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If I have a kid and they date someone of the same sex I want them to walk into the house with them and say "mom this is my boyfriend/girlfriend" I feel there's no need for them to "come out" because there's nothing to come out
@Kassi and a few others on this thread. Just coming out to immediate family isn't enough. Without coming out to the rest of the world there can't be a gay rights movement militating for changes in society of how gay people are treated in every way imagnable. Coming out is the most significant action a gay person can take to ensure that society evolves in its attitudes toward them. Otherwise they'll remain criminilized as well as face other condoned forms of harsh treatment which is thoroughly undeserved,..
I've followed you for quite sometime and I witnessed your struggles in homework and how busy you've been with school and I just wanted to congratulate you for finally graduating. Also, thank you for being such a positive influence and being so brave with sharing something so personal and emotional yet so beautiful.
you're literally my favorite person on the internet. every time i feel weird/ashamed/scared of being bisexual i come here and your videos make me feel better about myself, so thank you.
I saw this thing on tumblr this biology teacher asked a girl "whats the best thing you like about boys" and shes just like "theyre girlfriends" I just thought I should share that cause I shat my pants when I saw it. It's not mine just sayin
I had to translate "I love boys" into French and I just translated it to: "J'aime les filles" which means "I love girls". That's how I came out in school.
I've doubted my sexuality for a long time now. I find both genders appealing but I don't know about the whole sex thing. The idea just kind of weirds me out, don't watch porn or anything. I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend so I don't have anything to compare to. This whole doubting just consumes my life and my mind.
Hi purplezebra95100 have you ever considered talking to a psychologist about it so they can help you work your head around it all and come to a conclusion ? !!
Thanks purplezebra95100 . sorry the psychologist didn't work out and she handled it wrong and didn't help you--sounds like she just fobbed you off sadly. I hope she didn't make you more confused. When I told my psychologist I am a lesbian he asked me certain questions to make sure and asked how I felt about it etc etc. There are also psychologists who are also sex therapists who should be able to hemp more than the psychologist did !!! Go with your gut instinct and follow your heart !!!
I feel the exact same way. I've always doubted but don't really know as I've never been in a relationship with anyone before. I'm constantly questioning myself every second of my life. I totally relate to what you're saying.
Oh man I really needed this. I'm actually crying watching this. I hope one day I get to the point where I'm comfortable being who I am and not worried about what people will think of me.
"Being me is way better than some knock-off version of them..." couldn't be more true & the sooner we all find our way to sitting peacefully in our own beautifully unique skins (no one inflicts greater wounds on us than ourselves), the sooner we can get down to really living...;)
Shannon, you were one of the first people I followed on tumblr when I first signed up a few years ago. You helped me to come out and I felt the need to personally thank you. I truly admire you and I couldn't be more happy for you and Cammie. You two are great human beings. Thank you for being amazing and keep up with the great work on your youtube channel and Ripple Effect.
Why do gay people have to come out? why can't people understand that is normal? and people should stop stressing too much about it! I am straight my self, but I am pro-gay, and I am waiting on the day that gay people dont have to come out! be yourself, and fuck what anyone would say!
in an ideal world, nobody would have to come out. the thing is, our society is heteronormative that unless stated otherwise, it is assumed that people are straight. I wish I didn't have to come out without people assuming I'm straight, but unfortunately that's not the case.
Maybe straight people should come out, not leave it for us gays to have to do it cause it sucks when people especially family don't understand or accept who you are
+Natalie Because of the stress and disappointment that comes with people always assuming that you are straight. Tak shannon for example;. If she didn't come out to people, they would be asking her why don't you have a boyfriend yet? All your friends have boyfriends! Don't you wanna experience dating and love? Do you want me to set up up? because I sure as hell can Gay people seem to need to get away from THAT
It makes me so incredibly happy seeing people becoming more honest with not only other people but themselves too. it's amazing to see how much a like we truly are regardless, of how different we are. This was beautiful. Truly beautiful.
simply put... you are a beautiful person who brought tears to my eyes! wishing you the best of luck with what the future and life has in store for you.
Kudos to you both for coming out and sharing it with others who feel they can't. It is truly a burden to bear, I should know. I'm 44 this year and I didn't come out until I was 39! My generation and the ones preceding mine were stuck on the idea that it was a choice for me! UGH! It took close to 2 years before anyone was accepting of my sexuality, but life couldn't be sweeter since now I can be myself and the fact that my family and friends have accepted me for who I truly am. Keep posting girls, and live life like there's no tomorrow! You deserve the best that life has to offer! YOU ROCK! :)
I am also a lesbian who is in a sorority. It is actually really hard for me at times in the coming out process. I am not out to my family at this point and I came out to a few girls in my sorority thinking that they would keep my "secret" at this point I'm pretty sure it spread like wildfire behind my back and I know some people really don't like that there is another lesbian in our sorority (there's another girl who has been out forever) but more than anything it's been more of a "we know you're gay but we don't want to talk about it" thing. It makes it really hard for me to be my true self. I want to talk about my girlfriend and bring her to events all the time but I am so concerned with offending other people. It's just one of my things. I always want to please everyone and I need to learn that being myself is more important than potentially offending someone else
I am watching this video today 2024 and I cannot describe how proud I am of you now in ur 30s. You have helped us so much documenting ur journey. I've been watching u since 2016 when I was 12 and felt so good to see that there are people happily out in the world. Thank you so much. Much love ❤
You're an absolute legend and its so clear, even just through all of your short videos, that you have a beautiful soul with pure intentions. youve brought me great comfort, but evidently greater comfort to people who are not as lucky as i've been with my coming out experience. Ive been out now for two years but i still come back to this video to remind me that it HAS taken strength even though my situation is far more blessed than most. all my love from australia. i hope you read this and know that what you're doing is changing so many lives, and it IS having an enormous ripple effect, not just on viewers. for every comfortable, strong person in the world there's one more hand to pull someone else up. i've been able to do that now because you've lead by stellar example. Some goes to the beautiful Cammie.
I'm a junior in high school. I have known that I am gay for about 2 years now and have only managed to tell two people who I really care about. It's really hard coming out and I'm so glad I found this video and so thankful to you for sharing this because it gave me hope. What you said at the end put me in tears and I want to thank you because everything you said hit me and I feel more content with the fact that this is who I am... Thank you
you're helping me more than you think you do. I'm still on the process of coming out and I found your video through tumblr, and everything has been clear. I hope I can found courage soon. thank you. I love you shannon.
I would really love it if you made a video about how you knew you were gay and at which point you started realizing it in your life and all these stuff,i guess it would be really helpful.Love you so much Shannon! Xx
I just realized that this wasn't so long ago.. Which is kinda crazy because I have seen a lot of coming out-videos lately and they were all done by people who have been out and proud for a while and are just talking about stuff that happend years ago... it made me feel real good to see that there are people (approximately my age) who had to struggle and only just now come out fully -- I have no idea why that is so comforting... but it really is.. thank you a lot for sharing!
I watched your newer coming out video and it brought me here. I absolutely love how far you've come. I also watched your "a letter to you" and I actually cried. I'm so SO glad you posted that because it's exactly what I needed to hear. I love you Shannon, keep being awesome!
I know this is an old video and you probably won't see this comment but thank you for making this and thank you for helping in ways you won't believe you're just very incredible! love you so much!❤
It's so weird for me to see this video, because 3 weeks ago I finally told someone I'm gay. I saw your videos 4 years ago, when I was 12, and at the time I was so confused about who I am. But I've seen you, and countless other people, grow and change and learn to accept themselves, and it's taught me how to do the same. Now I'm 16, and I'm okay with my sexuality. I'm okay with it, and I've never been able to say that before. So, thank you for sharing your life online, and giving hope and strength to so many people around the world.
For some reason I never watched your videos before cammie, but I've just watched all the other ones and I'm even more inspired by you, I'm currently building up the courage to come out to my family, and it feels so good to have someone like you to refer to and show them your videos to maybe help them understand! You make me so happy Shannon! Never stop being you 😘
Thank you for these videos! I guess some of them are really helpful. I found you're channel and needed to watch you're vids because I'm actually struggeling with myself about who I am and who I love and all these things... that's why I really appreciate the fact that you upload these vids. I guess it cost yourself a lot of courage to share you're story with the whole world and now you have so many fans that must be really crazy. So you deserve all my respect ;) lot of love and greetings from germany (:
My dad is not a pastor but he is really religious and I'm scared as hell to tell my parents about me and I have been keeping this secret for at least 6 years and I don't think that I have the guts to tell them.
Maimmie Mah my dad is a pastor too.I told my parents and my best friends last year, they all said I needed help from God.. now, one year later, I still feel the same and I don't know how to deal with it..
Maimmie Mah my dad is a pastor too.. i feel ya, but i came out to my parents at the beginning of this year and they havent treated me badly at all.. they know i cant control it and they are trying to understand it within their religion and its hard.. but i really didnt want to have to never see my family again.. and im not saying tell your parents now, but you have to give it a shot at some point.. i never in a million years thought my parents would have the reaction that they had, but they did and it was amazing
Hi, Shannon! Thank you for sharing your story. I got very emotional seeing this video because I can relate with some of the facts you have been through. It came to a situation that all of my family knows, but no one is willing to talk about it. It's like i don't have a girlfriend or a sex life. Not easy, but i never stopped my life beacause of that. Maybe they will never accept me, but like you said, people can surprise you. Thank you again for the video. I hope i can help someone like you helped me. I feel better! Lots of good vibes for you and Cammie. xo
Your coming out story was so inspiring but when came out was so different my dad doesn't accept me to this day so we l no reltionship but. Mum and others in family do. Friends do too i had negitive reactions now i am like i don't care at place where i am happy with who i am
You give me so much hope for the future. I'm out but struggling with accepting where my life is going and who I'm going to be and who I'll be sharing my life with. You and Cammie show me that love is worth waiting for and that someday I will find someone who will love me the way I deserve to be loved. Thank you.
Wow, good job on this video Shannon! It's cool to see you be so raw and so real. I can't imagine going through that. Good to see you're doing well. Best wishes!
I want to say that it takes courage to do what you have done. I hope that you have a very successful life. I don't think that you should ever be embarrassed about being who you are. I am a cancer survivor and i am 19 almost 20 years old. I have gone through bullying and many other things. I am the first in my family to go through college. I have a lot of pressure that I put on myself. I think that you are amazing and that you will have a good life
I always think that, some people push you away because they want to see if you'll insist to stay. But on the second thought... Sometimes, people push you away because they really want you away. Oh well, my point here is, it's okay to stick with someone you love. Especially when you know that he/she is kind of Philophobic (A person who's afraid of falling in love). It's okay to prove yourself and how genuine your love is. But once you had enough and stayed long enough... Let him/her go. You deserve to be happy. Yes, he/she may be scared to fall in love but hey, it's hard on your part too - to force yourself in him/her because you want that person to see that you're not like his/her past. Once again, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. It may not be with that person but surely, with the "right person" :) ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this. You have helped me since the start. I know I'm not alone and that there is someone feeling the same way and thinking the same things as me. You have helped me accept myself and built my confidence. Thank you so much
That last bit about people surprising you made me tear up in joy. I learned these past few months how it is actually true, and it don't apply just to coming out. Paranoia can be a bitch, making you hold back for so long on things you feel you need to say because you're scared of how the other person will react. For better or worse, we don't control other people's emotions or thoughts. And trust me, it's oh so great when get to find out that your crippling fear was totally unjustified.
Thank you so much for sharing your coming out story. I have been worried about the fact that there are so many people in my life that I need to tell, but you have shown me that it doesn't matter how long it takes, because you can get there in the end. I've also learnt that, as you say, people will be a lot more open-minded than you think they will be, if they truly are your friends. So thank you so much for the calming video :)
Idk if I'm just an emotional wreck right now. But I freakin cried watching this. I think that because.. This story is SO much like mine. I broke. Because I still haven't been able to grip on how to tell people.... I dont know. But damn dude thanks. It kinda opened my eyes fr
this video makes me so happy. i recently discovered your channel and i've watched just about every video of yours and your relationship is just so.. i don't even know how to describe it, it seems perfect. obviously it's probably not all good times, but seeing you two so happy together gives me hope that i will find a guy who loves me as much as you love each other. this was weird but i just felt like writing this to you, and i hope you read it. thank you for bringing joy to my darker days!
Thank you so much for all your videos...They seriously help. Currently trying to figure out how to come out to my family and friends. So far one person knows and it feels like a weight has lifted off my shoulders! :D
Wow you cant imagine how much i needed that "i love you" at the end. I saw that video directly after it came out and i always watch it again when i feel like needing it. Shanon your THE best
Read through most comments and I love how positive and supportive ppl are. Wonderful. Your video is honest and you calmly talk eloquently which is great. Preaching in any way I think is difficult to stomach but great vid and as many have noted-you seem beautiful inside and out.
Shannon, I stumbled across this video when it first came out and at the time, I didn't understand why it was so powerful for me. I have spent the last two years searching for answers in secret and struggling with my identity. Last week I finally started writing down my feelings and then slowly expressing them to my friends. I am still questioning my sexual orientation, but thanks to you and your videos, I have finally started to except myself. Thank you endlessly. You have truly changed lives.
I just felt that I had to come back here to thank you again.. And I will love you forever Shannon, seriously you have no idea how much this helps.. THANK YOU!
Just saw the video and i have to say this is such an inspiring speech...!! Thank you so much for sharing it !! I figured out we're more than i thought to struggle to accept who we are and be at ease with it ...--' Just keep doing this :)
Oh girl I gotta say I cried a little bit with this video. You are amazing. I've been following you since a lot of time, and I owe you a lot. I used to be a self harmer, and I did a lot of things on my wrists and on my body just because I couldn't admit I was gay. And since I'm watching your videos, I feel a lot better. Your words make me feel like I'm not alone, and like it's okay to be me. I haven't come out to my father yet, and my mother will never know because she died, but I'm sure I'll tell all my family soon. Thanks for all the motivation, the inspiration, and the hope you gave me. You are the most amazing youtuber ever. Thank you! Btw, I'm really really proud of you!!!! Xoxox
Your story is so inspiring for me. I'd like to thank you so much. Watching your videos has helped me learn and grow so much. I look up to you. You're such a great person. And it's so awesome how supportive your family is. You and your girlfriend give me hope. Thank you. So much.
Honestly, to me this is your most authentic video i had the pride watching. I follow you for quite long time and I find in this one the you that i most recognize. Thanks for being there, you are helping me throughout my journey too. Years ago when i started following you, it was quite obvious, now that i write this, that you would be part of my progressively personal acceptation of myself and now ready to come out and to be me. I owe you. Thanks again
you are so inspirational, seriously! can i just say that your video was one of the suggestions on the side after watching like 12 other videos and when i was watching i noticed how familiar you looked and so i went on your tumblr and realised that i've been following your girlfriend for like 5 months and had always wondered who you were in her photos because i thought that you were so beautiful and i had really wanted to follow you! hahaha so i found you by chance, how lucky! keep up the good work girl
hi Shannon! You and Cammie are perfect for each other. I'm happy for the both you. you're so lucky coz you're surrounded by very supportive people. especially You're Mom, i like her. i'm gay, or a bisexual but i like girls more than i like boys.maybe 75% gay, 25% bisexual..all i know is i'm not straight. i'm only out to the person who i fell in love with, my best friend. Coming out is not an option for my situation. i have 3 siblings and i think they're all gay too. this is really a pain to my ass. i'm in a fuckin difficult situation. I love my parents, i always want them to be happy. But it seems like we're a big disappointment to them. it is always in my thoughts that 'i can marry any guy and pretend to be happy and raise kids' i'll do it just for them. I have no one to tell all about these, the only person who know the real me, doesn't exist anymore. after i told her what i really feel, everything has changed. Being left alone in this situation really SUCKS!(and i'm crying right now) BUT I'M OKAY' I'LL BE OKAY! Seeing You and Cammie and other happy lesbian/gay couples make me feel better.THANK YOU for that! Maybe all do better in my next life..LOL PS. Pls do more videos with Cammie.. :)
I don´t know why, but this video kind of makes me sad. I had my coming out about nine month ago and I get the mood you are in... even though I never thought it would be a big deal and everyone of my family and friends took it good... No one should feel bad about love... But its sad, that there are still people out there who don´t understand that love between two women or between two men is equal to the love between man and woman... But thank you very, very much for videos like this. It will help a lot to change peoples minds. Love and merry christmas from germany.
Thank you for doing this stuff ! you're great and watching this makes me look forward to the future more, because I am going to college in september and i'm really scared, especially because I'm still not ok with me being gay and things like that... So listening to your story gives me hope, thank you !
i just watched this and i seriously cried!! like this video is sooooo inspirational! and like im only 16 and i know that might seem really young but ive been struggling with my sexuality for awhile now and um after watching this video its basically feels like youve given me um given me some of the strength you had/have to talk about it to someone and kind of start to accept it?. Just so you know that there are so many people youve helped through your tumblr and youtube thats its sooooo amazing that 1 person can do!and so many people all over the world love you for it! its awesome. well umm i hope you read this and yeah keep doing what your doing cause its awesome, funny and amazing! and heaps of people think the same thing as you probably already know.
Hi idk if youll see this or not but i just want you to know that your story has completely changed my life. you have really helped me a lot in the whole coming out process and with your guidance, i just told my best friend(who was absolutely amazing about it) i am terrified to tell my parents and my sister but i think i may use your letter idea. your letter was perfect and i think it could work. anyway i just wanted to let you know that you are an amazing person and you have truly made a difference in my life. thank you so much for all that you do. btw my name is shannon too!
I'm bi curious, and the only people I have told are my really close friends, they are so supportive but there's one thing wrong, my family, my family is super religious, I mean I'm a Christian( yes, you can be gay, bi, Etc. and be religious) but I'm not very religious, anyways my stepdad hates gays( even tho his daughter is a lesbian) and if he knew I'm so scared of his reaction, I feel like my mom would be more accepting but I'm still scared, I literally have no one to talk to but my friends, I have had these fellings for a couple of years, I don't know if I'm bi or not but I'm just confused Rn, it's a 50/50 chance, I favor boys but I think girls are attractive Also, I'm scared and don't know what to do, my family would make a whole bug deal and wouldn't understand, I'm even considering talking to my stepsister who is a lesbian
I'm bisexual and I was going through struggles for 5 years at some points there were people who bullied me just because of who I am and I have always kept that sad part of my life in my heart but after watching this video you've made me realize that a lot more people have accepted me for who I am and are still my best friends so now I'm letting go of all the small but bad experiences, thank you so much for helping me realize that it's about time I live my life and be completely happy and out with who I am I love you so much and I'm so happy that you and Cam found eachother because you guys are so happy together:: Wish You The Best 🙌💞❤️😘😃😋
I doubt you will read this but thank you I have been struggling with this and watching this and your updated video inspired me to come out thank you ❤️❤️
I just discovered you guys today, don't even know why your videos came up, but not the point anyways, haha. Just wanted to say that I'm really glad that you shared your experience with us and also to tell you that your family is mega awesome, and you and your girlfriend's videos are super funny. PS: As a Spanish speaker, I approve your little sentence of El Mariachi quiere bailar? . LOLThat was pretty hilarious actually. xoxo
sexuality is interesting and then again why is it even a thing? we love who we love. my sexuality is pretty fluid. i find myself more intrigued with girls, then again i can like both boys and girls equally. probably because i never really had a girlfriend; i've always dated/hooked up with boys
I was watching for the umpteenth time his video "out" and you make us realize that our highest priority is ourselves and this is not selfishness. told you on twitter and I repeat: I just wanted you in my adolescent stage, everything would have been different and better! but I am grateful to know his words in time! for each wasted day before, after you, I see many still to live!THANK YOU SO MUCH 🙌❤️ I do not know if it's possible, but could share your letter again, letter he sent to his father.
I applause you and others who have found the courage to be honest with who you are and not live in the shadows. I have a very supportive family and group of friends therefore I just don't know why I can't find that sort of courage for myself. I think I've lived in confusion and denial for so long and I'm tired of pretending. Thanks for the videos as it's really making me think!!
haa I not really say only because I see all your videos and this encouraged me to see him and thank you 1000 times your words are beautiful and you helped me very much to talk to my parents thanks
