Cleaning Up the Kitchen - 5 of My Biggest Grooming Mistakes for Nape Hair

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Today I'm breaking down 5 of the biggest mistakes I've 'made in grooming my kitchen (aka nape hair)- the often more coarse area of hair at the nape of my neck. Hope this is helpful to someone and that you can avoid some of the mistakes I've made.

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@ohcarolina8671 3 года назад

Wow, I thought I was the only one that needed to clean up their kitchen. I've been doing mine for years, especially when wearing wigs. Thanks for a great video.

@vonniejoshua8028 2 года назад

I'm an older black woman and I know that area was referred to as the kitchen because the "kitchen" is usually the messiest part of the house or the room that needs the most attention. It could also refer to in homes back then the kitchen was in the back of the house. It was really used during the straightening comb era from the 40' through the 70's when black women were getting their hair pressed on a regular basis. It's really a negative connotation and I don't use that term anymore.

@1JoyPeace Год назад

Exactly, it wasnt a term of endearment. 💜

@ClaimedQT 3 года назад

I used to wear wigs to protective style and I would use small clippers to clean up my kitchen. I was really self conscious about high puffs, ponys, or updos but now I embrace it. I'll clean it if I want or leave it if I want. The natural hair movement is really helping combat the baby hairs and kitchen perfection asthetic.

@rachamus4674 3 года назад

My nape hair is more loose textured than the rest of my kinky 4c hair I usually just let it be. Sometimes when I'm bored I play around with the hair and twisted around my finger. It's the only part of my hair that I can "play around with" 😅

@rjmami8508 3 года назад

Same lol I shaved it quite a few times because I thought it was heat damage, but it just grows in straight-ish. I never test any products back there 🤣but I’ll test them on my temple or more definitely my crown.

@GG-bp8pv Год назад

YOU TOOOO omggggggg i thought it was just me

@kimberleyoneal834 Месяц назад

Thank you, im trying to help a young teenager. Your video is very helpful in considering her feelings and encouraging to also help her love her hair.

@popcornxxx1312 3 года назад

I'm natural and I leave mine as is. If I start grooming it, I'll have to continue the process to maintain the "look". When I had a press & curl my stylist would get her electric shaver and try to "clean up" my kitchen even though my hair was past my shoulders. I stopped her each time.

@sable7114 3 года назад

Yeah that happened to me and it didn't make any sense since I had relaxed long hair. It weren't any little curls back there it's just that my hair came down on the back of my neck. I itched and show irritated for days.

@aprillovelady7468 3 года назад

I’ve had so much trouble with my nape over the years. I finally gave up harsh gels and now I only use aloe vera gel. It’s moisturizing and provides hold for a polished look.

@candytoocool 3 года назад

I call mine Beady beads ...just like from Martin lol...I use electric trimmers to clean them up. I'm due for one now actually. But anyway, I like the tool you're using. I may try that.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Lol!!!! I remember the term beady beads!!! Haven’t heard that in a while. 😂🤣

@owamuhmza 3 года назад

8:30 that finished look is impeccable. This has motivated me to take charge of the savannah back there👍 I’ll let you know in future how I get on.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Lol @savannah! 🤣😂Definitely let me know how it goes!!!❤️

@MoniMeka 3 года назад

Lmaoooooooo

@1GoldenBreeze 3 года назад

I prefer the V shape of my nape hair and it isn't as tightly coiled as other areas of my head so I don't shave it, but I don't see any problem with shaving it either. To me, it is just a personal choice as to which aesthetic one likes best. Your nape looked fine to me both before and after grooming. I don't know if this is helpful or not but I usually moisturize and brush my nape and then put a headband or scarf on for about 5 to 10 minutes. When I remove the tie my nape is smooth.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Love this tip! I’ll definitely have to try the headband/scarf. Honestly my nape area can get crazy..it has looked even worse than that but I’m glad you think it looks fine! I also prefer the nape V shape but mine doesn’t do that. 😂

@a.mariedixon-jenkins 3 года назад

Excellent video! You have such a soothing voice. You did an impeccable job on grooming the back of your hair. I know I would not have been able to do that, it would be a hot mess. The only time I paid attention to the nape (or kitchen) is when I wore my hair short or up when it was longer. Now that I am fully natural again I can see the difference in the texture of that areal of my head and the rest of my hair. My nape hair is type 3 and the rest of my hair is type 4 (in all of its variations). Again thank you for this informative video.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Awww! Thank you!!! And thank you so much for watching!!! I too only really noticed the texture difference when I went natural..especially when I was transitioning. I’m glad you enjoyed the video. 🤗

@MichelleIjeoma 3 года назад

I never pay attention to my nape! I’m going to assess and figure out whether I need to show it some TLC. Thank you for sharing this video!!!

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

You’re welcome!! I think I have a particularly crazy nape area though so I can’t afford to not pay attention to it. Yours naturally looks great!

@ThePatriciaPatrick 3 года назад

I never heard of the term "kitchen" until I became natural but I know I have hair growing all the way as yours does. But I have always liked my nape. I actually don't prefer the short nape (if that is a good way of describing it...lol). I will take another look at mine to see if they need some grooming or maybe just some brushing to keep them tamed. Great video!!!

@efhawkins19 3 года назад

Another option to try is a battery operated trimmer, which cost under $10. You did an excellent job in that area, because you want the nape to look as good as the front area.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Agreed!!! I’ll have to look at the trimmer option. And thank you!

@NaturalMonty 3 года назад

So love you hearing you say to love our nape...I do, but like it shaped up too. Thank you for this!!!

@nubiankmtwq6333 3 года назад

My kitchen looks more like yours after you've groomed it so I've never felt the need to shave it. I guess I'm lucky 😊. I just don't mess with it. Though the texture is slightly different than the front hairline, I take care of both front and back pretty much the same way. Your tips and advice are great and very welcome. I'll show and forward this video to friends/family who may need this. Thanks for sharing as this is something that's not talk about a lot in the haircare community.🙏🏾

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

You’re definitely lucky! That’s awesome!!! ❤️

@mjgarner123 3 года назад

Great video!!! Your nape hair looks nice. I am familiar with the term 'kitchen' for nape hair and you are so right about the negativity surrounding this. Thank you for sharing. Happy Valentines Day to you and your Husband.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Thank you! Yea I wasn’t sure if it was mostly a term used in the south. Happy Valentine’s Day to you too!

@WTFVIDSok 3 года назад

I love your videos! No hype and all real. Unique information too. Keep up the good work!

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Aww, thank you!!!

@shawnshawn6070 2 года назад

Great job 👏🏾 this was exactly what I was looking for

@ellenriedesel5318 Год назад

Thank you. This was a very clear explanation and enlightening for me. I have heard this statement in my classroom and I knew one student was “digging” another but I honestly did not know what the issue/dig was about. I am a causation women but I deal with nape hair that makes me uncomfortable because it is so out of control and have been embarrassed by my nape grooming at various stages in my life too.

@TomoyoTatar Год назад

I don't have kinkier hair and I don't know if I have a kitchen or not but, I'm quite annoyed with my neck hair and this tutorial helped me and helped me feel better about if its not perfect. You did a really good job on your hair and I think its very well styled. I shaved a lil of my neck hair because I couldn't wear it in a pony tail without complete frustration.

@andreax7939 3 года назад

Thank you for this video. Our hairlines are identical. I have been using a small flatiron on that area lately.

@vixenred 3 года назад

This was a little shocking to see...I didn't know women did this. If it works for you though good.

@MoniMeka 3 года назад

Yeah, you have to or it will grow down your neck! 😶

@tamie7280 3 года назад

Me neither I've never shaved mine. I like it's "weird" lil shape 😊

@airceli23 10 месяцев назад

Came across this video in my search for answers to help my wildness that grows on the nape of my neck. I've never heard of the kitchen reference but I come from a Mexican background. My hair grows along the two sides of my neck, similar to yours. It was helpful to see how you groom your hair. It's kind of nice to see others go through this as well. I've always felt I'm the only one out there with this mess. I may just have to give in to the idea of having to keep it groomed if I want. I did try waxing once. Ouch! And I've even used my epilator on that area. OOOOOOUUUUUCH! LOL it works though lol thanks for the tips! ❤

@aidam5277 3 года назад

I definitely need to pay more attention to my nap this year.

@sable7114 3 года назад

Good information. Don't know if I've ever seen a RU-vid video on grooming the kitchen!

@yolandajackson1956 3 года назад

Hi I'm here for another great video 💜... love the new intro.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Thanks!! ❤️

@tribejamette872 3 года назад

This was a very informative video. I nver groomed my nape hair before but i try your techiques. Its one of my first places to go grey as well for me.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Interesting!!! I’ve started getting more and more gray at my front edges. 😭 Been pulling them out, which I know isn’t good..but it may be time to for me to start coloring.

@tribejamette872 3 года назад

@@EfficientlyNatural Oh I have been grey along my front hairline since my mid 20's. My nape and other areas of my head started early 30's. So i have been dying my hair for about 20 yrs. However since I have been natural, almost 6 yrs, for reason i dye as often. Maybe its because one has to be in a clear relaxed state of mind to do theid natural hair. That day would involve dye, shampoo deep condition and style. That is a full day. Now nape grooming.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Lol! Being natural is a lot of work for sure!

@Sunshine-vm8oo 3 года назад

Very good video, I needed this

@inspirestrength505 3 года назад

I shave the nape of my neck too to even up that area to look neat. I had to be careful because sometimes I shave off more than I am suppose to. I am Caribbean so we don't say kitchen. xoxo

@owamuhmza 3 года назад

My nape hair wiry😆 I don’t mess with it.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

😂🤣😅

@MoniMeka 3 года назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@seriphingritly6745 3 года назад

@@EfficientlyNatural nice video like always, I have a question for you about the supplement, did you take the biotin and msm in one pill or separate?

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Separately

@seriphingritly6745 3 года назад

@@EfficientlyNatural thank you for reply yo me👍

@ThePookie25 3 года назад

I love your videos so much!

@yolandajackson1956 3 года назад

Great video... happy grooming ❤

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Thank you!!! ❤️❤️

@indriadrayton1132 3 года назад

You can lose the hair on your nape if it isn't cared for.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Absolutely!

@coreenamusic 3 года назад

Kitchen was def a common term growing up, I am born and raised in the north and I’m surprised so many Black women are like...”never heard of it called kitchen” interesting...is it because I’m older? Anyway thanks for the reminder to keep the kitchen clean!

@Aiesha1981 3 года назад

I truly love 💕 your videos and you are beautiful! I know I’m late asking this question but how can you do the tier 1 method with twist? I know after we two strand twist our hair we are to add synthetic hair and twist over our twist but how to do that?

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Awww thank you!!!! When I do tier 1 method with twists and synthetic hair I actually add the synthetic hair to the base of my hair when I start twisting my own hair (not after). I add the hair in a similar way as I did it in this video starting at 2:54 - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-LDAZX_Bk0hI.html Its slightly different since this video is of a flat twist, but I do add the hair to the base in exactly the same way though. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-LDAZX_Bk0hI.html

@Aiesha1981 3 года назад

@@EfficientlyNatural 🤣🤣🤣 I should have known that! Thank you 😊

@weaselbomber 3 года назад

I felt ur struggle with the trimmer and the mirror. When i do mine i look at where i need to go and then soon as i reach behind my neck using the mirror as a guide my hand-eye coordination chooses violence!

@naughtysims30 3 года назад

I am currently growing my nape back because it's sparse back there. Im pretty sure it's due to wearing my scarf knot in that spot for the years I had straight hair. Luckily there is hair bring back there, I just need it to fill in so there is no visible skin like there is now.

@sayladytea 3 года назад

Thanks sis !!! The bain of my hair existence. Smh. My hair looking A-1 but kitchen looking busted. I'm gonna buy some patience and that trimmer. 👍

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

😂🤣

@konpeitosama 3 года назад

Mine are almost straight and super silky, lol. But my hair is mostly type 3c and other type 3 as well as 4a. I think I have some type 2 as well. I don’t really do anything different with it as I do with the rest of my hair.

@FAITHDRIVEN3 3 года назад

Love this video😉👏🏽👏🏽

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

❤️ thank you!!

@brittneyr.5114 3 года назад

I shave mine as well. It looks so messy to me when I allow it to grow out.

@thetongueofangels1882 3 года назад

Honestly, im just worried that this will just become another insecurity for our girls🤦🏽‍♀️ like, im 17 and i couldnt care less but i know how the society is like over there in America so..😬

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Excellent perspective. I think if it’s something that doesn’t matter to you at all, then that’s good and you should continue to pay it no mind. If it does matter to you and you desire a certain look for that area, whatever that may be, then perhaps this video might be helpful. I don’t think it should be a matter to generate insecurity as much as it should be a grooming option/perspective/preference. For example some people like a more plucked or manicured appearance of the eyebrows while others prefer a bushier/fuller look. I agree that certain issues, even those centered around grooming techniques, can be made more complicated/convoluted due to our complex racial history in the US... but if it doesn’t apply to you then it doesn’t even need to be explored in that context. Thank you so much for the comment and perspective. ❤️ Curious to know where you are from!

@cheechee7890 2 года назад

I have this same problem believe it or not. Drives me crazy and I wind up pulling it and trying to smooth it every 2 minutes. Might try just shaving it. Looks so nice shaved off

@rosahealthyhair8646 3 года назад

Great vid and advice 😁😍🤗

@nattamused9074 Год назад

I’m a white woman, and I’ve never heard the hair at the nape of the neck called a kitchen. I think it’s cute. I’ve only ever heard it called a low neck hairline. Mine is very low, and it feels unattractive. I’ve shaved it a couple times, but I don’t like it when it starts to grow back and develops trouble like ingrown hairs. I also hate the way it looks when I decide to let it grow back in. I’ve seen some videos of people waxing the area. Thank you for making this video. My hair couldn’t be more different from yours, but I think the technique you’ve shown here might help me too.

@kymbell8985 3 месяца назад

Thank you

@susieredish1595 3 года назад

Lol..I have always said my "kitchen" My hair has always been fine and pretty even. I may have it groomed once a year. You did an excellent job in grooming your nape.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Awww, thank you!!! I envy those of you that don’t have to worry about it!! ❤️😅

@isiomanwabineli344 3 года назад

Hi, do you ever do cornrows?

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Yes I do! I have done them on my own hair a few times without attachment as well as with attachment years ago

@luciaescobarz 3 года назад

So funny. My kitchen naturally has almost a 3c texture and it’s very fine. For almost all my life I thought the nape hair was damaged, but it’s just thin and curly. 😁 I like to flattwist my nape hair when in twists our braids. Kinkystyles1980 had a beautiful video kn this back in the days

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

So interesting how the textures back there are so varied!!!

@flyleelee5351 3 года назад

My kitchen is more loosely curled, but I still like to leave my neck "shaped up" ...get those peaks off for a more even look

@indriadrayton1132 3 года назад

Yep!! Peasy!

@politereminder6284 3 года назад

I am an indigenous African. In my family, the concept of a kitchen didn't exist. Hair is hair. Texturism does exist, but not in the same way as in African Americans. I used to hear about kitchens and not understand the fuss. Thank you for sharing. Traditionally, some cultures here shave the edges of hair to avoid balls in the front and back, but it is not weighed down with the same history (though we have some historical issues of our own) my hair is looser at the edges and back, but it is interesting to see this from the perspective of someone whose textures are differently distributed on the head. Blessings 🙌

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Thank you for sharing! Where are you from? I am Nigerian, though I grew up in the US and experienced more of a western perspective on this topic. Very true that texturism is experienced from a different lens and has a very different historical context for Africans vs African Americans. Thanks so much for sharing!

@politereminder6284 3 года назад

@@EfficientlyNatural I am Ugandan. I didn't know you were Nigerian😍. I enjoy your channel so much! You taught me to wash in freshly done twists. Much easier wash days. I grew up partly in the US, but spent my all important teen years in Uganda. My father always said coming back was the best thing he could have done for his girls' self esteem and behavior. I live in Uganda now and have no regrets. We are one, all of us sisters and brothers all over the globe 💞

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

I’m so glad my channel has been helpful! Yes I completely believe it when your dad says moving back to Ugandan was good for self-esteem! Nice to meet a fellow African sister. 🤗

@arewahaircaretv8718 2 года назад

I'm a Nigerian from the North...I have never heard of kitchen thing. In fact it's a good sign when see you have nape hair.

@merandasmith8052 3 года назад

I always just gel the nap down like crazy. I never even knew I had to do something extra, I guess this is long hair growth super knowledge. -Also small youtuber here if you want black girl confidence and selflove advice check me out.

@anikaparker1077 Год назад

"Kitchen" is not a negative reference. The "front room" is the living room, and the "kitchen" is usually located at the rear of the house. And beginning from the south has nothing to do with the use of there reference.

@V2B2010 Год назад

I’m def guilty of the overgrooming and removed hair a little too far up

@thevanessakay Год назад

I just want to learn to grow it. It sucks when your hair is long and ponytails and buns are so cute, but that nape part of the hair ruins the slick style.

@eddielongo7770 2 года назад

You can use a soothing lotion after you clean up your nap. I would definitely do this for my Queen...if I had one....

@MooMilkMilk 3 года назад

I wish I had a kitchen. I literally don't have any hair there. My neck is just straight up bald up til about the height of my ears 😔

@1JoyPeace Год назад

We used to just get "a shape up" at the beauty parlor or barber shop as part of a regular appointment utilizing clippers. An easy solution to prevent damage from hair coming in contact with clothing or friction breakage is make 1/2 horizontal cornrows/braids at the base of the nap instead of twisting this portion into the back of the hair. Depending on how I end up wearing my hair I can than let the ends hang or pin up depending on how I than wear my hair.

@dorothylisbon1789 3 года назад

I recommend you talk about no sulfates fast hair growth shampoo.

@Listening4n0w 3 года назад

My kitchen lays down naturally so I don't do anything to it.

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Lucky!!! ❤️

@lovinglifeseverymoment7360 3 года назад

I’m thinking about turning my nape into two locs. My nape is shaped like yours and I twist them separately from the rest of my hair. I use this etsy.me/2KikTYp to lock in the moisture at my nape and edges after getting out of the shower

@maroonhorizon1693 3 года назад

Girl. What kind of braids? Redo it

@ginamcgraw1679 Год назад

I've bking this but get irrational

@154angel154 3 года назад

My nape is wild just like yours Doc! I groom only that area as well. I cut too deep into my natural hairline before as well! I looked like an absolute Meat-Head! 😂

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Lol!!!!!! Yes!!! Glad I’m not alone. When it started growing back I was like...what have I done?!? 😭

@lornaduncan5273 3 года назад

2019 my nape hair was non-existent. Being home in 2020 and twisting and moisturizing them,I have

@lornaduncan5273 3 года назад

Back 🥳

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Nice!!!

@sable7114 3 года назад

Isn't that something cuz I have eyebrows after being home for so long. Hairs can start growing everywhere!

@MoniMeka 3 года назад

I cut mine with hair scissors, and I'm good to go! 😁

@EfficientlyNatural 3 года назад

Yes! I’ve done scissors too!! But accidentally cut myself once

@MoniMeka 3 года назад

I don't like my nape to look clean. I mean, I don't like it to look smooth. It looks unnatural to me, so I use hair scissors to cut it down. It looks better to me that way. I hate to see a smooth neck. I like that "tapering off" look.