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No Questions on Political views or Ideology ? Was that his demand for the interview ? Disappointing TBH. It was a 'feel good' only about the bloke. He is extremely articulate, so I dont know why you used a velvet glove w. the guy.
Steven Bartlett your listening skills are on another level👏. What sets you apart is your ability to create an atmosphere where guests don’t just talk they reflect, go deep, and share parts of themselves that often remain untouched in other interviews. You don’t just ask questions; you unlock stories.
Steve has had many scientists and medical professionals on the show over the years, including psychologists, and yet Noah has given some of the most profound thoughts on life and human development. I will be listening to this episode again.
Agreed! Trevor's amazing at conveying his insights and knowledge in a way that's both simple and profound. Steven did a fantastic job interviewing and hosting Trevor, staying engaged and present the whole time ♥
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, steve_porassss . I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Trevor, Abel was my car mechanic at the time you lived there, I lived around the corner in Orange Grove. I read your book for the first time and you won’t believe my shock and surprise when I got to the part where your mom met Abel and everything became so familiar!! I couldn’t believe that I’d been going to your house regularly to get my car serviced and fixed. All sorts of mixed feelings for a man who I thought was quite lovely and a great mechanic. I was quite outraged! I am just so happy your life turned out so well and that your mom is safe! ❤ You’re a wonderful human. And you Steve ❤️
Thanks for your comment. I have also had a dangerously violent man in my life, he is so charming that no one would ever guess. Only those who've known him longer know.
Yes! I love that Japanese art form! Is that the coolest?. I was just discussing this last week with someone. I forget the name of it But it is a most beautiful thing isn't it? I am glad Trevor talked about this. ❤
My 6 year old daughter said “these two brothers look so alike and they are speaking nicely to each other “ and I agree. I didn’t want this to end for so many reasons. What a gift to have witnessed this. The humility, the brotherly love, the appreciation of friendship and most of the importance of good relationships. I feel like I went to therapy. ❤
Why wouldn't half black men speak nicely to each other lmao. I don't really get the comment to be honest. Black or half black people are not less capable of being kind or civil it sort of seems like a really weird thing to say.
perhaps the prevailing prejudice of people from Africa ..it’s so warm . The intelligence insight and humanity. The icons and models from Africa at times are not the best. Likewise from everywhere ! The depth of humanity is so great. Both are fathering age but as far as we know are not fathers. They convey their truths so well and digestible. Thanks Steven
This young man has more maturity and wisdom than so many twice his age. Yes, he’s been through a lot, and rather than descend into victim, it’s transformed him and given him real backbone. How refreshing and inspiring.
I've read Trevor's book. My heart broke, then soared, so many times. I cried. I laughed out loud. My husband thought I was going nuts, and kept asking me if I was okay. Trevor, you are a treasure. Hugs, darling, stay strong. 💫
This was the interview I have been secretly hoping would happen! Because most DOAC interviews are so long, I typically take a few days, listening in 30 min increments. Today, I sat down in front of my laptop, full-screen view and watched from beginning to end, with absolutely no regrets. I am always blown away by Trevor's ability to articulate emotions, complex thoughts and nuanced contextualities. But Steven, having you listen, respond and ask questions only elevated this conversation to everything I never knew I wanted to hear from both of you. My 3 big takeaways: 1. Growing up in abusive homes can make many hypersensitive to those around them and conflict-averse (you don't have to protect everyone). 2. No one who does anything BIG does it alone! (My mentor always says: if you want to go fast, do it alone. If you want to go far, Squad Up!) 3. Make friends a priority. You will never regret it. Steven, you said the bigger the subscribers get, the bigger the guests get. You didn't lie! So glad to be one of your subscribers. One of the best interviews ever! (and that includes the ones with Mo Gadet and Gabor Mate)
I've not avoided Trevor Noah and the Daily Show, but this is the longest time I have listened to his opinions and thoughts. I already knew he was intellectually intelligent; it is refreshing that he is also emotionally intelligent.
As a South African, I really appreciate how Trevor represents our country and its nuances to the world. We're such a complex people with dynamics that are intrinsically understood by us who live our reality daily..but he articulates us so succinctly through his own story too. Its little understood how blessed a country and people we are in RSA to coexist as peacefully as possible with every race, religion, culture, languages etc today given the gruesomeness of our past..the consequences of which we're still grappling with today. Nkosi sikelela iAfrika nyan🙏🏽
I lived in SA for 15 years. A real education. Knew some truly amazing people there. But co existing in the blessedness you describe? The men can’t co exist with the women… rape… murder… the crime levels are off the scale!
To me, he is. He is as well a top bloke. This interview is, for me, very interesting as per his perspectives and insights due to his life experience. No need to force yourself to like him. It's maybe not interesting for you. You be you. I'll be me.
The last stuff i've heared about ZA is that people cut the powerlines, because they know then the energy company will cut the power, because there are energy problems. Any person from ZA that i talk with tells the same story... "get out if you can". People cant even run a foodstore, because the coolers cant run without power, so you cant really store anything like milk producs or fresh fish/chicken.
@@DreaMeRHoLicWondering where these people live in SA? I am from there and yes, this SOMEtimes happens in parts of SA…but it’s not a consistent standard…so? Not sure where these people live that spoke to you…pls share?
@@DreaMeRHoLicwe are not going anywhere. Every country has its problems and some of us are happy to live through the good and the bad. Power problems are being restored and the government is investing in renewable energy. I think you are meeting a lot of disgruntled SA expats.
One of the most powerful conversations on so many levels. Personal, psychoanalytical, social, political, where to end. In a tone of voice that is absolutely brilliant to listen to and be able to absorb, and feel the emotions without being overwhelmed. Thank you for this!!! Respect in every word and sharing!
As a 31 year old woman who got diagnosed with ADHD at 29, has suffered from anxiety & depression her whole life, it’s interviews like this that make me feel like I’m not alone. I too come from a country with a lot of problems and grew up in an unprivileged world post-war. It’s interesting how I never thought me and a celebrity from across the world would have so much in common.
As you said ppl from across the world can have similar experiences. I am 29 right now... Just got diagnosed after finding out on my own that i had ADHD and struggling to find experts to confirm it... All my life I had to bury all of my anxiety & depression to put up a front. I was a man i had to BE strong... I had a bad physical disability so i could not burden others by being anxious and depressed... It was not sustainable ahahah. Right now despite having suffered professional and social setbacks from the undiagnosed ADHD i have never been happier... I am getting treatment via Ritalin and it is working VERY well... I feel like i can do SO MUCH more...
cheers from 34 yo who find out about all of that 5 months ago. From perspective of time, ADHD ruined my life (university time especially as life experience). Lucky to be affected by small short depression episode. Plus I had luck to meet my best friend 2 years ago via tinder. Good stuff.
Trevor is such an eloquent speaker with such a strong grip on human psychology and philosophy. Never seen this side of him! Thoroughly enjoyed this convo
How was this over 2 1/2 hours long! Felt like it flew by. Trevor is an amazing human-his mother-simply out of this world! We need more Trevors, and even more Patricias! 💛
My two favourite people on the planet. Two men who are compassionate, kind, curious, committed to learning and self growth; developing self insights and valuing vulnerability as one of our greatest strengths. May the two of you continue to learn and grow and share the journey with the rest of us. The shared experience... your theme park experience was a great example of valuing people as opposed to things and activities.
This was incredibly healing and heartwarming to watch, especially for someone who grew up in a toxic, patriarchal community where showing emotions and vulnerability was seen as a weakness.
This episode feels like a conversation between two friends. Sharing experiences and highlighting parts of one another’s lives that impacted them most. Amazing chemistry between the two of you. Love this ❤
You mean they arent friends?????? Kidding ;) Steven does it Always with the best guests - Africa, Glucose Goddess, James Sexton, i Always felt they are kinship
From the dawn of public discourse to now, no conversation has been this phenomenal for the ADHD population. This is the ultimate interview for ADHD individuals in history. Thank you, Steven.
I have always thought that Trevor's comedy was the flip side of a dark time. The pure authenticity of what he created laughter from could have only been pain, evolved. What an ability to articulate emotions! This kind of awareness is priceless. These two are born from a familiar place and their choice to embrace vulnerability if nothing, validates their ultimate purpose. Power to them.
Born a crime is the best book i have ever read, it feels like you are walking with Trevor through his journey. I laughed, i cried, i mulled over the very meaning of life. What an amazing human being.
Its not easy being a propagandist either. Think of all the times he was so tired and depressed, having to get on TV and recite liberal agenda talking points.
Steven Bartlett, your knack for listening is truly impressive! You have a unique ability to create a space where guests feel comfortable exploring their thoughts and emotions. Instead of just asking questions, you invite them to share their personal journeys in a way that feels genuine and impactful.
Dear Trevor, deep love from a grandmother in New Zealand. I grew up in an unsafe household, I would freeze like an animal does, until I was in my forties. It was quite often a mental freezing, people usually didn’t notice. I love your book. Sending big hugs. You are marvellous 🤗💙🌺💐🇳🇿
I am South African living in Sweden. I grew up under apartheid in South Africa. It is like hearing my own story . Because I know, I am sorry that you had to go through all you are going through. Thank you for sharing so honestly🙏🏻.
I've never had someone so accurately describe my experience as a child and current situation in my life. Thanks for having Trevor and thank you for your words, Trevor.
Steven, I'm a 54-year-old black woman from very very poor beginnings. What I wish for you to read is (thank you) for every video I've had a chance to watch, listen to, and learn from... I'm still in a state of a humble life, but you and your staff have given this basic human a look into the other side of thinking. Which is always an eye opener. Thank you and your Staff😊
Trevor is such an introspective, intellectual person. I have never been into celebrity culture or had a celebrity crush, BUT, I pray that I get to meet/have a discussion with Trevor Noah in this lifetime. And he is funny!☺️
You describe it perfectly I’ve almost given up trying to describe what life is like for me with adhd it’s so exhausting when the ppl around you have no comprehension of what one’s trying to describe It’s exhausting living like this and it’s exhausting trying to get understanding of others Thankyou for a clear and concise expression of words that explains so much
00:05 Untreated ADHD depression led to struggles with meaning in life 01:53 Trevor Noah reflects on the important elements of his upbringing 05:52 Trevor Noah grew up in a unique and complicated racial environment in South Africa. 07:57 Trevor grew up in apartheid South Africa and didn't initially feel the emotional impact. 11:58 Early childhood trauma can have a significant impact on mental health conditions like ADHD 14:02 Trevor Noah reflects on his childhood experiences shaping his reality 18:08 Impact of childhood trauma on perception and relationships 20:04 Trevor Noah reflects on childhood trauma and its impact on adult relationships. 23:44 Trevor Noah recalls a traumatic moment from his past 25:38 Hyper-sensitivity developed by children in abusive households for protection. 29:14 Trevor disrupts conversations to protect those who can't protect themselves 31:18 Trevor faced a moment of intense panic and grief when his mother was shot. 34:56 Surviving a near-fatal incident led to a miraculous outcome and challenged beliefs. 36:58 Justice system fails to serve women affected by domestic violence. 40:59 Managing anger and pain in therapy 42:48 Forgiveness and Understanding Towards Father Figure 46:33 The state of young men's mental health is concerning 48:17 War provided a sense of purpose to a whole generation of young men. 51:48 Declining middle class and economic effects on relationships 53:30 Impact of mega corporations on society 56:39 Men struggle with connecting due to societal changes. 58:20 Emotional expression and connection learned from the previous generation 1:01:26 Online connections can lead to deep friendships 1:03:02 The limiting factor for men in society is the lack of emotional outlet. 1:06:28 Importance of friendship and connection in life evolution 1:08:08 Beware of bad friends influencing your mental health 1:11:26 The value of strong friendships in personal growth. 1:13:04 Immigrants driven by toxic fuel to succeed 1:16:31 Anonymity allows for rewriting our story and perspective on life 1:18:22 The downsides of fame and the impact on mental health 1:21:42 Realized love for theme parks was about spending time with friends, not just the rides. 1:23:26 Friction adds value and appreciation to experiences. 1:26:51 Facing backlash for perceived role in John Stewart's departure 1:28:34 Choosing how to handle challenges is crucial for success. 1:32:02 Trevor Noah's recounts John Stewart's advice to stay despite feeling disliked. 1:33:41 John Stewart faced criticism but proved his critics wrong 1:36:53 Perseverance is not an individualistic pursuit 1:38:26 Success requires the support of others 1:41:49 Trevor Noah talks about knowing when it's time to move on 1:43:32 Pandemic made Trevor reevaluate work-life balance. 1:47:12 Realizing the value of personal connections during the pandemic. 1:48:56 Trevor struggled to balance The Daily Show and staying informed 1:52:22 Therapy helped Trevor Noah physically and mentally. 1:54:08 Therapy is stigmatized but beneficial for everyone. 1:57:44 Trevor discusses the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings. 1:59:38 Trevor Noah discovered his ADHD after a friend's diagnosis two years ago. 2:03:11 Intersection of depression and ADHD 2:04:54 Struggling with focus and purpose 2:08:14 Trevor uses coping mechanisms and mindfulness to manage ADHD and depression. 2:09:54 Practice self-care before overthinking life struggles 2:13:23 Reuniting with his biological father after 24 years. 2:15:15 Trevor Noah shares insights about reconnecting with his father 2:18:58 Trevor shares his struggle with communication and love for his mother 2:20:38 Trevor talks about his mother and her legacy. 2:24:07 Trevor talks about finding value in relationships and becoming comfortable with being alone. 2:25:48 Trevor Noah's appreciation for a book and the inspiration it provides for all ages. 2:29:28 Embracing imperfections and finding beauty in overcoming challenges. 2:31:15 Questioning the philosophy of finding meaning in traumatic experiences 2:34:48 Trevor Noah reflects on erasing his past struggles 2:36:21 Find your people and place for true belonging and fulfillment. Putting in the work for you guys has been a pleasure. Kindly like and subscribe to show your love❤ buymeacoffee.com/gmdavid
This honest, probing, respectful conversation between two men capable of truly listening, reflecting & sharing authentically is such a gift to us all. Thank you Steven & Trevor - just beautiful.
Two masterful communicators that figure out life as the most difficult puzzle pieces. Then, reveal what they learned about each move and the insights or discovery of the journey metaphorically. Pure excellence from beginning to end! Thank you so much for sharing. ❤
The weather is always nice above the clouds. But if I were a bird I’d go dancing in the thunderstorm. I’d fly across the clouds just like light. I’d listen to the symphony of the thunders under the rain. (Zaho de Sagazan - Symphonie des éclairs).
One of the things I love about Trevor is that he is relatable, and it doesn't even feel like he is trying (unlike most famous people). Thank you to Steve for having him on your show. 🇿🇦 We 🇿🇦 Are🇿🇦 Watching🇿🇦
When Trevor spoke about ADHD depression, I have never felt so seen in my life! I have had this exact thought! AMAZING interview, brilliant conversation!
I have been wondering for so long what the backstory was for Trevor that was not articulated in his written work. It was a perpetual nagging feeling of incompleteness. Yes, he has been abundantly transparent and self revelatory, but there always seemed like there was another story underneath his storytelling. This interview was it-- and Steve your talent for assisted narrative telling is becoming legendary. Kudos. Trevor is such a remarkable human being who has had the world at his feet yet never allowed the supplication of celebrity bring him hubristically to his knees. Having been exposed to such a breadth of humanity and still able to see a throughput of compassionate listening and wisdom is truly a gift from God. I have never forgotten the interview Trevor did with Kellyanne Conway, who is clearly a deeply troubled human being. Yet, he was able to give her humanity and shame her behavior. I sat back thunderstruck. Only a spirit who has experienced nooks and crannies of human existence that are hidden from most people would have been able to head the conversation away from the typical traps that someone like Kellyanne creates. She perverts language for a living, Trevor elevates language for a living and it was a masterful moment of television. Trevor impresses me as someone who is able to sit with grief and see its beauty and pathos at the same time which is ultimately the gift of all comedians. They make us laugh to keep our jovial tears from transforming to weeping. I wonder how he heals-- at a point when I was near death, his show and humor created enough dopamine for me to keep going, heal my brain, soothe my soul. How does he restore his soul? At a biochemical level, who or what gives him the dopamine and serotonin he rightfully deserves? Metaphysically, where will all of this soul work take him and his audience? He has already accomplished so much, I shudder in anticipation of the amazing places he will go. I genuinely pray that Trevor is able to rise to a level of his human experience that transcends his wildest dreams of happiness. He deserves it-- he has given so much to us through his transparency, authenticity and vulnerability. God speed on your journey, Trevor. May the road always rise up to meet you...
Trevor is such a beautiful and very rare soul... so cristal clear in his connections to the world, that you instantly feel connected yourself... so immensely and incredibly inspiring... usually, I am unable to listen to someone for more than half an hour... I get tired or bored... it was a wonderful 2 and a half an hour discussion❤❤❤ all my respect to Trevor!
Interesting... I noticed the differences. Trevor is a 'people' guy and Steven feels most himself when he's alone. Both are deep thinkers and emotionally expressive tho.
I loved this interview! The part where Trevor talks about growing up in an unsafe household, really spoke to me. Decades later, it still struggle with how that experience has shaped me, or continues to shape me.
1:42:57 Trevor, you got me through the pandemic. Watching you shoot the show from home gave me a sense of normalcy. I loved when you grew your hair out.
This is high up on the list of my favourite episodes. I appreciate Trevor’s honesty especially about the last question about hitting the button. I have now saved this to a playlist because I'll absolutely watch again
I listened, I listened more. I cried, I listened more. I felt even more than your words, I felt the two of you listening, speaking and hearing and sharing….fully. I thank you for what can never be quantified, total transparency of your lived experience (lived by more of us than not). Thank the you both and Trevor, the greatest comedians are what you just expressed. The truth in its most human way. I thank you for myself, but in particular, for my son🧐☺️🔥❤
Trevor and host thank you sooooo much for being amazing. I am a man with pigmentation that has lived 46 years of life choosing to avoid social media but I travel every chance I can just to meet strangers and enjoy the beauty of humanity. You tube I have recently picked up as a time passing since COVID, I watch and at times interject when my emotions get the best of me. To all involved I can't express how amazingly beautiful this segment has been!!!! Thank you all so very much for this. I'm at a loss for words. PLEASE DON'T STOP I LOVE YOU ALL. My apologies for the grammar (eyes not be that bright 😘♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️)
This episode resonated with me so much, because I recently shared with my therapist that the lack of friendship was beginning to affect me, especially working in a high stress and negative environment. I’m working on building new and fulfilling relationships. The things I love the most about Trevor Noah is his depth and delivery combined with his authenticity and humor. I was truly sad when he left the Daily Show, but excited to tune in to his podcast.!! 🎉 Looking forward to taking in some wisdom from “What Now”. Steven, I can say this now, because I haven’t heard Trevor Noah’s podcast yet, BUT… I absolutely LOVE Diary of A CEO!! You are an excellent interviewer/facilitator. Please keep it coming!
"I grew up with top quality racism" 😂 Really enjoyed the interview, have always enjoyed Trevor's comedy but getting to listen to him about his life and his views on things. Really thought provoking content. First time viewer, extremely impressed 😊
5:07 When he said.. I'm conscious of choosing my friends because I think that's me actively choosing the people who are going to be shaping me as I live my life. Yup same here 😊 I've been doing this because my energy is precious to me need to share it with meaningful individuals in my life only. ❤
Able sounds like he may have had narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissists can be so charming - funny, attentive, seemingly genuinely caring - UNTIL they do not get their way about something. Then, all Hell breaks loose.
A very strong last point from Trevor Noah. Chapeau!!! Stop sharing the things you hate and start sharing the things you love. 💯❤ I have to work on this one myself.
This was one of the best conversation I've ever listened to. One of the best DOAC episodes, one of the best Trevor Noah interviews. So much to take away and ponder. Thank you Steven, for bringing out the best in your guest. This was magic, truly.
Sending love and big ups to Trevor and Steven from Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹. “Liming” and Carnival time is what keeps us sane and keeps us together in our tiny Caribbean island. We look forward to a good lime, whether it’s with friends or family! It’s what keeps us connected. A basic human need! Thanks Trevor and Steven 🙏🏾
Trevor has exceptional analytical skills and articulates his well thought out conclusions in a way nobody else does. He provides a unique perspective and has great story telling skills! I enjoyed this podcast and his book.
It's very hard to face the abuse we are subjected to as children. We want to believe we came from loving, functional families. But then we get old enough to see reality. It takes years to unpack and I applaud anyone having the courage to do so. I knew I was on my own by the age of 4. I knew that education was my ticket out. Many of us in the arts were in similar situations. Our talents provided an escape from the abuse. Hypervigilance keeps us safe, too. We over-perform. It feels great to instead relax, let other people carry the ball, and allow others to carry responsibilities. Many of us were forced into the parenting role as children in order to keep things safe. Anger sets us free. When we really work through the anger about what happened then we can start to look at things realistically. We don't have to forgive, but we can begin to heal when we reach radical acceptance. You are right about women finding purpose in life. It doesn't have to be complicated. Learn to enjoy life. Relax and value being alive. Then do what you can to help others enjoy life too. That is purpose. Toxic male culture punishes vulnerability as you said. There is also this expectation that men should be "special." That is quite narcissistic. We can all just "be" and our inherent value is there. We don't have to prove we have value. I am moved listening to this video and wish both of you all the best.
@@cellosong thank you so much for your thoughts, feelings about your childhood experience. We all grow up with many different emotions coursing through us not realizing what they mean or even how to process them. I felt that feeling that I had a pretty good normal childhood, Until I became an adult, then I realized how really frigging wild our home life was. How when you are small and have 6 other siblings, but You are the youngest one , that your oldest sister, first born is 17yr 5 months older than you and all the others ( 3 girls 4 boys. In all) are maybe 1.5 - 3.5 years apart . For me it was like having two families in one. Cuz my sister was graduating from high school when I was born, see where I’m coming from . She was setting off soon for college. My oldest brother soon left for the Navy going over seas and I am a small baby, I didn’t get to know them until I was much older. That sister finished college and moved to Hawaii !! That brother stayed over seas for many years, married and lived near Japan . so I really was only around The others. As they came and went. For the most part the last 2 brothers the older, one Got drafted into the Vietnam war . So it was then just the last brother and me 3.5 years apart. But he and I are the closest of all. It wasn’t until I was really close to maybe 45 or 50 did I finally get to know my oldest Sis. And as far as forgiveness, I get ya, I had to go through Addiction get Sober at 32 and understand forgiveness was not for THEM It was for ME, when I practice forgiveness I am able to see others in a whole different light 💡And now at Almost 69 yrs old and on my 3rd and Last husband of 36 years together, I am able to help others when I can, step out and live a peaceful productive life. Funny I wanted to listen to this episode cuz I have lived with ADHD my whole life and it has driven me down some crazy paths in life. From going to Nursing school to then leaving that occupation to working in the oil fields for 5 yrs then having a daughter. Changing occupation a last time, working in the plant nursery industry from 1985 till 2008. I retired from all outside jobs 2010 just doing as much as my body can handle cuz I have had 5 surgeries since 2012 last one 2022. they say getting old is not for sissies. You have a wonderful rest of your week maybe will meet again sometime time. May the light of the Lord be with you and all yours, peace be with you now and forever amen
This podcast is now reference level. The quality is just on it's own level, and Steven's willingness to always come from a point of personal curiosity is just wholesome. This episode is outstanding. I love the degree of eloquence. Two good hearts and smart minds giving everybody the tools to deal with depression. Love it!
Wow, this is as an incredibly deep conversation and this in public. This is a kind of conversation between two emotionally very mature and self-aware men that I wish I had in my life. I think the reason why people feel like they don’t belong mainly because many people don’t allow to explore such depths and open themselves up to such dimensions of human consciousness. Such a pity but at the same time seeing two successful men of a global importance and their a ability to have such a level of genuine, raw and authentic conversation gives me a hope that things will change at least for some percentage of the population and it has already started happening.
With too many young men struggling to find real role models Steven and Trevor are the real deal. I would love for these two and a few other real men host a talk that addresses issues of connection and what being a man means today. Great podcast Steven.
What a beautiful conversation. It was tough because it definitely felt like Steven was digging deep to hear a specific type of trauma narrative. I have noticed in this interview and others that Trevor is very careful both about the words he uses and those he accepts. It is so powerful! He is not afraid to invite nuance and complexity, and he skillfully and creatively will challenge the assumptions of an interviewer. It is inspiring and indicative of his practice of exercising autonomy and agency 🙌🏾💖
25:39 I started sobbing because I know exactly what he’s talking about. My friends also think that I have like a weird sixth sense. It’s a gift, but how one gets it, is heartbreaking.
I'm also in the "I don't feel like I belong anywhere" camp and it was interesting to see Trevor's mind break a little bit at the very concept of the answer being 'nowhere' or 'alone'.
This is the deepest and simultaneously the most powerful and practical conversation that I have ever been privy to. Belonging, purpose, connection. I feel sad for my 16 year old son because he is struggling in this difficult space but I hope that this space opens and offers him the freedom to do something outside of the box despite the obstacles.
We're here🇿🇦 our "Daywalker"😅 I love how Trevor is so open about men's relationship with intimacy/connection. Most girl dads are almost forced to, but everyone else seems stuck in cycles.
Another South African here. Lovely conversation guys! Trevor is an exceptionally intelligent and sensitive person. Thoroughly enjoyed seeing you guys connect.
Hi Steven. This is an amazing interview. I love how you asked the questions and the responses. Your interviewing skills and listening capability are impressive. Trevor always ensures (he contextualizes) and provides nuance in his responses. This interview is therapeutic; the insight, the vulnerability, and the consciousness are something we do not see often. There is a lot to unpack and learn from this interview. Great work.
Trevor, this is one of the best conversations I have listened to. You have beautifully shared how love and pain shapes our experiences and understanding of our family bonds and eachother. Your voice on DV, carries all of the unspoken words held in fragments in the voiceless so clearly. All with a simplicity, that connects many more experiences across the world. Thank you sincerely.
His thoughts on the empathetic and predictive capabilities of those who have witnessed domestic abuse are incredibly accurate. I have always had a keen sense of peoples intentions and nature, it has led me to nurture truly amazing friendships and relationships, but it can be exhausting. Once you've learnt to recognise when someone is wearing a mask, you realise that most people are doing just that. I find genuine connection and trust incredibly hard to come by as a result.
Do you ever feel like the government hides a lot about what’s really in our food? It’s seriously messed up when you start to look into it. I’ve been reading this book called The 23 Former Doctor Truths by Lauren Clark, and it breaks down so much of what we’re not being told.
It's the huge food companies and the pharmaceutical companies that are running the nutritional show. One makes us sick, the other profits off our sickness. Government goes along because the other two are far more powerful than it. 'Studies' and 'research' is almost all done by the same few companies and nutritional colleges heavily influenced by the Seventh Day Adventist Church. So we are given horrible nutritional advice like the food pyramid or the 'healthy' plate which have made us metabolically sicker than ever before. So before you know it, you're taking a handful of pills 'for life'. Pills to counter-effect the side effects of other pills. And we continue to eat what has made us sick in the first place because that is what doctors were trained to give as advice. They have become legal drug dealers and have to follow the standard practices of care defined and outplayed by the pharmaceutical companies for their own profit, not our health.
Yes, yes yes! They know and they hide because just like many "powerful people or group" in this world, they think they hold the life of others in their hands and that comes the dictation how you breathe, eat,sleep, think etc We're very controlled; because if we break things down, how many of us can just do what we want without consequences. Some people will say that the reality of life, but it's way deeper than that...
The fact that he didn’t hesitate to say he’d press the button, speaks not only to his love for his mother but also his character. He’s not perfect, but he’s amazingly good.
This entire interview was a joy to listen to. Thank you both, and everyone else behind the scenes, for making this happen! I am profoundly better for listening to this conversation, and have much to think about in my own world. I hope everyone has a lovely day and a joy-filled life. 💛
This is the greatest podcast I have ever listened to in my entire life. Even my ADHD self was focused throughout the entire podcast because it was very interesting and insightful. I really love Trevor Noah, and I also appreciated how Steven interviewed him and the way they connected. It felt like there was nothing left unanswered from the questions raised, and I believe that there are many things to learn from this man. So, thank you DOAC for inviting him to the podcast; it was very insightful, and I learned a lot.
That's right. I used to be the guy who would always protect and please everyone until I got betrayed. I am glad he said it and I am grateful you reiterated it.
I love Trevor Noah so much, he not only is so eloquent but also deeply emotionally wise, vulnerable and aware. Thank you for this interview Steven, this is one of my favorites so far. I love this man so much ❤
This is probably the best interview with Trevor I've seen so far. I love his podcast and like so many times after I listened to him, I wish I could be friends with him. "You survived and I'm proud of you for surviving but that doesn't mean you needed to go through what you had to go through." Thank you for saying these compassionate words, Trevor.❤
This interview made me realize how universal loneliness is. I’m a 33 year old mom who doesn’t know what country I feel I belong in, wishing I had a close friend circle. It feels impossible to make friends at this age and in the world where we don’t talk in person anymore because everyone is just “friends” online, meetings are all online, no one comes to my work office anymore. It’s just all very lonely.
I lived the same life, 30y old. Managed to get friends finally, and honestly it only came when I managed to be content with myself. Loneliness feels car less difficult when one meet his inner world. Activate imagination is a good starting point, should you seek for internal answers. Bless you ❤
I can only imagine the emotional and intellectual depth and capacity it takes to hold a conversation with a person like Trevor. I imagine conversations with his therapist, the bar must be so high. A testament to Steve's gift to lead such conversations with such high impact in such a natural and graceful manner. I can't put into words the value that this podcast, and these conversations add to my life. What a gift!
Makes totally sense what Trevor Noah is talking about, with knowing when to leave a party before all hell breaks lose. And you have to unlearn certain new things like breathing, wiggling your toes. Knowing it’s not your responsibility to undo the situation
