in this video, I talk about how you should focus on yourself more than girls until your ready to make that commitment. i would love to hear your opinions on this topic in the comments.
its true that passed the 30s the dating scene gets pretty rough, but its better to be alone than in bad company. also if you are in a bad place dont just keep forcefully inviting people to your life, you are just going to make them miserable and angry if you dont get your stuff together first. normally we are way too rough to ourselves. judge yourself like you were talking to your best friend. try it.
I too have a need but also each time Im in a situation that I could have one, I slowly relize how much she / they depend on me, while I'm fine with being that person Ive never been able to lean on anyone else for support. Its kinda like rn I'm developing a great future for myself and I want to share it with someone but I am afraid to let someone destroy me so why take the risk at all
I’m 18. I think when I broke up with my ex something changed in me. I’m no longer thinking about relationships now and looking back it was a really bad decision to prolong it for as long as I did. She ate up my entire life. My top priority is school now. I should give myself more time to figure out what I wanna be in life (find a job/internship, get my grades up, etc) and stop looking for someone to please.
im about 15. my goal for girls at least is to just have a couple i am friends with ya know? because i really dont need a girlfriend i just feel like it would be fun but i really dont "need" one. so the only way im starting a relationship even this year is if i find a girl i really enjoy hanging out with and if she likes me too. but im not fighting a losing battle if you know what i mean lol.
Hinestly it depends if she gonna be by your side and help you grow and yall grow together she's worth it but if she nit really helping and dragging you down let her go focus on you
6:08 I think if you would really loved her and would want to spend rest of your life with her you would no doubt find some time for her As for me I'm 20 and just finished technical school. As for the future I don't have a plan now because the girl I had a crush on for past 3 years turned out to be not who I expected her to be. This whole stary is kind of pathetic. We were in the class together. About 3 years ago I caught feelings for her. I started working on myself for my own benefit but and for her. Later on it turned out she had a boyfriend. I had a plan to befriend her and get to know her more. I was hoping that because she is relly smart she would be wise and mature. I hoped we would find a common topic, interest and plans for the future and we would grow closer. I didn't know her almost at all and didn't talk to her before, we didn't have the same friends. I started talking to her more and eventually we became friends. And I've done it quite fast. We went from not knowing each other almost at all to talking everyday at school. We started to become close friends. Later on we started talking more openly about our plans for the future and life. I was thinking seriously about future and my plans and she wasn't. I wanted to settle down and build a family, she wanted to travel and admitted to me she doesn't want kids, which was a dealbreaker for me. I was really planing my future with her and thought that that was it and I foud my future wife. She seemed to meet my standards and I thought she was more mature than she really was untill we started talking about more serious topics. I confessed to her how I felt and we agreed to not talk to each other for some time untill our finals are over. I honestly don't know at all how things will go. I want to stay friends with her and I don't feel anything for her anymore. Besides this major change in my life I more or less know what I want to do in the future. I know what job I want and what kind of collage to go to. I'm not into seeking out relationship with somebody. I would rather stumble into love than seek it out. I would want to be in a serious relatioship as I think I'm more or less ready for it but I'm tired of trying and working hard to make it work against all odds. tldr I had a crush, we didn't want the same in life, I more or less know what I want to do in life, I'm not into seeking a relationship even though I would want to be in one. Sorry for yapping for so long, just wanted to share my story.
Do you really want to be in a relationship that takes that much effort for the REST OF YOUR LIFE? I've been with my wife for about 12 years now. Easiest relationship of my life is why.
