i listened to all of the video while I was washing the dishes. i even listened to it again right after - to take notes. you are verbalising the thoughts that I had struggled to come up w to express them. and your videos are exactly like you creating a bouquet. you arrange the beauty of each experience and at the end, there is a beautiful beautiful arrangement that is imperfectly perfect. and I love u for that, and I love me for clicking on this video because it affirmed so much of what I needed to hear.
In my life, I have watched many videos about confidence and so on, but your video touched my heart because you really talked about real and realistic things that we do, and it is also the first time I have watched a long video without getting bored. You are amazing. I would be grateful if you did. Talk about whether we can start from nothing.. ❤
I have too many words to explain how good this video is and how much I enjoyed the experience of hearing you whilst drawing, but the main point I'm trying to elaborate is that you - Inayah, you are incredible in my eyes and I really relate to everything you said in this wholesome video!
!Please read the following as straightforwart, but benevolent critique: Maybe try forgetting to take yourself so seriously from time to time. Most people give way less fucks about you than you imagine to even consciously notice you and especially not to want to judge you, unless you are in an environment that cultivates toxic shame.
Confidence will grow naturally with being brave, pushing your boundaries and abstain from identifying with feelings of shame, if you decide that they don't make sense. If you own them a couple of times in a friendly environment, that is not overly critical towards you, they will magically loose their power.
@@happymixtapes If self confidence is based on perception about him/her of knowing person people's then it is value by itself induced by maditations and long time creation of own image. . Then how much would person give and what would do for escaping any public accusations ? For somebody who has selfconfidence based on known around factual achievements in own life and on wisdom eventual accusations may be confronted with facts.
@@Mikexception I am interested in your argument. Unfortunately I can not exactly make sense of the text. Could you maybe make your point a little bit more clear?
@@happymixtapes Thing is when making effort only to create selfconfidence without having real reasons of that confidence then such person is fully depending on that elaborated impression which say is not supported. Confidence is based on knowledge of genuine life facts. Is it justified to be confident in young age before getting life experience? It may be misleadiing. . Such status is virtual . Such people are vulnerable for any damage in public and may be used. .
this is the format i miss. just sitting down naturally doing things not all the music effects and animations and crazy transitions and editing. just human to human. thank you
Once you start to practice the confidence, your passions start to make themselves known stronger and you can fully breathe them in. The passion and compassion you're exhaling in this video is beautiful
trusting yourself is a big one. the ONLY reason i start to doubt myself is when other people butt into my life and start giving advice that i didn't ask for lmao.
Becoming your desired self is like decluttering a wardrobe. You cannot just throw away everything all at once; there is this process of thinking, where in you keep some pieces and discard the others, until you buy a new one and replace everything with clothes that fit you better. It is a long, tedious process. But once you did so, it would feel like a fever dream. I, sometimes, get riled up over how far I've come with my mental state and how I see myself, whether that is physically or not. I've spent my whole high school life gaining confidence and now, I'm here, walking on Earth in a way that shows I deserved to walk on it.
Watched the whole video, it was very moving and informative. Thank you and continue doing what u do it’s always great to see somebody putting out positivity in the world
Hi Inayah and anyone else possibly reading this. I wanted to share this little revelation of mine to the world rather than keep it to myself in a journal because I'm working on the confidence of believing that my words have the power to impact and influence others. For a greater portion of my life, I've deeply struggled with my mental health, battling long bouts of depression, immense anxiety and suicidality among other issues. For my whole life-up until today-I've wondered internally 'what's so wrong with choosing to end your life, why is the world so upset by a choice like that' and I've finally realized why: Every single heartbeat on this planet is on a path, a path that will lead them to share and contribute to the world in a fashion that is entirely unique to them. Ending your life is a disservice. I truly believe that even if you have no alive family members, no friends, no allies-the universe loves you, the universe is cheering you on, the universe wants you to help her grow. I hope this reaches whoever needs to hear it, i love you all so much :)
This was so sweet of you to share! I hope you're in a better place mentally now I know it can be hard and exhausting sometimes. But your presence on this tiny planet is appreciated more than you can imagine 💗
This is so lovely and I want to thank you so much for sharing this!! you are so right, everyone on this planet is important and is here for a reason. Even if that reason is to just share some kindness and wisdom like you have just now. You never know how much of an impact your presence can have on people's lives and its easy to think that our presence isn't felt by anyone. However, just because you may not hear that you are valued and appreciated often, never forget that you are appreciated. So keep on failing, growing, changing and learning because you are important and the world deserves to see you shine!
thanks for sharing. i’m not in that worst case scenario and yet i’m moved to tears reading this. and yh, your words have impacted me positively. much love 💕
"Neurons need to Fire to Re-wire" is a quote that changed me. I found it when studying to return to Stanford to take Mechanical Systems Design in order to graduate with my engineering degree. It helps me understand that these well-established grooves are or are not serving me.
It’s crazy to think that the most conventionally attractive people in the world can also be most bullied, insecure, and abused. And it happens at a young age, so you don’t understand why you were bullied until your adult years :(
@@BnBLion. It always makes me laugh seeing attractive, hot, sexy, whatever adjective you want to give them, people saying they always struggle with their bodies and insecurities and such, because I am like BITCH how the fuck I'm supposed to feel better knowing that someone objectively more attractive than me also feels insecure xd
@@DajuSar Yess, this so much. Also for these people gaining confidence is just a matter of fixing your thoughts that tell you lies about your body created on the basis of the bullying you've experienced and convincing yourself that the truth is very different from these thoughts. So in short you need to believe the truth despite your brain not wanting to. For ugly people it doesn't work like that. For us gaining confidence is way harder because we already know the truth and this is the source of our insecurity. The solution for us is actually believing the lies that we create for ourselves in our brain. And it's way harder because of course you can try but you will face the reality and you will confront the public opinion that will clearly show you that you just live in a fairytale. If you're attractive and start believing it people will be happy that you finally understood and will in fact treat you better. But of ugly people it's not the case, people will treat you bad no matter what you believe.
@@eskybakzu712 in their case it’s true. They just need to fix something mentally but in other peoples cases they do not only need to fix the mental shit but the irl shit as well as
i think the biggest stepping stone into being confident is realizing that self love and self respect are two different things. to be okay in your self, you have to not let people walk over you or put yourself in situations where you feel ‘loved’ but with side effects. once you respect yourself, even if you’re insecure this gets you in the mentality of not letting people waste your time and finding people who actually enjoy you and your presence.
if you have self-respect you dont care if people walk over you because it doesnt bother you. everyone has the right to say what they want as long theyre not harming you physically. respect in general is a very strong egoic idea. as far as im concerned respect is non existent, theres just being a good person and treating others well no matter who they are
@@swoop2386 For me, letting people walk over me isn’t a good idea. I tend to shy away from necessary confrontation/boundary setting so speaking up for myself is uncomfortable, healthy, growth.
@@n.a.199 thats true, but really it all depends on what someone means when they say "walk all over", for different people have different meanings for it
@@swoop2386 not to add on to the already philosophical statement, but "The way I see it, good is merely a word applied to people who are convenient to our needs in some way. Its purely subjective. Any way you try to look at it, labeling people dehumanizes them." -Armin | AoT (its getting deep) It doesnt necessarily apply, I just love the quote :)
Got me really emotional when you started talking about how we should be excited for the people who’ll get to experience us and how we should be excited we get to experience them as ourselves, saving that for whenever I need a pick me up! Thank you for sharing your journey and yourself!
I was brought to tears in the last 7 minutes of the video. Which is funny because i wasn’t planning on crying while putting this on at the treadmill in the gym. Holy shit thank you for this insight, and giving me a reason to believe in myself. I feel like this has shifted my perspective immensely. I’m overall a pretty positive person but I have bouts of negativity that I find it hard to get myself out of. This resonated deeply within.
I really needed to hear everything that was said in this video 😭 here are some things I noted down in my journal - there is someone waiting to look up to you - the world is waiting for you to do all the things that only you can do - "everyone is stupid and I just decided not to be" - you are on the right path and going backwards is only going to be way more uncomfortable than going forward and making it (my personal note) - people need an example and there are so many people who are in the same situation as you and they need you to do what you need to - you are that person and you have that vision for a reason - it is worth it - everybody is going through the same thing it's just a matter of who is good at combatting it and who is consistent with being uncomfortable - pave the way ❤
I’m so happy you came across the video 😭❤️ and it’s powerful that you wrote these points down. I hope you keep coming back to these things! You got this!
@@rico14honestly is a good comparation, the ideia of self confidence and caring about yourself can be seen as difficult having both, but in the true, for one work correctly need the presence of other Yin and yang are not opposites that repel each other but complement each other
If person whom I do not value, ( because is not valued by others too) says bad about me it is like very positive for me signal that I am not mixed to his companion. My boss at company dinner once named me publicaly "strange duck" . It gave me confidence in work so he felt obligation to write ma special letter of admiration at completing the job.
A quote that had helped me a lot with this is “putting yourself first isn't selfish, its self love” Its really helped me realise that you can still do whats right while still feeling good about yourself even in delicate situations ❤
That alter-ego/visualization trick works very, very well for people that grew up consuming a lot of media while having little to no adult role models around. It was the case for me after years and years of failing miserably at motivating myself to do anything at all, both with and without professional help.
i wannabe confident yet mysterious asf like i give off that kind of high level confidence to the point that i don’t have to speak anymore. i’m not bothering you, you’re not bothering me type of confidence
thank you for this! i also want to add: the way you talk about yourself, whether it's a "joke" or not, also can have a huge impact on how you view yourself. i used to make a lot of self-degrading jokes (like, "oh, i made a tiny mistake, i'm the worst person in the world"), and it didn't do anything good for me. even though i was never completely serious when i said things like that, it still impacted me in really small ways. after a while i shifted to self-uplifting jokes (where, for example, if i messed up when cooking something, i'd call myself the best chef in the world), and while it was still sarcastic, i saw a huge boost in confidence in myself after making that shift. i think i started doing this because of something i read a long time ago (but i don't completely remember), so i'm passing on this tip to hopefully help someone who still might be struggling with something of this nature :) (btw, did watch the whole video! beautiful arrangement at the end
My mom makes self-degrading jokes to me like that. Idk if it could be called as a joke but it didn't make me feel good. After a while, I unconsciously started to make self-lifting jokes such as "COME HERE AND FIGHT ME I'M THE STRONGEST ONE HERE! LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!" at my friends. And even though my a chubby+weak person, it feels good to be delulu abt myself :>
I did this exact same thing! I love that you are mentioning this because its acc so REAL. Also this is in no way supposed to make anyone feel bad, but being around someone who makes self degrading jokes just consistently can be really uncomfortable, and even painful if its someone you love. Being full of silly love and confidence for yourself spreads that energy, and can lift other people around you up as well. (For example, its so much nicer when someone says "You look so good today!" instead of "I look so awful, ugh I wish I looked like you lol"
my girlfriend sent me this video during a rough time that i was personally having to where i felt almost helpless without her emotionally. i personally feel that confidence is somewhat different between men and women, especially in westernized society - so as a man, i feel like more of us men need to hear out women OR any opposing view on the same types of negativity we feel. thanks for the video.
I'm actually tearing up listening to you. The part about people waiting to look up to you and meet you and learn from you made me feel like so much more of a real person. I don't know how to describe it, but i think one of my biggest fears is that i won't leave an impact on the people around me, and the way you put it just feels so genuine. Thank you so much
i get this, so, so hard. i'm sure with this sort of passion about it you WILL make a good impact on people, and i truly believe that. all the best to you.
Can you impact your life to your wishings? Maybe you dont see yourself impacting your own life as much as you wish to and see it as weakness. But there is always an impact on yourself and others, we just tend to perceive it as "not enough" so we have a dream which will never get reached and this pain drives us to continue the journey to be worthy of ourselves, to be worthy to ride the ride till we die.
Guys the flowers at the end is the best part!😂 Anyway, as a 19 year old dude watching this, I actually needed to hear this. At some point a few years ago I realised I had feminine energy inside of me, and quite a lot of it. And then after working with it, I realised I have masculine energy too. And a lot. I can be sooo loud, confident, boisterous... But I can be quiet. I can listen. Yh life is good.
You’re really good at explaining and advice giving. The way you approach this topic seems so genuine. A lot of RU-vidrs regurgitate generic advice that never resonates nor feels achievable, but this…this is different. Great job. And beautiful arrangements 🩷
@@inayah0 Your authenticity of your experience and feelings vibrates towards others what attracts them to you. You really did show it’s about being real with oneself by knowing thy self. I think I can understand whatever one does with one self will do the same for others, such as self honesty leads to honesty towards others, self-love to love others, and the list goes on. Just like the old saying, “ treat others the way you want to be treated. “
I LOVE the whole video. I love the video quality, I love the camera angle, I love the idea kitchen, I love THE PLANTS, I love the dress, I love the hair, I love the wisdom, GIRL KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
Inayah I don’t ever comment on RU-vid videos😭 I’m 19 turning 20 in two weeks and the past half year has been a period where I focused on growth. Let me say I’ve never been so profoundly moved by such a RU-vid video. I’ve watched plenty of self love, up your confidence, Divine feminine energy RU-vid videos but never has one been so true, raw, and real. Please keep up the good work and I truly appreciated watching the entire thing.
This is the biggest compliment ever. I am so grateful that you took the time to comment and give me this feedback ❤️ We are around the same age so I understand the growth period! We are in this together 💞
i wanted to but couldn't cry for a few weeks now. i gave up on being functional today and just sat around in my bed watching cartoons. after that your video found me. at first i thought, funny, how it's in a lot of ways matt d'avelia but for girls. i'm here for it. the more i listened the more i felt hugged, and the tears broke out. thank you.
Healing the traumas and learning to love yourself is a great way to destroy a lack of confidence. When you're healed and no longer care what people think, you'll have confidence. That's been my experience. Crappy self talk shatters confidence. Stop the inner critic, heal, love yourself. Confidence then becomes natural.
I'm a 28 year old guy and this video was really moving. It really matches many processes and changes I am and have been experiencing lately. After 4 years of therapy I have come to a point in my life, where, for the very first time, I can look at myself in the mirror and say 'hey, I like you, I think, I can maybe even love you' without cringing and feeling like a joke, like a liar and an impostor. What you say is so true, it is a long journey of reinforcing yourself in the smallest things, over and over and over again until it starts sounding believable. I look back on so much pain and hurt, feeling worthless and inadequate, unable to acknowledge my own value, beauty and competence. Since I was a little child I have treated myself with disdain and put myself down whenever I didn't meet the expectations I projected onto everyone and everything around me. For me it was an essential step to deconstruct the relationship with my parents, especially with my father, to realize how my own system of beliefs about myself was formed. The things you laid out so beautifully and empathically in this video, alongside with a few years of therapy and ultimately confronting my parents on the role they played in me forming very hurtful and dysfunctional ways of interacting with myself and the world around me finally led me to a point where I can actually catch a glimpse of me as a beautiful being worthy and deserving of unconditional love, both from myself and from others. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. I can only encourage everyone to listen closely. You might feel like there is such a long journey ahead of you, but every little step will get you closer and closer and before long you might realize that even if you're not exactly where you want to end up, you've already come such a long way. You can do it! I didn't believe I would ever be able to believe in myself, but here I am, actually starting to do so. Not every day, not in every situation, but every day a tiny bit more. ❤❤
I’m a 26 y/o guy and feel quite the same. I have yet to confront my parents on why I am the way I am (nor do I think I will anytime soon). However, I feel the same way you describe on learning about my habits and how I have been programmed for self disdain. I am good to myself often these days, but there are times where I feel that negativity coming back again. It’s a day by day process and you’re right, even if we aren’t where we want to be…we surely have come so far. Cheers.
made it to the end and wanted to say this all resonates so much! i’m on a very intentional journey of self discovery right now and it’s amazing to see and hear like minded people my age going through similar things and doing the work! i just keep thinking back to when i was 13, 15, 17 year old me and who i knew i could be and how badly i want to make her proud! i honestly believe i am right now, and it feels incredible 🥰
wow!!! i watched this while washing the dishes and i genuinely stopped once you said that confident people trust themselves. that i have to become a person i trust!! i love that concept and it made something in my brain click! this video is so beautiful and fulfilling, thank you :)
thank you for everything you said!!! I love that you clocked yourself at the end for second-guessing yourself, wondering if anyone even watches to the end, bc these feelings creeping in randomly are so real. I really needed to hear all of this, and I’m so grateful you chose to make a vid on this topic 🥺🫶
oh my goodness, i saw your video when i was scrolling and i felt so drawn into watching it. you truly have such a way of explaining that everything will be okay and you truly made me feel so good about myself. when you were talking about your cat and how you didnt even notice he changed until you looked back on photos, it really helped put things in perspective for me. your energy is so beautiful and genuine, thank you for this.💜
Yesterday was really tough for me. I sat down in front of the mirror and I burst into tears, saying everything I hated about myself and my life. I felt so lost and hopeless that I cannot do anything about it. That maybe, I'm just fated to be like this. Constantly falling short, disappointing people who used to believe in me, giving up on becoming better because I hated being me. But it gets so unbearable. I couldn't live like that. You're right. Learning how to love yourself or being confident is not something you'll work hard for for one time and then you'll have it rest of your life. It's something that we need to keep working on like a muscle. Thank you for your words. I will try to regain my trust to myself. Your flower arrangement is beautiful, by the way ❤️
I hope you are doing better love❤ it’s a long journey but we only have one life and we have to make sure we make the best of everything we have. We will get out of this phase!
the energy you give off is so.. magnetic, I can relate to much of what you said, and that fact that you were once at a place where I am now (and have been for a while) is astounding to me, because of the way you carry yourself now. it’s so easy to believe confident people are just born that way- but no they’re kinda like me, going thru the same journey. you spoke what I absolutely needed to hear, thank you
The easiest way to become confident is to prove yourself you can achieve something high. It could be about money, it could be about your job position, it could be about having finished a huge project, it could be about a lot of things and the main problem is you have to do something. Staying home wont make you confident even after reading/seeing top 100 books/videos on the topic
I love this so much! You just sitting in your kitchen, making a flower arranging and talking feels like I’m sitting there with you chatting. Thank you!💕
This randomly popped up on my explore page when I needed it the most. I am so glad I watched the whole thing. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear everything you said. You seem like a wonderful person, thank you for your contributions to the world.
The thing with shifts in mentality is that it’s so so important to remind oneself that while these shifts can change you as a person, the whole journey is uniquely a non-linear process in itself which deserves to be treated with extreme delicacy and love. Change has to be unpleasant, which is exactly why accepting that you’ve got your own soft spots that require your attention and care is the utmost necessity yet worth a long way ahead. This video cured my anxiety at the moment almost instantly. Thankyou so so much for sharing! Stay blessed🌼
I’m glad there’s people on the internet who have something to say. This is so so so inspiring, I think a lot of videos like this are sort of “self improvementy” but this isn’t just advice. There’s compassion in your message and it’s naturally catchy. Thank you!!
LOVED listening to all of this. had it going in the background while I cleaned and after a certain point, just sat myself down and put my full attention to it. you are so worth listening to and so inspiring.
I absolutely listened to the whole video. This is something I really needed to hear from someone genuine, and I appreciate you having the courage to make such an important video! Thank you so much for your time and thoughts.
I didn’t *need* this video but I still really appreciate it because it feels like having a friend who’s doing a hard thing with you (I used to have a friend I would always run with, for instance), and it feels really affirmative of the kind of stuff I’ve been doing and working on to hear someone talk about basically the exact same stuff. Thank you for this. :)
100% agreed. I appreciate how passionate and sincere you are when describing your process and self-discovery, all the while being very objective about it.
i’ve watched countless videos about confidence but you really made me feel like you were truly speaking to me!! maybe it’s because i relate to you so much. you touched on all the subjects i am dealing with right now and have been dealing with my whole life as well. thank you so much for this ❤ you’re amazing!!
I listened the whole way and I actually teared up watching this. I’ve always been the quiet, insecure girl and you gave me hope that I don’t always have to be that way. You are amazing, thank you
i had literally just finished a journal entry about confidence before opening up YT and seeing this on my recommended. i've been going through the same journey in my own way and its refreshing to hear another story about this struggle. the part about giving your self grace and patience is so important. if you're too hard on yourself, its a lot easier to give up all together. the grace allows us to keep pushing even when we slip
I hear you, and thinking about your experiences from an insecure individual to working your struggles to become the better version of your current self is so insightful. I have been struggling with confidence myself these past years and hearing from a fellow person struggling in these things, creates a feeling of relief that I'm not alone in this journey along with the 902k viewers. Sharing your experiences and becoming vulnerable to the internet inspired me to tackle the path of discomfort for the betterment of myself. I can't take you enough for inspiring me, a literal stranger from a corner of the world. This has been a pleasant experience, please continue with your videos! Also, I want to highlight of you sharing the process, in this method, it has created insightful ideas and I hope I get to share this to others one day. Again, thank you for sharing!
I listened to everything. I'm so grateful you exist. I'm finally confident, but feel so guilty about triggering people who are struggling with insecurities I worked through. I was bullied so badly in the areas I shined by kids and adults as I grew up and I am afraid of the hatred and meanness that comes from those who aren't aware of how their insecurities manifest. You've allowed me to feel more confident being confident, less afraid to rise (I'm healing fears of success because of this past trauma), and less afraid of harm and abuse. So thank you, Inayah🦋
I loved listening to this. It is so important to see others practicing what you hope to embody as well! genuinely powerful and uplifting. thank you fro being vulnerable.
I just wish that we all felt vulnerable and lifted each other up was really touching to hear. Thank you for spreading so much kindness and self love to others :)
This video was so good. So sincere and refreshing. I feel like I've been feeling so down and not confident for the last 3 years (at least) , and just now I heard words that I really needed.
This video is so wonderful. ‘There’s nobody who is meant to do exactly what you’re supposed to do’ really stuck with me. I reckon I’ll be listening to this again sometime. So powerful. Often resistance is our guiding light to what we should be putting more of our personal resources towards. Absolutely loved the video 🫶🏽
i watched this whole thing through. didn’t think i would or that i could but i did and i don’t regret it one bit. this was beautiful honestly i loved all every second. thank you for this :)
thank you so much. i’ve been suffering about how to show up and overcome my self doubt. i don’t have any confidence right now. i have a lot of insecurities and i think it’s affecting my life. i can’t be the best version of myself
this video couldn’t have come across at a better time for me - I couldn’t stop watching and listening once I started because of how compelling and affirming your words were. thank you for putting this out there, you’re an inspiration
I hope lots of people see this. You deserve all the recognition people are giving. Thank you! I especially like the part about holding space for yourself and having grace to grow. Its possible to be a confident person while having feelings of insecurity sometimes, those moments don't define us, its the consistent way we speak to ourselves after those moments that will define us❤
Trusting and loving yourself changes everything. Its taking the time to feel uncomfortable emotions, accepting defeats , celebrating wins , and searching for the things you like about yourself ( no matter how small). Words of affirmation work a lot for me. Just taking the habit of saying " You got it , girl " out loud to myself even when I doubt made me less anxious and built up my confidence. Great video !!!
I listened to all of this and I think this was genuinely a very good video on confidence. I've seen quite a few and this is definitely the best that I've seen in a while. I actually avoided clicking on it in my feed for a while cus these videos are usually all the same and pretty unhelpful but you did a really great job - the posture thing especially resonated with me
loved everything about this video i'm really going thru it with depression and i feel like you literally opened a window for me and it's not the end of the world for being sad:) thank you very much
I used to watch your earlier videos on my other account so so so much. They've always resonated in a beautiful way. I found this video in my suggested, and I am so so happy to see your videos again but years later. So much growth has happened throughout that time. I am proud of you and your journey :)
Thanks for this. It's so helpful to hear from someone who has done this work and seen actual, tangible results. For me (and I think many others,) the most challenging aspect of self-acceptance is the need for sincere belief in that "confident" or "ideal" version of yourself. It's easy to fall into the trap of understanding all of the positive self-talk as something that's kind and compassionate but ultimately untrue, like the white lies we all tell each other from time to time: "That dress looks amazing on you," "Your work sounds very rewarding," "Everything happens for a reason," etc. etc. But that's *not* what self-acceptance is about. It's about recognizing and focusing on the *actual truth* that you *already are* the person you want to be. You just sometimes forget to act like it.
the level of thought you must’ve put into this topic shows intensely. even the small details like the flower arrangements you make every week moves mountains for me. the authenticity above all else makes your dedication and perseverance shine like gemstones. i wish i could listen to you talk about this for hours. but 30 minutes will have to do thank you for sharing your experiences
Hi I watched til the end and I’m so so so so grateful that you made this video and that floral arrangement is so GORGEOUSSS!! I really truly needed this video. I have been feeling so scared of social interaction and this helped a lot. I will stop avoiding the discomfort!!
My brother sent me this video and it makes me so happy. I’ve been telling him what you say in this video all the time, it confirms that he is listening to his big sis, all I want is to breathe life into him and remind him of who he is, the person in confident and who has his dream life. Beautiful video Inayah (love your name) thank you for sharing this wonderful empowering message 💖
I love this format! It's like my one friend suddenly had a breakthrough on how to help and then just talks. Also, loads of meat on this talk. I'll be saving it to go back to in now and then
I've watched your video a few times now and I really loved your laid back chatty approach to giving this advice. Feeling like a "liar" whenever you try to tweak aspects of your behavior that are hurtful for you and others is really a big hurdle to overcoming your insecurity and trusting yourself. From personal experience I can say that keeping the promises you make to yourself and showing up really does do a lot for building self-trust. It's just that I and probably many others reading this we make too big promises too early and it tends to end in burnout and disappointment. So this thing with the "just pick your fitness outfit at first and that’s enough" really pricked up my ears and I'd love to try it... It's hard to lower your expectations when you want so much so fast but it really is a lot more sustainable. Thank you for making this video and sharing your thoughts, to everyone reading: you got this! ^^ (my personal insecurity has that i'm too self-absorbed and can't really connect to and love other people but writing this is a vote for the alternative) ❤
