She was also 19. He's way more at fault than she is. He also knew he was married and had children and was a fully mature adult man. She was basically a teenager. Not blameless but surely not as aware as he.
Carrie was a great actress and memorable person. Everyone always talks about Star Wars but she was wonderful in When Harry Met Sally. She was so real in this part, can't forget this performance. May you rest in peace, Carrie.
Well they both share some responsibility and criticism when both parties are aware that an act of infidelity is being committed. But Carrie was young, so her actions could be excused. Harrison, on the other hand, was an ass.
Then they’d realize they’re with the wrong person anyways lol. It’s such a naive childish mindset to think someone can be monogamous with a “soul mate” an entire life time. People change. People get over each other. Familiarity breeds contempt. It’s foolish to try and stay together forever or get married.
@@Puppy_Puppington dude...have you ever heard of concepts like breaking off with someone before starting another relationship? Or open marriage? Or is cheating the only "solution" you have ever heard of? 😁😁😁😁
@@realkrishna01 no. I just said it’s a childish mindset to think that the honey moon stage says forever. That’s all. It’s human biology and psychology.
Man...its thinking like this is why the world is slowly circling the bowl. It happens. But don't think we ALL feel like that. Nor do well all react like that either.
I've seen this pattern where a man cheats on his wife with another woman and most times he goes back to his wife and the other woman just becomes that the other woman and he forgets all about it, in most situations the marriage even becomes stronger and he realises his love for his wife and in other situation the marriage eventually breaks down. Although it's very rare the man ends up with the woman he has an affair with and even if he does it never lasts. Given these odds why do people ruins relationships their own and somebody else's. Just don't get involved with someone married even if that person is an idiot don't be an idiot yourself because most times women who get involved with married men end up alone because they're rarely chosen. So better to find a man who'd make you his wife than somebody who's just using you for momentary validation and gratification. Save yourself and the man's wife and family, i think as women we can have enough empathy and it shows the strength of character too. When a woman gets involved the man can pass on the blame in eyes of the society while the truth is he would just have been a lousy husband either way don't give him that satisfaction. No man is worth losing your dignity and wasting your love over.
If a man already invested in his wife thru marriage: having kids, buying a house, effect on his career... If the stakes are so high, a man would not ruin what he has built up. These other women affairs are usually done in secret: where nobody knows. So nobody will be accountable. The wife will not know anything because it is a secret. Men who leaves their wife for another woman, is when the risk are minimized. A man confident to see himself surviving what he has ( finances, career, business) even if his affair comes out
They edited this with erratic sourcing and mismatches between video and narration. There is a clip of Mark Hamill talking of one specific time they were beginning something and backed off. Wish I could give you that clip because it pointed out that it was not long nor ongoing.
She was 19, he was 33. I know society likes to blame the "other woman" and assume men can't control themselves but it seems like she was a victim here. Also, if you had a similar age dynamic (I can't tell from your sentence which is a bit ambiguous as to who was what age) I'm sorry to hear that, sounds like that guy was just as predatory towards you.
I had an affair with my former boss. I never forgave myself and asked HIS boss to transfer me. I even told my husband because I couldn't stand the secret. He forgave me instantly and held me in his arms as I sobbed hysterically.
Because you had solid morals. We can't always help how we feel, but we always can choose how we respond to them. Fisher was raised in Hollywood, a place where feelings matter more than morals and every one is entitled to whatever they want. And it really has nothing to do with age. Given the proper moral instruction and good adult examples to follow, even children know that cutting in on a marriage is a line you just don't cross, no matter what enticing sad story your would be lover has to tell about their spouse. Good for you for saying no to him.
@@di3486 my opinion is my opinion about the whole affair and no I don’t approve of cheating where 3rd parties get hurt and marriages get destroyed and the affair did end harrison’s marriage-
@@di3486 its not irrelevant to EVER exercise one’s right to free speech and the exchange of ideas, thoughts or opinions- go ahead and consider your thoughts and opinions irrelevant but don’t you dare tell me the same about my ability to have different thoughts and attitudes about many things- on a planet full of over a billion people not everyone thinks the same or believes the same- get used to it and don’t make a habit of calling people irrelevant simply for not agreeing with your views
@@overcomerbtboj Omg, no you are not understanding. Nobody is saying you can’t express an opinion. My point is that sometimes it’s a waste of time because for them our approval would be irrelevant.
It's messy, but I think she revealed this for the fans - who are already naturally obsessed with the films and would be forever curious. What they did was selfish (considering one person was married) but she was very young too and that made her more naive in the situation. I don't know if revealing the truth is selfish necessarily ... especially so many years later.
"she was very young too and that made her more naive in the situation." High school kids understand what cheating is. Carrie knew what cheating is and what it does to the wife in the situation because Carries mom was Debbie Reynolds.
I know society likes to blame the"other woman" and assume men can't control themselves or responsibility for their own cheating but she was 19 and he was 33. Whether or not she knew about his wife, it's hard to imagine this as an equal relationship particularly with the r*pey culture of the day which is popularised, ironically, in Harrison Ford's most successful starring movies.
Harrison saved her from the other man who probably was going to do the same thing that Harrison did.... Don't get me wrong, I love me some Harrison Ford, but suspish
Ooo this is juicy. Well of course she fantasized about him, who wouldn't. He's certainly the one who needed to keep it in his pants. He took the vows and had a family. I think he saw an easy target in a young impressionable girl. I love Carrier Fischer and people are flawed and make mistakes. May she rest in peace
Both were responsible for the affair. Carrie should of taken it to her grave. People get hurt when secrets are revealed. Ford has a habit of cheating in his relationships. I have lost respect for him. Shame on both of them. I loved the Star Wars franchise, & Carrie & Mark & Harrison. Maybe Ford did take advantage of a drunk Fisher. And yes I'm judging both of them. I was married & if my husband cheated on me that would of been painful for me. I have always liked HF just a little less now knowing he had cheated. He's older than me. Marriage is about trust. And love & faithfulness & loyalty. RIP Carrie.
Imagine being the daughter of a beautiful blonde star, (Debbie Reynolds)and your dad, (Eddie Fisher) leaves the home to run off and marry his best friend's wife( Mike Todd and Liz Taylor) He just recently died in a tragic way, then the also beautiful brunnett mistress, only to in turn, find out through the tabloid pictures, that your mistress turned wife is now having an affair with a much more handsome and more accomplished male actor from England Richard Burton. Those of us of a certain age remember all that drama. I empathize with Carrie Fisher, she had a privileged but turmoil filled childhood. I also believe her mom was the real beauty. Carrie looked more like her dad. Rest in peace 🙏 🕊 shalom
,How correct you are. Ford took advantage of her . Carrie was already dealing with the aftermath of her parents divorce. That and who knows what else? Debbie was the real beauty in my opinion. She was talented, more diverse than Taylor, a good mother, which is priceless, and a humanitarian. Liz on the other hand, was just all looks. Mediocre actress ,could not play the many roles Reynolds did. I really think she was jealous of Debbie. Why else would she have done what she did? If it had been a true love, she would have never left Fisher.
Seems like she was infatuated with him and he didn’t feel the same he just used her. She should have gone for Mark Hammill because he’s genuinely a good guy and very talented not to mention he was also single at the time she dropped the ball big time.
Same thoughts. Carrie loved Harrison more. But feelings are not mutual. Harrison was married so I cant blame him if his attention & love was not equal for Carrie.
Apparently they made out once but realised they had they had more of a brother/sister vibe to their relationship so they stopped it going any further. Ironic.
So this great “love” story is about an incredibly handsome married man, who took advantage of a beautiful young girl, with emotional problems? Harrison Ford should be deeply ashamed of himself.
She should feel remorseful about it too, but it doesn't seem like she was sorry about it. Just because someone is young, or emotionally compromised, doesn't mean they have no way to controll what they do. I might have a little more respect and compassion for her situation if she had ended her life with a more penitent attitude towards her past, but...that's Hollyweird for you.
It would of been better had she kept this a secret to save his family from the pain. I do not know why people have to tell the world personal information. What purpose does that fulfill? Does it get them attention they need?
Everyone is different. Personally I would have wanted to know if I was cheated on if I was his wife. It gives you more closure because you can say "well, that relationship wasn't worth saving anyway"
@Robin Hardy the truth will set you free. Better to know because the wife probably knew, but now she KNOWS. Harrison can't gaslight her that he was always faithful. Carrie was naive to think she was the only one, RIP she was lovely though.
I remember how it was when I was young and it's real different for sure. 😄 He was older and certainly he should had known better. 😉 Anyway, he didn't want to admit any of this then she passed away. Now, he does I guess. Anyway, I love both these actors and wish them well.😍
Blessed? Well, she died single and her career didn't go the way she planned. Years of addiction contributed to a much too early death. So I would say, altogether, not blessed. Money means nothing.
I'm a woman, and when I was 24, I had a short-term affair with a 56-year-old man who was on a short term work contract with my company. He was married, and lived in another city. The affair started and ended as soon as he left the company. I thought I was 'in love' at the time, but I am thankful it never went anywhere, as it was not love, and I never thought of him again afterwards. Affairs happen, based upon mutual attraction, and wrong choices.
Unlike you, Carrie Fisher never got over Harrison Ford. They also occasionally kept in touch so it must have been hard for her not to think of him completely.
@@canuck21 she is a grown woman, she knew he was married. It was obviously not mutual, as whilst he 'kept in touch' he married another woman when he became a free agent. She needs to grow up and move on, and stop thinking of a guy who saw her only as a fling.
@@robw2486 I never said it was mutual. You seem to be on the defensive or something. I'm only mostly stating facts about Carrie. She herself knew very well it wasn't mutual and she wrote so in her memoir. It's obvious she was more messed up than you were and because they kept in touch that didn't help. Ford's second wife Melissa Mathison and Carrie even knew each other. She's no idiot, she knew and understood but she couldn't help it. Maybe part of it is due to her bipolar disorder? I don't know. I'm just saying that whilst you moved on, she didn't.
@@indranidasgupta8982 Hang on and slow down. I am not a 'Dude', I am a woman, talking about my own experience. You don't need to be offended, as of course I know she has passed away, like duh!!! She was old enough to know better, and it was a short term affair - YEARS ago.
i think it must be hard when u see the person day in day out and you're in a bubble, not connected to the outside world or your family...it get's very intense. am sure it would be easy to fall for harrison. But Carrie is lovely person, so smart, unique and classy
For Harrison, we can see he was not that serious. He was on his 30's. Married. Carrie was 19. Too emotional. Idealistic. hard for Carrie because that man will never be hers, since he was married. She fantasized he will choose her in the end. She is already having drug addictions as a teen at that age when she met Harrison during star was. Carrie unfortunately continued with addictions as mentioned in her books
Lost love is the worst. The thought of what could have been. Right person wrong time. Age gaps.. or simply being too stupid to not pursue the potential that was there. I can imagine the silent grif of a lost love that was never yours.
It’s not obsession. It’s just infatuation & how the human brain Works… Especially at such a young age… the oxytocin rushes & that “honeymoon stage”. Before familiarity breeds contempt.
So he apparently rescued her drunk from other men but this is when the affair started! Going with married people should not be condoned and yes I'm judging! She would have ended up even more insecure if he did leave his wife for her! She would be a paranoid mess with all the other beautiful female co stars he has worked with over the years. It really doesn't seem that much of a great love story to me but they were very attractive people and had a great career! So kudos, but I can't stand infidelity and deception!!!! Poliamory needs to be normalised so people can have more honesty in their relationships.
She has passed away. She was only 19 at the time of the affair. She was suffering from mental illness. I’m continuing to show her respect for the courage she displayed throughout her life.
Your right K. A love story perhaps but at who's expense? I'm sure his wife didn't agree with this love story concept. Of course he has had three so what does that tell us. As much as I admired all the Star Wars crew..I did not know about this until now. I mean at the time I think like many we had suspicions. But that's normal for what we witness in movies. Men going after they're co- stars is a common thing in Hollywood and of course should never be condoned..I agree people need to be respectful in their relationships. Especially cause someone will always get hurt..no matter what. Its not fair to partners who love and respect the person they fell in love with..and choose to take that oath to love and honor. Myself never married and probably never will be. Been hurt to many times by infidelity. I'm good..lol I'm happy..
Why? These days we would call what Harrison did date rape. Drunk people can't fully consent to sex and Carrie had been partying and was in a vulnerable position. We need to talk about this stuff because it happens to women every day, not just movie stars.
Welp, Harrison Ford has had a "problem" with cheating while still married... as with Calista Flockhart while still married (but separated) to Melissa Mathison.
Carrie Fisher was incredible person, she was so clever and funny and speak perfect french, her interwiews are almost more entertaining than her character in star wars! I was really surprised how entairtaining and interesting person she was, it was surely an incredible friend.
I heard she was on drugs. So sad. Hollywood seems to be hell. Directors and producers forcing women to have abortions, exchanging roles for sex. Humans....mentally insane humans😔
More to the point, FORD knew he was married. He was also 30 and chasing a 19-year old. He took.the vows and he's the one who took advantage of a drunk young woman after a party. What part of "this is effed up, Harrison?" are we not understanding here?
Agreed . Yeah Carrie, I am SURE "Ford doesn't like or wanna go there" Lol (far as talking about their affairs)...As LOTTA things from his early beginnings, rather acting or personal. IF "he doesn't like to talk about" even his own 1st actual movie role (American Graffiti 😁) then...then..? I mean, what can yuhz expect?...IDK but, yeah 😒 . The MORE I DO keep hearing/reading about Ford as a person etc.? He's just REALLY getting further and further away from my actual "favorite actors lists" and overall RESPECT for the guy. SMH 😒
Sooo....ive seen a video analysis about the toxic abusive type of men Harrison usually portrays...and now life validates it was just him all along. Only question remained if it run through his mind when he saved Carrie out of that situation to...use the situation after because it makes an easy field for himself as the... "savior"...pff.
Nobody on this planet is perfect. Harrison got divorced from his first wife in '79. If people do have affairs,then it is over anyway. When kids are involved,it is always more difficult. Marriage is a contract. With true love, you don't need to have some papers for a union. Hawn & Russell. Anyway, Carrie was aware of her own parents infidelity. Does it justify their actions? Who are we to judge? We live ,we learn, we love , we try and find happiness or what we believe to be happiness. Nothing lasts forever.
Love was one sided. Intense but one sided. And Harrison was married. Why did Harrison not go back to Carrie later on, after his 1st & 2nd marriage did not work out? Feelings were not mutual sad to say.
Because it was an affair only, for him. And she was too young to be smart about it. Besides, by the time he was divorced, she was dealing with substance abuse issues and was involved with other guys. She was engaged to Dan Aykroyd when she fell for Paul Simon (according to Aykroyd). In addition to being bipolar. A complicated person, probably too much so for Ford. As it was, it’s been said that on-set affairs are very common, and then the movie or TV season ends, the fantasy ends, and everybody goes back to their partners IRL. Usually, it’s a “don’t ask, don’t tell” situation, unless somebody decides to write a memoir and tells all.
Human weakness? There's a significant age difference, I'm not defending Harrison Ford - he went thru a divorce then so maybe he fessed up to his wife? But when they say he's 33... and I suddenly realize at 50 today how dumb I was at 33... Again, not defending Harrison, not blaming Carrie - but as stated here in the video re: her bipolar disorder: she might have been so manic in pursuing Ford that he just couldn't resist. What nobody realizes - it was evil genius George Lucas who orchestrated all this to help the films - just like he cut the brake lines in Hamill's Corvette and... what? nobody laughing?
Women crave attention. Once they lost their looks this is what they do write a tell-all book reminding people how hot she was back then. Keep her name buzzing in the headlines because they don't want to be forgotten.
Exactly...IDK either 🤔 But yeah, believe OR not? Some (rather, mentally sick) woman like/love to be "the other woman", OR literally responsible for being "the homewrecker"... It's definitely, fouled UP, NO doubt
Bottled up emotions at 19, where she wanted to say by the time she is old. Her love for Harrison, was so intense yet bottled up in this timeline. Imagine being famous, rich at 19 with star wars movie. Then you will see him again for the next movies. Yet he will never be with Carrie. The pain. Carrie at 19 is already having drug addictions also. Then that addiction continued later on.
She was so gorgeous when she was young It's a shame she wasted her time with ford. By far he's one of the most miserable actors I've ever seen. Sense of humour of a dish cloth. I don't get the appeal in general he'd do my head in with how boring and serious he is
I'll never forget the way she gazed at me with those smoky eyes while sipping her Cab S. at another famous Celeb looker's place - said Celeb stepped into dining area with 2 towels & a smile that also said "It could happen . . ."
Women crave attention. Once they lost their looks this is what they do, write a tell-all book reminding people how desirable she was back then. Keep her name buzzing in the headlines among the slew of new young thangs because they don't want to be forgotten of how hot she was too ...
I think Carrie bottled up her intense feelings at that time. Despite being famous & rich at star warsa, she can mention her love to Harrison, because he was married. When she got older, she has to let those bottled up feelings out. When people grow older, realizations come out. Getting older gave Carrie the strength to speak out of the past, but not wanting to ruin currently Harrison's married life
Well, I knew when I watched Empire strikes back because I was too young to watch a new hope that there was something going on between these two because the sexual friction going on between them was off the charts. Even my mom even commented on it. Well here we are proof that something indeed was going on between those two, and as I say, Harrison Ford is a really sexy man I mean come on he’s a looker I don’t blame Carrie Fisher at all
She should have kept her mouth shut. If you mess with a married man you should never divulge. Just detach and move on asap and never speak of it to spare his family.
Agreed. Already behave like a scumbag, you only do much worse by hurting the wife and kids. The wife eventually figures it out and do what she wants with him. The only reason a mistress would spill the tea is out of bitterness that she was not chosen. Entitlement on steroids.
@@martiefurlong4609 women who sleep with married men are NOT VICTIMS. Play with fire you get burned. Also, nobody said he wasn't to blame. Stop saying things based on your emotional reactions.
Isn't that just like Hollywood to glorify sin. Movie, When Harry Met Sally, is full of premarital sex. I am glad these commenters are grounded in reality! We should not put money in the pockets of people that corrupt our morals, and those of our children. We will be held accountable too. I remember Hollywood being called, "Sin City," at one time. We empower them.
Harrison Ford rescued the drunk 19 year old Carrie Fisher from the creepy guys at the cast party by taking her out to his car to make out with her! Nice!
Stop acting like Carrie was preyed upon, people. She didn't perceive herself as a victim. And if I'd have been in her shoes at that age, I wouldn't either and would probably have done the same thing. He's HARRISON FORD! I absolutely would've shown-up to rock Indiana Jones's world if given that chance and I'm a prude!
I can see that he probably loved her too. I fell in love with a coworker as well but I couldnt leave the mother of my children. Age old story. Doesnt make us bad guys......just good Dads
IT does make you a bad guy.Cheater ARE bad guy. And if you can risk the happiness and harmony of your family for a *fling* you're not even a good Dad. The grief when a child finds put their dad was an unfaithful POS,the sorrow they see their mom go through because of their dad's infedilty causes a long term emotional trauma for children,which makes guys like you a very very horrible person
Cheating is bad partner and bad Dad. I , my sibling and her own children do know personally as child victims of cheating in worse possible way. We were forced to be witnesses to cheating on my abusive biological father's parental weekend at one room cabin with his equally married cheating lover as he had cheated on his second wife up close and personal along with he had threatened to murder me if I had told anyone of what happened that weekend. I had told that led to his divorce and his loss of parental rights. Cheating does extremely affect your partner and your cheating extremely affects equally as much onto your children too. There no honor nor acceptable reasons for cheating. If you want to be free to get with other people, then get divorce instead of cheating on your whole family and to keep children out of your sex life for their own emotional and mental psychological safety from adult sexual involvement matters that crosses into parental mental psychological damaging abuse by involving your children within your cheating. I have been against cheating since my young age when it happened decades ago. I do prefer honesty , respect and relationship parting of the ways over deceitfulness , untrustworthiness , disloyalty and dishonesty of deliberately purposeful chosen cheating especially when you have children involved that would definitely be emotionally deeper hurt from cheating matter over parents separation beforehand of parent's seeking outside marriage cheating with other person. Cheaters in their cheating affects their partners and their own children who are equally affected by your dishonesty , disloyalty, disrespect, deceitfulness and untrustworthiness of cheating too. Cheating does definitely 💯 affects the whole family not just your partner at end of day.