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My husband and I got married in Special Marriage Act. We are both hindus but since we didn't plan on having any hindu ritual marriage, just a simple court marriage and a reception we had to opt for Special Marriage Act. We actually didnt have to go through all this hassle. We just went to a marriage registrar office one day and submitted everything and she took care of the rest. Then just one day we did the actual signing of the documents and its done. Received our marriage certificate within 1week via post.😀
If you are a woman then this is the most stupid decision of your life. You have no idea the kind of rights women have in matters of inheritance, custody and divorce under Hindu Marriage Act
My wife and I got married under the Special Marriages Act in 1974. We belonged to the same religion and our parents were witnesses. I would have expected the process to be more user friendly given all the changes over five decades. Unfortunately, the bureaucracy still makes it so challenging. The bureaucrats should be trained to be more courteous and encouraging of couples who are idealistic in that they are willing to think and act beyond their narrow walls of religion and ostentatious weddings. We do not want zealots and busybodies interfering with most personal of life's decisions. We have a long way to go.
Our marriage was solemnized by both hindu n christian rituals. We registered under this act. But it was in rural Tamilnadu as my husband's relatives arranged for everything. But when I went to sign, the registrar started making fuss that my parents also had to be there. They even took me separately to advice that love marriage doesn't work and i should go back to parents. My parents had taken a lot of leaves for both ceremonies and pre wedding, post wedding rituals and couldn't be there for registration. I had to show wedding pics, videos of my husband with my parents cutting cake and finally show my dad's passport proof and a call to get the registrar sign. Whew! It's difficult even if both sides are willing. That was 11 years ago!
Hello, didn't know someone went through the same trouble a me. Me and my husband are both Hindus and we got married as per Tamil rituals in temple. But guess what, I am Maharashtrian and even with the wedding card, photos and temple receipt were we got married the registrar was not satisfied. Registrar asked for both my parents to be there. Only my mom had come with me as my dad is no more, after which he asked for my dads death certificate to prove that no one objecting our marriage. This was all despite my in laws and my mother being present. 😓. But we could finally get it registered.
My mother and father got married this way. And very few people know about this special married act! Although I knew a lot about how it works I loved seeing your video! Because in movies they make registered marriages seem very simple..
Being an advocate I can confirm you explained it very well. Also the starting part where you mentioned how different religions have different marriage laws. Yes, in India there are few fields where religious personal laws are into force like the marriage, property inheritance and some land reforms and that's why the current govt is focusing on implementing uniform civil code i.e. one law across country that will cater all religions and sectors of people to ensure uniformity in process and low red tapism and remove the requirement of personal laws wherever possible under article 44 of the constitution. A nice way to educate your audience and promote court marriages as it is the most sensible thing. Just do a court marriage and maybe if you want throw a reception for all the fams and frnds. Also congratulations :)
Wow! Surprisingly it is not this cumbersome in Bangalore ❤ it was quite smooth for me, just a few hours to file the application and another few hours to get married. Also we had a 60 day window after the 30 day’s notice. Just sharing in case anyone needs! Cheers to people who decide on having a legal marriage!! It’s simple and very very light on your pocket (we spent Rs. 100)❤️❤️😊😊
I also got married by special marriage act. But my experience was different.. we signed a notice and and after 3 months of giving the notice we got married to a registers office.. which went very smooth..
@@natsmukherjee The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.
The video just cements my decision to never get married 😂 Jokes apart, the display of private information publicly is indeed scary, and this video is indeed very informative... especially for inter-religious couples .. Also, congratulations!!
There was a law passed that it’s not required to be published on a notice board but unfortunately the law is not followed and they are still doing the same old procedure.
@@MystqStarwell most parents accept after some nagging if couples from different faiths. The only exception is Muslims. They still live under the rock. Unfortunately.
Privacy in today's world is just an illusion... If this seems scary to you, then all the apps taking your consent to obtain personal info is like a 100x more scary
I had no idea it blows my mind how difficult the process is especially when your details are put out for everyone to see i wanted to suprise my partner with a court marriage but i will have to drop it for now
Haha I don’t think you can surprise anyone with a court marriage since you will need both your documents and presence in person 😄 but it’s not too difficult a process :)
The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.
Even in traditional weddings invites are sent to people with the details. Wedding is not just a deal between two people, it is a social institution. Your family, relatives, friends need to know about your marriage.
@@MK-lh3xd wedding is a deal between two people in case of special marriage act marriage. In the document only the signature of the couple and two witness are present. Indian laws don't need consent of family members for wedding. Also parents don't own the individual liberty and autonomy of their adult children. Just like all adults decide the future of the nation by voting, similarly adults decide their own future by chosing whom to marry. This right isn't owned by parents or relatives.
Wishing you and your husband nothing but love and happiness. Stay blessed! I hope and pray that someday ppl who don’t have the courage to get the “inter religion”marriage done get the required coz honestly… it’s called living life only if it’s with the one you love !
In 2015 I was a witness for a register marriage of my close friend and got a good reward of beatings by bride's dad and brothers,😂 Today they have a wonderful married life.
You should have burnt Quran and leave Islam before marrying her to console her parents that she won't be converted later on? Quran and Islam prohibit a muslim man/girl from marrying a Hindu.
Also, the biggest difference is that this notice clause is only for inter faith couples as per the Special Marriage Act - so it is quite discouraging and dangerous for a lot of couples!!!
It is meant to act as a deterrent only. Very unfortunate to see this step. . The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.
How did you guys convince your parents or how did you manage to save the ordeal of convincing your parents and others to do this smart wedding plan instead of the tradition drum-roll thing . I know it depends on persons and family types , but yeah it would be helpful If you could share some light on that too .TIA.
Since we belong to different religions, this was the only way we could’ve gotten legally married in india so we had to do it anyway hehe :) but if you’re both from the same religion and want to avoid ceremonies I guess have a conversation with parents about why you don’t want to do it and want a simple thing instead :)
@@SatshyaTharien I went to india to get married and requested special marriage, despite of it the lawyer made a different process and now we are just realizing, not sure how to solve it, could you share the contact of a good lawyer please?
Hindu man can marry anyone, the people who cry love jihad when hindu girl marries or goes with non hindu men will cherish when the guy is hindu and girl is non hindu.
Thank you 😄 I don’t think I’m ready to share that publicly since it involves details of someone else’s personal faith. Overall though I’d say the most important thing is to discuss everything ‘no matter how uncomfortable before you decide to get married, so you are both on the same page :)
@@SatshyaTharien Hindus won't have any problem when the guy is Hindu and the girl from non Hindu religion. Problem of moral policing occurs only when it's Hindu girl with non Hindu man. You definitely know this since you're a Mangalorean.
@@mukil371 Is there any point to discussing this here? Do you know them personally enough to understand whether they have a problem or not? Why do people feel the need to drag politics into everything.
Congratulations to both of you 🎉 I am actually watching this for general information, thank you for sharing the process. Pata nahi future mein jarurat hogi bhi ya nahi. 😂
The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.
Hi Satshya, Congratulations. I have a question, when giving the notice, it is mandatory that both parties needs to be there? My fiance is from Ireland and it might be easier if the notice can be given by me alone or if not would this be possible through a lawyer??
Hi Elizabeth! Yes both parties need to be there because they need to verify your identity in person along with your documents :) but you can still double check with a lawyer
Hi...find the marraige registration ofc at your locality and rest of the formalities the register took care....ideally both parties dont need to be present when giving notice but bfr giving notice if your fiance is not Indian but a foreign citizen they hv to be living in d country for a minimum 30 days. So i guess if ur fiance is a foreign citizen he has to be present I got married in dec under the special marraige act in West Bengal....the process was not that cumbersome...my husband is a US citizen....he just needed his driver's certificate, passport, visa n birth certificate... and i needed adhar card, age proof, n also 2 passport size photograph
Christianity says Jesus is the only way for salvation Islam says Shahada/kalma(azan,use for conversion to islam and core ideology) : la ilaha illallah muhammdur Rasulullah Meaning : There is no god worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammed is his slave and messenger This both statement are created to form a special category or tribe and thus are political..... Abrahamic religion are political ideology....... Islam is a Institution ..... Christianity is a Institution....but in Hindusim/Sanatan...you yourself are the Institution...that is you are Atman....and you should follow Dharma of your Atman.....
She isn't interested in conversion And don't spoil hindus image by acting like Muslims who dying for conversions Let these cheap dirty things remain with orthodox muslims and Jews ..... We humans can survive without religion Aur ha geeta padhne ke liye hindu hona jaruri nai hai
@@mathsreasoninglove3336 you are right, and he wasn't the only one who lsot his life to the patriarchy of society which perceives its honor to be limited to the womb of women of that particular society. And when i say society I mean caste based society or religion based society. Whether it was nagaraju, or it was arbaz mulla of belagavi, karnataka who was beheaded on railway tracks. They were victims of honor killings, just like thousands of such caste based killings that happen every year in cases of inter caste marriages. Ultimately it is the role of the society to read Indian laws and come out of caveman era mentality
Any couple can get them registered under the Special Marriage Act 1954…you just need to follow certain regulations which you have stated in this video…
The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. I have seen people circulating pictures of these notices on Twitter, Facebook tagging extremist organizations and calling for stopping the wedding.Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. Also the reason she didn't face any such harassment was because the socio political community in majority in Delhi didn't have any issue with the fact that a women of other faith was marrying into a favorable faith. All right wingers view women as transactional entity in such matters.
It is a very easy and strict process in kerala. Step 1 : Register your details online Step 2 : Submit the application printout and relevent documents with witness. Step 3 : Register office will put a notice with photo. Step 4 : if no objection came, we can register the marriage after 30 days and before 90 days from the date of first application date. Eazyyy.....
Note:- No one will send notice to your parental address. The notice will remain hanging on the notice board of the District Court for 30 days. So calm down guys.
Recently we tried to register in Chennai(its our work location) But they have rejected as we belong to different state i.e Andhra Pradesh They said as per Aadhar address we need to register in that place. My doubt is we can register any where in Andhra or only in hometown of either of our address? Can anyone explain me on this pleaseee
Congratulations ❤ The notice board display thing is so scary - similar to banns being read out in church but much more public. Q - do you think it would have been different based on the city you chose? Maybe Mangalore might have been different?
Thank you :) yeah I know! Atleast in church it’s among a community of people you know, but in a public space it’s quite scary 😟 regarding the second part - I don’t know, I’d like to think that all government offices are neutral & don’t make things difficult for people under the SMA. But it can be nerve wracking if one has for example, run away and trying to get married
The religious demographics of our country mean that the majority community in different states is different. The socio political power in the hands of for example the muslim community in srinagar would be very different from that in shimla just because of their percentage of population. Similarly the socio political power of a religious community xyz by virtue of their demography will be very different in meghalaya compared to say that in delhi because of their percentage in these states. Any socio political Majoritarian radical group can use this notice board and the private information of inter religious couples to harrass them and this is happening irrespective of the identity of the Majoritarian group in question. Therefore we need to be more nuanced and make the system easier for all inter religious couples by weeding out such steps which expose consenting adults in front of radical extremist groups. There are pictures of these notices circulated on twitter, Facebook tagging various right wing organizations calling for stopping these weddings between consenting adults. People need to speak out about this problematic step as it limits the free choice and privacy of adults.
@@SatshyaTharien well said and it was good to see you speaking out despite personally not being affected by this invasion of privacy. Also the fact that you had your parents as witness made it easier. That other man had to spend 25k because his wedding was the more "revolutionary" If I can say so. Just because of the socio political climate of the nation. Very unfortunate to see this. Hopefully this step will be eliminated sometime in future, I have seen so many pictures being circulated by radical people on social media of these notices calling for stopping the wedding between consenting adults.
As a law student and you being a person married under special marriage act. I genuinely wanted to know about the caste of child.... If we are married under the sepcial marriage act.... And a child is born out of it... They are called as a legitimate child but how is it decided that which caste the child will be inheriting ? And will they have a right to claim reservations in a case where the mother is ST and father is general ?
I wish every Indian parent would be as positive as yours for court marriages. It would save a lot of hassle, money and pressure. ❤ thanks for the video about your experience
😬😬😢😢❤ Arre dil toot gaya mera.. 1 week se aapke video dekh raha tha random.. You are super cute and lovely but abhi aap married ho... 😬😬 Good content sister.. 😢😢hueee3eeeee
Hi Satshya, Thank you for this video, it is very helpful. I just wanted to clarify one thing regarding the witnesses. Not sure if I missed in the video. But do we have to take the witnesses both the time, first during the registration and then again during the day of declaration (after 30days) ? or it is only on the declaration and signature day that we have to take them with us? Thanks
Hey Satshya..really felt happy after watching this video of yours. Really got a ray of hope to marry the man I love. I am a christian and my bf is south indian hindu. I saw u had 3 types of marriage- court marriage hindu wedding and christian wedding. Can u please share ur experience on how u convinced ur parents and church for Interfaith marriage as my parents are completely against our relationship. And how do you manage mixing both the religion and culture to avoid any conflicts☺☺
Thank you for this excellent video! You answered all my questions which I couldn’t find answers to when reading the rules online. Congratulations and thanks!
Love is sacred according to Puranas, Abhimanyu's story and many of Lord Krishna's deeds are good examples of this. However, our last few previous generations considered it as sacrilegious. My only advice for Loving couples is to value their promises and don't ruin other bonds in the process. We are lucky to be born in India where family takes care of us while sacrificing their happiness. Remember that both our life partner and our parents are our responsibility and no reason can be given to escape from it.
Mam my college female friend want to marry a pig which live in farm near to college is it possible?? Through court marriage? The girl is highly educated and woke liberal group...i m from dehli girl is from kerla studying in Delhi University political science student...how can I help her?
@@abhijeetkumar2204 the Indian laws are applicable on all Indian citizens including my sister. No brother or father owns the civil rights of the adult women of his family. These are factual statements.
This is such an informative video. Kuddos to you for sharing this and the cons that you shared, how little scary it is to share your personal detail in the public domain. You are absolutely right about this and I hope this system gets more comfortable for the applicants. Bdw congratulations you❤ wishing you a very happy married life❤ all the blessings to you❤❤
Very very congratulations mama ❤🎉.. Maine bhi socha tha special marriage act ka use krunga lekin usko mana nhi paya 😅😔... Aapki marriage video dekh ke acha lga bhot ❤
Sister, my girlfriend told their parents about my 4 years love but they are not accepting our marriage and they house arrested her....and they forcing her to get arranged marriage... Can u please tell me how to save my girlfriend and way to marry her
@@pratikshatiwari7011 Lynching is very common when hindu girls goes or marry with non hindu men, but lynching or moral policing won't happen when the guy is hindu and the girl is non hindu.
@@mukil371 dude where are you, so ma y Hindu girls have married in south to Christian guys, in Goa and Konkan, I have seen many’s such marriages, forget about lynching, we have drinking competition bro. Atleast in fishing community.
@@Kathakathan11 just look at Sathsya's hometown very recently moral policing happened, Hindus openly put banners about love jihad etcc. This is only because hindu girls marrying outside religion it won't happen if a hindu guy marries or love non hindu girls. You guys don't hide your hypocrite faces by saying we allow hindu girls to marry anyone of their choice, in reality it's not the case.
I would like to get married to my bf who is from a different religion. His side family is supportive but my parents are totally against it. I was thinking of marrying under SMA but the only thing I'm worried about is the notice that is sent to our address which can cause issues from my parent's side. Is there any suggestions to avoid it?
The notice won’t be sent to your home address, it will be sent to your district magistrate’s office where they will display it on the notice board for 30 days.
@@PhotonShowerIt's like saying there is a law for rape, but if the victim is not complaining then it's allowed. What a logic bro. Now relate this logic to your Hindu marriage act allowing polygamy. Does it make sense now ?
@@PhotonShower ohh you're soo missing the point. In your previous comment you said that in Hinduism it is allowed. But Hindu marriage act does not allow polygamy. If the wife does not complain then how would the authority know about it. If my house is burgled and if I don't file an FIR do you think police will come and help me ? So hence burglery is allowed in India if one do not complain.
What are the procedure if ur spouse is from a different national??.. I'm from uk (i dont have any relatives or adhar card in india) and my boyfriend is an indian...do we have to register the marriage in both uk and india????
@@satyeshtiwari lol...yh I'm hindu...but i was born in uk and my parents are from srilanka..so technically I'm not an indian or have any relatives in india unfortunately😔💗
I am Hindu and my bf is Christian, he is a great human being and we have decided that I will never convert, both of us are financially established and our families are supportive. Should I move forward with this relationship??
Hi dear thank you so much for the video i wanted to know was there any cross questions asked because of different faith marriage ? And how did you deal with the lawyer ?
Hi! I didn’t employ a lawyer, but they usually don’t cross question they just help you sort your document & applications. And no, nobody asked us anything intrusive questions or did anything to make us feel uncomfortable
Sorry another question if we were to get married with Hindu rituals and at the church is it still mandatory for 30 day waiting period ? For the court marriage
@@snehayelandur9818 no worries :) yes - the court marriage process is independent of whatever else ceremony/program you have. So a 30 day waiting period is mandatory
first of all, congratulations on getting married. 😃..... I was wondering if you knew the man who you stated who married a Muslim woman while being a hindu. that he spent 25k for the process by hiring the lawyer i too want the same lawyer😅
@@rajendrabawa660 that's why you get married under special marraige act....even to be legally married under the hindu marriage act both parties have to be hindus....inter-faith marraiges cant take place under personal marraige laws n that's why the special marrage act came into existence
@@moumitasantra9039 sister a girl or boy can marry any religion but Islam prohibits muslim girls especially to other religions girl's family members will consider girl is di*d but Islam allows other religion girls to marry muslim boys if girls get converted to Islam hypocrisy at its best
@@GoudSabhab i am not talkinh about the cultural/spcietal aspect...i was just saying the marraige acts under which a hindu and muslim can get married without either one changing their religion....and whatever be the religion both the bride and groom needs to be of the same religion to be married under personal marraige act....and to get married under soecial marraige act you dont neccesarily need a lawyer....
Hello, Really nice video and useful content for Court Marriage procedure. We are about to do our Court Marriage with Special Marriage Act 1984 in Delhi, but little curious about getting the exact format for Affidavit which you guys submitted to SDM. possible to share the affidavit photo by hiding your personal details over email or some place else ? Thanks
Hi, I believe I have shared the format of the affidavit in the video. In any case, all SDM office notice boards have a sample format of the affidavits as well
Islam and Christianity are religion (Abrahamic ) Hindusim is not a religion......it is Dharma....... we should understand and respect our roots.....it would be difficult for some people.....but it is the Truth.......we should all live and die for Bharat Mata....not for Allah and Jesus....hope you understand the importance of being Indian and not being from middle east culture/religion like Islam and Christianity......
@@shsi5246 So does any Constitution.......but Sons of Bharta Mata has defended Bharat by giving their lives whereas Son/followers of Allah/Muhammed or Jesus have expanded their territories in the name of religion and killed so many people.......India should uphold its Indic Tradition but other people do in Jerusalem or in Europe is their problem...... we know what we did in past and what they did in past.....
I can understand how much you went through. In my case, his family wants to do nikah and my family is disappointed by their needs and place. We want to be together, it's seven years of being in a relationship
Its impossible to pull two bulls with an unequal yoke. You both should have equal beliefs on something or someone that keeps you pursuing on for life. If you both have different beliefs, both will fall. And this marriage will fail.
i wonder whether the rich people also do this procedure, and have their private information leaked on public boards. They really must be doing something else
Hi Satshya, a holistic video on the entire process. It was really informative. Thanks. I have a query! Could you please let me know how to book slots to give the notice (1st appointment)? I am planning for a marriage under the Special Marriage Act and I was told by the SDM Office in New Delhi that it is automatically a system generated date after we submit our application on the e-District Delhi government website.
Hi hi! From what I remember we went to the SDM office for the 1st time 1-2 days after submitting the application online. I don’t think you need a slot to go apply for the marriage registration but best to go within 3-4 days of submitting online application
Hi sonam here jitna easy btaya apne itna easy nhi h uttrakhand se bht muskil h ajkl special marriage act mai ...kuki yha bht jyda hindu muslim marriages hoti thi pehle but abhi kuch time se nhi ho pa rahi h legally process se bhi
My n my spouses addresses were being circulated on various hatsApp groups of my community and I had randomly people coming to stop the marriage at odd hours . This happened to me in a city like mumbai being born n brought up here.. wonder what must be happening to ppl especially women in other smaller towns n cities .
Thank you for making such an informative video i got to know so many things which i didn’t know In sha Allah i am going to marry under this act. i am also from mangalore
Thank you for explaning it so well. And I agree with you, your details being disclosed on a board publically seems very unsettling. I understand the reasoning for it but to me, it seems scary.
just do a simple ceremony instead of running around court. I mean she needed to spend 2 days running around the court and such anxity and uncertainity. Instead they could just get married in simple ceremonies and then register it.
People of different faiths cannot get married with just a ceremony in India - that’s not considered a legal marriage :) one needs to solemnise their marriage under the Special Marriage Act and then can do whatever other ceremonies they like
