Bipolar vs Borderline Personality Disorder - How to tell the difference 

So is BPD worse than bipolar ?? I have BPD but I don’t have bipolar more depression mixed with BPD.

What triggered my ex-wife was when I would start a new job and go to work. She would call my boss and say that I needed to come home right away, and that she'd kill herself if I did not. Made it hard for me to get and keep a job. And she made my life infinitely worse when she poked holes in my condoms and got pregnant. She would also get TONS of Home Shopping Network invoices for things she would want. Fortunately, they never sent the things. I found the invoices in a series of boxes stacked in storage. And the best part was when she would tell me that I had to give her money or do things for her, or else she would call the police and say that she hit me. She stalked me for over 10 years after I left her, and is still a horrific person. She takes absolutely NO responsibility for the professional diagnosis she received, and loves to say that I am the crazy one, while she is just fine. She is a horrific monster, by choice.

maam i have four of them, also my doc prescribed trileptal 300 mg, i get high and low in a day. also have manic and depressive in same day. my doc doesnt tell me what is my problem. could you?

Oh. I have 5 more in BDP. Is it possible to have both of BDP and BIPOLAR? I was diagnosed with b2. I don’t know where me self harming and breaking things when I am having an intense anger and also I want to hurt people but scared to do so, so I just do it to myself. Like! I break everything I see!

Dr. Tracey Marks what if I was diagnosed with both or multiple?

Same

You guys should go and see someone about it... xox

Someone will nag me for even suggesting the thought, but I'm sorry, I hope you find someone who loves you and holds you so dear that they don't mind that. I find that bi polar girls at least, get a little better with a proper partner having their back with the disorder.

There's no cure

@@VioletS-sb4on it's the truth. We learn to cope. I'm 44 and I've been dealing with this since before I can remember. Depression. Anxiety. All of it.

I agree.

my school added advisory hour trying to do this and it sucks. i feel like mental health in school is so misconstrued.

I agree. It is a huge part of SELF care, not just empathy for others.

@@mariahlarson7246 great point. So many people can’t even identify that they might be going through a something and could use some extra support

Why does it always go to "crazy"lol

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

Can you help me with the reliable source. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

Ive done shrooms last month in my house. It taught me how severely traumatized I was from alcohol. I healed from many mental traumas from my past and was able to forgive, let go. Shrooms to me is a remedy not a vice. I even felt more refreshed the morning after. So no hangovers. No depression mood for days. No anxiety.I now have a more calm mind

How can I find him? Is he on insta

My sister had similar trauma and has recently been spiraling. Off her meds and refusing help and rejecting family and on a one way street to homelessness. We all feel helpless watching this tragedy unfold. Hoping she can one day get help like you, gives me hope others have overcome.

same here. i feel amazing now after i started jogging daily. i quit drinking alcohol all the time. the meds did nothing. proper diet is important also, i fell into a depressed state the other day right after eating fast food and it makes me wonder how many people could heal thru eating better.

🙏🏻😘

I sincerely wish I could do this, but when you pair the BPD with ADHD and Clinical Depression- I have tried working out/gym and I just find it sooooooooooo boring?? 😕 like if I could just commit to it and enjoy it, I'd be golden. But I already have so much to manage and organize (like for work/home) that having to add a workout routine and a meal plan just feels overwhelming and it feels like watching paint dry. and it bores me. Not only that, but it's also difficult to start because I am physically weak. So now I have to start doing this activity that is boring AND difficult AND I have to pay money (membership) just to be there? I just find everything, EVERYTHING, so damn boring.

Scam

The word is hiraeth

Omg you totally get me with this, sometimes im like i wanna get home when i already at it, its such a frustrating feeling

I just wanna go home

The emptyness feeling its just IT , being empty. Not feeling pleasure in anything.

I thought I was the only one who would say I want to go home omg

Real Psychistrist? Lol. I like that. Yes, I still work in private practice seeing patients.

AMEN !!! A real DOCTOR of MEDICINE!

What the hell r u talking about, I know like 3 other psychiatrists on RU-vid who talk about BPD a lot

@@DrTraceyMarks thank God for you

@@DrTraceyMarks Dr sadly many psych docs give you 10 min hand you a script and sag see ya in 4 weeks ooo that will be 500 bucks And many have no idea how to ween a person off Were DDT o you practice any we ask

Me too it sucks

same here. I get triggered easily that I sabotage the relationships I'm in. it's hard

This is me & can relate to it more than you know.

Abandonment issues is one of the symptoms of borderline personality disorder is what I have but been dealing with abandonment issues for quite some time now even as far back as a child. Which causes the trauma of it.

​@freespirit12 very hard to say the least.

My therapist I had for 5 years diganosed me with BPD but my new therapist said how did they know i had BPD and tried to ask me my symtoms on the spot but Im not good at giving it on the spot and she tried to act like my BPD diganosis was wrong within first 20 minutes of my season and try act like I dont seem BPD even though it was my first season with her

@@rainbowslimesbywolf9565 I’m sorry you went through this as well. I hope you find someone who can be helpful without needing to re-diagnose you for their own ego. My original diagnosis came from a self-admitted hospital stay in my mid-20’s where I was administered a very thorough diagnostic test. Before that I had been on a never ending carousel of depression and anxiety diagnoses since my teens. It seems to me that misdiagnosis is more common than the real thing.

Diagnosis are fictional. Fictional things happened to you?

Viviane Van Giesen right? First time ever I’ve actually been able to understand my diagnosis

Agree. Brilliant!

I like that too.

Ditto, I'll use that explanation whenever people ask me if I can go fullspeed for months. Like, no, I'll be a storm for ten minutes and then sleep all day, wake up and laugh out loud at something random, thanks.

Very much so!!!

Borderline is often born from abuse

@@NorthRoyalton its also from genetic what is wrong with you

What a beautiful comment. I can assure you that they appreciate your love like no other. That is the somewhat upside to having these disorders. Sure, we feel anger and depression and anxiety so strongly, but we also feel love and affection and protection just as fucking strong. To be loved by someone with BPD is rough sometimes but also very rewarding. No one will ever love you as deeply as someone with bipolar or BPD

Thank you. They need this love even if they can't accept it.

muchas grasias por esplicar muy bien.❤😍

Maybe that wasn’t tour intention but it sounds like you’re making her out to be the villain

@@pumpkinpie9778 honestly, sometimes we r the villians, even if our actions are due to disorders. Most people with bpd have regrets about their negative actions towards their loved ones all the time.

Same here 😆. Looking back I'm like.... Damn.... She HAD to have borderline personality disorder! And the irony is she was an RN and she "accused" me of being borderline! 🤣

@@pumpkinpie9778ating somebody with BPD is something you should AVOID at ALL COSTS! People with BPD can‘t form any long lasting n meaningful relationships. They will cheat and lie to you at every chance they get. Im not saying you should avoid talking to them but NEVER EVER let them in your life, they will ruin it! There might be EXCEPTIONS but this is genuine and realistically how relationships with those ppl end.

​@@pineappleenjoyer9297I hope you realize that Generalizing people with certain mental disorders is not only rude, but also spreading misinformation. Yes, keeping a relationship with a BPD person can be difficult but honestly there is a difference between people who know they have BPD and are willing to work on their issues caused by the disorder and geniunely care, and people with BPD who are unwilling to work on their issues or unaware. I know some people with BPD who are be really sweet honestly, and not the kind of monsters society expects them to be. Everyone deserves a chance becausr not all folks with BPD are the same. With the right kind of treatment and support for the disorder, they can form happy and healthy relationships with others.

Its fictional. Theres 12 fictions as part of one fiction?

I was diagnosed as a teen with depression even tho I was borderline, it took me this woman to make me belive in psychiatrics again.

Same thing I found out yesterday. I still didn’t feel good with MDD/BPD treatment and the mania and psychosis was getting worse. I finally got a new psychiatrist and got a bipolar diagnosis. Big difference Take care

@@aletalykes1986 I am also being treated for MDD and BPD and am having a similar experience. Seeing my doctor Thursday to discuss. Thanks for sharing, I don’t feel so alone ❤️

When I was little I was diagnosed with ADHD, then towards adolescence Borderline disorder and finally towards adulthood I was diagnosed bipolar. I finally have a good treatment for me 😬

that super interesting because i have found (atleast in my state) that people with bpd typically get misdiagnosed with bipolar and adhd. they seem to be way more willing to diagnose someone with a disorder that they can simply medicate away as opposed to diagnosing personality disorders which are notoriously difficult to treat. im infact living with someone right now who has been diagnosed with all of these things except bpd, and she most certainly has bpd - but they just wont diagnose her correctly as they seem to be very adverse to personality disorder diagnosis. no medication has ever worked for her, nothing for adhd, nothing for bipolar, nothing for depression and the reason is because she has bpd. she is also a notorious liar - so that could have something to do with it. she has 8 out of the 9 criteria (she doesn't have suicidal thoughts, though may have some ideation) and i have found the clearest way to tell the difference between bpd and bipolar is if it is a long standing issue. there has never been a time where she didn't have these criteria - always have difficult interpersonal relationships that go up and down in intensity, she has always had inappropriate and intense anger for apparently no reason or for something as negligible as someone knocking over a glass of water, she has always had frequent quickly fluctuating moods, she has always been scared to death of abandonment. whereas with disorders like bipolar/depression things seemed fine until they weren't anymore. and they are episodic - its isn't all of the time. also people with personality disorders often think there is something wrong with everyone else - not themselves. and that isn't seen with mood disorders like bipolar and depression. people with mood disorders often want to get help as they are distressed by their symptoms. while people with personality disorders again think something is wrong with everyone else but not themselves. this was a great thorough video and i wish you the best luck in your treatment!

I understand your feelings. Im right there with ya.

If you need to talk to anyone im free.. I'm afraid I might have both too

Me too. And ptsd.

Yeah my mom has both. I "just" have major bpd and pray I don't get both. My son's got it on both sides though 😔

I'm with you too I have both too an I hate to have to act normal like all is okay when im going thru mental warfare

Just remember that you are not a diagnosis. Identifying with a disorder limits who you came here to become. It is not who you really are...

@@suzycreemcheeze446 I think that's at a later step that this is helpful. The one she's in, I went through and it was helpful to me to finally understand that the diagnosis is what I'm working with and explained everything. Later I was able to step back and see myself as much more.

Definitely feel less crazy from this woman putting my issues on front street. Because I know its name and I'm I can get help for bpd. Been thinking Im a terrible person bc of it. Maybe that's not the case..

@@queenditty2783 I have struggled with this since birth, with a bpd mother. She's still her, but I'm working on me and trying to understand her better, too. I have a ton of recovering and self-forgiveness to do. But I'm glad to not only know I'm not alone, but that I'm not hopeless.

Stay strong ❤️

I hope you found good help and good people

Hope you get some good help

i did too.

I have BPD too bro/sis but I believe in Christ. Lets hope. I will pray for you too

I feel you, I just can't seem to freaking find it. I'm not even 18 and most of the time all I can say is I'm confused, nothing makes sense. I'm just confused.

I'm wishing you the very best going forward. Try to keep the very best of support.

How did you get diagnosed? Caz my psychiatrist is pretty slow 🐌

Same here. Diagnosed when I went through post partum depression.

@@avrylllorraine7568 diagnosis’ for mental illness should take time it not something to rush into, it wrong medications for illnesses like these can be horrific

I think I may have it & my son was recently diagnosed with it . I was hoping you can tell us what type of treatment you get for this. Like therapy or Counselling , specifically psychotherapy ? Thank. You

Love I am sorry to hear your mom has disappeared!! Is she a missing person? Or just missed? Either way you don’t deserve this abandonment ❤️

I’m truly sorry this has been your experience, stranger. Sending positive thoughts to you and your family.

Any news?

So sad....

ohhh im so sorry, i really wish that she comes back

As long as you don't have 'Melting your skin off' hot.

I don't know I live in an area that's below zero at times and can be above 100 degrees but the heat doesn't bother me it's he accompanied with humidity that makes it impossible!!!! I'm talking the kind of humidity where you walk outside in your clothes are instantly wet and you haven't even had a chance to start sweating yet!

LMAO

Giggles* I liked the picture she painted.

Agreed!!

Where did you study mental health? And what was the exact discipline you studied? Do they have an online program? Your kind feedback will greatly be appreciated.

I need help for my son

Hey could you help me out

Excellent presentation. As Clinical social media worker I’m impressed and appreciative. Clear and concise.

@@loveauditor you can read her information in the “About “

That sounds like my daughter

Sounds like me!

I am same tbh, been like this for a good few years. Especially since having my son. Recently as I got older its shows more id say, especially on days I have alot of work to do and tidying up after people properly isn't a big deal but it really does wind you up. I also get angry at small things and switch and shout out loud swearing wether someone's around or not. I think its just stress and how ot effects people but because I'm not this way always just sometimes depending on the day and the people around me

Im diagnosed Bipolar and I take medicine and I completely relate to sounds disturbing me. Sometimes I wish the whole neighbourhood would play loud music and dance and sometimes birds chirping hurts my ears. That’s how I know if I’m manic or depressed.

Same, and I don’t know if this is bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. And like during the mood swings I feel like I want to do everything and anything.

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A refreshing, and manageable perspective!!

Ah the mess!

Im in a depressive stage now. Tbh. I miss mania. At least im not always so tired 😭😭😭

@@nadiananette6430 this too shall pass. Sorry your depressed. Try to focus on positives

@Brintxx 🧍🏻‍♀️

That's so smart I never thought of doing that. I just hope I catch the right spots when I randomly click through points in the video and speed it up to a few seconds that way and then when I feel somethings missing I get back to another point before until I've found all the information never watch all videos though I wouldn't have the time in my lifr

same LMFAO

May I ask how you've stayed sober?

I FeeL the behaviors we exhibit are to protect ourselves & because in today's world we are supposed to be numb and suppress anything that is not pure peace, love & servitude, we bottle it all up, allow our boundaries to be pushed back & or broken & then EXPLODE ! I was the black sheep and the truth teller of my narcissistic sociopathic father & my mother who has some undiagnosed mental disorder or personality disorder & siblings who are finally admitting to it in their 30's & 40's... They need help, I'm the only one who easily admits to my flaws and all of them while it's happening and not years later after pretending I was perfect... So I do cut people off who lie & blame me for everything & I EXPLODE on them IF forced to have them in my life... So I think my main problem was hanging onto my value... BPD can be untrained within yourself to the point of being undiagnosable! You are all that you are and the emotions you FeeL are an expression of the struggle with in, but they don't define who you are, but what you do with them... I have for a long time now seen people not for how they express themselves, but knowing there is something within they are learning & trying to express... Picture when people grieve, do you judge them for who they are for all they express through the steps of grieving? I FeeL like BPD is a prolonged grieving process... and just any emotions people express... OR like a PTSD for everything... I was raised not to have any emotions... to be perfect & know everything without being taught by my father... We had a very confusing upbringing... ONLY his emotions were valid... He lied & cheated & took things from people that were special to them.... He get narcissistic amnesia for everything he gets called out on.... he uses everyone around him & makes them FeeL privileged to be his slaves... Anyhow all that to say I learned to not have boundaries & then I would retaliate & I learned to say nothing until I wouldn't & couldn't take it anymore & then I would EXPLODE... Truth all over the place! So I did not learn how to be allowed to express my thoughts, feelings & emotions very well... And when people wouldn't respect me for sharing or ignore me then I felt abandoned & stuck... trapped & imprisoned... So I just wonder what does my real self look like, it's all of what has been, when you need to protect yourself, love yourself, when you give up, when you just can't take anymore, when you feel or have been abandoned.... those are all you in those situations... I did not mean to say all this, but you are you, through & through... You can be more or less of who you want to be, you have the reigns of self-control, it's like taming a beast, but you have it in you to untrained the thoughts to tame your body and have full control! I have learned to tame much of my anger and OCD... but I also think the disassociate part is also to help disconnect from people who won't change & keep hurting me... I don't like liers and those are who I have cut off, fake adults if you will... anyhow, The End

Are you going to have kids?

I had an elderly home care patient with ocd so bad she had chronic wounds on her hands from washing them. Dr. Put her on Prozac. She was cured.

The problem with the meds is many cause diabetes, parkinsons and other movement disorders. I would rather take the mania and ups and downs then be a zombie on seroquel. That garbage slows my breathing down so much I feel like I am suffocating in my sleep. No thanks.

I am not allowed to not be OK. Ever. CHOOSE happiness, I'm told. Constantly. What they mean is "I don't want to hear it. Act happy when you're around me or stay away from me." I seldom leave my house, but I am a blast when I am forced to deal with people. I joke and sing and laugh when all I want to do is cry, "Please care enough about me to LISTEN." No one does. Well, I have cancer, so pretty soon no one will need to listen and I will FINALLY stop hurting.

@@do9138 ​ that’s a relatable feeling. I often feel that when I assume how someone feels I have a sort of misconception tho. I’m sure there are some people that will not just need but want to listen often. (If you were talking to yourself in that last part). Stay strong with your fight! :)

What type of things does your family do to help bring you out of it?

Routine is wonderful. Having the same instant coffee from the same mug, with the same scones every morning. Watching the same news channel before bed. Having dinner on time even when you're busy. The more normalcy and the less crisis in life the better. I'm on the autistic spectrum and my mother has BPD which resulted in a childhood of walking on eggshells.

Natalie Pepper I love a crazy girl😍, I’m 17

@@Lak3baby dude... You're the worst

me me I’m obviously playing, you gullible buffoon💀

@@Lak3baby 🙄 IDK man a joke is supposed to be funny

@@Lak3baby nobody in these comments is here for a joke buddy were all here for a reason either to get more understand or because we're depressed and looking into other things since the mental health facilities are so poorly managed

Hi daniel i just wanted to say i love that your researching your to be wifes conditions it helps so much for anyone suffering with any mental health issues especially bpd as it can be extremely over looked and ignored by others. 🙏

@stxr hes right tho

@stxr borderline is a personality not an illness

@stxr nah, it's not as same as anxiety. Or depression bipo

@stxr it's not an ilness but a personality trait

Meditation maybe. Have someone to talk to like a buddie.

@@perciousmatter7001 I'm actually sick of hearing people recommend yoga and meditation. Therapy and medication is what has helped me.

@@Crisalsera I have it and I'm 19. Meditation gets me scared and Idj how to get therapy. I feel fuckdd and scared...

I have bpd and gad too and i relate to what you're saying. I feel constantly bored and empty, i obsess over guys / crushes just so i feel like there's something exciting going on in life. I am am impulsive and spontaneous person and a lot of people like that but it has affected me in school and work. We can work through it, dbt and a compassionate & understanding therapist or mental health practitioner can do wonders.

@@user-hi2nd try and find psychiatrists specialising inpersonality disorders & if your insurance covers it.... Do anything.... U have to get started somewhere, i KNOW how hard it is TRUST ME i get that you feel scared but we're strong people and we're not gonna let this ruin our lives. You CAN do this things DO get better TRUST ME! Its tough but its sooo worth it!

The grass is always greener

DBT helps reduce the intense feelings of BPD. It's been a year and a half and I can truly feel a difference in how I perceive the world. BPD doesn't have to be life long, a lot is trained toxic behaviours.

Bi-Polar is lifelong. There are ways of coping but it's lifelong. My mother has this and I have BPD.

I wish I had read this before I drove so many people away 🥺

Bipolar is worse I think because with BPD it's events that trigger you mainly, with bipolar you fluctuate without events affecting you.

Medical science sure has come a long way!

@@xXDopamineInbalanceXx im not seeing the improvement as too great in personal experience

This sounds like me!

I liken it to carrying a huge elephant on your head while being expected to live a normal life.

Same

This sounds just like me, but I'm undiagnosed 🤷🏼‍♀️

People do not understand how mentally taxing this is on our bodies and minds. I’m so tired.

Yes it is very difficult and causes a lot of distress for people. I'm glad you don't feel alone. 🙂

You are sadly not alone. I think it will get better.

Ashleigh Denise Argyle ❤️

I'm with you and you're definitely not alone.

You’re not alone with missing the mania. Especially if it was a productive time for you. I have an upcoming video on when to take antidepressants for bipolar depression. I talk about this issue a little bit. It may be in a few weeks so stay tuned

Same here hypomania as well! Always fighting depression

Same here. The only times I really enjoy things anymore are the hypo. phases yet I'm fully aware they are also very risky.

do the meds make you feel "evened out" in a way that's kind of numb? or just no mania?

Rosie Red what you mean you miss the mania?? Being hyper happy?

Yay! I'm so glad you saw this. You're so welcome. 🙂

It’s definitely needed, i sometimes question if I’m bipolar instead, but the explanation of how frequently my mood changes is hours throughout the day meanwhile bipolar is weeks or months

Paola Vanegas I’m starting to think my cousin on the other has been misdiagnosed as bipolar while in reality he is borderline...he matches ALOT of the criteria...I have no idea how one doctor said he has OCD!!!!

Alicia El-Khatib Naranjo yes borderline and bipolar both have compulsive behavior but bipolar can sometimes be mistaken with OCD like for example I thought that’s what my dad had because he throws a fit if something dirty touches his hand and his hands have became extremely cracked due to washing his hands over 10 times a day. If you know for a fact your cousin is borderline, have him go to a therapist who specializes in it hope that helps 😊

You look cute btw I hpe you doing fine keep it u p!!

You’re welcome A Fann! 😊

You're so welcome Dark Stories. So glad it was helpful for you.

Bpd is often misdiagnosed as bipolar because they have so much overlap.

You can cycle through moods more in bipolar if you have rapid cycle or sometimes in mixed states when you have manic and depressed symptoms simultaneously. I wonder if BPD can have manic symptoms though. It is confusing because there are so many over lapping symptoms. Like you could be impulsive and unstable in relationships and self image ect... with bipolar too as mood episodes can effect those things.

@@jotortuga1975 Bpd doesn't have mania but it does have the impulsivity symptom and can have the anger symptom or even the occasional psychosis symptom.

@@jotortuga1975 I have rapid cycling bipolar. Mood swings can literally occur within a day

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Same here

Same. I get extreme emotions and my whole life my friends tried to tell me I had bipolar but eventually I got told by a doctor that I have borderline

You're so welcome Victoria. Helping you and family/friends understand is exactly what I set out to do. 🙂

Its still your fault, though. Cause you, are the brain. However, that doesnt mean you should be punish for it, rather helped sihnce its something you cant control without knowung about it.

@victoria evens yea sorry i yes it has to do with the fact blaming has negative connotation and being told its your fault can be viewed as bad. Sorru im sta4ing to tj8nk i have bpd too, though im not sure

@@jorgeflores9421 Perhaps more of a "It's not your fault you were dealt the cards you have, but you can still learn how to play the game strategically."

@@jorgeflores9421 It can also send someone into a depressed episode, especially if they were dealing with it, doing well, feeling well and on track for recovery, then bam....they get told "it's your fault"..... It can unravel all their progress. Those 3 little words are so extremely powerful, that most people (especially those without BPD or any other metal health disorder) don't understand unless they're in that situation themselves. That being said, It was extremely nice of you to apologize and realize where you went wrong! That's tough for a lot of people, especially on RU-vid, where backlash can be extremely harsh.

She's good

I have both.bipolar and borderline

That name change was a big L on the doctor's part

yeah fr! fuck people who demonize people for their mental disorders! thats like hating somebody for being autistic or down syndrome. its not fucking different and literally nobody can say otherwise. i will stand by it.

Hi and I'm happy to hear(read) you're aware of your condition and you're on the good path to be better....Hats off to you. Now, after 7 years of marriage now is when she told me she's "bipolar" but I'm 99.99% sure she's a covert-npd and I've been through hell multiple times which has been horrible for me. My question to you, with all due respect is: Do you feel some sort of remorse for hurting your love ones(if you have) and are you able to repair the damage? Again, I apologize for the question and don't know if that's your case but I'm asking you for my personal sanity and to actually know if it's worth staying with her.

@SuperPrdude that is a very difficult question to answer with no other information besides what you have provided. Please bear in mind I am not a diagnostican or medical professional. Simply someone who has suffered BPD for her whole adult life, and manages it to the best of my ability. I feel huge remorse when I THINK I've upset someone, and have huge issues regarding abandonment and feeling if I've disappointed someone (it's a whole thing with me) so go out of my way to avoid getting in any situation where I could hurt someone. But that is me. If after 7 years she is only now bringing this up, is it something she was already aware of, or is she "connecting the dots". Because either way she needs to take steps to manage her mental health. And this is the crucial part! If she is making steps then support her. If she isn't, then encourage her. But NEVER sacrifice your own mental health in the process. I will never say "stay with her" nor will I ever say "leave her". As that choice is yours and yours alone.

@@annejohnson5096 Very well appreciated your reply. She started to go to therapy but it's been 7 years and I can't deal with her anymore. You know, God Bless you for replying back and if there's anything you want to chat about, I'm here.

the prejudice with bpd is overwhelming.

I hear you. I have a lot of self control so the " acting out" impulsively is not a problem for me. Others on this list are. So I get upset when people insist I'm irresponsible.

Thanks for the information, it's still non aplicable when motives for behaviors are examined.

you can have both illnesses, I was diagnosed with borderline but I still didn't feel better even with medication and I felt like something was missing so I went to another psychiatrist and this one think I'm bipolar so I think I could have both disorders.

Thanks so much Kristen! Sure I'll add histrionic personality to my list of topics. I batch produce and am already scheduled out for next month - so it may be a minute. Thanks for the suggestion.

Dr. Tracey Marks you’re the best! Thank you!

I'm 22, i think i have this. I'm only realizing how important mental health is, in fact health in general

@James Becketts was that a response to my comment? I’m not sure what you’re talking about.

Did it help with your relationships? I’m the one that starts the arguments. I think we would rarely argue if I could have some peace in my own thinking.

@@nikkineal6431 absolutely 100%!!! It’s probably the area it helped me with the MOST! I’ve stopped causing arguments or giving people the ‘silent treatment’ (which can be seen as manipulation) and I know now how to communicate in a MUCH more balanced manner- it’s brought a lot of peace to me and my loved ones and even if we do argue from time to time now (as ANYONE does!) I’m able to effectively resolve the conflict due to the skill set I’ve learned- I hope this helps 💚💚xx

There is an entire module dedicated to this called ‘interpersonal effectiveness’ 🙂

@@thejordanchronicles6715 Thankyou

@@johngantner9314 you’re welcome John ☺️

Janet Wisnowski I pray that your life turns around also ❤️

💝💜

same here

Prayer and taking positive steps right? Hope you feel better

Reach out to the name on my channel above 👆🏼 he got me psychedelics that cured my anxiety and depression

Aaaw Victor That’s a huge compliment. Thank you.

@@DrTraceyMarks doc said it best they have no training in this BUT they write the Rx as well tip system is broken

hey lets communicate i want to see how we are similar I think I am borderline also!

@@susiesoba1612 ok im down

@@psychodelic1457 u have insta?

@@susiesoba1612 yea illusionarywavelength

Me too!

Its a coping mechanism for people with borderline she will be hurting too , you should reach out it will enforce the fact that you have not abandoned her even thought you may have to do so with gritted teeth

nk47100 This is very typical. We have to leave 1st. We may come back to a relationship, a time or two. In the end, we will abandon everything and everyone (immediate family, adult children, etc) . It’s in no way your fault. It’s just a coping mechanism. As for me, if it’s my last straw - I will never speak to the person again. It’s not right - it just is what it is. Medication and therapy only help so much and seems to take years to work, and it’s common to relapse often. Also, this might be one of two or my disorders the person lives with. Just an explanation.

I’ve done it to past “friends” if I think they’re gonna ghost me/abandon or just if I think they hate me lowkey. I can admit I can go from really loving them, wanting them in my life, really valuing them and their time to suddenly feeling rejected, humiliated so I delete/block them. Idk why I do it. I have hardly any friends now lol since I get called crazy or unstable by them 😒

nk47100 i clicked on this video because my ex “best” friend was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. when i took a psych course i learned about borderline personality disorder. to this day i’m convinced she was misdiagnosed and really has BPD (or both). she has 8 or 9 of the symptoms. when we stopped talking it was because i distanced myself from her, but the scars from that toxic friendship still burden me after years. she introduced me to someone who sexually assaulted me. after i told her she stayed friends with him until he tried to do the same thing to her. she spread a rumor that i did wrong by her and then justified it by calling me a shit friend. then went on to act like nothing was wrong. i’m sorry you lost your friend. i hope you see it as a lesson learned

I've had this happen to me recently. She started out kind and helpful to eventually always saying something offensive, then coming back around like nothing happened. She applied at my place of employment and started trash talking about me to my co workers and I have not spoken a word to her since. I have been more upset at myself for not getting away from her sooner. I'm certain she has borderline personality disorder / malignant narcissim.

RU-vid Covert Narcissist they have a lot of these issues you mentioned. Some have a saying for them, "Street Angels and house Devil's." They have a great reputation in the outside world but at home they are very destructive. I had one tell me he was demon controlled. And the things they do to steal your joy, peace, light and energy feels like he could be right. They like to turn your positive energy negative so they can feed off of you.... PURE ENERGY VAMPIRES!!! And many lack true empathy. And when I say they I'm really referring to the ENTITIES that control the person. I talk directly to the thing that causes the disturbia of the mind. Some of them are mild and some of them are out right dangerous!