When he said he married his wife becuase he saw that she's a girl angamudla (sleep with) that pirced in my heart😭😭😭 I pray we neva marry guys who just see us as sex object
Unfortunately most if not all see us as obje ts mainly for sex or knowing that they have someone to take care of them and when you nurturing by nature ppl will take advantage of that... Men honestly don't care about what we think forget feelings just having a convo with a man he automatically thinks he can teach you something but you can't teach him anything coz u there for sex and chores...a guy I spoke to once told me hes blocking me because I wouldn't let him teach me love. Money and other things but why assume I need you to teach me anything you barely know who I am
@@mohalecandy5878 Not necessarily. Why does she bare the the shame. She can actually rise above this. She can happily move on and find her true love. There A LOT of people not living their truths.
Very true. I parted with my ex wife so amicably and to this day we still frenz bcz I left with honour and still value her as the mother of my baby, my being gay doesn' stop me from co parenting not respecting my bay mama and my kids. It's sad that this guy thinks it's ok to say all that he said about his wife
Frustrating how Somizi keeps being brought up as an example here by uLindani when uSomizi is such a stellar father and friend to his ex wife. He has immense respect for her as the mother of his child.
@princessmathandi what do you mean gay guys who think like this? Somizi's situation was very different because he told the girl directly that he was gay but she insisted they must continue the relationship, they were also very young at the time and didn't marry, so it's not like he strung the girl along.
I don't think the ex wife should dignify this with an answer. He is vulgar and she is better off if he stays away from her and her son. He needs to work on himself and grow up
My jaw dropped throughout this interview. Total and utter disrespect to the ex-wife. It seems like he was experimenting and will continue to experiment with people's lives and turn around and say 'I don't think I want this...'. I would say Good riddance to bad rubbish, umuntu okhuluma ngathi wehla esihlahleni. Sies!
I agree he doesn't have respect for the ex wife, and he is really shifting the blame nje asking why didn't she leave? There were so many red flags and all that like dude u married the girl, you stayed for the damn 3 years!!!! Like she knew im gay? WTF! you told her you had a gay phase... I don't know really i feel he wasnt honest to her and trying to shift blame!!! Im happy he finally found himself and is happy as a gay man!
Ave edelela ngempela, its one thing ukuthi things didn't work but its another ukungahloniphi because egcineni she was uNkosikazi or even your unborn child. Kwaze kwabuhlungu. Even the exclamations o 'Im still connected to this woman, oh my gaaawwwd' like haibo Bhuti.
So basically his decision to marry her was only based on the fact that he could have sex with her and nothing else. Absolutely no regard for her as a person.
I know them both and I honestly disappointed, not by him being gay, that is his prerogative, but to drag his ex-wife into this is beyond disrespectful.. I really didn't find this conversation honouring at all and having spoken to her about this whole thing I feel she was so honouring of him and still continues to honour him and I feel like there was no honour here... She is the mother of your child brooooooooooo 🤯🤯🤯 that deserves a level of respect that is not shown here... This whole thing made me really sad... Like she is so honouring of him till this day and I just can't believe after all this he would have such an interview, he really could've spoken about coming out and how marriage helped him realise this without disrespecting her and making her look like some naive child... Calling her "ugirl" , saying she missed red flags, like, was it necessary to say things like " now that you're here and I can f*CK you everyday" 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 like for real for real, that's how you speak about her, in all the conversations I've had with her she has never disrespected you like that💔😭,
I was utterly shattered throughout this interview, I do not know them at all but I cannot begin to imagine what this guy says to her face when he can publicly speak like that of her. Totally full of himself and no consideration of the person he vowed to once love, a person who brought his child into this world. Honestly the lady was saved by grace from this man. I hope she finds true happiness again.
I actually believe this guy need to apologize to his ex-wife because this poor woman over looked all the red flags because she was blinded by love and she thought it was in his past and believed that it happened because he was young and probably being naughty. How was he going to be happy when he kept switching back to his gay self and yet hr eants to blame it on his wife. Im so pieced to what this lady went through. Sorry my lady
I'm so sorry queen 👸, the trauma, hurt, disrespect handed to you is so undeserved. You are so beautiful, so strong, so amazing, intelligent and you light. I wish you and your angel baby nothing but joy and happiness. You didn't deserve this.
Why does he think being gay is only about sex. Honestly Lindani still needs to find himself (introspection). As for the ex-wife sorry Queen sending you love and prayers, may you heal if you are still hurting♥️
I feel so sad for the rejected son, who is innocent in all of this. I have nothing to say about Lindani he is very selfish and self centred human being. Sending love and light to the ex wife and the son ❤️
I am not yet married but I wish people could understand that marriage is not just about sex...marriage involves emotional health, mental health, etc...People should find themselves before finding partners please
Very true I always tell people that as well and most people they think mirriage is to be submissive to Ur partner do duties of husband and wife...is more than that... emotional understanding is a priority to me ect
I so agree. Know ureself before. Even normal guy n girl relationships. People go into marriage thinking, now I am complete. No one can complete you, but you.
I think Lindani always knew he was gay. He is self-centered and refuses to see how he hurt this woman. How he speaks about his ex wife calling him ugirl. Relebogile tried her best but cha, akezwa, it's all about him nje. Even the language he uses in reference to other people in the LGBTIQ community!
This young man is so confused , a definition of a relationship to him is sex. He has a very immoral view of relationships. Secondly he lies about his emotions
I was reading all the negative comments before I started watching and realized I needed to listen in full. After watching I can fully understand why people are grilling this selfish human, I've never heard anyone regretting or speaking badly about their child, children are always a blessing no matter how bad the relationship was. The Lady interviewing is just dripping with class and beauty. She's gorgeous, an excellent speaker
At first I thought “wow I love his honesty.” As the interview kept going, I realized he is a narcissist. There was no empathy to the betrayal he caused her. No accountability, and most dismissive people like to say “I hear you”- just to shut you up. They probably never had the conversation because of silent treatment and dismissive behaviors so as not to give closure. No empathy whatsoever for the cheating etc….
Thank God he's not related to you. He's having his own family and daughter who loves him to death. You're boyfriend or son could be also gay. Stop pointing fingers.
I appreciate his honesty and rawness, not everyone can do that. We are so used to sugarcoating our feelings. It’s good they separated, choosing your happiness is key. I’m happy for the ex wife, hope she gets a man that will love and respect her. She deserves all good things❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
him not enjoying being around his son has nothing to do with his sexuality.... also, if he didn't want to be a father he could have used protection mos...
Exactly. This 100% he is just a deadbeat dad. Lots of gay men actually father the children!!!! He is busy calling other people hypocrites but does not see it in himself.
The way he talks about being a father, ' it's a full time job, I want to go back to my gay self '. I thought him growing up without a father would help him to become a better father but no. Soo disgusting
I also feel so sorry for the child who will one day watch this and hear his dad say he didn’t want to be a father to him! Wisdom doesn’t really come with age
Exactly sisi.. Haibo I could never with him.. Imagine seeing your father saying fatherhood is horrible and he has to drag it out.. Yeses he's horrible and confused
How dare he use Somizi as the extreme version of gay, while speaking about how being gay makes it difficult for him to be a parent. Somizi is an excellent father! And has lots of respect for Palesa. Somizi is a good example for how to parent right, even as a gay man. Sexuality should have little-to-nothing to do with your parenting.
Indeed...he is still a great father and is in good terms with his baby mama...why on mother earth does this guy behaves likes this? I am a gay man and have been married but that don't mean I dishonor my kids and their mum
This is exactly why this world is awful, men with men, women with women, and hoes are sleeping with other hoes. Its ridicules. And none of these folks are parenting their children.
This guy doesn’t realize that one day his son will come across this and be like “oh my father actually doesn’t want me, he wishes that I was not born if he is forcing himself to be my father “ and he will regret it.
Please bring the ex wife here . So that we can hear her side of the story too. However i like how blunt and honest he is about his feelings and how he feels about this whole thing.
I'm all for people living their truth unapologetically but this guy is a little insensitive and selfish, he doesn't understand that he's creating traumas for his son.
He is so narcissistic, and instead of taking accountability he goes on to treating the experience like a joke. I hope the women who got dragged in this is healing. Also I doubt his ever love some one nor does he know what genuine love/like is because he is hyper sexual, he associates attraction with sex almost throughout the interview. He needs help.
Knowing the ex-wife personally, watching this breaks my heart because in our conversations she never badmouthed him at all ☹️ I have no idea why dude insists on dragging her in the mud, If you’re not going to respect her for who she is then atleast respect her as the woman who is raising your child. You could have spoken about your sexuality and your experiences without mentioning her or your son, it’s really not that hard to say “I don’t want to speak about that”. You don’t have to seek relevance and attention by pushing people down.
Exactly...this guy is totally confused and blaming other people for that. His whole life is experimenting this,that his story is contradicting and I dont see him settling or being happy with a man.
I feel so sorry for her for ending up with such a selfish, immature, confused man. He contradicted himself throughout his entire interview and was very disrespectful to her. If anything she is better off without him.
This man is a sociopath. Ex must be glad he has exposed himself. He has no feeling for the people he has hurt and is still hurting. "I betrayed myself by being in a marriage that didn't serve ME"
Readers make the best interviewers man! Relebogile is so informed, eloquent and has the most educated and respectful approach to questions. I've watched the Kasi DutchZa episode, transgender episode and now this and they all required asking uncomfortable questions but Relebogile does it with so much grace. I personally would have struggled to keep my poise had I been the interviewer.
True, I'm a huge fan of Day time tv, I Love Oprah, Wendy, Ricky Lake, and even the Juges shows , I am so proud of her she up there with big guys or girls in this case.
Lindani sounds very confused. Lindani there must be a big trauma in your past that you are running from...and until you get help to deal with it you will keep running, hurting yourself and others while at it. Sending you compassion
My heart bled when he said he was done a week into the marriage. This was painful to watch. No matter how toxic and unhappy a marriage is, I don't ever wana speak of the other person the way he did. It sounded like he never felt an ounce of care/love for his x wife. No man 😭
i know a gay guy who just married a woman after online courting for 4 months....courting online alone is a red flag.......watching their wedding video...groom appears disconnected. feel sorry for such women
Somizi ungenaphi yena,because he is an Amazing father more than I can say about you and has RESPECT for the mother of his child and never goes around bad mouthing her.
What was done to her was so unfair and Lindani’s tone is disrespectful. I am so sorry to her that she had to go through that and has to have her marriage discussed publicly. I mean if you were unhappy from the second week why didn’t you leave and not waste her time. This is so infuriating.
The very first few minutes in this interview I was already sick, this guy’s persona rubs me the wrong way. Next episode please Relebogile, I’m not rewatching this even if it was airing for free, and this comment is from a proud gay man!!!
Ignore the ignorant comments and watch for yourself. Listen to him with an open, objective mind. This is one of the few most honest interviews you'll ever find on RU-vid!
I feel like Lindani wants to blame the wife for them getting married when he also ignored his own red flags. He keeps on says why didn’t she run when I told her I slept with men, she saw this, she should have...
We can blame Lindani but he was hornest by telling her that he slept with other men before. What do u think a man sleep with other man? obviously he is gay.
Exactly! Why is it her responsibility! Why he even asked knowing the truth deep down? Such a horrible person who can't even take some responsibility. I feel sorry for her.. this is so self centered shame!
i watched this interview twice because i kept muting it the first time ...my heart Nokwazi, how does someone get to the point where they disregard someone else's feelings like this .... iyoh...
This interview was more about the ex-wife than the person whose being interviewed. Every single answer touched on her . He has such an interesting story to share and for some of us to learn something but he made it so much about a person whose not there to tell their side of the story . My recommendation would be to have a follow interview to balance the scale .
Why would you even marry someone's daughter,knowing that you gay?The level of disrespect is on another level 😤. Narcissist of a note,Lindani he's still confused and he's struggling with a Lust..Sending love and hugs to the wife and son🕯❤
Listening to this nasty man makes my stomach aches. You are shameless disgraceful and disgusting. You need Christ in your life as you are totally confused. Wicked man to marry a woman you were not interested in. You make me sick. No shame
@@tshephomiriammanyaka6728 All he has to do is to admit that he knew he was a gay and he thought that he would pray and marry it away but it didn't happen. He didn't really understand what it meant being gay (as it is evident that he still doesn't, in my opinion), he was embarrassed and he used her to hide. We can't really blame him for that, he was trying to survive but I think it would make some difference to his ex wife if he showed some kind of remorse and apologise to HER for dragging her along.
At first I was judging Lindani… BUT I’m in the middle and I’m thinking He is telling his Story the best way he knows how!! I think both individuals have stories to tell and He layed his truth on the Table, very Honest , very vocal and open! His difficulty parenting his child is a real issue.. so many fathers would never say that! It would be interesting hearing his ex-wife’s side though…. Kona kona he is Shallow with relationships.. I don’t think he connects deeply with people, I don’t think he’s ever been inlove.
All I wanna leave here is a comment for that girl he married. You are a strong, amazing woman. Trying to make anything work with a man who thinks like this must have been hard. It's not about being gay, not ready for a child but just being an immature, selfish and heartless human being. Someone else would be overwhelmed with gratitude for God making sure He got his biological son out of this before he decided he was gay for good. That's his only naturally conceived baby- if he's not lying.
Im not against people living their truth. No judgement from my side at all. Mara when you now start hurting other people in finding who you are or wanting to live your truth then that is a big problem for me. May the ex-wife find peace in all of this. Im sending love and light to her and that beautiful child
I like how Lindani explains his journey but NOT where he puts it to his ex wife that she saw the red flags that she shouldn't have gone forth with the marriage. I strongly feel Lindani should apologize. When you love someone and committed to the marriage, all negative things do not get attention. I can feel her pain.
OMG. Lee designed my matric dress I remember the first time I met him. I just saw that this guy is gay. Then my sister said no his not, his married. But I disagreed with her and told her, he is so gay trust me. Haha and BOOM he comes out 🙌🔐 anyways its a good thing.
I hope after this he consulted for healing. How he reacts to situations is based on his past. He said something about his gran saying he is gay because he didn’t have a relationship with his mom, and never knew his dad. Though that is false but i see how that is actually affecting him when its comes to relationships. It like he doesn’t know how to love because he doesn’t know what love is. Hence he associates it with sex a lot of times. I hope his ex also heals. And at some point they do sit down not only for the sake of their child but for both their sake because for a child to benefit both parents must be happy individuals.
Except it's more than red flags, he was also direct with her. I mean why continue a relationship with a guy who tells you straight that he had gay relationships in the past? The woman was either downright naive or desperate to continue after that point. That said, I'm not vouching for this guy's overall invalidating behaviour towards the pain he caused.
This guy comes across as a self centered. Its all about him all they way. There is no accountability at all as to how he hurt the poor woman and also the way he speaks abut his child.
What a horrible human being, a complete narcissist who acts victim in everything and takes zero accountability. I feel for his ex wife and his child...the worse thing is at no point does Relebogile call him out on the disrespect or his non accountability...dissapointing
Lol its an interview not an interrogation. She's allowing her guest to speak freely and comfortably, which she should🤷♀️ PS: I agree though, not a good human being. Wow, I'm amazed
I've never seen or experienced such a self-centered & immature man in my entire life. In fact, we should be celebrating on behalf of his ex wife. She's better off without him. His disrespect towards women in general is sickening...
