CNA | On The Red Dot | S7 E11: Growing up in a super-sized family 

im so damn impressed with izzah and izzati. so polite, can do housework, can cook, can take care of siblings and most importantly their manners towards their step father is amazing

Literally shocked to see the stepdad checking on her phone. There are many ways you can try to find out who the girls are mingling with usually, but invading their privacy isn't one of them.

Izzah's incredibly well-spoken and so polite.

Crystal is so mature. Speaks well. I think she is more mature than her mum.

I personally think Ambrosia is suffering from some personal/mental issue that she can't say out and hence this is her way of showing defense, a defensive mechanism she took to shield herself from showing her real thoughts. As the parents have many kids to look after, it's hard to pay 100% of their attention to each and every child. Izzati and Izzah's stepfather should stop and should not even be intruding into their privacy by looking at their phones. They are at a sensitive age and from what I see, they act and know better than the so-called step-father. Does the Mum even know what her husband is doing to the daughters?

Tbh, if I have half sibling or not. I will scold them. Stepfather of Izzah and Izzati, please seriously treat all your children equally.

Zainal is horrible hands down. Izzah and Izzati are so sweet i wish he could see how mature and amazing they are. I cant believe he has the audacity to say ‘i dont want them to feel they need to repay me’. THEY DON’T HAVE ANYTHING TO THANK YOU FOR.

crystal is so wise and mature. she appreciates her mother alot and she is very well-spoken.

Bryan Lim seems to be having some psychological and learning issues. He should receive some professional counselling. Ambrosia Lim needs close supervision. At the rate she is going in school, with multiple disciplinary infractions, she will grow up to be a delinquent and get into trouble with the law when she becomes an adult. Mr Zainal should respect the privacy of her step daughter. He has no right to check on her cellphone. He is also showing favouritism towards his own biological sons which is causing a rift between his step daughters and his sons.

yeah, check the phone some more. One day when your kids start to hide things from you, even the worst things in fear of you, that will be the day you realised you fail as a father. Stepfather or father does not matter, blood does not = family. It is what is in the heart. Can I just say that the stepfather is treating the girls like some prisoners rather than his own daughter? If he's afraid that the daughter might do some idk "bad things" then you educate them first la omg

The way Bryan's parents talk to him are already very lenient. I was tasting the cane when I barely scraped through a subject.

Izzah and izzati are mature and polite! Wonderful young ladies. I hope their mother will step in more to parent them instead of letting their stepfather do it as he is clearly biased towards his own biological children.

Honestly, why is there a need for the stepfather to check the handphones? If they've done nothing wrong to warrant that check, it's just an invasion of privacy. If the girls are slacking behind on chores/ grades, breaking curfew and such, fair enough. But if they're generally well behaved, I don't see why he should do that. It'll cause a greater rift between them. Also, if you want to stick the two eldest with the babysitting and chores, you have to give them the liberty to discipline the younger ones too. Don't like it when they scold their step siblings? Parent them yourself.^^

I hope their parents see the clips of what their children think of them and their relationships. As im an outsider i cant say much from just minutes of their entire lives.

everyone who's planning to have kids, please think carefully before bringing a life into this world. Consider if you can provide to the child the best and ideal life you yourself would like. If you can't, it's kind of mean to bring a human into a world that's not good and you know it.

Izzah & Izzati are so precious 😭

honestly the two daughters stepfather is terrible and a typical biased step father and kinda crosses the privacy line with their phones

The 2 stepdaughters make a better parent as compared to their stepfather/parents. The guy is not even the father; he's a stepfather. And he takes away their deserved privacy by checking their phone and gives them little to no authority to manage his own biological children? And he has that audacity to whine that the 2 stepdaughters arent close to him as compared to their biological father?! Lol i think the stepfather is better off in prison (literally to work) than being at home. Mom i think you better revise the parenting model at home 🤷‍♀️ ** EDIT: IM GETTING REPLIES EVEN IN 2020 FROM THOSE WHO DONT HAVE READING COMPREHENSION 🤦‍♀️ WHEN I MENTIONED "(LITERALLY TO WORK)", I WAS REFERRING TO THE FATHER'S FORMER JOB AS A PRISON OFFICER. SO BEFORE YAL REPLY TO MY COMMENT PERHAPS YAL NEED TO WATCH THE OTHER EPISODE FOR BETTER UNDERSTANDING. AND I AM NOT DELETING MY COMMENT JUST BECAUSE, SINCE I STAND BY MY OPINION. HAVE A NICE DAY.

I feel like Bryan' s parents are alr good , I had always feared of giving my parents my results because they would cane me , every time I get back my results I always hesitate because Ik what's coming next . my stomach always churn . there's really nothing for bryan to be scared of , I'm even worse

Wah seh if my father suddenly ask me for my phone i faster delete everything HAHAH

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1124">18:44</a> when the stepdad said they aren’t (allowed because they) don’t control the house. Then why the bloody molly are you letting them look after their younger siblings if you think they aren’t mature or responsible enough, or what I tell just stupid. If you think they are young enough to do certain thing then you know what why don’t you look after the younger ones and not feel like ripping your hair off. Izzati and Izzah have the right to teach their younger siblings what is right and what is wrong so long as it’s not severe.

Ambrosia used to be very sweet and polite towards people, I believe she still has it inside her.

okay can we just talk about crystal? she is so pretty and polite 🥺 she really loves her mother and i’m sure she will grow up to be a successful woman if she’s stilll ike this 🥰💗

My gosh her step dad checking her phone was way too far, it's all about trust and I don't think he should do that. If you want a closer relationship with your step daughter , give her space, respect her privacy, that's all

Being an older sibling, I can relate to the struggles Izzati and Izzah face. The younger siblings don’t listen to the older one at all. I’m saying this by experience.

crystal is so pretty and nice owo

ambrosia and bryan fighting is so funny lmao

Can i just say cyrstal from the lim family is so pretty and sensible😊

Finished this video with so many frustrations. All the parents (and step parents) will learn so much from the comments section.. I guess I summed it up here.. 1. If you cannot afford to spend time on your kids individually, don't have a big family. Each child deserves their parents' unconditional love, but that is difficult when the family is big. 2. Ambriose should go proper counselling (not the school counselling) and change her attitude. She is experiencing something in her head most of us cannot see and understand and it must be tough on her too, just that nobody bothered to try to understand her. 3. Bryan just needs to work hard tbh, he's a good kid. Learn from eldest sis Crystal when he needs help and form a support system. 4. All the parents need to be consistent in their discipline methods. To the Lim father, I'm sorry but I honestly don't agree that Bryan should apologise when his sister picked the fight because it is not his fault. Asking both parties to apologize when one of them is not at fault will very likely lower his self-esteem. Make him feel comfortable when alone with the parents though. Build up emotional stability and security by spending more time with him and not put words into his mouth (like forcing him to promise) although we all mean good for him. Keep on encouraging Bryan and I'm sure he will find motivation and get far in life. He needs to find a goal to work towards. 5. To the Zainal family stepdad, and mom actually, respect your kids and treat them as your own, if not then don't expect them to treat you nicely too. Invading their privacy will not help any situation - in fact it is straining your relationship more. Getting to know who they are mingling with is just an excuse. You can trust them to mix with the right people, unless you're telling me you didn't teach that too. Also, if the older siblings cannot scold the younger ones when they misbehave, the younger ones will step on their heads and disrespect and disregard them. So what if they are all children? They don't need to respect one another? If you are the only one who can scold the family, then you are just a tyrant.

1st video Girl: ahcoo Dad: why ahcoo This video Mum:headache Dad:why headache

I have 4 children myself and I think spending time as a family is important. But spending individual time with each of your children outside the house is equally important.

Izzah and Izzati should have the right to scold their step siblings if they don't have the right the sblings won't respect the older sblings and they would be so much better off wit their biological father

i can say the family of 7 two of the children need to be strict with them espiscially the girl with mulitiple offense in school thats no way to lead this kind of attitude in the future

I am just so impressed by Crystal, Izzah and Izzati. They are all so polite

one (step) parent is over controlling and always him him him rather than the daughters, while the other two parents are not disciplined or consistent themselves. As for the Rebellious kids, meh give them responsibilities or a reasonable outlet. We are all children, just a little older, as Jim Rohn would say.

i agree w samantha, times have changed. throw away old mindsets.

'raising their voices is different from scolding' -stepdad WAIT WHAT, U ALR SAID THAT IT'S DIFFERENT. IF U ARE BIASED BCUZ THEY AIN'T YOUR BIOLOGICAL KID, THEN JUST SAY LA, GIVE WHAT NOBLE REASONS. also, can I say how nice izzah and izzati are? they didn't even thinked about him being biased as the first reason uWu

Izzah face look like she want to laugh everytime her step father talk to her

i respect Ethel solely on how she confronted Bryan about his bad grades. shouting at your kids because they failed their exams will never make them more motivated to study. talking to them calmly and showing them that it’s okay to not get full marks every single time is definitely the right thing to do. hats off to the mother 👍🏼

I don't know why a mom would give her children's stepdad authority over them. It's *her* children, if their behaviour bothers her, she should be the one manning them, and not handed over to a step parent who should only play minimal and secondary goal. I wonder how the birth father feels about this, seeing that he still have a relationship with them. I'd be pissed mad if my children's step mom tries to "mother" them, I'm still alive, step parents should learn their place and stay there.

"My mother is kinder than my father" Not sure if its cos the mum gave up...

Imagine having a nerf war with all your siblings

Izzah is SMART to stay in school after 3pm; this way she won't have deal with her CREEPY, CHAUVINISTIC stepfather, or take care of her BRATTY BROTHER. I hope she + Izzati, went to live with their REAL FATHER, whom seems to respect the girls.

they’re kinda too lenient on bryan, don’t let him have the phone if he’s not gonna do anything... as parents, can also enforce discipline? idk, my family has 6 ppl and my parents really scolded us when needed and took away our phones when we were using it too much

i love how the zainals children are so matured

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1330">22:10</a> “ If I cannot convince you ( to find a Christian boyfriend) , then I have failed you as a father “ WOW..... emotional blackmailing at its finest. Forcing your religious belief onto your daughter , and playing the “ I fail you as a father “ card . DAYUMMMMM SONNN. Same religion = same frequency FUYOLLL , MAD LOGIC. Enlighten me with your logic please.

When ur too lenient to your children, they can be rebellious esp when they cant get what they want. Their expectation n demand fr their parents will be higher. Discipline shd starts since they're toddler. Set in religious knowledge, social n civic education as much as u can coz it does helps wif their life. I hv 4 kids n all are 1.5yrs apart n all are well behaved n successful. Never once i had problem wif them. Parenting style n education is really important. Children see n follow what adults do.

izzah and izzaty are good daughters. it takes a lot of patience mashaallah.

"honestly how to find siaaaaa"

wth that girl ahlian sia

Crystal seems more mature and sensible than her mother. Izzah and Izzati are such good girls but the stepfather is being quite unfair to them and favouring the younger children nor is he appreciating that they are growing up. I did think Samantha and her dads conversation about dating was good.

“Can not scold younger siblings” defines a culture clash between Asian and American educations... it becomes a custom.

honestly my mum would’ve just taken my phone & snatched it. she wouldnt say anyth like ‘promise me you’d do better next term’ i think it’s better for her to take her son’s phone , i think he’d be able to focus better.

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="523">8:43</a> takes off glasses because he can’t see😂😂

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="635">10:35</a> lmao me and my siblings don’t fight, we fight we die, it’s called discipline, something you don’t have

Imagine everyday camera man just follows you everywhere you go, to school to home to everywhere. Jesus Christ man xD

crystal is such a good girl, wish i had her attitude when i was young

Dad checking the phone reminds me like my IO LOL

My biological older sister scolds my siblings and I when we were younger whenever we misbehave and I feel like all four of us turned out to be fairly obedient and decent people. However, even after all the scolding we get from her, we can still be out of control at times so I cannot imagine not being able to scold your younger siblings but having your parents to still expect them to behave and respect the elders because I personally feel like that is not going to make ANY relationships better for anyone. i'm not a fan of "authority" but there should still be some form of RESPECT and TRUST to at least your older children (be it biological or not) to take care of your younger ones. It doesnt look like trust or respect from your stepdaughters anymore..... they look and sound like they have NO CHOICE. Your stepdaughters play such an important role in the family especially as the oldest two in the family because they have to be role models but if your younger children doesn't even learn to respect their older siblings, who are they suppose to look up to? This family doesnt need authority. They need TRUST and RESPECT from one another.

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="572">9:32</a> hey hey hey that's wrong! When you do this, your child may feel that you don't trust them. You can get closer to her by talking more to her

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1351">22:31</a> like how your father daughter relationship didn’t work out

I can learn a thing or two from izzati and izzarah, they are so polite 🥰 and omg my dad doesn't even allow me to date at 16 HAHA, "textbook answer, 17."

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="142">2:22</a> same kid .... same 😂

Big family's are not always easy, there is good and bad just like any other family. A lot of mouths to feed and a lot of love all around

Wah seriously give your daughter privacy can anot

After this I'm so thankful that my parents actually lets me have my privacy

For Samantha’s issue, interfaith relationship/marriage is quite common nowadays and yes, to find someone on the same frequency as you is important as well. However, I believe it still boils down to the couple themselves and they definitely need to talk about how they would like to raise their child before they step into marriage. Even though many would say people of different religion do not fit together but couples fall out for even the slightest matter. In this sense, why would religion matter so much? It’s really between you and your partner. If your love for each other can overcome everything, don’t be afraid. But if currently, it’s just one-sided love, you better don’t think too much about it. It’s for your own good, really.

Crystal and ambrosia barely look alike... Woah

Parents asking if can check your phone? Wowzers mine just steal it when i not looking

Panas gile ak tgk stepdad izzah n izaati ni..how they face him everyday

Good documentary wish it was longer 😅

When she said she have the reason to scold them I AGREE ON THAT, because the young one have to be disicipline well in order to be mature in the future

Major props to Izzah & Izzati

I can relate to the second daughter from the family of nine sooooo much. I am only 1 if 5 siblings, and I’m the second born aswell, I’m the only timid and introverted one and Istg sometimes my parents forget I’m even there cuz I don’t talk to them compared to my other siblings.

The parents treat Bryan so good sia

My aunt had three children but me, my two sister and my younger brother and my little cousin all moved in with her she had to take care of 8 kids all by herself she’s a strong woman

Ethel is such a lenient mother!!!

So pity of izzah and izaty... Be strong young girl....

I drink pokka green tea too Its splendid!

"I got more sisters... than my friends.." that's so sad :(

I'm really RELATABLE to a lot of them

Bryan: everyone in this family thinks she had anger management issues. Me: I think she just has a demon side boi-

I have 7 siblings including me. I can say one thing about having a big family is you dont really get 100% privacy. Other than that having alot of siblings is actually fun.

it's your life and your parents might not be right sometimes. but make sure you are to ready to hold responsibility for your own mistake if you were to not heed their advice :-)

if these parents just showed a bit more love these families would be living a better life

ambrosia scares me honestly like how

In the Philippines, having 7 children is considered a big family but definitely not super-sized family. 12 children and above are. I thought this is about obese families due to "super-sized".

My biggest takeaway from this series is, don’t have a big family.

Ambrosia is a jnr of mine in sec school and honestly i feel that she is proud of her having too much offence form and detention is fun most of us try to avoid going detention.Honestly whatever she did is totally trying to fit in the school also i can see the discomfort of her friends.

I have more sisters than my friends Mood 😂😂

Brian is scared to talk to his parents when they don't even yell at him for not passing some subjects? He got it easy.

Nobody is perfect. Parents tbh are still learning how to be perfect cause they dont know.

My parents check my phone a lot but in a more stricter way than izzahs parents

lmao im nearly 18 and my mom checks my phone spontaneously

Lmao ambrosia...can go be rempit d. She is so proud of her

That child, Crystal, is a gem. I wish i had her maturity at that age.

Studying for me have always been influenced by the teachers instead, you get a good competent teacher you get good grades, my parents were never forceful about my grades since I'm usually above average but I can't say I don't get jealous of my sister being taught by my mom and not needing to get tuition

I’m the same way when I’m showing my report card to my parents my mouth is always shut

My policy in studying for Pri and Sec is to listen and pay full attention at class. I don’t revise or study after i left school everyday and i manage to pass every year

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="37">0:37</a> I only have one sister n I relate ahboy