Decide to know what your parents came out of how they were parented where they were wounded. This will allow you to show them more grace in how they raised you. Now hold your head up and move on in the strength God gave you❤
sure...that most of us realise, it's not 'enough' tho, the partner we live with needs to 'see' it as well (and cannot), it's not surpirsing, the 'comedy' is too well done, smiles & kindness to 'everyone', they never lived what i lived and in constant 'danger vibe', which gave serious ilnesses etc. it's really not so simple, if one still is 'partly' hanging on, i'm still really afraid bc i know what she-they are capable off. I don't blame them, i know & see their trauma, oh i heard 'the stories' so often, sadly they did it worse than what they said about their parents. If everyone could be 'rather stable' before having children... maybe that's the hope for future genreations with all that is 'coming out' now.
00:06 Parent's attachment stance impacts child's emotional resilience 02:16 Attachment theory summarized in four S's for parents 06:40 Setting limits and creating security is crucial for children's resilience. 08:46 Hope for the future through intentional choices and awareness 13:41 Divisions based on race, nationality, and religion lead to conflicts and environmental destruction. 16:19 Challenging individualism as the root of modern psyche 20:43 Integrating the individual self with the relational self 22:48 Childhood upbringing influences living intentionally vs reactively 26:55 Childhood experiences shape our identity 29:06 Shifted from a competitive mindset to a more enlightened and calmer adult 33:11 Benefits of using the Pod technology for improving sleep quality 35:19 Parenting with temperament in mind is key for a child's thriving. 39:08 Recognizing a child's efforts is important for their growth and resilience. 41:14 External success doesn't always lead to contentment 45:45 Importance of feeling whole and coherent 47:53 The experience of wholeness in the womb and the reliance on others after birth 52:21 The human journey is about getting back to wholeness. 54:25 Temperament and personality are distinct yet interconnected. 58:27 Understanding the relationship between temperament and personality 1:00:21 Temperament shapes personality but lifestyle influences its development 1:04:42 Personality is defined by the big five traits: openness, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. 1:06:52 Temperament and personality development influenced by attachment and adaptive strategies 1:10:43 Competitiveness as a misguided attempt for wholeness 1:12:59 Cultural learned behavior impacts childhood upbringing 1:17:22 Identity and belonging are intertwined concepts. 1:19:21 Understanding temperament and seeking wholeness in different ways 1:23:13 Being in a questioning pattern helps in finding inaccuracies and improving quality. 1:25:07 Encouraging children to enjoy activities for the sheer pleasure of doing them 1:29:03 Developing an inner compass for children leads to resilient adulthood 1:31:02 Pure awareness is the source of thoughts and awareness arises from pure potential. 1:35:15 Open awareness and living with intention lead to physiological and brain changes 1:37:24 Operating from a place of Love instead of fear 1:41:49 Love as the connector in the plane of possibility 1:43:44 The Wheel of Awareness is a daily meditation practice for tapping into a more open and aware state. 1:47:40 Seeking receptiveness and interconnectedness 1:49:26 Understanding parents' states of mind crucial for child attachment security 1:53:20 Seeing and soothing children for mental resilience 1:55:16 Repairing ruptures in parent-child relationships is crucial for creating a sense of security in children. 1:59:12 Embracing imperfection leads to resilience and growth
I had such a rotten childhood I have cptsd I was neglected and was sexual abuse I told myself that I was stronger than them .and I brought up five children. I know I wasn't a perfect parent, but I didn't want my kids to have a rotten childhood like I had. I was so alone as a child had no one to help, and I needed help
I'm sorry that happened to you,its terrible.I hope you can continue healing and continue building a healthier realtionship with yourself and your own children.
yes... my experience is different than yours, result is same tho... no one in my 'family' of my age have children : no one STILL realises what happened... i only 'see' how cruel & mean my mom could be & only 'behind closed doors', i'm very ill due to that & it's also 'learning realising' what is really going on... not one doc even looked into it, i hope u could give y children what they needed. Cptsd & much more going on, regards from Flanders
It’s a bit too late for me. The curse was passed down from me to my daughter and granddaughter. I had to learn and study narcissism. My father a psychopath my daughter’s dad a narcissist and my granddaughter dad a wounded alcoholic. We had parental alienation problems, gaslighting and manipulation and lying. My granddaughter doesn’t even remember her childhood she’s 23 now. I am 68 i have fully studied narcissism. I am hoping late than never to expose the narcissist who had way to much influence in all our lives. Narcissistic behaviors in our family was extremely damaging!
I like the idea of focusing on the little victories of our child, rather than just the end result. Because really, if the child may fail to achieve the end result, it can be pretty traumatizing for them, and they may really gonna believing that "oh, doesn't matter my efforts, doesn't matter how hard I tried, I failed, and that's what only matters, so I am a piece of sh*t." Thank you for this really open and vulnerable conversation.❤
I'm so thankful to you for having Dr.Dan Seigal for this conversation. Would love it, if you could have Martha Beck and Andre Agassi on your podcast as well.
You rushed past the many infants being born from an already traumatic environment, into an even more traumatic life. Would love to know more about how we repair.
Haven't watched this yet but I have been brainwashed to believe my parents for 50+ years. It was/is ALL A LIE ! Everything. Yes it is very painful learning the truth 😢❤
Yes, it’s possible. When we begin to move away from parents to protect ourselves from the abuse, we get lured into their web. Usually it’s a gift or sweet talk.
