I love how she makes sure to stress how the two Swedish students behaved so different to her attacker and how we shouldn't lower our expectations regarding men's behaviour. Most men are decent people. That's why it is so vile how often perpetrators try to defend themselves by pretending its some kind of war against men in general. They use the other men as a shield.
Or when they try to excuse assault and touching people without their consent as something that boys or men just do. ...Like, a) Don't you realize you just deeply insulted men everywhere? and b) No, it's not part of manhood to be rapists, but you just outed yourself as someone who either has been or could. c) It's just gross 🤮
I stopped believing in a 🌎 where “MOST” men are decent cuz if they were, women arround the 🌎 would feel a lot safer 🤷🏾♀️.. I believe SOME of them are okay
@@commenterperson4481 an episode of law and order svu based an episode on her situation along with the brock turner character. Only difference that one guy was British and saw the incident to which he tried to stop it
I remember sobbing over her victim impact statement and then being so proud of her when her book came out. The way she turns her pain into strength and into a motor for change in a global movement is such an inspiration. It’s the “f*ck you” Brock Turner deserves but didn’t get in court. We know your name, Chanel Miller. We see you and stand by you ♥️
I'm currently listening to her book on audible and I've been in tears several times. As a sexual assault survivor myself I relate to her in so many ways. Her strength is incredible, her writing is beautiful. I'm so proud of her, and grateful for the Swedish students. 💜
I just finished listening to it on audio and it was an incredible listen but so hard at times. I, fortunately, do not have any experience with sexual assault but she wrote so vividly and made it seem so real. She let me be in her shoes and experience everything through her eyes. I'm sorry for what you went through and I hope you continue to find healing in your life.
The book simultaneously broke my heart and healed it. If you don’t have the funds to buy the book or pay for audible this is your friendly reminder to check it out at your local library. I think this is the memoir of the next decade if not our generation. So proud of her and proud of the Swedish men too, “at times of turmoil look for the helpers”.
A. I. Agreed. I checked it out on overdrive through my library to download on my phone. I had to wait because so many people are requesting it but it’s worth the wait. I’m in awe of who Chanel Miller is. She is a powerful writer and is able to articulate her pain, her suffering, and her moments of healing so clearly. I can’t wait to see what else she will share with the world. She was not broken.
@@iicybluesky Thank you very much. Everyday I find beauty and hold it close. Like the rose that grew from the concrete, I concentrate not on my damaged petals but on my will to reach the sun🥀
@@a.i.3609 Yes, I forget about new books being on overdrive as well! Great tip! Her looking for helpers comment really makes sense, drawing attention away from the awful. It's like looking for the rainbow after a storm kinda.
@Pipe Tunes You're just jealous, you talentless troll. You're not even good at trolling. Go bitch about video games or whatever your pathetic ass is offended by this week.
@@laraweinberg7635 Hmmmm. Good point. For me, I think, I felt that way because men are often left out of the equation, in terms of protecting women. It's always about, the guy that attacked, or the woman that was attacked. There are always gonna be bad guys, so, we need to put attention on the good ones, so that they can also work with us against the bad ones. Plus it's just nice to see a guy getting praised for something he really didn't have to do and didn't benefit directly from. This is something often expected of women, but not men. But you do make a really good point. Men do often get the attention, when it's positive, while women get it, when it's negative. Unfortunately.
I think he's, as a person, very empathic. He can tell how the person in front of him is feeling and acts accordingly to put them, the audience and himself at ease.
There might be funnier comedians than him but Trevor has this deeply thoughtful and humane quality that makes him a perfect comedy host in a time where we have come to expect much more earnest commentary and perspective from these shows.
@@CocktailsWithEdgar Don't even bother. I encountered this person in another comment section and they tagged a terrorist group and ranted about me getting beheaded. Better to just flag and carry on with life than listen to that madness 😬😬😬👌
I'm so proud of her. She is the definition of what I teach my children. Do not let someone's actions determine your character. His actions could've changed her horribly for life but she did not let those horrendous actions determine her true self. God bless her and those who helped her.
Eli za no one said her case was any special. if you read her book, she acknowledges that there are worse cases and that this kind of stuff happens all the time. the reason she’s a role model is because she took this traumatizing event that happened to her, and she made it into a story about empowerment and strength. she wrote a book that will probably help so many victims in the future. if you don’t see what’s special about that, i can’t help you.
When Trevor initially took over from John, I wasn't feeling it. But it didn't take long, before I understood why he was the perfect choice: light-witted (not overbearing) humor, intelligent, informed, reflective and a great interviewer. He knows how to ask questions that result in thoughtful answers and is patient and humble enough to allow the interviewee time to give that answer. Good work, Trevor...
Carl/Karl (I don't know the spelling if it's different in Sweden) is all humility with the "Should I get up?" question he asks. You can tell he wasn't expecting her to do that. I'm sure both families of the Swedes are very proud of their sons.
Most people aren’t such eloquent writers, and they definitely don’t get a pair of Swedes. Predators know how to isolate. I’m so glad those men showed up; their appearance helped to validate her account. Society still respects the word of men regarding assault, despite the facts. If she had to stack her word alone against Brock.. welp, nothing to see here, just another embarrassed regretful succubus princess trying to clear her reputation via revenge on a good boy with a bright future. She mentally, proverbially, returned to that alley with flood lamps and gave the world an accurate view of an epidemic issue. And somehow so many still clamp their eyes shut.
@@chelseasmith5225 -Firstly it Definitely tripped me out going to upvote your comment and seeing My name LoL (obviously not surprised by it because... Smith Lol - just somehow have never run in to another) Verbally berating would be be lovely though an "eye for an eye" in Prison hehe... Or something more akin to a red rubber ball gag 'Pulp Fiction' style sounds equally Fair and Just if the punishment were to ACTUALLY fit the crime *sigh*
It's far beyond outstanding and sickening that even WITH the Swedes, the publicity, aaaaannnd the Public backlash that he still got so small a punishment. However, it gives me hope to see her standing up and having her story told and listened to. It's still only a small step in the right direction but with shows coming out like 'Unbelievable' it gives me hope that eventually people will begin to see what a systemic issue this is and that it is still being handled so horrifyingly.
Give the positivity to her and don't talk about the jerk. She's not going to remain broken - emotionally nor physically - for life. Show society that she's a smart young woman that experienced something awful, but now is OK. And I like how she focuses on how there are good people all around who do the right thing. She didn't have to, but she did. We shouldn't need to make everyone that does the right thing a hero, but isn't that what we tell people? Do the right thing, and people will thank you. That Swede is smiling now, but remember those guys were so shaken by what they witnessed they were crying and literally sick to their stomachs. And to those that claim they're profiting from Miller's events. You bet they are. Tell me you don't want folks like that at your workplace or in your community. They made a good decision in a bad situation. Meanwhile, that Brock jerk, the swimming "star", decided he was gonna play Emperor that day. He'll be scrubbing pools the rest of his life. Parents: don't let your kids turn into Brock.
Anime Fan - Beautifully said and thank you for reminding us that those men were seriously traumatized as well from the cruelty they witnessed. She acknowledges the wounding but doesn't allow it to create a mentality of fear, victimhood, or define her character nor that of others negatively. Reminding us that there are still many amazing and kind people in this world.
@G it looks more like the German flag to me....wasn't the Nazi flag all red besides the swastika? I mean....can't you just Google things? That's what I did....
I think she in particular dishonors all people who actually experienced sexual assault. Inspire yourself, she was irresponsible with drinking and doesn't even remember what happened, and she had a boyfriend when she went to that frat party to dance and make out with guys she didn't know. I think she makes a real mockery of what it means to be a real woman and of real victims of sexual assault.
@@rcorp4144 she is a real woman , years of been sat at home and becoming a sexual object has gotten into men's head we women will not be dismissed and our thoughts won't be dismissed
Mezan Say imagine victim blaming in this day and age. sexual assault is ALWAYS the perpetrator’s fault, never the victim. and don’t tell actual survivors that she “dishonors” them.
i’m halfway through her book right now and suddenly felt the need to not only read her story but hear her voice as well. it’s incredible to see you here today chanel. you are amazing, you are without a doubt powerful and thank you so much for sharing your story. sending you all the love!
G: The greatest feature of our criminal justice code is that both sides have the same rights of defense. All are equal under the law. To do any differently is tyranny. That we consistently do differently when it comes to race, gender, sexual orientation, immigrant status, income, reproductive rights, etc., etc., etc., is a black mark of shame upon our nation's collective psyche that is only getting darker and more cancerous.
this made me tear, acknowledging that doing the right thing is not a political but a human instinct and where does Trevor get the time to read everyone's books
I'm just learning about this instance. I am so glad they were able to save her. Whenever I hear some of these sexual harrassment cases, it's rare that I hear someone realising something was going on and do something to stop it. Props to those Swedish men
MLG GAMER.....You are so right! What a super heroic role model!! Very brave to step up and speak out....Chanel Miller you deserve the accolades along with your rescuer!
Yes, thank God those men stepped in! It wasn't harassment, it was assault. The sick thing is if they hadn't, she probably wouldn't have been believed. As it was, even WITH witnesses, they tried to blame her, and the a$$hole got only a slap on the wrist. That's why so many victims don't report. #BelieveWomen
I am glad to see this. Not just becourse it makes me proud to see that two of my fellow swedes stepped in to do the right thing, but also to see somone who was victimised by sexual assault be so optimistic about the world.
I'm just in so much awe of her!!! The first time I saw her, I INSTANTLY burst into tears! Immediately this enormous wave of emotional pain, heartbreak, sadness and anger came over me. The injustice she has to suffer, in addition to the assault is just absolutely appalling! And I felt so much sorrow for her... Then when I listened to her speak and explain herself... 😮 I still INSTANTLY burst into tears when I see her, but it's because I'm so awe struck and proud of her strength and courage!!! Incredible, amazing and inspiring. For me and for EVERYONE who can sadly say "me too" THANK YOU WITH ALL MY HEART ❤
@Zuma Zuma When you're on vacation everything usually seems gorgeous lol I live in Sweden, there's uggos and beauts and everything in between, like in America, like Germany, Croatia, everywhere X3
I lost many nights of sleep over this woman's trauma. Listening to it and watching it in the news was so difficult as it went on and on. I listened to her book because I wanted to hear her voice and it's truly the best book I've read, a gifted writer. thank you for sharing your painful story.
I’ve never been so fucking proud of someone I haven’t never met. I’m proud of strength to come and speak her truth. She didn’t have to, but she didn’t. I honestly want to cry. Hope for nothing but the best for her
I image Brock Turner watching this. He threw away a Stanford education, a chance at the Olympics, and the rest of his life because he was not taught how to properly treat women. At the same time, Chanel is a true hero who took her pain and transformed it into something empowering.
It wasn't because he was not taught to treat women properly, it's because of his hubris that he thought he could get away with this. It is not the severity of the punishment that deters crime, it is the *certainty* of the punishment.
Kazilikaya EXACTLY. And Turner was RIGHT!!!! In fact the judge knew it too - shown by his words and ruling. Except in this case the Judge did more harm than good for Turner. If he hadn’t spoken those words and just given the appropriate sentence, this case would have gone quietly into the night.
Ok I didn’t know she was the victim from the Brock Turner case. She’s even more badass than I already though she was before I knew who she was. Amazing young woman. Carrying herself so gracefully while talking through what must have been the most traumatic experience.
Thank You Chanel for writing Know my Name, it means so much to me! I am on the other side of the world, but your words validated me. Your words comforted me.
Thank you, Trevor, for having Chanel Miller as a guest on your show. I'm glad she's sharing her story. These words were powerful: "If there's guys like that that exist in this world, why do we lower our expectations. We don’t need to make excuses for predators. We don't need to make excuses for people who don't know how to treat another person decently, who don't know right from wrong, because there are people sitting here who do."
Such a beautiful powerful unique woman 💙 I respect her for her courage to face her painful memories and translate them into magical words... love her 😍😍😍
wow, I am star struck by her shining light. she is my hero. as I struggle through the pain as an incest survivor at 70 years old. The memories haunt me.Apparently, I need to write my story. Thank you Chanel Miller! For giving me courage to continue my healing. I bow to you!
@@jacquelinele9170 She has a gift on how to drink to the point of passing out on a University campus when you are not a student and giving your consent
Sweden is 3rd worldwide for gender equality and the USA are 51st. This is why those great Swedish men were sick in their stomach realizing what happened, they see women as equals.
I finished reading her book and it was so beautiful written with her raw emotions and perspective. She talks about her life and her story after many attacked her character and her actions. She is right in following the light of how men like the ones that saved her are what guides her to believe in our world. She brings forward and connects so many people’s experience together.
It's amazing seeing her hearing her seeing her strength. It's also amazing seeing you had these people step in for her and did the right things. I hope she continues to have amazing strength and shares it with everyone.
The book is amazing I’m reading it now. I love that she shares about the aftermath of an assault and how it changes your sense of safety and everything that used to be normal in your life. It helps knowing I’m not the only one.
one of my favorite parts of the book is when she’s talking about how the swedes didn’t even think about what they were doing, they just saw something wrong happening and immediately took action. they’re not some super humans, they’re just extremely exceptional people and anyone is capable of being like them.
the reason I came across this woman is that I just finished watching "A Promising Woman" w/ Carey Mulligan. I saw a video explaining the movie and Chanel was mentioned and briefly shown in it. Being an Artist and Writer myself I wanted to see more about her. My eyes have been tearing up since reading your book on Amazon and looking at your videos. I am So Sorry as a Man: I apologize because this is NOT what any man should do to anyone! Even though I do not know you, Chanel, I as a Human Being do Love you because my Savior, Jesus Christ loved us First! May the Lord Bless and keep you Safe! Much Love and Prayers to you and your loved ones!!
Karl you’re a hero man! You’re a beautiful human, thank you for becoming involved in saving this young woman. It no doubt has helped her heal. You May have just been in the right place at the right time, but I’m so thankful you were.
I hope this book, this story gives courage and strength to all those women out there who have been wronged and been silenced by the fear of shame and society.
What a great interview and such a strong person she is for coming forward. I can only imagine how hard it was when she was anonymous so she made this decision knowing she was subjecting herself to the opinions of the public, and some would be good and some would be bad, and she did it anyway. It’s amazing. She’s very strong and courageous, and I’m sure her book will help so many survivors.
Interesting to learn that the judge got recalled after such a lenient punishment. Rightly so, he even doubled down on his decision after. This whole circumstance is terrible and I wish her the best in life.
Hey Trevor, Can you talk about the *Iraqi* protests in the show please?! Becuz we wanna send our voice to other people and folks so they can know what's happening and press on the government. The Internet was disconnected, now it's back but there's a ban on SocialMedia sites, so we're using *VPN* apps. Man, these *beaches* are killing peaceful protestors who got no weapons but flags shouting "It's Peaceful". Atleast mention about it. And thanks man, huge AC, *I mean*.. fan from Iraq.
While I had heard about her case, I did not know her name until now... her book will be out in my mother tongue (German) later this month and I‘ll get a copy! thanks for having her on, Trevor!
My daughter, sober like me, has a therapist who describes the Higher Power as the Voice of Love & the Voice of the Disease. Her description of following the voice of the miracle reminds me of that.
I'm 100% sure the Brock Turner guy did this many times. Just this time there were 2 brave men who caught him in the act, and 1 brave, articulate woman that wrote about it.
How can it be amazing if she can't even recount her own story of rape. Its just filled with everyone else accounts and whatever hype is gonna make people go wow you're impressive. It's a fake, I mean, where is the real substance?
I cannot say who people are really however this person has strength . She conquered her fears and of coarse with the help she felt she would get from others .
She's so well spoken and shares a fantastic light on this issue. Her bravery should definitely be applauded as well as Carlos' actions. People like Brock and his father are born with privileges that they don't even realize. The consequences that he faced are nowhere near what he deserves.
Just quoting the stats here. “One in 5 U.S. women is raped at some point in their lives, and 1 in 3 is a victim of sexual violence involving physical contact, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.” Maybe that’s why her story is more relevant than you thought. I command her for standing up and sharing her experience and story. This is not some “non-incident” as some assholes in this comment section have mentioned. This happens way too often than it should in real life.
