Coffee with Kari- Live Chat with a Mortician 

The same thing happened to me around the same age when my paternal grandmother passed away. Hers was the first funeral I ever attended. There was no preparation, so it was pretty overwhelming. I loved my grandmother dearly and thought that she appeared to be breathing also, but it seemed like it was only once or twice. I will never forget that.

Thanks for the answer about seeing grandma breathing, at the viewing

Think you for helping so many by telling the truth .

One time I was at the funeral home. Been there many times thru the years. And the undertaker was in his office talking to a family. All of a sudden I couldn’t breathe. It felt like I was taking my last breath. I turned around and got out of there. There was a spirt there that day. Haven’t been back.

When you mentioned the flag in the triangle, it reminded me of something that I ran across a few years ago. I live in a very small, rural Alabama town, and was at our local thrift store when I saw a dirty, wobbly, triangle case with a dirty flag in it, with the mans name and rank on the little nameplate. I asked the owner how he ended up with it and he said it was with a contents of a house that was donated by the adult children when their mother died. All of their belongings were donated, the kids wanted nothing sentimental. Even the mans medals were donated. He had checked with the family to make sure they knew those things were there. It was on the sale shelf by mistake, as he had planned on trying to find a respectful place for it and I offered to do that for him. He gave me the case with the medal and the case and flag (no charge) and I took it home and washed and ironed the flag, my husband repaired the case and we polished it. He was an Eagle scout when he was young so he knew how to fold it back to fit, and we did. I polished the purple heart in the case and then took it to the drugstore, where the manager is in a veteran's motorcycle club and asked him who would take it and treat it with respect. He was pretty ticked that the family threw it out and said if I didnt mind he would take it and they would display it at the clubhouse by other memorabilia.

This reminds me of the move called afterlife y’all got to watch it

Kari, you are in such a good mood; high energy; good instruction mode! You are always in excellent instruction mode!

Hey Kari- The little girl was Rosalia Lombardo who died of pneumonia in 1920 and was one of the last corpses to be admitted to the Capuchin Catacombs in Sicily.

YES! Please come to Utah! We would LOVE to have you!

Great video and thanks for sharing!🤗

you explain really easy to understand. I am from coventry england

My sister and I both thought we saw our Grandma breathing too !

I have not been able to catch you live for awhile know. But one question I have wanted to ask you is: What is your most memorable (funny) funeral? When I was in the Military Honor Guard, I presented the flag to the widow and our CD player (We did not have a bugler, just a CD with Taps) start wailing "Highway to Hell". After the service I apologized to the widow and she laugh, she said she thought it was part of the service, because that was her husbands favorite song.

My great cousin died in 2006 of cancer, and I could have SWORN he was still breathing but when I walked up to his casket and touched his chest, I didnt feel anything, no heartbeat, no air, in fact he felt rigid... I remember thinking maybe what I was seeing was the embalming fluid in his chest but it could have really been my mind too

9:53 thank you SO MUCH for answering this question!!! I had to bury my sweet brother who was 6'10" a couple years ago and I couldn't even think straight. I was so worried that they would break his legs to fit him in the casket.. it's bothered me a long time. He was in a closed casket, no visitation bc he was so badly decomposed in a warm apartment with open window. I found him. 🥺

Great information Kari. Thx 😊

kari im sorry i keep missing your coffee with kari.....one day one day! have a lot of questions for you....STILL on my planning for my funeral. im getting the run around...and around and around! but one day i hope to catch you and ask them! love your channel!

If you think your loved one is breathing. Then the funeral director did a good job.

Yes, go to Rhode Island, it’s next door to Connecticut! 😊

Omg...I’m in South Bend! Grew up in Dowagiac Michigan!

How do you feel about extreme embalming. And when would you advise a no open casket

Im so glad i was able to catch your live finally how ever when i was talking abt my mom being swollen and you said something abt iv fluids she was never on any iv it happened at my hoise i found her by the time we got to the hospital they pronounced her dead so i was wondering how could she swell if she was mever on any iv

If you come to Rhode Island, have a meet and greet. I'll pick you up at the airport and drive you where you need to go. I am very reserved in person and would be honored to be your chauffeur. No accidents or tickets; very defensive driver.

My husband was a organ donor when he died I told the,staff he was and they said because he was exposed to Agent Orange during his military service he was not a good candidate or would it be because he had cancer caused by the exposure

34:20. I heard about a med school that certified their students immediately, so that they could go to the hospitals and help at the beginning of the pandemic. Was this also done for mortuary students, that you can recall?

Hello from Illinois

Hello , Kari ! Vinny here . When you coming down to Daytona Beach ? We all love you here , you know ! Want to drive you down our beaches in a hearse ! I've got that feeling that when you leave here you'll have your own T. V. show . Just got that feeling ! Your good friend Vinny in good old Fla.

Thanks Kari for another good video my friend. I had to go to a funeral today and I didn't get to watch the live stream chat. My cousin passed away in her sleep day before yesterday she was 87 years ago. It was unexpected but one of those things that happens sometimes.

A former friend of mine told me his uncle told the entire family that when he died he would wink at everyone. Till during the funeral he thought he saw his uncle wink. He thought his mine was playing tricks on him. Till after wards he said to another family member what he thought he saw. His other family member said they saw the same thing. So who knows.

I would love for you to come to Bakersfield California I'd love to meet you

Kari, I love your accent. 😂 I wonder what you would think of mine?

What exactly is a water cremation? And do u know what states provide this? Do u leave the decedent in the viewing rm overnight, or do you remove them, and refrigerate again?

A dear friend passed recently. It took two weeks before the urn could be interred. It was interred in the grave of her husband who predeceased her. Why would it take so long for her to be cremated? Also I am in Michigan and in this case a small vault was required for her to be buried

My father’s eyelashes did a Mexican wave , it was definitely real not my imagination 💭

Dear Kari, My father passed away almost 2 years ago; at the viewing I noticed what looked like blood had run where the lips are sutured and glued shut they didn't bother to clean it off they just left it there it looked terrible! Do you think that that was blood or could that have been something else and if so what? Should I have told the funeral director about this as I said nothing and it still bothers me to this day.

Does water cremation cycle back to our drinking water?

I was 13 and my grandma died and I ran to my mom and said grandma was breathing and she was lying she not dead my mom then had to tell me about reserved air in the lungs.

I wish maryland morticians had to be there

I have a friend who just told me that when she dies she wants me to promise to put a pack of popcorn 🍿 in her somehow before she's cremated lol 😆 😅 😂 I have to hear your thoughts on this.

I kept thinking my Daddy was breathing, freak me out.

Have a question how would you prep and treat a decedent that was iradiated due to chemotherapy or radiation poisoning

What was your biggest hurdle when you were in mortuary school? I love your channel!

If a person does of arterial sclerosis ( as my mother who was a heavy smoker) I believe that person is difficult to enbalm and won't look like they normally look.????

Hi from Gatlinburg.

Hi Kari, What did you mean by you "were done with Wisconsin questions"?

Is it hard to graduate from Mortuary School?

Hi Kari how are you today?

I recently saw a story about Carlo Acutis, the boy about to be beatified, and I believe it was stated that they had some sort of face mask made for his face. I'll have to do some more research.

I have a question. I have pre-paid for my disposition....which is traditional cremation. I was wondering if I could have a water cremation, even though I didnt request this. The money is in a trust with a Funeral Home in Minnesota. That state allows water cremation, but Iowa doesn't. I moved to Iowa in March 2020. I would just pay the difference or would I have to have to repay for the water cremation and new contract? Thsnk you. Randy L. Fritz This contract was written up in 2010.

24:10. Our body is so full of preservatives, I suspect we still look like ourselves to a certain extent.

Hi from tn

Hi Kari

My dad wasn't autopsied the Wednesday before he passed he went into the doctor because he had been coughing and not feeling well with the doctor said you have bronchitis put them on some pills 2 days later on a Friday I get a call from my mom at 7 I lived in Tennessee they are in Ohio same ambulance just took dad because he couldn't breathe about 10 Friday night in Ohio my dad had passed away I called the ER doctor to confirm this with him and he said yes he said it happened when they went to move them cuz they were going to LifeLight him up to Toledo the doctor had told us that a blood clot had broke loose and went to his heart my mom refused in autopsy there was never one performed on my dad

When you say “co-in” and mean cotton, is this a Michigan expression ?

Is there a certain schedule for the ‘Coffee with Kari’ segments? I don’t want to miss it! How do I do it?

I know that after you die bladder and bowel muscles relax, how long does it take you to P and poop after you die?

Literally just had to tell my 7 year old that his uncle died from cancer. #cancersucks

Kari I was watching funerals from other countries where they did cremation. They put yellow stuff on the bodies and other stuff can you tell me what that stuff was. Then they put the boddies in the wooden crate and set on fire.

I have never heard of having a grave side open casket service. Where have you heard of this?

Sorry I'm commenting so much I'm just really curious about this my late husband's funeral at the funeral home from the time that they drove down to Tennessee to pick him up and bring him back so we got to the cemetery what's $12,000 okay now his headstone was 4000 the embalming which they did in Tennessee was $800,

What is the reason that it is the law for a funeral director to have to stay at the cemetery until the casket is lowered into the ground?

Have you visited Illinois recently?

This is Laura from Colorado.....Had an elderly lady friend that passed many years ago...she had an open casket she was leaking embalming fluid from top of her wrists. It was pink fluid. Her skin was extremely thin. Could this be the reason???

Bonjour lady

I told my children I want a 18 gauge casket sealed I've got 18 gauge sealed for all my family Is the 20 gauge better or does it matter The inside of caskets have improved over the years They have pictures,change with the times

is it true that hair and nails still grow after your dead

My husband loves his recliner can he be shown in that'd he wants to be cryeamet

A person chooses Death with Dignity, what does the death certificate read as cause?

You know you talking about the brain doing that my childhood best friend got killed and for a long time after if something big happened I’d call him and his family thought I was being mean but I’d call before I could realize what I’d done

My kate husband was buried In his marines dress blues, he had colon cancer and was only 98 pounds, his black coat was a small, now the amazing lady that yooncare of him did make a comment ab li ur how skinny he was, I was thinking well duh he had cancer, she then said I had to cut the back of the coat to fit right but it still looks big on him 🤦‍♀️, why do they cut the clothes? Dony you just dress them normal?

I hope they can't hear. 🤣🤣

Ohio State???!!!! Who is that?!!🤔

I was told that if you were big breasted they put your bra on is the true ??