CHILDFREE BY CHOICE: Top 5 Reasons We Chose NOT to Have Kids 

Thanks again for watching!! What is your TOP REASON for not wanting kids??

One of my biggest reasons for not wanting kids is just the pain and physical trauma of pregnancy/childbirth. Every woman Ive seen talking about childbirth talks about it like they went through war. I imagine you’d want to have kids pretty badly if you’re willing to go through all that.

My top 3 reasons for not wanting kids: 1. quality sleep 2.quality sleep 3.quality sleep :)

Been married 50 years in a month's time. Still in the honeymoon phase, we spend every waking moment together. Never had kids, never wanted to, never regretted it. I just think of all the things we were able to do that wouldn't have been possible if we had. People literally sacrifice their own lives for the sake of a vicarious immortality. It never looked like a reasonable exchange to us.

My fianceés' reasons: 1. Chronic back problems and prolly getting wrecked if giving birth 2. Endometriosis 3. Not liking kids in general. They're loud, annoying, messy and are a big responsibility. 4. Not wanting to put her body through birth and breastfeeding. 5. More free time without children. 6. We can do whatever we want to whenever we want to. 7. Not wanting to drift away from each other as partners because we're also going to be "parents". 8. Money. 9. Spending money on us and our loved ones. 10. Sleep. Naps. 11. Hobbies. 12. Not having to plan vacations around kids and making them kid-friendly. 13. Peaceful life. 14. She doesn't feel like she would have motherly instincts. Did I mention she doesn't like kids? 15. Because we want to spend all of the time we have together and we're still madly in love with each other. My reasons are the same (ofc not the ones I physically can't feel like birth and endometriosis) 🤗

I’m 34. I never had any desire to be a parent and I still don’t. It’s just not for me. I love the freedom too much. And my life is nothing but peace and quiet I would never want to give that up.

I made a pro and con list once on having children. My con list was endless and there was only one reason on the pro side that is not valid at all: fear of ending up alone when my husband dies earlier then me. I decided early on that kids are not for me. To be honest; I don't really like them😅

i'm 25, single and still living free. watching lots of child free content has reinforced my desire to be free. plus I absolutely HATE Babysitting children.

The extra responsibility is overwhelming. We have 3 pets and taking care of them feels like I personally am buried under so much work. Having a kid makes me feel I might loose my identity in my years left. We don't want our marriage to become JUST about being parents. Love being a part of this community. Really gives confidence in the decision.

I remember telling someone my husband and I don't want kids. She responded to me with, "it is a woman's purpose to have babies. don't be selfish.' My husband tells people we're not having kids no one has ever responded to him negatively. Thank you for advocating about choosing to be child free.

I like my sleep. So no kids. All my co workers are exhausted from their children and I wake up bright eyed and bushy tailed. Lol.

My fiancé and I don’t want to have children because: A) Financial expense B) Lack of freedom/spontaneity C) Children are time consuming D) Family would have to be involved/interfere in our lives more E) I could die in labor and my fiancé is scared of losing me F) Genetic roulette, our child could have a disorder/disease and need special care G) I don’t want to sacrifice my body to pregnancy and breastfeeding H) We like our free time and hobbies and intimate relationship and don’t want them to fall to the wayside

1.I know having kids that I dont want will eventually lead to me lashing out at them at some point. There is no excuse to abuse a child. 2.I know what it's like to be an 'unwanted' child. My mom tried her best and made sure I never went without, but kids can still feel when they're not wanted, no matter how hard a parent might try 3. Role-reversal Parentification. I already raised my mom and dad. I dont need to spend the rest of my life raising someone else. Not to mention I still need to develop into a stable person in general in order to be a stable parent

I was searching for childfree channels. I’m glad I have found you. ❤️😊 having a child is a huge responsibility. Me and my husband love our lifestyle just the way it is without added stress.

I personally feel lack of desire, a big sacrifice and a loss of your own freedom... I am 34 years and I love to be independent go out with friends, being productive and buying things for me or the ones i love, practice my hobbies and i would like a man with the same thoughts and feelings about being childfree. Is a celebration !

My number 1 reason for not having a child is my own experience with depression as a teenager. I was depressed to the point of suicide. I would not want my future children to experience that. My other reasons are: 2. Cost. I can barely pay for my own needs/desires. 3. I used to babysit my nieces and nephews, and I hated the experience! 4. I don't like touching dirty diapers. 5. I don't like the sound of babies crying. 6. I don't like the chaos that children create: yelling, breaking stuff, making a mess. I want to live in a house that is clean and organized. 7. How am I supposed to teach a child to make a living in this expensive environment (USA)? I spent most of my life working for low wages, and I cannot afford to go to college or a trade school. I have no valuable job skills or talents. I cannot, in good faith, tell my child to go out into the world, work hard, do his/her best, and, hopefully, they'll make enough money to pay all their bills and get their slice of the American Pie. My bills are $1500 a month, and I make about $30,000 a year. That's not a legacy I would want for my kids if I had kids. I'd want them to figure out a way to be financially independent, so they won't have to worry about being fired/laid off from their jobs or worry about some crappy politicians & their self-righteous constituents threatening to take away their jobs if they don't get vaccinated. I really hate this world, and my moments of success have been few. I would want my kids to have a better life with more resources, more opportunities to get ahead socially/financially, and more opportunities to do fun things and explore interests/hobbies. And I want them to grow up in a safe neighborhood (and most of the horrible crimes occur in low-income neighborhoods---the kind of neighborhoods I can afford to live in). This world is designed to accommodate high income earners while the rest of us suffer, and the kind of daily frustration I feel because of this reality is something that I wouldn't want my future kids to experience.

"You're lifestyle does tend to change"! Most underrated comment ever! Once you have a kid your life is turned upside down! Patents almost completely lose their self identity and the children become their "entire world". I've read this on tons of women's dating profiles. 😂🙄 Great video!!! 👍

Reason #1 is the same for us too! When we got married we figured we would have kids because "that's what you do" but then neither of us consciously pictured our future with kids. 10 years later, we still feel the same way. Love the childfree content - thank you for sharing!

Keralite Man here. I am Childfree by choice. I broke up with the love of my life because I was on the fence. The painful break up rendered me to go childfree. I am going to bed tonight happy, loved, stress free, at peace and rich.

I hope many people will choose childfree as a life choice because this world is too much people. we need more space and resources.

Totally get all 5 reasons, my husband and I definitely have those same reasons. We actually tried having kids after we got married purely because we thought that's the natural next step. But every time we thought we might be pregnant and then find that we weren't, we had a sense of relief rather than disappointment. So we talked about why we are not disappointed and really got honest about our feelings. And for now we feel super comfortable with our decision. Most people don't get that it is a choice.

Love your energy. 43, opted out, no regrets.

Love this! Child-free by choice too and the most annoying judgment is when people say it’s “selfish” to choose not to have kids... when really if you think about it - wanting to have kids is equally selfish too. Think about the reasons why people want to have kids - they’re all selfish reasons too. So - that is totally a non-argument in my book. Excited for your journey and welcome to RU-vid! 🙌

1. I just want to live my dreams forever with no distractions 2. Childhood/teenage hood trauma 3. I love my freedom so much 4. No desire 5. Just started parenting my inner child and that’s a forever dedication

This video resonated with me. For the longest time, I said I was "on the fence" about having kids, until I dug deeper and realized that I simply didn't have the desire. Owning that decision has, for me, been hugely clarifying and liberating. I'm lucky that my spouse is on the same page. Thanks so much for creating this much-needed community. There's beauty and celebration in all of our life choices - not just the ones that lead to parenthood!

You guys are happy you got a partner that wants the same thing, most of you in the comment section. I thought me and my partner wanted the same thing until last night, he told me he taught I have changed and want kids cz he wants them I was shocked because I told him from day one that I never want kids, iv told him countless times. I guess he taught his love for me will make me change. I've just broken up with him. The saddest thing is I'm in Africa and here its sort of a must to have kid's, I wonder if il ever find a like minded guy

Kids are not a "you reap, you sow" thing. They will grow up and have their own lives. I've heard so many stories, countless, of adult kids not being there for their parents when they are old. They have their own lives and even kids of their own. Life will probs become harder anyway.

Aren’t we so fortunate to live in a time where we have the CHOICE to be child free? In any other time of history, you wouldn’t have had that choice. I had 2 sons and now 3 grandkids and wouldn’t have had it any other way. They’re over 40 now and such very good friends. I love visiting with them and sharing in their lives. I know I’m very fortunate and I’m happy that women have choices today. If you don’t want kids, no one should pressure you into it.

I can’t stand how some people think not having kids is selfish...what it is, is SELF AWARE. Why should someone feel forced or produce children when they know they’d be deeply unhappy having them? How would that be fair to the children?...

My parents pressure me to have kids, it gives me anxiety and not makes me want to talk to my family

I'm a 53 year old woman and childfree by choice. Never had the desire for kids. At a baby shower one time someone had the audacity to say birth control is for wimps and that being a mom is the courageous thing to do. How insulting to all of us who have chosen a childfree path. Infact our choice is far more courageous as it's not easy to go against the grain of what is expected of most people and live a life that for many may seem lacking. Having kids is the easier of the two choices to make. This isn't to say I dislike kids. They are great, as long as they are not mine. 😏

I'm 38 and child free I figure if I were to have kids I probably wouldve had them already. I don't really have a desire to have any moving forward for all the reasons you mentioned. Great channel! New subbie!

Top reason for me was ur #1 & the freedom 🥳

I am 42 and have no children never wanted them still don’t want them because of that lack of desire you spoke about but you pretty much pinpointed everything I feel about not wanting to have kids it’s nice to know I’m not alone

Only because i cannot afford them, i am trying to survive and why would anyone want to being someone on this planet to suffer! Its selfish to have kids! They didn't have a choice

Can relate with the worry issue ☺️

Me and my husband are both only children. We both have decided that not having kids is the best choice for us. We definitely feel the pressure to provide grand kids for our parents. Wish we had siblings that could take on that burden

They might provide some security.. assuming they turn out healthy, I.e. without a serious neurological and developmental disability (no offense to anyone) AND empathetic. They will NOT however make you happier. If anything, studies show kids make you less happy. Thanks for being a voice to people who don't want OR cannot have kids.

I just lost a relationship due to the fact that I didn't want to have kids. He was such a great guy and basically my best friend. I'm hurt at the fact that we couldn't find common ground. At the time, I hoped I don't regret my decision. These videos are really helping my mental❤

I think reason no. 4 is my number 1.Once I rescued a sick pigeon and for that week it was staying with me I was a wreck. Every moment was about the pigeon, I couldn't think of anything else, couldn't function at all. I was worried all the time, but not that kind of regular worry but one that changes your entire personality. It was only one week (it died unfortunately, that also destroyed me), but it felt like ages. I could say that I did connect with a more caring, loving part of myself though this experience but there is no way I could live like this. Even if the bird was healthy, I would still feel like there is this constant heaviness in my chest all the time. I have had issues with anxiety and other mental health issues all through my life and I don't think I could stay sane or even healthy having a child. I still have huge feelings of guilt though around this topic and keep questioning myself.

I'm in my 20s and peace and quiet very much is a priority for me, even now.

People can call you selfish for not wanting to have kids...I think it is more selfish to bring a human being to the world just to please everyone around you when you didn't even truly wanted that that much. I think kids deserve honest love from parents who actually wanted them because they thought that would make their lives fuller and happier, not parents who have them just because that's the role they're supposed to play as a couple but then complain about how hard parenthood can actually be.

Exactly peace and quiet has become a priority for me in my 40s. It was not a big deal in my 20's and 30s.

Thanks for mentioning that you love kids and support the choice of your family and friends who have children. It’s nice to see thoughtful content that shares one position without criticizing those who have taken another position.

Having ADD & being sensitive already, I’m in my thirties now and I honestly thought I would outgrow being that way. I haven’t. After seeing all my friends (some with ADD kids) I can see how horrible it is. The more time that goes by I realize I don’t want kids.

42, married, child-free. DINK FTW!

Thank you for creating childfree content! Looking forward to showing some support.

I definitely fall into the worry category. My sister took a nose dive with her mental health and drug use. It’s been a nightmare wondering when she’s going to lash out or OD again. My anxiety flares up for weeks after her episodes, and she has such a privileged life too. It just goes to show you, you never know how your child will end up. And for that reason, I cannot have a child of mine ending up like that. It would destroy my soul like it has my parents. So, that’s why I’m child free. Thank you for sharing and I just subscribed. ❤️

Now I can feel little better 🙏

LOVE all of your content & the space you've created for us people who have chosen this childfree life. ❤️ How do you guys respond to friends who complain about their children/being tired because of their children/not having any time for anything outside of their children? I've found myself struggling to be empathetic toward people who complain to me about this because all that runs through my mind is "...you chose this..." -- just like how I'm choosing to be childfree because of their complaints. Do you have any recommendations on how to respond?

At 41 I’m only just now moving from existing in a place of pain about not having kids to a place of acceptance and a growing excitement about the future. Your point about spiritual work & spiritual growth rings true for me and this was the reminder I needed. Thank you!

Thank you for creating this channel! My husband and I are also childfree happily and the judgement we get sometimes is annoyong and rude. Never had any desire to have children and am very happy with this decision!

Although I am pretty maternal, I have never had a burning desire to have children. I've had friends whose biological clocks were ticking and they were obsessed with it, and I've found it impossible to relate. I like children. They are amusing and easy to talk to. I just can't imagine being around them 24-7. Now, as a senior citizen, I am very happy being childless.

Thank you!!! My husband and I are child free by choice. While most of my friends and family members couldn’t care less about my choice, I get A LOT of resentment and hostility from people, including some family members, who had kids, realized that motherhood and family life wasn’t the perfect fairytale they thought it would be, now hate their lives (even if they won’t admit it) and hate me for being happy, and having freedom. If people want to call me selfish for my choice, fine, but at least my every waking moment doesn’t consist of either working, cleaning, or changing diapers. I know lots of people who had kids and still remained great people, but I know a lot of others who turned into judgemental a**holes after they procreated.

I am 26 and childfree it is beautiful and I feel so energized. I own my time my freedom and my money lol and i get to focus on my mental health live the life I truly want with no stress

I'm happy to have found this channel - I've been feeling a bit isolated recently in my decision to be childfree. My #1 reason is just that I've never been interested in being a parent. Just like I've never personally been interested in being a pilot, or a baseball player, etc... I do love kids and taught for many years. However even when I was studying childhood development and spending all days around children, I never imagined myself as a mom. I loved my students but was really happy that they were, in fact, just my students and not my kids! My second reason is that I have chronic health issues. I spend a lot of effort managing my health so that I can have success at work and balance a healthy amount of social activities. However, I really feel like I'm at my 'max'. There are already not infrequent periods in my life where I have to shelve some of my responsibilities to focus on staying well. I cannot imagine how I would manage with raising a child and also caring for myself. This is one reason it can feel really hurtful when people start pestering me about why I'm not having children. I don't feel obligated to share my personal medical problems with acquaintances but some people feel entitled to get a 'valid' answer out of you for deciding to be childfree.

For me, it is #3 all the way. I had a catalytic experience at 31 which sparked a journey of awakening which I have been on for several years. As you said, seeing just how deep some of my wounds are and how much work I have to do on myself to simply release fears to be able to live some semblance of a normal life, it is likely going to take me many, many more years. I have a very long way to go and I could never be responsible for another human being with the work I have left to do to make myself “okay.” This didn’t even start until 31. I shudder to think what would have happened to a poor kid if I became a mom in my 20’s and THEN had this awakening where I need to pretty much be in solitude most of the time. How would that have benefitted a kid? How would that have benefitted me? Things happened in my life as they were supposed to and it just reinforced for me what I knew since childhood: I am not meant to be a mom.

We are happy to feel not alone with our choice. Thank you for your time and effort to be there for like minded people 🥰👋

My wife and I don't want kids. Obviously we all know none of us need to give a reason to anyone if we don't want to (especially to people with children) but seeing as this is an awesome childfree community, I'll let you guys know my reasons on the off chance someone relates. One of my main reasons is that there is a huge age gap between one of my sisters and I. My mum was an alcoholic and had bipolar and post natal depression. I was a teenager when my sister was born so I did a lot of the care. While I love both my sisters, I think it helped me realise how hard it is to bring up children and showed me this is not want I want out of life at all. I already did all the nappy changing, bottle feeds, teaching her to crawl/walk by the time I was 15. I know it's different to having my own kids or adopting, but I felt I had a taster of parenting and it's not something I would go through again. That...and I just don't really enjoy spending long periods of time with kids. I'm going to sound awful here but I just find the whole concept of parenting incredibly dull and a waste of time/life (I hated typing that because it's not the kids' faults! But I'm hoping some of you will get what I mean and it's always nice to talk about things on our minds in a safe community!). Some of my friends have kids and, sure, my wife and I like to be fun aunties and play games with them and make sure we get the kids pressies for birthdays and xmas, but I find myself wanting to spend less and less time with my friends who have kids. I feel so awful about it as they're lovely people but they're so boring now and the friendships aren't fulfilling anymore. I'm now in the process of trying to make friends with more childfree people near me. I'm lucky I have a few childfree friends already, but I feel I'd like to "find my childfree tribe" as they say! It's a learning curve, but ultimately we're never alone 😊

Met my wife at 25. Planned our marriage out. Got married at 32. We traveled and did everything a million times over. We had problems having kids. We had kids by 37. Life was pretty boring. You can only wine taste so many times as a married couple. I respect anyone who does not want kids. The first 3 years is rough. After that. It’s amazing. I love coming home and my kids hug me. It’s so fun showing them new things. Going on vacations to Hawaii etc. My wife and I would never take a vacation without our kids. We had 10 years plus of no kids. My kids are 9. All of my planning before I had kids paid off. I don’t have to work hard and extra hours anymore. My house is paid off. We go on big vacations 2 times a year. We have lots of help from retired parents and aunts etc. I spend all of my time with my kids and wife. I meet a lot of people who don’t want to have kids. It will only work if you agree on it and talk long term plans. I have met a lot of men who had kids and don’t want anymore and changed their mind when their gf or new wife wanted kids. Seen others reach 40 and have a mid life crisis and then want kids.

I’m an anxious mess to begin with, some health issues, the lack of desire is a big one. And my worst nightmare was getting pregnant (despite there being zero chance since I’m an asexual and single person.) and in college I was so massively offended when my friends says: “We all bet you’ll be the first one to have children of us all.” I prefer fur kids. If I want to nurture something? I have plants and animals around me to nurture. The list goes on. On the pro side? Empty.

All these reasons resonate with me! I am in my early twenties, and I have never had any desire to become a parent, beyond on some abstract, purely theoretical level. Simply not wanting kids is a 100% valid reason for not having them! I got out of a relationship where there was an age difference earlier this year. My (now ex) partner kept bringing up kids, asking me "when I'd feel comfortable having kids", etc. I felt nothing but dread at those prospects. So nope, parenting is not for me.

I am also a worrier which causes me so much anxiety and stress, I won’t be able to function properly. Just taking care of my dog is difficult at times, I don’t think I could handle a kid. I think one of my top reasons too is how much I hated school growing up. Bullying, terrible curriculum, bad influences. I like the idea of homeschooling vs public school, but I believe I need my work to feel content in life.

Having NO kids at all CAN'T be selfish.😌

Hello, Thank you for this channel and video. I am 33 and have decided ever since I could remember mainly age 16; that I didn't want children. Of course that small percentage has been in back of my mind. However, the higher percentage of my decision overpowers that small %. As far as worrying like you mentioned, I worry like crazy it gives me a lot of anxiety and just the thought of having to raise a child and all that comes with it is something I do not desire. Apologies to anyone who gets offended, it is not my intention in any way, shape, or form. Sincerely, Cindy

This apartment is beautiful!

The reason I choose not to have kids is because for 1 kids are very expensive and 2 parenting is to much work and it could be very stressful. I'm am happy to childfree 🎉🎉🎉🎉

This is so refreshing. I get negative reactions all the time when I say I’m married but don’t want kids. It’s almost like a conversation stopper lol. There was this great video I watched from TED Talks where the presenter made a point to stop saying childless. There is an implication to that that I’m missing something. It’s amazing how a change in language can make a huge difference in your mindset.

I (27, male, USA) can definitely relate to all the reasons you mentioned but another big one for me is the environment. The planet doesn’t have very good future prospects, and the world is already overpopulated. And having just one kid is exponentially worse for the environment than eating meat, flying, or anything else really. With that and everything else, bringing kids into this world doesn’t feel right.

Your channel is gonna grow. Excellent editing and video quality

Great video. I’m so glad I found your channel. I have endured discrimination at work and in my own family for my choices. I got married in my late twenties and we did try for a while to have children but when it didn’t happen, I just accepted it. I have to say, I’m glad it never happened. We have traveled a great deal and have enjoyed having more money to spend on ourselves. All the reasons you listed were spot on. Keep doing the videos, so many, including myself really appreciate you! 👍

Hi I am 79 and no kids no relatives. I am happy with my decision. So many of my friends with adult kids fight don't speak and generally don't like one another. So think of the long term relationship with your kids.

36 F married Happy child free by choice

So happy I stumbled on your channel. I agree and resonate with everything you guys are saying. Looking forward to more videos! And by the way, your place looks so pretty-like your style. also enjoy the energy you bring to the videos

Thank you for this video! My top reason was lack of desire as well. I've never felt "the clock" or had any excitement around being a mom. Was also feeling dread thinking of child birth or trying to figure out finances / giving up our free time. Finally I realized, that having kids just isn't for me and that's okay. It is hard for people to understand though so very thankful for this new community!

The main reason is because I wouldn't be able to live/sleep in peace ever again. (Is he/she ok? Have they eaten? Are they cold? What is somebody kidnap them? What is somebody $3xualy assault them? What if they have a car accident? Are they ok? Do they have some mental illness that I am not aware? Will they turn out to be the next school shooters? Are they REALLY safe? What if they get cancer? What if their spouses beat them? What if they get adicto to meth or heroin? What if they are outcasts? Hell no.

I tell people I can’t conceive & I tell my doctors my husband don’t want them & people have no rebuttal. When I State that I don’t want kids, I get attacked.

Great video. I love kids, too. I’m a teacher. But I am so grateful to send them home at the end of the day. Parenting is a 24 hour job and I’m not interested in that. I also have nieces and nephews whom I love to hang out with, but again, send them home to their parents when I’m ready.

I got you in worrying for everyone.! That's me. Life can be so hard when you are like this. Just turn 37 giving it a lot of thought in whether or not having children.

Good content! I am approaching 50 and childfree by choice and circumstances. I don't regret the decision of not having any children.

I’m loving this channel, the quality of the videos are great and I love your vibe! Sometimes I don’t always want to share my decision to not have children because of the reaction, but I want to grow to be more open about it.

If relationships become more equal like in terms of sharing the responsibilities of housework and childcare, then maybe more women would be interested in having kids.

I made a very conscious choice to not procreate for many reasons. I’m a worrier too! There’s that and a lack of desire to be responsible for other humans 24/7 for YEARS! I also had so much responsibility for others when I was younger. One of the biggest reason was mental health. With a family history of mental health issues, I did not want to pass on those genes and risk having a child with mental health issues akin to what I see in and have been subjected to from family members.

My childfree life was born in part by circumstances and in part by choice. I never had the strong desire the way some people do but at different phases of my life it was palpable. Me and my husband tried to conceive and it didn't work out. I had mounting health issues, he was switching careers and I couldn't get pregnant naturally. At some point, when we were in our early 40s we just decided that this wasn't in the cards for us. That despite having a desire there were other things that now felt more significant to focus on. I think predominantly what happened was that by the time we were in our 40s being confronted with a choice on how far to pursue having a child we realized how happy we had been without one. Prior to that there was still a thought that maybe people need that relationship. But at 40 something we realized our lives felt great and we loved where we were at. So I may not have fully chosen it but I've come to find a lot of celebration in where we are.

Not about having or not having. It's about following your heart either way that is your best guide. Don't let fear prevent you from having them or not having them. Follow YOUR truth 💕💕

Wow! Kudos to you for creating this space and talking about a topic that is not talked about enough. Our reason is your number 1. I can't wait to watch more of your videos!

Just found your channel and subscribed! I'm on the fence, but heavily leaning childfree right now. If I do hop off the other side of the fence, I will do it alone with a donor and be one and done. I grew up wanting a handful of kids, but the older I get (I'm almost 25), the more I realize I don't think I want that life anymore. I want freedom to do what I want when I want, the lifelong responsibility of being a parent terrifies me (despite what people say, parental responsibilities and worries don't just suddenly disappear once the kid turns 18), and I'm also a worrier. Even if my child grows up perfectly healthy and well-behaved, they may develop a severe mental illness or addiction later in life. Or what if they get cancer? What if they start hanging out with the wrong crowd and get into trouble? What if they lose their job and have to be financially dependent on me as an adult? You just never know and I 100% think you need to be okay with any and every outcome if you want to have kids, or at least be willing to deal with it and I'm just not sure I am.

I can totally relate to worrying about kids and their well-being. One of the reasons why I don’t have any desire to have kids. I’m more career-minded person anyway and I want to travel the world.

Can you make a video about how your daily life looks like? 😀 Curious, because really loving your vibe.

My top reason is broken dreams. I used to want kids but got insulted that I wouldn't be a good mom and had a heart break, so I ended up lost of interest.

I’m just too lazy to even think about having children and would like to discover my abilities intellectually. If I had children I wouldn’t even have time to read a book! Hope you understand 👍

August 1 Happy International CHILDFREE Day

Lack of desire is the #1 reason. The cost of kids, the shift in lifestyle, the anxiety (etc) are all great reasons that I could've overcome had I wanted kids enough. But I don't want them... like at all. The idea of pregnancy and childbirth is not beautiful to me in the slightest--I think it's scary, something you can't cleanly escape from. And motherhood sounds like a prison. My mom has clinical anxiety disorder and she constantly worries about my brother and I... and I have general anxiety also. Why in the world would I want to worry about more people than I already have to? My husband and I also love our freedom and flexibility AND our financial resiliency. Retiring early (or at least comfortably) is very big for us.

I love my peace and freedom. Traveling is life....having kids would ruin everything.

I kinda have a kid. She doesn't talk...she meows and purrs.

I am so happy to have found your channel! I'm dealing with a similar dilemma myself. Right now, I'm leaning towards not wanting kids because it's such a huge responsibility. The problem is, my parents seem unable to comprehend that. Have you ever had to deal with this issue from your parents?

If i ever want a baby then i will adopt one and love like my own. Everyone i know tells me "You're going to be a great mom" but i always kindly reply that I'm never planning on having kids. I enjoy my life the way it is without kids.

One reason for me is that I was force to take care of my siblings and not that I don’t love them but I feel as if I was already a parent and now I just want my own life …..I just think I nor the world have the resources to ensure trauma free childhood or disease-free life or consistent patience and unconditional love to offer…..I’m quite selfish with my time and I’ve been through so much that I want to spend the rest of my life thinking about me putting me first and not on children I’m simply too selfish for them .

One of the reasons we decided to not have kids was because we have 16 nieces and nephews that kept us busy and happy!

Society: "I want more sleep, more money, more time, and a better body." Also Society: "I want to have a baby." 🤦‍♀️