Selective Attention: How To Make People Respect You

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For many men, Don Draper is the epitome of confidence. What most people don’t realize is that confidence actually comes in two flavors. There is the external confidence that you project, which can make closing deals, making friends or seducing happen more naturally. There is also the internal confidence you feel which is how comfortable you are in any given situation.
In this video, we’re going to analyze what Don can teach us about both levels of confidence, and how mastering each level can take you from being nervous to completely confident in any situation.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:41 - Lesson #1: His relaxed body language.
2:58 - Lesson #2: Don is non-reactive.
5:18 - Lesson #3: He doesn’t try to convince other people.
6:57 - Lesson #4: The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.
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@SeanLunny 4 года назад

Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

@mohammedbedewy9102 4 года назад

Exactly!! You made my day sir !!

@YodaSama0 4 года назад

Sean Lunny that’s could be true but could also be really bad

@lorenzejay3296 4 года назад

I tell myself this everyday and I genuinely believe everything will workout

@clubstep8244 4 года назад

To help yourself feel fine even in heated situations: "zoom out" a bit and imagine all the life that happens around you and realize how little you mean in all that, there is nothing that's going to hurt you

@alcatraz2627 4 года назад

Alan watts explained that quite well, " you must understand we come out of this World, not into it. Therefore we are part of the natural World like the animals, the trees and the waves of the ocean and the clouds. Now have have you ever seen a cloud that was too big or too small? Have you ever seen a cloud move in the wrong direction? The same goes for humans, in zen practice you are thought to regard yourself as a cloud moveing along in the skies..."

@altonology1134 3 года назад

Practice keeping your word everyday you’ll really gain confidence. Every time you say you’re gonna do something and don’t do it, your self-esteem diminishes no matter how meaningless the task may seem. Take your word very serious.

@GaZonk100 3 года назад

love it

@yoshibald8958 3 года назад

thx

@climbbmilc93 3 года назад

I go by this! Especially just for doing life admin: - Telling yourself you’ll make your bed in the morning before showering. And doing it! - telling yourself you’ll have breakfast before 10:00. And doing it!

@altonology1134 3 года назад

@@climbbmilc93 Exactly! Little routine tasks like that are extremely important for keeping your confidence in check. There was one point in my life where I followed through with literally everything that I said I would do religiously and after a while, it felt like I owned the world. “Idk” and “maybe” were no longer in my vocabulary. You start to subconsciously trust in yourself more and more by KNOWING you’ll accomplish whatever you say you’re going to do (AKA confidence).

@anwarshariq3411 3 года назад

Preach 100

@danfordchodokufa838 Год назад

"Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be ok" is an incredibly liberating idea. I love this

@gabriellepundsack3308 4 месяца назад

I always tell myself, "No one is going to kill you if (I fail/can't pay a bill/etc.).

@keremdemircan4203 Месяц назад

it is basically stoicism bro

@harshsunitapancholi15 2 года назад

1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you. 2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure. 3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly. 4. You will be okay no matter what.

@user-hq4zb6yp5b 2 месяца назад

She broke up with me. I told her I was grateful for the good times we shared. No begging, no pleading, go and be well. Moved on. Did us both a BIG favor. 😂

@pinkyster9384 4 года назад

How to nail your interview: 1. Avoid eye contact at all costs 2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance 3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question 4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job

@maxx4944 4 года назад

dont forgot to cry

@fsb4561 4 года назад

I laughed so hard 😂😂😂 im dying here man

@DocPegLegRed 4 года назад

Hahahaha

@MrRiveting 4 года назад

5. Light up a cigarette indoors and smoke.

@redmondandkrista9475 4 года назад

@@MrRiveting hahahahahaha

@db-7531 3 года назад

True confidence can only be achieved via lightning McQueen crocs

@richardjohnson7379 3 года назад

Notice: no other clothing can be worn or it won’t work

@dorian_tihi5869 3 года назад

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@mrmark8603 3 года назад

A, er...friend was looking for some. Where would I, er he, get those?

@jay0071 3 года назад

Crispyyy

@isaacwebb20 3 года назад

Epic gamer moment

@briandtnguyen Год назад

As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury. It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings. Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said. I would add that confidence is a two-way street. I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another. Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.

@mosesrichard394 4 месяца назад

i m in Law school.. i will start practicing your way

@user-xo1ez7zf1t 2 месяца назад

Amazing advice

@roman8197 День назад

you're an attorney shut up

@SkippyBrown 2 года назад

I feel like a big part of Don's character is that even HE has his own issues with self-confidence, but he never let's people see that. When he does, that's when we start to see the layers peel back and Don's true self starts to show. It's really all about how you project yourself to the world and those around you.

@berkguler5339 2 года назад

blessed words

@stephcooper1111 2 года назад

BEST comment yet- nailed it!

@dominickdean2873 2 года назад

Not necessarily the point. The point is to have true enough confidence in yourself to be able to be vulnerable in front of others, and not in a poor me way.

@1023kdawg 2 года назад

And then you realize that real confidence and real freedom is not having to "project" yourself to anyone .

@kayleighc1681 Год назад

An even bigger part of Don's character is that he's a manipulative gaslighting narcissist, definitely not someone to look up to at all

@CelineCatalina98 4 года назад

"do you want fries with that?" *20 second pause* "yes"

@aptonymic3014 4 года назад

(i had to think fast)

@qambi1 4 года назад

hehehe

@cheerfulcrumb4540 4 года назад

that would be a fckn alpha move i reckon

@SageVaughn 3 года назад

LMAO

@LetsTacoBoutWine 3 года назад

LMAO

@randomappalachian4635 4 года назад

Expectations: Don Draper Reality: Michael Scott

@captainswan3079 3 года назад

😂😂

@portman3950 3 года назад

@redduckto 3 года назад

fkn underrated..

@MicahBuzanANIMATION 3 года назад

100% accurate

@cribbie6327 3 года назад

Michael Scarn! Threat level midnight

@AA-qb7ni 2 года назад

I get anxiety going to college every single day. I'm not happy with how i feel on the inside and out. But this helped and I'm working on myself now. My goal is to leave the house feeling confident and good about myself.

@sil_spatafora3886 2 года назад

how’s it going?

@oscoe Год назад

Hang in there…..be kind to yourself for each small thing you achieve where you overcome anxiety. Hope things are getting better.

@bobbye4731 3 месяца назад

Start working out. It’ll do wonders

@qualityquotes229 2 года назад

“It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.” ― Lou Holtz

@user-hq4zb6yp5b 2 месяца назад

❤😊

@ldb6382 4 года назад

Confidence is literally a mindset that you can force.

@Poop-sr9sn 3 года назад

Explain

@jonnycpardoe 3 года назад

Agree on it being mindset 100%

@arkarmiller70 3 года назад

Dude you are so right. I was a shy guy but today my crush offered me a snack and I used to decline the offer and today I said to her" Yeah sure why not" in front of everyone.

@jogolord8122 3 года назад

1 million subscribers with no videos That’s a good start. Keep the mindset you’ll do good.

@ellorco991 3 года назад

You can cultivate a mindset though, being good at things or doing things until You’re good at them is a way to cultivate confidence, the fact is you have to have experiences, good and bad and learn from them, true confidence IMO is having certainty in everything you do

@maxxmaximum3467 3 года назад

* Be relaxed - Spread out (standing, sitting being spread) - Move freely around - People have to work for attention - Selective eye contact ( give attention when making a point ; if the other person is doing it, then stare) * Be Non-reactive - Stay silent under pressure ( give pauses to think) - Don’t fidget under pressure * Dont try to convince people - Frame yourself as a equal partner ( in a negotiation; You are screening them as much as they are screening you) - Be willing to walk away ( not emotionally; if its clear that it signifies your confidence; Looks we’re not a match, wish you all the best) * Believe that you’ll be okay - Even if you do something that will prove a loss, be confident and know that you wont ever lose your own trust.

@kandle2507 3 года назад

Thanks man

@GM-dg6mj 3 года назад

Thanks man

@dfghxdfghsdsxdhdftx803 3 года назад

Thank you.

@CyberMew 3 года назад

Saved me ten minutes thanks!!

@Ruzal 3 года назад

Thanks

@Dr.HouseMD Год назад

You gotta watch the show. Don is terrified or nervous in 1/4 of these situations. Not to mention his character is literally about an insecure person who imitates a persona to fit in.

@user-hq4zb6yp5b 2 месяца назад

Don is akin to a Deep Cover Espionage Agent with a totally crafted false persona.

@thefutureisnow7300 2 месяца назад

Don is good at disguising his fears

@Arthanlis-Orthodox 4 дня назад

Hey, I would like to watch, what is the name of the show please ?

@Dr.HouseMD 4 дня назад

@@Arthanlis-Orthodox Mad Men

@Arthanlis-Orthodox 4 дня назад

@@Dr.HouseMD Thank you sir

@clairebaujard4519 2 года назад

That last point about true, unshakeable confidence in yourself is absolutely golden. That's what it all boils down to. Brilliantly put, thank you!

@josephrutchik5777 3 года назад

"You'll stop worrying that someone will reject you because you'll never reject yourself." That is brilliant! Well done!!!

@Christian-tf6ol 2 года назад

Indeed I agree💯. They said that "Don't be the first person to say no to yourself"

@g.a.d6988 2 года назад

"Who do you believe in? I believe in me.. I love me"- SGP

@kevinflanagan4711 2 года назад

Love this

@Sergiuss555 Год назад

your IQ must be negative

@Faye-el1bz 4 месяца назад

Who cares about rejection Its way more important to become youre best authentic self

@addisonjones3795 3 года назад

I have always struggled with social anxiety and self esteem. I used these on my family at a party with my aunts and cousins. For the first time I felt confident. I was talking and making everyone laugh with my stories and comments. As soon as I got home I started crying with relief. I hope that I can keep applying this tricks in the future. Thank you will never be enough, But thank you.

@jonathanregan5682 3 года назад

Wish you the best man.

@theMadZakuPilot 3 года назад

Good luck man

@ollie2244 3 года назад

I feel you, it's really tough.

@dannymontaino700 3 года назад

That's so awesome. I don't know you but I'm proud of you. Sending you lots of love

@keshavdawra12 3 года назад

Good job!

@davidharler9149 2 года назад

also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"

@cscs88 Месяц назад

I love that his pick up line w that nurse is "my name is Don". Jon Hamm absolutely crushed this role.

@prodmarquese 3 года назад

getting detached from reality made me the most confident person ive ever known lol, the key is not caring guys, your fears controlling you, if you overcome them then your anxiety is gone.. everyone is too invested in their own life, they dont care if your hair's not that good

@Anthony-dw3jb 3 года назад

I can vouch for this. In my younger days I used to not give 2 shits what somebody would think about me if I said this or did that, I just didn't care and every conversation/interaction I had with anyone just felt good and satisfying. These days I'm clouded by social anxiety and it's hard to enjoy being out and around people because I constantly think about how the other person is going to view me but coming across this video is reconnecting me with my past philosophy of not giving 2 shits and I have to say it feels good and thats how I know not caring really works lol. Care about what matters to you, not to them, that is the key.

@prodmarquese 3 года назад

@@Anthony-dw3jb Exactly, once you have control over your fears, you'll have no limits

@dante93nero 3 года назад

@@prodmarquese Yes and no. Because even if you have no fears there is a difference in appearing confident and being arrogant. Whilist I do understand your point what someone like Don does is project confidence while not needing to be confident himself if that makes sense. There are subtle moviments you can do that swing a conversation in your favor and for someone with Don's knowledge he knows what clients want and needs.

@sarthaknagar6349 3 года назад

How do you detach from reality? Imagine you are to give a presentation in front of 100 people and you are nervous and anxious as hell, your heart is beating fast, at that situation how would you do that?

@dante93nero 3 года назад

@@sarthaknagar6349 the second you greet the audience. Right than and there you focus on what your are presenting and not on the audience itself

@arioux 3 года назад

“Would you like your receipt?” *20 second pause “no.-I-I mean yes”

@motivatoraligator6 3 года назад

😂😂

@undefeated3257 2 года назад

Omfg 🤣😂🤣

@moto-physique9270 2 года назад

😂😂😂

@gusd8659 2 года назад

LOL

@dendaungnualkhae5144 2 года назад

😂

@IsraelGarciaRivera 2 года назад

You made me remember one of my favorite episodes of Mad Men... That hug Don gives to the other man, it is just emotional 100%. Deep.

@jamesboaz4787 2 месяца назад

For those who don't know or needed a reminder the show is MAD MEN

@ZacharyLaid 4 года назад

Confidence is built by doing something over and over until you prove to yourself that you’re actually good at it.

@MrMacBig273 4 года назад

it's the skill you trained is - lying to yourself - does it would make you confident at anything ? cause you're sure you can do it ?

@ASLUHLUHCE 4 года назад

Do you know the definition of confidence?

@MrMacBig273 4 года назад

@@ASLUHLUHCE Do you know how the human mind works ?

@amaracea 4 года назад

Zachary is 100% right. Don’t be putting words in his comment that aren’t there.

@ASLUHLUHCE 4 года назад

@@MrMacBig273 You also don't know what confidence means. You get s feeling of confidence/self-assurance by appreciating your own abilities or qualities, and not necessarily being a master of any particular skill. For instance, one could be confident at public speaking, but not necessarily be good at it.

@GamerDwarfTR 3 года назад

Watched this with my dog Now he’s giving speeches about confidence.

@SebAnders 3 года назад

You could say he's now... Top Dog.

@brodemfamalam7178 3 года назад

Guess you could call him a dawg now

@3zooz17 3 года назад

@@brodemfamalam7178 guess you can call him snoop dog😂😂😂😂

@anasubia5856 2 года назад

😬

@BlackDiamond2718 2 года назад

Second in command to snowball

@zig8925 2 года назад

It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding. Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.

@GustavoSilva-ny8jc 2 года назад

The ending is AMAZING, throughout the whole video i was like "yeah, okay but that's just a persona, just an act - and when i was younger and starting self development i thought that THIS was what meant to be confident but it's far from true self belief and conviction, the place where true confidence comes from. So, cool tips but it's not what i need righ-" then lesson 4 started. And you nailed it. It's so fundamental to stress this, to know where confidence, self-belief, comes from. Great, great video.

@philiphaycock3845 4 года назад

All I got from this is that the narrator has a crush on this actor.

@RageAZA 4 года назад

hey we all have our man crushes. a one sided bromance..

@_BhagavadGita 4 года назад

Or perhaps you're just projecting your feelings onto the narrator?

@32alltheway 4 года назад

Pretty much. nothing like basing your own confidence on a drunken, philandering, identity stealing, morally bankrupt pretty boy. moral of the story, be pretty!

@zoulzopan 4 года назад

You don't?

@hannahmadden3573 4 года назад

What a Hamm.

@mglynn4450 4 года назад

I once saw Cesar Milan live and he said "Calm is power" and that was the strongest piece of advice I've ever heard.

@amaracea 4 года назад

A friend told me that once when we were kids. We aren’t friends anymore because first I forgot about that, and then he forgot about that, and now we’re probably never going to talk to each other again. I forgive him now, it’s been a while, but knowing him I doubt he’s forgiven me. I don’t know if he’s capable of forgiveness. Or any real feelings, for that matter.

@Julian-bq9qv 4 года назад

@@amaracea so very sad. Words spoken in haste or in anger can never be taken back. If both parties are willing and committed, then a friendship can recover and endure; but anything less is like trying to build half a bridge.

@jamietodd2560 4 года назад

Calm means the other person cannot affect you. They might try because if they can make you react then it shows that _they_ have the power to make you react. But if you remain cool and collected no matter what happens, then you retain all of that power, and actually steal some of theirs, because now you've both seen their failure.

@Julian-bq9qv 4 года назад

@@jamietodd2560 well said!!!

@ryanw8510 4 года назад

Be like Don Draper if you want to pick up beautiful women...be like Cesar Milan if you want to pick up dogs!

@sexyrexy6358 Год назад

Wow! So focused, engaging and productive. Just before I get out of bed, I visualize and feel in every part of my body, the life I want. I hold those feelings for at least 20 seconds and everything I do is driven by that vision. This is the best cotent I have seen on YT so far. Great job.

@genghisgalahad8465 5 месяцев назад

I'd always thought of Charisma on Command as often the Don Draper University! A good thing for focus and attention and intention!

@Je.rone_ 4 года назад

4:30 *Slowing things down and thinking before reacting Is something I find extremely effective*

@amaracea 4 года назад

Yeah. It’s really difficult when you’re trained growing up and your whole life that you’re dirt and everyone else is better than you - meaning, hey, respond promptly to people and don’t waste their time. It’s more valuable than yours. When you realize you’re making them wait, you feel like your face is on fire and your hands get all greasy and your chest starts trying to kill you and you can tell they’re hearing how unbelievably loud and shallow your breathing suddenly is and that sweat on your forehead is “this close” to getting in your eye and you forget what you were trying to figure out to say

@Angeck 4 года назад

@@amaracea Do this 3 times. First 2 times it feels terrible and difficult, and at the 3rd time it starts getting more comfortable. Also some people would be surprised at how first and second impressions don't matter and people forget how you've been in the past. The point being, go and make some mistakes, It's good for you.

@capo328 4 года назад

@@amaracea I know that feeling

@rickjohnson1719 4 года назад

I find it annoying because i dont think when i speak so i flow. I think by talking so its aweful waiting for other people to answer.

@Je.rone_ 4 года назад

@@rickjohnson1719 Depending on the complexity of the situation/conversation I think one can choose to just flow, a stream of consciousness so to speak, in lieu of well-thoughtout speech.

@poozizzle 4 года назад

Audrey Hepburn was asked how she seemed so poised all the time, she said she slows down. I started talking that to heart in stressful situations, and it's worked. I feel myself getting panicky in a social situation and then just walk slower, talk slower, allows your thoughts to slow down and become less reactive.

@ErikaK 4 года назад

Yes ! Love that! It gives you the time to think and analyse the situation. Also taking deep breaths can help to manage our emotions ♡

@gabyperez1123 4 года назад

Wow, I should try that.

@ErikaK 4 года назад

@@gabyperez1123 :) yes, before reacting to a certain situation, before responding, taking a deep breath can help you channel your emotions and think the things through. Taking deep breaths can help you release anxiety, stress and even anger.

@tripslikstar 4 года назад

I worked in security. I always told my guards that when it gets crazy, slow down. Simply your list, take a deep breathe and control what you can. Seem to work as me and my team were very successful.

@ErikaK 4 года назад

@@tripslikstarthat's great! it really really helps Have a wonderful week !

@dhaoracle 14 дней назад

This is by far the best in the series cause it doesn't look to change anyone just tell them to own it

@KSJpeep 2 года назад

Thank you so much I really needed this, I was just rejected and was so scared to go to school because I knew that people would confront me about it but again thank you so much!

@michalpiskorski9731 4 года назад

Two rules which I have applied a long time ago and have improved my life completely. - Pause and think about what you're about to say, and then say it, always. - Sometimes it is better to not say anything.

@aljack1979 3 года назад

What I learnt from my military career, 'only fools rush in'

@Wayne--O 3 года назад

@mikeymorrison272 3 года назад

Definitely agree

@praesidium4278 2 года назад

I need to do this but to,do such great things,I need to destroy my schizophrenic version of myself and then I can be free and in touch with reality

@OMGSHEENA 3 года назад

Realizing that no matter what happens, I'll be okay, is exactly how I survived my childhood. I used to stress so much then after so many dramatic plot twists, I realized if I survived all that, I will survive whatever else comes my way and that's when I stopped stressing as much. I hadn't really connected it with confidence before but I can see the connection now. Interesting. 🤔

@bbx7739 2 года назад

Same here. I am the only one who is not afraid to speak up, regardless of their position. After you collect your guts to stand up to your parents, you have no fear standing up to anyone :)

@pastelteaaniiii 2 года назад

Truth.

@bernhardsonn7758 2 года назад

@fredricmontana5420 2 года назад

In the end, most people wont survive. 🙂

@lyrebird9749 Год назад

So sorry to hear what happened to you. But have faith in yourself, you are strong and capable. You have survived. You will survive. Peace.

@ssjliano9971 2 года назад

It’s crazy how simple stuff like this is but the way we were programmed growing up made shot like this never go through my head

@goshahello1500 8 месяцев назад

I watched this video a few years back and I forgot that after I applied the steps it completely changed how everyone around me viewed me seemingly overnight props to this channel

@lordvoldemort1985 3 года назад

Stop worrying about always needing to say the right thing because you think the other person or the group might reject you, because you know that you will never reject yourself --- this really hit man, ty for this video

@synaesthesia4183 3 года назад

Same here!

@Andy-lj9pr 3 года назад

1)Relaxed Body language 2)Selective eye contact 3)Non-Reactiveness/Silence/Patient response 4)Framing the situation 5)No matter what... you will be okay.

@badassv7875 10 месяцев назад

It was a rough day, watching this video made me fell better. Thank you.

@bambooflute2589 Год назад

07:01 is everything. Very powerful stuff. I’ll meditate on this for as long as it takes, and get rejected and fail over and over for as many times as it takes to internalize that. Thank you so much.

@mihaiioantabacaru7758 3 года назад

"My name is Don" what a great pickup line, I'll definitely use it!

@dogguyful 2 года назад

My name is Bond, James Bond

@petezah4597 2 года назад

@@dogguyful my name is Don, Don Don

@dogguyful 2 года назад

@@petezah4597 Hahaha 😂

@tinockovietea2470 2 года назад

Don Dada on the down low

@MundoGamesDo 2 года назад

@@petezah4597 Tava aqui no baile escutando aquele som

@DrJonTam 3 года назад

0:16 Two types of confidence: External and Internal 0:43 1: Relaxed body language 3:03 2: Be non-reactive 5:24 3: Don’t try to convince people 7:04 4: Believe that you will always be ok

@itsjayjaehere864 2 года назад

Thankss

@bobbybarnes6888 Год назад

Appreciate it

@urielgladney1746 Год назад

Huh h B b 😅😊b 0:53 b

@seanwilliams480 Год назад

Another factor in why Don is so darn good at all of this is that he is a fictional character with a team of 12 writers controlling every situation, every reaction, every move, every word of every character in every scene. It's easy to make someone god like when for all intents and purposes the character actually is god like, with every aspect of every scene carefully designed and orchestrated by a huge team of writers, sound people, lighting people, costume designers, set directors, on and on, plus the director and other actors setting him up constantly project that great Don Draper image. It takes more to be Don Draper than just confidence. No one is Don Draper.

@dvirdeez Год назад

You’re right, but remember that characters are developed from real life experiences/stories. Writers take personalities and character traits of real people and create a fictional character. It’s not as if Dons character is albeit non relatable, he is very relatable and there’s a lot to learn from Don Draper

@misty_mouse987 2 года назад

you will never reject yourself... love this

@MotiveVideoBook 4 года назад

"you will be okay no matter what" yes this is powerful

@ryshlovanoodo7591 4 года назад

Not to me lol.

@vutrung6874 4 года назад

@@ryshlovanoodo7591 :))

@sentvero2025 4 года назад

Looks > Confidence

@ryshlovanoodo7591 4 года назад

I should have died in my thirty's.

@camj256 4 года назад

If only real people were scripted to react perfectly to everything I say.

@VoidVerses 4 года назад

Stfu punk

@CoolDrifty 4 года назад

@@VoidVerses nah he's right. you can do everything right in a conversation and the other person will still be awkward and antisocial.

@VoidVerses 4 года назад

@@CoolDrifty you didn't get the joke... oh well 🤣

@CoolDrifty 4 года назад

Jesus Eduardo well I’ve heard better jokes

@VoidVerses 4 года назад

@@CoolDrifty no, you heard easier jokes..

@intrakitproductions Год назад

True confidence it's just being yourself in any situation and speaking your mind when needed

@galactusholmes 2 года назад

This video... I’ve seen quite a few of yours. This one really hit home for me and confidence felt and projected has not been an issue for me for decades. Well done

@wearedying 2 года назад

This is the first video on this channel I've seen. I just hope I don't forget to implement the tips!

@alexd0103 4 года назад

How to be confident Step 1: steal someone else’s personality and life

@reyjoson7895 4 года назад

Alex Step1: migrate Step 2: steal someone else’s personality and life

@matttheamerican3766 4 года назад

Not funny. Dudes actually do this crap

@CaliburovX4 4 года назад

Rey Joson Step three: Profit.

@bobbye7353 4 года назад

He isn't talking about his personality at all. This is all about behavior. How mature successful men behave.

@tcnotrvlr 4 года назад

stealing someone else's personality and life? Wack! You'll end up like Edward Norton's character at the end of The Italian Job movie from 2003- A no originality, unconfident, LOSER that can't decide who they Actually are.

@VinnySmiles01 4 года назад

Let’s be real here, most of Don’s confidence comes from the fact that he drinks so much. Drunk people are just more confident no matter what.

@seconds-js7pf 4 года назад

Because they arent constantly worrying about consequences and living in the moment

@robertbelyea5767 4 года назад

Yep. No matter what there's always a drink to cure what ails ya.

@Yjkishke 4 года назад

If only it were that easy

@bighands69 4 года назад

Don is not confident because he drinks. That is just pure nonsense. He is confident because he does not actually care about most of the things that shape other people. He does not care about money in the way other people does, he does not care what others think and above all he is willing to just try. Everybody knows a Don Draper. That does not mean he is a good person morality is something different.

@lf2208 4 года назад

Don Draper's confidence comes from the fact that he is a character in a TV show, and he is only written into scenes where he is, and can be, confident.

@xw6475 Год назад

This is just amazing!! Your channel is my favourite on RU-vid. thank you so much Charlie!! Please keep them coming

@LifestyleofBeauty 2 года назад

Learning how to control emotion under pressure is a priceless life skill not only for confidence!! 💖💖

@Khriss98 4 года назад

you gotta hit rock bottom first before truly being confident

@ASJacob 4 года назад

Been there, I wish that on everyone who wants to become their greatest self! The darker the weather, the better the man!

@shakaabs7102 4 года назад

Sh.sudaysi.quraan.baqara.

@cecee3480 4 года назад

Hitting rock bottom doesn't make you confident it makes you ruthless.

@kkibela 4 года назад

That whole.. Im going to be fine is what really does it.. And the no ducks given that comes out of rock bottom is what makes people relentlessly unegotistically authentic in every interaction..and relaxed biddy language.. That's confidence.. And it's unique to everyone.. Best to find your own rather than copy anyone partly.. Just comes off as creepy and untrustworthy.

@owennbeats 4 года назад

how do I hit rock bottom

@SCRKT007 3 года назад

So basically accepting oneself is the very key factor on being confident, kinda mind blowing that it also goes around by the famous saying "once you start believing in yourself, anything is possible".

@jns08d 2 года назад

This is SO TRUE, 5 years ago I was a super insecure college student, got some therapy and now I'm more in love with myself than ever.

@AbeNXC 2 года назад

I’ve lived my life so far by the adage “this too shall pass”… idk why it stuck with me so hard the first time I heard it but it’s literally how I operate my life on the daily now. This saying has gotten me through countless excruciating physical AND emotional pain over the years and I really believe it’s changed me for the better

@lewiskori9426 Месяц назад

I agree with you. The day I learned about the hedonic treadmill was the day my life changed for the better. Deep down I always know that everything is temporary.

@mathiaschristensen1194 2 года назад

Video aside, Im so glad you exposed me to this shows existense, it is absolutely incredible. Jon Hamm absolutely NAILS this role in an almost surreal perfect fashion.

@EL1T3xFaTe 4 года назад

DO a tommy shelby from Peaky blinders confidence/dominating a situation breakdown! most intimidating without trying character in any show (sorry tywin)

@ArtdeStoicisme 4 года назад

BY ORDER OF THE FOOKIN PEAKY BLINDERS

@tylerdurden8640 4 года назад

FOOK YES

@redweather6315 4 года назад

YES. I get intimidated through the screen even tho hes a good guy.

@CarDrifter007 4 года назад

"I am Thomas Fookin Shelby."

@nelmarcus234 4 года назад

Bump

@fbmw98 4 года назад

This channel went from how to act charismatically to how to fix your life principles and improve your life drastically in less then 3 years

@thedogofchucknorris 4 года назад

Ferrel Brendan than*

@AutumnOnFire 4 года назад

Is that not one in the same?

@fbmw98 4 года назад

@@thedogofchucknorris corrected, thanks mate

@fbmw98 4 года назад

@@AutumnOnFire Having a principle will result in consistency and makes people automatically charismatic.

@paatrick90 4 года назад

@@fbmw98 The biggest thing that happened this week was when someone said "thanks" to a grammar correction in a RU-vid, instead of getting triggered. The tiniest thing ever, but I felt inspired by this. Good mindset.

@nerdalert6578 2 года назад

We need this curriculum in today's schools & make it mandatory for all students unfortunately this is something schools never teach us & as a 25 Yr old I can vouch for all adults when I say your degrees, grades & education doesn't matter if you're not able to express yourself. Until you're confident in you own skin you can never be successful.Period..!

@iloveas999too4 Год назад

1.Have a relax body language and more freely in every environment. Have selective eye contact and make eye contact when your doing a main point. Do not over react and stay non reactive. Remain in silence to think or when confused. SLOW DOWN 2.Make yourself seem as equals with others. Do not get angry and stay calm 3.believe that you will be okay in every situation no matter what

@mistermister2291 4 года назад

Confidence isn't about getting other peoplr to agree with you or accept you, it's about living your life without worry. I think that a lot of the reasons people watch this channel come from wanting social acceptance. Ironically, that means that for many of us (myself included), the biggest obstical to overcome in being charismatic, is what drove us to try to be in the first place.

@billthebax5578 4 года назад

Vael Ryker well put. When my son was about 4th grade I was listening to him and his buddy's sitting around talking. (My son was born with bi-lateral club feet) one of the boys told him, so and so is faster than you. His answer, big deal everyone is faster than me. Too cool, that ended right there. That kid tried to step on him, but found nothing to step on.

@tanishmishra9152 4 года назад

The only reason he drapes his hand over the adjacent chair so often is because his name is Don Draper and I cannot be convinced otherwise

@stevekemp7091 3 года назад

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 best comment ever on any video in the world

@TheDoomer666 3 года назад

ah man, English joke, I don't get it

@stevekemp7091 3 года назад

@@TheDoomer666 you speak very good England sir

@darksunrise37 3 года назад

nooo dons drapes his hand because hes confident broo he feels comfortable with himself and his environment brooo you gotta hear me out bro it’s nota cuz his last names draper brooooooo

@mochalatte8878 3 года назад

@@darksunrise37 it’s a joke-

@joekool5005 5 месяцев назад

Madmen is a great series worth watching on so many levels.

@valerie8619 Год назад

I almost got teary I needed this.

@wellingtonjackson851 3 года назад

Successful people don't become that way overnight.what most people see at a glance-wealth,a great career,purpose- is the result of hardwork and hustle over time.

@greglampard1821 3 года назад

You're right sir

@greglampard1821 3 года назад

Thanks for introducing me to expert mr smith greenwoods of financial education

@wellingtonchristopher9422 3 года назад

Most people don't invest due to ignorance

@wellingtonchristopher9422 3 года назад

People are scared of investing because of the high rate of scam in the business

@wellingtonchristopher9422 3 года назад

There are scammers but real brokers are out there for investors

@iampaulwadsworth 4 года назад

Building self-confidence will change your life. Have an amazing day.

@stevenorfolk7008 4 года назад

100% truth

@wgaule 4 года назад

You can't change your life, it only happens once.

@TheAbrahamHD 4 года назад

No, YOU have an amazing day.

@wgaule 4 года назад

@@TheAbrahamHD Shut up dummy!

@Elias___ 4 года назад

@-NRB- 2 года назад

Man this video really came at the right time

@DIYerGirl 10 месяцев назад

I've seen many videos so far, and this is my favorite. Thank you!

@ns3938 4 года назад

Being brought up in a loving and supportive environment and being physically attractive are the most important contributors to confidence.

@njhd9923 3 года назад

What if I told u that even with those 2 things u could still not be confident 🤔

@dhiadridi4062 3 года назад

Definitely wrong answer

@dorian_tihi5869 3 года назад

@jannazepp8939 4 года назад

I totally and finally fell in love with the Don Draper character when he embraced the other guy in genuine empathy and in a gesture of comfort. That was his defining moment as a human. Also, Jon Hamm. Wow. What an amazing actor.

@raydencreed1524 3 года назад

@Janna Zepp When the dude was describing his dream, I felt like I wanted to give him a hug. And then Don goes and actually does it, holy crap.

@jannazepp5161 3 года назад

Greg Walker yes. It is totally conditional. We don’t like whiny wimps who tell us who they think we are. We like men who don’t blame us for everything that is wrong. We like men who like women. We hate men who hate women. So yeah. You are right. It IS conditional. Those are the conditions. I have my own money. My husband has his own money. Get a job, a clue, snd stop being a weakling.

@johannabonana5306 Год назад

I need to watch this video every day. You know, I think I will. This will be my morning routine.

@debu206 5 месяцев назад

thanks for this video, it gave me answers

@chelugo9928 4 года назад

2:24 Don: My name is Don Girl: inserts tongue in mouth

@user-ol3wk2ds9m 4 года назад

thats how you do it

@kenburns4547 4 года назад

That's what fiction is FOR, so people can see what they CAN'T HAVE IN REAL LIFE.

@Cyber_Kriss 4 года назад

@@kenburns4547 Fiction ? Happened to me twice !

@Bostonite1985 4 года назад

No she didn't. She exhaled her cigarette smoke into his mouth. Watch that scene where he says "My name is Don." She does not exhale the smoke, but goes straight for his mouth. She is a femme fatale. It is written all over her face. Don is a sucker.

@user-ol3wk2ds9m 4 года назад

@@Bostonite1985 she's sharing lung cancer

@osse1n 4 года назад

Internal confidence can also be called *SELF-ESTEEM* - Ultimately, it boils down to mastering your own psychology and understanding that you have unlimited powers

@Bennevisie 4 года назад

Don Draper had self esteem? You sure?

@Infinite_exhilaration 4 года назад

VariableVision Absolutely! confidence isn’t something someone always radiates, it fluctuates, not everyone always feel amazing every second of every day, Don Draper definitely has had confidence at some point in his life, and may be feeling that exact way right now, it’s something you cultivate that takes time, so your answer is a bit obvious, sometimes you feel confident, sometimes not, everyone has had confidence at one point in their life

@lukaseckart8583 4 года назад

If ones self-esteem is based on the believe that one has unlimited powers, one will at some point fail and then be forced to question it. This is far from mastering ones psychology I guess... Knowing ones limits, being confident about the potentual one has and honest about all of it seems like self-esteem that is way more natural. Just my thougt on it tho..

@Bennevisie 4 года назад

@@Infinite_exhilaration Don Draper definitely had confidence. But I would argue his self destructive behaviour (alcoholism, serial cheating on his wife, constant lying) is rather a sign of lack of self esteem. One should not confuse self esteem with confidence. One runs much deeper and the other is more superficial and ego-centric.

@Infinite_exhilaration 4 года назад

VariableVision I’m a contradiction because I agree and disagree with you. You should never mix self esteem with confidence, however... people’s behavior, it changes over time, take Robert Downey Jr by example, his life was going essentially nowhere, and he made a decision to completely change the course of his life, and arguably kick started the MCU. Now... I’m not talking that big of a change, but he could of been known for binge drinking 4 months ago, and has that stigma, but 3 weeks ago, without us knowing, he made the decision to stop drinking, or drink less and less, so... it’s very difficult in my opinion to judge someone on their past behavior when change is just one decision away, and your argument may be people don’t change, and it’s a possibility like most people they are basing that statement from their own personal experience. Today he could of made a decision to change everything around. The truth is we don’t know. It’s the same as having a best friend always hung out in Highschool, you graduated, moved to a different state, visited him 3 years later, you can be a completely different person, so much so he doesn’t even recognize you

@bespoke_heirlooms 11 месяцев назад

Wow!!!! I didn’t know that I needed to hear this until today

@alexalbertini7819 Месяц назад

thank's for your effort

@GawdTy 4 года назад

He looks like if micheal from the office was cool LOL

@spencergrubb5153 4 года назад

I think the term you're looking for is Michael Scarn

@heavy-mente6370 4 года назад

date michael?

@sillyboy2223 3 года назад

I gave you your 200th like. Your welcome!!!

@ahmz1k 3 года назад

Rasta Michael

@cherchehacknostale 3 года назад

SOOO TRUUUUE

@afonsolucas2219 4 года назад

How to be like Don Draper: Step 1: When in doubt, remain absolutely silent Step 2: When asked about your past give vague and open ended answers Step 3: Have a great name Step 4: Look fantastic in a suit, look fantastic in casual wear, look fantastic in anything. Sound good. Smell good. Kiss good. Strutt around with supreme confidence. Take 6 hour lunches. Disappear for weeks at a time! Lie to everyone about everything and most importantly... Drink and smoke constantly. Basically... Be Don Draper

@bohdanrohachenko7650 4 года назад

And die from a liver failure due to constantly smoking and drinking.

@afonsolucas2219 4 года назад

Guys, this is a sketch from SNL with Jon Hamm. It's perfect go watch it.

@evindrews 4 года назад

step 5: crumble as a human being

@binal-flecki2387 4 года назад

*Boss asks me something* *Stays absolutely silent*

@afonsolucas2219 4 года назад

@@binal-flecki2387 Boss: ... You're promoted.

@francisotia4370 2 года назад

Exactly what I needed to hear at the moment. Thanks!!

@TorsteinTheFallen 2 года назад

Amazing content. I had to watch it few times and think about situations i was in. This is spot on and very helpful.

@broste2121 2 года назад

"I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until I became that person" Cary Grant

@BuioPestato 4 года назад

Don is drunk most of the time, that's what it is

@kentuckyfriedchildren5385 4 года назад

It's not a package, you can get his positive aspects without his problems

@dylangarcia5803 4 года назад

no he just gets a sip but never drunk

@olog222 4 года назад

lmfao yep

@flobbertop4278 4 года назад

I’m aiming for that...

@ShushaSofia 4 года назад

My temporary solution until I get it right

@yourtakenetwork4974 2 года назад

Thank you for this video

@willy4129 2 года назад

Today, in hopes of attracting attention from my crush, I made several jokes in class and everyone laughed including the teacher! Thanks for giving me confidence. I'm still getting there...

@nathanthenewbie8325 Год назад

Proud of you bro and dont be afraid to get rejected

@TakeBackYourMind997 3 года назад

If you spend time getting to know yourself, and learn to love and accept that person then you strengthen the most important relationship of your life, the one you have with yourself. If that relationship is solid then you always have an inner safe haven no matter what is going on around you. That self love and understanding allows you to stay true to yourself in every situation, that is the deepest form of confidence.

@percyvalle921 3 года назад

True

@JoseSantos-el8nj 2 года назад

Yes but also improving that old self version of you is necessary sometimes, not only accepting it, doing something about if you feel unhappy about certain aspects of yourself

@marcschox4769 2 года назад

@@JoseSantos-el8nj exactly bro i gotta hit the gym im not gonna accept myself being skinny

@JoseSantos-el8nj 2 года назад

@@marcschox4769 That's what I've been doing bro, keep it up you're gonna make it

@EllaRingrose 4 года назад

With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x

@fibonaccisrazor 3 года назад

That was everything in a nutshell - spot on, I think.

@dorian_tihi5869 3 года назад

@Lalahotwater 10 месяцев назад

When you keep your word to your self you gain the mindset of knowing and trusting yourself to act /“react” as necessary in any situation, bc your body and intuition go based on how you carry yourself, and then life is more intriguing bc your body trusts your mind and vise versa so you just “do it”

@yogawithlucas2656 10 месяцев назад

Loved this!

@cameronbajt4 4 года назад

"Keeping emotional expression in check actually inspires resolves in others" - this is actual gold.

@shawarmageddonit 4 года назад

Well, not "ACTUAL".

@rk5kuenzler351 4 года назад

How accurate this is is actually kind of crazy. I've followed most of these in the past and have deviated recently while going through some things and allowing myself to be off balance. I used to spend so much time on my own thinking and pondering what the ideal way to be happy and so on and so forth is. At the end of my day I'd reassess: What happened today, what was the goal here, why did it go the way it did, why did someone react the way they did, what could I have done different.... ANYWAY. Being honest and therefore speaking from a place where you feel grounded and stable and therefore confident while being open to being wrong and realizing you will be ok no matter what. the world is up to your interpretation. is all there is to it.

@TrupimOkiemTV 4 года назад

wow that was good

@Metallicuz 4 года назад

Thank you for taking the time to write this.

@veerzara3857 Год назад

thank you man for your last advice about being honest to word others no matter what are the outcomes. I believe that is the most where people like me fail since we are afraid of rejection.

@greymatters14 23 дня назад

Great video.

@chloer5065 3 года назад

There’s a reason alcohol is called liquid courage.

@RatedxDmnd 3 года назад

😂😂 spot on

@Greg-nq4dj 3 года назад

Yes sir that's old time medicine right there ain't no stress balls ordered from the therapist at two sessions a week but hey whatever works for you that's what counts no matter what era your from

@Greg-nq4dj 3 года назад

One drink ain't enough Jack you better make it three

@neopabo 3 года назад

Fixing problems builds your personality. Alcohol destroys it.

@spikeybug1 3 года назад

It's also called liquid jackass

@freelcf 4 года назад

Be true and authentic, and we'll always be ok.

@jonnycpardoe 3 года назад

Thank you. A great and sensible comment.

@anavalenz9716 3 года назад

I agree with that. I always feel confident being myself and since I am an honest person people generally like me, if not at the beginning, because I am not good-looking, they will end up liking my personality.