Control The Relationship Ramifications of Your BPD

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Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Order The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook by Dr. Fox:
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In this video, we're going to explore the truth about how your Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) affects your relationship. We'll explore the emotional development of a relationship from the personal timeline all the way to relationship past and present.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: tinyurl.com/2a...
The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: goo.gl/sZYhym
The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: goo.gl/ZAVe9v
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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@ange7422 Год назад

Thank you for actually talking about how to correct our behaviours instead of just describing symptoms like most sources do. I love your books and videos!!! 😊❤ thanks for all the great content.

@plaster.art.ho3 Год назад

Yess. Love him soo much. He's a godsend to our community 🥺

@cloverkitkat6917 Год назад

I know, so many of the videos, sites just rehash symptoms. I know my behaviors but I need to know how to do the opposite action. Dr Fox is a Godsend

@SeanRhoadesChristopher Год назад

It’s too hard to deal with, so the solution is to make those with the problem feel inferior, subpar, defective, and therefore unworthy of having an existence. It’s a passive aggressive form of discrimination that may lead to a form of genocide.

@hismaelification Год назад

Narcisistic abuse and double bind communication in family cause BPD in the child. Sometimes the BPD develops psychosis/schizophrenia. Isnt it common psychology knowledge in Texas? greetings from therapist in Berlin/Germany

@staciejones5169 Год назад

Ur every video has helped me thru some of life's many, many issues. I was first diagnosed with Bipolar II. Which I know is a disorder I do have. I was later diagnosed with BPD in 2008. I'm just now learning about this disorder, and how it pertains to me. Wow. I have also been diagnosed with schizophrenia, paranoid. I have all 9 traits of the BPD disorder. I have also suffered physical, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse at an ongoing rate throughout my life. I'm 49. I'm also suffering from dementia, maybe due to HepC , and or, cirrhosis. My father has Parkinson's, so now that I have developed hand tremors, I'm to see a neurologist, also having Alzheimer's on my mother's side. My father's mother, I think was either schitzophrenic or had BPD. She shot herself while my Dad was still a child. His older siblings said she talked about the voices. Drug and alcohol abuse, of course runs in both sides, and found me at the tender age of 6. I still struggle with it from time to time. But, I found u on RU-vid when I was bad on meth, and my house burned down (luckily while I was spending the night with a friend), me and my 13 yr old Chihuahua Jose. That really sent me over The edge and I was hospitalized yet again. My kids came from the Angleton area of the Houston, Gaveston, Livingston Metro Plex in Texas to stay with them. That was when I found you on RU-vid. That for the longest time was couchsurfing when it came to my family my children and sister. I had been in Eden, west Texas for so long and had suffered so much trauma in that town (which I wound up back here) that my family no longer knew me and I no longer knew them. I made a complete circle right back here. But, I stay away from those who have abused me, or want someone to share in the sinking of their ship. I also had a 3 1/2year relationship with a narcissistic psychopath that mentally, sexually, and physically tortured me. He's been in prison for 4 years now and I have cut off all contact. The person I was 2 years ago, was paranoid of everyone and everything. I still am to a point, but this woman would howl in pain. I've had, I'm sure so many occursnces of dissociative amnesia brought on by trauma. I believe. I have been so purposely scared out of my mental capacity, I have stabbed a few people in fear. SMH. I don't feel like I am dangerous to anyone, unless I guess I feel physically threatened. I know this is a lot. And my doctor's, and the police where I live know what I've done, and can figure out why. I've been thru it, and still have a long way to go to some kind of recovery. It wasn't easy to put myself out here. At all. I need to find a therapist badly. Because I know all the drugs will only do so much. I mean prescription drugs. Thank u for ur videos. And if u have any insight on my issues, please share. I need all the help I can get

@DanielleBaylor Год назад

I wish I could share this... But she doesn't even believe she has it... I have to figure out a way to "go along" with what she thinks, while still remaining in reality. She fits all the criteria, the symptoms, what I've endured over the years being with her, plus her other mental health issues... I want there to be a solution or a way to work this out

@thereisnosanctuary6184 Год назад

What is this thing you say "re-lation-ship"?

@sirg76 Год назад

how do I create a flow chart? is there one you have as a template already made?

@gaaraati Год назад

Thank you sincerely for supporting the community Dr. Fox! ❤

@brimerwelpippy4972 Год назад

These videos are some of the only thing that keep an ounce of hope in me. Thank you Dr Fox.... seriously

@katieg7679 Год назад

This is all true and well stated. The way I think about my development is that I had 2 choices growing up, I could either be myself and be rejected by my parents or become someone that my parents could accept, so of course I chose to have my parents. I became alienated from myself to gain some safety at home. I see myself through my parents eyes. I have no experience relating to the world or other people authentically. Recovery has been slowly, slowly stepping into my own skin and becoming vulnerable enough to reveal myself, while also taking care of and protecting myself in a way that didn't happen for me when I was younger. I wouldn't have known any of this if I hadn't started with therapy, I had no idea there was even anything wrong with my upbringing. I just always thought there was something horribly, irreversibly wrong with me. Like I was something that had to pretend to be a person.

@WhitePelicansareReal Год назад

To read your comment; it’s exactly what I would have written. I am so astonished!

@WhitePelicansareReal Год назад

Dr Fox, thank you for the video! This video explains a world of hurt for me. I have never had it explained so succinctly before. It is now making so much sense when I never even could put words to the feeling. Thank you!😊

@glynispalazuelos7216 Год назад

Same. So sad. I felt like such an alien in my family. No one even tried to know or understand me. With no way of escaping I went into a deep depression. It wasn’t until I connected to how dysfunctional my childhood was that I could recognize it wasn’t me and start to heal. It is a long process if you don’t find the right help.

@Gamma-V Год назад

I love the idea of the timeline in a relationship. I did that, and noticed how my husband saw and felt about our time together. It showed me how absolutely I compatible our self images were and what we considered important were also incompatible. We did eventually divorce, but now I know how to do this and it's importance from here o. Out in my life.

@MS-ns4ki Год назад

Hi de fox I have some tendencies and many men I’ve dated are def diagnosed bpd . They however , are all in denial .

@stupud818 Год назад

I really needed this video today. Dr Fox, I hope you understand how amazing you are at communicating what you do and I am so grateful people like you exist in this world.

@mh1290 Год назад

I had never heard about the emotional permanence and object constancy explanation of BPD relationships. I always wondered why I had this extreme panic and anxiety when my loved one wasn’t physically with me. When I can’t get ahold of my loved ones, I start to think about worst case scenarios. Sometimes I worry that my husband is cheating on me or doing something else that is completely out of character for him. He has never cheated on me or really done anything that would warrant that kind of thinking from me. I am so happy to have an explanation for this overwhelmingly negative thinking process that has caused me so much distress over the years.

@TenC3nts Год назад

I experience the same thing, this comment is the first I've seen describing exactly the same thing I've been struggling with.

@clouddancer46 Год назад

Definitely have thst false self, pleasure and joy often comes with shame, Not truly worthy healthy whole relationship, feels super uncomfortable 😣. But about object constancy, my experience is slightly different. When partner is away it triggers stress induced paranoia, its not that they don't exist its that their intent changes. ( Distortion) They don't care, steal, sabatage, cheat, gossip, betray, will get hurt, social exclude you and brag etc.. anxious in absence lack of trust inself due to distortion amd them die to paranoia. When in presence CNS is regulated feel safe, supported and upheld. Doubt that could continue in absenee, or would need reassurance.

@yeehaw_123 Год назад

Hi Dr. Fox!! Could you do a video on how narcissistic parents end up creating borderline children? It’s interesting because my sister ended up with more severe general anxiety and some depression and PTSD mixed in, and then I ended up with severe borderline and CPTSD (enough to where I had to go to the mental hospital), and I can assume that my brother is also narcissistic due to his emotional/verbal abuse towards me my whole life, mainly out of jealousy towards me being the “golden child”. It’s weird how we all ended up with something different but obviously all stemming from the same source.

@gerardmcnally Год назад

I'm absolutely fed up and in a dark place. I am empty, no more energy to do anything, no interests etc. My whole life has been destroyed by BPD/ADHD lost friends, lost opportunities, bad descions etc etc .... I try to learn, can't retain what I learn. Just want it all to be over.

@CourBarone 6 месяцев назад

I feel the same way

@tobewanad Год назад

Hi Dr. Fox! Could you please discuss Goal vs Process mindsets when it comes to BPD? I talked to my therapist today and I found it difficult to understand Thank you so much for making all of these videos free, and I appreciate the BPD workbook, they've been very helpful

@glynispalazuelos7216 Год назад

It really helps to become aware of our behaviors and motivations in order to change our patterns. It is such a long journey working through BPD.

@Ms-Genie Год назад

Thank you again Dr. Fox for a very helpful video! My psychiatrist helped me understand with my lack of object permanence and I try to be aware of it whenever I want to run back to someone asking them if they still love me. Instead I remind myself that they said they loved me last time and that still counts unless they tell me something different.

@Sabnock1990 Год назад

Hey doc, could you perhaps one day do a video on if Psychedelics (though each Psychedelic is different) could be beneficial for BPD? Imo at the least potentially for addressing underlying trauma, breaking down some of the unhealthy habits, gaining different perspectives of things, building a healthier sense of self and being more empowered within oneself which would make them more whole/complete within themselves. Also there's insights and understandings that can come from those experiences which can help people better understand themselves (and other things). Imo it's a subject worthy of diving into, not just when it comes to BPD but many mental health issues as well as in general, it can be very enlightening and spiritual/mystical (no woo woo) and expansive and breaks us out of our usual narrowed view of ourselves, each other, reality, life, etc, and brings us into a greater view of things, which imo could be very beneficial for those who are "lost" so to speak. Personally, i am pretty sure i have Autism (Aspergers, potentially), and speaking personally, my work with Ayahuasca for example was the most fascinating and enlightening/illuminating/learning time of my life, it was a very important time in my life and i learned a lot from it, and having dealt with a form of BPD personally (ex), i think it could be beneficial, but needs to be approached in a serious, mature/responsible and safe manner with focus being on immersion, cleaning oneself out of all the psychic gunk, and reconnecting with oneself, learning from oneself and from the molecules.

@summersalix Год назад

I agree about the benefits! That's awesome u tried and benefitted from Ayahuasca! I'm curious where someone would go to try that therapy?

@cteresa2036 Год назад

I’m a doc with BPD traits and will be starting a channel talking about psychedelics and the import roll it’s played in my life and my patients!

@Sabnock1990 Год назад

@@summersalix - Well there's lots of places around the world that Ayahuasca is offered, legally and under the radar, but most of that is focused either on high end retreats (and high end clientele/prices), and most places are focused more on the so called "shipibo"-leaning style of Ayahuasca tradition which is just one of many traditions involving Ayahuasca. Some places put more focus towards healing trauma, some put more focus towards the shamanic, some put more focus towards the mystical/spiritual, but most places don't really seem to offer a more clinical-like approach. As for where everything is, there are places online where you can ask around for recommended centers or what not. Me personally, i took it upon myself to do things for myself, the so called "solo route", which for the most part seems "frowned upon" from a more "traditional"/Aya tourism standpoint, but never the less there are those of us who take things into our own hands, at least those who are able to do so. It was my first ever Psychedelic, i dove headfirst into it lol, and whether excessively or not, i took it daily/near daily for 4 years straight, i certainly don't regret it, although i can not for the life of me figure out how the heck i managed to go at it like i did because now, even though i need it because i haven't taken it in a long while, my ego is "comfortable" for the most part and doesn't wish to be stirred up and go through the hectic come up intensity lol, i know if i could bring myself to take it i'd be like "why didn't i take this sooner?" because the come up is the worst part but after that it's Heavenly (with a capital H) and at that point any prior fear just seems silly and laughable and small.

@Sabnock1990 Год назад

@@cteresa2036 - The channel you're speaking from now or another one? I'll follow along.

@katiesatiiva Год назад

@@cteresa2036I’ve just subscribed to you. For that reason. 😊

@theonlydjtopcat Год назад

Dr. Fox, thank you for your very informative and knowledgeable videos. I'm still in school studying. What is a possible subtype of a high functioning female who was diagnosed Borderline/OCD/PTSD in her 30's who is now 45, almost always has lived alone, still does extreme love bombing idealization in dating "falls in love instantly" but then soon after quickly retreats back into a very independent, selfish, indifferent, and irritable state unless drinking. Only needing emotional support in an extreme depressive state. Self described as "emotionally labile" "extremely selfish" "incapable of reciprocating feelings or love" Several episodes witnessed of childlike age regression manifesting in a little girl voice with her FP.

@kikie1973 Год назад

I'm not sure what you call this but I grew up in a house with 2 great parents but my Dad had no idea how to show emotion other than anger...is this emotional neglect and can this contribute to the development of BPD?

@freesiasage Год назад

Hi Christine, parents mirroring their children's emotions (in a healthy way to acknowledge them), being emotionally attuned to their children and emotionally present themselves are all so important for children. I'm not going to attempt to answer your question because that's not for me to do. But wanted to say, I experienced the same with my Dad and I know it has had a huge impact on me. It can be so easy to deny this or minimize the impact in our minds (ie. "Well it wasn't that bad, it's not like I was abused or hit") when in reality we were sooo alone emotionally and that is a huge loss for any child to suffer. That part of us that still feels young and alone deserves acknowledgement, kindness, and compassion through grief work.

@kikie1973 Год назад

@@freesiasage ...omgosh you wrote exactly what I was feeling but couldn't put into words

@asusorion4756 Год назад

I think that is the way all fathers were to their children up until the last couple of generations. It's just the way they were back then

@murellsawyer103 Год назад

I've personally found your videos to be very helpful. I'd like to sincerely thank you for all of the work you do

@DrDanielFox Год назад

You're very welcome!

@breahgardiner3702 Год назад

I'm seriously so thankful for all of your videos. I would love a dependant pd video. I'm diagnosed dependent with ptsd and bpd. I consider myself quiet bpd. I did your complex borderline workbook, I don't remember if dependent was in there.

@DrApocalyptus Год назад

This is fascinating but your videos really show me I was definitely misdiagnosed. Likely because the psychiatrist was lazy and wanted to dismiss me which is awful as he weaponised a serious disorder. All my relationships are stable and I never worry or feel insecure about my family and friends. I am still friends with the same people I always was, I just have new ones now too. I even have a very stable and strong sense of identity. I think the reason he misdiagnosed me because I have constant low mood but it's been this way since I was 7 and my diagnosed ASD makes me a bit dramatic. Guys, please help. How do I go about disputing this diagnosis?

@mh1290 Год назад

I got diagnosed as bipolar years ago, and I never thought it was true because none of my ups or downs lasted long enough to fit the bill for bipolar disorder. I am STILL trying to get it out of my medical chart. It angers me because it does not describe who I am accurately. Why do they feel you had BPD in the first place? It seems odd to even consider that diagnosis for you if you don’t display the traits. I hope you can find a way to clarify your diagnosis. I know how frustrating this can be.

@DrApocalyptus Год назад

@@mh1290 likely because I am autistic (diagnosed by 3 psychologists as a child in a test that lasted a long time) and my facial expressions and ability to show emotions is limited. When I say I have issues with my mood and I smile as I say it, they assume it means I'm not depressed. I also think misogyny has something to do with it. I think the dude would diagnose me with hysteria if he could.

@MrBob58o Год назад

I was exploring my mental health and have some BPD traits, but suspect there was trauma during infant surgery for pyloric stenosis at ~6-12 weeks old in 1983. It is my understanding that in North American hospitals it was common practice to perform surgery on infants without anesthesia. I think we were given muscle relaxers to paralyze us, but still wide awake and without pain control. So we could see and feel everything but unable to move while they cut us open and handled our intestines. I assume this has had long lasting issues. I suffer from depression and anxiety and relationship issues. My spine has numerous problems. I was wondering if you have any info this?

@jacquelinefirkins994 Год назад

Oh my god....yes!!!!!!! I am like that with my partner and boss, I panic if I don't see them. I feel safe if I see them. Yes, my partner said as soon as my life starts going well, I ruin it because I think I don't deserve it. My partner understands me really well, but I am desperately trying to get help with it because I know I can be hard work. 😊

@887960 Год назад

Thanks for this, I am beginning the journey of research into BPD, which my wife has. This is the first video I have ever watched on the subject, obviously now I am going to binge more of your content! Would you be able to make a separate video (or comment) expanding a bit on the flowchart idea? It sounds good, but also a good way to have yet another argument so I am wary :')

@PindersGardenVlog Год назад

I honor you. my husband has committed to understanding. it's powerful.

@lergoth Год назад

Dr. Fox has helped a lot with my own BPD, he's understanding and kind doesn't vilify the disorder or make it feel unfixable, check out his other videos and I recommend you show some of them to your wife, not only relationship ones but videos about living with BPD in general and dealing with our core content, insight and self awareness has been the most helpful tool to improve

@mystrose333 Год назад

You found the best BPD channel on RU-vid. My partner of 13yrs learned a lot about BPD watching Dr. Fox's vids and it's really helped both of us have a more healthy relationship. Of course I am in therapy and working on myself too, that's really important. I wish you the best!

@stephaniecrawford2473 Год назад

@@mystrose333 you give me hope that my relationship can work, I believe I have BPD but I don’t have a diagnosis but I show lots of signs, it worries me that a lot of BPD individuals have to cut their relationships with their partners off, I don’t want that

@rachelzoecosplay1570 Год назад

Wish I could have a session with you , bought your workbook , it’s been hard to be consistent with it. I think it’s time I get proper treatment

@DrDanielFox Год назад

I have openings for consultation if interested

@madi_E Год назад

We love u dr Fox, you are helping big time , thank you ❤

@GeeHood666 11 месяцев назад

Just went through this, very tough very tough.

@DrDanielFox 11 месяцев назад

It is indeed. Be well.

@guineaxpigsx Год назад

Thank you so much for helping and giving us this knowledge! (:

@DrDanielFox Год назад

You're so welcome and thank you for your kind support of the channel. It means a lot when people help support the cause of putting out honest and research based information. Thank you and be well.

@AnAussieinNorway Год назад

BPD Is untreatable

@DrDanielFox Год назад

This is actually a very antiquated notion, and there is a preponderance of research to show that this is a treatable disorder, and that people can manage BPD effectively. I would encourage you to take a look at Google scholar to see the research of the last 25 years.

@Berenice81 Год назад

Please thank you to write down what you say as much as possible thank you ever do much . Véronique from France

@xxgeorgiaxx7558 Год назад

Dr Fox, is there any possibility of you taking on clients again ? In the near or distant future ? Or even doing sessions for content for your videos?

@miaulover28 Год назад

hey dr. fox at first i wanted to thank you for ur incredible usefull bpd videos it helps me so much to understand my gf with bpd better and things working really well but i dont understand why she rather be alone or with her friends than me(her boyfriend) i realised that she often hangs out with her friends and i barely be able to see her only 1 short time a week meanwhile she sees her friends 4 times or something for longer times and i dont know what to do

@jordsupp Год назад

Informative, as always, Dr Fox. Thanks.

@petrawhite4265 Год назад

I think you uncovered everyone of my sons struggles 🙏🏽 God help us all

@lennyball3885 Год назад

I needed to see this video tonight. So thank you Dr.Fox!

@sk8ndie Год назад

Thank you for making these videos. I wish you could be my therapist.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Any time

@cynthiarichardson7520 Год назад

I need help with learning how to deal with this and being in a relationship. I’m struggling really bad

@DrDanielFox 6 месяцев назад

This is typically very complex. You may want to see a mental health provider. I hope the video provided you some insight and assistance.

@fionaedwards561 Год назад

Spot on Dr Fox ! Spot on!

@AmandaM204 Год назад

Like discipline?

@kukulcan9119 Год назад

The info shared on your channel has been life-changing. Thank you.

@DrDanielFox 6 месяцев назад

You’re welcome ☺️

@pr1ngl3s518 Год назад

The day you released this video, my fiance and I broke up due to my bpd issues. I didn't k ow I had bpd until a few weeks later. If I had seen this video, or had been diagnosed, we could perhaps still be together and going stronger than ever. I just engaged to her in January so it's been a rough two months.

@DrDanielFox Год назад

I’m sorry to hear about your breakup. I wish you well.

@pr1ngl3s518 Год назад

@Dr. Daniel Fox Thank you. I know I'll be doing much better now that I've had it explained so well. You've made it much easier to pick my bpd apart and allow me to start truly working on myself. You are very much appreciated for everything you do Dr. Fox!!

@GSCEPT12 Год назад

Thank you Dr. Will try to put this into practice 👍

@DrDanielFox Год назад

Great. Let me know how it goes.

@MustyBastard Год назад

At least I have always been able to understand that. A relationship with the hottest women in the world wont help me. I still say, I would take a quick painless death over winning 50M in the lottery. Because after a few months pass, I will still be me and there is no escaping that.