Friend break ups are honestly the worst. It messes with you so bad mentally. It’s just draining how you can put so much trust and time and create these memories with someone that ended up not being a good person and then abandoning the friendship like it was nothing. Kudos to you for pushing through and remaining true to yourself. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
ive learned to not hype up friends by labeling them as best friends. we all mutually are aware how close we are but we dont attempt at making it something so extreme. You learn to never get disappointed because it will happen to everyone.
ironic how she believed you would go to hell for something so natural and she consciously took advantage of someone's kindness, seems like more of a sin to me
tory same! i have a few gay and bi friends and people at my school are trying to convince them to do conversion therapy. it’s honestly the most disgusting and disrespectful thing i’ve ever heard. i cannot believe even now in this day and age people are still so close minded about the lgbtq+ community. 🤦🏾♀️
Happy to see comments like this. I recently came out as gay/ lesbian and I’ve already had people telling me I’m sick and why did I choose this? Baring in mind I’m only 13 and telling my friends and parents is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the positivity is so overwhelming but obviously it’s not all gold and diamonds. When I was trying to figure myself out I was considering conversion therapy because I knew that gay/ lesbians are looked down on by some people. People don’t usually assume I’m a lesbian because I’m not that stereotypical gay, I still wear skirts to school and girls clothes and makeup and shit, I just like girls and when I tell people it’s like they think I’m joking.
I literally can't understand someone not paying rent for 10 MONTHS I can't even go 10 minutes without stressing that I haven't completed my friends' $10 venmo request. That says much more about her than it does about you, you're not stupid, you are kind and generous and she took advantage
yeah, maybe if she was really trying to get a job and struggling, and doing what she could and just couldn't make it work, than there is some sympathy there, but if its been 10 months and you are still in that mindset of being too good for some lower ranked/lower paying jobs, then you need a reality check. I think its an issue that comes with people who really have only lived in like college housing and with their parents, because with their parents its rent free usually, and in college you have to pay for that but with loans or parents helping you, its still not like "the real world". So then people go out and live with their friends and when they cant pay rent its like they expect their friends to be like their parents and just take care of it for them. That transition from having to work so you can have like "fun" money (for drinking, doing fun stuff, food out, etc), to then having to work so you have money for SURVIVAL is hard for a lot of people and some people just have A LOT of trouble realizing that just because you dont WANT to do something doesn't mean that you dont NEED to, and sometimes you need to get a job you dont want or love, until you CAN get a job you love.
Wow I just saw this in my recommended page so don't really know the background but I watched the whole vid & she was 100% using you. Like she was getting free trips free rent free clout cause cmon who makes a vid for themselves and god & posts it on RU-vid.. lol if it's between you & god then you'd just keep it private. That sucks that you did all of that for her and never will really know if she was a real friend or using you. Honestly seems like she was using you tho.. she didn't feel comfortable telling you her true thoughts til she was already kicked out.. plus if she was really your friend and truly cared for you/wasn't in it for the benefits then she would care to try to fix things even if she doesn't agree with you being bisexual she would try to save the friendship or apologize in some way. She just dipped out. You seem like a really genuine nice person and unfortunately she took advantage of that.
@@Erin-xz2ng He has "Incel" in his username, I'm going to take a wild guess and say he's from the century where women had zero rights, belonged to their fathers and then to their husband, where women not being virgins upon marriage is punishable by death, and where marital rape wasn't frowned upon much less punishable in the least. Haha, just a wild guess though! 🙄
This is so embarrassing... living 10 months for free without feeling guilty. Yikes. I borrowed money from my parents about 80 bucks and felt bad for paying it late lol.
Lmfaoooo y’all are drugged, or too young to ever have been through a long term relationship, or a relationship where you have children together. Losing a friend is sad ofc but losing your boyfriend or husband that you’ve been committed to for years or decades that has built a life with you is devastating 🤷🏻♀️
C. Bella not really. If you get affected by something that minuscule, you really need to reevaluate what you value in life. bc that’s just kinda pathetic.
This was honestly really helpful. Just because you consider someone a best friend you might let some things slide but it’s important to realize that toxic people are toxic. Period. Don’t feel bad by cutting them off.
It’s really hard when people continuously take advantage of you (especially when they take advantage of your kindness). It’s even harder when they are the closest person to you. Putting all her thought of bisexuality aside, she could have at least made an effort to repay you for the year that she lived at that house at your expense. Even if she had different views than you, showing an effort to repay you would just be the respectful thing to do out of your friendship for the past 4 years. I believe you handled this situation in the best way you could! Coming from experience, I know how hard it is to cut someone toxic out of your life, but you are handling it amazingly! I can say this on behalf of all of your supporters; we are all so proud of you and everything that you have become! This was a hard chapter in your life, but with this experience you have grown and you will continue to grow into the best version of yourself! Much love to you Andrea 💜
I wonder if she started talking bad about bisexuals and anyone who is interested in the same sex because she was "getting kicked out" & i understand that its not about money...like you said...its the principal & respect. Ive been in a same situation. But If she would have tried to stay around...not in your place, but just like you said "back to Chicago i go" seems like she didn't care after... and im confused myself about my sexuality. I'm a 25 yr old girl... and im more attracted to girls, have gotten with about 10+ girls sexually...(& not just making out) but never really have felt romanticly interested yet. Idk i think im bi sexual..sexually, but not romantically yet.♡♡♡♡ Insta: mslakenxx ;P
girl. sending over love. it’s unfortunate how the people who love us the most know how to hurt us the worst, but I hope that you will heal in time. simply breathe in the present. spend more time outdoors, focus more on yourself, and learn to stand your ground. you got dis Andrea!!!
How the hell does someone go 9 months without finding a job or really trying?!! I could never do that to someone unless it’s my own family it would be too much anxiety for me EVERY MOMENT OF EVERYDAY. Plus your relationship with that person deteriorates!!
How can someone live off of someone else for 10 months having everything paid for like I cant even let my friends pay for a bag of chips without feeling bad 😐
Girl, I am Christian. And God loves ALLL his children. I don't understand her closed mentality. If she chose to drink and smoke who is she to judge you.
Avery Binagia Yes it does say that but it also says who are we to judge thy neighbour. So again we cannot judge our brothers and sisters for God has the final judgment and will do what he sees fit.
Avery Binagia Telling someone that will not bring them to God nor will it save them. We should not shame, discourage, or use condemnation. We should instead be pure, loving, gracious, and righteous towards them and be examples of that.
Avery Binagia I don’t think you are quite getting what I’m saying. My point is that flat out telling someone they’re going to hell is NOT the way to spread the gospel! I pray that as you mature you’ll learn more about this topic at your home church. Perhaps some missionary training as well as you’ll learn how to lead others to Christ through compassion and love verses condemning them. Good night.
sis s c r e w the toxic people im happy for u and im glad after this you will be able to completely move on with ur life. i love u girlie ive been a subscriber since 2012 and its amazing to see you grow.
The first red flag would’ve been telling you she wanted to save your parents from being Catholic. No religion should comment on other religion if they’re focused on god..
EXACTLY like um excuse i would not have let a crazy person like that stay w me or be friends w them even. Kinda feel like there's maybe more to this story than shes letting on
Everything Cathodic is evil and demonic and only stupid retards can't and don';t see this I mean there leaders are all perverts that love sucking little boys penises & this has been going on for hundreds of years it isn't anything new & we wonder why the USA is so fucked up as is the whole planet.. Vatican should be Nuked & destroyed as should all fucking known perverts
Dude get your money back. We understand it’s not about the money but that’s so so frustrating. It’s something that YOU’VE worked so so hard for and in no world should you have to pay on her behalf. By asking for your money back, you’re not making it about the money, you’re just cutting all ties. I think it will actually give you lots of closure. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
I think we could all tell Sandra is that wild “friend” you have from 16-24 years old and never talk to ever again. Glad you’re moving on. You will rise above her negativity and surround yourself with better ppl
Don’t feel it’s your responsibility for not being harder on her!!! She’s a grown woman she should’ve been on her shit. If she didn’t want a 9-5 she should’ve worked one temporarily while she figured out how to do what you do. She took advantage of your good heart. Thank god she showed her true colors and you were able to remove that negativity from your life.
Im a Catholic, and as far as I'm concerned God wanted us to love and be decent people to each other, if you're loving then you're good enough to me. Keep doin you.
Well if you say Jesus, you still imply Christianity. I prefer to just believe in God or a higher force that is watching over us without any religion involved. From what I see, religion only causes war and terrorism...
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!! People who use their Christianity as a justification for judgement have clearly not grasped the concept that Christianity is really supposed to be about LOVING people.
Leviticus 20:13 "If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them."
Alyssa Lovejoy if it helps you I struggled with this for a year when I lost my 2 best friends. It hurt me like crazy and I thought it was the end of the world. I basically disassociated myself with everyone and went solo for a year minding my own business doing my own thing didn’t talk to anyone and only did family things or family friend things but one day I decided to make up with one of the two girls and we came into an agreeance that the other girl is what split us up which was true very true. And now I don’t hold that hate in my heart for the 3rd girl but I cut her out of my life completely and I’m glad for it. Now although you may not be able to mend ends it’s okay to be hurt and it’s okay to give yourself time but just know you have other people there for you too
hearing you say this has really helped me. I lost my best friends over a year ago and even though they hurt me more than anyone has ever hurt me im still struggling and i miss them. It still hurts really bad but at the same time i miss them and i dont know why! im glad im not the only one struggling with this.
but like with break ups with lovers, once you have some distance you either realize one of two things, either that whatever the issue(s) was, was actually not that big of deal and you either figure it out or just forgive and forget OR you start to get some clarity and see all the signs you missed and how there were much more issues than you could even see at the time and you know that even though it hurt, its for the best they are not in your life.
Dude I feel you on the “not wanting to cause waves” thing..especially with money like that shit is so uncomfortable to confront. My best friend owes me money (a good amount too) and I have yet to ask about it and it’s been almost a year 😣
Skylar Jauregui good idea!! i don't know if there are any legal documents that claimed that Andrea and Sandra were supposed to share rent, but hopefully there is!
If sandra's name isn't on the lease there's no grounds for that. It sounds like Sandra wasn't there to sign the lease so she's not on the hook for the money at all. Always put a roommate on the lease
Coming from a Christian POV: Sandra is not God & therefore has no right to judge you/say if you’re going to hell or not. She’s human, meaning she’s got sin as well. & news flash for humanity: in God’s eyes - sin is sin, period. Whether that be lying, stealing, murdering someone, etc. It’s all the same in God’s eyes. My pastor gave a sermon a little over a week ago with the main point (for me, at least) being: am I a Christian or am I following Jesus? There’s a massive difference in someone who calls themselves a Christian & someone who follows Jesus (do they walk to talk). Many people I know & have gone to school with call themselves a Christian, but don’t follow Jesus. They say these things to try & get away with bigotry, homophobia, transphobia, racism, etc., when in all honesty: Jesus didn’t stand with the saints, he sat with the sinners. John 8 is a perfect example of this. Someone who genuinely follows Jesus & wants to be more like Him, would extend love & grace to everyone they meet, because that’s exactly what Jesus did for us!! Andrea, I’ve been in a similar position; people would call me names, say I’m going to hell, say that God doesn’t love me, etc., because of my past. But girly, they aren’t God. Don’t let them try to be God. I know that what was said to you really hurt you, but don’t let their opinions harden your heart towards the Lord or people who genuinely follow Him. Jesus loves you! He will ALWAYS love you! If anyone wants to talk more about this (or just chat in general) feel free to DM me on IG: worthmoreproject . Be blessed! ❤️
i’ve been supporting Andrea since she was getto fab and this is by far my favorite video she’s ever posted. so raw, genuine, honest, AND respectful despite the situation she was put in. thank you for coming out to us Andrea. We love u.. 🥰💓
azlxns her parents paid for her to live in la the first time so I’m sure they were giving her money the second time too and instead of giving money to Andrea for rent etc like I’m sure was intended she blew it shopping
I am christian and I hate when this happens, bc I have friends that are gay, but I've NEVER talked crap behind their back, I actually defend them most of the time bc i believe that God is love, if I show the opposite people are gonna walk away from God and that's not the point. If Sandra would've really gotten the message from God she wouldn't have done that.
@@bree3711 ikr? if you want to show God's love, then you have to show love to others, you can't show other things, if you do what kind of God are you talking about then?
10 minutes in and i’m already so proud of andrea. i’ve been following her since her kian days and to see her come out and see her prosper is actually amazing and makes me want to shed a tear. i love you forever and always, andrea and we’re always here for you♥️♥️
As someone who is also bisexual, this is heartbreaking. I can literally FEEL your heart break amidst all of the frustration on your part and mindlessness on Sandra’s part.
As a Christian I just want to say I’m sorry on behalf of all of us who come across w/ hostility towards the LGBTQ community. We have not loved you well, which is what we’re called to do. God loves every single one of you so much and all of our sins are supposed to be created equally. The Bible tells that salvation is received through Christ alone. Not our good works. Regardless of what someone’s view are on the topic is we are all guilty of something. The weight of my sin is no less than someone else’s. It is by the grace of God that He loves us anyways. There is no condemnation in Christ. Also it is not our responsibility to be judge and tell people if they are going to hell or not. We are NOT God. There are plenty of people that think they’re Christians and upon judgment will be denied. So seek God. Let Him guide you to the truth and develop your character. See the transformation of truth move within you. Love Him and love others well. He will take care of the rest.
God loves everyone you are so right ... but yea homosexuals are going to hell cos it says so in the word of God 1Co 6:9-10 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Gabbie Hernandez Christians should preach the word of God 1Co 6:9-10 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Personally don’t Agree with being “ Fake” Sandra clearly had A realization on what she believed. Yes she may have presented her actions the wrong way. Does not mean she’s Fake. No one is wrong in this situation, look at both perspectives. You can always say something, and then feel something different. I feel like true Friendship Last regardless of the events that happens. You’ll know when it’s a true relationship when you end up talking and re-connecting the relationship.
@@BrendaLopez-qt2zo girl I left for 5 days and had to come back that shit was so hard and scary. I'd rather suffer in my relationship to know that my children are taken care of and happy that they're with their father. You'll do anything for your children 🙏🏼
This story made me so emotional. I’ve been afraid to come out as bi because I’ve only told one person in my life and when I told them things went down hill. They acted like I was the devil and I’m an awful person for being bi.
@@azlxns In her "I found Jesus" video she explains that the first time she lived in LA her parents were financially supporting her so my guess is this time around they were sending her money to survive since she didn't have a job but instead of putting that money towards rent or at least helping out with the house expenses she was using it to buy clothes, postmates and eating out... which is a very shitty thing to do.
Or maybe her parents were just paying bills like credit cards, etc. They both said she was buying things like clothes, so she could have just been going shopping and putting things on cards and her parents got the bills and would pay them. In that case, I would understand why she never gave her “rent”. definitely don’t agree with it, but that makes more sense.
i just don’t get it... how do you come home with food, clothes, makeup, etc.. KNOWING you’re not paying rent??? like how do you feel good about that? a good friend would NEVER. and i understand why andrea felt used... because she was being used. 100%. we don’t wanna call out fake friends when we see it, cause its a super shitty feeling. you just can’t believe it. but thats how life works unfortunately.
For real, I can't imagine being unemployed for 10 months and letting someone else just pay my rent for me. And then believing that person would go to hell because of their decision to orientation. 🤦 As if God, if that's who you believe in, would be like "yeah, you were a good person and always helped out your friends, buuuut you are also attracted to the same sex, sooo... Down to hell you go!"
People like Sandra give Christianity such a bad rep. Christianity is about unconditional love and no judgement. She should love and accept you no matter what. As a Christian, I believe that love and acceptance are more important than anything. God will not punish you for love.
ariana sulia it’s not a sin to accept people for who they are. Let’s not forget you’re a sinner like everyone else just in a different way. Jesus even hung out with sinners and loved them regardless. Maybe you should study up a little.
Sandra literally just used you and it sucks that it came to that point. She’s also a hypocrite claiming she knows God and all, but anyone who knows God knows love and the way she ended things was not “Christian” like. Don’t let situations/people make you stop being a good person Andrea. There’s not many people like you, and hopefully in the future, you have people in your life that are worth your time
Straight, gay, bi, anything you’re still a slaying sister and you’re still amazing and I’m glad you’re coming out with this, loveeee it understand it completely just know we will always show that sister support
If she had such strong convictions and thought you were so morally repugnant then it’s really slimy of her to have used you to have a free place to live. That’s not actually something a Christian person would do, poor excuse to make herself feel holier than thou
parker shaw right AND (I used to be Christian so I know this... I say I’m spiritual now) in the Bible it talks about how you should constantly be trying to bring people closer to God..... if she had the “right” to tell Andrea she would go to hell.... and called herself Andreas friend.... WHY WOULDN’T SHE TRY TO “SAVE HER”?! That is a legit thing Christians do, is try to “save” people from sin or whatever & Sandra did nothing?!!
Rent for an extra person for almost a year. Wow. I’m 1) in awe of how nice/selfless of a person you are and 2) amazed at how well you managed to deal with this whole situation and how strong you are to have had moved past this situation. I haven’t seen much of any of your videos nor do I know who this Sandra person is but I watched through this whole video and honestly it was incredibly uplifting. More power to you ❤️
Kaitlynn Voss I know...absolutely beautiful. I'm critically ill and unable to eat. My teeth died due to malnutrition, but unfortunately all 28 had to pulled...it's so embarrassing. I can get a mouth full of implants but I'm not able to come up with the money $22000! Ugh I hate my life
You are enough. You're so enough!! You're a beautiful woman with a kind heart and loving spirit. I as a Catholic do NOT believe you will go to hell for how you feel. That is the biggest amount of bs i've ever heard. If she was truly a christian she would open her mind and arms to you and be understanding that your life is between you and God. A hypocrite is all she is and hypocrisy is the polar opposite of christianity and Gods unconditional love. God loves you for who you are. Don't let anyone tell you different. Stay strong beautiful💖
dan howell is a flop -I consider myself a true christian/Catholic and I pride myself in living with unconditional love for all people on all walks of life. Christianity isn't just for a set group and sadly that's where people start to lose faith. People feel like they aren't good enough or unworthy or don't meet a certain standard of the people who practice their faith. But believe me when I say God's love is fierce and true and his love runs deep. He loves me unconditionally and he loves you unconditionally too!! God knows your heart. Your biggest fears, deepest regrets, and your most difficult struggles and He loves you anyway. Praying for you to find Christ in your life again because he's patiently waiting for you with open arms! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers and just know you can always find a friend in me!
The Booth Family Catholic too! I was raised Catholic and I’m grateful to have been raised by parents who were logical and open minded yet devoted Catholics. People can be both. Look at The Popes. Old school catholics don’t like Pope Francis because he isn’t conservative. And he’s the Pope. Protestantism defines “God” like a person who is your best friend instead of him being omnipotent. God has bigger issues on hand then worrying about 7.3 billion people’s love interests.
@@moonsmommyy You're really kind and I appreciate it a lot. I just don't know what to believe when I'm told by the same people that my closest friends are going to hell, and don't deserve life. For a long time, I've feared death, and if God would.. accept me I guess? And the thought of liking the same gender was so "disgusting"? I used to wonder everyday since I was young if I was going to burn in hell or not. But I've come to the conclusion, that I'm okay with there being no god. I'm okay with being unconscious and some particle in the void with no significance. Maybe that death is kind of comforting, I guess. I try so hard to have faith, I want to because having someone you can always turn to sounds great. I tend to side with logic, and the obvious proof of that there was no Adam or eve. I really want to be Christian, but I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess the thought of your life being worthless because one day that will arrive so quickly it won't matter. I feel like everyone I know believes in God only because they are afraid of the unknown and afraid of them not being so important. If you were born somewhere else, the truth is you'll probably have a different religion that you will put so much love and faith into. Religion really only has to do with fear and your environment. Of course, I respect it but I found myself thinking of people differently if they're Christian even though I labeled myself as one. I really don't know how to have faith anymore. I wish I could. I really do. I'm 13 and my whole family is Catholic. I don't know what to do.
I remember watching Andrea back in 2014, still love her to this day. her personality is bomb and just how she is as a person. You’re such a strong person and you have all of our support.
WHAT? John 7-24 Do not judge according to appearance but judge righteous judgment! Romans 1-26 For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. 27 Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. Also goes on saying they should be killed and also the people who approve of suck wickedness.
@@esthergutierrez931 I can't believe that you don't see the difference. Would you stay friends with someone that genuinely believes that you are a sinner and are going to hell? And thinks that bisexuality is the same with smoking and drinking? AND expresses the exact opposite opinion while you are paying her rent?
Take her to small claims court, sue her for the damages and rent she is responsible for. I’m really sorry this was your experience with Christian people. Some of us act like Sandra, but the Bible explicitly tells us not to treat people poorly just because they like one thing or another! Good luck. ❤️ You have my support
Major sociopath vibes from sandra imo. Like fakes being ur best friend in order to use her for her own personal gain, and hurts u in the process, and then throws u away when ur not of use to her anymore. JUST SAYINGGG
omg the video I've been waiting forrrrrr ! as someone who was also friends w sandra for nearly 8 years, this whole situation blew my mind... u didn't deserve this and the whole thing truly made me question a LOT about my relationship w her as well. love ya andrea
Andrea, I really hope you don’t think that what Sandra said about Christianity actually reflects how you feel about the religion or people who believe in Christianity. I’m a Christian and I don’t believe that at all. I’m so sorry she made you feel like you were unworthy!!! You are a good person and God loves you and everyone and made you the way that you are 💗
Hannah Noelle this comment is so good and nice ! I'm bi as well and I'm also Christian, and I can't tell you how happy it makes me to see post like this. Love is love and god loves us all.
I was going to say that too as a Christian I don’t believe if you are gay or bi sexual that you are going to hell. I believe it comes down to who you are as a person.
Andrea, girl. I want you to know that I am a Christian! I love God... But I am also bisexual. I don't believe God judges you on who you love because he is a LOVING God. Please don't ever let anyone make you feel ashamed. ❤️ So sorry to hear about all of this. I hope you find friends that are truly worth it. And I agree, bisexuality is not a sin. 🤔❤️😉
Damn dude this is sooo messed up. Like who cares about the $ it’s the fact that someone so close to you felt that way, you mad poppin Andrea! been watching you since I was like 10 now I’m a RU-vide too thx for inspiring me, you are such an amazing person don’t let anyone tell you otherwise boo
As a catholic myself I don’t believe you being bisexual sends you to hell. I believe god knows each of us better than we know ourselves, not to mention he made each of us/knows our minds/struggles. He’s been with you while you were feeling confused and he loves you regardless! Stay strong Andrea, nothings wrong with you and I’m more than certain I’ll see you in Heaven (if I make it there🤞🏼 lol)❤️
Wow you're certainly not a real christian. You're not god so you cant be "sure" that someone will go to heaven or not. Only god can judge so... maybe you should look into that
TVDVideoMaker the Bible also says you can’t eat shrimp, wear clothes made from mixed fabrics and that two different grains shouldn’t be grown on the same field, is this something you live by and make an effort to keep up? The Bible is up for interpretation okay, let’s all just be friends🤝
@@julmo07 yeah but thats really not the same is it, If I kill someone that will be a bigger sin than if I would kill a Spider. So its kind of irrelevant
