Hi Logan my name is Chetan I was listening to your story I can certainly understand what you were going through I support you all the way through I am gay too when I came out to my parents two years ago it was very difficult very horrible nasty 🤢 they were my coming out story is horrible I can share it with you if interested nice to meet you
Why the 1970's was the disco sexual revolution era so I imagined it would not be so bad. Gay people are EVERYWHERE and being GAY was all the rage for the Greeks and Romans!
First of all you have beautiful eyes. I didn't come out until at the age of 20 yrs. old and in college. I messed around with my first guy at 15 but didn't like it. I dated girls from that age until 18 and started with guys again around that time. Come out is hard for some people but it was easy for me. I just told my grandparents first and than my mom and my dad didn't talk to me for three weeks. But all is good to this day.
Y'all have it hard. I didn't have to come out because I was never hiding anything. What you see was what you got. I'm bi and it was completely obvious. My mother disowned me but Idrc. I'm my own man so I'm good. Live your life bro. One love ❤❤
Hi your very barve of you to come out my name is Chetan I am gay too I support you all the way through my coming out story is horrible nasty 🤢 I came out two years ago to my parents they were very nasty horrible
The good thing about the LGBTQ+ community is that we can make our own family. There are sometimes where I don't feel comfortable being myself around certain people, but my friends are my ride or dies. Especially, the ones that have been there when I needed them the most. I consider them my family and am grateful to have them in my life. I would say create a stable friend group and confide in them.
Wow....I'm so surprised. I wouldn't have guessed that you had such life threatening challenges. How were you able to find the focus and discipline to accomplish so much despite such turmoil? I loved how you mentioned your little brother who loved you unconditionally.
If they are really your family. I don't think they would hate you. Your true family will love you through anything whether that be blood family or not. As long as you are honest and true with your self you have done your job.
Xavier, thanks for this video. Congrats on all your accomplishments in high-school and dance tournaments. I am in college in Maine. I have a final grade of an A for the semester. I went back to college two years ago. I could relate to most of the video. I got abused in 2019 and now I'm doing better.
You look nothing like what you’ve been through .. you carry yourself so happy and positive you’d think your parents accepted you from the beginning! Your energy and bravery is everything .. I’m so proud of you ❤️ your journey is amazing and I’m glad you saw the light and the end and that you’re comfortable in your skin 🙏🏾 just know we accept you and god accepts you too.. and i love you and your brothers relationship keep that tight bond with him and be that example for him 🖤
and this is why..I had to become a gay mother. I hated to see the pain and confusion of young gay boys/men trying to navigate their way through feelings everyone is telling them is wrong.
Wow, you are such a handsome young man, life should be easier for you. Sorry you went through that. Live your life, follow your dreams, do what makes you happy. Hugs and kisses 🤗🤗💋💋
Thank you my little brother. You explained your life and experiences in a powerful way and told the important details. You have a beautiful face and a beautiful way of expressing yourself. It was difficult to hear the part of your father when he initially became aware of your sexuality . . . It looked like it was hard for you to describe the event. I'm proud of you my little brother, and I'm so delighted that God made you in such a beautiful and amazing way.
Amazing... Idk what is more powerful, your courage or your smile! You are a leader in the making... thank you for letting us bare witness to your journey!
I absolutely love you! You are an amazing young man and I am so proud of your conviction to live your life authentically! I'm a 64 year old white gay man and married to a black man! We've been together 23+ years and married 7+ years! I hope you find love in your life one day, because he will be the luckiest man to have someone like you in his life!
It was an absolute pleasure to interview you, it was a good conversation. Wishing you nothing but the best moving forward. When the struggles come your way always remember, tomorrow brings a new opportunity to rise above that which makes you uncomfortable or unhappy. Go get em.
Xavier, I'm so happy for you and I wish you nothing but continued success! What I'm about to say to you, I hope you receive it with the LOVE that it is intended. As a younger person you were Lil' Ms Messy in training...STOP IT! Your life and who you are is your truth...everyone else has their place in time to realize their being. People will look at you and say "I can't trust you." The thing with your friend (hold his coat) and the principle's office (outing him) will not play well in the real world. Continue to evolve and be yourself and your soulmate will come. You will have friends who will gravitate towards you with their love and respect...don't violate their trust.
Xavier You're A Bright Handsome Talented Young Man,Sorry You Had To Go Through All That Trauma,And So Forth,But I'm Glad You Overcame So Much and Are Still Here,And Prevailed,Keep Doing You As A Proud Gay Black Man,Like Myself,May More Good Things Come Your Way,Arthur.
my family beat me too, bro. i've struggled with that for a long time. i have been suicidal twice. i hope your dad finds the strength to ask for your forgiveness. i hope, if he does, you find the strength to forgive him. i imagine all of that will take its own time to unfold. you are a good person. you don't deserve that. being exactly who you are is a blessing to all of us. we need you and we're so much better with you here.
Your video popped up in my recommended. You have an amazing smile and very expressive eyes. Kudos to ur little brother for supporting you when you needed it the most. Glad things have gotten better for you. Best wishes for 2021, we could all use them after the year we've experienced!😥
Welcome to the club, follow King 👑 ! I came out to my dad, who I knew was going to be supportive anyway, over the phone because I was going to meet a guy who I matched with on Tinder during my holiday in the US (I'm from Europe). The only thing I regret is that it was done over the phone and not in person 💀 but he's fine with it, and I've been with my boy for more then two years 😍 You're eyes are Hella pretty 😘
It is a pleasure to meet you and hear your story! I'm glad you kept pushing forward and always do so. Always look out for YOU first everything else will follow into place. Keep moving forward and not backwards. As a 59 year old gay male it is sad and yet refreshing to hear young peoples experiences and thoughts.
Watching these coming out videos feels like a sucker punch. I’m 80 and came out in the sixties to unconditional love from my Mennonite parents and have always known how lucky that was but it makes my heart ache to see these.
God bless you always Xavier. My advice to you is to take good care of yourself and make something of yourself. Reach as high as you can and never give up or allow anyone or anything to stand in your way. Follow your dreams and goals. Don’t waste your life and precious time. We only have one life to live. Time waits for no one. A big hug to you😉💯
I stumbled upon your story. Great message of inspiration and hope. I'm older than your parents. I applaud them for evolving and growing beyond their own insecurities. GOD has made no mistakes. I didn't "come out" until I was in my early 30s. I was reared in a military household where there was no outward display of emotions. Each family member represented the family when in the public's eye. I heard all of the negative homophobic statements within the forest of home. However, when I wrote a three-page letter to explain who I was to my parents, I received nothing but LOVE from them. "We accept you love you as you are!" I had to pause and think, "Who are you and where are my parents?" The most important lesson is to Love yourself and know yourself, at any age. GOD has made no mistakes in YOU, His Creation! I'm glad that I witnessed your story and saw your Excellence! Much admiration and respect from someone who has lived three sets of 18 years on this earth. I'm never too old to learn!
What A great story, my heart goes out to U, I just came across your channel today & I'm glad I did. Great story U kept us engaged on the story & U the entire time. Man God bless U & I hope everything will get better 4 U & your family moving forward, sounds like their a lot of love in that house, I truly believe your family really loves U!!! Take care, & not let me see if I can get caught up on all your other videos, looks like it make take days or weeks, but I will watch. U don't have 2 rush into a relationship, UR fine by yourself. U will feel all the love U need of us your supporters, family & close friends. Get in and graduate college first, very bright future!
Damn bro i feel bad for the way i used to be in middle school. you prolly don’t remember me but i used to look at you sideways because you were gay. i was homophobic but i learned a lot now and i apologize for my actions. it prolly doesn’t matter now tho. im proud of ya keep up the good work👌🏽
I just subscribed to your channel and I'm so glad I stopped to look at and listen to your story and I can't wait to see any more of your RU-vid video love you and God bless. 🥰💗💗🌹🏳️🌈🙏
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Thank you and honestly, i just try to support as many brands as I can that support a good cause. Now that you mention it, the shirt in this video was not the shirt I originally asked for. They stated that if I gave them my routing number for the package I would receive an additional special surprise, which i didn't receive. I tried to direct message them on instagram both about the additional surprise and how they gave me the incorrect shirt, but I received no response.
Hello Xavier I'm so sorry your coming-out story was so traumatic but I'm so glad th🏳️🌈at you're still here and you're still strong and you are proud as you should be you need to live your life for you you can't live the life that your parents wanted this is your life I'm so glad you have your brother in your life God bless you sweetie and I love you take care .🏳️🌈🎭🌹🕺💗💗🥰
Wait...so is it reaaalllly reallly bad if I have sudical thought and maybe an attempt... because I’ve thought tht since I haven’t hurt myself to the point where I HAVE to go to the hospital, I’m good...plus it would be embarrassing to tell my family.
Honestly when coming out was fresh to me, I was thinking and doing the same way you are now. I wouldn't say it's necessarily good, but i'm not trying to normalize it and make it seem as though it is ok. Although suicidal thoughts can be normal for our generation, i would advise you to try as positive as you can and surround yourself with people that are positive as well! I hope, pray, and wish that you feel better! I hope this helped.
Here, may this wisdoms leads you to a better life for you and your loved ones:- "See the world not as it is, but as it should be." "Nobody should ever feel belittled for whoever they love". "Religion is about *PEACE* and *MERCY* of God." "When you get to God, He will never judge you based on your sexuality. He will judge and look at you, based on what type of a person you are." "God loves us beyond any and everything else, and that’s who we should love first." "You're entitled to love whoever you want to, the way that you want to, without the judgement of anyone else." "And in the sight of God, *KINDNESS* and *LOVE* are the highest priority."
Its crazy cuz I felt like the same thing happened to me... I was talking to this boy who had a girlfriend (who was my friend but i didnt know they were dating) and he always called me late night and texted me telling me how he cant wait to show me off infront of the world... and One day my mom asked for my phone to make a call and he called and she declined... and he texted and was like “Damn bae, answer your phone”... and thats when she came screaming telling me that it isnt right... My family is very religious and even me I am a firm believer in God and even when I came out I prayed so much the only person I could really talk to was God... But she was like “it isnt in our blood to be gay, in the bible its says its wrong”... Then she blamed me dancing because she thought only girls danced and she kept asking “Were you raped or touched”... and I wasnt, I was just always.... DIFFERENT... She took me out of Dance and We didnt talk for like 4 months and that hurt me because I felt like she was one of my bestfriends... I didnt have anyone to talk to, not even any gay friends... So I was lonely and I spent that time Talking to God and really working on my relationship with him... When me and my mom talked it was hella emotional, but now Im trying to get back into Dance even tho its hard because I cant compete anymore but theres still so much that I can do, and Im trying to work Hard... And the boy I was talking to I told him that I needed a little break... and then i found out he was dating one of my friends so I ended that quickly and I ended up telling her during the summer and he lied and took it to Instagram and said “He was texting me on some faggot shit”.... Which im just like girl... you are too😂😂 But for me being Gay doesnt define me, just how a straight person doesnt need to tell the world “Hey, Im heterosexual” I dont need to do that either... If anyone asks, I’ll tell them... But other than that, You in my business? Dont do that😂 I still dont have any gay friends, but hopefully I get some... Im glad you are living in your truth and happy and glowing... Although we dont talk, you’re such a light and a GREAT person and I know we would click if we knew each other... You are by far one of the hardest working people I know, like you put your money where your mouth is... And I live for that
Other than my household and a few close family members... nobody knows that Im gay, its not really a secret.. but its like alot of my family would really hate me, if i told them
I'm very blessed that you felt that you could share this with me! I relate a lot to your story! I didn't have a lot of gay friends at first, but as time came so did they! I'm the type of person to be surrounded by people that push me to do and be better! Thank you so much for your kind words, if you have any questions don't be afraid to ask!