over hers and blew in her mouth. She would have died if I had not had her right there. I pulled that bassinet beside me until she was big enough to climb out of it.
Which wasn't the best decision on the parents either. They should have been straight forward about it but been sensitive or just say we will talk much later about it. I understood things at 9 and would have called bullcrap on the answer...but that is just me though.
I would wake up in a panic all night long jump up and run to my babies cribs to check their little chest going up n down (breathing). It’s a mother’s greatest fear. And I have so many friends and family who had to experience this nightmare. I can’t imagine what pain that must cause. 😢
I lost 2 babies. I miscarried one and my daughter Ella was born too early and died in my arms. When I was pregnant with my son I lost fluid and got scared. Was treated badly in the hospital. Something I didn't know is that small tears can happen in the amniotic sack and they can reseal. At least that's what they said happened. When I had my son I was awake every 10 to 15 minutes. I made sure he was breathing and discovered blue, green, purple and red are not good colors for a nightlight. With no sleep for over a week I started hallucinating and my brain functions were really failing. I freaked out thinking he had too many toes. I could not remember how many toes a person had and couldn't even count to 5. The father instead of telling me so I would calm down treated me like I was crazy.I was on pure survival mode at that point. The father treated me badly and would slap me if the baby cried at night. Glad to not have to worry about that anymore. Even though my babies are older I still check to make sure they are breathing.
When my father passed away my mom decided to wait such a long time to inform me that when she finally gave me the news and I was adamant that I did not believe it unless I was able to see his body with my own eyes, my friend drove me to our local hospital and the staff inform me that he was already in the morgue. We were led to a private room and a man unzipped my father's body bag down to his belly button and my father's entire body was as blue as a Smurf!! I've never seen a dead body before.. I gave him a kiss goodbye and cried my eyes out
That poor persons world has changed. He or she has a lot of unanswered questions now. Im sorry for that. Praying for comfort. If its any comfort children are a guarantee into heaven. Hes with Jesus with a perfect body. No sorrow or pain
This had to be hard to answer. You did a fantastic job explaining that he was horribly lied to without saying it. This poor kid has spent his whole life thinking his brother's death was unexplainable. Thank you for giving him clarity and hopefully he can find answers. You are the calmest most gentle person.
Ya know, I really do love your content, you’re extremely compassionate. It’s heartwarming how you talk to others about grief and answering questions about death/dying. I always wanted to be a mortician, and this makes me feel inspired to help others when dealing with loss.
That was very sensitively handled. I mentioned to my cousin about her Daddy dying of colon cancer and she almost beat me to death because they were told he died of gout. He didn't want any of them to know how sick he was for some reason.
Well said. Is it perhaps 7 months? Not 7 years? 7 months is pushing SIDS but stranger things have happened. Thank you so much for your compassion. This is a great channel.
Google Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) can occur at any time during a baby's first year, but most SIDS deaths occur between 1 and 4 months of age. SIDS is the leading cause of death among infants between 1 month and 1 year of age,
I thought that as 😢 that would be an even bigger mystery, outside of adoption, the physical impossibility of having a 7mo old and a 9mo old as brothers
Omg to that person who wrote that .... I'm so sorry 🙏 this is so sad..... and I love the way you told them with such compassion.... my heart goes out to whoever you are
Wow. That was heavy. The person who asked that is probably going to be feeling a bit of shock and alot of questions for their parents or family. My heart goes out to the person. Thankyou for giving this answer in such a gentle caring manner. ❤
The way you handle delicate topics warms my heart. You have such a kind and compassionate demeanour....and a lovely ❤heart. God bless you and comfort YOUR soul, when this job gets emotionally overwhelming. Love, respect and gratitude... Kim, Ontario Canada 🙏😇🇨🇦
Not over the autopsy but my kids father died and after that both his parents. The family said they wanted to give the kids some money out of their parents estate. It went thru probate court and they said my kids were entitled to their gathers share. They tried claiming my kids werent his to get out of paying. It wasnt up to me it was law and thats what the court said. They got the money but never spoke to us again.
My baby died from SIDS aged 6 weeks. His name is Oliver. I miss him desperately. Thankyou for your kindness in these videos, they're so informative,but your kindness radiates through. May God bless you and your family. Love from the UK xx
As N.P, you handled that question very well. SIDS happens before the age of 6 months unless a rare occasion it can happen a bit layer, definitely not at 7 yrs old, now I'm very curious what happened to this precious little boy❤❤❤
I had two miscarriages before I had my daughter and one more miscarriage after my daughter and before my son. I also had a friend who lived in the same apartments as I did who lost a baby to SIDS when he was just weeks old. I’ll never forget seeing her run out of her apartment holding her tiny dead baby and screaming for help as a scared to death 16 year old momma!! It really stuck with me!! At her baby’s funeral he had stitches down the middle of his forehead, clearly from his autopsy! I couldn’t believe she had him in an open casket, that image has never left my mind all these years later! I slept with both of my babies with my hand on their tiny chests!! I would wake up in a panic to make sure they were breathing!! One night I woke up and my daughter felt really cold, it was cold in my bedroom and she must’ve kicked off her blanket. I screamed and it woke her up!! I’m super happy to say that now my daughter is a beautiful 24 year old and my son is a handsome Navy man who is just about to turn 21!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Holy cow when I read that question I knew this was gonna be a tricky one. You handled it really well and with alot of kindness - well done! However I missed your cheeky selfdeprecating smile
My baby Toby passed away from SIDS in 1993 this is so heartbreaking my daughter Lacey is now 30 and I cannot imagine her realizing now that her brother did not pass from SIDS after all this is heartbreaking for this sister I pray you find the answers I pray you find peace God bless you
Oh wow. Bless your heart for answering honestly to such a very hard question. Bless whoever asked this question. Sounds like they are going to be doing some research. I pray they find closure. 🙏
This has to be one of the most emotionally charged questions I've seen you answer. Thank you for your kindness and I hope the writer gets real answers to this traumatic event. ❤😢
You are very good at handling people's issues with death and have a real knack at explaining difficult and sensitive topics to the bereaved. ❤You have a good heart🫠
My grandson died of SIDS at almost 6 months of age. We were told it’s rare for 6 month to pass from SIDS, but does happen sometimes. The autopsy showed he passed naturally in his sleep. :( hugs to all out there who are going through hard times❤
We were always trained that UP to 2yrs could have a SIDS diagnosis. But LOOK DEEPER. So we always did. A seven year old, in NO WAY passed from SIDS. Hence the “infant” standing for the whole “I” in SIDS. Or SUIDS. My cousin did pass at 13 from undiagnosed epilepsy. It was found during autopsy. He had a seizure in his sleep and passed. Losing Taylor was horrible on our whole family. He was such a sweet kid. But to go 13 years with ZERO symptoms was so odd to my funeral director mind. My cousin (Tay’s Mama) said he had NOT ONE symptom other than “spacing out here and there.” It was horrible. My cousin Kristen lost her baby, and didn’t even think that him spacing out wasn’t normal for him. His brother was a “space case” according to her. So she thought both boys had this as a normal trait. From the first time Tay spaced out to his passing was 3 weeks.
Im a nurse and EMT. I completely e joy your videos. And in this one its important because you answered it honestly. Thank you for that. And yes i thought so too
