Joy Seepane ON being a proud side chick of a married man since 23 years ago 

Dude her whole life has been on hold for this man😮

@@kwetsephetla3597 yes, this is like the SA former press

Mdala

@@yangankenkana5034 Yes, with LaC...

Ey true this story is weird. But did she not say she was 19. Her boyfriend married someone else and she said it didn't phase her at all. I'm wondering if she is okay but I don't want to sound offensive.

Thank you

She seems to be working and creating her own money mos. What will make her cry? When she has her own things ?

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Eish 😢

​@asandamthembu6275 you clearly don't know anything

Danko

Whether u can or cannot have kids

@@triciakekanaexactly!

It very easy yazi ,add it on your prayer item. ....

@@yangankenkana5034 You are right sis. I need to pray that spirit away from ever reaching me.

😂😂and they are many like that

You can simply run away

This is why I'm even scared to get married, Men are confused shme

I agree with you

My thoughts exactly, and reasoning is just off🤔

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He is building his family with the wife, as a side chick, when do you get to do that ? Man will always put themselves first shame

Not all women want to get married.

​@antonattachihombori9561 so because you don't want to get marry, you choose to be the side? Make that make sense

@@mahlatse8605 good question

Very interesting. Very humble if all the side chicks had this mindset I would be happy for my husband.

Her life is as confused like the red hair and purple lipstick 😂😂😂

He knows what he wants. He wanted her as a side chick.

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But still, continuing with a man who left her to marry another woman doesn't help her. But I get it, she was groomed

Agreed. The guy exhibited predatory behaviour from the jump!

But she is a grown woman now.

@@Myvillageheaven I agree my love, but years and years of abuse any form of abuse the victims start thinking its normal.

@@ayandasam2269 at 48 she has no excuse I swear,a man doesn't want her but she is trying to prove a point....I feel like it's daddy issues.

Or the wife to die!

Imagine giving away 30 years of your life waiting to nurse an old man one day.... There are levels of common sense.

She will never be the wife He will go and marry someone else once again 😂

She will never be his wife.

My aunt was a sidechick for over 30 years and had 3 kids with the man. The wife died ,and he married her, but the guy died about 5 years after that, so it's a possibility.

Also 23 years ago there was neither Form 3, nor standard 8 but GRADE 8. Phela year 2000 was 23 years ago, so😂😂 LIES LIES LIES

@@ayandanofumba9865 bahahah 🤣🤣🤣

The lies are too much shem mmè oo thinks we're stupid. This actually makes her credibility and the whole story questionable.

​@@RayOfLetsatsiher wanting to now get married to an old man is suspicious 😂😂. I never scrutinise things, mara haai!! Dilo ga di kopane.

“Oh, lies, lies, lies and everywhere it’s lies”

Being an orphan doesn’t mean you become a side chick of a married man

@@kettykembabazi you are right but people are vulnerable, and can be manipulated. you dont have a sense of belonging

yah I think so too

Hai mun 😂😂😂😂😂

I’m screaming 😭😭😭

This kills me😂😂😂😂😂

True

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Kuningi for sure

It's a lot

Yho Girl, she really needs therapy.

"" Boom, wow, 10 past 4."" .haec🙄

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Very imperative

The comment I was looking for ❤

Unfortunately some ppl don’t know how to love themselves. I teach many ppl self love everyday. It’s sad to see sis.

Very important😢

And in denial.

I agree 100%

Except a woman turning him down lol

@@nolubynature9513hape they’re looking past that 😭.

💯 he would have married her if he loved her that much.

Sad hey

Who did he love sis?

​@@sherrolmtshamba5545 he loved himself no one else

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❤❤ That's so true.I'm saving these words for my daughter 4 when she's older.

But she is convinced 🤣

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Ma'am at her big big age for that matter

Sad

Embarrassing 😢

Nka lla gore😂😂😭😭

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Me too yooo Mihlolo may God protect and help us

That is my observation as well..

It’s true. She is almost 50 years old but not yet mature.

Dude ngathi shes a teenager who just started dating. Boma 16year old vibes 😢

Jonga, 16 year olds these days are very mature than this mama ryt here!

Exactly 😢

Very sad😢

There's nothing wrong with Promise putting her marriage on the pedestal ma'am. If u inlove and married be happy, put it out there. If it ends it ends.

U sound very bitter, then why doesn't the man wants to marry u if he loves u so much, ur delusional shame 😅

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Madala really is a politician,

I disagree getting married does mean victory

Dude. A dash of embarrassment is very important.

Sisi you are here😂😂😂

@@queenrammym yes 😂

That's what the world is missing now, shame. No shame at all.

@@_theerealnono_7694 Tell me about it. All dz things they not new they been happening but because the moral standard was high they were hidden so u would do wrong and hv shame

I love her so much

You are right. Orphans usually get hand me downs. So she has that spirit of fear of not having and would rather have second best. Her childhood may be so traumatic

Even the wives staying in such situations have no self love whatsoever it’s the empty validation that all women ( wives sidechicks etc) get from men.

I feel like even this man doesn't have selfove shame if he is able to put himself through this then he also need help

ANC men😅😅

Some ANC dude probably gwede

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Grown to learn marriage is doesn't prove love😏How ironic😂😂😂Sadly she might be the happiest human alive just saying🤷🏾

That fact that she's is the one that the man married it doesn't mean she was loved.

Nah Thenji, don't judge. Marriage is not everything. And it doesn't define love. She is probably happier than most married women.

48 isn't old age, you ageist Trolls 🚮

😂😂😂😂😂 Dudeeeeeee

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Its a MESSSSS

But she did say he offered to though and she refused..

Inganekwane sana if you ask me🤣🤣🤣

They are both comfortable with whatever that is between them. It's you who has a problem with their affair

He does not love the wife either.

Since when do men love anyone but themselves. So the tell you that they love you and you believe them🤣🤣🤣

He loves her ..the child issue.

​@@Meandyouisnusmy sister men love...my dad met my mom 55 years ago. My dad gave her a job as his secretary the same day.. ...I was born and they been married 55 years and still together. Men love and love has no formula....it's luck and God.

No man cld manipulate me that long once he marry the next lady that wld be my quit and value myself.the man only use her sex object I don't know how she's smiling in such trauma.wheres u common sense .I'd be so ashamed.

Having an opinion is NOT judgmental. People don't understand what the word means.

Yaa that might be the case. Maybe he was the one who want to marry someone with a kid ..how come it was easy like that after a baby even the family just like that. ...

Chemi

Getting out of Bush helped weaken whatever they used on her not to conceive all that time

They way the have access and control of her baby from day 1 even now shame

Uloyiwe loMama 🙆🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

Looks like that coz ahe keeps emphasizing that they love each other deeply

Dude 😭😭

Exactly

People who don't want to get married don't want to experience the pain that they cause to married women. Calling out rubbish is not judging, it's challenging the wrong doer to take accountability of their actions and not delight in hurting others. Singaphela ngabo don't judge while things get ruined.

@@zintlenjoli2981 thats your opinion but nothing is going to change about her situation. She's still living her truth whether we agree with it or not.

@@busiluthando451 she may be living HER truth like you say, but in the long run, this truth is going to cost her dearly. There are things in life that are FORBIDDEN,and one of those things is to get involved with a married person.

@tsholofelomocumi4207 Exactly, we live in times where doing the wrong things are considered right, and doing the right thing like calling out a person for their destructive behavior is considered wrong.

Kannete 😂😂😂😂

It's not make sure 😂😂😂

Yeah maan cause go cho o na le 27 a bala form 3 that was not there in the year 2000 ..... cause a re they dated for 3 yras then fell pregnant. Very delulu this one

@@bellatalkssa405 and she first said she was in Grade 10 then later when asked what the age was, are 19/20

She was hesitant about her age I think she older than 48

Mdala wa loya maan😅

Money and status skat

Not everything is about money hle

So true, Yaz I am coming from that family, nothing new and our parent were hurting but definitely not like us. There were bit stronger than us.

You are very wise my dear

You are right,truth is this woman is not a side chic she's a wife,it's actually a family only that she's not legally married,

She refused to marry him!

@@antonattachihombori9561 So she says,mdala is not there to confirm that statement,also why would he marrying her has to come with conditions of whether she is woman enough to bear children or not?

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That was her choice

Same

Co. 🫱🏾‍🫲🏽

But the man should formalise even traditionally like Zuma 😂

Same here

Exactly!

Some like this one, are defeated relationships !!!!

She has no security. What happens the day this man dies?

@@thatothobejane4674 she can actually claim from his pension fund.

Ai suka bra, this is just trash ayikho indaba yalomama plain and simple.

Ma’am, the delulu here is unmatched🙉 Absolutely not the solulu though, please

Everything goes to the wife😂😂

Nope. My grandmother almost fainted coz all her life she thought she'd get everything coz she's the wife. If a woman makes a man pay child support nothing is released until all the kids he's paying for are present and everything is shared equally. They can even claim the house you live in if your husband owned it or you're married in community of property.

​​​@@mamellomosase9448that is not true. According to the law, in community of property, the wife always gets 50% of all assets in case of divorce, and 100% in the case of death unless otherwise stated in a will. Your grandmother most likely never registered her marriage. And why would a wife have her husband pay child support in the 1st place?

​@@mamellomosase9448yes, people need to check the law before making comments on benefits of wives vs sidechicks..the law is just in this area and the husband can always nominate the side to inherit, the family and wife will have no say, the law will prevail qha!

Owning her truth!! I love it for her😍And Promise mastering the interview, asking relevant questions as always 🎊❤️

Because she gave the man a boy child. Indlalifa ezovusa isibongo sendoda

Mara

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What reasons are those? I’m crurious

And they can also leave whenever they want. He gets everything he wants from her without her requiring much, that’s why he is wasting her time for 23 years. Nothing will stop a man to be with the woman he wants to be, not even his wife and kids.

Selflessness emadodeni😢

@@zukhanyefunani4973 Many men marry women they do not love for societal status, family pressure or simply their own selfish reasons. Women! we have to stop thinking marriage is a price, the "He chose me" attitude hence I'm special. Married women who care have been warning us for years. What do we say? They are jealous! Oh no just because it happend to her does n't mean it's gonna happen to me. When are we ever going to learn? When are we going to stop teaching our daughters nonsense? We setting them up to fail. One day I asked a few young boys what they want to be when they become older. You know what they say? They want to be Elon Must. Elon Must is a filthy rich billionare who is also a divorcee with many children. I asked them about marriage, they don't want to get married. It did not start with these young boys. It just saddened me that there are THERE ARE MOTHERS WHO ARE BUSY TEACHING THEIR DAUGHTERS ABOUT WINNING A MAN's heart. We are bringing agony to our own selves by forcing being special, and sadly the younger generation of women.These men are calculating and we are busy with being naive. I believe this woman, this man married the other woman for family not for love. He managed to preserve his bloodline and keep the woman of his dreams at the same time. African families are mostly about preserving the family and bloodline, if that is at risk, to hell with love or anything, bloodline first.

​@@candidaalex2007very true...anyone who thinks being a side chick is alright must be sick in the head. Its either them or their mama are side chicks

What she wanted was marriage. He did not marry her yet she still stayed. How is this not being controlled?

She is the wife. If the mother was not controlling, the guy would have made his own decisions

1st wife witchcraft 😂😂😂

@@Rohoboth exactly

A bit on the side is a condiment. A wife is the meal. You can discard the condiment, but not the meal.

Some are not even wealthy, they are comfortable and inlove

Umhlolo sesi. She is delusional for real yoh.

Yes she does

No she is not

@@gedrutsekgala8339yes you’re right she’s not a side chick .. xes a side chicken

Had it not been the family refusing her from marrying, she would have been a wife with that one son, who knows she would have been blessed their blocked that for a older woman The way things carried on she was meant to be in this family

@@blackwoman_015😂😂haibo side chicken

Definitely

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Absolutely

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