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CLOTHES AREN'T CONSENT! Chloe's LAST video. | Halloween & Samhain

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This video was filmed by Chloe and Nina (co-conscious) BEFORE integrating. It contains mentions of Halloween and drinking. Please use discretion if these topics are triggering for you.
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@ellawolfe1741 4 года назад

I knew all of these things before but being told them by someone who clearly means every word they're saying triggered something inside of me; affected at least one other person in my system. It's a flood of reassurance that our suffering wasn't our fault. Especially for one of our littles. She knew these things too but couldn't ever believe them by herself. Thank you Chloe, for everything you've done and all the good you put in the world. I'm sure Nin will continue your legacy brilliantly. Thank you DissociaDID for every video you guys have made. Much love, Astral System.

@jeannebrdt 4 года назад

Ella Wolfe I’m so happy for your system, especially for the little you mentioned. No child should ever believe they are responsible for their suffering. Much love to all of you 💚

@tess2082 4 года назад

A little? That's really upsetting, so sorry you had to go through that. Best wishes for your system, hope things get easier.

@Ellie5552597 4 года назад

“No is a full sentence, and you never need to explain yourself” Preach

@appledrawss1353 4 года назад

Cheers

@januarywynter6632 4 года назад

PERIODTT

@baraalhm1135 4 года назад

Tell that to everyone I know 🤦🏻‍♀️

@pumpkinspicebleach5061 4 года назад

If only my ex understood what no meant

@dollycxrpse4022 4 года назад

my literacy teachers don't agree

@bryn7987 4 года назад

“Freezing up is not consent.” Oh. My. Gosh. THANK YOU.

@riverstylesnoble5996 4 года назад

Jenna Schlechty I needed this today, thank you :)

@bryn7987 4 года назад

RiverStylesNoble Same. The first and only time I tried counseling the therapist blamed me for what happened. It’s still sometimes hard to remember that it wasn’t my fault. I think part of it was just that medical abuse is so unheard of that she didn’t know how to handle what I was telling her. But still. You don’t blame the victim. Whatever has happened to YOU was not your fault either, beautiful. 🖤

@stephanietarsia8155 4 года назад

Jenna scheletchty sometimes therapists make mistakes or are not fully educated or they believe in something or the are simplr bad therapist but im glad that you stay with the most important thing: its never your fault. I hope you are with a better therapist or just wishing you to find a good one and that is good for you ( that is very very importan.)

@Em_Elizabeth 4 года назад

My mother told my sisters and I that there is no reason to get raped, just fight him back. 😐 I sure hope that if I ever have to fight a guy in self-defense, I'll get a powerful adrenaline rush and not fear paralysis because I'd never live "failure to protect her honor" down.

@fibromiteready2fight809 4 года назад

@@Em_Elizabeth your mother needs to educate herself. That is a horrendous mindset to have.

@nevenapeeva8283 4 года назад

The "Lots of love, everybody. Bye!" hit me like a ton of bricks. Chloe will be missed. Welcome, Nin. I hope you're ready for all our love.❤️

@matthewkehoe5027 4 года назад

Nin will get all of the love and more that Chloe and Nina got, Maybe more as we find out more about her!

@arielundrdasee4098 4 года назад

Saaaaaame. But I’m so excited to see what Nin does with the channel moving forward.

@OnlyMichaelJackson 4 года назад

Chloe's still in there though

@Hannah-pi5ly 4 года назад

I'll really miss her but dont really know her at the same time but this really hita me hard.. but i look forward for nin ans will accept her!

@JCaesar71306 4 года назад

OnlyMichaelJackson (Angel) No she’s not. Nin is her own person,not Chloe or Nina. Edit:They integrated,meaning they combined,so Nina and Chloe are gone now.

@jamieclose785 4 года назад

The phrase "No is a full sentence" hit hard. It really is a full sentence and yet so many expect an explanation they have no right to

@lizzmccaslin 4 года назад

jamie close I always say, “ I don’t need to explain myself for you to understand the answer is no” when someone asks why

@jamieclose785 4 года назад

@@lizzmccaslin that's a good reply, I never have the confidence to say I dont want to explain or at least I never used to. But that's a good way to put it because it is true

@lizzmccaslin 4 года назад

jamie close it definitely is uncomfortable trying to reinforce boundaries so I know how you feel. It does get easier with practice.

@jamieclose785 4 года назад

@@lizzmccaslin I'm glad to hear it will get easier because right now it's scary but hopefully eventually it wont be

@lizzmccaslin 4 года назад

It’s important to know that it may not always work perfectly, some guys are going to call you a b* or something because you’ve hurt their ego but you just let that go because it’s not really about you they’re just mad because guys who ask why are used to getting what they want by manipulating.

@RollerFoxx 4 года назад

Unfortunately the people who need to hear this aren't the ones watching it.

@thisbeem2714 4 года назад

Very true

@daivahataka 4 года назад

Or they are watching it but not actually listening/caring about the message. Being the top of the food chain does not encourage niceness and some really don't seem to care about societal norms or even basic empathy. ☹

@annarohleder7492 4 года назад

But it's also necessary for victims to hear it so they can realise what happened is not their fault.

@KristoferPaul 4 года назад

It may just be enough to get someone to stand up to a friend that is making light of or thinking about doing something bad, or to get someone to get better friends, to get someone to admit to/apologize for something they did to someone in the past. Once we are all on the same page except for the worst of us it'll be that much easier to make change.

@BellefromOz 4 года назад

I've started teaching my students in Kindergarten about consent. For those confused about the word, it doesn't have to have a sexual meaning. I talk to my students about offering their hand for someone to take instead or grabbing their hand, asking to touch someone's hair if there's something in it instead of just pulling their hair, asking to play with their toys instead of taking them, asking to play... I'm teaching my students to stop and think about a situation before they choose their behaviour or actions, to consider what their friend might feel, or what the consequences of their actions will be. I try to teach my students that if someone says stop, no, don't, looks away, ignores them, says "I don't want to play with you" or "I want to play by myself" that the other needs to respect that, even if it upsets them, and give them space. There are also absolute boundaries: no taking someone else's food, no biting, no hitting, no touching one another when the other is on the toilet because that is a private time for them. This conversation is not suitable only to those learning about sex and sexuality. It is suitable for everyone in their own context, and I believe should be mandatory explicit education everywhere.

@revelgirl1742 4 года назад

Mr0987654321abcde Bravo!

@BellefromOz 4 года назад

@Hullo There that's a different learning path in itself. My students are very good at sharing toys, but for those who may not be, it's a matter of having conversations with them about how they can best share. They can share toys, but the one that wants to share has to ask. Sharing when there is only one of something is a lot about taking turns. It can be with a particular coloured toy, with a swing, with paint colours. In that sense, the child is learning patience and learning how to ask for their share.

@iseeyouurloved1703 4 года назад

Agree! And about sharing toys, of course they can say no to a request to share. There is no reason why they should hand the toy over as soon as anyone asks. In fact, I’ve seen this strategy making children *more* spontaneously generous, not more “selfish”! They know they won’t be forced to give the toy to anyone who asks, so they are less protective over it.

@BellefromOz 4 года назад

@@iseeyouurloved1703 most definitely! I guess I've never really had problems with them sharing their own toys because they're not forced to. They know that it's their property, and they have the only right over it. And it surprises me, and makes me very happy to see how generous they are, even with the toys they love.

@BellefromOz 4 года назад

@@iseeyouurloved1703 also, children feel great when they get to do something and make a positive choice by themselves. How many times as a kid did you think "I'm going to go and do ... to be helpful, and make a positive choice" And then an adult turns to you and says "go and do this, do the right thing/help out!" And immediately you no longer want to do that thing. Just by being forceful, you've stopped a child from making a positive choice because they no longer feel like it's their move or their decision to do something right.

@megasourusrex 4 года назад

This is so bittersweet 😭 i’ll miss chloe but i know the integration is for the best, and I’m looking forward to getting to know Nin!

@mcfrog5473 4 года назад

Mega Me too. I’m sad that Chloe and Nina will not be there anymore, but Nin seems like an amazing person and I’m exited to get to know her.

@serenity0367 4 года назад

Yeah... this is the first video (besides nins intro) that I’ve seen without Chloe. I forgot it wasn’t her for a minute and was confused why she seemed so off. I honestly don’t really know if I can enjoy these videos the same way anymore :/ ...

@shawnnamcavoy5568 4 года назад

@@serenity0367, this was Chloe's last video. Not Nin's.

@reiettezenith1510 4 года назад

@Scout Dawson - Travel Vlogger she was, but nina integrated with her so now they're nin! chloe is like, still there, but without the name chloe if that makes sense!

@jadelove9871 4 года назад

Ok I’m kinda confused about this and it probably sound stupid but I thought that Cloe was her if that made since like the original ( I’m so sorry if that was explained bad just kinda confused

@OstentatiousGrace 4 года назад

I feel like I'm gonna cry in this video. I'll miss chloe but I'm excited to get to know Nin.

@madelief_67 4 года назад

Feeling the same way!

@Jesswithlessstress 4 года назад

Same!

@Em_Elizabeth 4 года назад

So Chloe isn't the "real" her? The main host I mean.

@basiarogers 4 года назад

Emma Loura To be clear, a host isn’t the “real” identity, they are just the one who lives in the day to day physical body the most! But yes, Chloe was the host, but just recently both Chloe and Nina (two separate alters) integrated, meaning they have now become one new and different alter who has both of their memories but has become her own identity. The name of this new host is Nin, and she did a livestream in three parts if you want to watch that on the channel. :) Much happiness to you!

@Hannah-pi5ly 4 года назад

Yea I feel the same, I teared up a lil

@sari9645 4 года назад

Can we get an updated “meet the alters” for the ones who’d like to participate?

@ehdizzzle 4 года назад

sari yes please!!

@googoogaga7986 4 года назад

Yessss!!!

@Adara007 4 года назад

"Nobody is entitled to you. Nobody is entitled to your mind. Nobody is entitled to your body, and nobody is entitled to your time." - Words I needed to hear. Thank you!

@probably_notbob5794 4 года назад

I really appreciate the “freezing up is not consent” I am so scared of letting anyone know about what happened to me because I was too scared to say no or fight.

@Rlove8687 4 года назад

Gail B I’m with you and I’ve been through it too. I hope you are going well or at least ok xo

@probably_notbob5794 4 года назад

Elisa Castro when someone is frozen in fear and literally SHAKING and crying the no should be obvious. Anything that isn’t a stated yes is a no. Silence shouldn’t be assumed to be a yes just because the person was too horny to give a shit about the other person involved. Yes shouldn’t be assumed when the victim is left bleeding for hours afterwards.... even for those of us who were too scared to say no, that does NOT mean that we consented. We were scared, we were hurt and most of us were probably scared that speaking up would make it worse. You can’t judge us. You weren’t there. Each situation is unique. I applaud those who were strong enough and brave enough to fight their attackers! Don’t talk down on people and situations you weren’t a part of. You don’t know.

@thelovelybells 4 года назад

Elisa Castro Stop victim blaming. Gross

@toriebeck3424 4 года назад

@Gail B that is exactly what happened to me. The first time it happened I left my body after trying to fight him but I floated away so I couldn’t experience or really know that that body was mine. It really angers me when people say just say no but there are different reasons why it’s impossible because you freeze and dissociate. People are different in how such horrible trauma reaction is. It definitely is not talked about hardly at all. After that it changed my personality completely so it was my first “death” where the trauma tucked itself away and acted like everything was okay and didn’t tell anyone. New alters were formed so the girl previously to that died. After that I started splitting because I had one trauma after another because that fear instinct (the good one that keeps you out of dangerous situations) turned off so I feared nothing. Another alter was the one that took care of the sex part. But I still dissociated from it and the trauma kept happened so many times. Consent? What is consent when I am gone but I understand the difference between being forced it upon me and me just doing it. I just wished that the public would understand trauma and people react differently to it.

@readwithme1182 4 года назад

And like more than just a sex thing for little kids. If you have a particularly shy child, forcing them to hug all their family members can be really bad for them and normalize the idea that they have to allow the touch because their family loves them and this other person loves them so they have to allow it. Consent with any kind of touch is really important. That's why i never minded when my mom would say "because i said so." It can be damaging to some children but FOR ME it taught me that my no doesn't necessitate an explanation; because i said so taught me that I can say no just to say no.

@readwithme1182 4 года назад

*i literally gasped no joke no lie!* "They like my comment ahh!"

@MH-qi2mf 4 года назад

Yes!!! My teenage child is very strict with touching, she's always been that way since about 6yo and all our family supports her right to choose as it's her choice! And me as a mother did think like you said that it teaches a child that adults or others have a right to disregard my childs 'No' which of course is such a dangerous pattern to teach!

@witchyvic 4 года назад

Yes! I have a 3 year old, a 4 year old and a 20 year old and have always given them autonomy. Not just with touch but with food and (weather appropriate) clothing too. It’s surprising the number of people I’ve encountered that have issue with it. I usually ask them what age they feel a person becomes legally able to make those decisions since all adults have the right and watch them tie themselves in knots trying to justify removing another humans choice.

@daivahataka 4 года назад

Unfortunately when you've a dozen relatives complaining and giving you "looks" because you really don't want to touch/be touched by your younger cousins, who you hardly know, "No" doesn't seem like an option. I've just learned to put up with it from family rather than open the can of worms that would be needed to explain.

@readwithme1182 4 года назад

@@daivahataka it's only something i've reccently learned too. I feel your struggle. I've learned to let the guilt slide right off.

@semi-marine-sardine 4 года назад

It’s sad to see Chloe go but I’m so excited to see why Nin does with the Channel ❤️❤️

@samuelsmith5436 4 года назад

I love the un genderedness of this video. Men can be assaulted to. Non-binary people can be assaulted. Women can be assaulted.

@daivahataka 4 года назад

Yup, assault is rarely about the victim, usually about the aggressor. While some factors can draw their attention to a paricular person they will still be that predator seeking prey regardless of whether or not you are the one to catch their eye. It can be clothes, gender, height, weight, something about you that reminds them of someone else, etc... I would advise to be wary of all strangers but then there is plenty of "adult" assault where the people are "friends". People suck. ☹

@phoenixmoon5580 4 года назад

Awesome video. Sad it had actually been thought to have enough importance to make! Also, it is [insert string of insults and expletives] that the [more insults and expletives] and negative type of thing is the least discriminatory thing!

@graceakdbakdbakdb6730 4 года назад

im not triggered for the same reasons because it’s more of an anniversary type thing but I’m so glad Chloe put so many warnings and made it much more suitable for me to watch xx

@Cups_of_Tea_System 4 года назад

Our autonomic nervous system has six states, not just Fight/Flight. We actually have a spectrum that goes: Lethargic - Calm - Active/Alert - Fight/Flight - HypER freeze - HypO freeze. YOU matter more than your clothes! Assault is about power and control. Not sex, gender, consent, or alcohol. Thanks for another great video DissociaDID!

@maddie-it1bo 4 года назад

Whats the difference between hypo and hyper freeze

@sofieandersen9482 4 года назад

I would like to know too

@Cups_of_Tea_System 4 года назад

HypER freeze: Your primary state is awaiting opportunity to escape, muscles are rigid, breathing is fast, HR and BP are elevated, pupils small or dilated, you may have cold sweats and dry skin, your hands and feet may be too hot or cold, you're likely to feel terror and may dissociate, you are unlikely to have access to your frontal cortex/executive function, you aren't likely to be able to have contact with others. To get out of this state, you want to slam the brakes on what's going on to help return to healthy regulation. HypO freeze: Your primary state is preparing to die, muscles are flaccid, breathing is too slow, HR and BP are very low/slow, eyes are drooping or closed OR open and fixed, your skin will be pale, you likely have cold sweats and dry skin, your hands and feet are likely cold, you're likely to feel numbness/dissociated or may not feel anything, it is impossible to have access to your frontal cortex/executive function, you can't connect with others. To get out of this state, it's noteworthy that this can be a medical emergency. From a therapeutic standpoint, you'll need help from a trained professional to return to healthy regulation. In the absence of a therapist or physician, you can ground based on Maslow's hierarchy with the caveat of, "start low, go slow." Trying to do too much with someone in this state can cause harm.

@Cups_of_Tea_System 4 года назад

Source: Autonomic Nervous System Table:... www.amazon.com/dp/039371280X?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share This is a resource I keep in each of my therapy offices to go over with clients, however Babette Rothschild, Steven Porges, and Peter Levine write extensively about this. Many people don't realize that dissociation is very much a physical/biological process.

@artlessknave 4 года назад

assault can often be a lack of power or control and a desperate, misguided, attempt to get some back, that usually does nothing but make everything worse

@sarahjane7383 4 года назад

I really hate when people demand explanations after a clear “no”. Explaining myself, and you belittling my answers, won’t change a no for a yes. In NO world. Really good video. Chloe always had the perfect words to explain and to mark. Can’t wait to see a video by Nin ❤️ I’m sure it’s gonna be awesome.

@helleswahn 4 года назад

Also it should be enough that you simply don't want to. But so many people don't understand that that's a valid reason

@phoenixmoon5580 4 года назад

Why? Cos NO. Yeah, but why? I said NO cos NO cos NO that's why. (Sometimes it is tempting to just tell them to write it out in big letters on the table in permanent marker and then just bang their head on that word until the ink has disappeared!). In my situation and circumstances, in the unlikelihood I went out somewhere, that would probably would be a random person in a specific location. (So I could attempt to sneak away and back to a safe lockable location!). We do not like being out during the latter part of October, (we are scared of zombies, and it is all people seem to dress up as!). We also stress out staying in. I've extended the 'no one has the right to...' to include 'you answering the door if you do not feel safe to'.

@winterd0tter 4 года назад

omg this remembered me about that "no, permission denied, no more questions" vine/meme lol

@sn00chie33 4 года назад

I held it together until she signed off with a, "lots of love everybody. bye!" I understand that Chloe's existence isn't wiped out and that her memories are still kept, but she was my friend and I discovered this channel at a point where I really needed mental health advocacy in my life. I'm going to miss you Chloe. I already have a soft spot for Nin, and I'm sure that this is way more intense for her than anyone else, but I just wanted to say goodbye.

@revelgirl1742 4 года назад

Chloe was the guiding force for this fantastic and critically important channel...I will miss her greatly!!!! Thank you CHLOE!!!!! Oxoxoxoxoxoxoxox❤️🙅🏻‍♀️

@shhmaya 4 года назад

"NO is a full sentence" DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAIUUUMMMMMMM!!!! Merch with that please!!!! Chloe, you will be missed in the way you were, but I don't see it as she being gone, she just... evolved. Like, people in their 30 look at themselves in their 20s and think they were someone else almost. For me integration is the addition of positives to make a stronger result. Nina isn't gone, Chloe isn't gone. Nin is both and more! Nin is what Chloe and Nina learned during their lives plus her own perspective of it all, since she has them both in her. I don't mean to offend, I hope it's not offensive, but to me feels like Pokemon. When the alters are ready to become something else, something more, they merge and evolve. But they're still them. And they're more than them. I don't know if it's a DID healing, I just think Piñata and DissociaDID are feeling safer and loved, and that's what matters. Love you all

@phoenixmoon5580 4 года назад

DissociaDID has chosen Chloe and Nina for this video.... They used 'style', it was effective. They used 'clear communication', it was VERY effective.... Your EXP increased.. Wait! What is happening?!.... DissociaDID's Chloe and Nina has evolved....Together... They have turned into a.... NIN!!!

@KaiLally9009 4 года назад

Lol nice Pokémon reference

@JSandwich13 4 года назад

I see the differences between Chloe and Nin so much with this video. I'll miss Chloe, but am looking forward to getting to know Nin.

@mstubeornottube 4 года назад

Cal I straight up miss Chloe 😞...a certain sweet, warmth and accessibility.

@adielagibayev7788 4 года назад

I already miss Chloe. I miss her charisma, charm and genuine care sound in her voice. So smart, wise, empathetic, and impartial yet very lovely and amiable. I love and miss you Chloe, and I am sure that others think so too. ❤️ Your advocacy, love, genuine care, standing up for people, for balance and equilibrium will always be remembered. Even though, I know that you're still part of Nin. It'll be difficult without you being fully there but I understand the role of the healing process. Much love, once again. 💖

@LadySakure 4 года назад

Love the witchy, earth mother look 💜

@funny.gon-12 4 года назад

I actually wondered what that headband was .

@PaxxTan 4 года назад

my cat kepts trying to paw at it 😂

@ghost.i 4 года назад

@@funny.gon-12 I thought they were antlers or something, but I think that they are like those dead tree/bush branches or a thorn bush

@ravengreywitch510 4 года назад

Girl same

@giorgiatesi8324 4 года назад

"Consent is not the absence of a no". This is something that really broke a veil of glass inside me. I am still struggling to understand what happened in my past, and not to blame myself for it. Thank you, Chloe. (And Nin!!)

@savvyelder4588 4 года назад

It was not your fault sweetheart 💜 you are a strong survivor

@thekarategirl5787 4 года назад

Growing up the magic words were "no", "don't", "stop" etc - when they were said you stopped what you were doing. If I knew as a child to stop play fighting with my siblings when they said stop people can respect other people's boundaries as adults.

@PurpleMonkey123 4 года назад

Such a powerful last message. She may be gone, but she has left a great legacy.

@xlivkittenx6161 4 года назад

This is so bittersweet. I’ll miss Chloe so much. Also thank you so much for making this video, it’s so important and you are amazing for doing this. Xxx

@sarahkillingworth1978 4 года назад

Aw lovely to see Chloe 💕missing her terribly as she’s helped me so much with my anxiety, panic disorder & depression. I found this channel so soothing & understanding. Lovely to meet you too Nin, although I felt heartbroken about Chloe at first, after watching your livestream I actually understood why the intergration happened & you must be here for a reason ❤️

@cheslocked9036 4 года назад

funny to see chloe after getting to know nin! i'm very excited to see what nin brings to the table

@albino_dragon2447 4 года назад

This “Lots of love everybody, bye!” hit harder than the rest 😭 I’m going to miss Chloe

@japitsme523 4 года назад

This kind of makes me cry. Best of luck to Nin and all the other wonderful members of the system. Rest well everyone

@beesbrownies 4 года назад

I love the speech about actions. Honestly, even if you didn't mean to do anything, take responsibility. If something happened and SOMEHOW I did something REMOTELY offensive I would totally take responsibility, because no matter what YOU did it.

@rosewinter4818 4 года назад

It's crazy that we're not going to get a new video with this voice ever again. Really hope you guys are doing ok! Hi Nin 😊

@beatemueller7830 4 года назад

The clothing excuse really makes me sick. If a person gets robbed for example, nobody’s says oh it’s their fault they dressed to expensive.

@daivahataka 4 года назад

I don't think people are actually excusing the perpetrator, just seeking how others can best protect themselves from becoming a victim too. When tragedy strikes one of the first questions is often "Well how did that happen?" Also you do get such comments if someone is robbed after flashing around a brand new iPhone/gold watch/etc... while there will always be some scumbag to set a new low most don't currently seem to be willing to steal clothes off someone's back (Trump hats yes so I suspect the probability of damage to the clothing is a factor in why our clothing is generally safe from mugging). That said, when they try bring it up in court that is disgusting as they are trying to imply the clothing somehow makes a difference. 😡

@beatemueller7830 4 года назад

daivahataka you are right with what you said when it comes to try and protect themselves from becoming a victim. I remember from a psychology class that victim blaming is a psychological defense mechanism. If you can believe the victim being somehow at fault causing the incident, you can feel safe by avoiding the same “mistakes”. However, putting the entire blame on the perpetrator is a lot scarier because then you have to believe it can happen to anyone, including you.

@daivahataka 4 года назад

@@beatemueller7830 it's a little sad since there are people who are almost 100% predator and will happily attack anyone so this sort of denial does not help a person protect themselves. I guess they are trading the safety of the added apprehension for whatever comfort the "it will never happen to me" offers. 🙁

@beatemueller7830 4 года назад

daivahataka yes, and they forget that in many assaults the victims knows the attacker. Stranger on stranger rapes are only a very small percentage.

@daivahataka 4 года назад

@@beatemueller7830 yup, wish I had some idea how people can protect against that, but these are your friends, who have earned your trust, how do you deal with that without becoming completely untrusting of others? 🙁

@Melodysys. 4 года назад

"Assault has nothing to do with clothes" well said, Chloe.

@jinglemcfungus 4 года назад

I can definitely hear/see Nina coming through real strong in this vid (a bit of Jade too but because of the topic it makes more sense that Nina was coming through)

@jamieclose785 4 года назад

Gonna miss chloe but I am so grateful that there is a channel full of content to watch to remember her by, and I'm so excited to get to know Nin better. This video is so true and its just awful the way people rationalise assault, there is no excuse

@sophiepalmer-doran344 4 года назад

hi NIN this is such a valuable topic that Chloe talked about and you are right everyone should give consent even if it consent for a kiss or hug

@feminismisnthatingmen4697 4 года назад

“Consent is not the absence of a no.” 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

@Hotchocolatemess 4 года назад

'The only person you belong to is yourself'. That's so powerful that I sometimes forget that myself.

@jennpod2378 4 года назад

When Chloe said goodbye and did her usual sign off, I felt a wave of sadness and said “Goodbye, Chloe” to my phone. I understand things change and integration happens and I am so happy to meet and get to know Nin, but for now, it is just a moment to say goodbye to someone who is no longer with us in the same way.

@ashli6969 4 года назад

“No is a full sentence.”!!!!!!!!!! This was said so perfectly, Thank you!

@kukukk13 4 года назад

"No is a full sentence" is my absolute favorite quote from the video. It's so powerful and important.

@SixthSensoryASMR 4 года назад

"consent is not the absence of a NO." That one hit me hard.... I think sometimes it's forgotten that just because you didn't say no, you didn't say yes either ...

@kitdubhran2968 4 года назад

This is an epic last makeup look for Chloe’s final video. And thank you so much for this video! Consent is such an important thing to talk about! ❤️ Hope you (Nin) and the rest of the system have a great and peaceful holiday, if you celebrate.

@marelle422 4 года назад

"Freezing up is not consent" really hit us hard. Thank you. All of you.

@wfroedgern 4 года назад

Thank you for this. I was involved in an incident and froze up when it happened. For years I’ve wished I could have had the wherewithal to punch the guy in the face but I just froze and never held the guy accountable. This is the first time I’ve heard someone say that freezing is a normal reaction and it really helps me to hear that. 🧡

@probably_notbob5794 4 года назад

Wendi Froedge I relate to this so much! It’s been 7 years since the same thing happened to me and I’m still not okay from it. What they did is not okay but no one takes you seriously if they find out you didn’t fight it :(

@daivahataka 4 года назад

No idea if this will offer comfort but even far smaller, unthreatening, things can cause a person to freeze. In my teens a girl hugged me and I completely froze as in my head I wanted to punch her but at the same time I was telling myself she's not trying to hurt me. It had been years since anyone had touched me other than for a handshake or out of malice so wasn't ready for it. I'd like to say you grow out of it so the next time you'll be able to defend yourself but 20 years later and I still freeze if anyone that's not a friend hugs me without warning.

@finnfarechild4607 4 года назад

Can we talk about how beautiful that outfit is for a second

@starlightreading6711 4 года назад

I would add that "no" is the default unless you specifically say "yes" and are capable of making that decision rationally. Great video, miss you, Chloe, and looking forward to getting to know Nin. X

@PartyInTheNZ 4 года назад

Chloe would be so happy to know that this was her final message to us. She'll be so missed, but I'm so excited to get to know Nin more! Sending love to the DissociaDID and Pinata System as they adjust to the change 💕

@ladyjoy3484 4 года назад

"No is a full sentence." I am beyond damaged and I know it but I feel like I really needed to hear this message in it's entirety. This triggered me and I'm dissociating but I really needed to hear this. Nin thank you so much for posting this video. I have/had so much respect for Chloe and Nina and I know that they are apart of you. I can't thank y'all enough for this. From the bottom of heart you have no clue how much this video in particular means for me. I'm literally crying so I'm going to go now but I just had to send you this message. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

@DissociaDID 4 года назад

Sending you lots of healing love and support 💞💞💞

@M4H1T0 4 года назад

Awe, i missed chloe😔 but love you all and nin, im really excited to see you in action!♡

@spiderpunk1265 4 года назад

Love how u said “whether you’re male or female” because it is as real for males as it is for females, definitely not as much as it is for females, but it is a thing, and as a transgender male, I’ve definitely had my share of experiences, and I know there are cis men who feel the same way. Just because u are a woman doesn’t mean u can’t sexually assault people, and just because you’re a man doesn’t mean men and/or woman can’t sexually assault u. Yes, it was way worse presenting as female, but that doesnt mean it can’t happen to males because it does sometimes, it’s just more embarrassing to talk about it when you’re male and ppl take it way more lightly.

@artlessknave 4 года назад

true, but generally under-reported in men due a number of factors, one of which is that men, in a very general sense, are sometimes so happy that any woman wants to touch them that they forget to care why. of course, there are probably many of those that project that onto others and assume they would feel the same way, which is of course not true. as Chloe says, the best way to know is to ask.

@noctiflorence9474 4 года назад

@@artlessknave There is also the fact that a lot of men feel pressured by their friends to act a certain way. They're often shamed for being vulnerable and told to "man up" or "be a man", which leads to them not reporting sexual assault.

@artlessknave 4 года назад

@@noctiflorence9474 and when they DO report it, it gets ignored or downplayed....similar to, but not exactly like, how it does with women.

@sarahhollander5379 4 года назад

Really want the “No is a full sentence” shirt people are suggesting!!

@TheEvilDamsel 4 года назад

What a beautifully strong message to be Chloe's final one before integrating! I swear I caught a moment of Nina-esque head tilt there too. Obviously, it will be sad to not see Chloe (and Nina) on the channel anymore (I have to admit I teared up during the sign out) but I have so much admiration for Nin for continuing it and being open about being herself. I think that decision took a lot of courage.

@SuigintouRose 4 года назад

this is an important topic for Cosplayers like me throughout the year at events, conventions etc. too ... Thank you so much for this video

@jezedrana 4 года назад

This should be on television! It would wake some people up.

@lmamd87 4 года назад

As someone who strips, this is a brilliant video. Thank you. Here’s the thing for me, I want people to look at me for sure. But that doesn’t mean you get to touch me whenever you want.

@sarahstraisfeld7151 4 года назад

Ironic that as a system, everyone has to take responsibility for an alter’s actions, but a single personality thinks drunk is a plausible excuse.

@dreamingvanity 4 года назад

Chloe looked gorgeous! I'll miss her a lot, but I'm so glad to meet Nin and see her from now on. I hope the system is doing great! (Also, first? I think XD)

@Sandheart11 4 года назад

I'm crying. I really needed someone to tell me it wasn't my fault tonight. Thank you.

@DissociaDID 4 года назад

It wasn't your fault ♥️

@samanthahekings4291 4 года назад

This is very bittersweet but at least we got to know Nin now, nothing is lost guys

@Echo_lalia_ 4 года назад

This is honestly a little sad. The topic of course is so important, I agree entirely and thankfully haven't really had any of these problems myself but generally I don't go out that much or dress in such a way or anything like that but I know it's a serious issue and so many people get hurt on a daily basis because of these reasons that people try to use as excuses for doing the horrible things they do. But also, I do miss Chloe but I also love Nin. There are many similarities between them of course but it's still a little sad. I do miss her but I know Nin is just as wonderful because Chloe is a part of her and I have always loved Nina too. I can see both shining through in Nin and she is amazing. If you read this Nin: I know you are probably still adjusting and things are difficult but I know you've got this. I am proud of you for having so much strength and grabbing the bull by the horns. You are doing so well, my love. ❤️ We are always going to be here for you. And in the words of Entropy: you are loved, you are valuable and you are valid. We love you Nin. Never forget that. Please. ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕 ❤️ 💕

@brynn-tato6185 4 года назад

The whole world needs to hear this.

@EmoScreamoFox 4 года назад

It's cool that the TWs were put like that. It's bittersweet to see Chloe. I hope Nin is doing well

@oliviaperry7099 4 года назад

It sucks that this even needs to be said, but thank you for saying it. Holding people accountable for their actions is exactly what needs to happen in today's environment

@Klock-Arts 4 года назад

Why can't I like a video multiple times? This message is so important.

@thecatnipisalie4412 4 года назад

I so appreciate your system giving a voice to victims everywhere that can't speak up. Chloe says it with firmness, passion, and kindness all at once here, something I really valued her for. I will miss her dearly.

@aaronwilder2775 4 года назад

You were absolutely right in this video, and you spoke with such an authoritative and passionate voice, it was truly amazing. And knowing this was Chloe's last video, it felt like a final message of power to give to the community, and I have no doubt in my mind that Nin will have the same passion and brilliance within her words :)

@mcfrog5473 4 года назад

Something I also think is very important to remember is that you’re still responsible even if you didn’t have any ill intentions. Even if it was an accident, or if you read the signals wrong, you’re still responsible. And that doesn’t immediately make you a bad person, it just means that you’re responsible and that’s it. It still means you should apologize and take care of the consequences, even if you didn’t intend to hurt the other person.

@mallorykneece47 4 года назад

It feels almost poetic that the last video Chloe made was one that hit so close to home for me. She helped me so much over this last year, and I was blessed to have gotten to know her. I hope to be similarly blessed in getting to know Min in the future. Thank you so much, and to the whole dissociaDID system for sticking with this through all your troubles. It means so much to me and many others.

@val5431 4 года назад

As someone who when encountering trauma situations freezes, I really appreciate how Chloe brought it up.

@AnushkaGal 4 года назад

Im so glad she filmed this video

@Ursuspaprikas 4 года назад

"Being very, very still [...]freezing up, is not consent." Louder for everyone who ever told me I should've fought harder 📢

@probably_notbob5794 4 года назад

Carrie D. Everyone should have that part on repeat until they get it through their heads!

@anyankapetie9479 4 года назад

When she said bye at the ending it really hit hard. I’ve been following you for so long and it feels like i lost a friend. We will miss you Chloe! And even though I wish chloe was still here I’m so excited to meet you nin, prepare yourself for lots of love from all of us!!❤️❤️

@Kate-dm6dd 4 года назад

Miss you Chloe!! Bittersweet video, but as akways educational! Excited to get to know Nin more and see what topics she'll talk about!

@littlelunanova2591 4 года назад

Thank you Chloe for making this really important video! I wish I could show it to so many people I interact with, not just around this time of year but throughout the year! Thanks for uploading, Nin! Can't wait to get to know you more!

@ColorEnthusiast 4 года назад

I think that everyone should watch this video! And it certainly applies at any time of year, not just Halloween. Also, can I just say....your makeup is on point!

@sherilynl4038 4 года назад

Liked and Shared!! sooooo much intelligence right here. "they may want attention, but not from YOU" Perfect.

@micaylamount2146 4 года назад

Chloe put so much meaning behind each word and really makes it hit home. Nin, I’m so excited to have met you in your previous video and I can’t wait to see what you do with the channel! Giving my love to everyone in the DissociaDID system ❤️

@ghoulsandroses6882 4 года назад

This is such an important video! I've don't think I've seen a delivery of such an important message quite like this, and I appreciate the blunt truth. Thank you 💓

@wrenoak21 4 года назад

*please* make “No is a full sentence” into merch! It has such a powerful message and I think that it needs to be spread around :)

@honorn5764 4 года назад

It warms my heart that this is Chloe’s last video. This shows so well the kind of person that she was - and still is, in Nin - and how much she cared about everyone and will sick up for anyone that has ever been in any kind of need.

@user-eh3wt6df3y 4 года назад

I known it says Chloes lad at video, but just don’t forget we love you to Nin. We will miss Chloe, but we will still love this channel and you. Can’t wait to grow with you Nin. Also tell Nadia I love her hair 💖💖💖

@gabrielleramos1434 4 года назад

You are loved, you are missed, you are cherished . we love you Chloe! Excited to get to know Nin 💓

@jesshicks91 4 года назад

It feels like we’re looking back over old memories of a person we used to know, like when grieving looking back over old photos. I’m sad to say goodbye to Chloe, but happy to say hello to Nin x

@riverstreets4471 4 года назад

I told someone about my assaults from one of my "friends". The first thing I got asked was "what were you wearing?" 😓😵

@probably_notbob5794 4 года назад

Ash ._.1104 I’m sorry that happened. It’s so hard to say how anyone will react when you open up about that... unfortunately most don’t seem to react in a helpful manner. It hurts. I hope you are doing alright now ❤️

@anakruger2412 4 года назад

I'm so so sorry

@keroessa0146 3 года назад

Are you okay?

@xstant1 3 года назад

I haven’t watched this channel in ages, and I forgot how Nin and Chloe had such different facial expressions. It’s really awesome!

@waywarderised 4 года назад

Can't believe we still need to be saying this. You put everything so eloquently. Thank you for what you do ❤️

@tonyaswonder 4 года назад

Beautiful executed!!!! This is such an important message to be talked about and educating people. There body is theirs and no one has the right to intrude their bodies. So happy you talked about such an important topic and dignified too. Oh, and your eye makeup was on point!!!! Gorgeous! 😍❤️🧡💙💛💜🖤💕💚 Oh and I choked up at the end of the video when Chole said by everybody. 🥺

@summerjones5338 3 года назад

I wish this video would magically appear on every single persons phone or computer and have to watch it.. this video is gold, and it’s literally common sense, thank you 🙏🏽

@TheAlipop13 4 года назад

this really is the best way to say goodbye to chloe she left us with an empowering and important message about consent and that just sums up how she was and how much she cared. that being said i can’t wait for min to continue the channel and can’t wait to see what she’s gonna do with it

@astraea4117 4 года назад

I'm doing my makeup while watching this and I'm trying not to cry oh my god. I love this video so much. I'm going to miss Chloe and Nina so much but I'm so, so happy to have Nin. As long as your system is happy and healthy that's all that matters

@nyx1408 4 года назад

Okay I highkey cried. I'm definitely gonna miss Chloe but I welcome Nin with open arms

@missmolly8152 4 года назад

Such a powerful video. Its also sad to say goodbye to Chloe, despite not not having DID the channels helped me through stuff, many of Chloe’s videos made such a impact on my life. It also allowed me to learn about DID, something I new nothing about. Thank you for all you did Chloe. All of that being said I’m really excited to get to know Nin. I hope the whole system is doing well.

@marijnadupre3298 4 года назад

This was such a good video! The 'eye contact' was so real. I felt like Chloe was looking straight at me! Thank you for this, i needed this!

@yousmellofhorse 4 года назад

Thank you, Chloe, for everything you have done for us. Thank you for putting yourself out there in order to better the world. You will be deeply missed, along with Nina. With that being said, I look forward to what Nin has yet to teach us and I look forward to getting to know more about her. ♥️

@MyChemicalCucumbers 4 года назад

there's a line from the show anne with an e on netflix that sums this up perfectly: "a skirt is not an invitation."

@evalou6510 4 года назад

God thanks so much for mentioning the “if they aren’t moving or saying anything it isn’t consent” so many times people assume it’s fine because the other person is too scared or anxious or anything to say no and get away and I wish more people could see this video

@technetiumai 4 года назад

I’m really glad you made this video, it’s so easy in many situations to feel insecure and invalid and need to hear this when society can make it difficult for even people who fiercely agree to make their opinions known. I’ve been working in either the Navy or a Navy shipyard for the last six years, you’d be amazed at what men say literally seconds after (and even sometimes during) our mandatory Sexual Assault Prevention and awareness training. The thing that really irked me in the training we had last Friday was that, on the heels of being shown that a very small percentage of claims are false, and as many as 66-75% of predators think they were in the right, they still believe that most “women (accusers) are lying” and that the “men (accused) are the victims”. As if that many people are sociopaths who are willing to go through all of that just to get some guy in trouble. If the vast majority of claims that are investigated by NCIS are shown to be legitimate yet the majority of men accused think that they’ve done nothing wrong, you should be able to do that math and err on the side of believing the victims, or at the very least understanding why there needs to be such persistent training to try to get people who may not understand what they’re doing wrong to see how their actions can hurt others. And make people who do understand what they’re doing to know that their actions are not acceptable. And what’s more, if you’re someone (particularly a woman) who speaks up, you’re seen as ‘sensitive’ or ‘annoying’ and eschewed from social situations because of it. Sorry, that was kind of venting.