As I have been in this LifeStyle for over 36 yrs. I can almost ALWAYS tell Someone who is "Collared" even it it is a "Day" Collar. I can ALWAYS tell! I just can SEE it and Sense it in someone female OR male!
I tend to give my subs subtle jewelry which indicates collared, because I tend to choose professional career women, who cannot wear traditional collars at work.
Wonderful, that you also take into account what they would find comfortable to wear. I have a friend though who is a university professor and she wears a leather collar with a ring almost as big as my HAND...:) she likes to shock her students with it from time to time... its an interesting discussion:)
I took my property to a jeweler and designed a custom collar that represents us. And we had a ceremony collar joining/Wedding. Where she announced her undying love, loyalty and servitude. Collared by her two sub female sub friends then attached the leash and she presented the leash to me. We showed our love them on our time together for 4 days in Portugal. /
I can relate to the Collar thing alot. My master picked my collar too. And it made me so happy. I'm glad i found this channel, your videos are amazing. I have suscribed too. Thank you for everything you do ❤
Thank you for sharing this video! You are so respectfully and enthusiastic about the collar, I love it. Thank you for explaining what it means for you!
I have never been in a relationship like this at least I hope I haven't without realizing it. But I am learning what it is. No judgement. Thank you for this lesson. I had no idea how collars, necklaces, bracelets and ankle bracelets are used to represent slavery. I have always been curious about BDSM relationships and I thought it was just kinky toys to spice up relationships. But now I understand the dynamic of what a BDSM. It's still considered loving but its still compared to a Master and slave were one person is dominant and the other is submissive. I love to learn.
I'm a male Dom since I was born! For me it's not a game of simple play, being a dom is who I'm, my need as dom is pleasuring my Sub. I always put her need before mine. And it pleases me immensely. However since 2015 my last sub for almost a decade relocate out of country because of family reasons. I find it extremely difficult to find true sub. I don't want anyone who's just curious about the life style. I want someone is a true sub and want to belong to a caring dom.
Dude same, try a Puerto Rican girl, hell I married mine. (We live openly full time) .they seem to be the most potent of subs, yep same same if I'm not in the gym I'm doing security work or martial arts, not a life style. it is my life
I'm always made to wear a choker or an elastic band around my ankle or wrist specially when we go to the club or any party with other males involved, I also usually wear my pants the wrong way around as a sign of humiliation I love wearing his perfume and having his name written with marker pen under my top x
The Last "Custom Day Collar" I had made was from HIGH Stainless Steel Chain with a VERY Stylized "Celtic Tri-Skell" for the Pendent but it is ALSO a "Leash Attachment"!
You are the most fascinating submissive lve listened to , yiu can hear tge pride in in yiur voice when you talk about Being owned as a collared slave , a truely natural beautiful submissive
ohhhh I can imagine... and also the fun before is wonderful! We have in Dutch a word for it, I really can't understand why the English don't:) we call it "voorpret"- the fun you have before the actual happening.. wishing you a wonderful collar that means the world to you!
I’ve been into bdsm scene since I turned 18, so about two and a half years now, personally if I ever get collared I’d prefer a usual collar for munches and dungeon but ankle bracelet or like a small neck chain though that’s me at the end of the day I would be grateful for any type of collar that shows ownership from a domme
There are many subs who choose that- to not have something very visible in their daily life. Remember the purpose- as long as it fulfills that, it doesn’t matter where or what it is.
Im actually looking at getting my wife-slave her first custom collar from black hills gold jewelry at the black hills main location so it's sort of a rose gold and the emerald from Colorado means a lot to us. One thing we really enjoy I bounce at a bar and bring her in collared and dressed up I have a nice chain I can attach and leave her attached to me at the door. We enjoy broadcasting my ownership to others part of our journey is letting are freak flag fly
That's like the number one thing people in this lifestyle preach against. You don't expose your kink to people in public that are not consenting. It's a bar so it's an adult environment but still not recommended whatsoever.
@@5050TMadults can do in public what adults want to do, as long as it's not against the law. In a bar, there shouldn't be any children. If someone is offended, they can just look away.
I disagree with that one, on a certain way. it's simply just taking into account the feelings of other people. I made a video about kink in public where I talk about the fine line.
Lovely! I would love a permanently locking day collar but I do sports which mena I can't do this. My Daddy has gotten me a locking one that only he may take off for me though, so it is the next best thing. It is very subtle for work as well. I do want his signature tattooed on me, but he does not want me to have ink. Maybe one day. Nice video :)
Thank you for another brilliant video. I love your work! My main collar that I have to wear whenever I'm out is thick leather. Its worn quite tight so I always feel it and padlocked at the back. It has a name disc at the front with "Slave" in big letters on one side and "Property of Mistress [my Mistress's first name] on the back. I also have a metal choker chain collar, but thats usually only used when I'm being trained on a leash.
Thank you. I am planning to start making videos again- had trouble with my laptop (the editing software suddenly didn't work anymore on my new laptop! And then some planning issues. But now back on track- having the time again so stay tuned...
I had a favorite color it was a velvet one from Spencer's my first one I've gotten others but this one has always been my favorite my DOM Mr. Sigma loves it as well I accidentally left it behind when we moved I thought it was in my bag like you I felt naked and it broke me we just got the money to get but it again the other day he keeps saying how this one makes him feel more connected in that aspect and it looks beautiful on me.
I love my collar it's my biggest safety blanket! and i also feel naked and a bit off if i have to even talk it off for medical reasons lol, me and my Sir choose a 24/7 wear locking collar and only he has the alan key to unlock it!
The main part of your collar is called the helm weave. It's a chainmaille collar and its very beautiful ❤️. I do a little bit of chainmaille myself and I may need to experiment with this 😍.
I wish they made more male slave collars that are not just black leather. I found a few metallic ones but they are not as elaborate as those for females.
Great question! I don’t see why the metallic ones like the one I’m wearing can’t be for a male sub. But I understand that there is a lot less choice. I don’t have a favorite that I can send you to for metallic ones, sorry.
will do that! Thank you. Although I do not have experience in finding kinksters myself, I think I can give you some valuable tips. In the meantime- check my video about FetLife, it might give you some ideas...
@@KinkyAssignments how about yourself? May I ask are you single, or in a relationship at the moment? How you ever felt lonely because of your kink desire?
@@lessons4civil I am in a D/s relationship for almost 3 years now. I never felt lonely because of my kink, but I do remember feeling lonely. How is feeling lonely different for you because of having a kink?
@@KinkyAssignments because it makes it hard to find a soul mate. Where I live bdsm is not publically accepted so finding a kinky woman is very difficult. To be honest if you wouldnt be in a relationship I would propose you
@@lessons4civil please.. you dont know me AT ALL. the whole point, I think, to find a life partner, is not about kink. It's about trust, honesty, intimacy. Only if that is there, you can build a D/s dynamic. D/s is way too precious and powerful to throw it on just a random stranger. It's like going to a pub and ask a woman you find interesting to make babies, just because she is a woman! I did create a video on how to find a partner, but I didn't post it yet since I wanted to do some research on dating apps. So far- not a lot of luck, btw.
I have a very serious question and no one to help me. I have someone who I consider my Dom. We haven't fully talked about it yet but I call him Sir and he is the only person I feel comfortable Subbing under. I want him to collar me but I know that isn't an option right now. Can I collar myself until he is ready?
The only person who can answer this question, is YOU. And, perhaps, your Dom. Think carefully about why you want to collar yourself, and what it means to you, and to both of you. I had a tattoo placed when we were seeing each other not for a long time. He wasn't willing to commit to something so.. permanent at that time, but I wanted it as a symbol for what our relationship already had given me. This was about me... and he consented to it that I would do it, but under the clear mention that this was my decision, and not his. I know more people who are self collared, even without a Dom- to them, it's a symbol. Sometimes it stands for their freedom, sometimes it stands for their identity, and sometimes it simply makes them feel good. All reasons are right. You owe nobody else an explanation but yourself. But if you and your Dom are talking, I would suggest you talk with him. Make sure it's not a signal towards him that you want him to hurry "or I'll do it myself"... but find why you want it, and what it means to you. you can definitely collar yourself as a commitment sign to him- because this has nothing to do with him, but with you. Hope this helps!
@@KinkyAssignments thank you so much. It actually helps a lot. He is going through a lot and is concerned about attachment again and I would just like him to see that even if he is never going to be ready that no matter what I'm still here for him. Our situation is just so weird and complicated and I'm 33 and completely new to ALL THIS and it's VERY hard to find someone I can talk to and ask questions because I live in a small town in Alabama. So thank you for your help 🙂🙂🙏
You're never too old for anything. Why would you be too old? I heard from a woman whose husband died after a 60 year marriage that she confessed she loved to be spanked. She was 80+. Nobody can tell you that you're too old...
Fantastic question! Being owned requires another person- someone who owns you. It does not mean, however, that you then are also collared. Being collared is often a ritual- where the submissive needs to earn their collar. So you can be owned, while not wearing a collar. On the other hand, it is also possible to wear a collar, while you are not owned. A collar has tremendous value as a symbol, and nobody says that you need another person to be collared. It often helps in making you feel submissive, allowing yourself to be submissive. I am running a year program for submissives and there are single submisisves in it. One of the assignments is at one point to buy a collar, and they LOVE it. For their meaning... hope this helps. Good topic for a video!
My wife has a tattoo that people who don't know think is a "monster face," but is, in fact, a logo I've used as something of a signature for years and years.
Hello there Sam a most interesting vidio ..i myself know about the lifestyle though never Dominated anyone But you are happy with your life ..have a good weekend
definitely also an option! Great idea. I can imagine though that for some it's like a wedding ring- which is more - equal, but in the end it is about the meaning you give it.
I even DID a video on scene names. The point is- my BDSM relationship is only within a relationship, so I don't have experience with it. So i deleted the video again. I prefer to talk about what I am experienced with. When I find someone who can tell me more, I will make a video with that person. Might wait till the whole covid is gone and we actually can have parties again.
I feel like I am being dominated. I would love to have a neck less to wea as I’m at work. If he wants to feel like he owns me he should get me one. But I think he is taking it slow
It's not weird! My training collar IS cheap- I replace it every few months- and htat's why it's cheap:) I wouldnt want my expensive collar (I do have an expensive collar that I sleep with) to be covered in all kinds of juices, or break because someone pulls it.
@@KinkyAssignments I was looking about women being too feminist and aggressive nowadays and how it destroys companionship and keeps men away.. Instead I learned that there is a legion of romantic women out there... I would be totally devoted to a soulmate that thinks like this.. thx for sharing your thoughts.
@@unitedbolts8053 thanks. Just bear in mind that many submissive women will be submitting to their partner but will not be submissive in life at all... I am quite an alpha woman in the real world:P
@@unitedbolts8053 Yep, they exist and there are many of them! BTW I think there are also a lot of women who don't know about it like I didn't in the beginning (read my book Sex Truth and Freedom). I explored in a relationship with someone who introduced me to some. And then I got sooo hooked...
@@KinkyAssignmentsCause he should be treating you like a Queen I know I would cause it's the 2020s now woman should has a little more say in a relationship😁👍
There is no specific symbol for doms, but there are many options. I saw rings, bracelets, necklaces and my favorite- a belt:D I absolutely LOVE the collection of Penumbra's bracelets for doms: penumbra.at/en/shop/?filter_pa_produktfilter=bracelets. Have a look if it's something that you like.
I Must have Lived a Very sheltered Life , My Ex Gf Loved 50 Shades , & we Planed to watch it & we did she told me loved the movie But when we did sit down & watch it the babysitter rang & i had to drive her home , & the next weekend she stayed over & she was little spoon & we were having just a loving caring Pillow talk & I brought up the movie , But she got very shy or embarrassed or felt a bit of shame i honestly don't know she kissed me to stop talking lol But maybe i am very naïve & i have had a very vanilla sex life tbh , I Would imagine You need to Unconditionally Love your Partner. I've only told 2 girls ever i love them & im in my mid 30's because i believe you should never say those 3 words unless you Can Not live without that Person I've never done anything like this & If I'm been really honest i'd even be embarrassed to bring it up & I feel im outgoing & a Confident man but yes 100% Fact i would not know where to even start And id never ever want to push anything onto anyone , And I Know some girls / Women Love the thought of BDSM & Been Dominated , But I Imagine its about Full trust & Making sure that lets say I can put my self in her shoes , Because You would imagine a Relationship could end up been very toxic A Guy trying to control & be Cruel , IDK This is Not something i have ever done So im Very Naïve, I Did have 1 very bad relationship in my early 20's Where for well over a Year my Partners at the time was Super abusive & would hit me & Shout a Lot & I'd be walking on egg shells & As the Guy she was Tiny but she knew no matter what she did id never hurt or harm her , & it took me a Long time to get away from her SO maybe that's why i have had a very bland sex life, I Have only had a few Partners so that's i Imagine a lot to do with it to. I Have never heard any of the boys even speak this way so i don't know how common it is. but i think its really nice how open you are And how much you must Love your Husband/Soulmate.. I got here from 50 shades darker i've not seen it |& this was a suggestion. But I Am Happy for you & Ur Man As You Glow when you talk about it So i hope your doing well & thank you for the upload You are a Wealth of Knowledge on Topics like these & I Imagine You have helped 100's of People
