Coming Out Autistic - Why You Should You Get A Diagnosis 

I don’t need a diagnosis as it wouldn’t help me. I live in a country where there are no disability laws or help for autistic people, so it’s pointless. I want to come out to my mom as autistic though. Any advice?

It is important for me because the cptsd from chronic child abuse, some of which was for my autistic behavior, has masked the autism for 58 years. After 33 years trying to get therapy for cptsd and dissociatiion, it was the enforced lockdown due to covid19 which helped me witness how strong I have been to withstand enforced isolatiin as a kid. Now I know how most people like myself are either drugged by illegal or prescribes drugs or alcohol and homeless. Tbat is why I have related more to to those people and they thought I was a carer and not a patient when in mental health system. I was a carer for anyone except for myself. That was the extent of my masking. It was a relief to get the duagnosis, but I do not hold out hope for support because my meltdiwns are still on my own and I have noone willing or able to support me. The MH system is only set up for those who are at risk of harming themselves, being victims of harm from others or harming others. It is like I am beginning to face the pain of neglect from my family and need autism support to learn to regulate my day for real. Id like to live with others who are accepting and from whom I can learn healthy way of life and I can help look after the property because I have never held down work for very long and am on sick benefit tin 40 years of adulthood. It is hard to face this at my age, but at least I am not wasting energy keeping up appearances of being "normal".

Well here in sweden a diagnosis is needed for support😊

​@@Etobicoke67 sevwe cptsd from bullying bwcause of autism

@@Etobicoke67 hope u were able to find/create a tribe or family 👪 many of us adults have had to learn/unlearn/relearn better parenting skills with ourselves ~covid lockdown happened 4 me just as I was deciding to come out n create safety support community...oops truly bad timing on my part yet thru truckers protest in 🇨🇦 January 2022 I found my people n now 3yrs later I have come to care deeply for a gent I met online who came out late diagnosis of aspergers, now I met Thomas n his great advice n I'm excited to learn how to better benefit/help/understand autism n let's hope my partner will someday feel 4 me as I do for him, anyhoo I digress I was moved by what u shared n reaching out/bak as I listen/study/research/discover more information eh!?!!6:06Pm9/2/2023

That’s amazing Natalie! Welcome to the team haha

@@ThomasHenley Thanks 😊

Definitely agree with your last point, I can imagine a lot people are closed minded about someone newly diagnosed!

This is an important trait in asd individuals, we're not quitters. Life is 110% harder, to get 80% less, but we survive.

Appreciate the boomer perspective as I am one too...ur share/comment made me smile hope u r still around following Thomas...hope we meet in his auti tea chat proper eh!?!!6:20Pm9/2/2023

How long did it take you to go through all them stages? I know I'm still working on myself!

Awh I’m very glad! I’d say the best thing to do is surround yourself with other autistic influencers on social media, I often come across a lot of things I relate to and it always sparks my curiosity to learn more!

Also, I really liked this video(and all your work lol)!

I couldn’t agree more with that, thanks for sharing! 😃

I should add that I am PDA, and from observation and experience it seems things are a lot "weirder" from this angle lol.

@@AmbieJoi Ahh me too. How do you find PDA interacts within your relationships? I know it can be tough in that sense

Haha "relationships" 😂

Some people see the labels as a negative or binding thing, and so never give the thought an honest assessment! It’s great that you are looking to learn more, as I know I learn so much from other autistic people 😁

​@@ThomasHenley fully agreed 😊

Hmmm... I understand that, why do you think you feel you don’t fit in?

@@ThomasHenley I guess It is to do with not being able to fit in at all, I don't know what to say, who to say or how to say anything really. I once got shot down buy another autistic because I said I liked the trees you see in the park with the silver/white bark on them and that just completely deflated me and I backed off. I get so Anxious I just sit in the corner to feel more calm and try not to stand out.

@@ThomasHenley Plus I think your hummer is really funny 🤣

Well I learned it can not be fixwd by being normal or gping putaid3 more

Ahh so you’re in the same boat as me. It can be hard to make friends on the spectrum when you like your alone time. Sometimes it’s just good to find some clubs, meet ups or hobbies that you like or are likely to attract people on your wavelength

@@ThomasHenley I did that back in college. I went to a lot of raves. Kind of odd but I like the environment of loud music 😅 made so many friends and met so many girls. Now I work a full time job it's hard to get out.

Oh ok😊

Attention to detail 😉

Developmental trauma such as CPTSD can actually present very similarly to autism itself. It's actually theorized that the majority of if not all autistic people are affected by trauma that is brought on simply by living as an autistic person.

Not good.

Thanks man! It’s not bad at all, you shouldn’t feel any pressure to open up or stay closed up about it. I think it’s a difficult thing to pull off as you do get talked down to by some people. If you stay true to yourself, speak up when people are talking weird and assert your independence it shouldn’t be a problem after a while. I’d recommend joining some groups and following autistic people on Instagram. Sometimes just being open about being autistic tends to draw that out of people around you, we are out and about more than it seems!

Read Neurotribes or watch some more of my videos. Aspergers is a reclaimed word and many Jewish scientists contributed to the formation of the spectrum, not just Asperger.

Oh ok thanks! Didn’t know

It’s no problem at all, I get it all the time 😅

Wow….didn’t know that!